16 Personalities Breaking Up With You

[@hosanna5806]

The ISTP milk reference from 16 personalities as philosophers got me laughing

[@trinaq]

Preach, ISTP's perfect partner will always be milk. 🥛😂

[@mudman619]

@@trinaq yeah, no, it's coffee for this ISTP lol

[@applepatronum4934]

@@mudman619 i have an ISTP stepdad and yup, he's a coffee lover if i've ever seen one

[@restingbitchface3775]

@@mudman619 real, as an istp coffee is the love of my life

[@Alice-kq8eo]

I don’t get the reference but ISTP is ☕️🥃

[@BaneHydra]

The INTP one was mostly a joke ofc but I really liked the "opening mouth to say something only to decide against it and say nothing" part, that was very relatable

[@aaliyahkishore246]

I clapped when I saw the INTJ. It's exactly how I imagined I would break up with someone. The black shirt, the calm demeanor, no crying, cutting to the chase, just getting your stuff and leaving. You as an actress captured that feeling of "This is so uncomfortable but let's get it over with." If it really is something that makes me sad I'm a musician I'll use that emotion in an instrumental piece. Well done, seriously. Also I've gotten to the point where I can recognise the personalities by the outfit.

[@Azdaja13]

Yeah, I can see myself doing that in that situation. One I hope to avoid.

[@aaliyahkishore246]

@@Azdaja13 I can see many INTJs making lists of the things they want and don't want in a partner to weed out the unwanted.

[@MoPoppins]

@@Azdaja13 It’s painless, really, if you didn’t have anything to lose. You know how we’ve already been contemplating it for some time, prior to pulling the trigger? If the partner is mentally- and emotionally-unstable, then you might get some unexpected emotions from the other party (I did…mine was a male Borderline, and despite not having had any ties to each other, he became a blubbering mess-20+ years later, I still don’t understand it, since his reaction wasn’t based on anything real. 😂)

[@null7581]

@@aaliyahkishore246 Spreadsheets acually

[@Mayakran]

I think this is one of the instances where it may be a bit far on the stereotype. INTJ’s DO have emotions and we’re not just robots unaffected by our feelings and those of others around us. Lacking in social/emotional intelligence isn’t a trait we should embrace. I think that INFJ is also a pretty accurate option (Ni projecting into the future and sensing the relationship won’t work out). Edit: all that being said, I do wonder if this is how I might come across in a breakup… I personally see myself as the INFP in a lot of these videos, and yet my friends tell me otherwise (blunt, intense, flat affect, etc), lol

[@trinaq]

I loved ESTP faking their own death to avoid breaking up with their partner. It's totally on brand for them.

[@nolongerhuman7585]

Did that once with a girl I met online. First attempt to break up didn’t go well, blocked her shit but made alts to try and get back together. Had some friends post “RIP 🙏🙌“ and I died in a skiing accident.

[@killiansmith6349]

An ESTP did that to me... But I broke w him Yeah that was horrible.

[@basic-decaf]

As someone who has dated the ENTJ, ENFJ, and INFJ, I can confirm these are very accurate. Thanks for the PTSD 😵‍💫

[@HerKnightable]

Can't say anything about that. I have always enjoyed the break up spectacle (ENTP). I cannot say that I have not done worse.

[@jessenceq3250]

As an INFJ, someone would have to do something extremely effed up for me to be that concise, calculated and emotive-less. Maybe that and not knowing them for more than a week and being completely unimpressed by them. Most of the time, I'm far too sweet, emotionally attuned, curious and open minded. I will stick around for too long.

[@lalli2822]

@@jessenceq3250 I agree sooo much with you. I am in INFJ too, and, even if I could have thought those things, I would NEVER, not even if asked, said those things. It's horrible, how could you hurt someone so coldly??

[@suningchen]

Wow these are powerful types!

[@superstellarhere]

INFP’s probably gonna say ‘it’s not you, it’s me’ im calling it- edit: it’s even better. my only spouse is a house plant. and YEP, album is 100% accurate (also entp’s was BRUTAL)

[@FalconOfStorms]

I could never do that! I know how excruciating it is just to lose me already! **guitar riff plays from nowhere**

[@mudman619]

52 yr old ISTP here . . . this made me think about all the breakups in my past. Only 3 really stood out. the 1st, many moons ago when I was 19, I thought she was the one, I was totally in love with her. One day, out of the blue she said, "I'm heading up to Penn State tonight to be with this guy I met - we're done. Sorry. Maybe you can meet someone else." Next, ironically while I was a student up at Penn State, the 2nd girl I thought was the one, out of the blue, "I'm breaking up with you, this isn't working out, bye." Finally, the worst one - on Valentine's Day I got a letter from a lawyer informing me my wife was divorcing me (we were separated at the time). Happy effing Valentine's Day, lol. Only with 1 did I actually cry, lol. (yes ISTPs do have feelings, reluctantly). After all, just move on, what else can you do? lol

[@nolongerhuman7585]

On valentines? HAHA thats just brutal. I have a hardcore belief that you will never truly forget your first love. Dating is so strange to me. Some people are practically speed running it, getting a taste of different flavors to find what they like, while others take the time to start platonically and build it from there. Or just take it more seriously in general. When the opposites meet it can definitely hurt when you thought you had something going on.

[@MoPoppins]

Did you figure out in hindsight why each of those relationships weren’t “The One”?

[@alechenson6577]

There's hope for the future, Tom. I appreciate you sharing. God Bless x

[@PhotoRubio]

(ISTP) I've done most of the breaking up in my relationships. Its about 1 or maybe two sentences. But I stick around for hours to listen to what they have to say. Nothing changes my mind after.

[@jameswilkerson4412]

My first relationship also ended on Valentine’s; we hadn’t been getting alone and I had to move out of the downs and some counties away, so it had been coming

[@fourNfour]

I swear the first time I was suspected as an INTJ by a friend that likes MBTI was when I told her I broke up with my ex (we were allegedly high school sweethearts) and it was very businesslike, no crying, no feelings just straight to the point. I was more sad for having paid lunch, lost her as a very intellectual and wise friend than the breakup itself to be honest...

[@rad4924]

INTJ is almost 100% accurate except for the part where they say "Want to talk about it?" I would never pull the pin on that grenade as it would reduce the efficiency of the break-up - anything more than a minute is just dragging things out, quite frankly.

[@hannahmayhorn5466]

INFJ - Ending something first to avoid the other person ending it in the future (even though they probably weren't going to) is a mood 😂

[@jehmarxx]

Better to hurt yourself than to be hurt! Hihi.😉🙃.

[@JokerCrowe]

I think this is genuinely one of the reasons why I haven't even been in a relationship yet. The "Thousands of possible scenarios" thought happens before we even start dating, and I'm like "Whew! Dodged a bullet there". You can't fail at dating if you never try 😎🤣😅😭😭

[@jonnharmon941]

Or ghosting people, how fun would that be?

[@MoPoppins]

@@JokerCrowe What you’ll likely discover (since you’re able to imagine all the various scenarios in your head, beforehand), is that your Ni was right about everything, and that you weren’t missing out on ANYTHING, whatsoever! 😂 All you’ll receive is CONFIRMATION of your visualizations.

[@JokerCrowe]

@@MoPoppins So you're saying that it's better to have never loved at all, than it is to have loved and lost? :p

[@sashalarious5990]

Love how the INTP hired someone to do the break up for them. I'd probably also pay them to initiate and maintain the relationship if I had the money. 😂 - INTP

[@sashalarious5990]

@@weDie-tomorrow If by "relationships" you're including family members, real-life friends, and co-workers, then you make a very tempting offer.

[@salemsmith2878]

@@weDie-tomorrow based

[@HerKnightable]

@@weDie-tomorrow (ENTP) I was just thinking I would made that deal too.

[@jameswilkerson4412]

@@sashalarious5990 that is a GD MOOD! -an introvert who can barely stand his in-laws

[@dearkristin]

hahahaha

[@jimclayson]

INTP here, and I see the ENTJ clearly knows how to soften the blow of a breakup. 🍦🍫 Also, I still adore the name "Hildegard." 😊 Now-ex-wife divorced me years ago, and it nearly killed me... then she'd text me with her delusional musings every six to twelve months for the first six or seven years, despite me responding repeatedly and emphatically that I didn't want any contact with her and to leave me alone. The only things worse than a breakup are a prolonged breakup and being in a miserable relationship.

[@asvegas777]

Oiii It’s not my place to give advice but stop that intp wtf. You don’t owe nobody that labor every 6 months fktht! Deal with your ex if you have kids cut them out if not. Billions of people on this earth. If there isn’t one who can be rational and take accountability for their feelings and behaviors, you should have no trouble being alone. Heck i’m supposed to be an extrovert I have zero trouble Your ENTP cousin

[@asvegas777]

I believe this shiz is called boundaries. I wasn’t into therapy speaking newfangled stuff but turns out it is key and you introverts should be more into figuring them out and how to assert them and stuff. It ain’t easy or fun. So starting with someone rational on first place probably would’ve been a good idea - like someone who knows the definition of an ex and doesn’t use them for emotional labor. That stands for you too. Again if you have to be in touch with your ex because of children hats off. But otherwise you don’t need to accommodate any of their demands on you after the relationship is over and even I know that bro (i’m a girl but who cares guys are still demanding this kind of drama from me and the only way to stop it is to just absolutely NOT engage… There will always be demand. Maybe that’s because I’m female but I’d like to think that you don’t want to demand that isn’t for you anyway so it doesn’t matter how frequent it’s available. Hth

[@mrod8578]

Yeah I think INTPs aren't generally known for breaking up first with people (at least the INTP men I know are known for being broken up on and they aren't generally known for doing the breaking up). However perhaps because INTPs are laid back behind the scenes types who can be unironically empathetic letting people tell them all their emotional baggage and problems (even if it makes us uncomfortable) the person starts to miss certain aspects about the intp which means the person breaking up with them contacts them to further unload on to the INTP. They then get surprised when an INTP becomes aggressive telling them to leave them alone lol. On top of that it is hard if they continue to try as our Si tertiary replays the past over and over in our minds and the person isn't letting us get over it and move on.

[@malibustacys80085]

Very sad, it felt like 18 break ups in a row. Please more.

[@FPT84]

😭

[@TheGreatWerebear]

I will say (ENFP) that the only way I've ever successfully broken up with someone is by being mad about them disrespecting some vital aspect of my spirit--and by bringing some sass to the equation, even if I kept that part from actually surfacing. It was a brittle armor against the empathy, the guilt over throwing away a perfectly valuable person, and the deep desire to make it work against the odds. The part where ENFP then started slipping off into a tangent is only too real. The instinct to talk and connect can totally sidetrack/undermine what should be a clear-cut goodbye.

[@TheFren]

Yeah I basically ended my relationships when I was young by cheating with the next partner just because I didn't know how to get out of a relationship 🙈 bad bad times

[@asvegas777]

I’m an absolutely not mystyped as enfp entp and I only wished I could be as decisive or succinct as “myself” here. But I’d totally be more like the enfp here. I have a surprisingly possible committed romantic relationship history and don’t dump serious ones often or lightly- but over my (not so short) life I seem to have vacillated between enfp, intp and oddly even entj here… Sure I rejected people with quips - but not breakups really Maybe this just exemplifies to say as a fellow Ne-dom I relate but we also don’t have the connection to the Fi-heavy moment the way others probably feel, pre-detached in our Ti purity …. We like this, we can manage feelings but it Fi-heaviness and ensuing irrationally really throws off an entp from their usual cool in romantic matters… it’s almost an identity issue not to love or at least commit in ways that limit our freedoms - yet we value and seek out connection and are our best selves in (healthy) relationships… autonomy as a value to make congruent with partnership isn’t easy. Sorry for auto corrects used voice dictation and did not have more time to correct it all

[@HouseHoldAdventures]

As an ISTP i wish it was that easy. I think I have this fear of losing a connection because of how hard it is for me to comnect with people. Fading away slowly over time is easier for me then being the one to break up because I dont want to feel the feelings of loss. I hate feeling those emotions.

[@RonFlux]

That's attachment style, not the type. If ISTPs are the ones breaking up, they already decided and thought it through. It could just be that they hope they can stay friends after a few months passed. PS: No idea about the milk thingy, they will just tell you directly and stay to try to soften their exs feelings, or more likely just tell them the reasons for the breakup. (Something the ex doesn't want to hear at that moment.)

[@capt.cloudsworth4924]

The ISTP's love for milk is a bit of a meme in Kristin's videos, just as the ISTJ and their goggles 😄Rewatch them with English (UK) subtitles and you'll see

[@mairasann]

oh damn. the second version of the INFP was EXACTLY ME TWO DAYS AGO, the "there's so many things I wanna say to you", "how can I start to communicate...", and the "I want you to know that I tried". those were things I actually said and thought a lot to myself before actually doing it. damn it, breaking up with someone you still care is so much worse than having your own heart broken :((

[@linguavert4399]

I ended a friendship with an INFP last year. Kristin captured her voice so accurately in that last part that it was startling. If someone told me that my ex-friend had written this part of Kristin's script, I'd believe it!

[@PeterJohnson-rh5hi]

EXFJs: Cushions the blow for the other person during a breakup IXFJs: Cushions the blow for themselves during a breakup EXTPs: Doesn't acknowledge that breakups are painful IXTPs: Doesn't know how to break up IXFPs: Breaks up with a slight harsh undertone EXFPs: Secretly enjoys being harsh IXTJs: Doesn't want to be harsh, but can't help it EXTJs: Overtly enjoys being harsh

[@rochuxdi]

no,, stereotypical, we’re all still human and complex

[@ASentientBlockofSwissCheese]

Lmaoooo INTP, and can confirm. I wish I could hire others to have hard conversations for me.

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

I'd hire others to have all conversations for me. Luckily, my Esfj wive does all the talking to strangers happily in our relationship.

[@edbutowsky9814]

Never mess with the ISTJ’s goggles!!

[@edwright4892]

I'm an INFP but I'm not engaged to a plant - I like to play the field!

[@jashepoon]

>16P breaking up with you >INTP is in the video nice one, Kristin 😆

[@edwright4892]

😅

[@thewolf8660]

Once again, Kristin calling out us INFJs where it hurts, all the way down to knowing the average time of breakups in long term relationships...

[@jashepoon]

Well, do you think that number's accurate, Mr. Sexy Brain?

[@thewolf8660]

@@jashepoon Well, most long term relationships do tend to fail at roughly the ~2 year 8 month mark.

[@thirstwithoutborders995]

Made me laugh so much. This was almost verbatim what I told someone after three dates. "I realized that we would both make each other very unhappy in three years, when I will be done with my degree and move to do my masters degree elsewhere, since you have a house and want to stay there forever. I am very sorry, I am sure someone will love that kind of life."

[@jessenceq3250]

@@thirstwithoutborders995 That's logical at least.

[@trinaq]

I loved how ISFP and INFP were similar, and they were both treated the same way, which was hysterical. I'm not surprised that INFP would leave their partner for a literal plant! 😂🌿

[@pepkoks]

It's funny but not really accurate, the album is though 😄

[@aqua3890]

@@pepkoks yea I'm infp, and I'm not obsessed with plants.

[@pepkoks]

@@aqua3890 yup, me neither 😄

[@RA-zq1ni]

damn infj is actually accurate. i avoid getting involved with people i don't see a future with. I've let many friendships drift away because I didn't see the point in maintaining them since they were going to end in a few years anyways (since i'm moving away soon)

[@nickmerchant4588]

I feel honored somehow to get a redo.

[@linguavert4399]

In fairness to the INFP, if you feel better around a plant than a person you're in an intimate relationship with, then you do need to reevaluate why you're with the person.

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

I had an idea for a sequel to this: You Breaking Up With 16 Personalities .

[@MattCorps]

Yeah, INFJ is definitely correct. I often debate whether or not I should introduce myself to someone by running these scenarios in my head based on the existing knowledge of how the other person is like and what outcomes could come of it. My opportunity most often slips away before I get a chance to say anything because I spend so long running through the perfect scenario so I can anticipate everything that may happen. So when it comes to breaking up with someone, I do imagine already knowing where we're headed by running these simulations. Though, I would find it much harder to break up with someone because it feels mean, rude, like I'm hurting them. I don't want to hurt anyone.

[@jessenceq3250]

I relate to the not being mean part. It seems that most INFJs have higher standards and self respect than me. Maybe a stronger "j" Fe requirements. I almost use myself as a pawn in social experiments to understand people better even if I get hurt. I need a simulator, lol.

[@nulir5731]

INTPs are not like that. They bravely and directly tell that they are breaking up with you. Via text message.

[@joz6455]

I feel sorry for lactose intolerant ISTPs

[@violainetuuu5984]

I'm an INFP, and that bit about us is hilarious but also wierdly accurate? I actually do have a favorite tree in the botanical garden of my city, I don't know, I just felt I like that tree

[@Spectacular-Spider-Dan]

I sensed where the INFP's break up confession was going, but that didn't make it any less hilarious. 😆 🪴💔😥 Edit: I'm imagining the plant in the background of the INFP's confession being the plant the INFP is going to marry. The plant is smugly watching as the INFP breaks up with the audience.

[@Mer0hwl]

ISFP - I thought 'hang on, why do that again, that actually sounded quite right to me' .... exactly 😂

[@edi9892]

INTJ: lets not make this a drama (and be as efficient as possible while trying to hide the awkwardness)

[@ScarObviously]

As an INTJ, my break ups have been a mix between your portrayal of INTJ and ENFJ, and I think it's because I try to use empathy to tell them that they need to be a better version of themselves but without me

[@Leumar1990]

So, a soft version of "leave and get some help" - understandable (intj)

[@sandymakesplans]

extroverted feeling trickster strikes again

[@sandymakesplans]

@@Leumar1990 more like: "stop it. get some help."

[@Mayakran]

INTJ’s do typically want the best for everyone we care about. How we go about it is much more roundabout and less warm than ENFJ, though, for sure 😂 (ie instead of “do you want to talk about it?” it’s “I think you might want to look into implementing these steps I’ve outlined here for best results”).

[@zzzcocopepe]

Maybe you're INFJ, since you are somewhere between INTJ and ENFJ

[@yusufjibrel7465]

The ISFP eye thing, where you kept looking in all sorts of directions and the sudden declaration! Such IP'ness very well done.

[@Mayakran]

I can ABSOLUTELY see my ENTJ cousin doing something like this. He’s worked hard on his Fi inferior, and he’s come to embrace it, but the way he accesses and addresses emotions is still so… Te. To him, hurt feelings become just one more variable in his Ultimate Plans and are treated like an injury on the battlefield-efficiently, without fuss, and as quickly as possible so as to continue the fight.

[@mojyoqueen350]

As INTJ I somehow never broke up with anyone. All of the time the other person was breaking up with me. But I know I've learned my lessons, because each one left me for a different reason. So I'm clearly making progress. And that's the only thing that metters. Currently I am beating my life score! Three years~ [my last best score was six months]

[@adrianvramulet]

The facial expressions and the voice tone when the INFJ said "I'm sorry about this" - spot on! In hindsight, I'm guilty of having looked and sounded very similar in the same type of situations.

[@HindBoukili]

No

[@sunchips18]

@@HindBoukiliI love replies like these. 💀💀💀

[@HerKnightable]

(ENTP) Watching it made me appreciate the ENTJ. That would be a breath of fresh air... I mean dating a ENTJ would be a disaster, but damn that would be the best break up I have ever had.

[@Silly.dude875]

Entp 🤝 agreed

[@sunchips18]

INFJ one is pretty accurate. But the kicker is that for me, this would be playing in my head before the relationship even started. Broken up before they even had a chance. 🫣 (Also, I’d be fine with most of these, but that ESFP one would absolutely destroy me. 💀💀💀💀)

[@user-my9xw4dd5i]

HELP as a botanist infp who is fonder of trees than her partner & very much likes being alone this hit a little close to home

[@ArthKryst]

Break up is one of those events where I think feelers are absolutely important to ensure that my message is conveyed to the partner and the dynamic is handled properly. As an INTP I approve of the idea used by the INTP in the video. I'm gonna use that if I have to break up with someone given someone must be interested to date a shut-in like me in the first place. But a good utility of a Feeler for sure. I'll probably just drown in Wikipedia pages on the psychological effects of breaking up unable to take action in the first place

[@sarahberkner]

You should look up the video, "Operation Breakup" by Studio C. He's giving her breakup advice from the bushes lol

[@evegreenification]

If I didn't know an INTP, I'd figure you were joking around. Just don't be there. Don't do that.

[@danielveres4351]

As an INTP, I'm dying of laughter. :D But mostly because of the nuances of the facial expressions: wanting to say something, but deciding not to. Also showing up, because it feels like you should be there, but still getting someone deliver the news. Brilliant!

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

I normally just disappeared and wrote them that it doesn't work. Maybe one phone call, 0% emotion but feeling a bit ashamed and uncomfi. Why pay someone real money?

[@pescuezoee]

@@CIA.2024-u9breal i just text them that its over and inever chat nor see them eith them again

[@jsnldn]

INTJ is so spot on. that is really how they roll. INFJ is pretty accurate too, we think like that about our relationships. your INFP is adorable as always.

[@Azdaja13]

I would hope as an INTJ I would try and choose a life partner well enough so that this situation can be avoided. But I can see myself being like that. I act like that with other awkward things.

[@darrry92]

Yeah, I was like " I wouldn't be in a relationship where I have to break up like this", cause I don't date because of dating, if I date someone it means that person is already valuable to me, so I, at least would think carefully about what to say, cause I know I can be somehow cold and hurt them.

[@Azdaja13]

@@darrry92 Yeah, if I approach someone in that way, it's because I already at least have a good understanding of that person's potential. The key is trying to remember it is just potential and actually experiencing them as people. Dating for the sake of dating though is pointless and just leads to people getting avoidably hurt.

[@Azdaja13]

@@OrcaDesign_ What I've noticed is Te really helps in avoiding creating an idealised image. Basically having that little voice remind you every so often that you still need to do the Se and verify it. And also that skipping that step is generally ineffective.

[@klewis2048]

I’m glad I waited for the 2nd INFP, that was exactly right ❤

[@BrodieBr0]

LOL All of the ENFPs I know are so fun and sweet. Nice to see them being cheeky and creative here! Who knew breakups could be so hilarous, great work Kristin! 🤣

[@yigitcengil2465]

The difference between an ISFP and INFP couldn`t have been stated better.

[@tytration]

WHOA! The ENFP! Smooth (despite the non-helium balloon). *applauds*

[@EresirThe1st]

Accurate for INTJ lol, in fact I can be even more straightforward than that. Breakups are so easy for us due to Ni hero, Si demon and blind Fe. I bet other types wish they could have a dose of that mode sometimes.

[@sarahberkner]

I actually relate to the ESTJ here which only happens occasionally. My mom and I have had heated discussions about how she washes dishes, we have a perfectly good dishwasher and she'll use it but also hand wash some, which is fine if she cleaned them as well as the dishwasher does, but she doesn't. I lived at home for a year and she got offended if I finished cleaning the dishes that she washed, or if I'll show her a dish that was dirty. She's said that she knows how to wash dishes because she's been doing it for a long time, and also said that she doesn't understand why I'm so concerned with them being clean. Which doesn't make any sense. Feels good to get that off my chest :) I generally don't get in those types of arguments because it doesn't do any good or usually doesn't concern me

[@GM-kh4tu]

I stopped my piano practice just to watch the video and suddenly I was trying to underscore the piano background music while reading the subtitles. Even fun moments get productive 😅 by the way the ENFJ got my inferior Fi terrified. Also my Te would most likely send them a "How to get your life together so you'll never contact me again" list 📋

[@lilymaddisonx]

Me (ESTP) and my sister (ENFP) watching this together Her: oh, that was NOT me Me: really? Cause I could totally see that being you. Me: could you see me faking my death an- Her: ABSOLUTELY YES Me: *dies laughing because I was thinking definitely not* Thanks for the great time you gave us, Kristin!

[@Meg_intheclouds]

OMG ANOTHER ESTP and ENFP sister duo!!!! It’s funny cause my ESTP sister would just go “yeah this isn’t working out”- no BS. But the ENFP WAS 100% me- except what actually happened was a rambled and cried when breaking up with my ex- basically trying to explain to an ENTJ that it didn’t feel right lol

[@TheSimplelifemama]

Your portrayal of the ISFP was very interesting to me. I’ve never done this but I could completely understand feeling that way. C.S. Joseph says the Wayfarers (ESFP, ISFP, INTJ, and ENTJ) are the most likely to cheat on their mate or I guess in this case leave them for somebody else. Because of their combination of Fi and Se it can give them an outlook of “I like what I see and I want it right now”. I’ve started to notice that you can even hear this in the music of these types of artists. They will often sing about leaving their mate for somebody else, or your man doesn’t have to know. Ex: Adele (ENTJ maybe?)“Rumor Has It”, ‘Rumor has it he’s the one I’m leaving you for’. Billie Eillish (ISFP) “Bad Guy” “You said she’s scared of me? I don’t see what she sees maybe it’s cuz I’m wearing your cologne “ (IMO it’s got that, I’ll steel your man energy). I’m an ISFP and my husband said he worries that one day I run off and start a new family with someone else which I assured him would never do but I could understand why he feels that way. ISFPs do give off the spontaneous just into stuff vibes. 1:52

[@yeniindarti2836]

Wew a new way to define myself :')

[@Okoi05]

But Also this looks like something that could be solved on therapy

[@optimist-ri1439]

Thank you for this comment. I thought that one was interesting too. I asked myself would I leave someone for another relationship? And 'No' came up. And yes, I recall CS Joseph mentioning that and I started to wonder if I am actually an ISFP, but I got typed and turns out i was types as ISFP. I was married and was super loyal and wouldn't even look at anyone in that way, because I felt it was a form of disloyalty. But my ex certainly cheated on me, and it's been 15 years since and I have chosen to remain single. So, I guess the case is maybe, what you value & because of that the way we approach relationships can vary. 🤔

[@chuzzlewitspack9126]

I think that would depend on how much Fi values the relationship. Fi doesn't change its values very easily.

[@optimist-ri1439]

@@chuzzlewitspack9126 thanks, that makes sense.

[@paulakrumin8]

As an infp, I've broken up in 2 ways: slip away into shadows, never to be seen again, or else bluntly announce, "this isn't working for me. I want more than this." Infp's can be unexpectedly cutting once the internal decision has been made.

[@quadergum145]

My love for an imaginative ENTJ is so strong, I even love the way they break up! I mean, chocolate and ice cream, that's just so considerate!

[@N0URii]

Tf?

[@kairostimeYT]

"we are getting married in the spring" ~ ISFP in a breakup

[@optimist-ri1439]

But,...the ISFP never did marry the highschool friend that spring🛫

[@jamiedanae2550]

I’m an INFJ, and my husband and I just looked up how long we’ve been married and it’s exactly 3.76 years 🤭

[@CIA.2024-u9b]

My first gf was Intj and did it like that. I was heartbroken inside but on the outside I said "Ok, have a good life". She was so grateful that there was no drama.

[@nordicflower2215]

this video captures exactly how I feel as an INTJ when I must have a serious talk with someone. While I’ve never broken up with anyone, I acted like this every time I had to tell someone something reeeally uncomfortable. actually.. this video made me kind of uncomfortable, reminding me of some hard situations 😅 but that means it’s great!

[@otopharaoh]

Intp felt true. 😭 I used to have my mom speak for me for uncomfortable situations all the way until college.

[@7XSubaru]

I have more experience in ending friendships. I don't like "friends" who are superficial. They expect you to talk everything according to a given line. Who constantly expect pity and understanding, but react like the last furies when you take a different view and close down before you can explain yourself. - Ciou we're done. It is so easy.

[@catohung1020]

Nooo RIP ISTJ goggles you will be missed a lot

[@alexanderh7569]

After the first INFP, I was like really??? You just did that for the humour??? So, THANK YOU😆

[@ginocastillo8272]

This beautifully captures the ENFJ desire to continue the FRIENDSHIP after a break up. I'm interested for purely friendly interest ✍👀

[@Lacavadoe]

As an intj I would be a little more soft to explain why I’m ending it. BUT YES give me my things back 😂.

[@hanantiayu5176]

I always crack for ESTP. They r the most fun person for me. -ISTP

[@hailseitan8522]

Hahah usually people get irritated, it seem that they just can’t keep up with the energy. -ESTP

[@hanantiayu5176]

@@hailseitan8522 ur really a bad influence for me u know that lol

[@Tilnaor]

this is one of the few cases when the INTP portrayed wrong. S/he would never start a relationship if there is any chance of breakup in the foreseeable future (0.6-3 ys). If happens to be already in a relationship, s/he won't risk the long term status quo with beakup. INTP is the one who with people usually breaking up. Also, being in a realtionship for an INTP is like the two slit experiment in physics: we know it can be done, but very hard to comprehend, and also needs to change the entire view of the world.

[@ladyalicent705]

The INFP plant thing is spot on. It’s a bit exaggerated of course, but it perfectly illustrates that to us, how much our partners care for us and their personality is all that matters, and that superficial things like looks and even sex are just fun little bonuses.

[@srnx1_1]

nah I'm ENTP, breaking up with ENTJ. We had the best time being together but not when breaking up. He's such a good and understanding guy I ever met but then I just saw him as the worst, cold, heartless and selfish guy. He done everything that he knows it will hurt me. That sh*t really hits me hard that make me thinking I shouldn't reveal my feelings too much anymore. Well maybe not all ENTJ is that kind LOL 😂

[@irienerd8178]

As an INTJ once I get to the point where I feel the relationship isn't worth fighting for (which is a huge deal for us), I just stop talking to them. I've learned to ask for my stuff back (in an inconspicuous way) before I have what I call my " first warning" conversation, so by the time they invariably don't listen to my warnings (I give SEVERAL, which are several more than I should) I have my stuff and I can just bounce out. I only do what Kristin did as the INTJ IF I wasn't able to get my stuff back 🤣😂🤣 during the warning phase.

[@Debloper]

As an INTJ, I was pleasantly surprised & delighted to watch the entirety of the video, even though the stereotype says that we leave immediately after our part is done. To some extent, that "I must watch it till the last second of this one" is also an active rebel against the practice of creators putting INTJs last, to force us to watch the whole thing. In such cases, I would _only_ watch the end. You reap what you sow. Not saying you have to put INTJs first or prioritize in anyway... randomize/order anyway reasonable way you want. But if you design (order) specifically to manipulate us, we WILL game the system, optimizing ourselves to negate/deny what you want.

[@dearkristin]

Hahahaha love this

[@paaglimonicat]

Infp getting married to the plant 😍😍😍 ahhhh 😌 my happily ever after

[@theonewhoasked5629]

My personal favorite is the ENTPs way. Absolutely amazing.

[@Necro3Monk]

As for the dishwasher: (dramatically gestures) "If it comes with the house, it is simpler to keep than remove it even if I don't use it. Yea, deal with tha...oh you're still breaking up. Darn."

[@MichaelGrundler]

There were three scenes where I thought it might be the ISTP: INTJ, ESTP & INTP. But actually there was none where I personally completely relate to. The closest would be if you combine the matter-of-fact-nes of the INTJ with the prediction of the INFJ and the total lack of confidence of the INTP. But that all is just guesswork. I've never been on this side of the argument.

[@dearkristin]

I'm going to have to give the ISTP a good bit next week to make up for the utter meme that they were in this video. 😆

[@figs449]

Oh my I'm an infj, I knew from the way she was dressed and the mention of scenarios that I was about to be called out

[@WolfoxBR]

As an INTJ with an ISFP ex-wife, I can vouch for *both* of those. Fantastic as always, kristin!

[@FPT84]

INTJ & ISFP? Hmm...interesting!

[@Okoi05]

@@FPT84 i am an ISFP (female) and have fiance INTJ and best female friend INTJ and best male friend ENTJ. I consider it good mix, kind of synergy :)😊

[@teshn1229]

@@Okoi05 Do you think a common thread is shared interests?

[@renbrent2314]

ESFJ was spot on. My best friend in high school said my boyfriend looked like a turnip due to his goatee. It bothered me more than it should have. Thankfully though, the turnip and I have been married for 27 years.

[@capt.cloudsworth4924]

It's good to know that even turnips have a chance at finding true love ❤️ even with people who aren't INFPs (considering their love for plants in the Dear Kristin-verse)

[@Necro3Monk]

Also, after seeing that "MBTI types as songs" video, did my own version with instrumental/non-lyrics ones. I listen to lots of computer game/movie soundtracks/random youtube instrumental musicians, though I ended up using just a few groups for this. These capture a mood rather than express things because no lyrics obviously. ENTJ: Technologique Park-Orbital kzbin.info/www/bejne/iWW4dnukiN59p9E -This inspired the idea. Feels like its pushing forward, intense, kind of weird. ENFJ; Sunlight-machinimasound kzbin.info/www/bejne/aqLQoaujp5iLb5I. Or Garden of Seborhin-Guild Wars soundtrack kzbin.info/www/bejne/kGiTZX2wptdoerM -Mix of uplifting and serious feeling. Matches a lot of ENFJ's I know about, who combine intensity and friendliness. ESFJ: Ballad of Ice and Snow-Guild Wars Soundtrack. kzbin.info/www/bejne/nYern4SsfdFnoNk -For similar types, I picked pairs that sound similar in some way. This one is more relaxed than ENFJ, but still feels like its moving forward and friendly. ENTJ: Haunted Ruins-Guild Wars soundtrack. kzbin.info/www/bejne/bJy9p6Cli7ODnJY -Vaguely similar rhythym and pushing towards a goal feeling as the ENTJ, but more conventional, just kind of seems to fit ESTJ better in a hard to explain way. ENTP: Neuro Rhythym-machinimasound. kzbin.info/www/bejne/h3iclGSCoqprqsU -It's not the "let's explore the metaverse" music, but its damn close. :) I had to listen to both to see if they were different. ENFP: Gravastar-hybrid kzbin.info/www/bejne/mpDPdpuQqMaqpsk or Resplendent Makuun-Guild Wars soundtrack kzbin.info/www/bejne/jXWsY6GCiNKsrs0 -I had a hard time finding obvious "this sound like an ENFP" stuff, so picked ones similar to other types. Gravastar sounds kind of like Neuro rhythym, but slightly more wide open exploration. Resplendent Makuun is from the same area as the ENFJ one, but looser and more excited about things. Fits well enough. ESTP: Visible Noise-Hybrid kzbin.info/www/bejne/ZqPQgploqKeSeKM -Dance Party music for the ES-P types. What else could it be. :) I found another one that works better for ESFP, so ESTP gets this one. ESFP: Stringy Acid-Orbital kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWWtZZqtj9mkbrc -This one sounds more fun and excited, which seems to fit ESFP better. Yes, I like simple decisions like that. INTJ: We are in control-Hybrid kzbin.info/www/bejne/nInde6GporGFhrc -Sounds calmer/lower volume, but still pushing towards something. Seemed to fit INTJ well. INFJ: Out there somewhere 2-Orbital kzbin.info/www/bejne/foOplp9oitmsn6c -It sounds kind of like the INTJ one, but somehow friendlier. I wanted something shorter like most of the other ones are, but this one just seemed to fit really well. ISTJ: Sulfurous Wastes-Guild wars Soundtrack kzbin.info/www/bejne/faaufqiAqrJ2bZI -It's from the same in game area as the ESTJ one, but more watchful/"something is coming" than pushing forward. Seemed to match the ISTJ idea of looking out for danger/keeping things steady. A lot of this is feel, admittedly, so there won't be long explanations. Mostly based on people I know who seem to fit the types. ISFJ: Guardian Sunspears-Guild Wars Soundtrack kzbin.info/www/bejne/hmeVm3efqbyrfaM -Probably the calmest and simplest of anything on this list. Gives off that friendly, stable, everyone is going normal feeling that ISFJ's seem to like. INTP: Strategy-inception recording sessions kzbin.info/www/bejne/b5fOmIWJest8Y5o -The perfect music for a mathematician or philosopher or researcher at work doing something on their own. Seems to fit that stereotypical INTP in action with their nose in a book putting something together. -The inception recording sessions are different from the soundtrack. They are straight movie music, listening to it is like listening to the movie with just the music. This particular one is what plays when the team is fully assembled until Ariadne looks into Cobb's dream, including building the dreams, discussions with Saito, figuring out how to incept Saito, setting up the kicks, etc. INFP: Halcyon On + on -Orbital kzbin.info/www/bejne/mIeQmYadgZaFbZY -Might just be all the plants and images in the video, but this seems to fit INFP a bit better than some others. ISFP: Savannah dusk-Machinimasound kzbin.info/www/bejne/aWivfKtum7p9mJY -Went for similar ones between ISFP and INFP, and this is another relatively calm song. I don't remember the exact logic for how I picked which of them went with which type. ISTP: Mission impossible theme, original 1960's show kzbin.info/www/bejne/rajTiYikZ8l5a8U -Yes, those big Tom Cruise movies originally came from a ~50 year old TV show. This one was effectively a series of caper/con movies, as the team used cleverness trickery and knowing how the targets would react to get whatever they were after, plus a few gadgets. Is a lot of fun, if you want to watch. -It's low volume and low key in a way, but still has lots of action, seems to match the "doesn't care too much, but likes to do stuff" ISTP. -I might want to add another one, since this is pretty short. Will do for now.

[@jamesporter2788]

Thanks for this, love the Inception theme tune. I'm probably ISTJ though (used to think I was INTP)

[@Alex-vj1yz]

ESTP here, I physically gasped, I have been called out

[@amyblais7317]

The infj portrayal is ridiculously accurate

[@freidenkerin5198]

I absolutely loved the ENTJ one! Fair and considerate! ....longing for some chocolate right now... (ENFP)

[@phat32able]

Your wit…priceless!! Seriously makes my day when a new video drops!!!

[@dearkristin]

Aww I'm glad. Thank you!

[@Gio-sx7kt]

I was dating someone I've since typed INTP, and we had this ENTJ "friend" in our group hang etc, and the ENTJ totally spoke for him in telling me that he was in love with her, but that she already had a boyfriend. Luckily that gave me the strength to be ok with breaking it off with him later when we tried reconnecting. I was more serious initial but that embarrassing treatment really empowered to me to undervalue my responsibility to the connection later. Probably too bad for him though. I knew he had made a big mistake pulling that when he did. -infj

[@cluylala]

ISTJ and goggles are THE iconic pair.

[@sarahrzewnicki7292]

As an ISFP, I could definitely see myself doing something very similar to this 😅😂

[@esrae.-.]

Lol at the entp, you are hilarious Kristin

[@WinterSistaCh]

As an ISFJ, 'signs of not taking me seriously' is definitely why I left my guy. How I left him? On the last meeting, I tried to find opportunities and made some reasons why we shouldn't be together. When his friend (another girl) who is quite close with came, I exclaimed "Your girlfriend's here! Haha" nicely with a smile and I greeted the girl. Then, I said to both of them "I will be going now, goodbye!" and never ever see him again.

[@aprilw2287]

I can't count the times I've had to remind my INFJ BFF that love is worth the risk of heartbreak before she ran away without even giving someone a chance. She's happily married now, but it took a lot of pep talks to get her there.

[@justmebeingmyself2248]

Lmao just how much I relate to her, what's your type though If I may ask?

[@aprilw2287]

@@justmebeingmyself2248 INFP. We make a good pair! Haha

[@justmebeingmyself2248]

@@aprilw2287 and INFP! Yes we do!

[@mariafrou2514]

When the INTJ demonstrates ways I've dumped people before. Oops. I knew instantly it was me 🥲

[@dracsharp]

Alternatively you can hire a body double to keep the relationship going. Bonus points for changing pictures of you to that person. Extra bonus points for faking an accident, so differences can be explained as part of the accident. Then later resurface as their secret twin.

[@Sykkulogy]

the transition of esfp’s facial expressions 😂😂😂

[@YeahNah_Mate]

ESTJ and ISTJ were hella relatable- 😭 Okay, but like, I would totally be an INTP in this situation too- - ESFJ

[@tamarna]

Also as an ISFP who have fallen in love literally TODAY with a guy who has tons of plants I can confirm this video is 100% accurate

[@auburnmann3630]

Next 16 types: Explaining MCU? Going to the barber or hair salon Exercising At a graduation At a baby shower At Church / house of worship

[@auburnmann3630]

?????

[@miahan8988]

I almost died laughing when you showed the ISTP. I know an ISTP who’s married to an ESFP Eunice 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@SzklaneSkrzydla]

ENFP here, actually its extremely hard to me to break up and I did ot only once after actually being sort od unofficially abandoned for a longer period....

[@jansvoboda4293]

I really fail to get the INTP one (as INTP). There are basically two ways I see INTP break up depending on circumstance: 1) INFJ like doorslam (after repeated overstepping of critical boundaries) 2) Fade away (gradually realizing the relationship is hollow) That being said, it's probably just making fun of quirky sides of the stereotypes.

[@jamesporter2788]

I thought the INFJ was going to be INTP running through scenarios, but to be fair INFJ is probably even better at that. I get that an INTP might struggle to express him/herself. It's difficult to depict a gradual fade-away / disinterest / irritation in a short clip though.