18 Signs You Have Fake Friends

[@ishanaswonderland6301]

It's better to be alone than to be in bad company. Having no friends is better than having fake friends.

[@Uksoapfan]

Never fear the enemy who attacks you but the fake friend who hugs you.

[@brummyfishing]

💯 I told a narc of a friend I was done they got angry when they realized I was done with theyre bs he put his arm round me trying to be pally pally na done

[@bakayk4328]

The most dangerous person in the world is a fake friend

[@Not-the-usual-BS]

😢😢😢😢yup I learned that the painful way when I was incarcerated

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Soooo true!

[@broken_errors5715]

@@Not-the-usual-BS wtf happened?

[@francafattori8998]

Exactly 💯

[@francafattori8998]

​@@Not-the-usual-BS Fake friends often are in daily life not only in jail 😰 God bless you brother 🙏 🤲🙏

[@alenaduplantier4505]

Real friends are very rare most people will use you that's the truth

[@dennismclaurin1487]

Noone knows this better than Jesus Christ. That's why only a remnant will be saved at His 2nd coming/appearing.

[@OceanicPearlz1]

Facts and facts

[@OceanicPearlz1]

@@dennismclaurin1487 facts

[@Alyy4]

I don’t think there is such thing as a friend

[@miloscott6617]

You are very cynical.

[@izzylandyt]

“Real friendship is a two-way street” this is a crucial component. There has to be reciprocity. Any one-way relationship is bound to fail.

[@diannakins7333]

To me one of the most important things is once you have distance from a fake friend, don’t allow them to come back into your life.

[@yasminbarry7941]

Right! I am doing just that right now.

[@abazism]

Very well said.

[@abwilliams7584]

Don't let a fake friend too return in your life

[@alannarutter5033]

I didn't let my fake friend back in my life when they were in trouble. I didn't let them manipulate me for getting my help/support, as I knew for well if that was me needing help, they would've given me nothing and blame me. I don't have any regrets for leaving them behind. I feel free of their manipulation and constant criticism!

[@yasmigutierrez3687]

Period

[@pelagic6]

You're describing the relationship between narcissists and empathetic caring people. Narcissist always takes advantage of the latter.

[@davidionashku2500]

100% exactly true

[@ednagoddess3800]

They r sick, just sty awy

[@kantottero3831]

get rid of the narcissist , they are toxic and emotionally damaging ..they like attention and highly extroverted people.. introverts are opposite they are empathetic people.. and smart and know the boundaries of others ... that is why they are shy.. fake vs true friends... the impostor among us..

[@andrewsomebody844]

Ya cuz you're perfect everyone else is a narcissist. Smh pos

[@MeowTown433]

Exactly

[@pennysmith6209]

Excellent post. Definitely made me take an inventory of my life. I am 60 years old. I realized that I have never had a real friend. Now, I have no friends, by choice. Humans are complex and inherently supremely selfish.

[@questor5189]

It is a part of the human condition. To have and keep friends one must be compassionate, patient, and share things in common with another. Unfortunately, many people are so self-absorbed that the friendship is doomed from the start.

[@JohnBrown722so]

Never return the favor

[@DemetriT1]

Yes, I agree. When my mom passed away 5 months ago, I learned who was real and who was fake fast.

[@josephaldrich4023]

I know EXCTLY how THAT feels... It's like not only mom passed away, but also all those people who you thought you could count on... Your only true friend is God... I know your wounds are fresh now. Take your time to heal dude... You're now a newborn spiritually... The old you is gone, may this new chapter of your life be filled with wisdom and courage, you'll find true happiness, and genuine friendsips shall come to you after this tragedy. It'll take some time though. Greetings from México.

[@broken_errors5715]

@@josephaldrich4023 No such thing as God

[@josephaldrich4023]

@@broken_errors5715 Was I talking to you?

[@debs.8953]

I have found that amazing, too. When I've mentioned that a relative died by text, the 'friend' disappeared for weeks. When they finally do return, they never mention my loss.

[@yasminbarry7941]

@@josephaldrich4023 : Great, uplifting message to Demetri. May he heal fast. He now knows a lot more than he did before.

[@TeamHawaiiPromotions]

With so called friends like this, who needs enemies?! Smh

[@Explohsin]

the worst part about a betrayal is that it never comes from an enemy

[@dennismclaurin1487]

:::@@Explohsin I felt that experience today(8-20-22) from a divine revelation. There's plenty of Judases in the world. In Mat.24:10, it says many will betray one another and become offended about being your friend. (Judas and Peter fit this language. Peter denied knowing Jesus 3 times--with an oath!)

[@stefanstoic]

i acutally have more respect for enemies than friends. At least i know the enemy hates me. The friend? you'll find out too late.

[@Mr.BigBadWolf]

I’m 40 and I’m still dealing with ppl like this. What I have learned is that friendly, kind, naïve oblivious people attract predators. These people can smell the vulnerability and it makes their mouth water that they can use you like a pet, or debit card or even worst tissue paper. And they hide it under the friendship clause. “Well I said all does bad things because I know we’re friends” or “it shouldn’t matter I treated you bad or stopped your opportunity and growth because we’re friends” Be carful who you call friend. Even do a test, I had family member call friend asking for feed back pretending to be a job recruiter. She asked my friend 3 questions, 1 being do they feel I would make a good candidate for promotional corporate position. He said point blank No, and that he worked with me before and I was unreliable and my job performance was bad. I was floored. This guy knows I have wife, kids, mortgage etc and he knew I was hard worker and of all people he was someone I call friend but he tried to screw me over as soon as I tried to better myself. I didn’t block him, I just started treating him the same way. And til this day I don’t consider him a friend. I got promotion and he’s been trying to work with me in my position. I told him he can start like everyone else and work his way up. He threw in the we are friends thing. And I told him “no I was always your friend you were never mines.

[@tedoneilclark4710]

What a peice of shit. That's an absolute nightmare. I don't think that I could even be able to look never mind speak to them ever again. Horendous that was.

[@mariacullati2371]

I don't know that your friend had to be so honest about your habits but he could have just said that you were worthy of a chance to do good work. People always have their own agenda, but friends consider your perspective of a situation.

[@yasminbarry7941]

Great tip (having a friend call a friend pretending to be a recruter). Indeed, I ended up not being hired for one particular job because the person I used as a reference ruined it for me. But I indirectly told him I knew. I didn't cut him off or anything but when the opportunity arose in one conversation I said: "You know..... this particular organization that I tried to apply for? When they turn you down because of a bad reference, they actually tell you "because we just want you to know your real friends". This is not true. The Admin Department at that place never told me anything but when they asked for a reference, that was to be the final step; BUT they send me an email early the next day letting me know that I wasn't selected. That's why I know that my reference did me in.

[@veroniquendambo3242]

Good! Once you have identified your foe, you must be as prudent as a snake! Never ever allow that person near you or open your door to him/her. Do not even accept your foe's apologogies because the very next attempt, he/she will break your backbone or crush you to ashes! These are lifetime lessons.

[@RobShuttleworth]

Sounds lke he's a narcissist.

[@ives3572]

0:14 Superficial Knowledge 0:51 Hoping For Failure 1:21 Emotional Outlets 2:02 Sudden Exhaustion 2:35 Needless Favors 3:09 Emotional Distance 3:42 Unfriendly Competition 4:15 Cancelling Plans 4:43 Leveraging Mistakes 5:14 Betraying Your Trust 5:51 Empty Advice 6:28 Harsh Judgments 7:41 Social Selfishness 8:24 Creating Debt 9:05 Breaking Boundaries 9:32 Making Trouble 10:06 Offensive Comments

[@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan]

Thx so much

[@TheCarCrazyGuy]

You skipped one 😎

[@yasminbarry7941]

Thank you.

[@brendab.5111]

@@TheCarCrazyGuy #13. 7:02 Defensive Patterns

[@Shanaevaz]

Yes brah thank for breaking it down

[@aw4955]

This is the truth. I'd rather not have any friends than be put through this.

[@jeffwagner2707]

I told one of my friends it's lonely at the top and he said go back to the bottom bitch

[@bigvalley4987]

I second that emotion☑️

[@dennismclaurin1487]

@@bigvalley4987 I feel that way, too---- UNFORTUNATELY.

[@rayc9899]

Choose wisely and wait, good thing happen when you wait, don't settle.

[@aw4955]

@@rayc9899 I've already chosen, nor will I settle. To do anything else is the grave. It took me many years of pain, but I accept that truth with forgiveness and shall not relinquish that reality. Sometimes we must take a leap of faith with our lives or we can never become who we are meant to become. Waiting too long can prevent often lead to the loss of better paths or relationships. I've learned that lesson as well. Likewise, old attachments often times hold us back. Usually, it is best to let go as an act of love regardless of any deceptive emotions. True and sincere friendship is a thing to be cherished. Anything else is the grave. Life repeatedly teaches us that lesson.

[@GamingtheOtter]

I had two of the fakest friends in the 2010s once I started pushing them away I felt healthier about myself.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

It feels and looks like fake friends are thriving together --- in a subtle, unrighteous way.

[@Tea23145]

@@dennismclaurin1487actually couldn’t be more accurate. There’s always a duo in a trio

[@nowmine]

Fake friends sound like the narcissistic personality

[@ravenmeyer3740]

That’s exactly what they are. They may not hit on all of the cylinders for narcissism, but pretty close.

[@SuperBlessedKing]

Throughout the most recent years, fake friends have been removed from my life, because my happiness and my peacefulness is the most important priority for myself to focus on, in the context of daily life. I’d rather be truly happy and peaceful than to be stressed by fake friends.

[@shestiapumpkin8421]

When you have haters 👀 kzbin.info/www/bejne/qKTdnIOKfZyshrc

[@abwilliams7584]

100% with you. . Fake people is very dangerous

[@dennismclaurin1487]

It's real bad when fake Judas friends have the power and favor to influence heads.

[@crazygrandma]

Exactly. They take up your time, but when you need them, they're unavailable for weeks.

[@ElaineFoster101]

Number 14 is my favorite: When someone talks on and on about themselves and never asks me about myself, I walk away. Been fooled by this type of person one too many times, but not anymore.

[@junipersnow1]

I thought about that... But that is what WE should do as friends for that person, listen and don't expect anything in return........ They need extra care that day, If you are interested in the friendship at all.

[@TrinhNguyen-sh4fj]

Reminds me of some former friends I had. Glad I distanced myself from them.

[@usayeed727]

When you get into your later twenties, the hardest realisation is that some of your childhood friends become this. I personally found that as I’ve been increasingly successful, I’ve invited more and more of the traits exposed in this video by friends I considered as good as blood brothers. I never thought that I’d have to deal with the negative sensitivity, gaslighting and accusations of haughtiness when giving sincere advice and doing my best to help them. It’s at that point you’ve got to realise that you need to move on. Fortunately, I’d made new friends shortly before my journey upwards (when I was at near rock bottom) and they’ve proven to be the sincerest people. I hope it stays that way and to the people reading this going through fake friends, I pray you’ll find the strength to overcome and move on from these toxic people. You deserve far better.

[@yasminbarry7941]

Congratulations for being the winner in your struggle. But I assume you are young and I've got news for you: the older you get, the more people you lose (in terms of friendship). So, unfortunately, your losses might not even be over yet.

[@guestphone3345]

Yall so right! I cut em all off! Fake friends! Cousins! Even my brother today! Taking care if my kids and wife that's is!

[@usayeed727]

@@yasminbarry7941 hi there thanks for your reply and kind words. I just turned 28 this month and I’m grateful that I’ve been learning about life and making room for better people in life. I have quite a few friends in their thirties and they’ve also provided the same reassurance. A good plus of losing the bad eggs is you get good ones later.

[@ravenmeyer3740]

You outgrew them. They resented it because they weren’t growing even though I’m sure they had their own successes. Perhaps they were too insecure in themselves to see it.

[@swinto4795]

Sometimes you have to cut sometimes not, as you said, we age, relationships change. Your friendship will not be as it was when you were younger, you will get less time with each other, get more time reflecting on your relationships and why you still have them. Your views of the world change, you get more life experience where some people fit more than others. It is a natural step and I would say it does not always have to be about fake friendship...it is more about maturity. Be careful dumping old friends instead try to figure out where your friendships are, by talking to each other. Friendships are like relationships, they are not always perfect.

[@rauldiaz2518]

A dude used to tell me I was his forever best friend. I never felt the same way about him. Once, I went on a family trip. He took advantage of my absence to pay a visit to my girlfriend (without being invited) He told her how much he'd been in love with her since the first time he saw her. He also talked trash about me. Obviously, my girlfriend rejected him and told me everything when I was back. The coward denied everything but refused to stick up for his words in front of her. And I was his best friend. Imagine if I'd been his worst enemy. Lol!

[@rogerzimet]

A real friend will never stab you on your back. Don't let him be your "Friend" again.

[@broken_errors5715]

what if your girl was capping theirs a possibility

[@kennethrobinson1672]

You are his worst enemy, the one closest to u can hurt u the most.

[@swinto4795]

What if your girlfriend lied? Then it shows you made up your mind without even talking to both of them beforehand. You took your girls word for it...and sure it might had been true it might have not but seeing that you didn't think you were as close to him as he felt you were to him shows me you are the fake friend and not him.

[@ladyhawk6999]

Well , that tears it, I have no friends at all. Every single " friend" in my check most or all of the boxes. I always thought treating others the way you want to be treated was how you should be, but instead I get suspicion , or walked on or used . When people can't get something from me , they don't want to be around me. If supposedly coming to spend time they bring a friend who has to get back soon . Or someone calles and needs them home early ....every time. They only come by IF they have no other plans , I am the last they call . When they get together I am not informed. They keep telling me how much fun I am and how they cannot wait to spend time with me ...but it only happens maybe once every five or so years....we only live sixty miles apart. I don't know even how to act around people anymore , I have learned to put up a wall. I have been hurt too many times .

[@duvessaledoux834]

You’re not alone! That feeling is absolutely awful. Wishing the universe sends you everything you wish for 🙏🏻 💝

[@JazzGaming26]

The best way to avoid this is to have a pet for your friend. They will never be fake around you.

[@broken_errors5715]

might as well wipe your friends as😂

[@kennethrobinson1672]

Sometime they get stubborn an hard headed as well , my dog take a crap right by my driver side door so I can step in it , he do it on purpose

[@las9582]

​@@kennethrobinson1672😂😅

[@ROKgem]

This is true

[@jamiewilliams8107]

There's nothing worse when a so called friend never delivers the promise to you.

[@Ayanda846]

I'm doubting everything about friendships. I am that type of a person who is too concerned once in a friendship or relationship. Most of the times when you are like this, you don't receive back the same energy you give. Having friends who have side friends whom they are more into more than they are into you.

[@coopsy9543]

This describes most with mental health problems. Especially depression, anxiety or PTSD etc.

[@369Rising]

This is not personal unless you've personally betrayed yourself & let in the enemy. We're not supposed to be friends with everyone. Forgive yourself & follow your intuition.

[@ca8550]

it can be your own family and I mean close family like a parent or sibling so that's unexpected friends is one thing but family is totally different

[@piyabiswas9475]

Fake friend ruined a person..the fake friend stab at the back...but it can be realised after getting stabbed.. true friend speaks the truth always and never harm .. in this world fake friends are more common..true friend is God gifted

[@mickdwyer4254]

I've never had anybody looking out for me,so I guess I've never had a friend.It does not matter,it frees you up to concentrate on important things.

[@damslifevlog5031]

Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow. Don't walk behind me, I may not lead. Walk beside me and be my friend.

[@adolcristin3526]

Nice, true friends are equal not pretending and faking.

[@adhdandapiano2513]

Lets be honest- every single one of us have all had "friends" exactly like this.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

All that backstabbing!

[@samm5391]

I think all of us have some the behaviors on this list too lol nobody is perfect. Some people are blatantly fake thougg

[@AmeliaC-e8o]

@@samm5391 You not wrong. Every now and then I do bring up something my friend said that wasn't very smart at all just to teases her about it, but I never did it to make her feel bad or to hurt her.

[@adolcristin3526]

I hope we also not like these people it's difficult to distinguish who is truly a true friend and a parasite. Some people will say otherwise but in truth they are fake themselves(victim minded).

[@amydungan6134]

What if you have family members who are like this?

[@omarlittle-hales8237]

Shalom, Salam, Peace. Quran [Last Testament] The Best Of You, Is How Your Treat Other People.

[@ct4074]

Family can be the worst. They will rob you blind when they smell money or an inheritance...

[@jonathangriffin8060]

There's another phrase that describes these types of people: They are called "acquaintances". I believe that these people exist big time on social media (Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.). They don't understand that the "friend" title, much like "respect", is earned, not given.

[@Chuck_EL]

Yes the "I posted it on Facebook" friends very insufferable

[@mauriojohnson805]

Whoever made this, I personally thank you. I needed to see this.

[@milkycolaaa]

My fake friend just moved away and I feel way more free now!!

[@louisraya1748]

I’m okay with people as long as they keep their distance.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

I feel the same way. They can drive you crazy and wear you out with the stress from their worldly nature. I want no part of it. This is an evil, adulterous, perverse generation, for the most part-- save the remnant.

[@abuhassan8849]

As someone with Asperger's Syndrom, this is extremely important video. Thanks for making this video!!! :)

[@minnae.1747]

When you get the feeling someone is a fake friend, you can test them by not being as giving. Say you are busy when they need you to do something for them, don't keep the conversation up, don't ask them how they are. If they are fake they will probably fade away as they can't get anything out of you. If you think someone is fake they probably are.

[@kristenfuller9168]

Hi I think I have fake friend. I don't know if if this friend cares about me or not 💯 😞😔 💔 he's friends with my so-called friends that hurt me a few days ago and he never stood out for me he just thinks they're innocent even after i explain that these friends humiliate me in a public mall. When I ask to hangout with his friend most of the time he says I'm busy. My friend doesn't and never ask if I was okay that I was bullied in the mall 😢 last week.my friend just unfriended me on Facebook just cuz I stood up for myself. I don't see my friend standing up for me at all my friend's not helping me 😞 he just says they're innocent

[@hopeh1095]

Totally agree, we need to start doing a test to see if you’re dealing with authentic person or fake. Yes, do not be so giving and trusting. See if they are going to contact or text you out the goodness of their hearts. Most fake friends only care about themselves and what’s going on in their lives. Agree, if you have to keep questioning if a person is fake most times they are. Time to distance yourself and allow God to find real friends. 🙏

[@questor5189]

Yeah, give it time, but follow your intuition.

[@adolcristin3526]

A bee will never visit a dry flower so as a person where a narcissist won't get supply so they leave them dry.

[@OldManPaxusYT]

beware who you befried... i turned 49 yesterday and to be 100% honest - i have ZERO real friends anymore. I had some GREAT, TRUE friends over my life but with moving from state to state several times and with some of the friends being 'not real, true friends'...eventually, through life's hardships, ups and especially downs (when you are down and out and NEED help - THAT is when you realise who your real friends are too), i realised how few good friends i had to today, where it's basically NILL... So even from school/university age or wherever you meet friends... Dont' start out with a so-so bunch! Try to befriend the BEST ppl from the start! Then you won't be disappointed when you need help or a crisis happens and none of them step up to help.

[@thisisme3238]

I can so relate to what you're saying...have found out in my life (just recently) that I have a lot of acquaintances but very few friends. In other words, these acquaintances are there when "everything is going good for you or them," but when you are hurting they don't care to hear it or be there for you. I once heard a comment that I try to keep in mind..."If a person has 5 friends in a lifetime, he is a rich person." People seem to associate the word "rich" with money, that's just one aspect of meaning for rich, its true definition entails so much more... don't feel down, there are a lot of us out there that thought we had "true friends" that later found out that most of those people were merely acquaintances. God bless 👍 and belated HAPPY BIRTHDAY 🎉🎈🪅.

[@OldManPaxusYT]

@@thisisme3238 Ha ha ha ha, i don't celebrate my b'days anymore but i thank you muchly for the comment and wishes! Hope you find your special tribe one day soon!

[@thisisme3238]

@@OldManPaxusYT 👍

[@OldManPaxusYT]

@@thisisme3238 just curious, how did you find out (u said it was recent), about your so called friends?

[@georgianagheorghe8848]

Such friends come out of nowhere especially when you're a successful person.

[@WowDaniX]

Just ghost 👻 them and NEVER go back!

[@GregBrick]

It's easy to see through these types. The more insidious kind of fake friend is the one who abandons you to the wolves when you need them the most. I had a "friend" I shared 15 years of outdoor adventures with, and who would have passed all these tests. I got into a legal dispute that tangentially involved him, where his testimony would have been of value to my case, and wow, he just vanished. If they don't have your back in times of crisis, they are in the "acquaintance" category.

[@usayeed727]

Acquaintance? Given that he abandoned you in your direst moment, I think you’re being far too charitable to him with that descriptor. I’m sad you had to go through that.

[@mysteryman7024]

I have dealt with fake friends most of my life I couldn't identify it back then. But now I can sense that shit 1000 miles away you live and you learn. Experience truly is the best TEACHER!

[@hwlovell]

It would be so much easier if people were just honest about what they wanted in a friendship. I have experienced all of these signs in different people throughout my life. I find there are only a small number of people that are genuine and really care about your well-being.

[@vanessabell7154]

Hi top think I was wondering where are you. this message is for me to analyze the people I associate myself with. Blessing 🙏🏾

[@frankdelahue9761]

Brutal honesty is big indicator.

[@patgiogi1291]

Usually they are perfect and dangerous narcisists

[@MCC876]

The list seems to describe someone with a personality disorder, in which case would make it difficult for them to be friends with anyone.

[@JamesSewell12346674]

All 18 of these points resonate wholly with me on a daily. I work on eliminating all these components out of my life. This video is so concise and clear, it couldn’t be said any better.

[@jonathangross2905]

These are the reasons I have no friends

[@adolcristin3526]

As the bible predicted, the world is will be filled with narcissistic people, authentic and real relationships with fellow human kind will be almost impossible. Everyone selfish and apathetic, not emphatic to each other. How can you be friends with someone if you only thinks about yourself and not interested in the other? Selfishness destroys everything selflessness builds things.

[@JaylaisAwesome]

That fake friend could be you, and you don’t realize it.

[@valtaylor1019]

Some times a fake friend is better then a fake family member learn how to distance your self from fake family and you will feel better in the long run

[@AkramAliA50015]

This need to be something everyone should ponder over. Especially cultures where jealousy exist at an extreme especially in India Pakistan Bangladesh and rest of South Asia. Also existing in many parts of the world.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

Most are jealous, judgemental, and critical of anyone showing me peace, goodwill, or brotherly love. That's why I don't like for fake friends (which is the majority) to know who my real friends are(which are the remaining 2%) .It's not safe for me to openly have friends in an unsafe environment and setting.

[@questor5189]

An interesting observation. I did not know this. Perhaps it helps to explain social and political divisions, both here and abroad. To alleviate jealousy, one must reassure that person that they are always accepted and not rejected. Attach value to every relationship, but be wary of fake friends.

[@xxxraquelpinexxxx9725]

I had fake friends my whole life. I wish i could have real friends and not any shitty friendships

[@dennismclaurin1487]

I should give my boss toilet paper for Christmas, because he's full of shit.

[@glenoneill3950]

FAKE FRIENDS ARE GREAT TEACHERS.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

I like this profound comment. Thanks for sharing this, Glen.

[@glenoneill3950]

@@dennismclaurin1487 BLESSINGS DENNIS.

[@adolcristin3526]

They rip you apart first, and torture you truly great teachers! They teach you life by making your life hell and traumatized you that's how you learn!

[@OtomoTenzi]

Eventhough I am SLOW to notice these kindsa things, I think I would prolly know what a FAKE FRIEND is when I see one... One person whom I thought was my 'best buddy' that I knew and associated with for at least 15+ years in a row, turned out to be the FAKEST you could ever meet in your life. Back then, I took really good care of his father during his last remaining months prior to his death. He was overburdened with work and everything else going on in his life, so I thought I would just pitch in and help him out. I brought his father food, clothes, supplies, and looked after his daily needs, ect. Basically, all of the things a true friend might do if he knew your family was in need of help and support. After his father finally passed away, I even helped pay for his funeral. Then came the time when MY dad died, this two-faced sonofabitch totally kept away far from me and NEVER even said a single word of condolence, nor did he even give me as much as a phone call. Not even a single phone call! Everything just went QUIET. This was at least a year ago, and he still hasn't showed me that he ever cared! 🙄

[@Nola5427]

Awe i' m sorry 💔

[@deathswell]

Oh you again!

[@wardelliaenoch8936]

At first I thought they considered me as a sounding board...then I realized I was just a garbage can for them to dump all their negativity 😮

[@goodvibes2334]

Maintaining friendships is exhausting. Please help

[@cristopher7019]

U dont need to put effort for real froendships u only need to enjoy

[@adolcristin3526]

Friends should not exhaust you it lifts you up. This may be your scenario, your a narcissist who can't maintain your love bombing to your friends (love bombing is exhausting to a narcissist because its hard to maintain their mask) or you have narcissist friends that cause you those feelings by bringing negativity to your life.

[@Fogaata]

Very valuable video, extremely!

[@Angell_Lee]

As an empath, this resume any of my friendship with a narcissist. Now as the first red flag appear, I'm out.

[@askingwhyisfree7436]

Sometimes it's hard to admit your childhood friends are bad people. Think about this. What's your honest opinion about your friends when you're thinking deeply? I mean deep inside your heart. I searched mine and admitted that most of my friends are fake. Be sure to see your own faults too. It might be that the self is a problem too. Problem is when we judge the behavior of our friends when we ourselves are the problem that makes them behave that way. If the self is the problem, expect avoidance from your friends. Seek to solve relationship problems and point out the problems specifically. If a friend crossed a boundary, tell them immediately. If they won't admit or fix it, that's not your friend. If you don't trust your "friend" to be humble enough to fix the problems they caused, that's not a real friend. Real friends admit their faults and fix it. Everyone makes mistakes and mistakes are meant to be corrected. Be sure to apply the same measures you expect from others to yourself. That's the mindset of real friends. :)))

[@empressmeheather]

I Experienced just this had to cut cords..as much I was like people, but you get to know who's really there for you...who are really don't give too hoots about...be your own person.. I decided to improve my life not add drama to it....we are not in high schoo! Stop bringing drama take control of your life...if I want drama I go see it in the theator..I have life to live no time for fakeness..🤗

[@archiepatrick9259]

Friends family will back stab you if you're doing really good in life and you don't give them money it's always $ they will talk shit behind your back trust nobody stick by your self !😊

[@sikkew]

Prefect time to watch , I had doubt but now it's clear thank-you 👍

[@Cabe77773]

Everything u said in the video related to my past relationship that starter 6 hours ago🥳 seems I did the right... Nice video everything is real

[@MattGFC1977]

KICK GLORYHUNTERS OUT OF FOOTBALL

[@dodgedabullet670]

I have the fakest "friend" ever there was! So many of these apply to her. She is mean-spirited, a horrible gossip and backstabbing. Everything is about her; if you tell her about something troubling in your life or painful...she will immediately start talking about herself. I'm so sick of it! Her selfishness, her constant histrionics, her cutting remarks narcissism, nastiness, obvious jealousy ...just can't take anymore of her crap! Her constantly be exaggerated health complaints...yet, she has out lived so many people who I've known who never had any complaints regarding their health. Lies and purposefully seems to enjoy saying mean and hurtful things. I'm done! She can swim in her deception...such a drain. So much prefer someone with a kind spirit. People like her will suck the life right out of you, and laugh while they do it. I call that evil. I'm far from perfect, but her negative impact is impacting my growth to becoming a better human being...

[@thisisme3238]

Thanks for sharing " facts of life," with us Top Think!

[@HubertSanchez1995]

I had a friend a few months ago. Cutting him off was the best. I felt like a a big rock was off my shoulders. He doesn't drive always asking me for rides. Complain how crappy his family is. Compares his life to mine on social media wishing to be me kisses my a....s.....s..... nonstop to fulfill his agenda. Records me & my family to show his family how we behave and what we did with are lives. Ruins my plans for Christmas I have to pick him up & buy him presents money I shouldn't spent on him but because it was the hoilday I couldn't say no. After all I've done for him he hasn't matured doesn't take responsibility for his own life and points thr finger at me saying I'm the bad guy when he doesn't get what he wants glad I cut him off out of my life. And last thing I did was told him how much of a messed up person he was so hopefully that will sink into his head if it still has a brain.

[@epicmyth457]

I'm so excited for the first time im going to get Long term real friends and im gonna work hard to keep them.

[@makegeorgeorwellfictionaga9268]

Wow I have had a lot of bad friends, almost everything on this list, I have experienced

[@mercedescsthilaire4184]

I had a fake friend who I cut off quite recently and I feel 10x happier with her out of my life. It’s like a huge dead weight has been lifted off my shoulders. She would never reach out to me first unless it was for something she needed. I would always be the one who would reach out to her first and she put absolutely no enthusiasm or effort into the friendship. Now I have cut her off and have found new friends, she is trying to crawl back to me. She would always cancel plans last minute, often to spend time with other friends of hers, she bad mouthed me multiple times to others, even to some guys she barely even knew that well, and when she got into a relationship I was just tossed to the side completely. I put up with her crap because I (at the time) really cared about her deeply and didn’t want to loose her friendship as I relied on her quite a lot (at the time I didn’t have much friends),but, thankfully I have come to my senses and have realised that no one is worth investing my time and energy into when all they are is toxic and fake.

[@ms.maggie8491]

Not necessarily fake, but maybe just casual friends...

[@angelacasein7059]

I’ve been swamped with some of the worst friends alive and I’m still going. I think animals are better companions then these faux friends who are just waiting to dig their claws into you anyway they can. I’m not sure but I think it’s worse with women

[@gabriellebragg7097]

A lot of women nowadays are very catty and needlessly competitive with one another. Stupidity at it's finest.

[@hm_nn_5633]

Those who use TOXIC language at you is not acceptable. Also those who do not reciprocate your deeds in return.

[@malachiallenbarron8492]

Thanks for publishing this video, it was really helpful

[@pradiptamishra5061]

I have got every reasons to agree with all the points nicely described by you . Thanks

[@VegetaBlack]

Thanks For This Information GuySSs 🔥🖤👑

[@senseijoy2439]

Hi vegeta

[@VegetaBlack]

@@senseijoy2439 hi dude

[@senseijoy2439]

@@VegetaBlack wsg

[@man_made_marsupial]

Had some people who I thought had my best interest in mind but are always trying to make me look like a fool or take my ideas that i share and take it for their own benefit. No more

[@Kid_Charlemagne76]

Do no harm but take no shit. The moment you notice red flags of any kind with any person, trust your instincts and IMMEDIATELY dump them. Dont settle for anything less than the respect you deserve

[@indridcold8433]

All friends are fake friends. It just takes some less effort for them to show their true intent for you. Others will not show their true intent to you until a dire emergency presents itself. I learned this the hard way. The 21st century person is not capable of true friendship. They are either on their highest guard against becoming victimised again, or they are the ones looking for their next victim. Either way, both are extremely poor candidates to become a friend. This is why, as of the 8th of August 18:34, I have had no friends, nor acquaintances in my life. I do not need to be a victim to a fake friend again, nor a fake girlfriend again. I gave my honest support and love to them. My girlfriend of the time controlled them all and all of them took a lot from me. This will not happen again. I will not even allow for the smallest possibility of this happening again, even if it means I never have friends, nor a girlfriend, again.

[@Chuck_EL]

I actually had people try to argue with me that because they "posted their love for me Facebook" that meant they're friends smh I said and I will always " Friends don't need to brag on social media they would show you daily physically, they're telling on themselves doing that "

[@indridcold8433]

@@Chuck_EL Just refusing to become a member of any social media network, many, "friends," dropped me immediately. Some even said, "If you do not sign up for facebook, you can not be my friend any more." Then later, I had to delete the last remaining, "friends," from my life because they were just stealing from me. I never bothered replacing the friends that left me nor the friends I deleted from my life. The 21st century of what a friend happens to be, is worthless and cruel. I need none of that in my life. Thus, I need no friends.

[@masinajohnson4228]

That’s a lot of signs! To me spot the first sign and straight away keep away! Don’t wait for all 18 signs!

[@foolio4093]

I didn't realize I was a fake friend anyways I'm a try to listen to my actual friends thank you for helping me

[@rogerzimet]

What you are describing here as a "Friend", it's just a narcissist. Narcissists are not real friends cause they have no emotions nor feelings, not even know about being loyal.

[@matthewforte3570]

new york and long island is like this, i'd imagine so is florida and california among much of the u.s.

[@tacoswelding8411]

If you keep the mentality that everyone might be a “fake friend “ then you will come off as an as*hole, douche bag, narcissist and anything else in between. You will become paranoid with everyone and come off anti social or just not a people person. Not saying to be open and give everyone all your personal drama, but I disagree with everyone’s paranoid comments. That’s how you miss out on good actual friendships.

[@justrob4433]

Agreed.

[@iscreamloyalty887]

You right it’s not healthy to have that mindset but I will say you gotta be aware off peoples actions towards you

[@kevinmoore9524]

THANK YOU FOR THIS.

[@rolandburks]

TRUTH!!! Thank you...🙏

[@frankdelahue9761]

Passive aggressive behavior is biggest indicator.

[@shanterichardson9258]

And that’s why I have no friends. The only people around me are my children and my wife.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

Believe it--- That's much more than you need to sustain and fulfill your life---and your needs.

[@ernestgreen254]

Frenemies, this is soooo true sad, but true thanks 👍🏿 for sharing seriously 😳

[@slime_creeper439]

Yep at least some of these things is what I keep dealing with all the time in high school and college. I keep looking back at things that happened to me years ago to recently. And here I thought I'm not goid enough for certain people I thought they were friends with me. I'm always the one starting a conversation and it's only about "how's your day". "good". Then they end their conversation with me and they don't want to talk to me, not even include me with them. That's with feeling like an outsider. That's what's holding me back from trying to make plans because I'm afraid they will decline. The good news is that I know I'm being a good friend and real friends communicate and support each other. No sign of people wanting to communicate with me, then they are not my friends. I'm still learning and it's to the point where I'm finally seeing the real problem. Fake friends is what's hurting my social skills. The best part is that I'm becoming more confident when I keep learning.

[@Bob-wx1gc]

This is why I don't have friends and that's the truth 👍

[@dennismclaurin1487]

Fake friends are thriving in their evil, destructive 'get over 'subtle, manipulative underhanded sordid ways--- In this evil, adulterous, perverse generation I won't be surprised if we're in the last days (times of the light of the gospel of Jesus Christ going on in the world) before darkness (the power and authority of Satan through his heads and people) takes over completely in an overwhelming attempt to overthrow the government of God. Satan is called the accuser of the brethren (Rev.12:10) in the last days. The brethren being the outcasts of Israel (Ps.147:2)and the small, despised nobodies of the world (+1 Cor. 1:26-28). These are the remnant people who the little horn, spoken of in Dan.7 and Dan.8 (Satan) the accuser and deceiver will come up big with (against) >Dan.11:23 Fake friends are backstabbing Judases, like the song 'Backstabbers' (and 'Smiling faces ') sing about. Mat.24:-5,11,24 is happening now (Thanks to modern day technology means, and its continued advancement) (+1 Tim.4:1,2; 2 Tim.4:3,4; 2Pet.2:1-3) Acts 20:29,30 Rev.13:-8. Dan.11:32.

[@robrechtvanneste2046]

Trust nobody

[@johnmcphee1]

If you scratch beneath their veneer, they’re usually a narcissist.

[@Ifykykifydyd]

Idk if I’m the fake friend: I sometimes don’t talk to my friends as they leave me out and if I do anything to upset them or make them get mad at me it will make me overthink. I can’t be myself around them, like I used to be friendly-mean to people that’s my personality but around them I’m afraid of them hating me for being rude in a friend like way.

[@improvementspace9632]

The character of my best friend has changed since she moved to another state. We were friends for 20 years, but now we aren't speaking

[@christinekisuule7685]

That wasn’t “your best friend” after all; that was just a seasonal frenemy kind of friend with a pulse.

[@dennismclaurin1487]

@@christinekisuule7685 I'm afraid I know what you mean.

[@karuheine1152]

Tch. There are too many that I know of. Sometimes, they're barging to someone's life. Thx. Top think.

[@caniswolf3394]

So, what do you do if your "fake friend" is also your own Parent and/or family member ?? These are people who are supposed to "have your back" in everything, but will throw you under the bus in a second !!! What do you do then ??

[@luingalls]

Damn! My "bff" was a fake. I spent way too much of everything on her. Then she ghosted me. Ugh thank you for this.

[@judycrisenbery2982]

ALL of my so-called friends were not friends but were frenemies. Ive only had 2 true friends my whole life. I'm almost 71!!!

[@bzscck4496]

I have my human rights to know my case truth! I have been been persecution in the abuse enviorment , bullied me , provoactived me , tease me ,laugh me even beat slandared me .

[@jimdavis5849]

This is a great video. I wish I'd had this a long time ago.