20 Things I Wish I Knew Age 20

[@AmazingPhil]

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[@gabe2902]

hi philly

[@gremlinanger]

Hellloooooo phil

[@lexyskyler9156]

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[@mallarielove]

i can’t find where you disclosed this is an ad? can you please point it out?

[@HeisenbergFam]

"dont trust people who tell you other peoples secrets" is one of the greatest advices of all time

[@Kazemba]

It's the same as dating someone who has to cheat to be with you. "If they'll do it FOR you, they'll do it TO you."

[@saipat9118]

@@Kazembato add on if someone does something terrible to you they might do it again. I know ppl can change but all of my friends who’ve had shitty bfs they’ve always forgiven bad things because they thought they’d change eventually.

[@your_left_nipple]

You know, every time I hear advice online about people to stay away from, they always describe me. :/

[@MultiGameKid108]

Almost every single video I click on, even on completely unrelated topics, you're here.

[@JJamieGreyy]

​@@your_left_nipplemaybe thats a sign to work on yourself

[@creativethingsbyavani]

Phil is such a great storyteller. He is very unappreciated in that perspective

[@sharolet_dolly4630]

I agree 😊

[@markipliertrash1562]

He really is!!

[@emdove]

It's the English language degree shining for once ♥️😂

[@chelseyhussein7899]

Every time I see one of his story time videos I’m always impressed. I feel the need to take notes because I have a tendency to ramble or repeat myself while telling stories😅

[@LiterallyAllNamesAreTaken]

@@chelseyhussein7899 omg validating. me too 😭

[@damseydiou]

"don't take criticism from someone you wouldn't take advice from" would be the best lesson i've been told

[@MissesPeanutButter]

sorry to quote Rick and Morty but "Your boos mean nothing, I've seen what makes you cheer!" really did make my mind go whoooooow. Honestly, yeah

[@spencer8844]

as someone who is about to turn 18.. hearing abt virginity not being a big deal is weirdly comforting (especially coming from an actual adult)

[@endymionredacted1304]

As an 18 year old, honestly once you get to uni/college nobody could care less.

[@justme-et3sr]

​@@endymionredacted1304there might be an odd one out who is a bit of a prick and does care a lot about these things, but yes, for the most part people genuinely do not care once you enter adulthood

[@hattarapilvi]

coming from a 28 year old, virginity is a construct and all that matters is only doing things youre comfortable with. if you don't want to ever have sex, don't. the vast majority of people don't care.

[@An19941]

As a 27-year-old demiromantic demisexual who chose to be a virgin until I met someone I actually felt love for, both romantically and physically, and allowed us the time to get to know eachother slowly and built up more and more attraction Don't rush into it, give yourself time to explore and think about what you want and what your boundaries are in dating. Take your time and move at your own pace, no matter what any friends or others may have to say about it.

[@SilverHawk214]

Don't lose it just to lose it. Find someone you care about to make it a bonding experience, if you both go into it caring only about enjoying each other rather than trying to feel good it will be a lot less stressful and much better!

[@cheerlollypop202]

it’s amazing (pun intended) that you’ve been doing this amazingphil thing for this long and we’re still learning new phil lore all the time

[@callmek5]

IKR!!

[@markipliertrash1562]

TRUE

[@purpledanielle]

i know right!!! i love it

[@christinac4197]

😊😊

[@ohbilleh]

I love your frequent penchant for looking back, but a fun companion to this would be something like '40 things I want to do before I'm 40' - even if some of them are unrealistic or silly!

[@kikiandthebrain]

OMG that would be so good!!! pre 40 bucket list!

[@thepersonwiththepanels5351]

This is the BEST idea!

[@erinmeyers-t9w]

yes!!

[@ദ്ദി̀́-മ5മ]

i would love to see this too

[@audreydoyle5268]

This needs more algorithm bumping! We needs it, Phil!

[@lucadev985]

I felt the "speak to older relatives" note. One of my biggest regrets is not coming out as my true self to my grandfather before he passed. I managed to do so with my grandmother before she passed and she accepted me. It's one of my most cherished memories.

[@audreydoyle5268]

The one caveat is so long as you're independent and at a safe enough distance where they cannot physically or emotionally hurt you. Family doesn't mean immune from bigoted harm.

[@MirianRodrigues483]

The best advice: Don't compare the pace of your life with other people your age. It's totally normal to not have your own place, and be single and childless in your 20s, don't freak out lol.

[@audreydoyle5268]

Agreed. Being a late bloomer is nothing to be ashamed of. If anything, those who take their time have a greater quality of life.

[@sakurakushinada3694]

I agree!! This lesson especially has been a learning experience

[@HeosphorosSword]

Also, these things aren't required, and you shouldn't let yourself be pressured into these experiences just because they're "normal."

[@MaxRide1]

*at any age. It's not just your 20s (even if it was a reference to the video). you don't have to have children you don't have to date or get married you don't have to have your own place as long as you're happy.

[@justyourlocalrat_]

to my highschool self: it's okay to admit that you're lonely. it's okay to choose that loneliness over friends or partners that don't treat you well. you are allowed to do things alone, even if people judge you for that. your value is not defined by how many or what people like you

[@LeahReyna]

just turned 20, needed this right now

[@mopsik_]

same haha

[@FunGhoul2904]

I will be in February

[@nexusiren]

me too

[@shelblzz9584]

same

[@DayDream_Ow]

Me too, happy birthday!

[@spaceacekaitlin333]

“Stop being a yes person”. I turn 26 in three weeks and I’m still working on this. As a people pleasure, saying “No” is very difficult and I celebrate every time I say it.

[@beepboop3784]

Same tbh

[@RBee411]

To my younger self: Don't be friends with bad people even if the alternative is being alone for a while. They weren't your friends, don’t give them your time, loyalty or love. You deserve better and you will meet the right people one day ❤

[@soup_ghost]

agreed!!!! you should /want/ to hang out with your friends, not feel like you have to!!! and being alone is okay!

[@bts_trash2314]

As someone who is about to turn 21 and has no clue what they're doing, you've always been my greatest inspiration Phillip ❤ thank you for the advice on the 20s and for helping form me as a child

[@mo0nsong]

thank you for this, you and dan got me through some of the toughest times of my life when i was 13/14, and even though i’m not a consistent viewer anymore, it’s nice to know you’re still here for me now that i’m 20

[@rubieshinedling4975]

This made me tear up, so real

[@VijetaTantry]

Same, I come back here once in a while and it feels so comforting.

[@nesspyr]

was just about to comment this. solidarity ✊ we've come so far

[@aval00]

I'm 23 now, I wish I could tell my 13 year old self that there is no "right" or "wrong" way to gender. Wearing makeup doesn't make you a girl, what you wear doesn't make you a girl, it's how you feel on the inside, and you're not a lesser individual because you think you're performing your gender incorrectly. Life is so much more fun when you just decide to be yourself regardless of all that!

[@caitlin329]

Yeah, there's a lot of emphasis on categories and labels. Things like womanhood and manhood are so broad and subjective & people forget that.

[@zara.1212]

i’m 22 so i’m sure there’s a lot more to learn but i wish i could tell my younger self to stand up for themself more. i didn’t have to always do what the other person wanted and i should’ve expressed my feelings more. i also think i have the opposite experience where i should’ve let go of friendships instead of desperately holding on and putting in all the effort for nothing.

[@monimon4418]

it really sucks giving up friends. at 19 i had to give up a friend cuz she would ghost me on the day of plans that she had made. i also had a crush on her and realized that if shes cheating on her bf with no shame then what makes me think that she wouldnt do that to me. so i told her that i didnt want to make any more plans with her. it sucked cuz she was my only real life friend other than coworkers and my boyfriend

[@monimon4418]

(if we had dated i would have been poly, cheating can still happen in poly relationships)

[@riverstyx7251]

Younger me definitely should have stood up to my friends and family more. Being an asexual trans teen would have been much less suffocating if I had the gall to just do whatever I want and tell off people who try to come at me for being myself.

[@brandon3872]

I'm glad you've realised this, I was around the same age as you when I started to realise I am independent and I don't have to go along with everyone else, or do what people want me to do

[@audreydoyle5268]

Yes, absolutely stand up for yourself, however also pick your battles based on which are putting you up against idiots or narcs. You'll never win against either, so the best way to stand up for yourself then is walk away. And if you're up against a person of level rationale and genuine persona, lay down your pride and take their words in stride. They may just be right.

[@caya0105]

thank you phil for letting us learn from your past mistakes

[@mosesjoe3763]

​@DontReadMyProfilePicture.104 I like your banner...😄

[@chloepatrick12]

‘value friendships’ i lost all my friends cause i had to leave school due to illness but i found the most amazing internet friends because of you and dan i’m so much happier now than i was at school

[@zara.1212]

omg you’re talking about me hey bestie 😙🤍

[@chloepatrick12]

@@zara.1212 hi! maybe i am 🥰

[@mylifeismylaptop8529]

I love how the trope of the KZbin video style “things I wished I knew at age X” prepared me so much to expect that all of these things Phil was about to say were going to be super applicable to my life and then he says “take the job editing male pxrn”

[@sarty]

Thanks, Phil, for the Ace shout out!

[@podoke]

late 20's phil realizing he doesnt have to wear skinny jeans at home is me in highschool realizing i dont have to wear a bra at home

[@jessica23claire]

Just to continue this conversation, here's some things I wish I'd known in my (early) 20s! 1. You're not weird, you're autistic and ADHD. 2. The best way you'll heal is to wish your enemies well. 3. DON'T QUIT YOUR JOB IN THE PUBLIC SECTOR FOR RETAIL IT'LL BE THE WORST JOB EVER. 4. Just because someone says they like you, doesn't mean you have to agree. 5. You don't have to make choices based on how other people (including parents) will react. 6. Don't be ashamed of your fanfiction. 7. You don't always have to agree with your parents. 8. You're not a girl. 9. Not all orgasms feel the same. 10. If doctors don't listen to you, get a second opinion. And also Reddit will be your best friend. Your pain is valid. 11. Let yourself have silly little hobbies and indulge in childish delights. 12. Being an adult is the best, because the older you get, the less you give a fuck. 13. YOU HAVE TIME. Don't think you have to achieve everything RIGHT NOW. 14. Sometimes the universe will point you in the right direction and you'll have to trust it. 15. Don't get that matching tattoo with your so called best friend. They are no friend to you. 16. Learn the difference between love and attachment. Also you're aromantic. Surprise! 17. Learn to advocate for your needs. It's okay to need adjustments. 18. Never stop performing, never stop making art. 19. DON'T LEARN TO DRIVE A MANUAL YOU'RE SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR ANXIETY AND FAILURE. 20. The first step to learning to love yourself is learning to at least like yourself a little bit. Start small.

[@Charlie_Fuchs]

I love your list, so many of them could apply to me too, they are either things I've learnt about myself or am fighting to accept. Thank you for writing this out so clearly. I most of all agree with n°12, which is such a weird thing for me every year. I'd think "I'm the same age as that person was then!! How cool I can be more like them!" or just be happy I'm growing older. So yeah to growing up and learning new things about yourself :)

[@meowth3338]

As a person who is 20 and kind of lost sometimes, this was strangely comforting. I guess I would tell my younger self that it's okay to cut people out of your life if they aren't good for you.

[@lissaslunacy]

I 100% agree with the getting to know your grandparents as humans and not just the people that send you $5 on your birthday. Unfortunately I figured that out too late. I know virtually nothing about their younger years. I did talk to my grandpa when he was in hospice and asked how he and my grandma got together and oh my gosh I'm so glad I know their story! By that time all my other grandparents had passed away. My mom has also passed so now when I see my dad I basically interview him lol it's amazing the stuff you find out and it helps to understand some of their choices that otherwise I wouldn't.

[@evataki2226]

The old relatives advice just made my burst out in tears, bc i only have 1 grandparent left and i am so afraid of losing her. I'll plan an evening with my grandma asap.

[@wikilover66]

Your comment made me message my grandpa right away ❤️thank you

[@PriyaPans]

Write down the funny stories about relatives long gone so stories from your ancestry don't disappear

[@sarasbanjo]

phil saving us again with his fatherly advice

[@gi4734]

I turned 20 in the summer. I always thought at this point I’d be in uni making films but I’m actually a barista and a casual worker at a few theatres back stage. Life can be disappointing when it doesn’t go the way you want, especially when you want to work in a competitive industry. for anyone who’s life isn’t going as they planned, it’s okay. It doesn’t matter really as long as you are happy and keep going. Everything will be okay, you have time.

[@rafiabintaali8530]

As someone who's about to turn 20 in a couple of days, I'd been feeling quite apprehensive, almost like I was not prepared enough for this or smth. So watching this video is helping me with those complex emotions right now so thank you, Phil!

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

20 feels like a big step. It's like... you're not a teenager any more and you feel like you're expected to be, like, an actual adult. Coming from someone on the other side, though (20 and not far off 21), nothing changes. No one expects you to be any more of a grown-up. You're still young and figuring it out, and that's allowed.

[@wa11ie]

i had those same feelings last year when i was about to turn 20. it feels like a big step because now there’s a 2 at the beginning of your age but you won’t wake up in a couple of days having it all figured out or being a different person. as i‘m approaching 21, it definitely was a big year for me, not because of the number but because of what i learned, what i did in terms of pushing myself towards a better, less anxiety riddled version of me and so much more. i still don’t know what a tax is and how to do it, i still live with my parents. turning 20 is like turning any other age. the real changes come from your circumstances and your actions. you got this.

[@peryton5258]

Same here we’re entering our 20s together mines on the 16th

[@cruisematt8585]

Man the thing about the conversation with the older loved ones. I’m 42 and my grandmother is 95. She was mentally healthy and lived by herself until last December and everything went downhill so fast. So on top of many other things she also had Dementia and has to live in a nursing home. Throughout my life she has told me things about herself, but I know I didn’t pay as much attention as I should have. I was busy being selfish unfortunately. Now, even though she hasn’t passed away yet, it’s too late to sit down and ask her just random questions about her early years and life before me. There are many things I’d love to ask her and I wish I hadn’t wasted my opportunities and I desperately wish I had asked my grandfather stuff before he passed away.

[@febberz]

Love how one of these was like 'say yes to editing male pxrn' and another was 'don't say yes to everything', where do u draw ur lines Phil

[@kikiandthebrain]

what a delightful surprise phil! as someone who's in their early 30s now it's wild to look back and realize just how little i knew in my 20s (like you are truly still babie). big agree on the indian food!!! i wish i would have been more open about who i was as a person (not just sexuality wise but it was like i was hiding my entire personality??) and not have shut people out automatically out of of fear because the vast majority of the time people ARE good and kind and probably pretty cool! side note: realizing you were a part of the ENTIRETY of my 20s is wiiild like wow i found you when i was 18 and now look at us!!! we're like...proper grown ups phil afddsfsgsjk (kinda)

[@SkyeParkway]

Aw Phil, I started watching your videos when I was 12 and you were a huge source of comfort and guidance to me through my teenage years. I just turned 23, and I often feel like I don't know what I'm doing lol. This video was just what I needed, it's comforting to know I can still watch your videos after all these years and have a laugh while getting some much needed advice ❤

[@bibs23023]

As a 21 year old who always wanted to be older when I was a teenager, I’d tell my younger self (and anyone who is currently a young teenager) to cherish those years. You’re only young once, don’t grow up too fast. You have the rest of your life to be an adult, and only so few years as a child and you’ll never get those super important years back. Take your time with things and enjoy it. ❤️

[@audreydoyle5268]

I'd tell younger me "thank you for holding on,". I'd never want to relive those years. Who says you can't do childish stuff as an adult? I saw Frozen 2 in theatre, at 18 when it came out. I've watched the She-ra reboot nearly ten times. I still take home cool sticks. Still sleep with a teddy. I hop on the swings at the park, and sing Disney songs. And I still giggle as poop humour from time to time. Don't rush into having kids, because you really don't need them as an excuse to be a kid. It truly heals your inner child if you went through a rough time to just have fun like a kid. Trust, it will help you live longer.

[@alicenham]

I'm 22 and feel like my twenties have already been such a huge learning curve for me - I'm finally starting to get a sense of who I am as a person and feeling comfortable and confident with that. I know I've still got a longgg way to go so I really appreciate all the tips! It's good to know we're all figuring out life as we go

[@tulipallium]

VALUE FRIENDSHIPS IS SOOOO IMPORTANT!!! Most of my friends from grade school moved away, making me feel like I didn't spend enough time with them. Once I was in middle school, I was in a very bad place (mentally) and I pushed away people that were the only good people that I had around at the time. Even sometimes now, I feel like I don't appreciate my friends enough, which is why I'm trying to work harder on actually cherishing the time I have with them because I don't know how much time I have with them.

[@vertigatari]

always get so happy when y’all give us the asexual gang a shoutout; thanks for always including us!! ❤

[@theroyaljules39]

Asexual gang 🖤🩶🤍💜

[@purplesharpie7749]

hey ace besties!

[@sarty]

Hiya Aces!!

[@lumae8216]

Fellow ace phannies!!

[@kindauncool]

yal wanna be special for not having sex so bad and I do not understand it

[@OliviaGrace721]

This just inspired me to actually join the zoom support group meeting that I was seriously debating going to. But I went and it was amazing I finally talked to other people and saw their faces who also have tethered cord syndrome and it was amazing, I don’t feel like an alien anymore. So thank you lol

[@emmeline564]

I'm only turning 20 next year but this video is so comforting because I just love too know that alot of people stress about the same stuff so too know you're not alone experiencing these things is really comforting, so thanks Phil for this video ❤

[@_charlotte24]

this was all fun and games until you nearly made me cry at the end, thanks! i've just turned 28 and i feel like i'm only just now starting to open myself up to more opportunities and "try new things." i loved this video, it felt very honest and insightful and i'd love to see more content like this! thanks phiiilll!!!!!

[@Flareontoast]

Heyyyyo, just turned 28 crew!

[@kjroza1187]

I’ve only just started opening up and trying new things (and not being a yes man too) at 27 so we’re just about on the same page.

[@ByMiiee]

Had a really bad day today and Phil posting a new video just made everything better and this video specifically was probably very needed for me right now💕

[@steelheartii6525]

High five from someone else whose day was saved by this video - may things get better for all of us :)

[@fireafire]

Same here ❤ didn't fix everything but was definitely a bit helpful

[@markipliertrash1562]

Hope your day gets better ❤❤❤

[@ByMiiee]

@@markipliertrash1562 Thank you sm c:

[@ByMiiee]

@@steelheartii6525 Absolutely! :)

[@Thatfangirloverthere]

Little kid me is all emotional about Phil’s grey hairs 😅 We love you Phil! Thank you for so many years of content and support and fun

[@danielatj2000]

I'm a few years past 20 now, but I love looking back and seeing how much we've grown and learned throughout the years. And I appreciate you sharing this with us. Your videos always brighten my days and your stories have a way of being funny, vivid, and educational all at once.

[@ivannareyes1780]

I've been following you since I was a tiny tween doing tween stuff. I'm 23 now, and I still feel so happy every time you post a video. It's weird to say maybe, but you're one of my favorite people ever. Thank you for being here, Phil.

[@beepboop3784]

As an Indian-American, it warms my heart so much when people like Indian food ❤ it’s so diverse and varied based on region and I love when people outside of our culture like our food!

[@avamckinney6521]

I love Indian food!! I had it for lunch yesterday (im american)

[@beepboop3784]

@@avamckinney6521 ❤️

[@melitajay]

Indian food is S tier

[@ensommeille5315]

To piggyback off the exercise thing - if you have a joint disability and find most exercise to be off limits for you (hEDS gang), LEARN TO SWIM AND GO ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK. Of course this depends on accessibility; I'm in a part of the UK that has a lot of very cheap leisure centres as part of a scheme to get people exercising more, but it's so good for you and you get support from the water even as you're working against it. Obviously everyone should go at their own pace and do what is best for them but swimming is so peaceful to me lol I'm a big swimming stan now Also just wanted to say I really appreciate this video as a new "mature" uni student (mature meaning... 22) as I really don't feel very mature at all, the whole institution of adulthood is so terrifying and overwhelming (especially when you're neurodiverse, shoutout audhd gang you're doing so great) and it's really nice to see that everyone makes mistakes and has regrets and is kinda just... guessing their way through half the time cuz it's so easy to believe everyone else is doing everything easily and you're the only one struggling. Taking all this to heart, even the oddly specific ones hahahaha

[@natalijazivkovic8112]

Came here from Connor Franta's video on the same topic and i love how they explained it totally differently but they're still both very on point

[@sairuhbby]

I know what you mean about older relatives. I haven't had any grandparents left since 2017, and my Mom died this year. A family friend gave me the same sentiment at her wake.

[@WishGender]

I am 20 and 2 months today, so I’m very glad you decided to make this video :) I would tell younger me to get diagnosed with autism sooner because 17 was so late and middle school could’ve been so much easier

[@BlazeDupree1525]

The tax thing is so real. As a adult in the US Taxes are so confusing especially since no one bothered teaching me about them. My mom just told me to let a AI do them for me and i almost got into fraud trouble for accidentally putting something in wrong and now im really paranoid and stressed when my W-2 comes in 😭

[@stephaniepineda5946]

I definitely teared up at number one. Dan and Phil are the reason why I finally came out to my family, legit a month after their videos, I got the courage to say something, will be forever grateful ❤

[@wnchstr21]

number 2 really means a lot. my gran recently passed away and i miss her so much, but i’m so glad i got to have conversations with her about her life. i know so many random stories and just things about her when she was younger, and i really will cherish that forever.

[@lilydoesbeauty101]

PHIL ONE OF THE LEAVES ON THE PLANT BEHIND YOU MOVES BY ITSELF AT 9:37 I just came from your recent video this can't be a coincidence

[@dommosmd]

as a 22yo, i wish i saw this a few years earlier, could've avoided SO MANY awkward situations

[@brandon3872]

On the positive side think of every mistake you've made and awkward situation as a lesson. As long as you learned from them, you will never make those mistakes again 😊

[@QuinsTechCorner]

That was a nice classic amazingphil video. Fanks mate.

[@sophiisnothere]

you literally are the funniest KZbinr. 5 mins in and I was already cackling??!!!

[@bwayslimess4124]

#5 is so true. I treated my co worker like my best friend, telling him everything about my life and also when a shift went bad. Well he took that and twisted it to make me sound like I was chronically anxious 24/7 to my manager and nearly lost me my job. Thanks mate.... He has since apologised for betraying my trust but lesson bloody learnt ahahahhaha

[@EmmaCruises]

We all hid behind the fringe 😅🥰

[@halisha7717]

THIS IS EXACTLY WHAT I NEEDED THANK U PHIL

[@natalietherrien8033]

I would tell myself to get help sooner. Being suicidal and harming yourself is no way to live and its not normal. You'll be happy that you got help. =)

[@CoffeeQueen03]

As someone who recently literallyyy turned 20 and has been a Phil stan for years now, I feel incredibly special that you made this video lmao The stars have aligned

[@shoutallpanic]

I think if I could talk to myself from 10 years ago I'd tell that 17 year old that the first year of college will be really hard and dropping out seems like the best option, but you should really stick it out and focus on your studies!!

[@kailyncorey8267]

I just turned twenty yesterday and have looked up to Phil since elementary school, so I’m excited to watch this

[@kailyncorey8267]

My advice would be to not give all of your affection and geeelings to people just because they pay attention to you, especially if it comes without a real relationship or feelings. Don’t let people use you or string you along.

[@nat804]

something i’d tell 20 year old me from a year ago is: a guy won’t ask you to hang out one on one and not mean it as a date. a guy won’t message you on insta just to be friends. there are so many college dating nuances ur not privy to. just hang out with a girl. also try to go to parties

[@parismagentarose]

Loved this video Phil 💞 Without getting too sad, if I went back to myself 10 years ago (14 year old me) I’d tell her that our mum is the best person we’ve ever known and to spend as much time with her as you possibly can, there will be a time where you can’t call her with a silly question, so do it while you can x

[@LiterallyLeah]

college parties can be so fun ‼️ even as a queer antisocial girl, i was always able to find another group of queer people who didn’t know what they were doing there 😭

[@marshm3llow467]

What a video to be posted on my 20th birthday! Looking forward to watching :)

[@Haley_Halo]

Happy 20th Birthday! May it be a joyful one 🥳

[@memoriam.victoriam]

seeing that lion is still around made me so happy

[@gabxbee]

I’m about to turn 29 in a few months.. thank you for helping me get through 16 thru now. And I’m proud of all the things you have done and are doing. For advice for my past 18 year old self.. please don’t lose your fun bubbly self to what society wants you to be. Continue being happy with who you are. 💖

[@maddielc204]

I'm 29 so almost out of my 20's and I would tell my past self (and anyone else who's struggling with it) to not care so much about what other people think (and within that stop obsessing over your body and how you look). I spent a lot of time worried about my weight and how people would perceive me. I always put on a full face of makeup and nice outfit because I didn't want people to judge me for being fat, but you know what? No one cares, and if they do then you don't need them in your life. There are a lot more important things that I wished I focused on. Focus on your friendships, your family, your studies, your job, and just cultivating a sense of calm and joy in your life.

[@bettyharajuku2803]

Thank you Phil, I've been watching you since i was 14 and am turning 23 in a couple months(nearly 10 years wow), and honestly you and Dan have always given me such good advice and made me feel less alone. Thank you for being my friend, even though you don't know me, you have brought me so much comfort and joy over the past decade, so thank you from the bottom of my heart. (and thank you too Dan)

[@thepersonwiththepanels5351]

All of this is such great advice! I’m about to turn 25 (side note, holy BANANAS-) and definitely have internalized some of these lessons from my own life experiences, but I definitely learned and/or considered new things from this, and I always appreciate you so much! 💖

[@elizabethp.5088]

I’m 22, so hearing you talk about the things you wished you knew comforted me, especially since I’ve been going through a lot of self-doubt lately. Thanks for the video!

[@thechemicalseal776]

Just turned 20, so this is perfect for me!

[@815superwolf]

i never thought i'd cry watching this video but phil mentioning ace people was so important to me. thank you for thinking of us.

[@wjllqw]

Phil your bit about speaking to your grandparents really resonates with me. I had the exact same realisation a year ago when I turned 19 and realised I only have one grandparent with who I am able to spend time. and youre so right about how interesting it is to hear your older family members talk to you about what their 20s looked like, and what things youre able to relate to with their stories despite the social, generational and technological differences. It gave me a new found respect and adoration for my Grandfather which I regret not having sooner, and I'm sure you were the most lovely grandson for all of your grandparents

[@zopug1493]

I really appreciate Phil sharing all his wisdom it really feels nice, thank you

[@hufflepuffwannabe]

I love that story about your grandmother! I bet she loved telling you about her life and sharing herself with you! ❤

[@sarahframpton3831]

Turning 20 tomorrow, thank you for the advice! Started watching you and Dan around 13! ❤️

[@sd5696]

I concur to the speaking with your old relatives more. My grandma always had the best stories to tell and I loved learning more about her, so that she wasn't "just a grandma" but a great friend as well. Unfortunately, she passed away and I just wish I had more time to ask more questions and just listen. Talk to them while you can! :)

[@wickedlyoddella7391]

As someone who turns 20 in 2 weeks I loved watching this. Thanks for the advice! :)

[@justyourlocalrat_]

to my high school self: you are allowed to prioritize your wellbeing over school. decent grades (they don't even have to be good) can be useful, but they're not a measure of your identity and the world won't end if you fail some things or take a break in order to care for yourself

[@kohlinoor]

Great thoughts all around! As a 30-year-old, my main advice would be "there's a difference between liking someone for who they are and just being lonely- figure out what that is," because it would have REALLY saved me a lot of trauma and heartache if I had figured that out sooner. Assuming it was even possible, that is.

[@anishaoomerjee6420]

i had a friend pass away last year when we were 21 and as sad as it is, having to experience that is what made our friend group reunite and foster our friendship even more. since the pandemic we had become so busy with uni and work and our own separate lives. i think that you need to remember to make time to spend with your friends. you can have periods of disengagement but at least try and let them know you’re thinking about them. and if they can respect whatever is happening in ur life that means you haven’t spoken to them for a while then they are the good ones that you need to protect even more!

[@alexandraRatliff]

i love this video. very old school amazingphil vibes but with some older phil wisdom

[@JinxxIt00]

I'm only 22 so it hasn't been too long since 20, but, I wish I could tell my old self that my self worth was worth more than being in a toxic relationship for 3 years with my ex, and that even when I thought he was the best I'd ever have, in reality the best I'd end up having would be my current fiance who treats me exactly the way I should've been treated for those 3 years I was with my ex. I just want to tell my old self that it does get better, and to always make room for myself and not worry about making someone else happy when they don't even make you happy or treat you the way you want to be treated. I'll never get those years back but atleast I have the rest of my life to spend with my amazing fiance and I wouldn't have it any other way. I love that man to death and I'm so happy he puts up with me 😂💕

[@marchingkittens6282]

A phil video to make the day better :D

[@tikkakitty8802]

I have been watching you since i was 12 years old and oml I’m almost 20. University timeee

[@azzierulz]

I just turned 21 last month! Been watching you since I was 12 lol

[@ThePenguinCries]

I'm so glad phil's wearing that hoodie again, it really suits him.

[@weaverofbrokenthreads]

I'm still in my 20s but I would tell my past self that she is allowed to take up space and she will be loved even if she doesn't make herself fit in at any cost. Though I think I knew that in theory and just needed the time to start believing it so maybe telling myself won't do any good.

[@k.orberg6367]

1:30 thanks for the shout out! would have needed it a few years back since I still thought I had to like it if I just got used to it... but now I've accepted it!!

[@joop_moonchild]

I don't think I've hit play on a video so fast in my life. I'm dying "flop room!" Awesome video, Phil, and you're wearing my favourite top 🥰 We've all done a piggy back race while intoxicated. 😂 I'd tell my former self to learn how to swim. I still can't swim and now I'm terrified I'll drown in a puddle.

[@tylersaarosi5076]

This man is a mind reader I’ve been watching dnp vids all day and had two crises of what I’ll do in the future, this was much needed thank you:)

[@alloftheabove202]

So weird how so many of us are in our 20s now. Stay strong fellow old people 👍

[@chloepatrick12]

i’m turning 20 in 4 months but i would tell younger me not to worry too much life gets better slowly and there’s no point crying in bed every night over something that doesn’t affect us later on and i would give past me a big hug

[@kayacarmen]

oh god ive been a fan for like 7 years and im turning 20 in a few months ... terrified. how is this happening. lol but thanks to you & dan for being cool and making me laugh all these years :,)

[@lilycherry3310]

as someone who's been watching your videos for like almost a decade and is about to turn 21, i couldn't have appreciated this more

[@10thpinof]

as someone who is about to turn 20 next year and is terrified bc of it, I appreciate this video very much

[@erinturner9618]

YES PHIL! 🤩 I work in a nursing home and PLEASE, CALL YOUR GRANDPARENTS! Ask them questions! They have so much insight and interesting things to say. And they truly get so giddy and happy when their family calls/visits/sends mail. PLEASE!