Things I Wish I Knew In My 20's

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[@jerotoro2021]

The irony is, if you could go back and redo your 20s, and come all the way back to this point in your life, you'd have a completely different set of regrets and things you wish you'd done differently. We're ALWAYS going to have regrets, because none of us are perfect. Don't live your life in fear of making a mistake or doing something you'll regret later. It's alright to do things less than perfectly, or the do the wrong thing only to suffer consequences down the road... that's just a natural part of trying to do your best in a chaotic and unpredictable world. What matters is that you DO IT, you reach out and act on what you want, and never be immobilized by that fear of doing it wrong or not being capable enough to do it. Just do it.

[@arpita9238]

Jesus! Have you considered being a motivational speaker? You're really good at this. And you speak FACTS!

[@randomeggthatworksforthefb7172]

I think if I could go back in time there are a few things I would do differently and I would be happier now as a result.

[@bedouinmuhammadfromarabicpagan]

I still wish i had different regrets than i do in life that really messed Up my confidence and crushed me mentally, so really while your comment is really nice, it's not true

[@nikibronson133]

I’m tearing up thank you for this😭

[@MadESG]

**insert Shia LaBeouf just do it meme **

[@menna_khair0601]

Being 18 right now, I’m really happy he’s made this video. I’m so scared of how my life will look like. He actually teaches so much, not only about being happy and healthy, but also making life so much better. Thank you doctor Mike, you’re my inspiration ❤

[@jishanborno6411]

I turned 17 just yesterday but yeah, I agree with you.

[@doctornick17]

​@@jishanborno6411 Happy Birthday

[@menna_khair0601]

@@jishanborno6411happy birthday 🎉

[@shashankars3632]

I am 17 too. This video will help me a lot👍👍

[@sleepyote]

17-19 is tough, and it's really important to live in the persent like he said. Life isn't a race and it doesn't have a finish line, you don't have to have everything figured out by your 20s. Take time to enjoy the present, you have plenty of time and there is no need to rush things. ❤️

[@PaniPunia]

As a 37 years woman, if I had to give you one advice it would be - resist the peer pressure. You don't have to fit the mold. You don't have to marry, have kids, everything figured out by 25. I met my husband when I was 33, he's 2 years older than me, and we built our live together, because we were both ready for it. Also - giving up is good, it's not a failure, some things, relationships, activities etc. are just not working, and it's ok to drop it. "Fake it till you make it" is not always the best aproach. If it doesn't work walk away, you will thank yourself later. Make an effort, try, but don't force it.

[@chrisbean]

I needed this.🤗 thank you. I'm 35 now and there are so many things i haven't done yet and sometimes I'm afraid I'm running out of time.

[@trinitybruno5918]

i just turned 18 like 2 months ago. i really needed this ngl. im in my senior year of high school about to graduate and take my NOCTI for tech in Health Occupations. i really have no idea what im doing with my life and this advice will stick to me

[@helenmaghinay7304]

Thank you. I needed to hear this. I feel so behind in life. My career stalled, I'm deep in debt, and my friends are either happily married and/or with kids. I love my friends, but I feel like a failure sometimes when we hang out.

[@laurengrippaldi7424]

@@helenmaghinay7304 i feel the exact same way! 28, turning 29 next month and I am just getting my associates degree and am not working a 'career' job yet and am definitely not married yet lol I just feel so far behind in society

[@Diabellze]

thank very much you for this, i really needed this.

[@krystalmendez2994]

I'm currently in my 20s and completely agree with much of this. But some of them like maintaining friendships from high school/ college are sometimes tough when friends don't reciprocate the same energy as you in maintaining the friendship

[@Lunatheia]

Then at least you tried ;) sometimes it just doesn’t work out and that’s fine too. It hurts though I understand.

[@talene4625]

Friendships can go through busy seasons... like you're really close, then for a few years people are busy with building careers and/or families, then you come back to each other and re-connect. If you keep even a bit of contact through the years, you might end up with people who help you through caring for aging parents, your first hip replacement.. you know, "old people" stuff :)

[@krystalmendez2994]

@@talene4625 very true. I enjoy when communication is strong, though understand that is not always possible and am grateful to hear from others even if it's a couple times a year

[@NicDonyah]

That part

[@syedbegum6810]

That's so true but there's nothing we can do about it we just have to move on

[@Machinte]

As a 22 year old, I'm so glad Mike is educating me on this. I needed this video today. Thank you Mike

[@randomeggthatworksforthefb7172]

Same. It's hard figuring out how to do this whole life thing, and that's what your 20s seems to be all about.

[@WIImotionmasher]

please don't invest money though. You either lose thousands in the gamble, or make money off the backs of the exploited. There is no earned passive income.

[@phoneticfinatic2710]

@@WIImotionmasher it’s called a savings account, don’t do stocks unless you are doing mainstream stocks that are going to never fail in our lifetime (aka almost none)

[@turtlepenguinXkizuna]

it’s such good advice! i’m more or less the same age as Mike and a lot of it is like, yeeeeaaaahhhhh this is all stuff i could have done with considering/doing when I was younger too… i hope it really helps you!

[@Sssilentlaugh]

That’s Dr Mike to you

[@Agnarrdottir]

Turning 37 this year and I think my biggest thing that I wished I did/learned in my 20s is that there's not a lofty goal for everyone. Sometimes you just find a job that pays the bills and hobbies, and that's enough. There's too much pressure to be the next X, Y, or Z and it's not for everyone. Now that I've realized that there's nothing wrong with being a general laborer, I'm a lot happier in my day to day stuff. Don't feel pressured to find a career, sometimes it's not in the cards.

[@BombshElle_7]

Amen! I have NO INTEREST in being a rich celebrity entrepreneur. I am fulfilled with the life I've been blessed with.

[@jamielaw4749]

And the opposite is true for the underachievers, for those that always tell themselves they're not smart enough or don't deserve to dream big. What do you think?

[@misha_30307]

Thankyou

[@MarioDRaghi-gz5gr]

​@@jamielaw4749I can answer that. I am 28 this year, and I survived most years of my life. Yes, survived. I thought I was not good enough compared to my others peers, even more when I discovered a severe genetic illness. Looking back I now understand a lot of those people who made me believe that, and allowing myself to grow little by little, now I think I can dream bigger then most of them. Some of them are looking for a job now even if they started ahead of me, when I found a stable one. Like Doc said: pave your own path. If you are struck with doubt constantly, consider talking about it with a specialist, but don't ever ever let any idiot come to you and judge you by their idiotic and inferior parameters

[@Bella-wp7wz]

Thank you for saying this

[@ambreenali.]

As a literature student it made me really happy to see Dr. Mike suggesting people to listen to classics. Books teach you so much about life 🧡

[@itsnotthefishipromise]

I loooove reading, used to as a child but I’ve kind of fell off with it up n till recently… have you got any good recommendations?

[@amritkaurbal07]

What books would y reccomend?

[@ambreenali.]

​@@itsnotthefishipromiseI don't know what genre you'd prefer so I'll just list down some novellas you can try, they won't take much time and are very interesting in my opinion : Things Fall Apart - Chinua Achebe, Heart of Darkness - Joseph Conrad, Frankenstein - Marry Shelly, Chronicle of a Death Foretold - Gabriel Garcia Marquez

[@ambreenali.]

​@@amritkaurbal07what sort of genre do you read? The majority of books I read for coursework are deemed boring by so many people so I'm always hesitant with suggestions but I'm currently reading Gulliver's Travels (unabridged version) for my master's class and I love it, it's a great piece of satire. And for more suggestions check out my other comment, those novellas are something I know everyone(except people looking for romantic novels) would fall in love with

[@MinhNguyen-ts5ls]

@@amritkaurbal07 Crime and Punishment by Fyodor Dostoevsky, Letters to Milena by Franz Kafka, War and Peace By Leo Tolstoy, The Secret History (this one is a modern classic), and The Master and Margarita by Mikhail Bulgakov.

[@aliabdaal]

Incredible video ❤❤

[@anvithkakkera7196]

Ali the goat fr

[@OmerAsh]

It'd be cool if you had him on your podcast tbh.

[@Saber23]

Not really you shouldn’t date period, the only way towards sustainable relationships throughout society is marriage

[@partnermammoth2562]

@@Saber23 I agree but this is a bit random who are you replying to?

[@vrl9037]

I know you watched this at 1.75x speed 😂

[@viktoriavari]

I’m 22 and just lost my mom recently. My life and my future seems dark to me at the moment. I’m not sure what will come next but I try to stay positive. Thanks for making this video, it’s really inspiring!

[@molybd3num823]

​@@user-pc1bs3sj2z😑

[@maritvanderzee9852]

I'm so sorry for your loss😔

[@amiiredhead2676]

Sending hugs your way🦋

[@Mary-uj7rp]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. I never had anything this bad happen to me but there were some things that really hurt. The only thing that helped me was just to tell myself to hold on when I literally hated everything. Personally I learnt that some things we just have to try to survive. And then maybe we'll have a chance one day to feel again. I cannot imagine what it's like for you but please take care of yourself🙏

[@koyelnaskar3775]

I hope you have financial support. If not, I pray and believe you'll figure it out. Can't say I have been in your shoes, but still hang on. You're doing great 🤍

[@user-ul1fq7fv9i]

Thank you so much for this. I’m 22, and I fell ill with a mysterious illness almost 3 weeks ago. This video is another reminder that I should care for myself right now and do it every day. My body screams for me to exercise compassion for it, and I feel like that’s an important thing to understand while I’m in my early 20’s. Thank you so much Doctor Mike, so full of wisdom. I wish good family doctors like you were more accessible here in Russia.

[@radicalnomad1]

Fun fact: Doctor Mike's family immigrated from Russia when he was young 🙂

[@yummynutmeg]

Definitely listen to your body and take care of yourself. I also developed a mystery illness when I was 22 after I came down with mono from Epstein-Barr Virus. I pushed myself to recover, forced myself to remain active despite how I felt, and I did so much harm. I had to leave my job, abandon plans to apply to med school or PA school and move back in with my parents. I was eventually diagnosed with severe myalgic encephalomyelitis (ME/CFS) and over the years many other comorbid conditions. I’m now 37, disabled, still living with my parents, completely homebound aside from doctors appointments and essentially bedridden. I wonder where I would be now had I taken the time to rest and recover. Best wishes to you!!!

[@vanshshah23]

@@yummynutmeg not disabled, *differently abled*

[@meowgli]

​@@radicalnomad1 🙄😐

[@mariechaekyung3]

I was in my 20s when I got diagnosed with a chronic condition out of nowhere. Turned out to be genetic. The years following were a terrible up and down with really low lows and okay highs. The mental and physical drain it had and continues to have is difficult, but it gets better. I've been taking care of myself even better now and it is paying off. Health is wealth, as they say. You never know how important it is until you're holding on to it. I'm wishing you well. Remember your health is priority over everything else. Take that day of rest or heck, even a whole week. Be kind to your body, mind, and soul.

[@libby192]

as someone who just turned 20, I really enjoyed this. Thank you Dr. Mike!

[@ousamaarrouf5730]

Me too

[@hannahgonzalez]

I had no idea what I wanted to do after high school. I ended up becoming an RN because i come from a family of medical professionals and felt that was what I should do. Here I am 5 years later going back to school to pursue my passion for teaching. I always knew I wanted to be a teacher, but I let other people’s expectations, experiences and opinions sway me. I wish I could go back and tell myself to do what makes me happy as my career.

[@freakytostadacartoon]

I was going for a medical career but I backed off because I was doing it to fullfill my family expectations because of my grades. I am now in college hoping to become a teacher.

[@adiuzumaki8843]

Keep going you guys are doing great! God bless you 🎉

[@asmita2318]

I studied law. Now I'm thinking if I should do what I want to do. Study literature.

[@dietotaku]

my biggest regret from my 20s was knowing what i wanted to do but not how to make that happen. i relied too much on other adults telling me what to do, how to do it, when & where, and i ended up missing the boat entirely and now i'm too far behind and i have a degree in a field i wasn't initially interested in that i can't put to use because i didn't take it far enough. so when my daughter tells me she wants to be a programmer, we're already laying out the high school courses she needs to take, the college she needs to go to, the certifications she can get independent of a formal education that will get her foot in the door. i don't want her to waste time waiting for someone else to open the door for her like i did.

[@attibee2279]

That's what I'm dealing with right now as I'm entering my twenties. I literally can't afford to chase my dream and I'm already studying a difficult course that I have almost zero interest in. Where I reside doesn't make things any better...everything is so damn hard it's depressing.

[@dominickwest7558]

Be careful with that. If she changes her mind don’t enforce the programming thing onto her.

[@thigirlhockeygoalie]

Yes please be careful with that. Encourage her to explore all options. I showed interest in healthcare and I now I’m 30 years old and contemplating a different career.

[@neilikka]

I have the exactly same regret, though I was only in my late teens when the decision was made. My parents didn't want me to go to university at all and I didn't have any other adults to support my dream either. My current career is kind of okay and it pays well, but it just kills me a little to read on the news that my original dream career suffers from the lack of educated employees. It still would require me to relocate to the other side of the country for years of studies which is a lot harder to do when you're grown-up with memory issues and a mortgage. I hope things will work out for you daughter whether its programming or something else 😊

[@brookedillon838]

Same, same. I'd go back to school, but there is too much at stake if I do.

[@TheShazzer1996]

As a 26 year-old with crippling anxiety that overthinks everything and worries constantly about the future, this video helps😂 thank you Dr Mike, keep posting great content ❤️ love from the UK ❤️

[@paulaabella3889]

Same!

[@devbation]

Same here

[@TheShazzer1996]

@@paulaabella3889 Wishing you well❤️

[@TheShazzer1996]

@@devbation Wishing you well❤️

[@paulaabella3889]

@@TheShazzer1996 💓

[@vjc4502]

As a grandmother I can say that many of these points are spot on. Self worth, self confidence & self motivation can make for great companions.

[@littleblackcar]

I'm in my mid -40s and, yeah, all this. Learning to do stuff alone is SO important, and I want to add that you don't have to give up a lot of the fun stuff that you thought you were supposed to outgrow. You're allowed to go back and do it, no matter how "silly" or "childish" it is, once you're not scrambling to finish homework or find a job all the time. I sorta-dropped out of a hobby that I felt like I should have been over when I was in my later 20s, and realized later that that was totally unnecessary and there were zero reasons for me not to go back and not only do it, but do it better now that I was older and smarter. You can re-read your favorite YA novels or collect plastic horses or whatever it is that made life brighter when you were twelve.

[@shaeroberts1773]

You're Absolutely Right!😊

[@strawberrykatnz]

And what would your take be thus far for things you wish you'd done in your 30s as a 40 something?

[@juju67890]

As a 19 year old turning 20 this year, I can't help but feel like childhood is over. I've spend my past few months grieving the unlived past and scared of my future. Thanks to you I feel reminded that yes a few things end, but there are also new things I can focus on and experience. Thank you for your insight and as always helpful and kind words. 🙏🏻 ❤️ Aging is tuff but suncream and you make it worth the while. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜

[@Chic_Ken]

You're childhood is over...but that doesn't mean you can't be child-like, young at heart forever! Investing is great advice though lol.

[@Nat_uo]

Oh you’ll have just as much fun in your 20’s! I remember stressing when I was 19, but now some of my favorite fun memories are from my 20s. Make sure to balance responsibility and fun. Swinging to one extreme makes life not fun 😅

[@-SimonRiley]

bruh I am literally sixteen and feel like my childhood's over a long time ago

[@lanticocean]

Fellow 20 year old you are definitely not alone in feeling so, but yeah life always moves on, so here's to a beautiful one 🥂

[@rebekahmcneely5679]

That's so funny because I'm turning twenty in a week and a half and I feel the exact same way.

[@nikibronson133]

As a 23, soon to be 24 year old Zoomer in about a month, I really needed to hear this because I feel like I’m messing up my life and have already failed because I’m not “successful” yet and feel like I’m too old to pursue anything I want to pursue now. I am dreading turning 25 and can’t see myself past 30, even though I know the 30s are young too and in your 20s your life is only just getting started. Just feeling overwhelmed, scared and lost I guess. My main goal is to just be happy and enjoy the time I have with the ones I love/care about, but I guess that gets lost in the sauce of trying to start my life and feeling like I’m running out of time. I’ve realized everyone is winging life but it’s hard to show myself this same grace

[@saberserpent7983]

Same 🥲

[@trinaq]

Don't worry, you're still very young, and you still have plenty of things to learn, and time to grow.

[@omenapiiras]

Me at 20💀 thinking of dropping out of computer science and pursuing my dreams of being a nurse, yet i feel like a failure for switching now

[@nikibronson133]

@@omenapiiras heck no! I changed my major at 19 and I’m so much happier. BE A NURSE! We always need nurses and they make hella bank too if that’s any concern you may have.

[@thegoldenfleece5272]

Feel this completely. Exactly where I’m at 😅

[@erihebi]

The first 5 years of my 20s I spent worried and depressed about becoming older and how things have changed. Videos like these make me think each time that I need to take life slower and focus on the now more, but it's hard to remember that when life is coming at you with unpredictable things. It's easy to fall back into the same mindset thinking life will be better if a,b,c, and forgetting now is the time to make a change, even if it starts out small. Thank you Dr. Mike for the reminder!

[@crissymiller4951]

so true

[@MaineCoonMama18]

I went through a lot of trauma (SA) at 18-21 and toxic relationships throughout my 20s. I really wish I knew how to spot red flags and stand up for myself back then. If I could teach my past self 2 things, those would be it.

[@FreePigeon]

Don't give up your education for a relationship. You plan your life with someone and be with them for a decade, but if that relationship ever ends, you are left with nothing. I'm in my early 30s, having to start over when my relationship broke up. So I'm a decade behind where I should be, doing stuff I should've done in my early 20s. But also don't throw away a relationship for your education, it's hard to find someone who wants a productive relationship.

[@victoriacampana6827]

Agree with this 100%! When I started grad school, my ex and I were living across the country from one another. He had pressured me to drop out to attend a school near where he lived so we could be together. While it was tempting, I stuck to my guns and stayed in one of the best schools in the country for what I wanted to do and I couldn’t be happier with my decision. We had different views for the future! Also, I ended up meeting my soulmate while in grad school! 😂

[@canesugar911]

Relationships and education are not mutually important.

[@localcheese]

I love cheese.

[@philipsosnal]

I Iove you ❤

[@JustaSadPhrog]

I’d have to agree

[@ZucchiZ]

Love cheese too

[@dibulusdiggle4183]

I agree

[@k__moneyyy]

agreed

[@violetmarlo2978]

As a college student I’m constantly stressing about if I’m doing everything right so that my future is decent. I give myself so much anxiety from it, but this video really helps put things into perspective.😊

[@jamielaw4749]

You should check out Frank Jame's older videos for anxiety :) they helped me a lot

[@GamerGrrls]

I didn't start doing stuff alone until 4 years ago at age 40. Looking back at the opportunities I missed, I really wish I'd have done it sooner. Today, I travel alone, go to concerts alone, theme parks alone, movies alone. I love hanging with my husband and friends but I also LOVE the solo time and not having to worry about someone else having fun. I love doing what I want, when I want and how I want to do it.

[@denrylluna]

As someone who is about to approach 29 this year (last dance of the 20s), what Dr. Mike said were spot on! The "do stuff alone" is definitely one of the hardest but you must love yourself first and accept that things evolve i.e. friendship, careers, etc. And yes, please TRAVEL it will open up your mind to a whole new place and will help you be more independent. Additionally, learn from your past relationships and be accountable. One last thing if I can add to what Dr. Mike mentioned, don't worry about other peoples' opinions about you- do you! At the end of the day, you know yourself better than anyone and who really cares about you. All love!

[@theunitedstatesofgeorgia]

Turning 30 this year and I completely agree 100% with everything you've said. All lessons I've learned as well!

[@zephireyt]

Bro this little dipwad above me

[@pokechatter]

Hello, fellow ‘93.

[@MisterFakeGinger]

Same! I am looking forward to my 30s!

[@Sweetly_Signing669]

I’m 21 and I really appreciate this. Hearing that I’m making some of the same mistakes that you made really helps. Plus you’ve given advice on things I’m working on right now. Thank you!

[@antisocialbarbie1587]

Same

[@strawberrykatnz]

When I was in my late 20's I watched a TEDtalk called 'Things you must do before you turn 30', it revolutionised my life as a 27-year-old. It was the starting point for me changing my whole life for the better. I strongly recommend it while you're a 20 something!💪🏼🙂

[@user-vw1wo3ly3m]

#7 Spend more time with parents

[@shannonforsberg4118]

As a 24 year old I related to most of these things, and I'm really hopeful that there's time to turn some of it around. I can't go back in time to make friends in college, join college clubs to enrich my life, or eat less fast food and junk food in my teens and early 20s, but I can start managing my money better and eating healthier.

[@zuchilkhamsuren5027]

Exactly same thoughts. The only thing I'm struggling to manage is my personal finance. I think it's because I didn't have someone financially stable in my family or someone who talks about money... Good luck!

[@victoriacampana6827]

This is one of my favorite videos of yours! I’m 27 and can really identify with many of these points. I gave up the majority of my 20’s pursuing my Doctorate while most of my friends were getting married, buying houses, having kids, etc. I have been working on reminding myself that I am on my own path and to not compare my story with everyone else’s. It can definitely be difficult when seeing everyone’s “perfect lives” on social media.

[@Greentrees60]

I'm in a simmilar place and agree, the differences with peers are really difficult. But we're all learning along the way and our experiences will ultimately give us perspective

[@iammaxhailme]

Similarly I spent half my 20s in grad school pretending I didn't want more out of life than academics. Didn't realize I wanted more of a personal life until I was nearly 30 and at this point it feels like I"m so far behind!

[@lanticocean]

Social media especially Instagram is just a big advertisement, it is either Businesses and celebs promoting their products and people selling some fake ideas of their "role model" lives.

[@ar8172]

You don't have to have everything at 30 :) Don't stress yourself with getting married or having kids. I'm 29 now and also not having kids yet but pursuing my academic career. I really like it this way. Having kids at this point wouldn't make me happy, it would be too early. But also most of my friends don't have kids yet, so that's normal for me. I enjoy having that much time for myself, my boyfriend, my parents, my career, my friends, my hobbies, travel etc. You'll never have that much time and little responsibility again once you have kids. Also you should remember that no life is perfect. A friend of mine (she's 30) has finished med school and a 2 y/o child with her boyfriend. So you could think it would be a great life. But it isn't. She's extremely unhappy all the time since she got pregnant. She's just tired and sad all the time because her boyfriend is neglecting her, the toddler, the household. She's got no career and is thinking about how she can leave him now, because she's got no money of her own since she stopped working after she got pregnant. But it is hard for her to start working again because she hasn't worked for nearly 3 years now. So that's also a reminder for me, that I will never give up my career.

[@dmgrosas]

You are wise beyond your years! Your mom would be and is forever so proud of you. Thank you for giving of yourself.

[@astralTheRobloxian]

Who agrees we learn more from youtube than school and work?

[@Skiddlz11]

I'm halfway through my 20's. I'm definitely not regretting learning how to cook early, it is amazing. Another food related lesson is that the store-brand ingredients can be just as good as brand-name because you're presumably using them as ingredients of a more elaborate meal; this will save you a ton of money. Putting together a grocery budget and keeping track of food spending is absolutely recommended (Include eating out in the same budget!!). I wish I knew how to just be myself and not to change myself or my interests in an attempt to get someone to like you (romantically or even platonically) - it is not sustainable and you will be found out.

[@SirenLustrina]

This is a really good video !!! I am 34 years old right now and been single for 34 years ! I hate being single and seeing my elementary school classmates getting married and having babies scares me because I felt behind in life . Yet , I realized that I should appreciate the small thing in life and be present in the present and be happy and grateful for being single and I should focus on being more compassionate to myself and be the best person to myself .

[@spinninghead6688]

30+ here. Single by choice. Sometimes it's hard to say no to proposals, but then I always remember my heartbreak from 7 yrs ago. In the process, I have learned that I probably love myself more than anything else.

[@I.E.P.U.]

​@@ke4692omg that's literally my life!

[@oceaneo4603]

I never wanted that for myself, a family and all... So many responsabilities involved... 🤮 My mom raised me on her own and that was one of the precious life lesson I had. Like many, she believed a dad needed to be around, while I watched her doing her job just fine. This gave the confidence I could do anything on my own. And all her friends were single, they had fun and enjoyed life to their fullest, just like you're doing. I aslo believe if something is meant to happens, it will, at the right time.

[@Lunatheia]

Be kind to yourself. I know you have the right intentions and got the right advice but it sounds like you might beat yourself up if you can’t figure it out fast enough. It’s ok to take your time getting to know who you are and what you value in life and then to find someone who matches that vibe well.

[@SirenLustrina]

@@Lunatheia I totally agreed with you . Sometime it can be a blessing to get to know ourselves and use this whole life time just to have best relationship to ourselves .

[@marihancock]

“Be as prepared as you can be and then learn from the outcome.” That is such wisdom!

[@GenreEnglish-en8bl]

It’s funny how I’ve already experienced so much of this before even hitting my 20’s. I’ve learned how to be alone, how to cook, I love reading, I give encouragement and reward friends. Life flies by fast. It makes me wonder what more I have to learn later on.

[@briannacortez6172]

Thank you❤I needed this. I’m 22 and due to the pandemic and just being raised in such a overprotective way I actually struggle to get out of the house. I have a little brother with autism and I feel like I don’t want to leave my mother stuck because we don’t have the resources and I help take care of him. Im finally starting the process of getting a job and you’ve inspired me to reach back out to a few of my friends I’ve drifted away from. I plan to travel and live my life from now on🥰Love you Doctor Mike

[@dragonfaiyah]

Dr Mike you have NO idea how much i needed to hear this right now, at 26 when i feel like im going nowhere (and might be making not so great, but still reversible health decisions) I described it to my therapist and my close loved ones as feeling like im going through a second puberty only everything's harder and more crucial lol. I just want to make it in life, and be happy and healthy. I'm gonna do my best. I have bookmarked and saved this video. Thank you for this wisdom.

[@BetterCallSauS]

To my 20 year old self I would say many things. To live in the moment more and enjoy life. Stress less, relax, no rush etc. We will all get to the finish line of life eventually.

[@sociomatt_]

Thank you so much for this video! I’ve been feeling lost especially after graduating college these past couple months and really needed to hear this

[@littlemeg137]

As a 40-something, I strongly agree about maintaining friendships. It's much harder to make friends as an adult. Also, yeah, apply sunscreen early and often. And moisturize.

[@kymberleychristiansenrauber]

As someone who is almost 50, I have to say that is excellent advice, Doctor Mike. It's all about meaningful relationships and building each other up.

[@neildecker4036]

A lot of times when I tell people I'm studying to become a mental health counsellor, they tell me "oh, but you could become a psychologist and get paid more". I think most of the people that say that have never gone to therapy (even if they could really benefit from it). The people who have given me support are those that understand the struggles people go trough, and understand that we need compassionate people to help, and not do it simply because of the money.

[@Avamoneta]

Thank you Dr. Mike! I’m in my 30’s. Your selflessness and wise reflection of lessons in life helps many people build that connection and understanding. Thank you again for making a impactful difference in this lifetime Dr Mike!!!💙💙💙🙌

[@dylan_was_taken]

I'm 25 this year, and I'm still thankful you've uploaded this. It's a good insight to what I still need to learn and what I can pat myself on the back for! Keep up the good work, Doc!

[@Nytalite]

I turn 20 next week, and I had already figured some of these out. I’ve long struggled with maintaining friends because I lose interest. But in 9th grade, it was multiplied by a pretty nasty breakup. With this, my parents are often all I’ve got for in-person time (especially during summers). The one that says “don’t rush relationships” is the one I knew and truly agree with. I’m one of those people who would much rather have the right girlfriend for me, not just a girlfriend.

[@Wanda838s]

This video is the reason I discovered your channel and decided to subscribe. Your content has had a significant impact on my life, and I can't thank you enough for that, Dr. Mike!

[@randy7101]

unexpected but such high value content. just turned 22 this year and really appreciate everything you said. thank you for your perspective :)

[@MizzRychcik]

Dr Mike is so humble like he is a doctor and has such a huge audience but I love how he can recognize mistakes and share experiences and knowledge

[@carolinovalle6083]

I'm in my 20s and the last few years I've been struggling with some of the things you mentioned. It took me a lot to realize that I needed to change my perspective in order to enjoy the present. Thank you for sharing this.

[@calahshultis7091]

I always find such comfort in watching your videos even the silly ones. You explain situations with such poise and factual knowledge and I appreciate that about you and your channel. Keep being you 😊

[@Aubooboojoann]

Thank you for giving advice to yourself and others, as a 16 year old who is not only confused but struggling to figure out what path to go down in medicine, videos like these genuinely help. Thank you Dr. Mike! :)

[@grghostrider84]

Thank you so much!! Was a much needed video. I am in my 19's, and since I was suffering from depression in my 14-18's so I was going to a psychiatrist and therapist. I am glad that they made me do most of the things that you have mentioned in the video.

[@marinac444]

This is a great and helpful video! Thanks a lot Dr. Mike! I’m 19 and I relate to every single point in this video!!

[@cheeseswiss7253]

I so relate to the not sleeping enough! I wasn't happy in 21 and I would stay up late at night crying and stuff the whole summer and I was very sick and when I went back to school my memory and knowledge on things were so terrible because I didn't get enough sleep. I'm doing better now, but I still have trouble with it. don't hang on to the past and say, "I wish I did this, and I wish I didn't do that". the past is just a memory that pops up and it's good to look back on your past and improve from that, but we all need to move forward! thanks dr. Mike. much love

[@antjaysocial]

1:55 this is important! I had a friend i knew since age 3. For her 18th she kinda screwed me over and treated me a bit shitty. I had a panic attack and the next day when i told her she never messaged me back. It was a year later (last year 2022) when i found out she died in a car accident and i was invited to her funeral. Don't be petty. Or even if its valid and not petty, try your best to make amends because the guilt and grief i felt after her death is only just settling. I love my best friend, i just wished i had that last year with her too.

[@keterpatrol7527]

5:18 yeah that'll fill me with SO MUCH confidence next time I get an important surgery

[@kiva191]

Doctor Mike, every second of this video was insightful. I cannot thank yu enough for this video. I've seen a lot of videos giving advice to people in their 20s but this is such a refreshing take. You've kept it so real. I'm gonna take your advice and listen to more classics. I guess you could say that I'm already doing that considering the fact that I'm here listening to you.

[@laramierhodes4514]

As I have just entered my 20’s I’m glad to see this because everything I’m stressing about and worried about was put at ease over this

[@lauradcamelo221]

Thanks for the advice. I work as a music educator and have seen so many students struggling in their early twenties. This video summarizes efficiently those important aspects.

[@kristianavoutsinos9245]

I love how educational your videos are and how much I learn from them. You are such an inspiration to many and I think that's only going to grow. Keep up the great work! 👍😁

[@dr.tonichen4457]

It’s good to listen at my 20’s. Gonna pave my own path without the typical peer traditional way and focusing on bringing values to others. Thanks doctor Mike for the great advice! 👍🏻

[@tinasung3814]

Best video ever!! I am 57 and it is sooo true! Am sending to my kids and all family members in their 20s.

[@kyojurorengoku7479]

As a 20 year old who has 2 more years to complete my college this is the perfect timing for me to see this Video. Thank you so much Dr. Mike. I really appreciate your efforts to make this video and share your experience.

[@sarahmoellenberg]

I agree with all of the advice given in the first part of the video. My favorite part was the reflection on things that were and are done well. We should all surround ourselves with those who will champion us and help us succeed. I want to play the part about choosing a career based on passion and interest during all of our interviews. You say what we try to say much more fluidly.

[@anthropomorphisis]

Even as someone who has lost my biological parents and my adoptive father, I still have to remind myself that the people I love won't be around forever. Always a good reminder.

[@ipownnoobixtoobz]

So much, sooo much value in this video. These points can immensely change your life for the better. Grateful. Thank you.

[@annie-nr5df]

Man, you are such a breath of fresh air. I needed to hear these. Thank you, from a woman in her early 20s!

[@AmishaMohanlall]

As a 22 year old medical student, this video is just what I needed to see today! Thank you so much Dr Mike for always coming through. You're so inspiring to many around the world. Keep up the great work! Lots of love!

[@mahatmagandhi2434]

You look goofy as heck I hope you don't become a doctor

[@poohbeardrawz8043]

This was super helpful. As a teen, hearing someone older outline these things is so nice 👍 I want to go into the medical field and I get told all the time my relatives that I need to pick something that makes a lot of money and will make me “successful”. I’m glad you articulated so well how much more enjoyment and impact are so much more important than your paycheck.

[@asassynation9955]

I’ll tell you the same thing I tell my Niece who is now a Teacher but isn’t happy - comfort, happiness and a healthy mind and body is far more important than being so rich that you have no idea what to do with the money or don’t get time to enjoy the benefits of your wealth. There’s more to life than just work and it’s imperative to find a work/life balance. Some jobs will literally have you devote your whole life to them and it’s not ok.

[@malvinayong1264]

Now I'm in my late 20s, aka almost entering early 30s and just come across this video. I totally agree with what you shared... increasing self-value is so much important rather than focusing on earning more money as what makes you stand up compared to others is your values.

[@samaybhurat5186]

Mr Mike, you have no clue how much i needed to hear this today. This video validated everything i had doubts about. thank you so much for making this video. Love your videos btw

[@amruthagetta5971]

Just worried about my future and his words gave me a lot of confidence. Thank you Dr Mike. And who else noticed this handsome doctor's hair turning grey. Love the way he accepts himself and keeps everything natural.

[@SpeedyGarza]

As an individual turning 24 this year, this was very helpful. Thank you so much, Doctor Mike! I always appreciate your knowledge and experiences. 🙏🏼

[@lowkeylegendaryn8v844]

Totally agree with staying in touch with your friends. I had kids and moved, i have drifted from the people i care about, just being busy. Now its been so long it feels like we are way different people. Its sad, so stay in touch.

[@wowwoah8805]

one of best video that came up to my youtube page this morning, thank u for sharing!

[@TheAwesomeAnan]

5:40 The crazy thing is that I just came back from school after receiving a horrible result on a piece I played on my instrument after weeks of practice. This was just what I needed!

[@flurry3]

This is great! "If I only knew then what I know now!" Definitely resist the peer pressure. You grow as a person only when you love yourself. I have a niece graduating in the spring from med school and she too will be doing her residency in Family Medicine. So many people were telling her to go into Neurosurgery, Cardiology, OB,etc., to make the most $$ but she is passionate about Family Med and can't wait! And definitely wear the sunblock!!! I didn't when I was in my 20's and I did get skin cancer a few years back.

[@MisterFakeGinger]

I am 29, turning 30 in a couple months and this is was a great video. Half of your points I have been doing and half I have not. I want to fix that bad half into my 30's and I am looking forward to it!

[@EmpressOracleAesthetic]

Thank you for this video! I've been watching your content for a while but this video prompted me to subscribe. As a woman in her 40s, I found myself nodding in agreement with many of the things you cited here. Awesome content, Doc! :)

[@akiharu678]

Being a nursing major in a completely different country, I certainly realized a lot in this video. So far, I'm just focusing on my tests and how i'll go about it and I am afraid that I might lose the friends I have in my home country. I'd try to get out more and do something as I do think that family and friends (even those outside my field) are gonna come a long way for me. I'm only 18, I have my whole life ahead of me to do what I want that's gonna benefit me in the long run. Thanks for the video, Doctor Mike!

[@ellagracelle1871]

I’m jealous with these teens that have you as a role model, guiding them as they grow, keep it up Mike!

[@StKrane]

I appreciate the transparency. Thank you!

[@PlanetPup-]

it’s so funny doctor mike has been such a great role model for children and ADULTS! its truly amazing how much of a better person i’ve become FROM WATCHING HIS VIDEOS! I’ve learned, i’ve had fun, and now i wanna choose a job in the medical field! ❤

[@quickmed]

Great video Dr. Mike! To point #3, there's a great article called "Life is a Picture, but You Live in a Pixel" that's written on the Wait but Why blog. It's, by far, one of the best ways to understand this concept of why it's important to live in the moment and not delay happiness until some future moment. Happy reading everyone! And to all students out there, good luck studying :)

[@alexander_yoko]

As a 23 years old man, thank u, Dr. Mike! Love your videos!

[@xndrea_]

Thank you for sharing your inputs, Dr. Mike.❤

[@codybennett8247]

Excellent video, @DoctorMike !

[@anikaanika2699]

As someone who just turned 20,Im glad and grateful that I got your advices,insights and experiences to help me guide through life .THANK YOU SO MUCH DR.MIKE FOR EVERYTHING THAT YOU DO 💜💜

[@Emmiiillyyy]

I am 27 woman and these days it is harder to travel alone and I would love to do so, but there are risks. I want to at least travel around my state and explore more.

[@seppyq3672]

I am turning 40 this year and have been traveling solo since I was about 28. I've only been abroad twice, but I was with other people. But 95% of my trips around the US have been solo. You can do it!

[@lanticocean]

You should surely try to travel solo in your own country, it is better to have company in places abroad.

[@Emmiiillyyy]

@@seppyq3672 I genuinely would like to travel solo to different countries but as a woman alone traveling it is more dangerous and if I ever got the opportunity I would travel, but not this given time it is something i am not rushing to do

[@Emmiiillyyy]

@@lanticocean I am an introvert I like my alone time more than being around people if I am being honest.

[@bhavikjoshi099]

Thank you !!! @Doctor Mike for bringing the most out of me and many like others I'm in my mid 20s and I feel it all! You hit the right nerve when I need it the most! Pheeww!

[@DerOerdl]

Wow! That is so relatable, battling a lot of these issues right now! Thank you for your insight!

[@evilpompom]

During my late twenties I got a really bad depression and it took almost ten years for me to get my medication figured out and all that nonsense. Now, in my early fourties I would love to go back in time and tell myself to at least try to eat real food every day; not starve one day and then binge three bags of chips the next, and brush my teeth twice a day. Such small things that made a huge impact on my future. ❤️

[@l4g61ng6]

Hey Doctor Mike, this is totally unrelated to the video but I just wanted to share this here. I'm a senior in High School and I was just accepted to the NYIT BS/DO program and I'm super happy because I'll be able to become a doctor in seven years. You have also inspired me to become a Family Medicine Doctor.

[@lanticocean]

Congratulations!!

[@6hZCBpMy]

Love it, thanks for sharing!

[@Arwa_Abaray00]

This video is SOOOOO helpful. And I agree with Mike about the friendship one. Thank you SOOO much for making this video!! It is SOOO helpful. I am definitely sending this video link to friends. This video definitely deserves a big THUMBS UP!!!!👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@midnightvalkyrie]

I’m almost 30 and I have a lot of regret and still so much I feel that I need to figure out. Thank you for this video.

[@kassandravaldezcontreras8075]

His point about overthinking the future is so true. I was so depressed due to trauma at 15/16 so I kept telling myself at 18 I’ll move out and I’ll follow my plan go to college and become a veterinarian. A lot has changed since then and I’m only 22, I did move out right away but a lot what I expected I would complete didn’t happen but I need to learn to cut myself slack because I’m trying to do it alone & having moved out pretty far without knowing what comes with it. Take into account the hurdles you’re jumping and don’t be upset when things don’t go according to plan, just make sure to learn day by day ❤️

[@personalinjuryshow]

Awesome content and solid advice. Thanks for the video.

[@Arab2.00]

Humans make mistakes, and people try to fail you when you make a mistake. But the more that you make (I'm not saying keep making more mistakes) the more you will flourish. I used to hate making mistakes since my family was abusive but in high school I made alot of mistakes in my work, which made me understand more. Now I have one of the highest grades in class! Thanks for your ending at the end about how I can take you as my inspiration!