284. I'm scared without my EX! (The Love Chat)

I'm scared without my EX!
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In this video Rory (The Love Chat) discusses why it is completely normal to be scared of life after a breakup.
What does the dumper go through?: • 59. What does the dump...
What is my Ex thinking about during No Contact?: • 60. What is my ex thin...
Time is everything when winning your Ex back!: • 10. Time is everything...
Will I ever hear from my Ex again?: • 4. Will I ever hear fr...
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[@TheLoveChat]

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[@petaakolarov135]

Hi Rory! Even tho I'm at a point where I no longer want my ex back, I still enjoy your videos! Its been almost a year since she broke up with me after 4 years of being together. I'm currently dating a new girl that is more attractive and more fitting for my current lifestyle and also got a big promotion at my job, got back in shape and I'm thriving. My ex and I still talk sometimes and she tells me she misses me as she is dating someone else (far less attractive than me haha). Nevertheless, you guys should really take what Rory is preaching to heart. DO THE WORK GUYS! The biggest comeback from a breakup is success in all aspects of life. Don't lose hope guys! Even if you don't get your ex back, you will still be a better person at the end of the day!

[@TheLoveChat]

Congratulations on all your hard work!!

[@petaakolarov135]

@@TheLoveChat thank you Rory! I really hope people take your advice on personal work. I can't stress enough how important that is, regardless if the ex comes back or not

[@ellajames9946]

@@petaakolarov135 He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰

[@ellajames9946]

@@petaakolarov135 234 :8:0:8 :0 :4 :9 :4 :1 :4 :1

[@sandrae2319]

I found myself watching more and more of your videos about self respect and self love. Feels good. I am in contact with my ex (him initiating everything) and i do want him back but not like this. Either he will step up or we go separate ways. But self respect and self care is a must. Love you Rory x

[@suzieisamazing6815]

so what happened later ?

[@sandrae2319]

@@suzieisamazing6815 I walked away, he wasn’t worth it x

[@FreeTheJambon]

It's been 3 months exactly today and I still feel like day 1 at times. Corona wasn't making relationships easier but it sure does make break ups harder too, it's impossible to change one's mind for good cause we're all stuck here and there

[@gaoang3391]

same feeling , I also saw his new gf picture today , totally destroyed me

[@gaoang3391]

But still need to be strong

[@FreeTheJambon]

@@gaoang3391 We're all in this together, stay strong 💪

[@gamegirl8945]

I was broken up with during the pandemic so I understand completely. I became stressed during the pandemic and my partner left me because of it which really hurts

[@FreeTheJambon]

@@gamegirl8945 Well good news for you, 4 months later I barely care anymore lol, and so can you ✌️

[@abhinavkumar5876]

Too many first comments haha. Anyway, I just want to THANK YOU RORY for making a video on this brilliant topic. I think everyone should listen to this and hence I am going to share it with my friends. You're the best Rory❤️

[@loubnaaitbelkacem8650]

You have no idea how much your videos make a difference ❤️

[@xxmikansei]

its around 1,5 years i found ur channel bc of my last breakup, and now in my recent breakup i always looking ur video to remind myself about another NC and soothing stuff in my break down situation again.. thx for ur videos and ur yt channel existence rory

[@elvira4653]

I don’t feel like I’m scared of being rejected but I definitely have hard time of falling in love with someone permanently or liking someone ( feeling physically attracted) . I’m scared of not finding love again

[@MrEnvs]

Thanks for these videos Rory. My ex and I broke up around 2 months ago because of a bereavement in the family and it has been so difficult, especially given lockdown rules. Your videos have helped so much to heal and move forward. Not quite over it yet, but getting there!

[@realmboy9086]

This video landed so well. I don't want to dwell in the 'how to win my ex back' section and barely the self improvement one cause I'm pretty confident in my own abilities. However, the winter season has been rough, challenging, good in many ways too but I suppose I just needed a little reminder from you Rory so thank you for this! Let's get back on track once more!

[@MikeJackson690]

The timing... Been in a state about this the last few days. I was doing pretty well lately but the last couple of days have been really tough. January blues, maybe...

[@MikeJackson690]

Who am I kidding? I can't move on. I'm stuck and I'm in such a struggle about it.

[@sandrae2319]

@@MikeJackson690 Feeling is mutual. I hate this time of the year

[@MikeJackson690]

@@sandrae2319 Even worse when you're not only sad about being single but also still trying to get over a breakup. Are you either of those or both? Feel for you any which way.

[@sandrae2319]

@@MikeJackson690 I don’t mind being single, i was never the type to be unhappy single. I just hate the fact that the moment i finally opened up to someone had to lead me to a point when i cannot get over a person for a year, and made myself into the same exact situation i was in a year prior. (My story is definitely really complicated) But i feel you to the core. I feel so stuck and i don’t see the light any time soon

[@MikeJackson690]

@@sandrae2319 I'm very glad to hear that you don't mind being single, that's something I envy and a state I need to be in. However, I am sorry you're in pain. That's the risk of relationships: you invest so much, sometimes without realising, and if they don't work it's devastating, unless you didn't care or are a true Stoic. Here if you need, just drop a comment any time.

[@pjhasbeats]

Always what I need to hear, right when I need to hear it. I really love that Hotel vs. House metaphor. Thank you Rory, you’re much appreciated. 🍻

[@lifewithjennilee]

I’m not scared without my ex, but I do miss him and our relationship. I’m grateful for what we had…focusing on making the best of each day 💪🏼

[@bhurinutmattaraj7396]

Rory, you saying saying "schmoopy bear" in that handsome voice of yours. 2021 is already looking UP!

[@mannybermudez3416]

I’d love to see a video about what steps to take if you took your ex for granted. Your content is amazing. Keep up the great work!!!

[@Karim.711]

Another great message! But you big tease.... you left us with a cliff hanger 🤣🤣🤣

[@julissahago9103]

Fist comment ❤️ you’re the best Rory 💙💙

[@gladysagbu4263]

This is such a life saver. I'm crying so much. Thank you, Rory! All the best .

[@moozer951]

Hey guys so basically I’ve been following rorys advice for a couple months my ex reached out a couple weeks ago for some oblivious reason so we started talking a bit and then she said she wanted to call me and then ended the conversation with saying she didn’t wanna talk to me for another five months then two weeks after she texts me all these positive messages and then after that I told her I had to go and maybe we can talk another time then yet again she reaches out for some awkward reason bringing up memories in the past then asking to call again that night and openly admitting she’s been stalking my socials and then she started trying to talk to me everyday basically and idk what to think don’t know what’s the course of action here I came to the comments to search for some help information or just what any of you guys think personally I think I should give this more time cause I truly believe that I would give her another chance but idk I just wanted some other perspectives other then my own thanks!!

[@pierre-charlesleonhart1615]

More time. Let her chase now. She has to be willing to continue to WIN you back after fucking up like that.

[@moozer951]

@@pierre-charlesleonhart1615 thank you man I really appreciate that I needed someones advice 💙

[@kungfukenny1540]

@@moozer951 update

[@seandobbins6194]

“Shmoopy Bear was just a band-aid.” Sad but true. All we need is validation from ourselves and God, not our loved ones, not anyone.

[@pariyagh5231]

After my break up I have had some guys asking me out but suddenly I got scared and said no I’m not ready to date even though I was thinking about dating again! Idk what is the problem.

[@warrior_kris1744]

Rejection is what we need, it helps you grow rapidly....i asked girl i like today to go out with me....i got rejected....moving on with life 🔥 Guys, it hurts, but know that SHE didnt want you in hard times.......why would you want her in YOUR BEST?? Hope many of you read this...

[@anon_ya]

Hi Rory, I really enjoy your videos, content, and the calm of your voice. It would be super cool to hear your thoughts on ways we can cope and stay focused in our own lives in the midst of everything happening right now (pandemic, lost relationships/distance and isolation, balancing work, political discord/chaos, and self development ). Appreciate your balanced insights.

[@lukasmvp6964]

I broke up with my ex 2,5 months ago. It was our 2nd breakup, we were together for a year. Our situation is very tough, because we have a history between us, when i kinda abused her a couple of years ago. I don't even know the main reason why we broke up, she told me that we aren't similar, that she can't be with me because her heart doesn't allow her to be with me. I begged a little bit on the day of the breakup, but then i went straight to no contact. Watched almost every video of Yours, and started working on myself. She didn't remove me from social media, and kept watching my Snapchat stories etc. Later I removed her from snapchat and had her only on Facebook so she can see my growth. She started posting stories on facebook writing "Hmu" and etc. Also she started posting photos, which is unusual to her. On December 13th she talked to my friend basically telling that she is hurting because of that situation of abuse which happened long time ago and that she got rid of me to try to move on, because that situation is very uncomfortable to her. We really loved each other, and I still do, even to this day she is one of the first people to check my story, but even though I work on myself, I kinda want her back because I love her. I have a feeling that she still loves me, but she just cant be with me because of that unfortunate situation between us. Is there a chance to get her back?

[@palomaramirez2360]

Hi, Rory, big fan. I would like you to make a video on how to not let a break up change you negatively. Your vision of love and relationship, etc. Thank you.

[@iVokeGames]

Damn, I miss my "shmoopy bear" 😔

[@mxsharkgang3246]

Ugh. Rory you're a God send!

[@alysonwitt5794]

I was randomly dumped and when I asked for clarifications she got mad and cold. I miss her so much but she said such hurtful things. She basically said that she could never love me and never did. I love her. How I do move on from this?

[@alexandra-ru3ls]

Love your videos. A lot of wisdom

[@chasemybooty2817]

My ex of 5 years, broke up with me from out of nowhere a month after our anniversary and after talking to my family about our future kids. We barely ever fought and she only seemed on edge for a few month conveniently when a very negative friend also going through a divorce came onto the scene. Ive been in no contact for a little over 3 weeks and she's already reached out twice. Albeit using closure of bills or our pets as the excuses. What the hell is going on with her? She behaved like a couple still during the week before i moved out too and told me she loves me when i left.

[@thewaxandgreaseremover6182]

You did or were doing something to turn her off. Get Corey Wayne’s book, How to be a 3% man immediately. She still has a lot of feelings for you by what you said. If you want to salvage your relationship, go into no contact completely. DO NOT STAY CONTACTING HER OR SHE WILL NOT COME BACK TO YOU. Buy Corey Wayne’s book and read that thing 10-15 times. Then when she comes back, because based on what you are saying, she will. You will be a new and amazing man. Also, Corey Wayne’s book will help you see where you went wrong. He had a KZbin channel as well but you need to get his book to understand the fundamentals of what you did to turn her off.

[@sahkichang6085]

Shit so hard right now

[@akshats091]

Doing no contact again after breaking to say just a good bye it's been almost a month and I'm now I'm not gonna stuck in hope even though she won't come and i love her with all my heart but i wanna live and i wanna be alone on my own without anyone or to get attech that i almost felt like dying everyday i Handled the breakup so bad chased her begger her but not anymore she want the breakup i gave her now completely even though i die miss her but never gonna contact again

[@cordelogan1899]

Wow best video you have made that is saying alot love it thanks

[@bjfornash9976]

First comment go Rory

[@mibah1369]

After I hit dumped I didn’t beg but I told her I hated her (why I don’t), does this affect my chances of her coming back. Should I text her “I don’t hate you anymore but don’t text me back”

[@MegaLlello]

Rory my ex found out I had covid on Christmas eve but I told her I didn't want to know nothing about her of she not willing to see eachother n now she send me a friend request and ask how am I. What should I do I do miss her. I been 7 months since we broke up.

[@ellajames9946]

He was the one who helped me restored back my broken relationship of three years without stress nor delay 🥰

[@ellajames9946]

234 :8:0:8 :0 :4 :9 :4 :1 :4 :1

[@alimans326]

Hi rory, Can you please upload audio versions of your videos on an app called anghami? (would really help in the arab world) Also, thanks for the video💕

[@TheLoveChat]

I'll look into this and if it's all looking good i'll make it happen very soon inshallah!

[@eminek8526]

sure am..

[@TheLoveChat]

Keep your head up!!

[@ellem4music156]

Rory, I changed my number after the ex blocked my number. What are your thoughts on this?

[@Medehaneyalem27]

Hello!! Thanks!!❤😘

[@punpun2607]

Rory my ex slept with guys after we broke up and now she wants me back, it hurts so much

[@isaacs6159]

Hey Rory. I know you like to do lo-fi music in the background of your live chats.. I would be greatly honored if you were to put one of my tracks in the rotation (at your discretion of course). It's kindof lo-fi meets songwriter and I can send an instrumental version. Lemme know and I'll email you an mp3.

[@TheLoveChat]

Sure let's hear it! thelovechat@gmail

[@isaacs6159]

Rory, you got it buddy

[@yeuruuerueeheue]

i was doing fine but then we got back into contact and all of this fear is back, even though i know it has passed before and will again. it sucks that we dont get immune to it after the first time 😔