3 Reasons Men Cheat Emotionally | IG Q&A

[@adenikeg8759]

Overall message - A man cheating has no reflection of YOUR worth or value. It’s a reflection of his bad character...

[@j-tenn226]

Nor a reflection of your attractiveness either, ladies.

[@beefaye6861]

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[@christyfallinger8716]

Thank you

[@tinicoleofficial]

@@j-tenn226 this comment👏🏾

[@womenwhodate7643]

If he hesitates between you and some other person, just say please don't choose me and continue your life. Go out and be the best version of yourself - everything will fall into place at the right time ❤️🙌

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[@obsidian3510]

P-R-E-A-C-H TO THE LADIES IN THE FRONT WHO PRETENDING THEY AINT HEARD YA!!!!!!!!!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@j-tenn226]

I WORK AT A DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CENTER AND I WISH I COULD TELL THESE TO THE WOMEN RISKING THEIR MENTAL HEALTH OVER A MAN

[@angewinou780]

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[@TheHarmonyPill]

Some men just lack self control, regardless of how good of a woman you are or what you look like These videos make me appreciate being single lol

[@j-tenn226]

Absolutely 100% single! Even in my loneliest days, I am still grateful. No unwanted headache and my skin is clear!

[@beefaye6861]

Who u telln.....I just CAN'T 😵

[@beefaye6861]

@@j-tenn226 😂😂😂😂dead

[@KayciazWorld]

My ex did this with me. I found out he was cheating and I left. I'll never know if he was physically cheating but honestly if he was talking to other women behind my back, it's safe to assume he was no matter what he claims he didn't do. I left and haven't looked back. Do not allow a man to play with your heart. We're worth much, much more than that. God bless🌸🙏

[@j-tenn226]

Those situations are so stressful and not worth it at all. I am embarrassed that a lot of my 20s was reduced to spending time with men who saw no value in me. And I’m not in contact with ANY of them now!

[@missyadams3542]

TELL THE TRUTH AND SHAME THAT devil.... SCREAMING FACTS!!

[@fairy9749]

Good going!!

[@alyssadestany]

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[@momma_bear357]

I'm going thru this now 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@silentdreams2415]

"I don't excuse men, I explain men." ~ Mr, Tony Gaskins

[@elizabethhennessey6437]

Everyone is insecure sometime - that's no excuse for hurting someone who loves you.

[@AmericanDreamer]

exactly

[@millicentstollenwerck5239]

In relationships you can try to be everything to a man, if he want to do something he is going to do it. Most of these men have a good woman in their lives. As women we have to know the difference between working hard in a relationship and when you just competing.

[@beefaye6861]

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[@annagrace1159]

@Joyful n Blessed Can we just start our own neighborhood already?! 👑

[@arnelabih1845]

When your a MATCH there's nothing to work "hard" for everything comes mutually. If your not happy 😊 your heart mind at peace dismiss very simple do your thing date talk to more than one man until you end up with your match.

[@jackieramos2784]

@@beefaye6861 i is

[@overcomerbtboj]

I think it boils down to the fact that he may currently be in a committed relationship that has run its course or unsatisfying and may want out but not have the courage to end it- and yes if they are young they lack direction and are insecure - please guard your heart ladies from these types of situations it is painful to experience mixed signals - i learned the hard way - if he don’t want you or hesitates that’s not the one for you Edit: this is why we just need to stay away from people who are taken, unavailable, married or just not into us and keep it moving- it’s dangerous out here ⚠️❗️

[@teammyheart4jesus_miriamor272]

Some men cheat emotional just because they have a lustful demon on them they girlfriend or wife can be good to him and he would still cheat.

[@TonyGaskins]

That falls under #3.

[@beefaye6861]

Yes u so right.....I did everything in my marriage....he bragged how great of a wife I was....I thought we was so happy.....chile low n behold he was still creeping 😵....left that clown ✌.....he still beggn after 8 yrs....boy bye.....maybe u will appreciate the next one 😁

[@suzannes5888]

Yes - and you should RUN from that man.

[@beefaye6861]

@Joyful n Blessed IKR....that fool....he talkn he a different person....I say u will always b that same dude to me 😂

[@overcomerbtboj]

That lustful demon is for real 😳- be careful who you let touch you in any way- i had a guy casually touch me in a non sexual way (he was a trainer correcting my form) and it began some serious warfare for months! these spirits are real and it can be as simple as a tap on your shoulder ⚠️

[@sunshinegrace3293]

God bless you Tony! So many women think when a man's cheats it is directed related to her not giving enough. Sometimes a man will blame the woman, but it was his choice to cheat. Often it has nothing to do with the woman. A woman isn't responsible for healing a man's trauma, happiness or making him whole.. What you explained made perfect sense. Grateful!

[@godsanointed2341]

Exactly! When I confronted my cheating ex, he told me to my face that it had nothing to do with me! He was sorry I found out! Not sorry that he did it, sorry I found out.

[@tinicoleofficial]

Reminds me of how Adam blamed Eve…👀

[@AshLey-mp5xu]

Facts!!! My husband emotionally cheated on me because he wanted me to support him on being in the streets… When he wasn’t getting the words of affirmation he’s wanted he then said he wanted to be separate… Got with another woman months later who’s a reflection of who he wants to be…

[@annagrace1159]

Very good on you for setting him free

[@leticiajackson2237]

Yep that’s why they also resort to social media to get validation and attention to.

[@elizabethhennessey6437]

I watched what he said on his social media and it changed how I felt about him - he no longer seemed a man of honesty and good intent.

[@shayblaze4425]

Welp Tony, as always, you have schooled me once again … thanks for the info. I literally wondered for months why my kids dad cheated on me … after we broke up and time passed, we had a transparent conversation about the relationship and I asked him why he did it … he said “ I felt like I had to get you back for talking down to me and not caring about me” …I caught him twice cheating which means he probably cheated 20 times out of the two times I actually found out … Now, I am more conscious about my delivery as well as more conscious about the red flags of a insecure man …..

[@beebeeguest]

It’s so true! It’s called social conditioning. That’s why it’s good to learn these men’s family dynamic ladies.

[@fayewearing581]

Good Afternoon, Tony & subscribers. As you stated, lack of fulfillment and direction often begins at home. It could be lack of parenting or an absentee parent. For my generation (GenX) it was often both. That imo leads to not being taught communication skills. I've learned that communication is the key to most successful relationships.

[@silentdreams2415]

❤

[@khanoli7378]

Emotional cheating= female best friend but I have a girlfriend.

[@dionne141]

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[@LethalWeapon73]

Some were just best friend or friend before he got into a relationship.

[@lalyh.3231]

1. He is unfulfilled in his life/no sense of propose 2. He is insecure in himself 3. He is not IN love

[@mamamartin8191]

This definitely helped me understand why my ex cheated on me. He said he didn’t get the praise he needed from me. But of course that was after he told me I was tripping on the other woman she just a client and he was only using her was his excuse. But he driving to her apartment like twice a week for 6months before I caught them!

[@tinicoleofficial]

That’s a big no no on his end! A man in a relationship should NEVER feel comfortable with being in the car alone with a female that’s not his gf, wife, or relative

[@queenbbeaute2654]

Girl that's always there first excuse ! "I was using her " like gtfo

[@Michellemybell739]

@@tinicoleofficial THANK YOU!!!

[@Itsque28]

Yea he physically cheated too.

[@EdemAf]

My cousin is starting college in the United States for the first time! I sent her your channel because your content helped me and I wish I had this guidance at age 18 & going to college for the first time. Thanks for your service

[@annagrace1159]

Anyone else feels like they're receiving confirmations?🤔 This is 💯 Truth.

[@juliannatrure]

You absolutely nailed it with this video! Those are definitely the reasons I suspected I've been emotionally cheated on and or have heard other experiences apart from me as to why men do that in the first place. Truth is, my ex was such a pathological liar that I will never know if it was for one of these two top ones that you mentioned: 1. He was insecure 2. He was manipulatively trying to make me find out so that I would overcompensate. Which was absolutely crazy because I was already an extremely loving gf and would give him words of affirmation all the time. I guess I'm still in shock that people whom are THAT manipulative exist in this world, never fails to impress me the audacity emotional cheaters have... But ladies, just understand ONE thing: It has nothing to do with you!!

[@davaunahthompson751]

I understand what your saying... We all have different backgrounds and there's no man or woman that's alike. But I feel in my opinion that's a lot of excuses for these behaviors

[@Marci82]

He said in the beginning that he is not excusing the behavior, he is explaining it.

[@koetissasearcy4253]

Let's just pray for men around the world. To get our men back on the front line. So God can get the glory out of this.

[@RichInSpiritEternally]

Yes that's a great start. Prayer is powerful🙏

[@ashleymarcelino8329]

Amen ❤

[@camuyana]

I will add to this video, emotional maturity. In other words not ready for marriage because the individual is not ready to face what a marriage really is and entails, and still wants to be a parent-dependent individual. The woman will put out for some time, but the day will come when that final drop falls into the cup and it will overflow and the consequences will be felt by that emotional cheater. You don't want to take any chances. Stopping that behavior is your best and only choice.

[@overcomerbtboj]

Yesss! I know a guy in this situation right here and it going to end badly for both of them- he is not husband material and is not ready for marriage at all- but she’s so giddy over getting a ring and a wedding dress - smh

[@leticiajackson2237]

Well said!

[@mylyfe4382]

Oh man, if a guy wants to end a relationship with me, with no chance of resuscitation, dead, kaput, over, then all he has to do is try to make me jealous. No coming back from that. Guys, you gotta pick and choose who you do that to, may backfire on you.

[@j-tenn226]

Men love to go running back to the person who he hurt. If anyone can summarize the reasoning behind it under this comment, please do so.

[@mylyfe4382]

@@j-tenn226 Yes they do. Probably because they feel you're the only one who will never leave them no matter what they do. That's not love. But it's usually too late when they do come back though.

[@j-tenn226]

@@mylyfe4382 I’ve had that happen so many times. Do I look desperate?

[@mylyfe4382]

@@j-tenn226 nope

[@josephinebetts9468]

Tony u r absolutely right alot men is insecure 👍

[@yolandawright789]

This was good! We blame ourselves when it doesn’t work out when we know that person wasn’t for us, but we need to look deeper thanks Tony

[@jadew9177]

This is not even funny anymore. I swear every time you have a new video, the title coincides with my daily activities in some fashion. I’m now understanding divinity. Thanks for helping all of us

[@zh1408]

More And more with each of your videos you make me even happier with being single !

[@elizabethhennessey6437]

Amen!

[@louisianaqueen]

Thank you Tony and God bless you and your family 🥰your advice truly be helping me to stop being so hard on myself bc of someone else insecurities. Again thank you 😊

[@IAmTheQueen87]

Great video once again and I look back at certain things and it makes so much sense. Thanks for teaching us these valuable lessons!

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Your voice is healing.👍👍👍

[@qscott888]

Checking in Happy Wednesday to all.

[@sherrynelson365]

Exactly if you are not sure I’ll choose for you boy bye

[@CJEDI7TV]

Awesome breakdown! And I'm a VA Boy in IL now so I appreciate the accent.

[@user-zg7nf5yv1r]

He cheats because he has this program installed in him. He can’t overwrite it.

[@angieromartz5296]

So true, those first two were admitted by him. The reason he does it

[@fishstickbio594]

Manipulation tactics are done with a specific intent witch is …….exploitation …thx for your video. God bless you.

[@foz2071]

Brilliant videos. Time stamps would be great! 😊

[@mileyroe4877]

I really didn't know the first one. Now that you've explained, it honestly makes a lot of sense.

[@keaharvey4068]

Class is in session.

[@nicolegailliard6074]

Always amazed by your intelligence! Thank you for the information!

[@carohndz6059]

Thank you Tony!! God Bless you 🙏

[@DebtDemolisherTV]

Class in session 🙏🏾

[@toriyt2714]

Could these same explanations apply to why men indulge in drugs?

[@TonyGaskins]

I would guess, but I don’t have personal experience with drugs as a man so I can’t say for sure.

[@beefaye6861]

Wow....I always thought: Availability Egoism Immaturity But whatever your reason bye clown ✌

[@Clicka85]

Present extra early for this one ☝🏾

[@irlandaise5631]

ok thanks, so all good Im glad I did tell a man how handsome he was and he never told whether he felt the same. Like you said it is not the right person for me. So he is not in love with whoever he is, he is checking my site for years so it is emotionally cheating , crazy. I need to move on too but not easy, not many men around and available and you need a pass now, to be vaccinated to seat indoors.

[@mal1075]

Thank you for sharing, Tony!

[@msjackpotqueen2325]

This video is spot on

[@cynthiacampbell8181]

Amen l agree Mr. Gaskins

[@yazmynebright5892]

Men are so complicated and confusing. I caught my bf emotionally cheating you think your Insecure now I'm Insecure because idk what else you might be doing. He is VERY Insecure and the girl didn't even respond now what is he gonna be mad about it the rest of the year??? He sucks at communicating I lift him up I want affection I just don't know how to help him I feel like I can't help him anymore. I've been calling his name out to God because I know he loves me I just don't know what it is that he needs I think it's beyond what I can do. He suffers from depression and alcoholism as well.

[@niki-mars955]

I like the long videos

[@trose6908]

Great Video I sent this to my Boyfriend

[@lovingsamantha9443]

What are your thoughts on emotional cheating (emotional and intimate messages) mixed with sexting (explicate messages)? If person claims nothing happened, just messages between the two over the course of 2 years Is that even forgivable? Person claims nothing happened but it just seems like the ultimate deceit- for years and the types of messages make it worse. I know people who stay together after much worst but I just don’t know.

[@AmericanDreamer]

Hey, Samantha, how are you doing?? Happy New year to you?

[@LadieTasha]

Present 💜

[@vanessachambers697]

Be Blessed 😊

[@savagesfortruth]

True that tony my boyfriend cheated on me I found out him and her were together you helped me to move on 😊

[@NikkitaChante]

The next topic should be why women emotionally cheat

[@deborahscott6994]

I don't have cash app or chime.What address is there for my mentor financial contributions

[@sheshae4101]

13:30-13:40 Get ya mind right

[@ericawhitfield7876]

Right!! I tell men that I don't compete!! As Mr. Gaskins would say: "Point Blank Period!!"

[@sheshae4101]

@@ericawhitfield7876 it’s really no competing when some make it so easy for others.💅🏾

[@Anewme92142]

Yes 👍 tony SMH

[@davaunahthompson751]

So what if the man was getting all that? And was carrying on with those behaviors

[@suzannes5888]

LEAVE - he's not right and you can't change that.

[@j-tenn226]

He is beyond help and inexplicable and not worth trying to figure out.

[@jessitabonita]

Pray that God opens his eyes, softens his heart, and renews his mind to the TRUTH that will set him free of his wicked ways. Pray that he hungers and thirsts for righteousness more than he does for female validation and fleeting physical pleasure. Pray for God to help you forgive him without hardening your own heart, and remind yourself that forgiveness can happen when you go "no contact," since reconciliation with someone like that isn't a requirement. And remember that vengeance is the Lord's! 💛

[@j-tenn226]

Based on the title alone, I need to watch this because I have a married man ( in law enforcement, shocker) in my inbox. I don’t block him only as an experiment to see how far he’ll go because I just read it, I don’t entertain. I have several screenshots that I sent to my girl friends to laugh at his unsolicited flirting. Even if a man sees that you read his message, that alone is fuel.

[@lashondarochell7584]

Sis block him

[@ericawhitfield7876]

WOW. That's pitiful; I feel for his wife. If this were her, then he would most likely be ready to leave.

[@stacyb4250]

Why do you need to see how far he’ll go? He’ll obviously go as far as you allow him to. Just let him know you don’t condone cheating and block. And I’d only say that because hopefully it’ll make him reflect and he’ll feel like a dummy.

[@j-tenn226]

@@stacyb4250 so he’ll continue to message me for a year with no response? Looks desperate. And it’s for entertainment value and experimentation.

[@LethalWeapon73]

I just 🚫 one. Shut it down quickly.

[@TAMTAM510BAYLUV]

Ouch

[@lyfesaquarium]

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