3 Texts That Make Him Chase You (Matthew Hussey, Get The Guy)

[@rylee_l]

I need Matthew to be my best friend so I can send him screenshots and he can tell me wtf I need to say Edit: Damn 16-year-old me made some of y'all real mad. I did figure it out by the way, the boy I was talking to when I wrote this has been mine for nearly 5 years so you can **chill**

[@simikaur1399]

Rylee Langlois

[@mgtowarena9636]

Rylee... or you can just be yourself and say what you want.

[@staciegreen315]

john smith Unnecessary comment... I'm sure she didn't mean that literally.

[@Be1smaht]

You're old enough. Be confident dammit

[@macailab13]

SAME.

[@WeartheGoodSocks]

I had a man drive all the way from his home in Valencia to Madrid, Spain where I lived for our FIRST date. (A four hour drive.) It went so well that he repeatedly made the drive and even stayed with family in Madrid for extended periods so we could be together every day. All the while he was paying rent on a place in Valencia and finishing up his last semester of grad school there. Yeah, if he's into you, he will find a way to be with you. :) :) :)

[@azaleabroz6880]

So true

[@disneygirl8694]

someone drove three hours because I said I was afraid of driving farther than I’m used to (anxiety) and would go hiking, bowling, drive in theatres. Most guys won’t even ask for a real second date and just start suggesting Netflix...too bad I just wasn’t that into him

[@peppermintdior]

Yea last line is so true

[@Mj173100]

Slave Driver. It's cool that he would do that for you, it's not cool to brag about it with zero appreciation.

[@tsebosei1285]

Your preamble "had" what happened

[@DubCmusicTV]

Radical Honesty = be willing to lose "that person" to get the special person.

[@alaskalove8332]

DubCmusicTV, spot on!

[@outcast3121]

DubCmusicTV 😂😂😂

[@whattheydonttellyou1144]

DubCmusicTV one thing i learnt if u show too much attention n affection they just take u fr granted but when ure like pff idc I'm ready to lose u they be chasing u... I just don't get why things ain't just simple

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

chatter gas, exactly!! Luckily, I heard about the “principle of the least interested” many years ago and it has helped me tremendously with dating! It’s basically means that the person who shows the least interest has the most power!

[@kabirsalman151]

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[@claricerabaja4557]

When a guy doesn't contact me before a date "Are you dead? Do i need to send flowers?" 😂

[@roblongberger8332]

clarice rabaja that's a way better blisspoint!!!

[@Sakurafierylover]

Hahaha

[@betalean]

Ha ha lol I feel same way about a guy I am meant to go on a day date with tomorrow. I haven't heard from him since Thursday. Part of me wants to text are you ok, other part of me thinks he is just not that into you...

[@sairen5121]

I would probably text back, "how did you know? I prefer a pack of beer tho."

[@TheAussieDouche]

Why should he contact you? If he is a man he will stick to his word. If he has given you a time and place what more do you want?

[@poojamenon2648]

Another good thing about this is: Showing your standard will filter out the good guys from the bad guys. This will make the bad ones run away and the good ones run after you.

[@kateyaw16]

Pooja Menon yep

[@Charlotte8591]

True. Have had guys block me on tinder when I said I didn't feel comfortable meeting at someone's place on a first date. Some standards will chase the bad boys away.

[@Charlotte8591]

But some bad guys will hold on until they fuck you up later on.

[@sr0716]

Sooooo spot on, might be why I'm alone, my standards are way high now. Power the the " women

[@margaritam.9118]

I think if someone isn’t interested in you to begin with, no amount of mind games will make them chase you, good guy or not 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@alaskalove8332]

another piece of bliss through this advice is that it weeds out the guys that don't deserve further investment from me. their reply tells me more about their intentions and ability to meet my standards.

[@abbycat000]

alaska love EXACTLY! Those behaviors from a guy tell me that he's indecisive, lazy, perhaps not confident, not really into me. So I'd simply think, he's not what I'm looking for, and I'm not what he's looking for.

[@AlandArseneault]

I really wish more women -- and people generally -- took this position. I don't know which I find more personally frustrating: watching my friends compromise themselves or having to be sensitive in the dating pool (I.e. being patient because I know that my words have been said by dozens of other men and it is only consistently meeting a person's standard that can engender trust in my words).

[@MJKT95]

I love the last message. When you’re going out with a guy who doesn’t respect your time, this is the perfect message to send because it lets him know that if he wants a chance with you, he either needs to step up his approach or move on.

[@tulinhang6734]

If he's into you, he'll do all those things even before his woman think about it. The less he does, the little he's interested in you. Just, choose the man that does the most.

[@redfather5342]

So according to your logic men need to do everything while women do nothing am I in the ball park

[@owenkeller2748]

If he’s in it for only sex then he’ll do the most. He’ll do much less if he’s interested in a real relationship. Because he’s also trying to get to know you for who you are and if he does everything then there’s nothing of you in the relationship to discover.

[@neversayneverjc]

I always feel like if I say "no" they will lose interest. I have a hard time remembering no also gets you respect.

[@Volvo-f2y]

neversayneverjc Saying no unnecessarily ain't going to work.

[@May04bwu]

it's 50-50

[@amyrocks88ss]

true story

[@WeartheGoodSocks]

Most importantly, it gets you self respect.

[@emily2675]

Love this. Matthew you need to start giving advice to men!

[@catarina4380]

yes!!!!

[@britanny5363ify]

Emily that's how matt started off though- giving advice to men :-)

[@RoadtoOlympics]

Indeed! I have four of his very powerful speeches for men downloaded on my Ipod. I listen to them when I go for runs :) Him and Adam Lyons turned my life around in all social areas!

[@brettchen136]

Road to 2020 Olympics j

[@Spooky_Psyche]

I'm a guy but I'm gay so either way works for me lol

[@ruby4751]

Maybe this sounds conceited but I have too much self-love to do this lol. I'm not going to try and get a guy to chase me. I'll just find someone who is actually as excited to see me as I am to see him.

[@jennifers.1081]

Rubyrain 👍

[@musicvixen24]

Not sure how old you are.. but good luck. If anything these issues in this video are minor. No guy is perfect and this isn't about self love at least not to me. It's about breaking bad habits

[@MHSlypher1]

I think that's a bad attitude, self-love is great, and in an ideal world, you'll meet a man who's excited about you and has just as much self-love and you just live happily ever after, but that's not how things work, everyone has good and bad days and sometimes tactics like this are needed to ensure you don't let a potentially good guy for you slip away.

[@AudreyNataliaKosmar]

Rubyrain one day you will find that person! ☺

[@luckydudex3765]

Same here and I'm a guy. I don't want to chase anybody (which I used to do and it only shows that I care only). I want the other person to be excited too, not bored :)

[@dianieem]

I love this video. I grew up in an abusive environment, and even after years of work, I still struggle to find my bliss point between saying too little or being too aggressive. The work you're doing is very valuable, thank you.

[@guineapigtalks]

How has it gone after 4 years because same

[@kristikg7431]

Guys are not worth texting back if they don't keep up their end of the communication.

[@charlieocallaghan8679]

K G exactly. You should be happy and both sides need commitment

[@frostedblakes6504]

K G How's your love life sitting with that attitude? If you've settled down and are completely satisfied, then forgive me...but if not, you could at least hear what the man is trying to say. And hell, why not try it? You never win the lottery if you don't even buy a ticket...not saying every ticket is gonna win, but you won't know if you never try for yourself.

[@lastofthefamous2542]

Unfortunately being a gentleman seems to be frowned upon these days, being attentive and courteous is seen as a weakness

[@kabirsalman151]

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[@babybug6462]

@@frostedblakes6504 Are you a guy? Are you really gonna say that to her? She doesn't need to listen to your crap.

[@hopethornhill9737]

So my dad has just told me he's proud of me for at least watching self help videos. He approves your message.

[@literalnails2640]

"nut tella, pea nut buttah, kettal kohn" . 1:20 so adorable

[@nanaabenadarkowaah1800]

Girlllll👌🏿👌🏿

[@hopecarey5393]

Bliss Point of this video.

[@sparky35242]

The cutest

[@lanajade6654]

K E T T A L K O H N

[@aimeegt9129]

Haha aw, is that what us British people sound like to you, or just Matt?

[@alaskalove8332]

I LOVE the fact that there are guys here asking legit questions and offering their observations without being snarky! It's refreshing. it shows interest.

[@Kasiopi65]

Matt, I used the last text tonight on the first guy I’ve dated since my divorce 4 years ago (after a 27 year marriage). I asked him out first and since then, only three dates and I put out all of the effort. I was shocked that the “I have other things I’d like to do” got such a quick response! Almost immediately he triple texted me. Too bad you didn’t have a follow up on what to say next. Bought your book, I’m really going to put this into action. Thanks for helping me build a little confidence. 😉

[@ciulacandreea5593]

You are fabulous, lady! Keep being curious is the way to stay young and pretty like you?

[@lascaux4497]

*Having a standard is confidence *Knowing how to communicate them is competence Have a Bliss Point to communication: 1.The Date Deliberator As much as I love planning, I think it would be more fun if you decide 😉 2. The Homebody Jeeez are you always this lazy? It's your turn to come to me 😘 3. The Day of Disappearance Hey you, should I assume we're not on for tonight? I haven't heard from you and I have other things I'd like to do if not 😊

[@forestmusic7004]

I love the acting in this video. The women were fantastic.

[@SugarRose25]

Matthew, I love how you focus on women respecting themselves, and having standards.

[@absolutnadia]

I get so distracted by his face and accent 😍

[@4nypiu73meraa5]

omg me too!!!

[@yellababy]

Right .. intelligent and handsome

[@shroukibrahim8380]

Me toooooo i fell in love with him!

[@annatorres6647]

Me too!

[@Tanyapc11]

Lol, me too 😍❤️

[@deeprollingriver5820]

I’m in the early stages of dating a man. He left for Austria for work. After a week away I get this text: “How’s everything. Not much snow In Austria but more to come.” That’s it. I listened to Matthew. So I write back. “Everything is fine. Not much snow I LA and none to come” with a smiley icon.

[@ciulacandreea5593]

You know what to do 😅🤟❤️

[@kiwumara]

As someone who has been pretty lucky in love, thankfully, I find these tips to be very accurate. I had a very weird start to my 7 year relationship and I switched from clingy to collected. As soon as I focused on making myself happier and healthier, he texted me nonstop and made plans to see me. Falling back in love with yourself is how other people do, and unfortunately, that means you might also garner some unwanted attention, but keep those standards!

[@katarzynaromaniuk7049]

you're the Bliss Point of KZbin(;

[@kasrandadavis7269]

yes he is

[@kiterkatify]

This video is fundemental fantastic. "Having standards is confidence and knowing how to communicate them is competence" Pure gold ,rigth there .I don`t know about the rest of you, but my blisspoint seems everlasting when it comes to the ingenious Matthew Hussey. He has this gift of communication , which seems simple and sweet, but oh, so effective. I`m sure alot of the Hussey heart and mind philosophy, and communication skills , may carry on, or trancend, into relationships, not only with your special someone, but also in the general. Communication you have with others: throughout your day, week , year, life. Why would we not always strive , to be the best of who we can be. Inside and out. So thank you Matthew Hussey. You rock!

[@TheLooselois]

At the end of the day if guys don’t respond well or respect your standards then they’re not worth your time and efforts anyway, meaning they’re not right for you. I remind myself of this every time I send something like this to overcome my “what if this will make him disappear?!”

[@randigaracci7754]

I’ve sent these types of text messages, and they definitely work - unless he’s just a player - but then I knew he didn’t have anything to offer me and to move on. 😂

[@thepeacefulhappyandbountif2041]

So true. It all boils down to knowing your worth and if you've tried enough and he is bone dry then move on girl because he is not worthy of you. If a man loves you then he will put a great effort and go to great lenghts just to have you.

[@booboomagoo1305]

All these videos are about how women can ( insert topic) to get the guy. Meanwhile...whos educating the men on how to stop behaving like a pack of ball scratching, knuckle draggers?

[@calisthenicsx3547]

BooBoo Magoo RSD does this.

[@PresidentLin1]

The men would have to care enough to look for this information in order for someone to create those types of videos for men to watch.

[@Volvo-f2y]

🤣🤣

[@lebofkay5654]

🤔 I’m judging your stereotyping so hard right now... Do you believe that all men are that bad?

[@Sleepgarden]

and its these kinda comments that make men not text back :D

[@LauraRizzotto]

I love how Matt articulates these concepts. They are basic and so true but the way he describes them is what makes them relatable, clear and easy to absorb! So, great job, Matthew!! :) thanks for sharing.

[@KarJaneDavis]

Why does it have to be a game?

[@CNM2326]

I'm done with the dating games

[@kashishiyer7891]

Exactly my point.

[@danielbyun]

Karissa Davis tell that too MANY girls 😂

[@brandondaniels9471]

Because dating/courting is supposed to be fun, not some sort of business transaction or something too serious.

[@artsygirl89]

@@brandondaniels9471 None of that is fun, it's annoying and pretty pointless

[@rachelweinhold6304]

I love that I can Google a problem I’m having with a guy and get to the perfect Matthew Hussey video!

[@Rummage.rabbit]

Dear Matthew, I recently began watching your videos, and the advice you share has been very insightful and helpful to me. There have been a few times in the past few weeks where I had the opportunity to exercise putting forth my standards in a confident, competent, and kind manner. The reactions I received by the men I communicated with made it clearer to me that they are not the sort of people I wish to spend my time with because it seemed as though they really were looking for the fast food dating experience I didnt want any part of. For a long time, without knowing it, I was the overly sweet person who went along with whatever the person I was dating at the time, wished to do or asked of me. I couldnt understand why no matter how sweet I was or willing to go about things their way, I did not feel respected or valued. I was afraid if I voiced my boundaries or unwillingness to go about things their way, that they would abandon me. It really affected my self-esteem, and I felt like I didnt know who I was or why I was allowing others to dictate everything. It feels good to set boundaries now, in a blissful fashion, as you would put it. It can be hard sometimes, because it feels out of character for me to do. But I would rather be in the company of a high-value man who respects my boundaries because I am a high-value woman who would respect their boundaries as well. Please keep the vidoes coming, they really are helpful and funny! :) Thank you so much, Matthew! Sincerely, Sarrah

[@Steviemotomom]

WOW!!! Thank you! I have to say, I would have gotten 2/3 of these correct. I'm at the point where it feels I can't expect to find someone who has qualities I work hard for in myself: financially stable, fit, social and adventerous. Feels like I need to settle for overweight, sexually aggressive too soon, no communication....these IF I want him to actually have a job! Watching your videos helps me to realize other women are in the same boat but it makes me have hope....thank you

[@nayarapereira8749]

The way he says nutella is hotter than eating nutella. Jesus Christ, how are we able to make YOU chase

[@mgtowarena9636]

Indeed, Tinder is great.

[@ZeeniPat]

JUST TO LET YOU KNOW MATT, ive been following your videos for months now and honestly theyve taught me how to maintain my standards and still keep things interesting, i tell you ...it has only led the rught people my way and so beautifully ive let go of the people who couldnt keep up with my standards, truly as you said it creates attraction, but thats only for the best and im happy for it.

[@2011work2008]

Jeez... I will be single for the rest of my life..

[@reginarichard2654]

😂😂found it hilarious babes

[@user-lg3mq6rc5s]

Oof same

[@nargismohamed3518]

Well it's not important to be in a relationship...stay single for a year and then the next year you might get married instead of getting into a relationship

[@helloperson799]

Same

[@kelgreen99]

Me too!!!

[@EgleMakaraite]

I've used some of the messages you've shown us and found that a lot of times the guys don't wisen up and I lose touch with them, but it's just as useful because it helps filter out the wrong guys more quickly.

[@rebeccap2719]

Good to see these kind of videos again with practical advice (we seemed to have a change of pace for a while). I've seen some comments saying "if you call someone out it'll scare them off". Yes, that may be true. But do you want that kind of guy? The guy that rises to a playful challenge is the kind that women with standards want. It gives them the feeling of chasing you, which is attractive. They enjoy the chase. If he's scared off? Leave him. Move on to someone who will find the fun in a challenge. It also helps you set out your expectations from the beginning, rather than being disappointed by his behaviour over and over again, and him being clueless as to why you're not happy (because you didn't communicate your standards from the outset). And to be honest, this goes across both genders, it's not always necessarily gender specific. People sometimes are clueless. Or perhaps so many others have accepted less, that it seems ok to them. At least if we do our bit in communicating what we want, need and deserve, it goes some way to preventing misunderstanding and unhappiness.

[@Roshk79]

Having standards and communicating it assertively is the key to have mutual respect for both parties involved.

[@rahmakhan8983]

Can you and I just date and call it a day lol

[@brian102024]

don't you have a channel for men? I think that your way is very deep and respectful

[@GracyGrace]

the way people might read and interpret those messages might be different

[@musicvixen24]

Yeah.. especially the last one. I think you can make it your own, but it's better to speak your truth and be direct rather than bottle it up. I would see myself going to his part of time instead of asking WTF man. But the smileys help. The only one that seemed a little bitchy is the last one. I would put it nicer, but by 1PM.. a text needs to be sent and he should know that you have other things to do

[@kateyaw16]

If they take it in a bad way, meaning if they get upset that you're communicating your needs then they're trying to condition you to not have expectations.

[@kateyaw16]

Either way it's a good way to weed out the ones not willing to make it work and you can then prevent yourself from wasting your time.

[@nooreen90]

Hmmm... What do you do after he responds to the last one?

[@sanne433]

I sent the third text, it worked wonders! He instanly send me some messages and called me to set up the details for the date :)

[@amberfriedman5713]

Omg it's RYAN!!!! I know that guy 😄 He's got amazing skills on both sides of the camera! Great job guys 💋 "Communicating your standards and creating attraction are actually the same thing." -My new fav MH quote 💜

[@cristinarusso5476]

I appreciate your commitment to empower women and inspire them to be more confident using a non-violent communication instead than a passive-aggressive reaction (excellent marketing strategy) but I truly believe that in order to build a healthy long-term relationship based on shared values a mutual empathy is more important than trying to play with someone's mind to bring the best out of them. Men and women can be encouraging with each other without trying to control their free will using tricks because on a deeper level it shows that we don't trust them enough to meet our standards. One of the most romantic thing that my boyfriend told me is: "We are a great team." Keep up the good work Matthew, I look forward to seeing more when you will take it to the next level. P.S. A man or a woman is not just a date or a bridge towards our personal fulfilment. If we embrace our vulnerability and become aware of our journey then we will be able to welcome a relationship that is aligned to our spiritual growth.

[@ohlamaria697]

I realized that every time the guys I like start playing me with cold texting or the "I'm a busy guy" actitud I just stop giving them attention. I know how I want to be treated. I don't give warnings but if you do this all the time you won't be seeing much of me anymore.

[@beccalemons7489]

The less you care about what a guy thinks, the more he'll respect you just as I would admire a confident woman so be the type of woman you want to be and reinvent yourself but i call it improvement.

[@michikomanalang6733]

Matthew, you need to voice more women. 😂

[@dvnnixo273]

@@jimdim1010 Lmfaoo

[@jesseolivier6512]

Thank you this was very helpful. The problem is not the fact that you have standards but how to communicate them without scaring the other person away.

[@romaanmuslimah5287]

I no longer give a damn about a guy I just came here for Mathew he is such an amazing coach and Iam always happy and single

[@swansil]

It's always astounding to me how simple it all seems when you put it into words. Then, when I try use these examples in my mother tongue, something always go wrong... Hehe. Thanks Matt and Jameson for keeping up the good work!

[@DearSybersue]

Boundaries and self respect first ladies! Great video Matthew! ❤ I have used text number 3 a few times in the past and it definitely gets their attention, but...I personally think that if they are too busy to text you it doesn't set a good precedent for whats to come. Guys that show immediate interest and gentlemen qualities don't need to be helped along. They just get it!

[@hehebo1_]

0:28 the way she does the finger pointing is so cute and on cue, the synchronisation wow

[@MHSlypher1]

I think the 3 messages are okay, but could come off as a little bitchy, I think there's a way to communicate your standards whilst avoiding that. Scenario 1 - message is fine but I'd say overly sarcastic, kinda gives off bad vibes, something flirty like "surprise me" still implies you expect them to think of the date idea but its far less bitchy Scenario 2 - I like the second half of the message but the first half is kinda confrontational and seems like someone who's insulting you but trying to be playful to make you accept it. Simply shortening it to "Isn't it your turn to come to me *kissy face*" Still communicates standards but without the insult. Scenario 3 - I like this message for the most part, and the premise works, I just think the phrasing could be better: "Hey you, are we still on for tonight? Otherwise..." then insert an actual potential plan, rather than being vague which can come across like you're just pretending. Something like "My friends been pestering me to do X" works well. The trick here, and with all interactions where you hope to convey your standards, is to genuinely have something else you can be doing. Being a high-status, desirable woman who isn't just waiting around for a man to make her life interesting. This way the standards you're conveying are congruent with your life, and don't seem false or bitchy. The man will either be like... "oh shit.... better step up my game" or lose interest, in which case you've not settled for someone you didn't want to be with really anyway. This is the essence of confidence, being able to say, I'll be alright whichever way this goes because I'm good on my own. It forms relationships based on two awesome independent people coming together rather than co-dependancy.

[@bonnieirvin5793]

MHSlypher1 I agree with you. I think you should have made this video.

[@ezzatisaid]

I can't believe you found the messages bad. lol

[@MHSlypher1]

bustednebs I wouldn't say bad, I'd just say not ideal and I think there's room for improvement. In dating, especially early, little things like that can indicate a hell of a lot down the road in my experience.

[@ezzatisaid]

I know, but in my humble opinion I think those messages were already nice enough. I don't see why the sender regardless of gender has to improve their communication especially since it's the other party that is failing to rise to the occasion. It's so true though that it's kind of a pink flag. Honestly I think if a relationship has to reach that point where someone has to send such texts is a dealbreaker anyways. Thanks for replying and sharing your experience hahah :)

[@MHSlypher1]

bustednebs You're obviously entitled to your opinion, and perhaps those who agree with you won't listen to my advice. I'm just providing my stance and opinion, with alternatives based on that. I think everyone has bad days where they may fail to rise to the occasion, sure if it's a pattern stop communicating with them, but on the off occasion, I'd rather be equipped to effectively communicate my standards in a way that encourages attraction. Generally, I think we should all be striving to improve our communication skills in life, being effective in your communication is a big part of how you get what you want in all aspects of life. I also don't think that taking a stance of, well the other person should have to change is necessarily healthy, as, regardless of where the blame actually lies, pragmatically, bettering yourself gets you the results you want more of the time.

[@catche85]

I have been focusing on communicating boundaries all week and watching many of Matthews videos. I finally got to put it into practice tonight and it worked! There is always that FOMO you get when you know you have to communicate your boundary... I haven't been asked on a date in 9 months, and this guy asked 2 lines into the conversation to go out right then and there. I pushed back saying I had a phone call date with my best friend in another state, and he pushed back on me. I was careful to drop the right cues when pushing back myself. He tried again. I then said "if you don't want to keep chatting though and see me another time, I understand 😊". He said "of course I'm cool with that 🙂". I replied "great, I'll be sure to tell my friend I matched with a nice guy then 😉" and he said.... And I laughed and thought... Matthew would be so proud... "haha awesome! I'll tell mine that I matched with a good negotiator." 😅

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[@TheAttractionTriggers]

*Absence makes the heart grow fonder, but it sure makes the rest of you lonely. ~ Charles M. Schulz* 🥰

[@espositolne]

I'm not interested in a guy that I have to keep texting first or who make dates and cant remember me. I went out recently with someone who told me how excited he was about me and it was such a shocking breath of fresh air.

[@shaymundane1335]

3:21 the way he says “kissy faceeee” 😂

[@tanq_mchunu695]

So wish we could go back to the old days when there was no decoding, no first impressions, just being ursle and being loved for who u are

[@1stevecy]

I absolutely LOVED this video, along with the one called "This Gets Him Addicted to You Forever". My favorite videos are the ones about the bliss point. I hope you do more of these.

[@ciara98208]

Really loved this one. Thanks. Having standards does not make you witchy....

[@a.alexander9221]

I'm just going to be myself. I'm tired of scripts and pretending. It just makes dating harder

[@Roccaleta]

I guess I am really good at these relationship communications. But sometimes we all fell for that crazy person when we forget our manners and do stupid things. Thanks for the video.

[@datadrag1375]

The problem with having high standards in life is that... You end up feeling like the man you are looking for.... Does that make sense???

[@august21xp]

data drag exactly , it about balance cause too much of anything is a recipe for disaster !

[@paulababula9621]

Makes no sense

[@blueblaze9862]

U attract what u r

[@adrianedwards6607]

Matthew thank you, thank you!!!! I just sent the text message for scenario#3. Don't know what will happen, but at least he'll realize that my world will not come to a grinding halt if I don't see him. Matthew your the best!

[@torres_let9371]

Maaaan those advices are so good! And the best thing is that it's not only applied on dating but in life and relationships in general. Thanks Matthew 😘

[@sallybowles2781]

the ability to communicate your standards in the most attractive way (mind - blown)

[@jackhamm7745]

A problem with this is that these messages are texts without tone of voice or any body language so they can be interpreted as completely bitchy if you don't know the persons true intentions and you don't know the person well enough to know what they mean.

[@lastofthefamous2542]

Well said Sir , text messages lack intonation

[@TheMermaid63]

That's what the cute emogees are for at the end of each message. And if a guy still can't figure out what she means, that he can actually call her. What a concept!

[@raytiesings1]

This is the guy friend every woman needs in her life

[@Sareybeary]

Them: What to text him to chase you. Me: no.

[@TheWoodsyWonderer]

To be honest....This video is actually better than your 9texts.com guide. Loved the last text the best because every woman loathessss waiting around for a guy to text her the next day for date update text or call. Thank you Mathew! Xx

[@nosoynadaoriginal]

I've lost count of how many times I've been criticized and even insulted for having high standars

[@Efflorescentey]

I hear that and I read "I've lost count of how many fuck boys I've dated."

[@May04bwu]

A friend of mine wrote a list of requirements on her Tinder profile. She got more matches and dates than ever and I couldn't believe my eyes when I saw that.

[@ernyworm2128]

This is really interesting. Nicely done, Matthew.

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[@claudia.autenticidade]

I suppose it's all about being honest first with ourselves and consequently to others. There's no point to accept anything the guy is giving you like you are going to settle for less. Every woman deserve the best!

[@Nicole-tn2qc]

you are like the Cesar Millan for men

[@beardedmountain4893]

When you turn the camera off we all attack him? His tips are good in broad general sense, but good looking guys like him have never really had someone send such a bitchy message like that. 95% of guys would just block your number if you tried that.

[@IndigoBellyDance]

Nici k hahaha the guy whisperer

[@lastofthefamous2542]

If a guy isn't attentive and courteous should you bother sending him those texts anyway? he's obviously not worth it

[@meredithjoy2]

I like the first response, however...On the first 3 dates with my (now) husband, I drove an hour to him. He had very elaborate dates planned for us each time though. He was super bad about telling me the time/details the day before. I waited until 7:30 or 8 pm and finally asked him if we were still on for tomorrow or not. Then we discussed times. By date 4, he drove down to me and asked me to be his gf. The rest is history! I wanted to let him lead

[@emiliakova2056]

Scenario 1 in Russia: Guy: "What are we gonna do on the date?" Girl (bewilderly): "You are a man, you decide" LOL

[@alexar4891]

I used the third text and wow! He answered within seconds! 😂💪 matthew you’re a genius! Thanks!

[@tintorhd8331]

Even tho I am a boy, im able to get to know more info out of this videos what a girl wants, when dating, than out of dating tips for men.

[@WafflePunk47]

I just sent the third text 😥 oh my goodness it takes a lot of willpower to suggest to someone that you REALLY like that maybe tonight won't work out. I totally understand why it's necessary though. Thank you Matthew!

[@maritesmhayayson8743]

Thanks Matthew! This is great and I think it just boils down to being honest without losing kindness, possitivity, funness and respect. 🤓

[@kateyaw16]

I'm not afraid. If you're not communicating your needs then you're not weeding out the ones who aren't willing to give you what you need.

[@mitchparker7763]

Pretty interesting to see a dating coach more directed more towards women. In the future I would love to make content related to dating advice for women. Keep up the great content!

[@jessicaw9011]

After watching text #3, I had to get up, and give you a little standing ovation for that one. Just. . . *applauds* man that's good one. And then the cherry on top would be making back up plans, like there really is something else going on that's cool and you wanted to go check out, so then you're not just pretending to be cool and not sad, you really *are* cool and not sad.

[@floweroflove1994]

HOW DO YOU DO THIS WHEN THE GUY LIVES 3800 KILOMETERS AWAY FROM YOU? AND WE AREN'T EVEN DATING? AND WE DON'T EVEN KNOW IF WE ARE INTERESTED IN EACH OTHER OR NOT? AHH

[@rosiedosie]

I find myself looking for his videos almost every year for 8 years now. Cant seem to hold on to a nice gentleman i always end up having to think so hard what the heck did i do to make be in this spot again because as far as I'm concerned I'm always kind to them. Dating suckkkkkkks 😭

[@marinanunez6001]

This man make me drool lmao

[@samanthas6892]

These equal rejection for me. I've done these and the guy vanished.

[@MaryTheresa1986]

Samantha S Then they weren't the right guys for you.

[@devinewest9156]

Samantha S I've been through the same. Yo the point where I honestly don't feel all that interested in the whole dating scene, it does get frustrating.

[@alaskalove8332]

Samantha S, you dodged a bullet. better to shake them off early than be stuck with them for years.

[@SoleilMagica]

Good riddance if you ask me.

[@devinewest9156]

I definitely agree that you are weeding out the ones that aren't for you, that's one of the positive sides I usually look at that causes me to not think I'm doing anything wrong.

[@dontdomeboo81]

I have learned to communicate effectively. Over the past year listening to him

[@jvstkiki]

Matthew gets hotter every minute. 😍😍

[@soushimiketsukami4731]

Kiki White His beard made me giggle like an idiot, Gosh he's sexy with facial hair 😍😍😍😍😍

[@pprincess6190]

You too your really pretty

[@Serachb]

On behalf of women everywhere- Thank you Matthew

[@nekomitaina]

Hi, there! Advice on this topic is needed. What about those guys who text you friendly, asking question, the conversation is fun and flows freely and is not forced, but then they can suddenly disappear in a mid-conversation and return IN A WEEK or a month as if nothing happened, and it repeats more than once? I'm not asking how to make them more interested in me or smth, I just want some advice on how to call them out in a classy way, and show them it's not ok behaviour. And it's not just about guys, some friends or just random people do it too, so advice would me much appreciated!

[@kaleighmunsterman7691]

Alena Ch when they come back as if to carry on the conversation you can say something like "sorry, it's been so long since we've talked I'm confused by what you mean" "or playfully say something like "hey stranger/long time no talk; we'll have to do better to talk more often. I value consistency in any current/future relationship " make it known that you are worthy of a stable relationship whether it is romantic or platonic because no one really wants to be confused on when ppl will walk into/out of their lives at the drop of a dime. That plays into loyalty too... you want ppl who have your best interest at heart not someone who is going to use you for their pleasure or out of boredom.

[@pakyzabibi6991]

Alena Ch I have the same problem. An advice would be really useful for the kind of behavior.

[@nekomitaina]

Thank you for advice! The only thing, I do not want to look like I overreact or smth. Do not want to show that it hurts (and sometimes it really does). It bugs me the most when it is someone who was really interested in conversation in the beginning (or at least seemed so), and particularly when the person knows me in real life, and we are in good relationship. I do not understand what makes them to leave in the middle of the conversation, especially when they just asked me a bunch of questions, apparently eager to talk. When I am in a conversation with a friend or someone I like, I feel it natural to write back as soon as I see the message on the screen, and not wait until tomorrow or the next week. When they do this, I feel like they deliberately want to show me that our conversation does not really matter.

[@Chizuruchibi]

+Alena Ch I think Kaleigh Munsterman's messages are great to send, especially the first one. And you know, he may or may not interpret your message however he pleases, but personally I think you shouldn't have to worry about that. Does he worry that he comes off as a flaky, unreliable guy when he disappears? Why should you worry about sounding too angry? (and the message is perfectly civil, so it shouldn't be taken like that, really). Also worth wondering if it's even worth entertaining thought about such a guy. Maybe you could watch the video where Matt talks about a toxic guy, the "MPI" (minimum possible investment) guy.

[@amelelk619]

You should take the phone and CALL, maybe the person doesn't like to spend minutes to respond when it's easier and faster to tell it with a call directly. Personnaly I don't like the phone, I text to have a quick answer and I call when it's to long to have it in a message. A relationship is built in face to face and not with a phone between the two person. I think you don't have to take it personnally

[@VivianDohlen]

I only watch these videos because I find him so gorgeous and smart! The new things I learn are just a bonus :D

[@nanisaladdin9706]

You always have something really great and helpful that helps me know how to act around guys and when i am in a relationship so thanks a lot 😍🙏 Your number 1 fan in Egypt 🇪🇬 ❤️

[@chantelbrown7501]

I'm already a women with many standards and lots of confidence but I never knew that my standards were attractive! But it makes sense now because I'm talking to this guy and I always get scared to tell him my morals but he said he found my standards "HOT"😍

[@TifasaurusRex]

Always a great video from my favorite guy!! 😎

[@melissaszarka7815]

Hi Matt, love those clever texts. Having standards is confident and forces others to respect you. Being competent in our expression of such standards is real power!

[@saradaydream3212]

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