3 Things: Decenter Men, Daughter with a narc mom, Reasons to Date an Unemployed "King"

[@1108-g1q]

You know something wild? My ex husband of decades was always "between jobs" but somehow never had time for me or his children. My husband now owns his own business and just crossed the $400k earner mark. I arrived home to a delicious dinner he made that we enjoyed together.

[@HHCF713]

Congrats to you both! Glad you have a great husband! 😊

[@noblemishnowrinkle524]

I’m so glad you left your ex.

[@cotus2]

Congrats! You give me hope

[@rumooooni]

Goals

[@CrimsonNemesis]

I know a guy who had time to respond to 3 different women's texts throughout the day AND hold down a job. Men have as much time on their hands as we do, they just chose to be lazy, lol

[@dorkygirlsurvivalist3482]

That mother is the kind to kill her when she realizes she isn’t going to get what she wants from her. She will take her life now that she is old and won’t pay for it long. So dangerous.

[@kgs2280]

My mother threatened to unalive me when I was 21. I hotfooted out of the state real fast and learned quickly how to take care of myself, without her input.

[@loralove6290]

I removed males from my social circle when I realized they would ALWAYS pick a guys perspective over mine. They are always on code and loyal to one another, but would try to emotionally dump on me or get me to do their work. One coworker called me recently and I didn't even bother to answer. He always wants to call and vent about his wife (who is a severely insecure pickme).

[@dfya3294]

I noticed that majority of guys would stick to code & stand behind other guys no matter what happened a long time ago which is why I don't even waste my time. If it doesn't serve or benefit me I simply say no & carry on & don't even bother to explain why. I recommend ladies to stand firm on your "no's" if it doesn't benefit you & don't bother explaining.

[@toscadonna]

Males are “on code” even at work-even if the so,an in question is doing all of the work and making huge profits for the company. The males will get together and torpedo the woman even if they go out of business as a result of it. In 2010, I brought in a billion dollars worth of construction work into the company I worked for; that was ALL of the work for the entire year. Then I got promoted in May 2011 but laid off in November 2011 and told that I was “redundant.”😂 Then they went out of business, and the guys and women who torpedoed me followed me to my next job trying to do the same thing.

[@diamcole]

An unemployed king is an oxymoron lmao.

[@teewhyemm1130]

I made the same comment before I saw yours.😂

[@forthewin6649]

I've decentered men by: Taking my money away from them, eventually I want to only buy black owned/woman owned. I don't read books written by men if I can help it (textbooks for school I can't avoid). I don't read/watch anything about romance anymore. I try to watch mostly women on YT but I'll watch men if they aren't being weird or misogynistic and I replace them with women if I can. I mirror mens behavior towards me. I focus on what I desire and like above all else. I don't worry about how my actions may benefit men, I only think about how it benefits me (& other women when applicable). I've washed them and their influence from my brain. Not done yet I know I still have some internalized stuff to work out but I'm getting there.

[@ashassassin]

I tried reading a couple romance novels recently, both written by women, and they just pissed me off.... I couldn't figure out why the woman lead would want these pathetic losers who can't even communicate clearly. 🙄 it's so frustrating that even women focused things are still so man centered.

[@BeenQueening82]

I'm screen shoting this and making this my screen saver!❤

[@kgs2280]

As we were all raised in a Patriarchal, paternalistic society, there will always be something deep and hidden we have to dig out and work on. It feels like a never-ending job, but we have now been educated in this, and we are now ready, willing and able to work on it, no matter how hard it is or how hurtful the memories. We got this! And, someday, the men will figure it out, too, but that’s on them. What a world we are creating! It gives me so much hope.

[@west913]

Nobody dating a homeless, King. Cut it out, Sir.

[@silververnallbells191]

JustPearlyThings did.

[@diamcole]

@@silververnallbells191 Who?

[@dezinechic]

now he used the word king....i wonder if he has mayle friends from a certain ethnic group?

[@Diana734]

The woman needs to put the Mother and Uncle in a home instead of putting up with the abuse.

[@candypettynettie487]

Just leave them. Pack up and be out.

[@pigeoness22]

It is the same old - they are upset that women do not want to choose them. This is why they are triggered - they think we are obligated to choose them and their content. They do not want women to have a choice.

[@beardpapa12]

I'm rolling my eyes at the unemployed "king." They really do want the "princess" treatment or is it more "baby child coddling"? 100% probability that he won't be doing any of the chores and will be spending all his time with his buddies or video games. Ughh.

[@loralove6290]

I had an ex that said he liked to be babied. I said I only baby my niece (who was an actual baby). He got mad at me one day when I left to get in the car while he was using the restroom and said I should've waited for him 😂

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

No contact with my narc mom was the best choice cut that cord and protect your peace

[@kgs2280]

Same! I even moved 3000 miles away to be unable to be trapped in her clutches, as I had been for a number of years.

[@wrenbyrd1093]

I’ve got a narcissist mother, but need the little bit of help she gives because I’m sick. She’s getting older and I don’t know how much longer she’ll be around since she has cancer. It’s just stage one, but you never know. I totally understand going no contact, and have thought about it a million times in the last few years. She honestly just got mad at me last night because I’m not on ‘her side’ when a doctor told her she should have been exercising. She’s having slight heart trouble. She wants me to say that she should have been able to drink several Mountain Dews a day and not exercise and be totally healthy and slim. She just recently lost some weight. She was obese for decades. I refuse to side with nonsense! 😂

[@LetsTalkAboutItWithMara]

@@wrenbyrd1093 they get worse when they get older and sick , your choice but me absolutely not

[@winniecat6453]

Lady with the abusive mum should leave before the knee replacement! Some hospitals require the driver to stay at the location due to elder abandonment.

[@beepbopboop7727]

I am so tired of seeing women SA in fiction. I hate SA against women being a plotline like its a frisbee being tossed around to keep the audiences interest. I guarantee men find pleasure in writing these things in detail. They are sick af.

[@bwstopnamingbmedwardforthe2921]

Tbh, I always found irony in Stephen King calling out Trump for SA, yet consistently writing about it- especially in the book IT. It’s disgusting all the away around.

[@JorgensZelda]

⁠you know, I’m starting to think he’s got some kind of demons in his past. The constant references to SA in his books, the drinking, the drugs, the characters with massive childhood trauma… I’m not making excuses for the man, but I would not be surprised if this is what he does instead of therapy.

[@mjackson3109]

When OP’s mother goes to have knee surgery, she can tell the hospital staff she needs a speak to a social worker. OP can tell the social worker that her mother will need to go directly to a rehab facility as there is no one in the home to take care of her. She doesn’t want to be accused of “granny dumping”. If OP just leaves, the mother will bad mouth her to all and sundry, but she’ll be gone by the time her mother gets home. OP also needs to make sure she doesn’t sign for anything for her mother.

[@regina7795]

Nope just leave………easy

[@lululawson1653]

Right! If Mom doesn't have care at home, the hospital MUST send her to a facility.

[@islandgirl8067]

I avoid movies, music & tv shows with anti woman content. The few males I follow on social media call out other men’s behavior. 2nd story, OP needs to move out & go no contact with her toxic mother. She hates her daughter & sabotages her because she wants her to fail so she can keep her around as a punching bag. I would have been gone after the 🔫 3rd story, I don’t think the creator was serious, this sounds like tongue in cheek.

[@jellyfish_bubbles]

Me too. Girls Girls media only

[@starspeculation]

Unemployed "King"? Bro, being a KING is a JOB! 😭

[@Kuttie03]

Well said

[@ButterflyBree]

The decantering male conversation made me unsubscribe to damn near all male KZbin content creators. I also don't center male family members and friends anymore. I noticed the lack of reciprocity a long time ago. The only males who I follow on IG make nature and wildlife related content and they're knowledgeable. They also uplift women creators. 2ch post: There's no way I'd be a caregiver to a parent (or anyone else) who is verbally and emotionally abusive. She'd had to figure out her own life. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️

[@RoseMidas]

For the second story, we should do a collection plate for all the energy she needs to not give af anymore. Cause Gworl

[@BeenQueening82]

Agreed 💯👍🏾

[@TheOriginalScorpioBelle]

0:22 I absolutely try to restrict everything to woman first if available.

[@Introvertedempathinfj]

The Cyn G community thanks you for the shout out! Lmao the NABs are bold outchea 😂😂😂. Keep your ears to the streets 👀

[@UseYourVoices]

STORY 3: I don't need a man to spend time with me. Like a woman said on another video, "Grab a rag and bust some suds.". That's what you can do for me. 🤣

[@jacksonernie484]

6 husbands later she should have good medical care insurance and coverage by now. Why burden your long abused child with your bullcrap if you can afford to do better for yourself? Then to add an uncle to the dead weight, this is insufferable and not your burden to bear.

[@HeyItsQuayshawn]

Re #3: This is a great way to spot an un/der employee bandit. He tryna text me all day? He aint busy enough for me. He also explains how some ppl end up w dusties - its not all bad. They got all the time in the world to verbally love bomb you.

[@thesecretshade]

OMG I got flagged 😂😂😂😂 I feel so honored 😆

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Burb is really taking one for the team and took notes for us 😅😅 thank goodness for my play cousin Burb 😂😂

[@BurbNBougie]

I literally don't want y'all over there

[@Franciscaharrison1978]

I started decentering men from.looking at the marriages (especially my parents )around me growing up. There seemed to be a common line, the men were older , physically and financially abusive to their wives. My mum was one of those that left the men and never looked back. When it comes to social media ie youtube at a certain point there were lots of male creators, i would look at their content and not subscribe if they came across as anti women i would click dont recommend. Male centred female pages i did the same, nowadays i rarely see any content like this and if i do i click not interested or do not recommend channel. At one point Kendra's channel used be recommended aftet listening to one or two videos and i got rid it is abit like those dating shows never warched them.

[@mansanayanaranjado]

Yes I went a whole 2 years of only listening to women only music. I don't watch much television and I work a lot.

[@avairejustdesserts9921]

The narc parent stories always hit hard. As a kid my parents could be pretty fucking nasty and cruel and evil and abusive and now that I have nothing to do with them at all, they send me letters """"""""explaining"""""""""" themselves and how everything was my fault and the other parent's fault and I just need to forgive them. My mom would tell blatant lies or hide things in my room and go running to my Dad about how I was a wicked child so she could get me in trouble and I'd get beaten. She'd waste no time doing it the second he walked in the door and I was beaten and starved for all of my childhood until I ran away at 18 with $500 to my name.

[@SODATAPP]

I would encourage you to never allow those abusive cruel and evil people in your life again. There are know second chances with those people.

[@LammyHowl]

2: You'd think with all that money she claims to have, she could afford some manners 😞 Ma'am, please leave for yourself and your children. Leave Mommy Dearest to the consequences of her choices.

[@Iquey]

Performative masculinity! 😂 Hollywood director to Black actor: *I need you to get into the car, look sadly into the distance, and then angrily beat on the steering wheel.*

[@MelissaThompson432]

To Evil Woman's daughter: 37 is young. Get a start now. She will never be less needy. You will never be better loved or appreciated.

[@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition]

Such great advice summarized PERFECTLY! 👏🏻

[@smlorrin]

I wonder if that last guy says "drizzle, drizzle!". If not, he should! 🤣😂🤣

[@chronicfatiguehermithiker3022]

I consume male content that is humanity focused in positive ways, where taking care of people including their sensitivities are expected and praised. But no tolerance for degrading people or being dismissive of others or expecting others to live up to their standard.

[@alrakina_somarino]

I only listen to men who actually sound like they have deconstructed patriarchal thinking systems within themselves. The speech professor on KZbin is one example. I'll watch movies made by men but i can always pick up on patriarchal BS that pops up and I point it out to my husband. He's starting to see it too, and he's been pointing it out more and more. There's a KZbin creator called Dusty Thunder that reads out reddit stories and usually he's pretty good about his insights when reacting, but you can tell he is completely unaware of red pill retoric. Like saying a guy who wants a paternity test out of nowhere has someone in his ear. YEAH. REDPILLERS.

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

12:45 Bless that user for laying out such a good and detailed battle plan. Burb, if you see this: I love the content you're giving us, I wouldn't change a thing. But if I could make a request: more escape plan/exit strategy content like this maybe? So many women are trapped - whether with men, or dysfunctional parents/families - and it helps to know the practical ways we can gain our freedom.

[@BurbNBougie]

Maybe I'll make that comment the basis of a video

[@ashassassin]

This is off-hand but a great female centered book is children of blood and bone by Tomi Adeyemi. Not completely female focused, but has a strong female main character and the plot is fantastic!

[@EagerMarshmallows]

Oooh! Thanks for the suggestion. Im so scared of picking up a book just to be disappointed. Any other suggestions? 💕😊

[@Cocononolol]

The Bone Witch series by Rin Chupeco. Fantastic female lead, if you loved Shadow & Bone you'll adore this.

[@EagerMarshmallows]

@@Cocononolol adding to my list! Havent read of any of those. I've been under a rock lol Thanks a bunch! ☺️

[@LammyHowl]

I second this book series! It's fantastic! 🎉🎉

[@candypettynettie487]

It's a shame. That mom sounds like my mom. Haven't spoken to her in years. Best thing I did for myself.

[@mikochild2]

I don't go far enough to decenter other people in general. I put way more into almost all relationships than is poured into me.

[@kgs2280]

Now you know how to work on that!

[@amandaeye11]

I was raised to be this way (I was punished for directing care towards myself vs my narc mom and sibling) and it’s hard to change. One thing that can help me figure out how to pour into myself more is to imagine what I would do if I had unlimited resources to lavish care on my most beloved people. Chances are good I have the resources on hand to do at least *some* of those things for myself. Voila! I know what to do to care for me! I hope this is helpful. You deserve your love first! Every little thing you do for you is a victory! ❤❤❤

[@anonanon7553]

Yes it’s also normalized in our society. If you don’t then you are pressured and guilted. It’s also hard when it’s people you HAVE to be around because you work with them and don’t want to lose your job :(

[@kgs2280]

I read quite a bit, but 90% of the books I read are about feminism and by feminist authors, and probably 90% or more of my KZbin watching is about feminism and women by feminist women. It has been a real eye opener and source of comfort and validation.

[@videoreferenzen1549]

A book I highly recommend to women precisely because it was written by a male libertarian (and women are conditioned to be the opposite): „How I Found Freedom in an Unfree World“ by Harry Browne. Its content is an antidote to many things we were made to internalize: „If there are better alternatives available to you and you don't take advantage of them, then it's you who is abusing you.“ (Also, Gavin de Becker‘s „The Gift of Fear“.)

[@sha-tiahsampson3074]

I knew it was going to get real when they quoted The honorary Cynthia G

[@janetcampbell5601]

Hey! Im starting to see clips of you in other people's reaction videos. I also hsve been seeing your unique slang everywhere. Congrats!

[@BurbNBougie]

Thank you! 😃

[@janetcampbell5601]

@@BurbNBougie I work early so hope this doesn't bother you but I am so excited you pinned me! I am fan girling!

[@BurbNBougie]

Lol when I'm sleep I'm sleep. Comments don't bother me bc I don't see them. I'm glad I made your day

[@hippie1252]

I found the talk about Stephen King's work very interesting. I felt the same way about his short story Big Driver. I'm currently reading 1984 and I'm getting some of that too.

[@Indyghurl]

Remember though that 1984 was written in 1948, very patriarchal times

[@Miaog-with5kids]

From the head line mom should be Greatful of her careing Daughter 😢...

[@kgs2280]

That last clip reminds me of the saying by Sarah Haji: “Lord, give me the confidence of a mediocre white man.” ❤

[@Majesticlilj]

TBBT was never funny to me. The relationship between Leonard and Penny was just awful, and he was coercive. I remember the episode where Penny made it clear that she didn't want to have kids, and everyone else was so judgmental and forcing her to have kids. Ugh, watching these shows with your brain turned on makes it scary and unfunny.

[@MayDay-yn3bw]

The entire culture is no longer entertaining to me for this very reason.

[@nardip4999]

TBBT is created by 1ncel, for 1ncel, smh.

[@floressonia55]

😂😂😂😂NAB😂😂😂 I am going to use that!!!😂😂😂😂😂

[@catsncrows]

S2 The thing with parents like this is they have to be introduced to the concept of consequences of their actions. If you can stand it find estranged parents content, they blatantly emphasize avoiding it at all costs😑

[@toscadonna]

You were telling the true nature of the male, and that cannot be allowed.

[@xletragedyx]

I've been moving away from male creators for over a decade. Not even on purpose, they're just not as good or as interesting. They can start out well, but the other shoe always drops- racism, misogyny, erasure of women, oversexualization, etc. How people enjoy Game of Thrones, I don't know. Most male creators I follow are queer and it's honestly just coincidental

[@AeriaGl0ris]

I think I've leaned towards books, videos, etc. from women or femme-presenting creators for years. Not that I'm against reading something from a male author, unless it's something I have no interest in. There are 3 or 4 male content creators I follow, but otherwise my subscriptions and views run pretty women oriented. Funny story, sort of: Back when I first began dating, I got the idea of doing a volunteer teaching trip to Central America. My bestie had done one and had a great experience. So, after talking to my mom about it, I started doing some research to find an organization that offered such opportunities. Around this time, I had also been seeing my first boyfriend. When I told Mom I was doing the trip, even though it would mean not seeing my boyfriend for 3 months, she remarked something like, "Well, I guess you don't love him that much." As if I was supposed to put this trip that I'd been wanting to do for a while aside for the sake of him! Looking back, maybe I always kept space for myself in romantic elationships.

[@CatgirLinKC]

Unemployed "King", more like Unemployed Court Jester! 🤪

[@deedee2730]

How is it possible to be unemployed and a king. Men can’t even b a king unless a queen crown him. He’s was trippin 😂

[@TheLamehipster]

No more rap music 🎶 or action films. They are male centered

[@birgitbranderrasmussen]

Lots of great female rappers

[@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition]

Except for that one Charlize Theron film, where she spends 2 hours beating the damn brakes off literally everybody 😂

[@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition]

@@birgitbranderrasmussenIf you like female rappers, do yourself a favor and look to the UK. They have tons of amazing female rappers and they write their own bars. Check out Shaybo, Lady Lesure, Lavida Loca, Miss LaFamilia, the Ivorian Doll, Ms. Banks, etc. There are tons of female rappers kicking ass in the UK right now In the US, most ppl who write rap lyrics are males (which is why US rap music is so disgustingly sexualized and degrading and anti-woman/girl) and males write most of the songs for these manufactured US female rappers over here.

[@somebodycomelistentothispo7217]

I watch very few male content creators and read Very few books by them but there are some. I don’t listen to men at all in my everyday life. Brother in law kept repeating “men are more logical” at lunch a few weeks ago and I ignored him. I guess he was trying to convince himself 🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

[@tunkytunky]

Really watering down the meaning of the word 'King'. Pauper is actually the word he's looking for.

[@melissahardiman5203]

Lawd Jesus this must be fantastical 5 reasons to date an unemployed king 👑 this is a No

[@1984Astral]

That gold digger arguing for a sugar mams....I haven't watched his video, but did his "perks" of dating an unemployed man include doing the cooking, cleaning, laundry, childcare, etc? Somehow, I doubt it.

[@BurbNBougie]

It didn't include those things 😂

[@rellie_90]

The flags are a KE 😭😭😭

[@ccannon1]

3:58 this sounds like me. The only part of my life that was very male centered was dating and even then it was definitely a traumatize them back type of situation (even though I didn’t know that’s what I was doing at the time 😂😂😂)

[@hipstamom]

A NEET found in the wild 😂

[@DaPhlyymamee]

🤣😂

[@skarac3224]

Gold digger

[@smlorrin]

Drizzle, drizzle! 🤣

[@Petunia3001]

The daughter of narc mom needs to go no contact, point blank period. Like, never talk to her again, blocked in every way. Please go be in peace, lady 🫂

[@ShalomDove]

Poster of the “decentering” post here: they flagged that as hate speech?! 👀 Literally never occurred to me that that could be considered hate speech 🤣 not having 100 percent of women’s attention all the time really stresses some men out, doesn’t it?

[@BurbNBougie]

Some man is watching my group to try to get us pulled

[@ShalomDove]

@@BurbNBougie ugh! That’s frustrating. Is there anything we can do as sub members to combat that?

[@BurbNBougie]

Just bc we were reported doesn't mean the group will get pulled. There's an appeal process if Reddit takes their side.

[@yuriosato3565]

He aint a king if he dont got no gold

[@0HellcatMary0]

I can't take decentering men to the point of depriving myself of music, literature or art, but if you already consume media and art with any kind of critical discernment, the bad shit jumps out pretty immediately anyway, and the bad shit ALWAYS has a quality of mysogeny or misandry because they literally don't know how to express humans on paper.

[@BurbNBougie]

The question is a personal one. You just answer for yourself and your life.

[@0HellcatMary0]

Absolutely. Could never judge someone else for the choices they have to make for their health and growth. My point was, even if you're someone who can't wall themselves from it, art can have unique ways of filtering out the trash for you without there really being a sacrifice.@@BurbNBougie

[@BurbNBougie]

What you feel is a sacrifice is also personal. What ppl feel is good or bad art is also subjective. That's why this question was a personal one. If you are still all in, that's fine. This isn't a question for you.

[@BrainWitchSiv]

Speaking of King... I like how no one never mentions the never-ending torture of one Beverly Marsh from IT. The book was awful on every conceivable level.

[@silververnallbells191]

"She pulled a gun on me 3 times" -WHY did you stay after the 1st time?

[@KenniseL]

She should've been making her plan to leave right then

[@_Ridethemaverick]

I have a very limited ear for music, I don’t follow many male content creators, unless they are unpacking their own behaviors. I click “do not recommend “ on most of their channels, when available. If a show has too many sexual scenes, I no longer watch. I’m just tired of those scenes in general, whether positive or negative, I don’t think they’re necessary. I definitely don’t center males in my personal life at all. I have no male friends and limit unnecessary communication with them.

[@teewhyemm1130]

What is an oxymoron? Unemployed King!😂😂😂😂😂

[@TheGhostofAbigailMills]

An unemployed king ... A king is an occupation in itself, so that's an oxymoron if I've ever heard one. Speaking of morons, that guy is either the biggest one yet or he thinks we're all stupid. Maybe both. Not much to add, I am just flabbergasted. Gobsmacked, even.

[@Iquey]

On a serious note, reducing male centered media is NOT hate! It's media literacy. If we are tired of unpleasant patterns in media from a common source, you analyze the rationale behind that source. Even if it's a female author. The source that is unpleasant is patriarchy. But anyone can amplify patriarchy in their media, it's just men rarely examine their role in doing so. One other genre would be romance novels, often written by women but still glorify abusive dynamics as a source of spicy suspense. I get that it's a guilty pleasure for a lot of people, but most of the time I find it boring.

[@dezinechic]

yellow flag?! shiddddddd i need a yellow blanket then that case😂😂😂😂😂😂 especially if its an amareakin male!

[@UnexpectedSpanishInquisition]

Queens: please don’t unsub from any anti-red pill male content creators. There are some really great anti-RP male content creators out there. While there are still far too few for my taste, the ones who are loud are top notch. The Speech Prof and Angry Biracial are two anti-RP males who create content on KZbin that immediately come to mind. Also, the YT channel Mental Healness is a BM who is a diagnosed narcissist and is “anti-RP adjacent,” as he talks about how a lot of sexism and misogyny are rooted in narc behaviors. Imho, we need to support these particular male creators because anti-patriarchy male voices and perspectives are key to deconstructing patriarchy. Males do not listen to or care what women have to say; they only value male perspectives, opinions, etc, Also: the very existence of these anti-RP channels and these male allies who create that kind of content PROVE that males being a misogynistic ahole is a choice.

[@toscadonna]

“The Public Offender” is also very good and makes a lot of sense.

[@toscadonna]

The women who date an “unemployed King” are the ones who will be told “you should have chosen better” when said “King” unalives her and uses her car as a getaway vehicle to flee the scene. She’ll also be used as an example as to women “loving bums, Pookies&Ray Rays” and that women deserve to be punished not not liking “nice guys with jobs.”

[@jojoone1099]

The story 2 women needs therapy in order to move out. Choose you and your kids over the toxicity.

[@Holisticallycarol]

From a holistic person also a caregiver, leave them the recioe for some green drinks, and leave. Her eating habits and her brothers can change & they can get muuuch better. Adults need to stop doing everything else that they want to do % neglecting their health so others have to stop their lives to take care of them. Your life matters also!!

[@emjohnson7207]

#2 are you staying for the house that she has made sure you won't ever get? Move the uncle to a safe place, drop him off on the day you quietly leave.

[@sylvieroche9364]

I am a woman in her 50's happily married (for 20 years) child free. I was talking with a younger woman, we were discussing books and shared interests. First the books happened to be from female authors. Then i bring up a book from a male author and she tells me :"no thanks, i don't read books written by men anymore". I was stunned. I just said that she was missing out on very good stuff for nothing but in my mind i was "WTF ? That author isn't responsible for centuries of misoginy, it's not even a book about women ! Will you stop using a computer ? A car ? Because, you know they were invented by men, right ? Don't criticize a shitty attitude like misoginy if you copy the same attitude, just changing the target." I prioritize women when it's relevant. Men should still be allowed a place in our lives... if you spend time and energy avoiding them, you are somehow still centered on them.

[@videoreferenzen1549]

Any other geriatric millennials traumatized by „Garden State“? 🤢

[@TheEudaimonya]

I didn't realize there was a name for what I was doing! I'm decentering men.

[@seraphina2293]

The man talking about unemployed men must be doing satire Surely???

[@onycagayle4485]

❤

[@Deandadee]

Kings are not unemployed. King IS the job title. Imma need you to come up with some different wording, sir...

[@idreadFell365]

I like anime and manga but a lot of it does have male power fantasy and sexist narratives. Female characters are often sidelined, infantilized, just there for support, written to be unreasonable, helpless, to be saved/protected by a male character, over sexualized, have no honor, and all around center a male character.

[@regina7795]

With a mother like that…….it’s been too long. What you waiting for?

[@SRHisntSilent]

1:32 YUPPPP

[@MelissaThompson432]

That last one has to be satire. Please tell me it's satire.

[@theundone777]

Wait - "King" is a actual job. So, no such thing as an unemployed king.

[@serraangel7465]

I get it but unnecessary sexual assult is the norm in a country where 20% of women have been SA Ignoring it wont help

[@BurbNBougie]

You think SA in fiction and entertainment helps somehow?

[@serraangel7465]

@BurbNBougie Yes, it's reality. The writers are telling you who they are and how they think. Knowledge is power.

[@DaughterofDiogenes]

I’ve stoped listening to male musicians for the most part. Too many songs that seem directed at young or underage women. I stopped watching most movies and tv altogether because it’s mostly gross and stupid. And I’ve also had to give up a ton of podcasts because I like the horror genre, but too many of them focus on violence against women or children. It’s old. Do better. And the number of times I’ve heard them reference a beautiful fair young woman or worst yet…girl! It got gross. Fair skin dark hair all day. It got old and creepy and gross.

[@Asia-yt3cg]

I stopped looking at dating advice videos hosted by men. They are giving other men terrible advice...the loneliness epidemic will continue. 😢

[@briannaobrien4419]

Yeah I feel like it just kind of developed over time, avoiding male focused media. There are very very few male authors in my bookcases, Terry Pratchett and Neil Gaiman are about it. I don't watch male centered shows or movies really and I just stop watching if there's SA. if you need to use graphic SA scenes in movie or television to get it across, you're a shit writer, a shit producer, and a shit director. A scared face and an ominous zipper noise is MORE THAN ENOUGH.

[@tc1680]

Jobless kingy has time to be "creative" & "productive". The author of that video was just outrightly trolling, right?

[@ginmar8134]

Stephen King writes horrible female characters.