3 Ways to Overcome Anxiety | Olivia Remes | TEDxKlagenfurt

The way life and love are portrayed to us via the world of advertising and Hollywood dream factories, you’d have thought that there’s no grey area between happy and troubled relationships. The truth, however, is that how we get along with each other is a complex, multi-dimensional thing that is likely to be impacted by anxious thoughts or phobias as any other aspect of life. In fact, most people encounter anxiety at some point in their lives, but for some, it can be a crippling condition. Olivia Remes teaches us about the ways to overcome anxiety, and the importance of learning to treat ourselves as someone we love. Olivia completed her Ph.D. at the University of Cambridge. Her research focuses on anxiety disorders and is using the European Prospective Investigation of Cancer study, one of the largest, European cohort studies looking at chronic diseases, mental health, and the way people live their lives. Her research has been featured by the BBC, Forbes magazine, and USA Today, and she has appeared on several radio shows and podcasts talking about anxiety and the impact that it can have on people’s lives. Olivia is the creator and host of The Cambridge Talk Show, a weekly radio show focusing on lifestyle matters and mental health. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

What I’ve learned after 6 years of chronic anxiety is to just do what you love and get on with your life. I no longer have panic attacks or feel anxious and I’m off SSRI. There’s no guarantees in life so make every day count. You may say but how? I say to the intrusive thoughts “oh not you again, I’ve heard that a thousand times before and it got me nowhere. I’ll do my own thing thank you. Goodbye.”

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[@oliviabroughton9478]

This was really helpful thankyou :)

[@kasiam2508]

Wow, that's so great to hear, especially the last sentence which literally made me think again about my intrusive thoughts and how to deal with them! Thank you so much for your contribution and best of luck!

[@gfs-oy6de]

wow I cant believe Ive found you here, used to watch your shaving videos!

[@KRAZEEIZATION]

@@gfs-oy6de Ha! I’m only human after all!

[@danvladfilip8951]

To cut it short: 1. (8:45) Stop censoring what you say or do; 2. (11:20) Practice spending time with people who treat you well; 3. (13:20) Treat yourself like someone you love

[@jennyjenkins877]

Also, switch to 1.25 playback speed!

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@goduskychris Chris Godusky .

[@visualjottings5626]

@goduskychris Chris Godusky Absolutely right!

[@paulfernando1887]

goduskychris Chris Godusky Absolutely true

[@Sid-md5en]

It took all my happiness, love and everything. Anxiety is the biggest enemy.

[@abhijeetsingh8335]

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[@lifemusic1980]

Yup

[@Chaos-kq8mn]

Same here

[@eljude8900]

In other words, we are our body's warrior against our minds. It's hard.

[@rohitbhalekar5881]

Same here bro I missed so many job opportunities just because of thinking how can I work in so many people do I have knowledge to cope up and self doubting.

[@bonnierobinson5917]

Anxiety destroys trust. You are exhausted. You can't move forward. You have fear.

[@patrickshenton769]

Thanks for letting us in on that little secret.

[@delboysilva2677]

@@patrickshenton769 its the truth though

[@camillamartz8179]

So true. And when a love one tells you to get over it, it is so painful.

[@shukk5613]

I always love coming into the comment section because you feel less alone and realize alot of people are dealing with the same thing, its a comforting environment and i wish people would be able to speak about this comfortably with randome interactions .. like , you can see someone at the grocery store beside you and they are probably going through something similar , but you wont know until you start the conversation. That could literally be your new bestfriend 😅

[@ellavittorio4799]

"Anxiety is linked to depression, heart disease and is more debilitating than cancer". - real nice way to talk to a bunch of people already struggling with anxiety :(

[@virginiebrackeva5919]

Im 30, always heaving heart palpitations because of the anxiety.

[@rasmusherskind8419]

She’s merely trying to address the fact that anxiety disorder isn’t getting the attention necessary to comprehend its impact on modern society. So many people simply don’t get how having anxiety can ruin your life. She speaks up for the anxious who suffer, and I salute her for doing so.

[@siobhantorpie8369]

We are told anxiety can’t harm you and she is saying the opposite .

[@Perqd]

@@siobhantorpie8369 anxiety won't harm you on its own. she is refering to statistics and guess what, anxiety also develops in people that life a unhealthy lifestyle

[@mwebb999]

It's motivation to deal with anxiety head-on, rather than hoping it goes away by itself

[@Brinnysweet]

Its CRAZY how accurate every word of this was. This helped me put so much.

[@racha783]

She was talking about me and I got goosebumps... that anxiety is something that I have all the time and it seems to stuck on me forever 😓😖😫

[@sanijared820]

Treating yourself like someone you love is essential because after all, the most important relationship in life is the one you have with yourself. ~Olivia Remes

[@zaheera6899]

I suggest you watch this at 1.25x speed

[@jennyjenkins877]

I actually scrolled to the comments to see if anyone recommended this. I didn't think about speeding it up until about halfway through.

[@szekayng9966]

Luckily I saw your comment in the very beginning

[@msMuffet.]

Thank you Lmao

[@enclave2k1]

plz pin this comment

[@richardmiddleton7770]

1.5x works for me.

[@DejaDrewit]

I used to have horrible social anxiety which started from bullying as a kid. I didn't know that's what i had until i watched this video. I overcame it when I was in college when I constantly went out to clubs and house parties filled with people. They all greeted me with a hug and were so kind to me I saw that it was all in my HEAD!!! You really do have to FACE your worst FEAR in order to prove to your BRAIN that it was all in your head. I sent this to my mom cuz she has horrible anxiety. Mom are you watching this I'll know if you didn't watch it if you don't see my comment lol. I'll wait.

[@DejaDrewit]

Vasanth Naidu hello 👋🏼

[@DejaDrewit]

Vasanth Naidu good thanks

[@alexandriageiler687]

I’m struggling with social anxiety due to bullying as well. I finally moved schools junior year, but I transferred to a school more than 2x the size of my old one and I knew no one. So, my anxiety got extremely bad, and my senior year is finally here. My goal is to not be anxious and completely confident 😁

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[@mobk9774]

Well done Olivia. That was a sweet gentle and honest talk. Thankyou

[@muramallagayathri7728]

"The most important relationship you have in life is the one you have with your self " :))

[@book_enthusiast]

But being a Muslim, i have an advantage of having Quran by my side and because of that I am always hopeful, even while suffering from anxiety 💖... But yes other points are helpful for me✨💜

[@visnaahoan]

I have just recovered from anxiety at the end of 2022 and what she said is what I have done she is such an influence with it❤ Lastly, to those who have been struggling with anxiety I wish you recover as soon as I am❤

[@ruthmonde2702]

Thank you

[@lindapecaj4570]

may I ask what road you took that brought you to recovery?

[@nadiaasportsmanheart9089]

In sha ALLAH

[@scarletbond2716]

We are all soo strong for living with this and still fighting it everyday!!! Keep at it!!

[@mailalkamishra]

Extremely wonderful talk from the point of view of a Healer. Negative comments on such amazing talks worries me more about the condition of a completely asleep, unempathic, and disastrously misguided world that people like Olivia and many Healers are working at transforming.

[@slavkolinic6713]

The negative comments aren't coming from empathic people, they're coming from people that actually deal with these things because the solutions she proposed to stop being anxious is basically don't be anxious anymore, 1st advice is absolutely horrible and will cause you to lose the little friends you have, the 2nd is just paradoxical while the 3rd is basically telling people who hate themselves that the solution to that problem is loving themselves

[@TheGreaterU]

Not a very helpful Ted Talk. I am a clinician that treats Anxiety all the time. I have also worked through my own clinical level of anxiety. She built up how terrible anxiety can feel, but then gave luke warm solutions that only apply to social anxiety. In fact her explanation of anxiety was quite anxiety provoking. Anxiety is fear gone wild. Through healthy self talk, self care, disputing and replacing irrational beliefs; one can become free of anxiety. It's by reducing the "big deal" that anxiety tricks you into believing that we become free. It is by letting go. It is by taking courage. The message for those with anxiety is one of hope. Don't go believing that you are harming your heart by being anxious, that will only make It worse. That is BS. Believe you can conquer. Believe you can heal. Believe you can be calm. Learn to meditate. Learn the concept of non-attachment. Build your spiritual center. Anxiety is common and treatable. Anxiety is won in the heart and mind ultimately.

[@ineszouabi201]

Kwinten awesome comment! thank you so much! that's what we need and want to hear! and not how awful, terrible, dangerous anxiety is!

[@vancewhittall2810]

Excellent constructive comments, would much rather watch you do a Ted talk, than Olivia who does not inspire confidence in hers......

[@edclear9215]

Anxiety is really nothing more than misperception, taking everything personally and limiting oneself personally by over reaction... as you say trapped in a state of needless fear. We have to realize that mind and body are one... not the same but one. The body has to be strong for the mind to function as it should, with clarity and precision. So often the body is neglected, diet is essential to wholeness, just as imagination is to creating a future worth embracing.

[@andromeda0448]

I absolutely agree with everything you wrote. Excellent advice.

[@user-vj2yw9hi3b]

Kwinten I can’t agree you more

[@jeremykohl2220]

I believe that any tools that you can add to your mental toolbox can be helpful if applied correctly. You can agree or disagree with this woman’s speech but, overall it likely spoke to someone and gave them the tools that they needed to help them overcome this condition. Bravo!

[@Layla_Bayla]

Definitely spoke to me 😊

[@sanjuansteve]

I believe one of the best ways to overcome anxiety is through social giving, especially when the need is great and when the aid you provided would not have been done if not for you. I would suggest a week long trip to a recent large scale disaster like travelling to Puerto Rico shortly after hurricane Maria for example and to simply dedicate your time to helping others during your trip as purely and selflessly as possible. Being surrounded by those that have lost everything has a wonderful way of reminding us of what is really valuable in life and often in a life-changing way. :D

[@richard3854]

You should help out in a natural disaster because you want to help. Not for a selfish reason like your feelings.

[@sanjuansteve]

Volunteers having positive experiences in their selfless giving is but a positive side effect. Knowing selfless giving is an uplifting experience for the volunteer does not make it a selfish experience.

[@jonpadrejuan5357]

I agree with all the things that she said...it's a great help for people suffering from anxiety....anxiety is an epidemic that needs to be addressed...thanks for sharing this video. it means a lot!

[@user-ci7vu7eo9w]

nobody cares about us who suffer from anxiety

[@timothygonzalez6788]

Another good video from Olivia - very relatable in my current situation. So many others have spoken about anxiety, but I hadn't heard it put like this before. It's information that seems to be helping me so far, thanks again Olivia 👍

[@periclesdasilva5973]

Love you. "Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation present your requests to God by prayer with thanksgiving. And the peace of God which transcends all understanding shall guard your minds and hearts in Christ Jesus." Phil 4:6-7

[@BtsArmy-pr7fg]

I love the way she speaks soooooo soothing

[@Socialmediaisvile]

I think some people don’t really understand anxiety , I mean the feeling of taking my shirt off shaking so hard I feel like I’m gonna bruise from the inside out , holding my hand on my heart , pulling over on a highway cause I can’t focus feeling like I’m gonna flat out die . Not weather or not a group of people like me , I fn wish , good luck to all who deal with ANXIETY.

[@cheechfive7fiveyt995]

This

[@justinpugh2168]

So true

[@ashrafrizvi6756]

Thank You for this wonderful talk, I was starting to think it will never go away.

[@shukk5613]

We all will pass this , stay focused on your gut feeling and follow it and allow you to guide yourself, with anxiety we even feel scared and worried about that voice that is telling us the truth and what we need to do and it can be scary (because its a step out of our comfort zone) but once you get used to that uncomfortable feeling , this gut feeling will become your reality . Stick to what you believe and dont allow the negative intrusive thoughts get to you. Easier said than done but progress and step by step everyday is worth it ❤️

[@sameerpradhan9361]

Beautiful speech

[@katbaggetz4943]

I always knew I had anxiety but it wasn’t until today that I realized how bad it was. I had my first anxiety attack today and I was alone when it happened. It felt like I had to force myself to take in oxygen and I didn’t know what was happening until I went to my mom. She told me what was going on and said to breathe in 7 sec, hold 4, and then breathe out 6. I felt better and then we sat down and talked. I’m still terrified about what had happened, but after talking to someone it got better. If your experiencing anything like what I experienced, don’t try to figure out how to make it go away on your own, go ask for help. Just breathe.

[@vpsingh1038]

she has a very good understanding of the problem and her solutions are effective

[@ashantef.1570]

I just want to thank you for this conversation. I've been struggling with anxiety for years now, struggling to overcome it. I've made some progress and a considerable amount of self reflection. I say all that to say, I'm glad I've finally come to a place where I can receive your message. As I listened you helped me to see that I'm still in a place of constant fear of what I can't control and that it translates when I try to achieve goals. After listening and realizing how poisoned my thinking is, that I live expecting the absolute worse to happen... it did something for me. The next day I said, no I can't do that anymore especially with no good reason. And it has stuck. Thank you for sharing.

[@ballsrballing]

I started crying like 10 times because I realized I have anxiety disorder. This video helped me tho.

[@vijayabaskar7096]

Clearly understand your speech all of you because your way of presenting is good..Thank you

[@victoireaupeuple1110]

I appreciate lot your speech on anxiety .you look so confident and your way of presenting had impacted me very positively

[@virajhewagamage9934]

What i've learnt through comments is that people have their own way to overcome this.but definitely this speech might have been helpful to 99% ❤

[@albinehabian2893]

Very good speech. Thank you. I am impressed by your calm and strenghful presence.

[@sophiaponvelan3968]

Thank you Olivia and Ted for this talk!

[@gmee123]

Love listening to Olivias talking. She's a sweetheart

[@jorgejaquez9578]

Sometimes anxiety will attack you because of a situation that happen time ago. My wife passed thru a difficult phase and she got over it . In that time being I started to get worried and it voided me to get depression. After 6 months u been getting anxiety now and then.last Monday I got a panic attack felt like if I was dying. I will get better I trust god and I feel that this is just a Rick in my way to stop me from growing but not going to happen. Thank you for this video ♥️

[@DeepakKumar-mb2lw]

I don't know how to say thanks 🙂 I don't have words to express myself for this. It all saved me. It all protected me. After going throughout this, it all changed me.

[@Layla_Bayla]

So grateful I found this lecture ☺. Absolutely accurate descriptions. Very informative. She literally described me to the T. Good solutions too.

[@Superpompey]

I think all points made were absolutely correct. On the outside I am an ambassador for positivity, at least to pass on to others. However on the inside, it can be crushing.

[@POPDATA]

It's creepy how well she described Anxiety

[@zhumagulmyrzaeva8167]

Thank you dear Olivia Remes! It's really useful advice for me!

[@user-qv5bu4ec4m]

Thanks to Olivia abiding with this three ways to overcome anxiety will definitely change my life

[@RohanCox-js7fn]

Thankyou Olivia Meme's I continue to keep my dentists' happy,every bit of advice makes for an affordable future with a confident smile.

[@Melanieninesixfour]

Authenticity is a great idea, and being around people who are kind. Sounds helpful to me. :)

[@scm1716]

One likely reason she is speaking so slowly and clearly is that she knows not everyone listening is a native English speaker. I’ve heard her in other talks and she doesn’t always come across this way. Either way, what she says here is very helpful.

[@Sajeed70707]

This was so good!! It addressed all my social anxiety disorder points and the solutions were so sound and logical.

[@Layla_Bayla]

I agree.

[@slavkolinic6713]

Yes, as it turns out the solution to anxiety is to stop being anxious, she really is a genius

[@phanlinh9898]

the only way to deal with anxiety is getting rid of work, issues,.. for some time, just come in and immerse yourself in nature. Mother nature will heal your soul. Believe me. It works very well.

[@DianeRyanONeill]

You get bored if you give up work.

[@user-ci7vu7eo9w]

@@DianeRyanONeill not really.i give up work becouse of anxiety

[@realbobbyaxel]

i wanna watch this talk over and over and over again!

[@ZZ-od2fr]

I had seen this video exactly 4 years ago and I remember the first 2 mins feeling like my life story. I am seeing this now again and I can say few things got better. There is hope❤

[@cristinaniculoiu4130]

OMG! What she had described in the video is happening to me . All of it! I never knew what is wrong with me until I made some research about all this emotions. Now I know that I have a serious problem but I am not sure that I have found the answer for it.

[@infinitybless7132]

For me working out everyday and being put in situations to deal with my anxiety head on is what it took for me to be in control of it…

[@FoodTastertv]

physical workouts ?

[@margaretbranch2216]

I deal with realy bad anxiety and you realy helped me thank you

[@harrisonsokoipei4521]

I've conquered social anxiety disorder by refusing to judge myself every time I feel embarrassed of anxiety . I always take every opportunity as a chance to be contagious

[@YouTubeaccountj]

Omg she’s right on point

[@jahncompose]

Thanks for sharing your story about anxiety. Your empowering words remind us that we're not alone. Keep spreading positivity! 🙌💕

[@faithbradley4224]

Guys, if you have anxiety like I do, download headspace, or the Forest App, or both. The help me so much!

[@cheesecakebeachlake2583]

I felt safe after watching this thank you

[@mansimakwana5715]

Wow..i loved the talk! So practical!! But I m over that kind of anxiety just a few months ago! Wld have been a great help at that time! 🌟

[@Jd3derpitpderp]

Wow Literally cried after watching this Thank you

[@patrickhandlovsky7665]

Absolutely beautiful take on an issue that affects sooo many people - myself included - the last point she made was spot on - you need to love yourself and have a healthy relationship with you - if that fails, your whole life can and will be very difficult. It's something I am just coming around to realizing now :)

[@sriniarivalagan8523]

Thanks to billion, what a calming voice you have!

[@krishnapanchajanyam7579]

Wonderful speech 👏 ❤

[@musicyairu2329]

Nice presentation, love to listen, continue your great mission to save many through your talks.👌

[@arabicwithesra]

Thank you❤

[@lindalopez1737]

This was excellent and so timely for me. Thank you

[@thalescamargo1044]

This speech is absolutely helpful and really valuable. Thank you so much Olivia for sharing your in-depth knowledge about this topic. Without a doubt your advices will be changing people´s life as well as we will be changing negatives behaviours into positive ones. Ii really worth spending time listening your speech due to invaluable benefits we will get from it. All the best for you.

[@sjcsjc1378]

Enjoyed this, thank you

[@wowamazing8734]

Thank you💚.

[@usijugadzama]

Wow. The tips were very helpful

[@mrmanq9517]

Thank you....I know these tips will work🙌

[@lakshyarocks8832]

I think this video really saved me😍

[@jacklee26]

Great talk

[@elisauribe4351]

Thank you

[@spartamuzic]

she knows very well!

[@kathleenreilly828]

lol I’m watching this at 1:41 am because I can’t sleep because of my anxiety. I’m just so tired, I want to sleep but my mind does not stop:(

[@Nirakar151]

Thanks mam...it helps me alot

[@ddp8511]

thanks... just thanks!

[@Superpompey]

I would love to meet Olivia 1-1 to see what she feels is going on in my head. She has an excellent understanding of the mind

[@micasa598]

She has such a gentle voice. Me at level 3.5 of ielts can understand almost what she speak

[@bugga179]

I think this finally made it click that I actually have anxiety. I mean people have mentioned it and I did go to a therapist for a minute but I kinda had doubts...but after this I think I get it.

[@waldemarkrupa2744]

Great speech

[@dinaebrahimi9752]

It was great👏🙏

[@Contemporarywise]

The way she is talking is making me anxious.

[@stevehoughton6526]

Very helpful and informative TEDx talk by the beautiful Olivia. Thank you O.R

[@donalynguarino4096]

Thank you for this video,i hope it will help me to ovecome my anxiety

[@akshadabhangre4545]

Thank you very much 👩‍⚕️ (doctor of psychology !!)

[@hardipkaur9138]

Thanks

[@ridakhan9899]

A very long clip with some (vague and previously heard about) solutions at the very end...

[@Vinitha6172]

Thank u mam👍 such a useful and valuable speech😍

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[@articusam9866]

Channeled correctly anxiety can be your driving force - it is a motivating fuel and present in all of us - without it your either dead or dull

[@pauls2613]

Played this at 1.5 speed. Perfect

[@sheldoncooper4418]

This woman is a Goddess ❤❤

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[@wander9499]

Thanks.. this just took my anxiety to a whole new level.. now knowing it can harm me physically??

[@helenhucker346]

Kwinten. I have anxiety that has been brought on by the menopause and I am looking for ways to understand what is happening to me and how to cope. Thank you for your very helpful comments.

[@kellytaylor-aoki1829]

Im sorry you are dealing with this - my anxiety was also brought on by menpause. It did not last that long, but was awful. I take low-dose hormone replacement (Prempro), started yoga and "babying" myself. I dont know why the anxiety to stopped, but these things seemed to help me. I hope you are well soon!

[@hanifchunawala1373]

Excellent

[@JesusTheRealSuperman]

I have just learned to reailize how weird and sort of crazy I am and thats okay, thats what makes me different then everyone else, and learning to love that about msyelf and not try to fit in with everyone else but to be me.

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