3 Ways Your Ego Is Sabotaging Your Confidence

In this talk we go deeper into talking about ego and ego fear and how most of our fear is not about an actual threat to our safety, but about a threat to our ego. This ego fear can result in a lot of self-sabotage and unnecessary struggle that can be dealt with simply by learning how to manage the ego.
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[@veronicabruce2078]

My name is Veronica Bruce & I have been listening to Julia Kristina for a year & I am not only transforming my own thinking but also my big sisters.

[@nicolelauderdale3919]

In my 40’s and how I wish I could have processed all of this years ago . I feel more enlightened after each lesson I partake in from your counseling . Thank you

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You just knew in the perfect time for you ❤️

[@derthalie]

If we remember that someone else’s opinion of us doesn’t actually determine our worth, we will live freely. 💖 #checkthatego🗣

[@curtward3117]

Trying to balance my need for connection with other people and letting go of their opinions about me is a real challenge. I frequently struggle to not go out and try to earn connection at the expense of my truer self.

[@dazz_in_the_now]

I would love to do a whole course on my ego 💌

[@juliakristinamah]

We're going to be doing that in the Shift Society. Are you on the waitlist?

[@dazz_in_the_now]

@@juliakristinamah done!

[@blasloza3604]

It's almost like we need validation from other people. We allow people to dictate are thoughts and emotions.... not healthy at all...

[@juliakristinamah]

It's just what most of us learned - but now we can do the work to unlearn it.;

[@raularmas317]

I suggest you take a look at the movie bicentennial man and pay special attention at the end-- the last 30 minutes or the movie whiplash about a young, very ambitious drummer. I think to the degree we have a confident, involved Father or Father-figure we lean a lot less on other people's opinion of us as men. What do you think?

[@raularmas317]

What I forgot to say was that I think you are right about looking to others to make our sometimes hard choices for us.

[@ceceiliaskiles2189]

Hi my name is CeCeilia! I live in Scottsbluff, Ne and I am 23 years old (24 in August). This isn’t the first time watching any of Julia’s videos, but I thought I would introduce myself since I haven’t done that yet. I am really liking that Julia is talking about the ego. It’s helping me to understand me more and how to work on becoming better.

[@sharoncarey2931]

Thank you for sharing this info. It's definitely work I need to do. I'll keep watching.

[@RosePetal17]

I have been thinking and thinking and thinking about what exactly goes on for me over and over again. In the Law of Attraction or spiritual camp, they say only focus on what you want to create, AND to stay in the moment. I seem to have a script of people being irritated by me or fear of being rejected. Because of this, I tend to shut down from speaking to people on my street (specifically, and I've lived here for almost 7 years) I believe I over compensate by TRYING to be friendly, and open. The problem is, I BELIEVE people do not respond to me favourably because I am not "authentic." I shouldn't beat myself up for this, as I think I am doing my best, but do then, try to protect myself by feeling anger, and then retreat, and decide not to bother :( I am not comfortable in my own skin.

[@noturmomma101]

Christina, i just wanted to say your channel has helped me so much! I appreciate you and this channel!

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for taking the time to say that. I'm so glad.

[@blasloza3604]

Isn't this channel great? She has helped me so much aswell

[@lylahboling6383]

I'm a regular "watcher", and have been for awhile. You have helped me with myself. I have shared your vidioes with my friends and encouraged them to watch as well. Thank You.

[@thenebraskan6977]

Hi Julia! It’s a good you and your sister went back the way you came from. 🐻 Bears can run at top speed of 30 miles per hour. Be observant when you are out in nature. Thanks for all of your great work!

[@tornado79ify]

Thank you, Ms. Julia, for helping me understand what the ego is. It's helping me to separate what is my authentic self and what my ego really is.

[@ncn141953]

Very good insights on how the ego feels threatened

[@jaimeek1219]

Desperately waiting for the next video, thank you for talking about this topic, it’s a hard one to understand and to be true to myself that it’s one of my many problems I need to face. I was in denial for a long time, now I need to get the courage to want to fix it and face the shame and embarrassment.

[@DawnEwing-x3l]

Thank you Julia! This is mind opening information for me as I battle with growth and my "stinking thinking", as I like to refer to it. My ultimate goal is freedom from the automatic reactions I currently engage in, which includes being defensive. I hadn't accepted that it was my ego controlling my behaviour, even though my current partner has told me this, repeatedly. The joke is my ego was probably telling me lies about this information to protect itself!

[@KarleneA380]

Thank you Julia. Please keep them coming. This work will be life changing for me.

[@juliakristinamah]

I'm so glad you're here Karlene and doing the work!

[@SharonNZebra]

I suppose drinking enough to numb our ego isn't the healthiest option... Thank you for your video Julia 🧚‍♀️ Thank you for you! Sending love and light to you and all your wonderful followers in the best corner of the internet. ❤🧡💛💚💙💜 Stay safe 🕊🕊🕊

[@brianhotaling5849]

I would suggest that it is the Ego that uncaps the bottle in the first place.

[@stevievandelaar151]

Yes, plus that drunk people are ussaly a lot more annoying than sober ones. Even though in the perception of the drunk one it is the oppesite lol.

[@admirbarucija2018]

I can’t wait to hear your insight, I have definitely been holding myself back from achieving the confidence I should have due to my ego and pride!! I love how your videos always help me feel clarity and get past the mental roadblock of my brain telling me how things “are.” I hope you’re having an amazing week so far 💕

[@sadiaarman363]

Gosh this is so powerful. Hi I am Serenity ( only I am not), and I have been following you for the last few days. And I find you so helpful!! Thank you!!! 💙💙💚💗

[@barbraryan927]

Thank You,Thank You, Thank You 😊 So Much information I don’t know where to start.For the first time in my life I have been truly not living in the present. I’m stopped so to speak..... Thank You for Caring and sharing ❤️

[@izawaniek2568]

Thank you Julia for a detailed description how our Egos keep us stuck and thus being an impediment to real freedom.

[@stevievandelaar151]

You explain this very well, even though I know many of this stuff, I still fall for it many times. But that's ok.

[@timmeshiawilson4859]

I always get something from your content! Looking forward to the next video on how to tame the ego 😆

[@juliakristinamah]

I'm excited for you to see it. Thanks for being here Timmeshia.

[@EmbodyYourDivinity]

thank you for this important distinction bt ego fear and actual fear/danger

[@angelferris9812]

Another great lesson. Definitely gives me a new perspective! Thanks Julia 🧡

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you found it helpful.

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@@juliakristinamah They all are!

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You provide an amazing service...for free!!! Thank you!!!

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Thank you for your weekly posts and your topics these last couple of weeks. Very important knowledge you are sharing at this time. I have been on my journey for many years and I appreciate the booster shot I receive from your shares❤

[@juliakristinamah]

That means a lot to me LaDean. Thanks for your kind words and for being here.

[@brittanylove222]

Aha moment!!! Is it a burnt piece of toast OR is the house about to burn down- in reference to what is triggering me in the moment 😳 Thank you so much for this image!

[@annavillalpando4872]

Thank you so much for this video. I’m currently working on this! 🙏🏼

[@joyforest4286]

Thank you for this Julia ❤️

[@juliakristinamah]

Always Joy. Really glad it connected.

[@TaroEzoMaks]

Immediately I am pleased with your pronounciation and a lot of gestures as you speak. I am intending to keep watching your stuff. Take good care. De_Mentor of Poland.

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Awesome video! I enjoy watching your videos! They definitely help me a lot, can’t wait for the next one. I hope you’re having a wonderful week so far!

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks friend. Glad you're here.

[@arlenemartin8894]

I feel like the timing of this was super helpful. I feel like this is a major part of why conversations about racism are getting shit down without much progress right now. I went ahead and shared it on my fb in the hope that it will positively influence how people are able to communicate and show up right now.

[@janicesmith56]

Wow! This is powerful. Thank you for these videos. Please continue putting out videos.

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Your really smart. I appreciate your advice and teaching. 😇

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This was a great insight... Thankyou 🙏

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So glad you found it useful. Glad you're here.

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Thank you Julia! Amazing videos. Opened my eyes to so many different things that I never knew!

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Thank you so much, for inspiring.

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So glad you found it helpful.

[@mamabear5488]

As always your right on the money! Ty for all you do!💕😊

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Hey julia, very helpful content you're sharing with us. thanx. from Iran

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for taking the time to say so, and thanks for being here.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You can only be in control of what you can be in control of.

[@paigecourtier8443]

Thank you for this perspective!

[@AbdullahArRafi]

Can't wait for the next one!

[@juliakristinamah]

Stay tuned!

[@roseintn35]

Hello.. my grief coach assigned one of your videos to me about ego and I just want to say thank your for labels the P's and C's in such a way that it was productive for me. I am searching for the video you mention a couple times here, a description of ego, but can not seem to locate it. If someone sees this that can help me find it... please let me know!

[@captaindan1000]

Ego fear. Like it! I wonder if this two word phrase will catch on? It seems like people could benefit from it.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

I don’t care what others think about me Julia because I only care about what I think.

[@tvdrama4426]

Make sense. Thank you😍

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Back as usual 😀🤗 a new shifter

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She is full of required knowledge on the subject and she is also beautiful. I just listened to the song sung by Roy Orbison. Pretty woman. What a coincidence.

[@crazyedd9249]

you are sooo empowering to me 🥰

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Is it still ego fear when you fortune tell catastrophic events (that you have no control over) that you think could happen? I suppose if it is holding me back and not letting me to go out into the world then I would say, yes? Great video Julia! See you later today!

[@chrisdigitalartist]

@Vin En Thanks!

[@jeffvarley9792]

That was a good video. Thanks for bringing this video to us.

[@nicole5506]

My name is Nicole and I love your videos.💜

[@mikejarrells431]

As social animals isn't social status (ego) important to our survival & success in life? Is it really healthy to ignore external validation to bump up internal validation (self esteem)?

[@dkdawe1]

Perception of threat... fear of rejection... or putting our thoughts on others. Hmmmm I’m having trouble with the concept of ‘ego’ as I think of Freudian ego... this type of ego is more like ‘sense of self’?

[@juliakristinamah]

That's right. It's our constructed sense of self that's built to protect our vulnerable self.

[@Terabyte1244]

So in regards to blaming our self would a way to overcome this, is to see the critiquing thoughts and anxious thoughts of not being good enough as food that feeds the ego? Which ultimately prevents someone from being courageous and keeping them as anxious person?

[@DANNYN224]

Nice julia can you do an video about negative self talk or you already uploaded one

[@tvdrama4426]

Ego is in-command, not you at a time you make a mistake instead of accepting it and learn from it but your ego made a decision to blamed it to others or you feel shamed in order to protect your self-image can make you unproductive. So right to me, i don't know. I just apply it in my experienced. Am having a second thought about this opinion . What do you think, Julia? In advance, thank you for considering.

[@tempsdeloisir938]

amazing!

[@christiabacon8001]

Very helpful!

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Another perfect example Julia is if you tell your boss you only want to work part-tine and they say no.

[@nnglnd]

Effectively it's worrying about nothing.

[@andym5195]

WE BE THE TYPE WOT THINK!!

[@Nina-ur3ld]

Ego fear: feel threat to idea to who we are and who we want others to think we are. Threaten by for example if people leave us out or sb think sth about us that we dont want to think. Maybe we make it mean i am not good enough. Sbs else actions could threaten who we are. The ego is trying to protect us. Pay attention what is a feal threat vs threat to our sense of self. Are those things actually true or just because of made up beliefs?

[@johnykryll]

This is a hard one

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Hola I love your videos 🔥🔥🔥🔥🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@juliakristinamah]

Thank you! Glad you're here.

[@MariaSantos-gm7ps]

Hi. Julia I like very much thank you

[@antoniajosephlifeandrelati3368]

It's sad that we need confirmation from others to do what we like and enjoy. Your ideas are good and I will try to implement them into my channel.

[@juliakristinamah]

It's just part of being human ;-)

[@antoniajosephlifeandrelati3368]

Thanks for replying it means a lot me

[@fb33zy]

Hi Julia, Just curious... Have you written any books?

[@juliakristinamah]

In the middle of writing one now ;-)

[@fb33zy]

@@juliakristinamah I'll keep my eyes and ears open for it. Thanks Julia.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

A lot of people think their you know what doesn’t stink.

[@chrismcevoy2503]

Consider where it comes from.

[@2daysany]

I can’t find the worksheet. could someone please help? I’m using youtube on an iphone

[@anitavanpatten8645]

Ego fear sabotaging me

[@anitavanpatten8645]

Fear loss

[@jonsalmon2352]

Perhaps my Ego's the gaslighted, not sure

[@evanbills4426]

I’m flabbergasted that there’s a psychologist who isn’t a quack…

[@christopherpape4823]

Heh people always tell you to stand up for what you believe in no matter what until they don't like what you believe in.

[@johnrobinson7051]

hi

[@anitavanpatten8645]

I am back and a good woman with some childhood damage

[@chrismcevoy2503]

You have to leave bears alone in their natural habitat.

[@anitavanpatten8645]

I feel ashamed of my reactuons

[@larryrubin5150]

Not just another pretty face I saw your video on co dependent women and now I know why the girl picked another guy with issues over me A girl with issues like guys with issues. Staying in their own tribe

[@hgzmatt]

@Scullery Maid He might be obsessed with looks, but you are triggered by it.. makes you two equal in my books. Not sure why you chose to react like this. It just causes more pain. I've had someone make everything about her looks.. even when it had nothing to do with it. She trusted her own ego more than me.

[@larryrubin5150]

Gorgeous eyes

[@JazmineLAMBARCA]

Do you provide privet appointments by skype?

[@anitavanpatten8645]

Feel threatened

[@pinkmonrose23]

Gen Zs call this being triggered. Lol.

[@lbsrxxx]

I'm scared of my anxiety constantly.