35 Years Old: I Wasted My 20's

Looking back there are some very important things I wish I understood in my 20's. Figuring these things out in my 30's did give me a chance of fix all my mistakes but I definitely would have preferred to have more time back on my side again. In this video, I explain the mistakes I made and what I started doing in my 30's to get on the right track.
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[@dugebuwembo]

You didn't waste your 20s, you finished school and graduated, got married, became a father. People are out here with no education and a criminal record.

[@TheKevg5534]

I feel you... I'm 47 and feel like i wasted more than just my 20s and 30s. The journey of life has proven to be lessons and blessings not just wins and losses. Keep up the good content

[@kachekijaanlega]

what mistakes did you make in your 30s?

[@TheKevg5534]

@@kachekijaanlega not taking more chances and believing in myself.

[@LilXancheX]

@@TheKevg5534that’s it? Lmao just live life man. It’s never too late

[@ok-nq8mr]

i am 22 and already feel like giving up😅

[@alexcalibasi7028]

You probably have a depressive disorder take lamictal

[@malikshakur5619]

Brian, you didn't! Let me briefly share the words of my father. I went to school in the late 80's and 90's. My interest at the time was computer graphics. I wanted to get into animation but on an engineering level. My plan was to learn engineering particularly through programs such as AutoCad and others and put that learning into graphics that presented ideas in the animation sense. Looking back in 2011, I was talking with my dad and said the exact same thing as you have in feeling time being wasted. My wise and loving father told me, "No, son. Not wasted time, rather, the successes and failure you experienced on this journey to where you are today." He was right. When we are building self-made empires, there are indeed roadblocks and failure, BUT, the trick here is to keep it moving just as you and I did. Brian, I am 60-years old. You are half my age and we BOTH have been there and you, I am proud to say just your dad is, have done what needed to be done; found your calling along the journey you took. You kept it pushing. I did. Today, I'm teaching myself Python programming language through a crash course and I absolutely LOVE IT!!! I took an old programming language class back at Maryland University in the late 80's called "Fortran 77". IT SUCKED AND WAS TOO CONFUSING! Today, Python is my girl!! I expect to be in a Junior programming position in about four-months give or take two. You made it, son. I see the look of a man that took what he had no matter the frustration and ran with it. You've got a beautiful wife and child. THAT right there was worth all the hell you faced finding your calling, Brian. To all of the men out there, if you want a wonderful life, be an intellectual. Seek to study things and watch that light bulb💡 go off to the power of 1000 in your heads. Also, you'll attract a true woman. What I mean by that is this and I'll land my plane: Girls love guys that can DO SOMETHING and do it well. No matter if you're a musician, masonry worker, plumber, scientist, carpenter, teacher, COMPUTER PROGRAMMER, girls love it!! You know how to do something and make the big bucks at the same time. Trust me, when a woman brags about you, you're good at something that the world is in need of. I land my plane and Brian, keep pushing! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 🖤💯⚔🛡

[@collinskiprono2450]

thank you very much, i needed to hear something like this today

[@_ash64]

Ty for sharing this! I wanna learn python too, I've been working on my JS for the last year

[@_ash64]

I'm screenshoting this to read it again for time to time.

[@thulanithamane6836]

Thank you Sir for this message. I needed to hear this.

[@deadhouse3889]

Everyone thinks they wasted their 20's. Just be thankful you survived.

[@j.b.macadam6516]

Dude, I was in my 20's during the 80's. Our motto was 'sex, drugs and rock n roll'! Many of us went full tilt boogie in that regard. Some People who miss out on their wild 20's, end up having a mid-life crisis later in order to compensate. The 30's are for getting our act together. Just roll with it, Bro!

[@brian-cache]

That’s definitely true! I look at people that have it together in their 20s and it’s impressive. Things start coming together in the 30s.

[@moonlightfitz]

😂😂

[@traezeeofor]

Take personal responsibility, kill victim mentality. I love this honest take. I'm a little older than you and have similar shit to clear up. Thanks for the inspiration brother.

[@_ash64]

Ty for this Brian, this channel is one of my treasured finds in Code-tube!

[@DarkMerchant2222]

I’m in the same boat as. Failure and setbacks are a part of the journey but not an option. I’m pushing 35 in two months and gotta push harder.

[@Hiseternallight]

I'm 26 now, I'm definitely in that blaming the economy, blaming the government phase. I work a brick and mortar job doing what I like but minimum wage eventually moved up to what I had worked hard over years to get to. Now I gotta decide if I should keep doing this job I enjoy for not much more than the starting pay at McDonald's with no signs of a significant raise. Also good advice on the flipping thing, I'm going to downsize, sell my Pokemon card collection, sell some other rare items. It's time to let go to give myself a leg up.

[@bryanleke5850]

I am still in my teens right now and listening to you make me realize how much we take things for granted. I will make sure to improve from this.

[@brian-cache]

Yea! Take advantage of your free time

[@TheSoulCrisis]

Nice fresh and mature perspective, I love the grounded tips you make!

[@Samzo2002]

Thank you for this video. I just turned 20 I wasted 2 years after HS. Now, I’ve woken up and realised life goes by so so so quickly. We should all spend our time wisely and stop doing pointless things and thinking we have time because truth of the matter we don’t.

[@caresword]

Damn. Am 2 years older and I really felt that. Time flies like...fuck I remeber turning 20 like it's yesterday and now am 22 years old...son I will be 25years and saying the same thing...time goes by to fast ⏩ it's the most important and valuable resource we have.

[@bmw430dxdrive2]

Thanks for sharing this video bro, it really does give me hope (28 years old now) and comfort knowing that I’m not alone and still have time to turn things around. Respect 👊🏽

[@Sterbann]

Im 17 about to be 18 in 3 months I appreciate you making this video man.

[@BrianHallmond]

Well said, Brian. I'm 35 too and now dealing with this stuff.

[@brian-cache]

Just can’t give up!

[@internetdrew]

Really appreciate your perspective and your choice to share this. Thanks!

[@brian-cache]

Thanks for watching!

[@ryderyoungreezy1947]

I understand and I feel for you. I also wasted my prime years while in university. Now I have a job in my 30s.

[@TheGOLDENGODZILLA]

Good vid man, good advice👍🏾

[@bongdzeglein3299]

I stumbled in your channel just a few weeks ago and to be honest I'm grateful I did. I'm 24 and a CSc teacher and I love my job but I don't make enough from it and I've been thinking of switching to probably software and each time I watch your video, I feel more motivated to keep going. But I always put at the back of my mind this phrase you once said " motivation is not enough, what you need is discipline".

[@bongdzeglein3299]

@@brian-cache for sure !

[@kendyelisca8057]

So inspiring, thanks for sharing dude!

[@brian-cache]

Thanks for watching!

[@avyannakuo5717]

Thanks for sharing

[@clintonchahala6041]

The realest advises I have heard on thos site.

[@zalty8556]

same im 18 and was going down the route of taking the easy way and playing it safe but realized if i played it safe would i ever really have a seen of accomplishment of overcoming obstacles so i switched my major from accounting to cs and although i lost some credits i think its the right call as coding was something i would do and learn about on my free time great advice.

[@goatedpixie]

great advice!

[@wgnwBash]

My Brotha I’m 29 and I dropped out of college. I drive trucks now and started coding . Too all the young buck who read this, go to college for sure but PLEASE major in a field that will pay you when get out. Not every major will. How to test it? Apply to a job now with what would be a degree in the field. Ask yourself what is the position title to type in and read the requirements. If you can’t get pages of work on indeed then CHANGE your major asap. I drive past college kids everyday wishing I would have stayed but even at 29 I still don’t know what I would have majored in. Now I found coding, not a passion but it’s something and I don’t need a degree. Network , stay out the streets, and MOB.

[@araw540]

I'm 32 dude and I'm going to College IT'S NOT TOO LATE MY MAN!!!! YOU CAN GO BACK TOO!! Go for a Software Engineering Degree my dude, you already have a leg up on most Freshmen and Software Engineers get paid Truck loads of Cash some dudes are even pulling in 200K Ask yourself what do you have to lose and Gain? You Gain a lot more then you lose, Pull the trigger.

[@oparanadionyekachi7560]

Thanks bro.❤❤

[@TheBlackManMythLegend]

I am 38 yr I still believe I can make it. And I will. :). I am lucky I just need to work harder to unveil that luck. Being lucky is just: winning the odds. So it's in my control. Winning is an action.

[@dolled-upjen3606]

I love this

[@k.j.o.o]

Aye big brother, God bless you & your People. 'The highest human act is to inspire.' Mad Love from Kenya East Africa

[@donaldlyons17]

Sucess and failure don't reside in our hands. Too many factors outside of each of us decide outcomes!!!

[@FlyIslandGuy]

I'm here right now at 40, unemployed, trying to land another job in the tech space and although financially I'm in a good position to live comfortably (about a year's salary worth of savings and an equal amount in investments) for the next year or so, I regret the fact that I don't have a second stream of income. Luckily, I've met someone who has a serious hustle mentality and they've opened my eyes in regards to finding alternative ways to make more money. Definitely will be serious about getting those alternative streams of income setup so if this happens again I can more comfortably focus on finding the next gig (or pivoting to expand an existing income stream) instead of stressing about all the money flowing out that's not being replaced. Great video though man!

[@Mrgreen2558]

Business, agriculture and skills. If you know business and investment you will get your massive income and if you know agriculture you can grow your own food and sell them and also you can survive. If you know skills is easy you can get jobs.

[@RudolphManor]

Amen. 🙏

[@sajidhanif77]

I made a switch last year from an easy system administrator job in a university environment to software support job in a product based software company. I made this transition at 45 to eventually become a software developer. It is tough but I will make it.

[@brian-cache]

That’s the only option!

[@d4dazzo100]

Just like the proverb bro: "whoever gathers money lil by lil makes it grow"

[@weicc84]

I can really relate. I wasted 20s studying biology. Then changed to cs and finish at 30 with a very good job. Internet only really boom when smart phone entered the market. We have Android and Apple to thank?! No?

[@user-fg2ts3pg7z]

Hwy whats your diet skincare and sleep routine? You look really healthy

[@fitforfreelance]

Lol @ thinking astronomy would be easy. I also wish I was more thoughtful in choosing my major, but I ended up making it work!

[@brian-cache]

The hardest class of all time lol

[@zora1161]

I wasted my 20s and now Im 33 soon 34 and Im half way through my 30s and nothing !!! I do the same things I did since I was 17 years ! like how ???

[@rafaelmateodev]

This is why Im joining the army even though I have a degree. I've been doing shit

[@brian-cache]

Better than nothing! Hope they take care of you

[@herono-4292]

4:50 Bro how much clthes did you buy to when you sell them be able to take care of you and your family ?

[@factgrainstv]

I'm 30 and I wasted my 20's. I'm Grateful and Thankful for your video. Thank you for giving us hope.

[@brian-cache]

Happy to help! Can’t give up

[@turkyturky6274]

I wasted my 20s with an accounting job. Ive switched to SWE. Should of studied computer science but i was lazy at the time and shot myself in the foot.

[@brian-cache]

It’s all good! I feel the same at times also but better late than never.

[@amarjotsingh8455]

How did you get into SWE? Currently in accounting, I’m 30 and bored of my job lol but I fear I’ll get bored again

[@turkyturky6274]

@@amarjotsingh8455 self study and leet code, i honestly think its much harder to get in now i got than in 2019. Be prepared for lots of rejection, lots of it, and tons of competition from overseas devs that make 4 times less than you. Would i try to get in now, i personally wouldn't. Theres devs that cant get jobs for years. Prepare to be the best, if you can solve leet code hard questions on a whim, go in, if you can't be ready for misery and lots of pain. Everyones experience is different but to succeed in this field you have to have grit, knowledge, skill and perseverance, but accounting is a joke pays decently and boring, so its really up to you.

[@keynanmartinez]

I'm 28 years old and I feel completely worthless, sometimes I Think life is a sick joke.

[@VULCAN1135]

Still feel that way

[@keynanmartinez]

@@VULCAN1135 sometimes I blame God but he has plans for all of us.

[@digital.frenchy]

Good for you that at least you look younger ;). I'm 42 years Old and i wasted both my 20's and 30's so you see... lol

[@cooliipie]

Victim mentality is one of the most damaging things we can do to ourselves

[@fakename2956]

But how do you figure out what you really want? I know to try things but idk somethings take time to really like and others you like at first and end up hating

[@brian-cache]

Honestly you have to try things. I just got lucky because I didn’t think I would ever be in software but started to like it once I got going. Once you try different things you’ll start to see pretty quickly of what you like or don’t like. For example, when I decided to learn coding I told myself I would take 3 months to be consistently learning. If after those 3 months I realized I didn’t like it, then I would quit. Another example, I was thinking about going back to school for a masters because I didn’t have a career. So I said if I can consistently study for 3 months then I would continue to pursue it. I think I made it 3 weeks before I realized I hated it lol so I stopped.

[@osirismalu3394]

Hah😂😂 sometimes your passion does not pay the bill

[@brian-cache]

Facts!!

[@Hallo81398]

So you were forced to turn your life around because your wife got pregnant. Lemme tell you something: Many of us young men in our 20s, don't even get to get anyone pregnant. We even fail to get girlfriends in the first place. Dating has become much harder. You're lucky to be 35 and to have experienced dating before the internet and big social media ruined it. So for us young men, the motivator which is a girlfriend is just not there

[@iNVERTASES]

From my personal experience ( I'm 29 years old), I don't understand how people are struggling with this and the desire to have kids at a young age. My group of friends , 30 males, all varying in ages 24-36 , and growing up with them in the past 10 years, 90% of them have girlfriends, some were loyal others not so much. A few were into just hooking up, and that it. My group of friends would always go out , they had money because they worked as drivers or constructions. I feel like the people who can't get a girlfriend is due to them having no money, have other priority (college), and just not being extroverted enough ( or be surrounded by extroverted). Btw, my friends are in theere late 20's , and most of them are getting married, or have kids. Which is lame because those fun time in your early 20's slowly diminsh