4 Biblical Marks that Mean a Man Will Be a Curse Rather than a Blessing to You

If you are a Christian single woman looking for a godly husband, how can you avoid marrying a man who will be a curse rather than a blessing? Here are 4 biblical points to consider.
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[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

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[@danilaroche1156]

I love how you address women who want careers & don't recognize that motherhood involves wisdom. Many married women don't consider child bearing, breast-feeding, etc & think this renders them weak. It's insane. This video is pure gold.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

Amen, a Christian woman is anything but weak! When you do what Scripture requires as a woman, you know it takes strength from the Lord. So glad you found it useful! All glory to God! Proverbs 31:17, "She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong."

[@sunshinesunflowerz1647]

If he can't, or is unwilling to serve like Jesus, I don't want him. Return to Sender.

[@jesspz3780]

😂return to sender

[@smokingcrab2290]

If she's not willing to follow and trust my heart then I don't want her.

[@ForeverTogether219]

Great word today.. Kindness n loving Care goes a long way….💯

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@tory198511]

❤❤ Thank u Mark. You are correct I want a husband that if I'm doing something wrong, even if I don't want to hear it he will tell me the truth.

[@joanofarcxxi]

Thank you for this video. There are a LOT of men who don't like to know that they also have to submit to God and have the heart of a servant. They want to lord over women and want women to submit to them in order to control them and use them, and they want women to serve them. They say things like "the woman was made for the man, not the other way around". The mesosphere is frothing with these individuals. They also get very upset if you state that you want a financial stable gentleman, and will call you a gold digger and tell you that women want to be independent and equal, and therefore women should work and pay for half of everything. They also don't open doors, carry heavy things, or pump gas into the car. These are those guys who say they are Cristians and that women hate Christian men.

[@xicetrayx2023]

A lot of guys like myself struggle in the area that they are not financially fit for women like you. So because we know we can provide to a point and we’re working hard everyday to hopefully provide for a wife someday. The financially capable to provide is a bit intimidating. It’s not that we don’t want to provide and don’t work hard. It’s the lack of appreciation or understanding that some men aren’t going to have it all in the beginning. Some men absolutely will and that’s fantastic for them. I own my own business, work long hours every day and travel the country. But it’s not good enough for the women because they want a confident man. Then they want a man who leads, but then they want a man who can be emotionally mature but there’s a fine line that you have to tread carefully. Then you have to be willing to lay down your life for the woman which I know most of us guys would do in a heartbeat. There’s a lot of expectations and hard work that men have to put in to be the men these girls are looking for. It’s tiring and it’s not easy. One thing I’ve learned though is that behind every successful man is a loving and caring wife who pushes the man. Hence the Bible verse “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and gains favor from the Lord” So sometimes it takes time for a man to have that financial status you’re looking for and it can be achieved when he has the support of his woman. I’ve seen it be done in many marriages. It’s a beautiful thing. I think a lot of us men believe we’re expected to have it all before marriage because that’s what the women demand. It’s honestly what scares a lot of us genuinely good guys who love Christ. I’m not a man that women naturally find attractive. It takes a girl seeing my actions and my walk to realize the kind of guy I am. It sort of stinks cause that’s the only way I’m seen. And right now with my work no girl can see me for me. It’s a tough world we live in right now! We’re both attacked men and women alike in the spiritual realm. God bless you sister. You’ll find your man in due time, and realize you play a valuable role in the spiritual and physical success of a man. Find a man after Gods own heart who will love you for you and serve you at your saddest as well as your best. We’re out here I promise. And don’t worry about finances, God will provide. He’s proven this to me time and time again. I no longer worry like I used to. He always provides me what I need.

[@gracia130]

not all people professes they are Christians are true Christians. These people honor me with their lips but their hearts are far from me.( Matthew 15:8) Beloved, do not believe every spirit but test the spirits if they are from God, ( I John 4:1)

[@xicetrayx2023]

@@gracia130 amen 🙏 It goes much deeper than just believing with your mouth. Your walk has to prove your love for Christ. God bless you

[@gracia130]

@@xicetrayx2023 AMEN

[@marlyb176]

⁠ It’s unsettling to witness this recurring pattern among some pastors, where despite their anointing, gifts, and clear calling in other areas, they struggle with a spirit of misogyny. I’ve noticed that many of these men of God, though powerful preachers of the Word, often dehumanize or degrade women when it comes to issues concerning gender. They tend to subtly, or sometimes overtly, place the blame for the world’s evils on women, without addressing the harmful actions that men have committed in their roles of stewardship. These pastors often avoid holding men accountable for their sins, using carnal explanations or excuses for men’s wrongdoings. Meanwhile, they put the onus on women to ensure men don’t fall into temptation or sin. This imbalance makes me question how these pastors treat their spouses and women in their personal lives. What’s even more alarming is how this trend aligns with a deeper spiritual truth. After Adam and Eve ate the forbidden fruit, God declared that there would be enmity between the serpent and the woman. While Satan despises humanity because of God’s love for us, there seems to be a specific and pointed hatred toward women. Throughout history, women have often been oppressed, marginalized, and blamed, and it’s no coincidence. This spiritual hostility plays out in the way society and, sadly, even some church leaders treat women. It’s a pattern that reflects the serpent’s hatred for women and his attempts to diminish their value and role, all while distracting from the accountability that should be placed on both men and women equally.

[@GabyDee7]

Thank you Mark. So much clarity given in this video that will be a blessing to woman in knowing if a man is sent from God.

[@dingding2487]

True and insightful! Thanks brother Mark!

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

My pleasure!

[@JesseOaks-ef9xn]

We have many examples of leadership in the Bible. Leaders lead the way, pushing people is not leadership. Be a good example, have courage to speak when it is necessary, and putting yourself between those we love and harm are leading.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

Yup. Leaders go first.

[@smokingcrab2290]

Women need to listen and stop fighting their men. Women need to stop assuming command. Women need to respect the man's decisions.

[@xicetrayx2023]

Pray for me to not be passive. I’ve gotten so much better but I have definitely been brainwashed in the happy wife happy life nonsense. I desire to be a true Son of God and this is one area I lack. Like I said I’ve gotten better but I have a ways to go. I don’t want to be weak.

[@MaryDunford]

Happiness is subjective. As a Christian, peace and contentment are the ideal. These are the responsibility of both men and women. That means your chosen partner is just as responsible for ensuring your happiness as you are for her's. Being open, communicative, and ensuring your own needs are met is actually an indicator to any smart and healthy woman that you know how to prioritize. If a woman tries to bulldoze her own wants at your expense that's a lifelong nightmare waiting to happen. You have to live with you for the rest of your life. Choose wisely. Hope this helps. Stay blessed. 😊

[@taichivillaruel9114]

I would say that if a Christian woman is a truly remarkable and mature one, she would want to be led. She'll defer to you, forcing you to decide for both of you. She's waiting for you to make a move so if you sense that in her, make a move. You just know it. Also, they don't want to tell you what they want all the time because they feel that they're being too demanding; they just wait for the man to do that without them saying what they want. Believe me, that's very effective and that'll increase your masculinity. Of course, every woman is different, but I think overall, a mature, amazing Christian woman displays such character. They're like that not because they have to nor it serves as their practice ground(though to some extent, it is), but because THEY WANT TO. I hope this helps, my brotha.

[@taichivillaruel9114]

By the way, in conjunction with what I said, your future wife doesn't want you to adapt to the slogan "Happy wife, happy life" because that implies being a pushover. She doesn't want that, if she's mature and a Proverbs 31 woman.

[@xicetrayx2023]

@@taichivillaruel9114 exactly, pushovers the word 🤦🏻‍♂️ Like I said I have grown a ton but I’m such a tender hearted and gentle guy that it gets in the way of standing firm though I have noticed big changes recently in that area because of what God has been pulling me through. Praise God!

[@taichivillaruel9114]

@@xicetrayx2023 I believe that God is currently sanctifying you to be moulded to become a great husband. You just know that you changed more because you already did it. I support you, brotha!

[@dianagentile7636]

Excellent video Brother Mark 🙏🏽 Collective… Keep GOD First ☝🏾in Ur Life & Always follow Gods Ten 🔟 Commandments! Stay Blessed Always 🥰 🙏🏽🙏🏼🙏🏽❤️❤️❤️

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

I'm taking all the steps necessary to get on my own and financially stable so I can provide protect and care for my future wife. Leadership doesn't mean the woman serves the leader. It's the opposite. Leadership means you're serving those under your care. It means every problem is your fault. Gotta take responsibility even if it's not your fault because leadership means solutions oriented. Can't play the blame game. I've got enough jive Turkeys lipping off about me with no real knowledge about me. I'm going to go through a period of isolation. No friends no relationships pure training and work for at least a couple months after I move out.

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

For example Today at work I was spacing out and tired during announcements and I looked rude as hell. If the guy addresses it I will apologize and do better. Today was just shit from the beginning. Did okay on my shift but could have improved.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

I don't think isolation is wise. Proverbs says iron sharpens iron and if one falls alone, nobody is there to help him up, but two can keep warm together, referring to sleeping next to each other to prevent unaliving due to hypothermia. By all means, stay single for as long as you want/think you should, but don't walk away from friends, just make sure your friends are positive role models if they will be having an influence on you.

[@ChristopherNabours-xd1gz]

@@Orquet-qj2nf oh well. Unless the hot Mexican Christian babe I like calls me up or DM's me i dont care. I don't trust People. I'd rather fall by myself then with fake friends.

[@80sbabyruth]

Awesome word! Thank you for the encouragement ❤❤❤

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

You are so welcome! God bless and glory to him!

[@CupcakeChan2611]

I love this video I love how Mark explained so nicely

[@shilohwoods4516]

Yes, a man is to sacrifice for a woman. But what everyone forgets is the Bible says prior for we are to submit to each other. Also women give their lives to their husbands every time she lies with him in the marriage bed. A man can kill a woman in the act of sex. So a woman gives her life to her man every time they are intimate. It is the ultimate trust that a woman gives to her man.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Because of porn, so many men forget that sex can kill a woman through pregnancy. This day and age, we have made great strides in medical treatment which has saved countless women from death in childbirth, but the danger is still present. She still may have much suffering offering her body. Most men today treat sex like it’s a snack, easy peasy fun..and it should be fun, and can be a ‘quickie’, but the woman still pays for it, unlike a man. Men make the mistake of thinking sex is the same for women as it is for men. They complain she is unwilling and it’s a total lack of concern for her when he does not approach her body without proper respect. The womb is a sacred space where a whole human is made. The prevailing attitude about sex in the world today is abhorrent as much as it is demonic.

[@shilohwoods4516]

@@sonofhibbs4425 well said!! Thank you!

[@smokingcrab2290]

This is the most pitiful attempt at victimizing a woman I've ever seen

[@MaryDunford]

Neither tyrant nor doormat be.

[@JP-ll8iy]

Finding this out right now! Jesus help ❤😢

[@andreamegec9836]

Brother Mark if a man doesnt protect a future wife/girlfriend, doesnt pray over her, doesnt respect God and is emotionaly immature in his 40's, and affraid, is it advisable to not marry ? 🙏🏻🥺

[@JillCee]

I think you just answered a lot of your own questions. A good man will add to your sense of self, not detract from it.

[@andreamegec9836]

@@JillCee 🙏🏻🔥🕊️💖

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I think you know the answer :)

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

Oof, no. He's not marriage material. He has no business even dating and if he can't recognize that, he is super dangerous.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

It will get worse, not better. The good things will become rarer and the worst will not go away, but become worse. It's nothing but downhill if he scoffs at God. 2 Timothy 3:1-5 is about "Christian" men. He sounds like one, if he doesn't respect God. If he is a "Christian" who doesn't respect God, he is more dangerous than an atheist. My husband is a "Christian" who doesn't respect God. He lied about who he was. He drank himself into liver damage and he talks to Satan, thinking he's talking to Michael the Archangel. And worst of all, he sins with impunity, thinking he can do whatever he wants with no consequence because he thinks he's forgiven. And we went to church together years before we got married. Then after, the mask came off. If he doesn't respect God, there is no good future with him. You can stay with him if you want to, but you may end up having to flee for your life like I did. Your instincts are screaming at you. They are trying to keep you safe. If you try to make everybody happy, you will make no one happy. In fact, in response to being told to put himself in harm's way, Jesus told Satan not to put God to the test. It is biblically forbidden to put yourself in harm's way to see how much God will protect you. I know you probably haven't been told that, I sure wasn't, but I'm warning you now. Stay safe. ❤

[@cherylrochs6560]

Great word. Loving ❤

[@roenGOD]

Full of Wisdom

[@RoyalSpringsMusic]

PRAISE GOD! thank you for giving REAL authentic biblical wisdom!!!!

[@midlander4]

Yeah riiiiiiggghht 😂

[@shanicebrown7113]

EXACTLY 💯 💯 💯

[@bonniescully4150]

🙌 thank you

[@ptownbandchick]

What are your thoughts about Ephesians 5:21-33. And specifically how does verse 21 fit into the biblical marriage.

[@tracyoguntokun4284]

Amen 🙏✝️🙏🕊️✝️🤍

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@tammywilliams3869]

Amen, 🙏 very true!

[@andreamegec9836]

If he is lukewarm after many years relatoinship, doesnt chase God, listen all comandments , doesnt have life goals ,and doesnt lead me as future wife. We are celibate. Is it wise to marry , since we are not equally jolked? 😢everybody tell us just marry

[@buyerbware25]

If he does not follow the commandments, he cannot "lead a sister." There is a commandment against adultery. You will be lonely if you allow him to have a place in your personal life, and that is why you asked.

[@andreamegec9836]

​@@buyerbware25❤😢yes Im indeed lonely, he is not consistent, and does not fight/pursue for me, Im tired of this hot and cold 😢

[@danilaroche1156]

The bible is clear not to marry someone your unequally yoked with. You don't want a lukewarm brother. You will suffer tremendously. Don't listen to these people. Obey the WORD. You want a man who loves the Lord with all his soul.

[@andreamegec9836]

@@danilaroche1156 🙏🏻🙌🏻❤️‍🔥🌺yes, and God placed that on my heart, he said Efesians 5 25. Im still hopeing God will clean his heart.❣️

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

You know what to do. You just need to do it :)

[@danilaroche1156]

The brother I like prayed for me on his job, in front of his colleagues. He's very bold & I liked that.He confided to me that he was having health issues. This was 2 weeks ago. He took sick leave from work. Noone from work has heard from him. Should i get his address and send a card telling him I'm praying for his recovery? Is that chasing? He was very interested in me.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

I think reaching out is fine. Just my opinion. If he knows your thinking of him this might spark his pursuit

[@danilaroche1156]

Thanks Mark. You are very much appreciated.

[@marlenelindsey7638]

It’s perfectly ok to reach out to him. It’s an invitation that when you’re well and ready, I would love to hear from you said in 3 words: keeping you in prayer!

[@danilaroche1156]

The man I'm interested in has completely recovered! We spoke briefly as he was working. I hope to hear from him soon. I don't care at this point for romance. I just want to continue to pray with him and go to church together. Pray for our relationship!

[@downtowndior]

Amen!

[@carlosmelendez8263]

Amen

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@taichivillaruel9114]

NO! NOOOOOO!!!!! Don't make your wife your slave! Jesus will be mad at you because leaders are meant to serve people! (Matthew 20:25-28)

[@I_am_Cloe]

What if he is the kind of man that calls his mom to let her know that "he made it safely" anywhere he goes and just never tries to understand your point against his family ? Should I be patient because he says he'll change?

[@MaryDunford]

I'd let him grow up first. Enabling his dependency isn't loving or kind. It's also unreasonable to expect a boy to protect a woman. That's just my opinion, tho.

[@marlenelindsey7638]

Be careful

[@Szpak-123]

The first part sounds like he's trying to give a overly worried mother some peace of mind. If he doesn't call, the mother will probably be calling him, so there may be no way to get out of it.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

​@@Szpak-123Phones come with a handy block feature. He can say no to his mommy. His mommy can cut the umbilical cord. It's wrong. Just wrong to demand that from adult children, much less a married man who has a wife to be one flesh with.

[@username00009]

He won’t change, and you wouldn’t want him to. If he changes, you will always be the wedge between him and his mom. Better to walk away now and save your sanity.

[@tinag8774]

Amen 🙏🙌🙏

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

God bless!

[@emmasmith7590]

THIS.

[@BrewsterEdmund]

967 Chaim Lock

[@teachertimm]

Where is the balance between being a husband who has a servant heart and willing to give the ultimate sacrifice for his wife and standing up to a wife who emasculates and devalues her husband because of societal feminist culture?

[@xicetrayx2023]

Im sorry you’re going through that man. God bless you, sending a prayer to Jesus for your situation.

[@MaryDunford]

Does this woman also claim to be Christian? That's really toxic behaviour. There's no balance in a relationship like that. There never will be. Don't expect it. It will likely just get worse. Beyond that, I don't know what your conscience tells you but pay attention. Female abusers are just as dangerous as males. Please look into it for yourself. I'm praying for you.

[@teachertimm]

@@MaryDunford She does claim to be Christian.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

Do not allow her to emasculate you. Tell her NO. Set the boundary. You don’t even have to yell or be angry, you simply walk away after you communicated (this is KEY-communication, clear and concise) that you won’t stand for being abused. You were too allowing and giving. Pull back. The Lord was never a doormat in his love. Jesus didn’t wave a magic wand to those who disrespected and demanded stuff of him (selfishness). He was and is calculated in His giving. Are you afraid to set a boundary because you’re afraid she will leave? Are you afraid if that happens it shows some lack of value in yourself? You may be making the ‘sin’ of Adam, in that he thought so much of what he gets from Eve that he neglects giving what is The Lord’s only- obedience to HIM, only. Both husband and wife are to be The Lord’s. It’s not a trickle-down lordship. Natural leadership of the man is guidance, like how the mind decides to move out of what’s best for his body, not demands and usage. There are men who abuse their body because it makes them feel more manly to do so, and then there are men who nourish their body and exercise it to be effectively efficiently strong-fir the good of every part within that body. If in doing so, he hurts his foot, he stops to nourish and care for that foot. He doesn’t continue to walk on it sore and feel macho for ignoring the issue and so destroying it. Are you certain your wife emasculates and devalues you because of ‘’societal feminist culture’’? Or is that a knee-jerk supposition you learned from guy talk circles? If you truly love your wife, you will try and seek out the real cause for her behavior and not just dismiss it as this or that pop-psychology tag. Your comment doesn’t reveal your feelings towards her, but if you have ill-feelings towards her, she will feel it and act out, Many men err towards that accusation when they think total control over her should be theirs. ‘’Like Christ loved the church’’…. Think of Christian church history. There are loads of examples of what not to do, but The Lord still worked through tainted venues. I do not say any of this in accusation, but as a self check and edification. If she truly is abusive to you, towards your graciousness, then it’s something that you need to make a boundary towards that behavior. The Lord is patient and kind way more than the best saint on earth, but He also is omnipresent-we are not. I hope you are asking The Lord in prayer for guidance and not just other people who are also not omnipresent. Iron sharpens iron, but seek The Lord in full over this issue.

[@teachertimm]

@@sonofhibbs4425 Thank you for your feedback. Yes, she did leave. She had several "emotional" affairs online, complete with pictures. A few people who know her and are LMFT's say she is absolutely a narcissist. Her own biological sister believes my wife has been emotionally abusive to me.

[@richdelaney9500]

What if a man like me (who has not yet been called to preach...perhaps never called to preach) is drawn towards a woman who only desires to marry a preacher or a missionary? On top of that, I believe that our pastor only wants to allow a man and a woman to marry one another if both of them are going to serve God full-time at his local church. Does seem odd to anyone reading this?

[@midlander4]

Well it's all standard xtian garbage, so what do you expect?

[@Szpak-123]

you wrote: On top of that, I believe that our pastor only wants to allow a man and a woman to marry one another if both of them are going to serve God full-time at his local church. Sound like a cult.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

Your pastor is insane. Your pastor has no business treating his church like he's playing Sims.

[@Jayar_]

I’m not trying to be contentious for the sake of it, but I want to challenge your #1. If marriage is supposed to be a reflection of Christ and the church, I think the proper understanding is that Jesus served by leading, not lead by serving. Jesus died for the church, but he also lead the church, corrected the church when needed, and taught the church. So, the church would respond by following his leadership and teachings in obedience right? So, how would a woman (church) be in the wrong by serving a man (Christ) in this analogy? Why is a Christian man who wants the church to serve Christ a curse? Again, I’m genuinely trying to understand.

[@Friendly_Black_Hottie]

Your second sentence (and understanding ) seem to directly contradict the Scripture he shared at 01:37.

[@candycejordan4595]

The Bible says that the husband and wife serve each other. So I believe you are misunderstanding what he’s saying. He’s not saying that it’s wrong for the man to lead in the ways you describe, he’s saying that it’s a curse when a man “believes” he is a leader, but he’s not actually leading in a godly way, and he is also demanding that the wife serve him (only doing for him and he is not serving her as well).

[@Szpak-123]

The teaching of a husband ruling over his wife is a false teaching. I have a post explaining this. Reply if desired.

[@Orquet-qj2nf]

"It is the Gentiles [unsaved, wicked, pagan heathens] who lord their authority over others. It shall not be so among you. He who would be great among you must be your servant." - Jesus "Wives, submit to your husbands." It doesn't say, "Husbands, make sure your wives are submitting to you." The Bible also says to husbands to be respectful and considerate to the weaker vessel or else God won't hear your prayers. Oof. I think you should read the gospels. I don't think you know who Jesus is nearly as much as you should. Jesus got down on his knees and washed the feet of his disciples, a job usually done by the bottom of the pecking order, just like scrubbing toilets is.

[@atarijen]

no.. it is husband's responsibility to provide financially. If a woman does so it is considered charity.. God's law

[@midlander4]

Err which God?

[@atarijen]

@@midlander4 the one creator God

[@midlander4]

@@atarijen oh ok... Allah. Thanks for clearing that up.

[@atarijen]

@@midlander4 God of Bible

[@midlander4]

@@atarijen the one who drowns people? Gotcha.

[@rickybobby9797]

Christ “loved the church” by correcting them. “Service” was merely a tool to teach people how to generally interact with each other. Husbands are not to be servants to their wives by doing whatever things the woman “wants” from her husband. Nor is his job to “make her happy” as that is a trap. Marriage was never “traditionally” about romantic love as what is understood today-and Yeshua didn’t have those expectations either. The fact is society and the laws of the West do not recognize the Gods given authority of the husband over his family-and so, any Christian man who marries in the West will be subject to the wishes of his wife through government.

[@JillCee]

Reading scripture, it is clear that marriage is about both spouses serving one another. It can be reflected differently. It is about putting one another first, not about gaining the upper hand for either spouse.

[@ApplyGodsWordcomMarkBallenger]

This sounds like you've been going down the wrong reddit rabbit trails. I address the "happy wife, happy life" lie in this video. But you are projecting way too much authoritarianism. Christians are called to correct each other, so that is not a husband specific job. A husband shouldn't do whatever a woman wants, but you are mistaken to think her happiness is not a part of the equation. I feel as you are overcorrecting a very real problem. Yes, men should not be slaves. But you are projecting a different problem where some men act like the master

[@marlyb176]

And women were also property to their husbands in the biblical days. Some men would even give their daughters as rewards. If they felt a young man did something good for them. So you saying that marriage is not about love okay, but let’s look at how women were being treated, and why would you want something like that. Sorry to say, but individuals that think like you typically would be abusive because you have no desire to actually have a loving relationship with someone just someone that will serve you.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

There is a natural evolution of things when Christians are striving towards bringing Heaven to earth through our service to Christ (“..on earth as it is in heaven…’’). When rules were set up, it was to bring efficiency in keeping people in line with what is worthy of respect, but Christ showed when he pointed out the hypocrisy of the Pharisees when they took more to the rule than the spiritual reasons behind them. Treating marriage like a jail cell (without romantic love) is not bringing Christ’s love on earth. It is not ‘’heaven’. In Holy Scripture heaven is represented as things related to marriage-the marriage feast, the marriage bed and marriage in general... Why oh why have you made it cold and dry and devoid and you even think Christ puts his stamp of approval on this? Is that Who Christ Jesus is to you? Remember that children witness the way a couple is in marriage and it sets the tone for them as how they will view it. How does this cold and devoid of romance ‘’duty-focused’’’ view inspire anyone? Yes, there is duty, but it should be infused with a Devine eternal flame of love. Holy Scripture even says that if you do not have love, you are nothing. Your post is a noisy gong and clashing cymbal

[@4Benji5]

Simply read Song of Songs or any of the declarations of love and of God making analogies of bridegrooms and brides and you'll see your error. Something being historical doesn't automatically make it a good example. The Bible is full of historical examples of human sin. As marraige is to reflect Christ and His Bride, love is very important. I hope you can bear with this teaching and receive the full picture! Yes there are a lot of incorrect cultural teachings but that doesn't cancel God's intentions. Oh and can't forget all of 1 Corinthians 13. Very easy to be a "clanging cymbal" but love does not demand its own way. God gives us plenty examples of healthy and stern boundaries without being a tyrant. Christ corrected others often exactly because of their lack of love so you are missing the point with His corrections as well.

[@ruanim509]

I love his videos (actually made playlists, to help many others too, and reminders for us🤍).. Glory to Jesus for his life and his family. Pray for them too, for the 'united' body of Christ.💫🤍

[@annaisaderp1581]

I found a man… that says no to me. And let me tell you… GAME CHANGER dude. Truly have sooo much respect. He’s very stern and will stand on his word… yet so gentle and will move mountains. Like… wow.

[@laurencastillo9741]

I'm praying God gives me the same one day..I need that so bad.

[@annaisaderp1581]

@@laurencastillo9741 the only thing I can tell you is stop looking. Work on yourself. And pray pray PRAY! Cause there is a reason for the wait. I’m not even sure if this is the man I’m supposed to end up with but he truly is a wonderful guy.

[@sonofhibbs4425]

A rarity. God has blessed you. When a woman easily can respect her man because he IS respectable, she is at ease and will not be a burden to him. Just as a Christian woman is devoted to The Lord- His love is a breath of fresh clean beautiful air and she will immediately be devoted to him. It’s the nature of woman. And it’s sad so many men get lost to this very simple manner: BE LIKE CHRIST. SEEK GOD FIRST.

[@annaisaderp1581]

@@sonofhibbs4425 thank you for your kind words. I’m excited to see where the Lord takes this.