4 Differences Between Good Friends and Toxic Friends

In this journey called “life”, you will not only meet good friends who are always there to support you, encourage you, and want the best for you. But also toxic friendships along the way who only perceive you as an opportunity for personal gain. One bad friendship will affect you physically, mentally and emotionally. So, how do we differentiate between a real friend and a "toxic" friend? Watch this video to find out. Also, if you get a chance, we did a video on Signs It's time To Let Go of A Best Friend here: • 6 Signs That it's Time...
Be sure to watch it too if you have a chance! The animation and points are really good!
Credits
Writer: Dawn Tan
Script Editor: Kelly Soong & Cindy Cheong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Mocha
KZbin Manager: Cindy Cheong
References:
Robbins, K. (2017). “11 Types of Friends You Will Have in Your Lifetime.” Retrieved from lifehack.org/articles/communication/11-types-friends-you-will-have-your-lifetime.html
Fucarino, C. (2018). “8 Types of Friends You Need to Have in Your Life.” Retrieved from lifehack.org/articles/communication/8-types-friends-you-need-have-your-life.html
Stedman, P. (2016). “The Four Types of Friends You’ll Make in Your Life.” Retrieved from patstedman.com/2016/01/13/making-friends-4-types/
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[@Psych2go]

Happy Sunday everyone! Are you the good friend or toxic friend? Curious, but comment below!

[@deadaccount8054]

I don't have any friends imao

[@daisy4803]

I love your videos I want to be a therapist some day and love mental health thank you for making these amazing videos I am the friend that keeps your secrets and helps when you are down but I have had toxic friends but not anymore

[@spencer_j._]

I'm a good friend

[@myaalvarez9157]

I’m the good friend ☺️

[@yui-hz9vu]

Hi

[@yourmankermit4275]

*I'm trying to make sure I'M not the toxic friend*

[@gabrielle2176]

You too

[@eb0nys]

Omg sameee

[@gabrielle2176]

I think we all want to know if we are toxic or not =w='

[@kokichi2743]

Same

[@gabrielle2176]

They all say the "same" thing (Fuck my joke.)

[@nrrdiNr]

"do you have a friend who..." -no

[@BoeEye]

Your pfp makes this so much better

[@hodalashen929]

I have the inly two fake toxic bitches my bffs😢😢

[@awkwardshuichikinnie8430]

Hoda Lashen HECK NO SWEARING ALSO IMA BE YOUR FRIEND NOONE’LL HURT U ANYMORE >:C Idc if I’m being weird U JUST NEED SOMEONE TO HUG U

[@avocadosfrommexico4197]

Hoda lashen: You deserve a better friend🥺. My friend was bieng fake towards me and she would talk smack about me. And after all the support and confidence I gave her, in return me and my other friend would sometimes get used by her. . She was manipulating us😔.

[@awkwardshuichikinnie8430]

Shoto Todoroki I- lemme take u as my friend child u need actual support. U GONNA FEEL BETTER TRUST MEH >:€

[@StanChunghaOrGoHome]

I’ve cut out all toxic people in my life... and now I’m lonely and have no one.

[@murasaki1417]

Hey don't lose hope! I cut all of my toxic Friends and it's been around 7 months and I have found so many great friends who genuinely want to talk to me, It takes a while to find friends like this, just have patience and keep on trying. I believe in you!!!

[@missrani5656]

Hey you are pretty brave you did that proud of you girl we can be friends too

[@darcyliliana4907]

Girl same , the peace is different though

[@suchismita_2]

I got my first friend when I was 17. I'm 20 and we won't give up on each other. I'm lucky to have her in my life ❤️

[@dylanmeade9895]

Prob better that way happiness comes from the within

[@Airestotle09]

I feel like “good friends” dont exist anymore. And whenever you feel like you finally found a “good friend”, they end up throwing you under the bus.

[@jarenong]

LIKE ME

[@cienfleurr]

thats cause you don't know someone like me yet

[@naninuna7440]

seems like you're the common denominator, like you're the one looking for these people unknowingly. When your family is toxic you'll look for friends who make you fel the same, or at least theyre dramatic. When youre used to toxic people you'll get easily bored of the actual good people. it takes time to get used to feeling a certain way.

[@MASTEROFEVIL]

That's because humans are disgusting

[@Dregoon_Enderman]

And that's why I want to be the good friend to others it's challenging but it's possible.

[@Anonymous-rw8rx]

I always have this fear that I end up being the toxic one with my friends, they're always so nice to me and I feel like I'm always selfish. I don't mean to be, and when I ask them about it, they say I'm a great friend, buy I feel like they're lying. So I always watch these videos to check myself.

[@Psych2go]

Thanks for sharing! Would you like a video on "X Signs You're A Toxic Friend To Others" to help you find out more?

[@Anonymous-rw8rx]

@@Psych2go that would be very helpful!

[@rain-sk3kk]

oml same

[@isabellamathew9960]

I have same problem.

[@laurenlaforest]

@@Psych2go yes please!

[@xeno4693]

1. Good friends protect you when you’re vulnerable. Toxic friends only take, demands for a lot & give little back. 2. Good friends are trustworthy and accept you for who you are. Toxic friends give you praises to your face and stab you in the back. 3. Good friends are compassionate with you & others. Toxic friends give you false hope and impressions.

[@lyndsaybrown8471]

I was looking for the saint who lists. Thank you!

[@Psych2go]

Thanks Jotaro! Did we miss any?

[@danacarter9147]

@@lyndsaybrown8471 friends are not the only people who are toxic, your family can be toxic, also; so if you're a single parent, you will not only want to keep your children away from your family, you also want to surround them (your children) with good people, and especially, good friends.

[@xeno4693]

Psych2Go I don’t think so, this is a pretty good list. 😊

[@RemyWillard]

1. I don't know if I'm doing anything to be good or toxic. 2. I might be both good and toxic. Hopefully just good. 3. I'm probably both good and toxic, but the toxic is unintentional.

[@J1407b_b]

you're better off having no friends than toxic people who put you down constantly.

[@darkfire4045]

facts

[@DarianSalazarr]

Yup, my friends jumped one of my fake friends and trapped him in the locker lmao, my true friends inv me to a party and go to my partys my fake friend goes to other parties and not mine witch idc but its a sign he was fake.

[@yuno6097]

Yo guys should i drop my friends? Ever since quarantine started they have stopped calling to hang with them. They've been out when quarantine has been less strict and havent invited me. We still talk in discord but I feel left out bc I dont hang with them. Whenever they talk about plans and stuff, some of them kind of say it quietly bc I'm in the call and dont want me to hear it I guess. But I'm scared bc I dont want to be lonely in grad but with the pace of this, I feel like they are distancing themselves from me bc I'm not like them. After every call I always feel lonely bc they talk about the shit they did or what someone said in a group chat I'm not in and I'm just there.

[@J1407b_b]

@@yuno6097 bro I used to have friends just like that.... They didn't really let me join in on stuff... It eventually started to get worse to the point where they ignored me... And acted like I was annoying when i talked to them. After I realised that they didn't want me around I stopped hanging out with them. I felt a lot more better 🤔 drop them and start making new friends that won't make you feel left out 🙃

[@ipekbozac6730]

yes

[@justateapot3847]

Just gained enough courage to block my toxic friend today. Ask me anything.

[@daisyx1002]

How did you build the courage to block them ? I want to but I feel bad.

[@justateapot3847]

@@daisyx1002 it was honestly one of the hardest decisions I’ve ever made and I kept thinking to myself “maybe we can make it work again?” But I didn’t let it cloud my judgment. This may not sound healthy, but I kept thinking back to all the toxic aspects of our friendship, and it did help me to cut them off. I still think about them a lot and miss them everyday, but it’s getting better. Going back to look at their social media usually makes me feel worse though, so if you’re going to block them, do not look back. Don’t ever visit their page even if it’s just for nostalgic purposes, because then you’ll feel the urge to talk to them. And if they keep pestering and finding you to talk about it, just tell them straight up that you don’t want to be friends anymore and completely ghost them. They’ll get the message. Just don’t allow yourself to be manipulated again.

[@Santakiller303]

Happy for you! Hey, I’m dealing with a toxic trait and toxic environment so i want to know how can i handle myself not to become toxic and creating drama?

[@tanishkachavan1709]

How to remove toxic friends from life

[@tanishkachavan1709]

ACTUALLY I'm dealing with that ,I cannot directly block her because she has many of my secrets and she has blackmailed me with that already, what I just do is whatever happens talk nice to them if they don't talk nice to you back in 1 week just block them.....

[@lexeemaine2823]

Most of my friends just all talk about themselves and don't ever ask how I am.

[@Psych2go]

Sounds like your friend needs to be learn to be a good friend ..

[@letisiamariabuhai7950]

if u want u can tell me how u are i care :)

[@Lucky-ed4pk]

You should tell them that you are having a problem with this

[@Blanche_255]

Wow I literally have this problem with all my 'friends', they just talk about themselves without caring about anything I say. I feel like I'm just supposed to listen and give them the reaction they want to be considered their friend.

[@macandcheesegod0memes524]

my friends dont talk to me i dont even have a friend

[@xcloudyskyx5872]

When you don't have friends and just decided to watch this video for extra information-

[@gayxenomorph5306]

Omg me ♾

[@alexandre1321]

@@gayxenomorph5306 but who need friends?

[@mifinkmaybe2149]

I dont have friends *they dissapoint me*

[@damienchiew4074]

Same here haha 🤣 wanna be my friend?

[@alexandre1321]

@@damienchiew4074-_-

[@NjorunsDream]

“Vent for hours” is a little much. A lot of us can’t handle that much negativity being dumped on us because of our own hardships, it’s just too much. That doesn’t make us toxic. I definitely try to hold space for my friends to vent and let their negative emotions out in a healthy way, but I have to take care of myself too. If all you do every time you talk to me is either amuse yourself or vent for hours and complain, then you are the toxic friend here. I need reciprocation that I can vent too without interruption, and that we also talk about positive things like hopes and dreams and things we’ve learned.

[@jaysew1099]

AGREE

[@hhiippiittyy]

A toxic friend will vent for hours regardless of it's effect on you. A good friend will recognize the psychological limits of their friends and not lean on them emotionally to the point of breaking.

[@chkn0197]

I never vent because I feel selfish for even doing a little bit, but yes i totally agree

[@alexrose1464]

When we want to rant we ask the other "do you in the right headspace for me to rant?"

[@lunamoone5231]

Agreed

[@aqua2186]

True friends: Really deep conversations Me and my best friend: Conversation about potatoes that lasts two hours

[@oceanicmage]

That’s Good

[@donnalee.]

Potatoes are extremely important

[@justanintrovertwithcooldp7]

Potatoes for the win!!

[@TamNguyen-rx1co]

Potato of potata :)

[@thesquidmafia8275]

TRUE

[@wilburpinkerton2171]

“a good friend accept you for who you are” My friend and I: **weird noises**

[@jacy9234]

Me and my best friend: burp in front of each other, say weird things and laugh about the silliest stuff. But then we know we can always talk about anything that is happening in our lives XD

[@henryR2006]

I feel like this list is feminine because there is an expectation on guys that they can’t show their emotions.

[@tia5827]

Fried Fish I’m a girl and I’m comfortable with being weird in front of them, but I never talk about my problems or show my emotions, I just listen to theirs

[@henryR2006]

some person I mean that there is an expectation to always be fine. Just look at the video and see that most of them wouldn’t fit in the “expected male personality”. Not saying I like it of course, but guys are made fun of for showing emotion.

[@henryR2006]

some person but also in society there is an expectation on women that they can’t be mad. If a guy got mad and threw his keys he would be “committed”, but it a girl was assertive she would be thought of as a drama queen. Society has unrealistic expectations on everyone.

[@PowerMatrixAnime]

Toxic friends gaslight you when you catch them in lies or red-handed.

[@Oreo-vh7rk]

Maddy from Euphoria is quaking

[@eisa_6185]

Omg so true

[@anumitachakrabarty1]

That hit too close to my feels. 😭 I still can't get over her. Yet I know she's not good for me. 😢

[@keplermission4947]

@@anumitachakrabarty1 you've not got what she needs. But you remember what you need. Just admit you're not as accomplished as you'd need to be to get her. You learned you're just chicken scratch.

[@alexsilk5648]

I confronted some toxic friends and listed a bunch of things they did that made me feel depressed - rather than listen and take what I said on board, they just blamed my autism and left

[@kaiwishes3567]

I have been trying to make my life more healthy in friends and relationships this account has been really helping thank you

[@letisiamariabuhai7950]

these are amazing news 🥰🥰

[@medievalshadows2836]

i thought i had a friend at the skatepark but when i got a new skateboard setup he ended up using me and had another buddy so i would get set up i wanted to cry because i didiny even know what was happening at the time and he didint tell me till weeks later when i told em i was depressed and he kept being mean to me

[@yoursinsweighuponyoursoul]

MedievalShadows awwwh I feel bad for u I am so sorry for your depression :(

[@johnstrong9744]

The most dangerous toxic friend is the one who pretends to care. Only to betray you later

[@MASTEROFEVIL]

I've been there

[@tinx315]

Yes

[@gloves6807]

YES 👏 I’m dealing with one of those right now

[@-.starfilled_galaxy.-]

Happened to me 20 times over

[@thiagogregory1]

Agreed

[@deirdretynan1781]

SUMMARY: 1)Good friends will protect you when you're vulnerable 2) Good friends are trustworthy & accept you for who you are 3) Good friends are mature & responsible. 4) Good friends are compassionate with you and with others

[@shamartist7593]

I am a really toxic friend, and I just realized it

[@stonkers7703]

I agreed with you until number 3, I think that a friend doesn’t have to be mature to be a good friend they can often be immature and still have all the qualities to be a good friend.

[@eugene9133]

@@shamartist7593 act on it, and improve.

[@noodle3586]

Thanks for the answers for my school work 😂

[@-.starfilled_galaxy.-]

@@stonkers7703 It's a summary of the hecking video- complain to the script makers not the commenter -.-

[@tobeeey_2860]

A good friend once said: "when it hasn't been your day, your weeky, your month or even your year, but i'll be there for you"

[@moon_on_the_clouds]

Wahoo! An excuse to watch "Friends" -- thank you!

[@luissaavedra6116]

What is a weeky?

[@USSJ2Otaku3084]

Do they sing while saying it too?

[@bobbiellison4315]

@@luissaavedra6116 in this country, we call that a typo

[@chloeb9893]

It hurts to realize that a friendship is one-sided, or that your friend is toxic for you. But you care too much about them to hurt them, even if it hurts you.....

[@bshamru14]

Ahhh....I feel you .

[@chloeb9893]

@@stacyplay__ Yeah. it sucks

[@socialanxiety9153]

That’s what’s happening with me and one of my dearest friends right now. I don’t want to let them go, but I probably should. They’ve already deteriorated my mental health so much.

[@Treemx23]

@@socialanxiety9153 same, i realized, that on one hand, my friend probably made my life 200% better and gave me a better view of the world, but on the other hand he rly messed up my self-consciousness. He always tells me, that i should get a gf, but he do not even realize, that he is the reason i do not have one

[@lizzie_YTV]

I feel you😊

[@avedisttv]

when you have good friends but see them turn into bad friends throughout the years.

[@meowmeowdefnotafurry]

hurts the most, i had a friend let go of me for this, ive been trying to be better to them since but no one around them is willing to give me the chance to show them ive changed. ive been through therapist and neurologists to better myself, and although they cant trust me and i understand why its just so depressing to have to let go of all the good memories ive had with them

[@heet69690]

Exactly me

[@heet69690]

I was there 10 min ago. Some shit happened and i finally blocked them. Now I watched this video to strengthen my resolve. The worst thing is that I don't think I have any good people at school. They always make fun of me. But it's fine, I will be alone. I have been with these friends for 3 years. They slowly became toxic. I even tried to tell them not to but they say that they are just joking and I am being dramatic. Now when I responded calmly and gave comebacks they snapped and are picking from me. And one friend who pretends to care but talks behind back is telling to stop. When they abuse me, he didn't tell them to stop. Instead he was laughing and making fun of me. I have had enough. Perhaps I just don't deserve friends. I am short, have average looks, and am middle class. Though my academic ability is far higher than theirs and I didn't pick up on that they make fun of me for my height and say I will never get a gf and say I have small pp. Yup that's the hell I was living in

[@ainsleyharriott2209]

This cuts deep... literally all of my oldest friends have turned out in later years to be major backstabbers and petty traitors who hate to see others do well. Depressing world.

[@anisao4805]

Honestlyyy I have been friends with them for 4 years and everything was good now they just started to avoid me and not even talk to me anymore

[@Love_Dearly]

I always have trust issues whenever I'm trying to make friends or someone trying to make friends with me.

[@lololil315]

YuzuIsMyName QwQ I feel you

[@tincabiancaioana4154]

Same. And I am always ask why I am so cold and why I "hate" a "new friend" in our group, but I just need more time to trust a random dude that appear from nowhere.

[@ifrahjama2215]

Sameeee

[@Tiffany-px2fp]

Yeeppppp

[@maddiethechristianvampire874]

Same

[@shimmypolkaroo]

I avoid most toxic friendships (or know when one is turning toxic) by being my own good friend first. This way, I know my boundaries and can choose accordingly. To be a good friend, I practice the golden rule: be to others as you would like them to be to you.

[@lephantomchickn3676]

Nice, I've got a whole group of toxic narcissist friends (or rather had)

[@greendragon2875]

What did you say??? I kinda have that problem, two very toxic "friends".. But in a year I'll be moving away, so I'm wondering if I should just not talk to her and be a little cold so she gets the point and then I move away and never have to talk to her again. One year is a long time tho..

[@leya3333]

@@greendragon2875 and that’s why I wish quarantine was still going on smh

[@lephantomchickn3676]

@Pierre Robin had

[@lephantomchickn3676]

@@greendragon2875 Don't play implication games, that hurts everyone in the long term. Just be curt about it when the time comes.

[@gracemaureen4547]

I’m sorry you had the same experience. I just lost two of my bridesmaids cause they kept starting fights with myself and my family members..... we will grow with this experience. Hope you’re ok

[@Trahslord]

I think my toxic trait from what I learned in this videos is that I do a lot for someone I care and when they cannot give me the same care I get upset. Everyone has a toxic trait and that is okay, I feel like people need to accept it and try to fix it or at least comprehend it. By just calling someone toxic and shutting them down and not bringing up a conversation, keeps the the habit on an ongoing cycle,

[@-k1ts0-97]

When you notice that you're the good friend and most of you're friends are toxic.

[@texasrepublic2332]

Same lmao

[@ellalawani1271]

Exactly! I just don’t know how to feel now

[@inspirationwithnoexpiratio629]

I kinda realized this earlier and it's mostly because of two reasons that I think some of you here will probably recognize, 1. I never tried to indicate my problems to my friends (until now ._.) 2. My friends.... aren't really the notice and ask type, they emphasize by talking about themselves for the most part and whatever I told them before they emphasized about it is on the dead end on the conversation.

[@unawareblob]

omg finnally, someone in the world understands TwT

[@marielil4]

When you realise everyone around you is toxic... even your family.

[@taylord5381]

Shall I be the exception?

[@JerryO15]

So sad that this comment is so true. I realize that after my divorce and learned the hard way that loving myself is the only way to live a happy life.

[@mammoneysimp6940]

Like my dad. Its already 11 years now.not even a happy birthday. isn't he a CARING DAD. I'm sick of all the happy fathers day stuff on my phone. He didn't just ALMOST killing my mother but he left my mom and me for 11 years and mom still thinks he's a good person.god bless her.

[@mammoneysimp6940]

@Williams Jack Lopez Castro my mom is the best therapy :)

[@JerryO15]

Williams Jack Lopez Castro true words. I wished I learned that earlier though because it would had given me a chance to have a more meaningful life. I would had stop wasting time with women, meaningless interactions with friends and go into a field that I can help others without expectations.

[@gingerlemon865]

Got rid of my toxic friends my doing the "fade out." I didn't completely cut them out (to avoid drama) I just stopped being so frequent with them. Our conversations became super casual until they got bored enough to leave on their own. They slowly faded out of my life.

[@hankiedave]

That's good! There's so many other great and amazing people you can be friends with, all you gotta do to determine wether a person is good or bad, is by observing. Hang in there!♡

[@OsnackieO]

That’s what I’m currently doing. I’m not in any way afraid of conflict, but I won’t fight because I want out, and I’m more than done. She doesn’t get it since I’m the great friend to her. I have chipped away at myself for too long, enough now. Not wasting any energy on that anymore. I deserve better. 😊💖

[@TheRedTigon]

kissedbyfire probably better than me, i ghosted a toxic friend with no warning- oops

[@evagand]

I completly cut someone out of my life, wish I could've done it slowburn. Turns out things are a bit more complicated when the person you're trying to leave behind is your own mother.

[@OsnackieO]

Evagand yeah, I’m unfortunate enough to have that one too, but it’s my dad... and actually most of my dysfunctional ass family. But I’m much happier without their bullshit, so that’s something. 🤗😅😭💖 just wish I didn’t feel so shitty, guilty and self doubting about it though.

[@unknown-lf6zx]

I find its harder with my girls that are friends. However I find that my girlfriends that are quieter, more reserved and kind, are the best. The ones that have to be center of attention or only talk about themselves or others are ones you have to stay away from. I've spent hours and lots of energy on people that could care less about me. I won't make that mistake again. I truly love my friends but at this age, I can't pour from empty cups or take abuse and drama

[@kcc235]

Good friends 1. Good friends protect you when you're vulnerable. 2. Good friends are trustworthy and accept you for who you are. 3. Good friends are mature and responsible. 4. Good friends are compassionate with you and others. Toxic friends 1.Toxic friends only take, demand a lot and give little back. 2. Toxic friends give praises to your face and stab you in the back. 3. Toxic friends are reckless and immature. 4. Toxic friends give you false hope and impressions.

[@Psych2go]

Do you want to add to this list?

[@keplermission4947]

No. That's silly, manipulators do the 'good friend' stuff, it's called 'love bombing'. Then later they do the toxic stuff. It's a game of you against them. The more clever they are, the more dangerous.

[@kcc235]

@@keplermission4947 agreed

[@nauka7565]

Thanks, I think I'm a friend

[@theliberation9061]

I'm missing two important elements here: 1. They are *present* when you need them and actually care about you. This sort of made an appearance but just in passing, while this is really a key point. I had multiple "friends" in the past who seemed to not care much when I needed them or counted on their support, even though they more or less fit the other points here, often covering it with layers of elegant-sounding, high-horse phrases. 2. They do not just turn on you. This may seem obvious, but this happens more often than I had ever expected, and have had two traumatic situations in the last year alone when someone I considered a rather close friend just completely turned against me with no second chances - in both cases they lost it after I got slightly upset over them defending something awful. It's incredibly toxic and those are the people who usually have built up an entire ideology to "prove" that the whole escalating situation was somehow your fault when you thought it was just a disagreement.

[@nightingale_es]

The 2nd point... I relate to that a lot. My best friend was extremely toxic to me for no apparent reason, and that put me thru major depression for such a long time, even affecting my academic performance... But after a year he finally owned up to his mistakes and apologized to me and explained why he did that to me. If only he opened up to me a little bit earlier... But yeah at least we're on good terms now, altho the past really still hurts bcoz it was almost a traumatizing experience for me

[@jakeblinkk3453]

Deborah N you’re genuinely brave forgiving your best friend!! I can totally relate to losing a best friend I know it sucks :(( I also lost a best friend of 10 years and went through depression and anxiety. However, I didn’t go back to being friends as she negatively impacted my life (as she was also being toxic to me )to the point where my grades and everything went down. I decided to cut her off as she was treating me so badly. Anyways, I hope you guys are still on good terms and that the past is behind you!!!

[@nightingale_es]

@@jakeblinkk3453 I genuinely wish I could let the past just stay behind me but for some reason it's constantly haunting me... Yeah we are on good terms but we barely talk anymore. Sure it felt weird since we went from being chatty 24/7 to almost silence all the time, but somehow... I got used to it, sadly. And it's very heartbreaking to say... That I actually feel better this way. I decided to let go and pretend as if we're just normal friends and nothing special happened between us. It's hard at first, but I needed to do this for myself. I was hurting, but as I let go, I'm finally feeling so much better. I'm happier on my own, and idk if this counts as sth unfortunate or not. Wow I almost cried typing this but honestly, I don't miss him at all. That past experience is just too traumatizing for me that I don't wish to go back to how close we were anymore. I'm way too scared of being hurt that way ever again, esp considering it came from someone whom I once thought of as the dearest person to me :'(

[@nightingale_es]

@@jakeblinkk3453 thank you for your words, and I'm sorry for your loss as well. But I hope you're doing much better right now. We don't need toxic people in our lives, is what I figured. Stay strong ♥️

[@lephantomchickn3676]

I had the second one the same, except it was 3 (maybe 4) people at once

[@snyderstudios9547]

I've been holding onto a friend for 4 years now only to find they only want to boast about themselves and never care about my mental health and problems. This video really helped me see the difference between right and wrong.

[@osse1n]

*The realest ones don't have a lot of friends*

[@roxy2492]

You're right about that. I used to hate myself for not being able to have more than 1 friend and because of that I resented people who seemed to have so many fiends on social media. But I've come to realize that 1 real friend is better that 100 internet friends. But maybe I'm overreacting after all I'm only 13. Maybe I'll have more friends in the future :)

[@romella_karmey]

That's me. I only have 2 real friends. My bestfriends. And I don't need many. Because a million friends is useless if nobody is real.

[@h.shaman9815]

The realest and the smartest 😉

[@katiearbuckle9017]

@@roxy2492 Yeah most of those "Internet Friends " are just people who only want content or want to hate on you later. Like not many of them will DM you daily. So for now stick with the one until you get older and get more authentic with yourself as well, and then figure out relationships. It doesn't hurt to practice but the roller coasters that come with the territory are nothing to be jealous about, I am 28. And I got only a few people I hang out with too even with a big social media base. You're doing just fine. And yeah you will have more in the future.... I think out of RL friends that I consider "Good Stable Friends" I only have 4. One of them is my Partner. And online I don't think it's 100 but more like 26. I also count Family lol.

[@m_aX-mann]

Yes, usually introverts are the best friends, because they don't have so many.

[@charming_boy1016]

when you have a 2 faced friend that gossips about you but u think you dont know but u do: you may have outsmarted me, but i outsmarted your outsmartness

[@marjorie5677]

Same

[@michellejohn8749]

They always make u feel like nothing

[@namlamadni5718]

Toxic friends give you praises to your face and stab you in the back. What about the ones who say thing's about you in your face, and they don't even feel guilty about it even after seeing your reaction to certain compliments they don't stop I have one 🙁

[@liamrenaud2347]

I dropped my “best friend” after 9 years when I realised that all he ever did was trying to put me down

[@brandonh.6956]

I just did today with my friend of 15 years

[@liamrenaud2347]

Smashplayer 01 Well done. I know it’s very hard. I successfuly carried on and got rid of him. Resisted his manipulation :)

[@oconnell.shannon]

My bsf of almost three years has said pretty effed up things to me and I never looked at it and just thought “oh but she’s a good person I trust her” but a few days ago when she talked about what she thought my sexuality was (btw im queer) I just couldn’t take it anymore, but she’s still my friend ig and I haven’t dropped her yet but I will soon

[@selismiley7559]

Same bro... Feel u hope it wasnt that hard and ifit was then hope u will get better soon.

[@MalihaMahjabin]

I did last month, it was a 9 yrs friendship and even though I used to get a lot of gifts and all, there was lack of affection. She didn't even use to ask how I am in months. And ghosted me often, unapologetically. Once or twice was okay. And later, her newfound partner messed with my head by lusting after me. It was nasty and messy so I cut her off. The only regret I have is not telling her what her partner was being like and manipulated me into smth. Maybe I was toxic is some cases too. So I guess it was what it was.

[@nat0927]

Fun Fact: Some people here are actually tryna make sure THEY arent the toxic friend *I hope I'm not alone. I hope.*

[@melisasegura4054]

Same!!

[@KimFebriany]

I realize that I'm the toxic one cuz I often vent about negative stuff to them but I'm not sure cuz they also kinda show some toxic positivity.

[@babooshkakitten2469]

Trust me, you're never along in whatever you're feeling there's always someone out there experiencing the same thing 💖💖

[@celebrity_rooster7488]

Why do people forget that power always comes into play when it comes to making friends? Think about this. Winners get everything. Losers get absolutely nothing. This is why jerks get so many friends, more opportunities, you know, the ones who don’t play by the rules. No wonder why rule followers become poor and miserable later on in life.

[@raviedavieu]

@@celebrity_rooster7488 ...? I'm in a very happy friendship with my closest friend right now, where we've both happened to fall back a grade from not being able to mentally keep up, call that "losing". We also don't play by rhe rules though, we talk about so many different things other people outside our circle have never even heard about and every day it never seems to run out. So thank you very much I'm glad to be a loser.

[@DasCrow1992]

Its insane how many people can disguise themselves as being "friends." My problem was that I was too trustworthy and I thought I got along with everyone. Looking back I feel crappy for not being more empathetic towards people I couldn't understand because they could have been real ride or die people..at that time I was an angry person and I knew I took it out on the wrong people and in rude or harsh ways. I surrounded myself with people that weren't any better than I was and thought I couldn't and wouldn't be able to attract people with any real great energy. Letting go of people that were just using me for whatever reasons were very smart decisions. You don't think so at first because you thought those years hanging out and getting to know that person or people mattered, but in the end it didn't. If you weren't beneficial to them in some way they would drop you. Everyone stay positive and keep those gems who are friends as close to you as possible. Now we need it more than ever due to this virus. Be careful and safe everyone.

[@purpledefaultpfp6233]

Fax

[@secretadmirer6501]

Im feeling so bad for the nowadays generation who seems so lonely, and craving for friends. Hope them find one.

[@CyramicCylinder]

If most of us aer lonely (I'm not) then why don't they find another lonely guy and be friends with them I mean it is that easy

[@Explosion426]

Some people here are worried that they're the toxic friend. But I would like to offer some peace of mind to all of you. If you're worried about being a toxic friend, you are probably not a toxic friend. Toxic people don't care. They don't care if they hurt anyone, they're not the ones worried about being the toxic friend. But those who are actually good friends will worry and they will wonder if they're bad and how they can improve. C.S. Lewis said in one of his books that in a perfect circle, each friend will feel like they don't deserve the other friends.

[@bagondreamer]

Let’s be honest, if we really look into our friendships we’ll find most of them are toxic

[@cindys9491]

Part of the time, but it shouldn't be most of the time

[@_.ana._.]

Not really, I have only had one toxic friend when I was really young. Now I have friends who I can be myself around, and we always look out for each other.

[@carlottabreitweg7925]

I had lots of toxic friends in the past but now I only have a few good friends.

[@user-rp6oh1uk9x]

True....

[@mushdope7252]

I don't. I comes to cgoosing who you want to be friends with. Personally I find making friends difficult but what I get are gems. It all comes down to choosing

[@DaniChapman]

I am trying to see if my friendship is toxic. I know he doesn't mean to be and he doesn't see himself as toxic but I often feel that if I don't benefit him, he doesn't care. He's really sensitive because his insecurities leave him feeling people are disrespecting him and he gets angry and judgemental. He doesn't listen, but he's often honest about his opinion about you even if it's bad. I don't feel safe, respected or valued in the friendship but I can't tell if that's my own insecurities and I should be responsible for how my actions leave him feeling. We've been trying to clean it up but so far it's mostly just me listening to him and he can't seem to hear my side. He also said our friends encourage me to my face but say things behind my back which is making me feel bad. I'm tempted to let the friendship stay unhealthy and just pull away or should I stand for having healthy communication, even if I don't know how to be heard...

[@sunsnows]

This is exactly what I’m going through, except my friend tries to make every other friend around me seem bad. I blocked him today because i realized how it emotionally hurt me.

[@everetts2661]

This is pretty late but I hope you're doing okay. No matter what he has went through, you deserve to be treated right. Dropping people for your own mental health is not selfish. There is a fine like between someone being insecure but trying to get better with coping mechanisms etc etc, and being insecure and expecting someone else to carry your burden with you. I'm not saying they're a bad person, they just need to learn and grow, and while you can tell them that, you are not responsible for them and what they do. I wish you the best xx

[@selismiley7559]

Well if u know that he's honest than it shouldnt be that big of a problem... If u really wonna know who is honest with u then u should invite all these ppl that he says r talking trash behind ur back and make a big confronting circle... Its very uncomfortable but then u can see whos speaking the truth

[@kathsiee333]

How to not have toxic friends: *NOT TO HAVE FRIENDS IN GENERAL* *I honestly don't know how to avoid them* Edit: **virtual hugs for everyone** 😊😘❤

[@Teguanna10]

Meeeeeeeee!!!!!!!

[@Kamkkko]

be a good friend and you should find good friends ^^

[@staanleeosweetoo9870]

@@Kamkkko and even if you spot bad friend, dont giveup on them, they can become the goodie :-)

[@elledelaney22]

You’ve got this, just give it time and you will find your person, meanwhile I can be your non toxic internet friends * hugs * 💗

[@kathsiee333]

@@Kamkkko Ohhhhh Story time 😊: Sooo um I had a seatmate and she was an attention seeker she became popular for a "newbie" (I'm new too) we got to know each other and she had became friends with the popular kids at my grade soooo she auditioned for the campus dance(thingy) and she gained followers and whenever I'd ask her or be school work groupmates with her she answers me though she ignores me the whoooleeee time the last time I talked to her personally was 1 month ago I might sound or look like I'm the toxic friend maybe it's my fault that I have another failed friendship 😊

[@Erdhenne509]

Looking back everysingle "friend" i've made in highschool Are all toxic, at first i pass it off as normal but now i see The reality of things.

[@michelle9085]

I don’t why I’m watching this I literally don’t have any friends to compare to.

[@just_cattttt1620]

Ha... Wait... Me too :

[@rockytanasichuk7981]

Me to???

[@misskim237]

Me too

[@PauloSantos-hn2cw]

Can relate

[@alice_devil69]

My anxiety is making it really hard to leave a toxic friend, there’s so many reasons why! If I’m not friends with them, their other friends will come and verbally attack me, and I only have a few people I consider my friends in my class, but at least their good friends.. :) today me and said toxic friend had a fight and they sent 3 friends (all girls) of theirs to tell me off for making toxic friend sad, when I didn’t even mean to- but those girls really said some mean things, and even tho it’s almost been 12 hours since that happened, I still have a heavy feeling on my chest.. I suppose my mind really DIDN’T take those words as well as I thought..

[@iimoonytoony7879]

“A bad friend is immature and reckless.” *Uh oh*

[@lovecoremarbs]

*oh no*

[@shedeeran7162]

*oh no²*

[@birb2197]

*oh no3*

[@henrystibitz8111]

oh no4

[@none_i5316]

oh no5

[@kristajohnson9173]

Literally the only person I have ever met in this life who fits the bill of "good friend" is my mother... Expecting all those behaviors from some rando you meet and who can drift in or out of your life at any moment might be too much to expect, I think. Most of us try to be the "good friend", but it gets harder when we've got our own shit going on. I don't blame people for being occasionally toxic, we all gotta look out for ourselves, sometimes. That said, there are some out there who are just constantly toxic, due to personality disorders etc., and not worth your time.

[@hhiippiittyy]

The one who checks off all items, most severely, in the toxic category for me might be my mother. Nobody else could get away with it.

[@davidsmith-jj4iq]

Personality disorders are illnesses not selfish people,and are often used and /or isolated for their illness,real friends ,would understand this ,they accept you,for who you are,many people with depression,or other conditions are left to fend for themselves,and judged ,including family[except mum ,she accepted me as is ,no matter what ,despite her own troubles and losses.

[@cindys9491]

About expectations: yep, maybe no one is perfectly "nontoxic" all the time, but I would hope most of us would apologize and try to change it when someone says that something we did accidentally hurt them. (Now if someone knows and doesn't care that they are hurting you, that's a real problem, imo)

[@Maya_hee]

@Krista Johnson Expecting all those good non toxic behaviours from my mother is also too much to expect. So there is not really a difference between a random person or my and many other people's mothers. Its not the same for everyone

[@sofialeona2671]

My old best friend used to always mention how I didn’t have other friends. Kinda as a joke which I always thought was weird and would tell her, I know why she used to say it. She wanted to keep me down. She wanted me to think she was the only one who cared about me. I finally cut her off and It was very painful but worth it! I love her but sometimes it’s the right to do. If anyone else knows they need to let someone go but are scared. You got this just remember to be gentle with them and yourself and honest. You got this, your happiness needs to come first.💗

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. -Dr. Seuss

[@tenmahakusho6390]

I’ve had quite a few toxic friends. They’ll act nice at the beginning but after a while become distant and only talk to me when they’re bored. What was worse than breaking a promise was canceling and not calling me to say something came up. -_-

[@theartmoose9390]

For number one you can be there for friends, but you also have to know when to look after your own mental health. You can't always be there for others problems and worries, especially if it's hurting you. Number two, it is important to no judge your friend and supports them for who they are, unless they are actively harming people around them by their behaviours and beliefs. Number four is the same as number one, you can't always be there for others mental health, you can't always be there to support and encourage them if it means your mental health is on the line and they start to expect you to always be there for it. As long as you try and direct them to someone who can help and listen and know when its really serious, it's okay to sometimes back off to deal with your own problems.

[@gummybear32]

I had a "friend" who would constantly try to compete with me and will try to bring my self esteem down by giving me negative comments on my looks, behaviour etc. After all those comments she would add that classic "I say this to you cuz I care for you". She would always say "you're being too sensitive" or "I was just kidding". And she would never... *never* keep a secret, no matter how many times I told her to. She was so manupalitive and toxic that at some point I thought I was compeltely useless. I'm not friends with her anymore. But now she is trying to come back to me. How should I avoid her? Cuz I don't want her in my life ever again.

[@mjm4563]

That’s really tough. I mean, even if she said she’d like to be friends again but you don’t, you can always say something like “No thanks. Our relationship wasn’t really healthy for me. Hope life is treating you well.” After dealing with something similar like you went through (a couple years ago), that’s what I’d do? But it’s up to you! You can also try giving them another chance, maybe they’re a new person or they’ll change for the better, but you’re not obligated to be that person’s friend after they’ve hurt you time and again. You deserve better!

[@Lamrabetnouha]

Tell her she’s a worthless toxic bitch that you don’t need in your life anymore. Sorry if this is excessive

[@MsKate808]

Sounds like she might have Borderline Personality disorder. I just doing some reading on it if you are not familiar and see if that adds up with her behavior. I’m so sorry this has happened to you. Keep being strong and don’t let back in

[@PortalJay]

@@MsKate808 That seems like a bit of a stretch, but I can see where you made the connection... I'm very familiar with borderline and all it's ways of presenting... This person seems more like a narcissist, as people with BPD are not always horrible people... when they are, it tends to be mixed with another personality or otherwise serious psychiatric disorder.

[@ichigo1988]

If she did it once she would do it twice. I think you deserve better you deserve someone who is a true friend

[@Ella_aurora]

I just recently cut off my friendship with someone who was extreme toxic for me. Just watched this video to give me more insight. Hanging out with a toxic friend can seriously drain you out and mess with you and your principles

[@BrayanCCG]

I try to be a good friend, maybe sometimes I act like a toxic friend inside of me , cause I hide my thoughts in that moment to that person , and sometimes if that person did something that gives me anxiety or I started to worried about something too much I just try to avoid that person a little bit , still if he or she needs help I'll try my best to support them cause nobody deserve to be sad and felt that they are not important.

[@alalulu3426]

I have 3 'friends' who I thought I can trust, we had a school trip where I had the worst belly ache ever, half sleepy and nauseous in the bed and they were joking about it, saying some rude things about me and my health and didn't say a basic 'sorry'... The level of support is... And now acting like victims and blaming me for not talking to them..

[@mulliganstew72]

They showed you who they really were. Thank God for that. Move on now… I have a chronic illness that is invisible & my friends could care less. I am unable to work, maintain relationships and hardly take care of myself full-time and while I’ve been there through so many milestones for my friend circle nobody’s coming forward to help me out. I’ve just learned to expect less from people to avoid disappointment.

[@alalulu3426]

@@mulliganstew72 I'm sending as much love to you as possible!!! You are amazingly strong! I have chronic abdominal pain after appendectomy with no diagnosis and it sucks 😩but thanks to this I have few real friends and know who is who.. Please keep in mind that you are loved by me💘I know it probably isn't much but just keep it in mind 💋

[@davidelias13]

Thank you I needed to hear this. I am so surrounded by lousy relationships in my social and familiar circle that I have to watch this to validate my opinions of what a healthy relationship is to myself. I am looking forward to friendships in 2021.

[@TommyElijahCabelloReal]

I dunno. I try to support and protect my friends when I know they're in stress, but no one reaches out to me. Ever since the stay at home orders, no one who has the ability to text me by my social medias actually has. I'm not sure if that means I have disgeniune friends or that I'm not anyone's initial go-to-friend.

[@evagand]

Check in on your friends from time to time, no harm in doing so. Even if they dont reach out to you, they may be having a hard time. I rarely Express my emotions to the people around me (on purpose at least) so it feels good when a friend or two reaches out to me and lets me know that they're here for me. It's also a good feeling when you yourself send a quick message to your close friends telling them the same.

[@Mr.Gavin12]

Do u play roblox? Add me please :/

[@pristine_azalea244]

I experiences this as well.

[@julianleft4662]

I feel like this encourages ENABLERS rather than actual friends. And that's one of the bigger issues of friendships today. We associate ourselves with enablers rather than true friends because we associate criticism and harsh truths from our friends with toxicity since you can easily hide behind the "they just dont accept me for who I am" shtick. Also toxic and manipulative friends hide exactly behind the positive traits you numbered. They will easily seem as the biggest friends ever since they can fake empathy, patience, etc., while the friend who actually cares for you and tells you the harsh truth will be pushed away because he's going to get zoned out as being "toxic". This video is way too naive for this channel. Real friends and real empathy comes from harsh truths, and not from blind kindness and acceptance.

[@romella_karmey]

Yep me and my other 2 bestfriends always catapult harsh words with each other in Messenger and we just make fun of them. Fake friends will get offended when you joke about them. In my circle, all insults and derogatory words are nothing but past time 😂🤣 when we get serious we don't sugarcoat. We were just outspoken to each other.

[@katiearbuckle9017]

That's why they mentioned the Toxic Friend is a Backstabber and couldn't practice what they preach. I had a friend who did that with all the positive traits in place, but also had all the negative traits and the big one was "They weren't responsible." She told me to not date slime bags and guessed what.....SHE MARRIED THE FIRST ASSHOLE WHO not only fucked her sideways but accused me of sleeping with his wife, convinced her mother I was a prostitute, and has been cheating on her this whole time. She also had personal red flags where she didn't give a fuck about me. And guess who got the blame from one comment going," You know you're husband is a sleez bag right?" Me. Thank God her mom gave me the final nail in the coffin, because that bs happened for 15 years. And Showed me my own mother had my Back the whole time.....like holy hell. Kicking her out of my life, was the best Birthday Gift I ever gave myself. After that I had a White Russian and a facial because my Mom, a true friend and my Partner went ......" Girl You Earned it." I'm 28 it was last year.

[@da0458]

periodt.

[@romella_karmey]

@@katiearbuckle9017 Back then we are a circle of 7 friends. This happened in college. We had fun and all. This one friend who accused other girls in our circle that they will be the first one to get pregnant because they are meek and easily fooled by horny men. And yet after college, and we are now working (actually this certain friend is working at the same company I'm working for too) this accuser friend of us got pregnant, had a baby to her co-worker before marriage. Cuz girls get cursed and made fun off or become laughing stock if they got pregnant before marriage in my country.

[@not-a-ghost2206]

@@katiearbuckle9017 but thats really hard to explain to people. Like i had a friend in school and she bullied me. I still have trust and selfworth issues and flashbacks from that. But she would present herself on social Media and to our other friends as "helping other people" and "heeey Darling, whats wrong?". I couldnt tell anybody how she was except my family, because nobody saw what i endured.

[@aestheticroblox9171]

I'm VERY happy that I became best friends with the best and nicest person. I help her when she's sad and she helps me when I'm sad and we both protect and keep each other's secrets!

[@user-xh1kx5xi1l]

When you realise you dont have any friends who keep ur secrets and that ur bsf is toxic

[@katherinebenitez6298]

I had a friend that did everything that was said in this video. Long story short,I cut her off...She made me look like the bad guy and posted about it on her story and tried to make other people think that I was the toxic one. So I ignored her, because I refuse to stoop to her level.

[@ihavethemostrandomcomment1338]

Have you ever get to be the least favourite in a friends group and it doesnt matter if you're gone... Have you change after your friend change their self....? People will always notice the in your attitude towards them. But they will never notice its their behavior which made you change.. No matter how many times a snake sheds its skin, it will always be a snake. Remember that before allowing people back to your life. Fake friends are like shadows. Always near you at your brightest moment, but nowhere to be seen at your darkest hour. True friends are like stars, you dont always see them but they are always there. Or the easier way.. Fake friends are like shadows, they follow you in the sun but leave you in the dark A true friend cares about whats going on in your life. A fake friend will make their problems sound bigger. Cut heals, our friendship wont. The only people who are mad at you for speaking the truth are those people who are living a lie. Letting toxic people go is not an act of cruelty its an act of self-care Maybe the weight you need to lose isnt on your body Letting go of toxic people in your life is a big step in loving yourself. It sickens me that there are people who can make up as much as lies about someone and make them self look so innocent and they destroy someones reputation all because they are jealous and pathetic and so many people believe them without finding the truth. Simplify your life by clearing out toxic friends and habits that you take nowhere. Id rather have an enemy who admits they hate me, instead of a friend who secretly put me down. The only way to win with a toxic person is not to play. The attitude you pose is greatly influenced by the link of friends you bookmark. Good friends, good attitude. Best friends, best attitude. Guess what for toxic friends.. Real friends they accept the way you are Toxic friends they try to control you and change you. Ur allowed to leave toxic people behind Ur allowed to end friendships that hurt more than they help. If you lose a friend beacause youre honest, it wasnt a good friend. It is not my role to expose the fake people. In due time, they will expose themselves for who they really are. Simplify your life, simplify your mind, simplify your surroundings. Real friends know the importance of alone time Toxic friends they try to take up alot of your times. Whatever you do, dont run back to what broke you. Real friends know everyones has a diffrent types of friends and wont judge Toxic friends they dont like your other friends. Real friends are empathetic Toxic friends are hurtful Real friends enjoy the time of discussion. Toxic friends they insist on winning over. Even if the real friends is busy, they still here for you, unlike the toxic friends.. Real friends call you simply beacause they miss you. Toxic friends only find you when they need your help. Real friends eagerly suggest how to celebrate your success. Toxic friends get jealous of your achievement. Real friends know when to listen and when continue. Toxic friends they talk way more than they listen. Real friends they respect you and themselves. Toxic friends they lose their temper easily. Feel free to send this to someone or repost this 😌

[@prachibehera9785]

Hey, you may not realize it , but your kind words just changed someone's entire day ❤️ thanks a lot!

[@goldencat208]

This sums up all my current friendships in a nutshell

[@twonginterlude]

I can’t believe my own two best friends who I have cared about so much are actually toxic.

[@Psych2go]

What signs did you started seeing?

[@letisiamariabuhai7950]

i'm sorry....meybe try watch for some family members who aren't toxic if you have them ❤ be strong

[@twonginterlude]

Letisia Maria Buhai Aw ty😩🥺

[@twonginterlude]

Psych2Go the fact that whenever I say a problem of mine or an achievement I earned, they wouldn’t really care or even try to listen. Then they would bring something up that’s related to what I said but it’s always about them. Even when It’s something personal they would either start a the sentence with “ohhh yeah that happens to me” then blabber all about them, or if it’s an achievement/skill I earned they would just say they already have it or they wouldn’t care and just say I’m getting “pretty good at that (sometimes they even lie)”

[@keplermission4947]

@@twonginterlude yeah ... but everybody is the same it just appears different. Listen you have to control the relationship and be proactive. To make it easy, we have to drive a car to the place we want to go. We have to meet its needs so it can meet ours. A car is able to do so much and no more. You know? Just get some different friends for different projects.

[@Lokuts]

(sry for my bad english im still learning) 1:47 2. really touched me cuz we had a race with the whole school and i was in that race, everyone was cheering up for their kid from their class. And so i expected atleast my so called "best friends" to cheer me up ... and they dident they cheered up for another kid from another class i won and then they were trying to talk to me and get the chocolate that i got from the prize before they could say anything i just left slowly with my head down while they are like: "dont go" cmon come back!" just to get the prize i layed in my bed and after 10 minutes i started crying cuz i relized i have no true or real friends and there is no one in the school that likes memes, games, anime and learning there is just none and now im sad i changed my whole life style and im a quiet kid, when they try to roast me or say something bad about me i just say: " go away u toxic id*ot* and that isent the frist time that happend

[@janiyahtejada2547]

Ok,why is it that my bestfriend is literally every thing good in this video?We have known each other for 3 years and only have fought once!

[@MiaLaVaye]

I have held a friendship for 9 years, and for 3 years i have felt like breaking it off because it just doesn't feel or act like a good friendship anymore. Honestly done everything to be there for her, but when it comes to me, it always goes back to her. Not happy for me, doesnt listen to my problems, or support or encourage me, or asks about me anymore. I haven't heard a genuine how are you since last year maybe. We are seniors in highschool. I have recently been trying to see if I'm a toxic friend or seeing what i can do to improve my friendship, because i want it to last, but i just dont believe it will Which is a killer. Most days i dont even feel happy around her. So i think it's time.

[@hollandwynne2637]

I’ve met friends who come in go in my life. Seasons or years down the road. I consider myself a good friend since I’m a person who’s compassionate, supportive, and want to have a good friendship with me. It’ll be hard finding true good friends. But in the end it’ll be worth the time.

[@richardferrara]

You feel safe sharing with true friends. True friends won't kick you to the curb.

[@tipsgamez4447]

Watching this after having a argument with a friend about something. And I don't know who is the toxic one anymore

[@AnrupB]

Decided to end a friendship today for various reasons related to her being unwilling to explain why she didn’t communicate with me about a few things about our friendship, and says she feels pressure to promise open communication with me moving forward. Add to that bending the truth about things we had agreed on...I had to pull the plug when I myself am giving 100% with honest communication about hurt feelings and discussion from a place of love and trying to understand them. Not toxic, but also not able to meet basic friendship requirements. If that feels like pressure, they have some inner reflection and inner work to do, and I hope they take this as an opportunity to do so for their own relationships. Maybe they’re not used to such transparency but hey , it should be the norm!

[@loo-ssemble]

This is sorta relating to the video: Me: Let’s my friends take anger off of me when I know they’re having a tough time, take care of them endlessly on bad days, give them daily wholesome messages to make their day better, protect them from people I know will change them, Also me: rants for 2 sentences My friend: stfu nobody cares it’s making me mad

[@nataliedrain8022]

I swear every video I watch from this channel has a few comments from people saying "they have no friends" like boo please at least TRY and put yourself outt

[@fendy5124]

Ikr its so infuriating

[@ananyaupadhya1974]

Chill with the judgement, some people have deep psychological traumas that makes it difficult to make new friends. Also, it's a millennial/ gen Z joke.

[@christinekisuule7685]

@@ananyaupadhya1974 WELL SAID, BOO!

[@maybeerin7868]

once i cut out my toxic friend, all my other friends just go away.. i hate it here

[@Noora.Unfiltered]

That's why i only have 1 friend cause there are no other *"good friends"* in my school

[@aloeveil]

Imagine having friends, CRINGE

[@Psych2go]

@@aloeveil GULP

[@mlgdogememe3038]

Tho, having one friend is okay having more than one friend is also okay having tons of friends, meeeeeeeeh, you don't have time to talk to many of them, speaking from experience(Oh, and this is not irl in my case, it's ingame to me, but that's okay)

[@aloeveil]

Psych2Go lol

[@daisy4803]

I only made 3 friends for the first 7 years of my life but they are good friends as long as you have one really good friend you are good and its easier to manage than being friends with like 15 people and only 3 of which you actully care about one friend is fine

[@hodaabhari2161]

Phsyc2Go: "do you have a friend who supports you-" Me interrupting: NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO😭

[@-boxedbobcat-3270]

Me and my bestie are good friends, I can tell cause I told her I was suicidal and she cried and said she felt my pain. Just reading her reply made me smile.

[@cnxmh5530]

I have this one friend, and when I first met her online 2 years ago we would always make the effort to talk to each other, and we were talking everyday flirting here and there and it was all going fine, we met up 2 months later to the park and she was constantly responding with “awesome”, “nice” and maybe a little bit of giggling but they were really generic answers and I remember she raised her voice at me saying ,”alright” when I told her let’s climb this statue at the park because I thought it would be fun, but she kept telling me no and I kept persisting to reassure her it was fine since adults and kids climbed them too ,not to force her, and when she said alright I stopped and I thought to myself ,”oh man why did I keep telling her, I was wrong”, one thing that I find ridiculous is to this day me and her sister don’t talk to Each other or just say a Simple hello, she didn’t even introduce me to her sister when we went to the park because her sister was walking with us, and it was very awkward, after the park she didn’t send many messages anymore her Texts were really cookie cutter type of responses , and I I remember that she didn’t text me at all for a week until Sunday that week asking me for help where her room number was for testing, and I thought to myself ,”wow she doesn’t talk to me all week but is only asking for help” then we meet up for a test at school, and me and her haven’t really texted as much and me her are talking and as I’m talking she pull out her phone and starts reading this long-ass message on her phone and I could tell she wasn’t paying attention to me anymore, and so I stop talking and she just keeps reading that message and I take a peak and she responded to that message with almost the same Length as what she was reading, and It hurt so much but I tell myself well no one’s flirted with me or a girl has talked to me like this before (I was abused and neglected for the majority of my childhood, and I get really attached to people so maybe that has something to do with this) and so I didn’t want to break it off thinking I was overreacting, months go by and it’s the same thing she doesn’t go out of her way to text me anymore and only does if she ask for help and sometimes responds back to me when I send her a message, she told me she doesn’t have her phone on the weekends, but then she tells me on of hers friends invited her to the movies on Saturday, and I’m sitting there thinking ,”WTF?! I thought you said you didn’t have it on those days” and then back before this whole mess I confessed to her and she said her “parents don’t let her date”, and she’s “never dated anyone” , I told her I’ll wait and she said that’s so sweet I’ll wait too, and we’ll back in September she told me she like this girl and we essentially became “normal friends” we used to walk together after 7th period, but then she started leaving me behind for the girl she liked, and left me as the guy on the side and I thought “okay it’s not a big deal it hurts but I’ve never really had friends so maybe this is normal to feel “ and later she tells me stories of how she dated one of her friends before to spite another girl, and before that she dated a guy that had similar personality like her, she says “the old me” and brags how she used to be rude to others and disobeyed her parents and I’m thinking to myself ,” what the hell have I gotten myself into” (I really need someone to reply to This comment, and give me validation to delete her number and just stop talking to her at school and I really want someone to tell me it’s okay to cut her off)

[@davidrobert2007]

Did you delete her number? She sounds like she could be bad news. It has taken me years to realise that for a true friendship to happen - both people need to be kind of humble and kind of mature. When one or both parties of a friendship are not grounded in reality / fairness - that can be a recipe for disaster. The problem with having had a bad childhood is that we often come to expect less for ourselves, we often don't stand up for ourselves like we could and should do, and we often put up with a bad deal from friends and family. You sound like a sensible / grounded person to me, and I hope you're doing well today.

[@batdragonpurple]

Recently, I had a friend who was having an argument with someone we didn't know, and ended up messaging us about it (not something I'd do, what if it was sensitive to that person?) Anyway, I agreed with both sides and explained why. She was pissed that I didn't accept her opinion, and that I had a brain that differs from hers. When I eventually asked her not to swear at me (I make it a point to not swear during stuff like this to show that I'm not being aggressive in my opinion), and she basically told me that she can speak to me however she wanted and that my opinion didn't matter. It took a few seconds for me to react but I basically said to her that she's lost. She thought I meant the argument. I meant she'd lost me as a friend. 4 years of friendship gone because she can't accept that other people have different opinions to her. This was second week of quarantine. I'm glad this didn't happen in person as I don't think I would've been able to handle it. I know I say and do things that I regret often, but if I get shown even and ounce of friendship I hold that very close to my heart. If she's reading this, yes, I miss you, but only through work do I know now that people shouldn't speak to others that way, otherwise I would have taken it. I am not the person I was 2 years ago, it's time to act like you're 20, not 14.

[@black_m1n825]

Damn... that seems harsh... You need a hug?

[@jendavis9185]

I was that toxic friend. I have BPD. I am working through it. I have always been the friend to cut people off when they’re telling me something that has hurt them or is hurting them. I usually interrupted with a, “omg! I know how you feel! One time I had a boyfriend and he…..”. I was too caught up with my own trauma to be there for anyone else’s. I have been a selfish friend, I have pushed people to be impulsive and do stupid stuff (like me), I have been the cold friend that told them to dry their eyes, brush off, come drink with me, and get back in the game when they weren’t ready. I was that way with my kids too …. When they would come to crying, I would ask them “Are you bleeding? Is anything broken? Then stop being a cry baby and stop crying and shake it off.”. I thought I was making them tough… I realize now that I taught them to push trauma away, repress, and keep going like nothing’s wrong… that’s how most kids in the 80s-90s were taught to be… I was. I went through volatile relationships, Substance Use, suicide attempts, self harm, etc etc etc… I see my son walking the same path I chose. Listen to your kids and let them express emotion, show them they matter, and assist them with regulating emotions… I only called friends when I needed them and the list goes on and on. Today, I am in long term recovery from BPD, PTSD, SUD…I still struggle with depression. I have 2 friends (since high school) well 1 is unavailable most the time… which I truly understand… I always call her (she hasn’t called me in 2 years) because she realized I was toxic probably… if that’s what she needs to do then I get it. She was an awesome friend though…she was there when I lost my dad 2 years ago… But she seems to not believe me when I tell her I haven’t relapsed… bc so many times when I was getting high, I was never honest about it…but it still hurts my feelings… I know it’s my fault bc I ruined that trust and friendship… I miss her and I wish she was around to see how much I’ve changed. One thing, I would NEVER be posting this in the past… lol. Don’t take those friends for granted and definitely don’t abuse them… those friends don’t come along but once in a lifetime I think.

[@stephgalaburri714]

That moment you realize the toxic sings resemble your friend

[@Psych2go]

Which signs did you see?

[@stephgalaburri714]

Psych2Go basically they do the opposite of all the good friend signs you put in the video. Tease me, lie, exclude me, non-trustworthy, etc. But they come to me with problems and when they need help. And they can never tell when I’m upset, unless they don’t care.

[@happinessarebutterflies]

Pfft, I don't have any friends.

[@aloeveil]

It’s cringe to have friends, am I right?

[@noone-pz3bi]

I don't need friends, they disappoint me.

[@mayssam4955]

Me too 🙄

[@Umi_luv]

Same here 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@Psych2go]

Could that be a good thing too?

[@Luna-sx3sr]

I’m surrounded by toxic people all my life., friends, family and even my Ex., I’m finally out now and realized nobody cares how I am so they are toxic to me. I always help, listen and be nice to them but they ending up betray me. I learned in this world you can only trust yourself. 😔🥴

[@samantham5639]

im sure everyone can relate but dont you hate that feeling when *you want to cry but no tears come and you just feel your mind & soul break apart?*

[@mammoneysimp6940]

Yeah bro

[@nalyk9892]

Music

[@sammie875]

My ex best friend was so toxic and told me I am the bad friend when she left me. I was at my lowest at that point and wasn't able to fake my happiness anymore like she expected me too. She accused me of having an attitude and being rude to her when I had a blank face because I tried not to cry. We have the same best friend until now and she's still my best friend. At a party of another friend we were in the same car but I was at the front and they were in the back. They talked about something but they never talked to me. I felt like they left me out but now I understood that I could've just said something and they were just talking. I was really hurt, mostly because of overthinking about it and decided to not bother them anymore (because they apparently didn't want to speak to me, oof they probably did) and I blocked both of them after the party. The toxic one started to accuse of everything I've been doing "wrong" to her and told me I'm selfish to just leave her and I just used her and since then never spoke a word to me again. Well, it was like you have blah blah blah time to talk to me. If you don't, I won't talk to you ever again. I was too scared because every time we saw each other she looked like she wanted to kill me. But after two weeks or so I finally found the courage to ask her if we can talk about it the next day (it was after school and I didn't have much time) The next day she hid from me and was really annoyed when I wanted to talk to her even though she told me we could. But I talked to her and really tried to understand what she wants to say and asked questions. But she answered none of them and just screamed at me and told me that I messed everything up. Since then we actually never talked again and I blamed everything on myself. Our other best friend tried to convince her to talk to me but she refused and then she stopped asking her for the sake of their friendship. While the toxic friend blamed everything on me my real best friend asked me why I did this, tried to calmly solve the problem and actually wanted to know what was wrong that I thought she didn't like me anymore. She really tried to understand me and after I calmed down she tried to explain that she really likes me but it hurts her when I accuse her of not liking me even though she's done nothing wrong. And she's right. She's never done anything wrong. I was just scared. I mean, I still think she likes my ex best friend better but at least I can trust her and she is real. my ex best friend is just her better friend. They've known each other for a really long time. When we were all friends I often felt I was interfering with their friendship so I felt bad but luckily I'm not friends with both of them anymore.

[@bewilderedberner]

I had a toxic friend. He constantly compared me to one of my best friends, constantly denied it, and would always make fun of me for being a furry. He's one of the reasons I have issues talking to people and why I most likely have social anxiety. That's just the stuff I can think of off the top of my head.

[@DylanTheTrashMan]

I have been getting very anxiety filled about myself lately, and have been searching things to see if I’ll fit in a category.. but almost every time I end up watching one of your videos. the calming voiceover and judgeless examples.. it relaxes me every time. and I thank you, so much, for being a channel I can rely on when I think I might need to find advice that I can’t get irl.

[@gnomefish5852]

3:28 I'm sorry but I can't be the only one who recognized him as wilbur

[@rosedawolf_o7]

I saw it too

[@thedustysocks]

YES THANK YOU

[@kuratpikas2670]

YES OMG I WAS SEARCHING FOR THIS COMMENT

[@kokomi1064]

YES

[@hulogan6969]

Thank you I have been looking for u since EVER!!!!

[@alanschmidt9549]

I have an old friend that backstabbed me for some small thing I didn't do, and they put me in a state of depression. Although, I got through just fine.

[@mistkilover4043]

I’m a good friend but my best friend is a toxic one :c

[@Psych2go]

Sounds like there's a mismatch. That could be toxic when you're trying to be a good friend to someone who's toxic. It keeps you stuck.

[@ПОКАВСЕМ-э6р]

then stop being friends with that betch

[@mistkilover4043]

@@ПОКАВСЕМ-э6р I would and I have tried but then she turns the rest of my friends against me and starts rummors about me which is not the best thing in high school

[@ПОКАВСЕМ-э6р]

ouch. i hope you find out a way to fix it! 😬

[@angelicamartinez1196]

Sad. Cloud. id say just stop talking to all of them fuck all that be your own friend 😎

[@molly_smarty287]

I never had a real friend, everyone used me financially and emotionally. I pray to god he sends me someone who I deserve

[@theneighborskid5433]

Wanna be friends I kinda know what you are going through 🥺

[@itisme2001]

I am aghase let's be friends😊

[@landonsmith6899]

I’ve always worried about how everyone at my school has so many “friends”, but I have few. Then, one of my friends said “Would you rather have a ton of people listen to you, but not really care, or would you rather have a few people who have your back no matter what?” and right then I realized that with my friends and family, I have one of the strongest support systems of anyone I know. I might not be “rich” when it comes to acquaintances, but I sure have an impenetrable fortress surrounding me.

[@tinyvanilla1206]

My friend: ur toxic Me: *has a pile of uno reverse cards* no u

[@soumenadhikari9221]

I had all toxic friends in school in my childhood

[@elanieeeeeee9413]

It’s sad how they make us feel guilty when we can’t do anything about our choices.

[@synesthesia.aesthetic]

I let a toxic friend go today and most of these applied to her. I think I did the right thing. She was only there for me when it was convenient to her, she is indifferent when I express my feelings, she flips the blame around to me when I point out how she neglects our friendship and takes more than she gives. She apologizes but doesn't change. Acting like a great friend only between romantic relationships. Once she's in one, they are her number one priority and I'm just a nuisance. It feels good to be done and severing a toxic tie. Thank you for the validation.

[@EfeAikpokhio]

I block the friends out of my life I know it’s harsh but it was necessary They only called me to give advice or make them feel better🥲 I was just tired of it I deserve better don’t I?

[@normal_spirit_in_elysium]

Yes, you do

[@ИветаТодорова-х7е]

Thank you very much for that video. This really helped me get the confidence to confront my friends and get out the toxic relationship i was in and now i feel much happier and free to be my real self . Send you much loveeee

[@yourlocalarcaeaplayer764]

No one: My bffs when they see my crush: *lenny face*

[@caseysejo2638]

I feel like some people expect there friend to be perfect of their therapist . Like everyone has one of these flaws I the video

[@Lamrabetnouha]

Casey Sejó No

[@elgekok560]

This

[@caseysejo2638]

Boules De Plumes I don’t mean all the flaws . I meant like one or two or similar behaviours

[@mylie6181]

exactly :( usually i want to be “someone’s therapist,” but i never know how to help.

[@hhiippiittyy]

Not really. Intermittently, sure. But as defining social-interaction traits.... No.

[@shariymagoldstine2143]

My resolution to ending my toxic friends was to cut them off completely without any explanation. Ever since I have felt so liberated and free.