STOP Doing These 9 Things Over 40 | They Are HARMING Not HELPING

[@40OverFashion]

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[@eriksturdevant8589]

Congratulations on your best episode!👍

[@omarcortes5754]

At this age we can be the person we needed when we were younger. Helping someone else even if it’s minimum could be a life changer.

[@40OverFashion]

Absolutely true!

[@mfisher1952]

Paying it forward. That is the best possible advice from your video here. It cannot be overemphasized enough. When you hit 70, it'll really hit home.

[@40OverFashion]

Well said! Thanks for commenting!

[@tswierczek]

To paraphrase something I heard once - In your twenties you worried about what everyone thought. In your thirties you didn't care what anyone thought. By your forties, you realized nobody ever thought about you.

[@40OverFashion]

Love this!

[@henrikcarmel1]

Yes stop the endless introspection - and get a perspective. Remember to love your quirks. Go home from every party as soon as you realize that if you score a lady it is to late in the evening to perform. Accept the limits of human beings and accept the concept of God. You havent reached all you economic goals but remember you are living in the most Golden age the history has seen until now. Read books. Get a younger person to be your mentor in your line of business.

[@stephenlee8468]

Already paid it forward to bunch of lads 20 years younger than me. Not only I listened to them and gave guidance. But they were willing to teach an old dog to learn a few new tricks. To stay relevant and keep up with the pack.

[@masterdad-zf9po]

Good points. I learned long ago. Forgive immediately. That doesn’t mean forget - tigers don’t change their stripes, so understand who you’re dealing with. But ongoing resentment will hurt only one person - you.

[@40OverFashion]

Very good point! Thanks for commenting!

[@srmrlr]

After my third time through anger management, I finally let go of resentment and feelings I'd been wronged in life. I quit caring what people thought, or think.

[@TwistedTentacleInn]

Man, you are an inspiration. This kind of advice is what makes your channel the best self improvement channel out there!

[@40OverFashion]

I appreciate that! Thank you very much!

[@Mike----]

John, your channel is a very important part of my daily life. Videos like this help me stay on track. It's too bad I can't return to you what you give to me. Be well, my friend. I hope we meet some day in the future.

[@brianrussell7691]

Great video John. Yes, the phrase “Loose yourself in the service of others” continues to be a guiding light for me when I’m feeling down or not optimal. When my down-stroke fades, and it does, I have a decent feeling of accomplishment personally and usually gratitude from those that I helped. This method, is far from perfect, but It sure beats a self-pity party, every time.

[@40OverFashion]

Well said!

[@brianrussell7691]

@@40OverFashion Thanks. Your point in letting go of the resentment, disappointment, etc is solid too. My faith teaches me to forgive, yet sometimes I struggle with that, to my detriment, as you pointed out. Forgiveness is powerful. Thanks again John for your thoughtful Monday video. Have a great day.

[@georgelush1998]

About holding grudges: I heard a powerful quote on another KZbin channel. “In order to let go and move on from people and past experiences it is necessary to outgrow the version of yourself that was present when these people and past experiences were present in your life.”

[@40OverFashion]

That’s so true! Thanks for sharing!

[@BillGreenAZ]

STOP BEING CLOSED MINDED. I find that traveling to other countries really helps me get a perspective on how other people think and believe and I always try to get inside their head to see why they do things. In doing so, my perspective is really opened up.

[@gryffydd42]

Something that’s stuck with me is to never stop learning or making/accepting changes. Science shows that doing new things creates new neuron connections in brain and does make a difference on memory and fighting dementia or related problems. Taking different path to store or to home is simple example. Or read up on basics of something you - it gives awareness, sometimes talking points with new acquaintances or friends, and keeps your mind active. Legend.

[@40OverFashion]

Good suggestions!

[@paul0wen65]

A to the effing men! Good reminders to keep moving forward, John. Today is my 58th birthday and thankfully I learned to do what you mentioned here at 39! I've developed a comfortable lifestyle, had successes and goals achieved, learned how to let go and move on. I have been the giver of and recipient of kindness. Today, a young woman acquaintance of mine made me some cake for my birthday and brought it to me at the bistro we see each other at. Always good to be reminded of how to keep living well as we age. And yes, good sir, you are having a meaningful impact because you speak truth to power and no bullshit. Keep up the good work and let's all pay it forward. Appreciate you, John!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much Paul!

[@DesertMav]

Great video. I do get hopeless about my life at times, but I always wind up snapping out of it and I make some sort of progress.

[@40OverFashion]

Glad to hear that! Thanks for sharing!

[@davidnelson7498]

Just watched a few of this guy’s videos today. Some of the best content on KZbin in my opinion. Great stuff man!

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate that!

[@rickcooper156]

Thanks Brother... I've been in a 50's funk and this video is just what the Doctor ordered. Thank you so much!

[@40OverFashion]

You bet Rick! Thanks for watching!

[@Monatio79]

Great video which puts a lot into perspective. As someone who is well past the 40 mark, I sometimes find myself looking back to when I was younger and thinking "if only I knew then what I know now". Life is the best teacher, and with age comes wisdom and experience. I find myself living a more routinely structured "boring" life than I used to when I was younger. Go to work, go grocery shopping, go to the gym. Rinse and repeat. And that's perfectly ok. My priorities in life have changed. The minor insignificant details that once bothered me no longer do; it really is important to just let go. What's interesting is that this "not caring anymore" can, ironically, be a double-edged sword of sorts. The less we care, the more likely we are to turn down those opportunities which come along because we feel that it's "been there done that". Missed opportunities in life, whether they be meeting new people or learning new things, become increasingly important precisely because the clock is ticking and we are not getting any younger. The worst thing is to regretfully think "I should have when I had the chance."

[@40OverFashion]

Great points! Well said!

[@Monatio79]

@@luke5100 I hear you. Being the same age as you and one who isn't married, I suppose life is more simple for me. Nevertheless, I do spice things up with the occasional cutie.😏

[@mytwocentsworth2480]

When you're 20, you care what other people think about you. When you're 40, you don't care what other people think about you. When you're 60, you realize they were never thinking about you anyway.

[@40OverFashion]

Well said!

[@glenmatthes8839]

I've always liked the saying "Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die." (origin unknown - often falsely attributed to Buddha)

[@40OverFashion]

Great point!

[@raphaeldavid54]

Thanks from Rio de Janeiro (Brazil)

[@40OverFashion]

You’re welcome

[@harryhellerman474]

Let it go! Amen.

[@guyh.4553]

#1: I agree 100% John. I'm 56 now without a family or a lady. Ever. #3: Agree again on letting go. I'm working hard on it and the bastard still knows it. I'm giving back by serving on the Executive Board for my American Legion post. In my humble opinion, the only other way to serve with great honor is being a member of the Veterans of Foreign Wars. Great video John! Hoppy

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much!

[@fuadtaghizade]

Absolutely true

[@jnparesa]

Well said. And, look at life as: Everyday is an Opportunity!

[@danielyoung5137]

Thank you George - l never heard a truer word.

[@DScott-es2mg]

THANK YOU…I your words of encouragement are just what is needed.👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@ismaelhall3990]

I'm still in my mid 30's gonna subscribe and follow those that are older than me and walk the path and learn.

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate that! Thank you!

[@lorenfederman9397]

rotated your painting again :)

[@40OverFashion]

Ha! Good catch!

[@eyeheartsushi2212]

Great video, John. You’re looking good.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@SeanA.Skeete-wd4vi]

John, I always "eagerly" look forward to your words of "inspiration" even as a fellow 54 year old "brother 😊🙏".

[@40OverFashion]

You rock! Thank you!

[@stanislas4990]

It's a very useful video. I cannot agree more with your advices: keep moving forward, try new things, be curious and open minded.

[@40OverFashion]

Well said!

[@moneyfornothing3264]

Fail Forward!! I got ya boss! Thanks for the video John! 👍🏽

[@40OverFashion]

You got it!

[@ronm6585]

Thanks John. Did you change the orientation of your new painting?

[@40OverFashion]

Ha! Yes I did! Good eye!

[@aaustin1986]

Yes you are! Your information is very valuable.

[@40OverFashion]

I appreciate that! Thank you!

[@pistolp7425]

I concur with you, no matter the age, always seek new experiences and say yes to life's adventures. A person might go out but a person should never give up. Keep the faith people. By the way, almost time to celebrate a positive change in my life.

[@defendingyourbrand6547]

Another solid video John. This is what I needed on a Monday morning.🙏🏼

[@40OverFashion]

Glad to hear it! Hope you’re well!

[@mikemikecohen]

On point, John!

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much!

[@TomJosh-65]

Thank you. Big fan of your channel. The deal for today is great in which I took advantage.

[@40OverFashion]

Excellent! Thank you!

[@bigdawgjune2]

The most solid advice anyone can give. Great video. Love your channel. Thank You.

[@40OverFashion]

I appreciate that! Thank you!

[@jefff2223]

Great advice...the first one in particular about the inevitability of all of leaving this earth is well explained in the Stoic domain that I recommend people explore. Much of what you say is rooted in Stoicism. Memento Mori is basically the idea that we're all going to be leaving this earth and by acknowledging that, we can be inspired to make the very most of every day. Thank you for what you do!

[@40OverFashion]

You’re welcome!

[@davidvega1212]

Thank you. Good and, for me, timely advice.

[@40OverFashion]

You're very welcome!

[@damontg95]

Excellent video John! H.O.P.E. stands for helping other people everyday and you motivate others!💪

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@khair_nizam5572]

Thanks for your opinions. I really appreciated John.

[@40OverFashion]

My pleasure!

[@JFRiley]

Great videos as always, thank you. I'm just now trying out black dress shirts for work and play; if I'm wearing dark blue jeans with them, what shoes will work?

[@40OverFashion]

Black shirt with blue jeans? I would do black shoes.

[@bernardsuttler9315]

Beautiful message, it really hit my soul Thank You.

[@40OverFashion]

You are very welcome!

[@josefhab8095]

Hi, John. This one is very good. Useful. I am the same age as you are. Well. It is never late to start again to do new stuff, profession, hobbies. And enjoy the life with the family and other people. Again, this one is good and full of inspiration for youngsters like us. :-)

[@BanguSomaraz]

This is theost inspiring lecture that I've heard so far.. The fact you're 54 gives me hope. Thank you 🙏🙏. I was the mother of all the nine things you've mentioned here. Today I started shedding my outer shell. Thank you once again.. 🙏🙏 :- funny you said youre not a psychiatric... 🤔

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you for watching!

[@BanguSomaraz]

@@40OverFashion I've been your addict two years ago and some where on the line, I lost you as bad life came barging in. Now yesterday I saw this video by chance..and this morning,I bid good bye to my sour heart and ready to face the world once more.. All thanks to you.. 🙏🙏🙏

[@chrisb3902]

Great video and insights/perspective John!

[@40OverFashion]

Much appreciated!!

[@ericl7842]

I loved this video John, great advice for everyone as I've already jumped on most of this as I got older. #legend

[@40OverFashion]

Glad you enjoyed it Eric!

[@jonshawunited]

Great video John, beautiful for a Monday. :) Have a great week. Jon

[@40OverFashion]

Thanks, you too!

[@garyabrahams7609]

John John John…you hit the mail on the head on this one. Thank you!

[@40OverFashion]

You’re very welcome!

[@SarcoidosisWarrior]

Great advice as always John IDGAC is absolutely my 💯 point of view Having looked at recent videos I've realised that I'm not an Alpha I'm a Sigma

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@frankmartinez4856]

Great talk ❤very good points! Have to agree on what you’re saying 😅Thanks John 😊

[@40OverFashion]

My pleasure!

[@JamesH-j9d]

Excellent video John! 👍🏽

[@40OverFashion]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you!

[@noName-kn1lx]

I made a decision to try my best not to add any misery to the world. I occasionally fail but the real winner is myself. Give it a try

[@40OverFashion]

Love it! Thanks for sharing!

[@alwayspooh1588]

Be the change you wish to see in the world!

[@meteor1237]

All this is true. At 70 it really is true. But also, you can’t get away from the thought what difference does it all make? Lol! Dust in the wind…..thx John!

[@michaelstrong2157]

Moving Forward Mondays. I like it sir!

[@40OverFashion]

Enjoy! Thank you!

[@garyjones5947]

Great video…thank you.

[@40OverFashion]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@uzito23]

Thank you and great video

[@40OverFashion]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@agedefyingfitness]

On the money from beginning to end. Being close minded is the Achilles heel for a whole lot of guys. The older they are the worse too. I'm almost 54 myself and couldn't have said any of this any better. Great video.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you very much!

[@NY-b3m]

Your my 先生！for many issues!! Peace and Love from Japan 🇯🇵 I wonder 🧐if I could purchase that products from Japan 😊

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you!

[@vincentray1636]

John what do you think about a 74 mature male trying Tiege Hanley products i watch Alpha male and you talk about this product a lot but buy it in australia is a little expensive but my curiosity has been sparked . i do have a skin care range but they are mixed products .look forward to the answer . Cheers

[@40OverFashion]

Absolutely! I highly encourage everyone, even older men to use it. There are zero downsides to starting.

[@vincentray1636]

Thanks John for answering my question. cheers

[@ngh9133]

Two things regarding Point One. First, my uncle turned 58 and was morose about it. My aunt said to him: "But you're only middle-aged.' He replied: "You think? How many 116-year-olds do you know?" Second, when I was in high school, the most profound thing any teacher said to me was: "Remember, if you are very lucky, you get only 30,000 days on this planet. That's all. Make sure every one of them counts."

[@wehojm7320]

This is a great vlog and it was exactly what I needed to hear to start my week. Thank you.👍🙏😎

[@40OverFashion]

Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!

[@bsumm1473]

Great video John, thanks!

[@40OverFashion]

You’re very welcome!

[@affiance6]

Good stuff

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate it!

[@greggmelissawindrim6783]

Great advice as always !

[@40OverFashion]

Thanks for watching!

[@mrinmoyb1]

Time is the only asset credited to our life account the moment we are born. All human beings have this asset irrespective of their gender, religion, and nationality. Time once gone is gone forever. Therefore, time is the most valuable and precious asset and it should be spent and invested judiciously.

[@40OverFashion]

Very well said!

[@clydekimsey7503]

very good post. It shows you are more than just clothes :-)

[@40OverFashion]

Absolutely! Thank you very much!

[@darrylmclain2964]

I can't add anything to what you've said. This isn't brand-new info for me, it's more like affirming. I've been running around "preaching this gospel" to several people around me, even those who are younger than I (I'm 55). Thanks for the words of wisdom 😅.

[@40OverFashion]

You’re welcome! Thanks for watching!

[@robfelts8076]

Great stuff!

[@40OverFashion]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for watching!

[@alleyoop1234]

Resentment robs that person of all positive vibes

[@davedove67]

Hey, at nearly 63, I can still do the things I could do when I was 25, just not as often, as quickly, as long, .......

[@scrambaba]

As people age they can empathize more with others. This means very much “giving a crap”, talking less, and listening more. It isn’t all about you. Older people can increase the amount of their giving to others, whether as time or money or volunteering your skills. Anger and resentment is never the answer.

[@noName-kn1lx]

I agree i am much more empathetic now , its kinda weird since i used to care very little. I credit my Christian faith with opening my eyes to those with worse issues than me. My 25 year old self would be astonished

[@scottivlow9962]

To tell you the truth I hated the club scene in my 20's the music was always loud and overly crowded and you can't talk without shouting. Bridges Scoreboard in Griffith, In. has a separate bar that was less crowded and a lot quieter it was such a cool place, to get away from the club room. The money spent and the morning hangovers it wasn't worth it when waking up every morning even without the hangovers. So on Dec 31st in 1996 was my last drink ever at the Rum Keg in Winter Haven, FL. I'm like I had enough and went cold turkey. When I was a cab driver I hated dealing with stupid drunks. We have Billiards room that I used to go to before the fire to eat late dinners when every restaurant was closed that was the extent of my hanging out with the younger crowd. Just eating and having my Cola's and leaving after watching a game or something. Even at the Ave Bar on a Friday night or Saturday night having dinner and then just relaxing by myself sitting in one of the lounge chairs and reading.

[@40OverFashion]

Appreciate your comment! Thanks for sharing!

[@tobias1752]

If someone has a problem with me, he can give me a call; if he hasn’t my number, he knows me barely and has no right to criticize me… But: if a real friend criticizes me, he wants to help me to become a better person.. so this critique is very important..!

[@John54]

It is said you only live once, not true you only die once and live every other day... If you are blessed to have shelter food family friends then don't waste it others are much less fortunate... 💙

[@40OverFashion]

Well said!

[@scottivlow9962]

I quit drinking in my 20's. If I sit at a bar it's going to be one that almost always serves food and it's going to be only alcoholic drinks that I drink.

[@Pault3788]

62 and never tried

[@michaelscott263]

“Only put off until tomorrow what you’re willing to die having left undone” Pablo Picasso

[@40OverFashion]

Oooh… Good one!

[@matthewmazur7672]

Where did u get that shirt

[@40OverFashion]

Untuck it.

[@wallyg77]

Holding a grudge is basically drinking poison and expecting the other person to die

[@40OverFashion]

True! Thanks Wally!

[@aisanovac3801]

I did that that when I was 25. You’re 20 years late.

[@OpEditorial]

The average 40 year old guy has around 2080 weeks left to live. This might seem like a lot, but it isn't when you factor in that you'll be asleep for around a 3rd of this time. So you may want to consider "Rage Quitting" from the online dating market.

[@senojnod]

Noticed you moved the artwork vertical. It looks amazing!

[@40OverFashion]

Yes! Thank you!

[@peterredit1305]

John I am 60 and loving my life. I have a beautiful blonde lady who loves me and two wonderful children….. I am so proud of them both….. Growing old is not all bad. Pete from Australia 🦘🦘

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you Pete!

[@PDeepThampi]

Drama happens at home 😄

[@ThePhilosophyOfNature]

Do You HAVE TO remind us! Do You REALLY have to? Man..... You should take care a little more about our inner happiness based on our own delusions, You know? 😄 (Thank You for useful advices!) 👍

[@CoachSteveJandS]

❤❤

[@ninjakris3004]

Here’s the way I look at it… I’m 63 years old right now. I recently had a couple health issues and I’m not sure if those are gonna present a problem for me in retirement or not. However, if I go back 15 years when I was 48, it seems like just yesterday! 15 years and bam 💥 I’m 63. So in my eyes, 15 years forward is going to be even faster and I will be 78, if… I’m still alive. Am I gonna have Good health? Am I going to be physically independent and capable of doing things that One would want to do during retirement? Probably not, and I will definitely be slowing down and might not have the energy…so, someday is now! I gotta get busy living! A new girlfriend is helpful.

[@jonasis22]

💯♥️

[@jongoodman7563]

Am I a mirror? 😂

[@juliemarkham4332]

STOP Doing These Things Over 40: saying "dude".

[@alwayspooh1588]

FUDGE!!! I am getting old!!!! John, great video, but you have made me feel older than I should!

[@40OverFashion]

Sorry!

[@EricPetersen2922]

I made my money when I was young. Now I have fun, I lost interest in cars, picked up other interests Life is good. Backwards baseballs hats need to stop at 45-50 years old!!!!!!! Period.

[@dedraaspell776]

Almost 60, not a guy. Looks like you changed your art. Positive. Calm, peace. Do you believe in God? Pray you do. I heard someone explain us as people like this. Our spirit lives forever, but our body gets old and dies. I always wondered why I feel and I am that child.

[@40OverFashion]

Thank you! Yes, the video that I posted right before this one is the new art reveal video

[@dedraaspell776]

@@40OverFashion ❤️

[@ssgdean1969]

I'm 54 and considering running another 50 mile race next year. If you let getting old get to you it will kill you!

[@ejc6958]

Good stuff John, thanks!

[@40OverFashion]

Of course! You’re welcome!