5 Big Mistakes After A Breakup

[@clo4816]

I love these three . Best advice out there on break ups so glad I found this channel .

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

Wha'tasppin him

[@marcelthorsen]

I cannot emphasise how important it is to do the work on yourself, for yourself, and be consistent with that work. You’ll be amazed at how much better you feel after a solid three months of CONSISTENT hard work on yourself. No contact (no reaching out, to be more specific) is for YOU and your own mental health and wellbeing. No one on earth is worth the mental trauma and the self-inflicted barbs we throw at ourselves after a breakup.

[@AllthingsBaaba]

I totally agree

[@adamwood87]

Matthew, that is 100% correct. tragedy is, it's hard to hear when one is going through it, and impossible to understand until you're past it.

[@Nate_The_Great69]

Been in a 2 month long dragged out breakup, I have lost myself and working on myself to find myself again. Life seems bleek but one foot in front of the other. Lost 13 pounds in little over 3 weeks, new job with 3x the income and everyday I seem to get a couple percent better. Stay strong my people.

[@s.t.5311]

It’s good that you’re life is improving, but I just want to let you know that losing 13 pounds in 3 weeks is very unhealthy. Aim to lose 1-2 pounds per week.

[@nathantrujillo471]

How exactly did you make that income leap

[@Nate_The_Great69]

@@nathantrujillo471 Well I work part time (good money not enough hours) plus casual as a firefighter I decided it wasn’t working for me. Thought I should put my education to use so I got a job as an oilfield firefighter so I’ll be working 98 hour work weeks for 2 to 3 weeks at a time and other pay benefits included in that. Definitely not a long term plan but it can defiantly start putting me on a path to chasing my dreams. Long story short haha

[@ohlookitsabird]

hope you’re doing well now

[@Nate_The_Great69]

@@ohlookitsabird doing a lot better now haha. I can laugh about it a little now.

[@juniorkchauke]

Women's feelings change like the clouds that move across the sky and their interest level rises and goes down like the sea. I wish I heard this sooner. Wise words Mr Craig.

[@mura0]

thats so true and at this point in my life whatever a woman says to me I interpret as a momentary thing. Tomorrow it might not be true anymore.

[@android1012]

This channel is THE BEST post-breakup advice out there. Period! Accept no fraudulent substitutes! Craig & Margaret helped tremendously a couple years ago with the worst breakup I ever had.

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

Wha'tasppin him

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

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[@gsuper2009]

Thank all of you for your continued videos and support. My fiancée/ partner broke up with me after 8 yrs. I know it is from past child/ adult traumas with her mom and ex husband that still linger. She is also unmedicated for bipolar 2. I am trying to heal my heart and work on myself.

[@IpsensFury]

Can confirm all these points are great! Keep growing and getting stronger in yourself and you'll get through this. I managed to. So can all of you!

[@andrasziegenham6766]

After 8:40 Craig is so confident exes reach out. I'm way past 2 years and she didn't. I was scared so much of the time it would happen. By now I can be pretty sure she won't. I wish I didn't think all this time she would. It slowed my healing process down.

[@naadde]

Yea that's the crazy thing. The internal honest to one self of letting go and they'll eventually contact. I have been no contact since October (soon 8 months) and I know she ain't contacting me. She's not going to, especially as long as I think of her daily, but I've been seeing other women now and eventually one day I'll forget her completely. I look forward to it because I know she's not coming back

[@zuhairitani4244]

They don’t always reach out. That’s part of life

[@naadde]

@@zuhairitani4244 indeed and my mentor who is 55 told me that a woman reached to his best friend after 30 years and they hit it romantically

[@andrasziegenham6766]

@@naadde yeah, I know of a couple who got back together after 30-40 years. So yeah, sure, you can be 100% sure there's a time they would eventually reach out... if we all lived hundreds of years. But considering our short lifespan and women's even shorter fertility, I wouldn't count on that. Besides, I'm effing glad she didn't reach out. I dreaded the possibility of her reaching out. Because logically I was 100% sure I wouldn't want to talk to her. But I know how stupid the hormones made me when separation anxiety kicked in a day after I found out what she had done. I feared some hormones would make me foolish enough to talk to her. That wouldn't be the real me, but the real me would have to pay the consequences once my mind cleared out again. So I said what I said hoping people like me would find some relief in the fact that some of them just don't reach out. At least not in a reasonable amount of time for it to matter.

[@adamwood87]

Andras, i know exactly what you mean. it was the hope that really kept my hurt alive. after i finally gave up hope, that's when i started to feel better. it has been two years, i'm alone, she's not coming back, in fact she's already engaged, and living with another guy, and that was after less than a year.

[@Damian-rc8tw]

Definitely agree about not dating someone else right now. A number of coaches, and family members too, say that will make your ex jealous and come back or help you get over them. Not my ex. I'd never hear from her again. And it's really unfair to the other person, especially if they like you. I am nowhere near ready to date someone else. I'm still very much in love with my ex. I've already screwed up since my breakup. No way am I going to do something that will forever eliminate what little chance I have left. I won't date someone else until I know I've moved on

[@barbaraandersen2116]

Great thoughts, I'm in this myself. I'm not ready to move on just yet.

[@fortylovestyle2789]

Ooh I needed to hear this one. Especially the part about closure.

[@mycenth22]

the week after my breakup, an online therapist I had told me I should get on a hookup app, meet someone, have sex, and get over it. I was shocked. Because that is sooooo not what I would do.

[@nancyhearn836]

My breakup was 9 months ago and I’m still struggling

[@bc2497]

Work on yourself, go do what you love to do and keep active. Divorced after 16 years, I started to work out and go fishing, she's slowly gone from my head.

[@adityabee1]

The only closure you need, is the sound of the door closing behind you on the way out.

[@zexoo4538]

I love your videos I always watch them... This video tho makes it sound like all exs will reach out.. I'm on 5 months and not one word since the day it happened... I've given up now...x

[@mountainman88]

If they leave and don't come back just because you didn't do exactly the right thing, it's not meant to be. The right person will forgive your failings and insecurities.

[@andrasziegenham6766]

There was a guy who considered me his best friend as far as I know. He basically betrayed my trust and I could hardly even look at him. He then threatened me with suicide. I didn't respond at all, but in my mind I thought "just do it". Fast forward 7 years and I was the one who got closer to suicide than ever. I knew threatening my ex with suicide would possibly make her to feel the same, but I still did it. Even now, 2 years later I think it was only down to luck I didn't kill myself. In one of the phone calls that might have been the last one for me, my mom mentioned she contemplated suicide when I was young. If she didn't mention that, I might have done it eventually. Now I wouldn't ever consider suicide. Not even if I was terminally ill. But I'm glad I threatened my ex, because now I can know for sure that at least at that time she really wanted me dead. Just like I wished that guy did it 9 years ago. She didn't bother to talk me out of it and if it wasn't for my mom sensing the need to mention her experience, I would be dead. That gives me quite a bit of strength not wanting my ex back.

[@dannycolwell8028]

It’s so tricky, having this goal/idea of strength, when my ex is so extremely chatty and reaches out multiple times a day. Trying to immerse myself into my routine…. She says “can you sneak away for half an hour? I miss you.”

[@nunurbizness06]

So on point. Thank You!

[@BigErnieBrown]

Coach Craig Kenneth is the G.O.AT.

[@theviking6593]

My ex , she didn't broke up with me , she stops aneser to my phone calls and she moved with someone else , i knew something wasn't good and i ask her 2 weeks before that happened and she says she has psychology problems, i learn from friends we broke up

[@benjaminnielsen4288]

I made the mistake of the infamous hand written letter, which failed miserably. Looking back I regret writing the damn thing. Long story short- my gf said she was pregnant (not by me), I got upset and told her to stop the pregnancy and she told me to never talk to her ever again. That was last year and it fucking sucked. She contacted me a few months after all that happened, and we've been working things out, but it is not the same. That letter made me look like a weak desperate loser. Live and learn.

[@rambojohnj.6117]

So YOUR girl got pregnant by another man while you were together, and she is upset with you? Do you have any dignity or self respect left?

[@benjaminnielsen4288]

@@rambojohnj.6117 The situation was a little more complicated than that. But yeah she got really upset with me and I was very upset with her. In the end, I don't believe she was ever pregnant. I was overseas when all this went down and when I saw her months later, she had no baby bump and never delivered. And she has never spoken of it. I think it was a big huge harry lie to get me out of the picture. Anyways, I'm not seeing her now. Dignity and self respect... I won't let her take that from me anymore. I deserve better than that.

[@kathyyoest4085]

So it is now three months since break up and I did No Contact. Ex contacted me at 45 days and we talked three different times and the last time he asked me to dinner which I declined due to a prior engagement. He texted a time or two. He called last week and talked for an hour and only made one reference to how good we were , otherwise it was about food and nonchalant stuff. He called this morning with a couple of non important questions. It's confusing. I love him and I'm waiting it out for a while, I still do No Contact. I do think he might be looking for someone to date - is just a guess on my part. I'm okay with it as I think he should see what is out there. I'm being patient and working on myself. He is worth the wait....It was mostly my fault for the break up. If the coaches want to comment on what they think this might be....testing the waters? I very much enjoy your videos. I need to check out your course on Knowledge.

[@missmo463]

Update?

[@aniplays948]

Can you do a video on breaking no contact as you are afraid your ex is scared to reach out?

[@alc6284]

This happened to me , I knew deep down my ex was too scared to reach out and I was right he admitted. I text him after 13 months

[@auroraschjlberg9062]

@@alc6284 did he ever mention why he was afraid?

[@mdia7830]

I did the closure text and saying that I didn't want to be friends. But, I'm wanting the relationship back. They walked out on me during an argument. I think they won't come back after that.

[@yswen828]

Is that what coach Craig meant that they will reach out only if they want to fix the problem and get back together? And to miss you when he’s far away?

[@kingrich4279]

Please my wife is requesting for a divorce, she made me park out from our house and she is with the two kids. At first I tried begging, I even went as far as making relatives talk to her, but she said over her dead body she is not going to get back to me again. But I discovered that she is no longer attracted to me....so far I have started the no contact method and so far I have not contacted her or even seen my kids. But the other time her father called me and told me if I have try reaching out with my wife and I told him know. What do I tell her dad the next time he called me suggesting I reach out to her. What about my kids, should I reach out to them.

[@mdia7830]

What if you did the closure, but what the relationship back?

[@monicam.9247]

What if we did some of these mistakes? Like bombarded with messages? Is there any way to save it now? It’s been a week after I sent tons of long messages and have been met with silence. Haven’t sent anything since

[@ZokavoGames]

Have any updates?

[@reachtothesky921]

I made the fitst mistake and she blocked me everywhere. Is it hopeless? It's been almost 2 months if no contact since 😬

[@kokospalos6322]

Hi I want to ask if There is still chance to get my ex back. We were together about 5 monnths and I never tell her I love her because I was afraid of it but I did everythink for her. I tell her it when we break up but it was too late.. so is there still any chance?

[@christopherbullens5494]

Wow I’m surprised idid 4 of the 5

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

Wha'tasppin him

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

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[@debmccafferty1007]

My family asked that I never speak to him again.

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@rameshtechtamil8686]

I got breakup help me

[@Jus-Too-Smoove]

I appreciate your videos and I have watched a lot since my break up, but I haven’t found one by you that goes over no contact working after the most extreme cases of post break up mistakes and I would appreciate it if I could get one because it’s hard to believe that it may work in my situation. And I know that no contact isn’t meant to get my ex back but I just want to hear of it working on an ex girlfriend specifically. Thanks.

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

Wha'tasppin him

[@reecewatson2]

Only 5? This should be fun 🤩

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

I'm so excited having my ex back, after been separated for months. All thanks to John musa whom help me get to get back my ex again, I will suggest y all get help from him and it's works within 48 hours

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

Wha'tasppin him

[@oniyiaaugustine6491]

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[@reecewatson2]

@@oniyiaaugustine6491 I don’t want her back, are you nuts troll, I did the work 😂

[@mariotibbrine1]

No contact is manipulation.

[@andrasziegenham6766]

Elaborate

[@adityabee1]

Only if it succeeds!

[@andrasziegenham6766]

@@adityabee1 no contact always succeeds. If your ex doesn't reach out, at least you get your sanity and self respect back.

[@DavidJarvis01]

Respecting their wishes is not manipulative.

[@mariotibbrine1]

@@DavidJarvis01 no its not not like you have a choice in the matter either way

[@artamsrr]

Hey there, could you please make a video about signs or strategies when a dumper tries to be closer inorder to rekindle the relationship? My ex after 10mo reached out, the person who dumped me, reminded me of the good memories and started to act like a caring person and absolutely as a friend " for now" 😄. I want to know how I handle the situation afterwards to get my power back. Thank you 😊 🤍

[@adamwood87]

Arta, Craig has several videos about that already. i think the titles are "when they reach out" or something like that. Lee Wilson (Coach Lee) also has several videos about this. typically, the advice is to take it slowly, don't appear too eager.

[@artamsrr]

@@adamwood87 thank you so much, I will find and watch them 😊🙏🏻

[@MaricaIvica]

Watch out! Is it worth being even friends?

[@artamsrr]

@@MaricaIvica thank you 😊

[@Damian-rc8tw]

@@adamwood87 yeah Coach Lee has a very good video about what to do when your ex does reach out. I love when he says what to say to an ex about getting back together. I'm open to that but I just want to take things slow, or one day at a time. Much like Craig says, don't give it all away. It's very sensible. You don't want to rush it.