5 Easy to Miss Signs Your Ex Wants You Back - Clay Andrews

Clay Andrews (from relationshipinnergame.com) shares 5 unusual signs your ex wants you back.
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Today we’re going to be talking about five signs your ex wants you back.
These are going to be a little bit usual, so bear with me.
First is that your ex experiences what is called a positive pull back.
A positive pull back is when you have an interaction with your ex that they actually enjoy, but then they go silent after that.
What’s happening here is that your ex is trying to feel you out. They are trying to reconcile the two different versions of you in their mind. There is the version of you that they broke up with. Then there is the version of you that they saw there when they were interacting with you.
If you’ve done your job well, there should be a stark difference between these two versions.
Your ex is pulling back because they do not know which version to put their trust in.
The second sign that your ex wants you back is that they are actually discouraging you from getting back together with them.
This happens at the Crisis Point on the 5 stages of getting back together.
This happens because your ex is trying to make things easier for themselves. They are hoping that if they can just test you to see if you will walk away or give up, then they don’t have to actually go through the trouble of rearranging their life in an uncomfortable way.
The third sign that your ex wants you back is that they mention anything beyond a platonic connection.
We’ve talked about the friend zone in other videos, and how this isn’t something that you really need to worry about with your ex.
And this is definitely true. So I won’t bother discussing it here.
Your ex will often keep things platonic while they are trying to figure out how they feel about you. This is because they are worried about accidentally giving you “false hope.”
If they are moving beyond the platonic with you, then it means that they do not care about giving you false hope anymore. And this could be because they are open to the idea of getting back together again.
The fourth sign is that your ex and you are able to connect on an emotional level, and not just a superficial level.
And the fifth sign is that your ex is actually expressing interest in other people. Your ex might do this because they are actually testing the waters to see if you are interested in them or not. It is an invitation for you to show your hand without them having to seem over invested by directly asking if you are interested in anyone else.

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks for watching my video. If you'd like to learn more about the 5 stages that I mention in the video, check out this playlist over here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p4ird5KHottknq8

[@biggiebeil5118]

Is it possible to had a quick conversation with you or a call clay ? it might save my marriage , my heart too !! I had a situation need to react quick , it had been more than a month and this signs all happens , i want make sure doing the right thing before its too late

[@eddiemaidenify]

And what if I am already passing through these phases, even tho' we broke up recently? She likes to drink beer with me, she mentions platonic relationship, she likes to play video games with me, etc. And she discourages me from re-entering into relationship with her again. What should I do?

[@tinae8683]

He has all the signs in this video hop everything is gonna turn out well

[@thisgustin]

What the hell? So we have to give them the feeling that we can be their safety net? That doesn't sound healthy. 5:25

[@Karina_Engr]

1. 00:36 Pull-back (The REAL you conflicts with their projection of "you") and don't trust the real you 2. 3:12 Discourage from trying to get back with them (to make it easier for them) even though you two have an emotional connection 3. 5:45 move to the next level (past platonic, but into grey area, flirting) 4. 7:17 willing to talk on an emotional level, and be more vulnerable 5. 7:55 They want to know, "Are you dating anyone else?"

[@ISTHIStheKRUSTYKRABx]

THANK YOU

[@anewloveofficial9137]

Some guys are foolish, they'll realize our worth once where gone and What I hate the most is when they insert more effort to convince us to Come back again but when you are still together we can't even feel their presence.

[@michaelatorn8380]

Same goes for girls

[@sobrangartemote2713]

Amen

[@daisyreyes3450]

So true i think guys and girls do this because i did this even if i feel terrible which i should feel💔💔 because i treated someone horribly.

[@Moonlight.Melon.Mounter]

A New Love Official what were you bringing to the table tho?

[@ravencris2644]

Try to look first the situation my ex said i disregards her but she said i doesant care on her but iam far bcouse were LDR and i have a work

[@arshiaalexander]

My ex has all the signs and we are kind of making some progress. I was just honest to her about my feelings after she asked to be her friend. I told her you are not friend you are family. Our relationship was positive and healthy I was just being too needy and she is 20 and we dated for 2 years. She asked me to move on and I said I will move on from the relationship but I do have feelings for u but I dont want to force you to do something that you dont want to do. I just stopped messaging her all the time and now she is reaching out and she is so warm toward me. Pray for me ❤😋 I know I've got this

[@ngjiahui1123]

I wish u the best of luck! how is it going so far?

[@baodinhnguyen2476]

Great job you good sir!

[@meosoukasene820]

U right about that one u say i love u she becomes like a family member ..

[@kispumel]

Fail

[@G20T]

Arshia Alexander good luck bro bro

[@ivyloly5254]

You're describing my ex's attitude right now. He said it. I just don't want to be hurt again. So he's seeing my interaction, I'm trying to be always positive and be consistent to regain his trust again.

[@lucianestor5425]

you are one of the best dating coaches on KZbin and your advice is very valuable. Keep up the good work.

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you Lucia. I really appreciate this. I know a several of the other coaches personally you may have seen, and I think that many of them are quite sharp. It's good to know that you think highly of me as well :)

[@LadyLindy4]

@@ClayAndrews I agree entirely with the comment here, Clay...you are really the best coach, for sure👍🏻🙂👌🏻👏🏻

[@anonymouscreature9483]

We broke up because my mental illness took the best out of me and I hurt him 💔. But I truly change and I am now able to control my anxiety and I fixed many of my problems.

[@ClayAndrews]

I'm sorry to hear that your mental illness took a toll on your relationship. But geat to hear that you have taken the step to work on getting better. :-) Good job on that.

[@stendec]

Your videos are great. I have a son with my ex so I speak to and see her a lot. We broke up about 3 months ago. At first I thought there was nothing there, like she was pretty much indifferent to me, but in the last month she's really warmed to me and we talk like we used to. I've noticed some of these signs you've mentioned and she's pretty much admitted to me that she's unhappy and lonely, but doesn't want to get my hopes up. We're going out as a family this weekend for the first time since the split. I'm staying grounded but still optimistic. Keep up the good work. Your ideas are much more realistic than some of the 'game playing' suggested by other coaches.

[@lethal_vamp1998]

Can't believe everything you said is so true. I've experienced it myself.

[@oxymoron458]

Thank clay I wasn't a fan of your channel at first but this video has given me closure

[@ClayAndrews]

That's great to hear, Hero. :-)

[@kaosaechao8878]

Thanks Clay I needed to hear this . Now I have a better understanding about my ex this what she’s doing to me right now .I hope it’s true what you are saying

[@ErikBCSA]

Clay you do AN AMAZING job. You are helping me a lot right now!!

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you, Erik. :-)

[@alexandre9328]

Thank you for this positive signs you’re the only one to see :)

[@ClayAndrews]

You are so welcome, Alexandre. :-)

[@cbshin9483]

Your analysis is excellent! I get big hope. Thanks.

[@ClayAndrews]

You're welcome and thanks for watching our videos always, CB. :-)

[@merovictalaue1550]

You're brilliant! I almost observe those signs to my x. Thank you for sharing your knowledge with us. 😊

[@ClayAndrews]

You are so welcome. :-)

[@tipoftheiceberg7034]

Your voice is very calming man

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks! I don't like it, personally, but I'm glad you have a different opinion. Maybe I should start an ASMR channel :)

[@Justme48813]

Love this video.

[@psb12121]

Good info to know. Thank you.

[@jirokatsutoshi4967]

I can't stop laughing that all of these videos are EXACTLY what I needed to pay attention to but didn't see any of it until it was all awful and almost 100% gone for good.

[@ClayAndrews]

In life, we really don't know what we got until we lose them. But our experiences can teach us lessons that we can bring along as we mature in life. :-)

[@dallasbarnett9145]

Dam man youre too good at this you need a show!

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks, Dallas. :-)

[@LEFTY697]

Wow, you literally just described every step of my mentality when I was trying to figure out if I wanted to get back together with my ex. I had no idea what was going through my mind was so textbook or predictable. Too bad during “crisis point” he got off the train and decided to move on with the person he was talking to. Thank you for making this video. I now understand the logic of what I was going through emotionally the last half of last year.

[@shawntee.8461]

Man, all of these have been present

[@patrickdolan8388]

thank you clay..this helps a lot...great info

[@ClayAndrews]

Glad to help :-)

[@ggozum1004]

How lovely and loud!

[@reeljour884]

i had all the signes and i missed them. i like the video thank you very match

[@jayj.3872]

Wow!! You’re so amazing

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you very much, Jay. :-)

[@Mopark25]

I think I'm in the crisis point. She's been calling me to talk often recently, then today she messaged me saying she just wants to be friends.

[@gilliansanderson4830]

You make a lot of sense 👆

[@welovee1680]

I loved this video! ♥️♥️♥️

[@ClayAndrews]

Glad you liked it!!

[@brittanymcnamara1990]

Amazing video! Perfect info Clay! 🤗

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you Brittany!

[@omniscientingenue452]

We broke up last month & I still miss him. Is there any chance we can get back together? I haven't contacted him since breakup. The reason he gave was that we fight a lot & now he is not sure about his feelings but he wanted to remain friends with me but I refused.

[@ifrahhersi752]

but after breakup with me they in January the don't talk to me any more

[@regdicho1209]

Thank you for this video. Now i understand the mix signals he is sending. 😁

[@ClayAndrews]

You're welcome, Reg and we are happy to hear that our video had resonated with you.

[@marystacey2216]

That is so interesting

[@a.d.b535]

I have been very well behaved, not contacting. However, my tendency to hone in on videos like this just underscores My Wish for some hopeful sign that I have missed. It is fallacy to think one can turn off their feelings like a machine. And it is folly to think that the fantasy of a wonderful reunion would be the reality..

[@ClayAndrews]

It's true that a person cannot turn off their feelings with the snap of a finger. If you suppress them they will come out in other ways. The fantasy of reconciliation can be nice, but ultimately, we have to look at what is real and what is in front of us, not clinging to a groundless fantasy. If there is some evidence to support the possibility of getting back together, then there is nothing wrong exploring what is possible. But fantasy alone will not get you there. Neither will solely doing No Contact. If No Contact is the only tool in your toolbox, you're going to have a hard time.

[@rebekahtinker1749]

2 weeks broken up...i am struggling with the no contact..he still messages me but is back on dating apps. I am struggling to keep my distance I love him but am not sure why he keeps contacting me randomly when he broke up with me.

[@jameshood1057]

Hi Clay. I might have a problem here. Me and my ex broke up 7 months ago, and she's in a ONLINE relationship with another guy since then. I know that rebounds usually last only for a couple of months but this one has actually been alive even more than my personal relationship with her, and it's really upsetting by my point of view even if you keep saying that rebounds are not something to worry about, but I think this has become more than a simple rebound. I think i am between stage 2 and 3 in the 5 stages of getting her back: she's often cold with texts but I'm actually able to set up meetings with some work. It would be nice if I could get a tip to improve. Thank you in advance

[@hassibalhassanrizveredoy3143]

Every 5stage happened to me within this one week as you said already but she blocked me again as usual day before yesterday out of the blue and though she's the one who always knocks me. She even told me that she'd meet me a week ago but blocked me day before yesterday when I was trying to be casual. Why?

[@susanavaldez2747]

So if I see alot of these signs to I straight up as if she wants to get back together or do I wait until she says she wants to get back together?

[@piyushpandey4358]

need to ask you something............my ex gf broke up with me 1.5 months ago and i stalked her and tried 2 sort out things with her....but received negative response........after that i followed your no contact rule.....hence started improving myself and enjoying my own company............within last 5 days i posted some of my pics in which i showed my happiness but day before yesterday i posted a video in which i was on a long drive with my few frnds where we were chilling out..........but suddenly i saw that at she blocked me on fb. Would you please tell me what is d meaning of her dis reaction???? let me tell u onething i noticed that on her another account of fb i m still unblocked????? please recommend me d meaning of her reaction with your personal advice about what should i do next at dis phase of my situation?

[@dedoodle1643]

Hey clay, she moved on to another guy, she said that she lost attraction and that she cant handle a long distances relationship. Is it even possible i can get her back? She said she still feels hurt, and she sure that she doesn't want to get togther. What advice would you give me?

[@jspratt44]

Hey any advice. So I broke up with my ex because she was being disrespectful for about 2 months. I initially did it to give her space but she claimed she didn’t care and her aunt died around 2 weeks earlier. Anyway the 1st week i did no contact then the 2nd I checked up on her. She ignored my message and then I had said a few unnecessary words and it’s been around 3 weeks since that happened. I recently heard she’s talking to another guy rn what should I do? Im taking this time to better myself but I think she’s over me

[@yeoitscori3618]

Please tell me what my step is. Is my situation too late for coaching I have been working on myself for one year since the break. 10th month was the first reach out for happy new year which he replied kindly n that was it. Second reach out for a month ago- sharing what I did that might interest him at all. No reply. How can I reconnect with him when Ive done the work? I'm continuing to do the work and will not stop. I'm in a long distance breakup so patience is nothing to me. But I'm scared.... Please what should I do next

[@kalpanaregu3504]

Thank you so much universe

[@MJ573]

Ex b/u, went right into a Rebound two months ago, though still keeps in intermittent contact. She said it's too late for us, we're not meant to be together. How does that fit in Sign #2, The Discouraging? Your two Sign #2 examples were more positive. And she said her feelings for me, for us, have changed - how does that relate to Sign #3, Beyond Platonic - is she still sorting out her feelings for me, for us, to establish or update those boundaries? Am seeing glimmers of Sign #4 with some sharing of emotions. For Sign #5, the indirect way of ascertaining your availability and interest, in addition to other usual reasons, is their Rebound possibly a weird way of trying to bait Ex into reacting one way or other for their mental processing? Had a possible Sign #1 Positive Pull Back a day ago, too early to tell...

[@phillipyang5199]

What if my ex says she wants space to heal but she does show some signs?

[@maryrose1701]

love watching you

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you Mary Rose.

[@yoyomonique7483]

Everyone my ex and me hang out he ends up coming up to me and kissing me like emotionally kissing and he says he can't help it never fails always happens

[@ikopablo9857]

thank you for this video Clay, my ex broke up with me a month ago and now he reached out to me and said that He want to win me back and he is doing all the signs that you mentioned on this video so now I think that he really want me back😊 BUT I don't know what to do now, I know in my heart I still love him but I'm afraid to trust him again, maybe because of the pain that I experienced during our break up. 😢 I really don't know what to do 😕

[@Bayliekerswill]

The first thing you said literally made me gasp and drop my phone 😂 I hate people

[@kelddsrx]

What if they are reaaaally physical with you (so as if they were NOT concerned about giving you false hope ) but draw the line at calling the other one too often oder writing text messages or meeting up regularly? And I'm not only talking about sex but also cuddling, flirting, kissing etc. Is that normal? Seems kinda weird .. shouldnt they be open to call etc first before taking that next step?

[@Torithewanderingma]

It’s like you can see into my relationship with my ex. I know he wants to get back together. He tells me we’re never going to have a relationship again but his actions don’t match that. He says he’s never leaving his new girlfriend. He says he’s confused because he has a new gf and he has me. So I’m taking this advice and backing wayyy off and going to live my life and concentrate on me. Keep the emotional connection because we have our own language and kids together, but take the pressure off him.

[@niwatutu6603]

What if my ex is hot and cold with his emotions towards me. So one minute he’s nice the next he’s not. I was the one who originally broke off the relationship but we always tend to have emotional talks about why our relationship didn’t work and then we will connect on a deeper level. But it never tends to get us anywhere

[@Mijn24]

well, my gf was mad at me basically when she broke up w me. she told me i shouldnt wait for her and to go find other girls. but she said its over, she did say she wanted to be friends but then i got her angry and she said she doesnt wanna hear from me anymore. btw u look like my philosophy teacher

[@nicholastarnowski4624]

Hi clay. My question is ,"What do I do after my ex came back after breaking up with a rebound, after a year and gave me heavy signs she wants to get back together .. (but slowly) then we get together a few days over a few weeks had a great time.. had sex really got my Hope's up! Then she wanted to have a conversation about that she isnt ready and is mending her broken heart over her last breakup.. I agree..! Then I notice she didnt come home one night after work and then lied about it to me..(like she use to do).. and then got completely angry at me and hasn't seen me in person at all since, but we text.. it's always her telling me she wants to be alone.. what do I do ? I apologised for pushing.. but all the signals were confusing.

[@ravencris2644]

Hi clay,, my ex and i broke up almost 4month,after few weeks she dating a co worker its suck last january 3 after lest than of 2month of nc she txt me hows my new yr and i ans her its ok and then we talk about our past relation she call me then she said to me that ill w8 for her bcouse she just need to fix something that she messes up were in a LDR relation for almost 8yrs but we know its other for morethan 16yrs bcouse we leaving in the same city during hs, day but last nigth we txt again and she said to me that i must forget her bcouse she doesant love me anymore,, what should i do, do i must forget her or should i stay in no contak again just to win her back

[@PratiksinghMunda]

In this 5 sign 3 of them I experienced in she usually go in happy talk and then move out silently. she don't talk to me about to get back but yes she keep saying to find a girl and make her your gf. and now after a month she starts to talk to me in certain time to time. finding excuse to talk an also said that she thinks me as a friend..

[@jennykamson692]

My ex use to reach out to me only on holidays to wish me and on my birthday.We are from a different states which we met each other in workplace where we work as part time job. He brokeup with me last November choosing another girl over me which he recently met on a party and that girl is from his own hometown.Well he actually don't know that I know about this because I got to know from a mutual friends. But here I'm totally confused on one thing,he reached out to me like several times asking me help for money as he was living in other city which we have met. so,is it be right to help him or not? I want to help him but what if he is taking advantage of me ?because he know very well I love him so much and unconditionally. when he reached out to me he use insisted me to do a video call instead but I never do. At one point he even text me in fb saying, "I heard that you make a new boyfriend"? Last call was on 28th of Jan and don't heard about him after that... Any advice for me plis...I really want him and love him but I dnt know what to do..

[@srishtinagpal2809]

Saw your channel and loved your energy I hope you can help me in my case My ex boyfriend left me a month back, I begged pleaded to him and his parents for a month...I even went to his house to meet his parents and begged them to help me He the removed all our pictures from social media Removed me from social media Idk if hes seeing anyone else or not I really love him and want him back He broke up by saying he's been unhappy from a long time and he doesn't love me anymore! Plz tell me what should I do?

[@morrissmith1362]

So I’ve went through all of that with my ex we still talk and text here and there the emotional connection is still there but she’s still a little hesitant about us being together what should I do on my end because I feel if we were to get back together that we would have a better relationship than before

[@lyka8120]

What if my ex told me sorry for everything but i move on.. Hope you move on too

[@Banana-lk7tf]

Sounds so much like my ex, except he's not willing to talk about anything to do with feelings, just things that don't directly relate to our relationship. He's currently in the avoiding and posturing phase.

[@ClayAndrews]

Just focus your interactions based on what he can offer emotionally. In that way, he won't be in an uncomfortable emotional place to build that interaction with you.

[@Frankgarcia12345]

Dam what if i fell for the start talking to some one else because she had a rebound already. So I did and I let her know we started dating and she got mad. Man Im confused😔

[@aenese34]

It's been 3 months and we are no longer in no contact. We've been talking but not very regularly, maybe every once a week or something. He texted me on Valentine's day asking me how I was AND, this one blew me away, how I dealt with the breakup. If I moved on quickly, if I was still sad over it, if I was hopeful about the future...what does this mean? Of course I'm aware that's it's probably just concern but my heart is telling me that this might mean something more...good (like him having doubts about his decision) or bad (maybe he's testing the waters, in case he starts a relationship with someone else and doesn't want to break my heart again)...I know I'm asking you to mind read a bit, but what does this mean, most likely?When the dumper makes these sorts of questions? Mind you that we broke up long distance and are still long distance but he's coming back soon.

[@gerardbatrow8043]

What if your ex maybe have been in the crisis stage? They tell you to date other Woman. That they are dating other men. You tell them they must not still be interested in you ( me) . You tell them not to contact you again. Is that an emotional reply on my behalf? If so , how do I repair it?

[@joleasmith5237]

I told him that I liked his posts coz he was active in training and it inspired me. Then he started to compare his body to his friends( who’s post I was liking) my friends say he’s jealous but idk...

[@greenmileyfan97]

My ex and I dated for around two months. He broke up with me because he said school and work was too overwhelming for him since he's in pharmacy school and he said a lot of family stuff going on and offered to be friends instead so that way we "could keep each other in each other's lives, but not see each other as often." We broke up at the end of August but we still kept talking to each other frequently until October and all of the sudden he stopped replying to my messages and watching my snapchat stories. I felt like he was ghosting me so then I just planned to message him when I knew his school was on break in December. I proceeded to message him on snapchat cuz then I could tell if he read the message or not since he has a Samsung and I have an iPhone so I can't tell if he's read it or not if I send him a text. He never ended up even opening the snapchat. So then a few weeks later (January 3rd), I ended up texting him a message about how I apologized for my behavior from before and told him that I was grateful he broke up with me. Surprisingly, he ended up responding to me and said he still wanted to be friends. He would take at least a day to respond to my messages but then he just stopped replying to all together after a few days of texting. I then sent him a final text message almost three weeks ago explaining how I felt to him and that I don't mind being friends but I felt disrespected cuz it felt like he wasn't treating me in a friendly manner. He never responded to the text. All I want to do is just to talk to him to see where he's at. I don't understand why he's treating me like this. I'm ok with being friends with him but I'm tired of his "hot and cold" behavior. What should I do to get him to talk to me again? I was thinking about just waiting until the summer to reach out again just to let things die down. I don't even want a romantic relationship with him at this point, I just want him to talk to me and stop ignoring me. What should I do to get him to talk to me again? Please help Clay :(

[@caseygoodwin7536]

Hey Clay my ex has been looking for reasons to talk to me about twice a week. Usually nonsense about guess what? I ask she says she got a new job then asks how I’ve been or sending me screen shots asking why she is still friends with a girl she thought she deleted but she still hasn’t deleted her. So last night I was out with friends and was drinking and snapping pics with girls that are my friends no ahe said it looks like you are having more fun now that your not fooling with me anymore lol. I asked what you mean she says you get to go out and have fun something you didn’t do when we were together.. my question does it sound like she’s jealous or is missing me or regretting our breakup

[@danielbrown8602]

She's telling me I can do better and tells me to move on. I told her I'd wait. I got 4 out 5 signs. I give it 2 weeks.

[@mikelopez2091]

How you doing clay so my ex broke up with me a week ago we just came back from Vegas we were supposed to get married in Vegas she called it off and said she’s not in love with me and not happy we have a kid together and we were engaged we were together for 3 years going on 4 what should I do all she says right now is pls stop I feel like we can make it work if we go to therapy

[@ClayAndrews]

First of all, I think that she is going to be resistant to going to therapy right now. If she's already broken up with you, then therapy is going to be a pretty big leap for her. The first step is to understand why she backed out of getting married. Was there anything that you are aware of that would cause her to second guess her choice to marry you? If so then that is the first thing to address.

[@chucalissa9231]

Just sub. Love your video s

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you , Cara. :-)

[@benola5977]

I like this guy

[@ClayAndrews]

Thank you so much. :-)

[@mareewaugh95]

What if he keep telling me to move on

[@mohamedcherif881]

@ CLAY ANDREWS , please help me , i have 2 questions after i met my ex again , she was in crises point and i told her that i love her and she said to me I LOVE YOU TOO and it was good the day after she called me to meetup with her after her work but she didn't respond to my call for 2 days 1- should i call her again when she don't reply ? or i wait for her to call me back ? 2- should i tell her that i'am angry from this behaviour ? ( HOT AND COLD )

[@MegaBrandon3]

Go to Alpha male strategies bro on youtube.

[@chrisnorthyrs9356]

Hi clay, how often should we be initiating with our ex’s it’s hard to know if what your doing is too much or not enough

[@ClayAndrews]

You have to be careful not to become a "robo texter" who just contacts your ex every X days. You have to stay present to the quality of the interactions between you and them. You have to stay tuned in to what feels good and where they are at emotionally. With that being said, there is no set rule. If the interactions between you and your ex are strong, then there is no harm in continuing to contact them. But as soon as the quality of the connection starts to slip, then it's time to dial it back. Maybe they just need space due to what they are going through... Or maybe there is something off about the connection between you and them.

[@chrisnorthyrs9356]

I’m tending to stick to phone calls as the emotional connection seems much stronger this way she opens up about what’s going on in her life and how she feels where as by text she can often be blunt I’m just wary of overdoing the phone calls I guess thanks for the great advice keep doing your great work.

[@nyssa0628]

Hi Clay! My ex blocked me 7 months ago on social media, but a few weeks ago he unblocked me. 2 day ago I sent him a text message, just asked something about his job, but he didn't reply. What could this mean? Thank you.

[@ClayAndrews]

Hi there, To be honest, we may never know the exact reason why he didn't respond. But give him some time to process your message first. There are a lot of possibilities but we would avoid making any assumptions so you won't feel more anxious.

[@shelli9237]

My ex does all of this... well maybe not the last one cause he’s in a rebound relationship. It’s long distance now cause he is currently out of town but we are keeping up with emotional connections. He was recently hospitalized and he let me know and I was there for him, over the phone obviously. I guess I want to know that even though we are improving my emotional connection, when should I ask about getting back together? I don’t want to do it too early but the emotional connection and the tips you gave here make me feel like I’m getting pretty close.

[@ClayAndrews]

The time to ask about getting back together is when the connection between you and him is very strong. He should very low resistance to interacting with you. And, ideally, he should have ended things with his rebound first. That may not happen though if he is not the kind of person to fully end things before starting something new (very common these days). What I would consider doing is getting a very strong rapport with him, and then when things are deep and the connection is strong, consider asking him if he ever thinks about getting back together. Of course you only want to do this if his emotional resistance is very low and it's obvious that he is into you.

[@mariannakrejniuk6858]

Hi Clay, is it possible that an ex is testing you by provoking (discouraging) you in a kind of way to check if you're going to react like "the old version of you"? And does it belong to the crisis point?

[@ClayAndrews]

Yeah, that is pretty much textbook Crisis Point behavior.

[@mariannakrejniuk6858]

@@ClayAndrews Thank you so much! Does it also belong to the crisis point when it's suddenly your ex who's reaching out to you (with not necessarily the most positive messages) and he suddenly start talking more to you?

[@mumdoes6367]

My ex and I had this, we got really close, but now he has pulled right back saying there must be something that feels not right...but he can't figure our what, and still wants to see me, but only laconic as any touchy stuff feels like a relationship, and he doesn't want that atm, and he says if we get back together he'd probably marry me, so he needs to be sure...

[@LadyLindy4]

Hi Clay🙂 I thought my ex and me would reunite one day but after watching this video now I’m more sure we will. We have 4 of the 5 signs here! I visit him periodically in the shop where he works and he is definitely showing the first 4 signs to me mentioned here! He just needs to finish with the rebound now. Please pray we reunite Clay. Thankyou for this insight here! My small hope for me and the ex that I had, has grown to a much bigger hope now. I will be much more sensitive to his emotional temperature(you always say, which I so like)from now on Clay🙂 Please pray that me and him reunite. thanks again Clay🙂🙂

[@ClayAndrews]

Thanks for the nice comment. I'm happy that things seem to be looking good for you. Best wishes with everything moving forward.

[@mirskii2758]

I’m praying 🤲🏾

[@danielbrown8602]

Update?

[@LadyLindy4]

@@ClayAndrews thankyou again Clay for everything you do...and freely most things too - definitely the best coach there is on the internet for sure...🥰🥰🙂🙂

[@LadyLindy4]

@@danielbrown8602 still riding the very temperamental dragon ride, what about you?

[@taylorgordon4920]

My ex girlfriend just recently texting me saying let’s go out to eat and to a hotel I only smashed her one time two years ago after we split should I go??

[@1234567890820100]

(#5 sigh) you are talking to her and she text back people are hitting on her and you had a good conversation about thing but two days after you asked her out and she say no

[@ifrahhersi752]

my ex have they face book friend list on me still

[@erosvera9945]

My ex now is in the rebound and sometimes she acts like im not there or happy but sometimes wen i walk by she distract her self by piking up her phone. Somtimes its like i dont f know . Getting seek of these i widh now she or me tells moooove on.

[@kylephantom4]

He's....exhibited about 4 of the signs...however the last one...like he hasn't exhibited since the breakup but back when we just started dating and we took a break for like a month...he asked it then because he thought that would have been it.

[@mareewaugh95]

He also tells me he loves me but he doesn't love me the way he should

[@babylazo]

What happens when he says he sometimos feels like he wants to get back wirh me but if he makes that decision ever, i might not want him back anymore. But he knows i love him deeply, so of course i will take him back. I dont understand why he says that statement knowing himself that i totally will

[@mariannakrejniuk6858]

Hi Clay, I have one more question. When your ex suddenly follows you with his car when you're driving with some friends (including male friends), is that a way of testing you and to check if you're dating someone else?

[@ClayAndrews]

It probably means that he is curious who you're with and what you're doing.

[@mariannakrejniuk6858]

@@ClayAndrews well, he must have been curious since he wanted to invest his time doing so.☺

[@MegaAce1987]

Mine said were not getting back together, I’m doing no contact day 17, after that runs it’s course I’m considering removing herself off my Snapchat. She can see my stories, I can see here but choose not to view hers. As far as Far as I’m concerned, she has no business knowing what I’m up to

[@kevingreen9534]

My ex and I have been apart for almost seven months. She said she wanted space and when I ask tell me why..... The response was I don't have to tell you anything. I've been working on myself seeing a therapist because commitment is the one thing I cannot seem to get right in my life. Can you offer me some clarification here? KG

[@irfanjunejo9034]

KEVIN GREEN mate if she asked for space, give her the world. Let her go, shes not worth it. Trust me you will find someone better.

[@joleasmith5237]

Clay, my ex asked why I was liking his friends posts on Instagram?? What does this mean?

[@ClayAndrews]

Hi Jolea, I wouldn't overthink anything. Just take things as it is and focus on answering his questions. that could be an opportunity to create a positive interaction that putting another meaning into it. :-)

[@callumdavis6545]

I’m scared I’ve seen all 5 signs what should I do 😳😳 ( she’s just broke up with her rebound and I’m thinking to give it time now )

[@ClayAndrews]

Hi Callum, If your ex just broke up with her rebound, give her some time to heal and process her emotions. It is important that we have to be sensitive to what she is going through. All the best.

[@dmda9093]

Hello clay for me its so sad because i know i dont own him anymore its been a hard time for us since he is not happy with his married, life but for me life must go on i know someday i can find the right one for me, i know its hard because we have the same feeling. i must let him go, Actually i move on but since am ok now, hes the one making the move to come back to me.. I told him its too late and you are already married..thats the sad part..😔

[@latifaasad6707]

hello, My girlfriend broke up with me, last month 1 because we had an argument she graded me and so this made me violent that I fought her the first time because degrading me every time and then we solved and both agreed to change but she repeated that degrading thing and I also fought hard the second time and we solved where I included my family members and I promised never fight her, at that time I shifted for an interview to another location because we used to live together and we had just finished our studies 1 month later after I shifted she came to my place I had already applied job for her and she passed the interview but she didn't want to stay with because after I shifted due to job interview she joined online dating, so that day she came at my place I discovered that, and asked why politely and that's when she told me that she had never forgiven me after 2nd fight and she broke up with me and proposed to be friends. I begged her and after 1 week she started dating, but it didn't work well for her so I have been friend zone for 1 month I call her like 5 times a day and we talk and she also calls like twice a day I apply here for jobs, she also gives money to save for her in a different I opened for but, we are friends and am stacked what to do she says she does want to date again because she hates sex, and she does want me as lover, and to be with me because I broke her virginity, am extremely good for her and I have anger than that she says she loves me as friend , what should i do, in other words she says am extremely good and at the same I have anger issues. we are friends and we talk every day it has been 1 month what should I do to gain her love

[@smartguy360]

All of what he said happened to me yesterday

[@KnocOutBoiz]

Interesting

[@moodycutegirlmoodycutegirl8811]

Hi can u please help me. My husband and i separate 4 months now in the past 3 months im begging him and pleading him i told him give me a last change.because it's my fault i hurt him so many times and I did not respect him which is the main reason that why he tell me he lost his love for me.but this month i open up my feelings again to him I tell him don't call me or speak me because i hurt coz he tell me before we are never getting back together.we are married with one son.but this month he call me to tell me he is goin to minor surgery.but before he tell me he is over me.he still calling me but is not about our son.he calling to tell me what happening to him and to ask me how i am.what should I do.should I make the no contact to getting him back to me?

[@ClayAndrews]

He called you to see how you're doing and to share what's happening with him. Assuming you are emotionally oaky enough to have an interaction with him, why would you want to do No Contact? Why not just connect with him? It seemed like he was open to connecting with you in that moment.

[@moodycutegirlmoodycutegirl8811]

@@ClayAndrews hi thank you for your reply. ☺

[@drjsantos15able]

Yea I'm not sure if my ex wants me back since we dont talk I can really gauge her feelings towards me, it's been 6 months since we broke up and about 4 since we last talked, but she still posts on social media quotes saying like "worth the wait, dont worry everything comes at due time" and this one she posted last night " happiness isn't when we get what we want, it's when we enjoy what we have" idk why I could be overthinking it but somehow i feel like shes thinking of me when she posts those quotes, like she cant anyone like me(probably comparing me with others) so its "worth the wait" what do you think?

[@ClayAndrews]

It's possible she is thinking of you when she posts those quotes. It's possible she is thinking of something else. The thing that has me curious though is why haven't you been in contact in 4 months. All of this is only speculation if you're not in contact. Is there something holding you back from reconnecting?

[@drjsantos15able]

@@ClayAndrews i guess I'm just not sure what to expect,

[@reginawoess4928]

Went to see my ex after 5yrs which I broke up with him because of him telling me hes also in love with another woman who he was with before me. He wanted to be intimate right away plus told me other woman divorced him. But next time I saw him he had told his new gf I was coming over and she kept calling and he said shes trying to keep us from being intimate and laughed. I might have done the wrong thing and told him no worries were not getting intimate and I'm leaving as I felt he was using me to make her jealous. Was I wrong?

[@ClayAndrews]

HI Regina, no, definitely you were not wrong because you stand up on your personal values and what you believed for.

[@mohamedcherif881]

I JUST WANTED TO THNAK YOY FOR EVERYTHINGS @Clay Andrews , I APPLIED WHAT YOU SAID WITH MY EX AND WE ARE COME BACK AGAIN IT’S VERY EASY LIKE YOU SAID ( JUST FOCUS ON EMOTIONAL CONNECTION , JUST FOCUS ON REALLY LOVE YOUR EX WHEN YOU SEE HER , JUST FOCUS ON BEING HONEST AND CLEAR WITH HER , ONLY SAY THAT YOU LOVE HER , AND BELIEVE ME SHE WILL COME BACK ❤️❤️❤️🖤🖤🖤

[@ClayAndrews]

That's truly great news. :-) Congratulations for having her back in your life.

[@mohamedcherif881]

​@@ClayAndrews help me please my ex broke up with me 8 months ago _ because she was in contact with her ex , she kissed me and applogized to me but i made a fight with her so she left me _ after that i was pleading to come back _ after that i made a fight with her because i thought she was in a rebound relationship _ after that i was pleading again to come back AFTER I SAW YOUR VIDEOS me and my ex met for the first time after breaking up 1 month ago and it was good.... then we talked for 3 days ( she was hot ) then she started to disappear for a week ( she was cold ) then she called me ( she was hot ) then we met again for the second time 3 days ago ( she was is CRISES POINT ) ( she told me she is unsure yet and she want time PLATONIC LEVEL ) ( i told her i want you and i will be there for you ) ( she said I LOVE YOU TOO for the first time after breaking up ) and it was good....... then she called me 2 days ago to meetup with her after her work but after she finished her work she didnt call me yesterday i called her but she didn't respond HELP ME PLEAAASE should i contact her again when she dont reply ?? should i tell her that i am angry from this behaviour ?? i'm started to lose my control :@ :@

[@mohamedcherif881]

@@ClayAndrews please help me , i have 2 questions after i met my ex again , she was in crises point and i told her that i love her and she said to me I LOVE YOU TOO and it was good the day after she called me to meetup with her after her work but she didn't respond to my call for 2 days 1- should i call her again when she don't reply ? or i wait for her to call me back ? 2- should i tell her that i'am angry from this behaviour ? ( HOT AND COLD )