5 HABITS THAT PROVE YOU'RE AN INFJ! (RAREST PERSONALITY TYPE)

[@Wenzes]

What habits you have (or have had) seem very "INFJ" related?

[@MegaCyberleader]

synthasizing a new me. Im very differnt than I was say 3 weeks ago.

[@jessmason2112]

Sincere, hardworking, empathic, logical, deep, intuitive, sensitive and creative.

[@robin15092]

Absorb environment/emotions -> feel/rationalize -> make conclusions -> behave accordingly. But other people are always one step ahead in "living" life. For me it looks they are fast forwarding the movie, but miss important clues.

[@vince1012]

Very specific habits that confirmed (& annoyed me) that I might be an INFJ. I do listen better than most but I share sometimes more if there's a purpose. Would you cover how the other MBTI's interact with INFJ's? Also, what's the best way to interact with them?

[@rudysdream]

absolutely keeping things weird…. Side note: check out Terance McKenna the brilliant psychonaut. (a INFJ’s dream)

[@Chercheure_Indépendante]

1:24 You think in mindset solutions when it comes to others 3:08 You leave get-togethers rather early 6:22 You have the urge to overexplain yourself 11:08 You have obsessed over a romantic interest for a long period in your life 16:08 You listen way more than you share

[@dsantita635]

thank you!

[@thewatchtower8330]

Damn. This is me in a (very little) nutshell, although I try to evolve in certain fields, like f.e. to leave get-togethers early. Now I bring people together of which I think they could get along and that it would be a good thing in their lives, so then I must stay. I regret that I organize those things mostly, but I think that goal is more important than my feelings.

[@themountainsandthesea4121]

💓

[@lindateuling7862]

I like the way you list the points and the locations. It's a help in reviewing.

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

#6 You kindly make a list of the topics in the video with time stamps.

[@Christ.is.the.reason]

Once i discovered i am INFJ-a & what that entails.... BOOM, no more over sharing, no more explaining myself, no more trying to fit in..... because i am who i am & it won't change, even if i wanted to. In fact i do not feel bad that my business is growing, my hobbies are an expression of me & that some people just don't like me...😁

[@rc9266]

exactly at first I thought great Im cursed ...Lol! but everything fell into place and my drum beats just fine for me and those willing to share my expierience and view of life! the shallow world can drown in a cup of tea for all I care!

[@Christ.is.the.reason]

@@rc9266 Ha yeah, a cup of tea is still too deep for them though, you are very generous! 🤣

[@davebarker4880]

Trying to 'explain less and act more.' It was initially disappointing to understand most people won't understand what I'm saying and thinking. For years, I thought it was because I thought I wasn't doing a good enough job of explaining. Now, I just don't care. Not caring has been liberating. Thank you, Wenzes, for helping me and others see this.

[@Will-Iam-INFJ]

INFJ can be a lonely place. My heart was broken 22 years ago, I’m 44 now. Been on one date since. Im a handsome yet humble man, complimented often. My friends no longer show up. I can trust very few with my energy. The rest I am very easily deterred by their own. Solitude is both my curse and my sanctuary. I honestly love being me. I pray there is someone who I may let in. Shatter the walls before I perish from this Eden.

[@soul_relay]

Hey there, I noticed you have Chevelle in your playlist! Am curious what other music you're into!?

[@myhalflifecrisis]

Both my wife and I are INJFs and we have experienced all the 5 points you mentioned. I wish when I was a lot younger I would have understood I was an INFJ - my life started making sense once I realized it.

[@adriaanjansens2335]

Right on, exactly the way i feel, wish i had realized it much sooner

[@LyleHornbaker]

I recently told my kids, "I can tell you what I know, but I can't give you who I am." This, I think, encapsulates the notion that no one, not even family, can fully understand the INFJ. It's not a bad place to be, just the reality of the situation. Of course, it is family that knows you the best.

[@jikook7457]

I feel like I have to explain every little detail because I see things from so many different sides that other people may not see. Life has so many different nuances, and things aren't black or white. I also always feel the need to fix problems for others by giving them the solution, even if they just wanted to vent. I want everyone to be happy, have all they need, and be kind to everyone. Unfortunately, others don't always care to be nice. That's when my dark side comes out. I'm super nice to everyone until someone crosses the line with others. Then the claws come out. People should be careful not to mistake kindness for weakness.

[@thewatchtower8330]

I do so too. For example: my emails were way too long at my previous job. I try to keep in mind I should temper myself in that.

[@rc9266]

I found fixing machines more rewarding then trying to fix people who refuse sound advice after they asked for it!

[@jikook7457]

@rc9266 I get that, but I love them, and it's hard to let someone walk off a cliff if I can put up a sign warning of caution ahead.

[@VegasGoldenNite]

My narcissist ex of 20 years. Took advantage of my INFJ personality type. I’m also a sigma male. I stuck around for long time. Because I love my kids. I learned to tune her out. SILENCE IS POWERFUL. my intuition and my high vibration. Is my strength. She ended up losing her kidneys, and needed a transplant. KARMA IS REAL. AMEN.🙏

[@jikook7457]

@@VegasGoldenNite I'm glad you and the kids survived the relationship and are hopefully much happier and prospering.

[@Ron_Boy]

The light went on when you said, "I'd rather be disliked for who I am than to be liked for who I'm not." I grew tired of explaining myself, so I just stopped. I also stopped wanting everyone to like me. Then life magically became easier. I grew up in a home filled with conditional love. Not a good way to start life. Takes a lot of work to undo it. But it's well worth the effort to do the work. So don't stop.

[@Digits-nf9fo]

Being an INFJ is the best personality type to be on this planet. To have the power of courage over fear, a well crafted integrity-based living system, intuition to readily identify excessively self-interested people, and soooo much more. I went from a dire search for peace in my college years, to a lasting serenity and understand that my path is profoundly good, meaningful and that frankly, it is too bad the vast majority of people do not understand this excellent approach to life. It is a choice on how you want to handle your INFJ type though. There are many high profile people who are INFJ, both great and some evil. Take the pressure off yourself and just try to make the world a slightly better place, look forward to engaging in meaning, not explanation.

[@karenfinneganart2480]

I accidentally came across this, and I am a 64-year-old retired (INFJ) Counsellor. I have never heard of an INFJ life coach what a great video

[@thespiritualjourney1252]

Karen may I ask for your advice? As an INFJ, I'm 25 and doing IT in a rapidly growing company so there is plenty of career potential, good pay, but of course the stress and responsibility that comes with it. But there is no opportunity for helping others which is my burning hearts desire, I try to unconsciously help others and be too nice etc., but that doesn't help. I have my spiritual life also so rarely have time for fulfilling this need. I'm debating quitting IT to get into counselling, just so I can help people - I'm so 50/50 with it. Any words I greatly appreciate. Thanks, Balarama

[@stephenfegely]

Emotional energy is scarce and precious, use judiciously. 😺

[@lindaelliott837]

I enjoy being a INFJ...I LOVE LEMONS TOO!!

[@georgiapeach1327]

Mostly, I tell people what they want to hear when I choose to deal with them, otherwise, I no longer give a hoot if others like me, or understand me.

[@DriftArcana]

I don’t what it is, but her facial structure, her teeth configuration, her eyes, they all align with her personality… I love it - very cute, very beautiful, very insightful.

[@marcwatkins3996]

She's incredibly attractive, a spitting image of an ex of mine even down to the mannerisms. Unfortunately that ex had BPD that was amazing at mirroring, and I had no clue at the time the disaster I was stepping into. Lol, live learn.

[@MichellePoulton-eq1ko]

Yes yes yes yes and yes. Wish I'd known I was an INFJ earlier in life.

[@MBAinternetmktg]

True. I obsessed over a childhood crush for many years. When he finally noticed me, 30 years later, reality didn't come close to fantasy.

[@amyitis]

I know, what a mean trick your mind plays of looking at potential. I was obsessed with an old friend for over 10 years.... finally happened and only lasted 2 months before I left. Time to get our minds into reality

[@lindateuling7862]

As a senior citizen in the group (I'm sure there are others) I enjoyed hearing this and comparing it to my actions when younger as opposed to now - and especially after having cultivated Fe for about 63 years. Also, a mitigating factor was having to deal with two chronic conditions - mononucleosis in the 20s and lupus starting in the late 40s. Let's just say that made the habit of leaving a party early easier to understand! 🙂 All these points resonated with me, but especially #3 - having the urge to "explain" things. I often felt obligated to do this at home. However, I soon learned that it wasn't as necessary as my family led me to believe. It was a big relief to find out, while studying systematic assertiveness training that one of the "assertive rights" was that we are not obligated to give a lot of excuses or reasons for our behavior. And I learned and saw thst for every person who demanded an explanation, there were probably 20 who didn't. So if I needed to change plans or make different decisions, I found that by saying, "I have the details if you need them, but I am (going to, not going to, etc ... whatever) Usually that's taken care of most "explaining." and there's been no bad reaction.

[@TiMarie13]

Sharing leaves me with a vulnerability hangover. Doesn’t feel good. 😝

[@rc9266]

then only share the unimportant!

[@deannastands5141]

#5, i do listen to others far more than I share. But, lately a new interest actually wants to hear about me, wants to find out things about me. It seems odd to me, but we do share in-depth, far more than I've shared with my lifelong friends, far more than with my husband, far more than anyone else. To be emotionally intimate is good for me at this stage in my life. I actually like it--but only with this particular person.

[@jerrimenard3092]

I love this video. It's 100% what I have experienced. What is really helping me out is my writing and performing. The more I sing, do public speaking and share my creativity, the more I am energized. I am manifesting what I desire. I am meeting new people and opening new doors to opportunity. By being my authentic self, I am helping others get in touch with themselves. My INFJ, Dark Lilith , Pluto essence is very intoxicating, but only when it's on full blast all the time. If I try to control that part of me, it just looks manipulative and insane instead of inspired.

[@pitulanek]

As for habit #2 For me, I would differentiate between get-togethers in which I participate willingly and with joy and those that I attend because I live in a society. If I'm meeting my dad's side of the family (with whom I have a great connection), I will need to recuperate AFTER but I'm staying as long as it's socially acceptable, and then some, because these meetings ground me, fill me with life-energy and usually become core memories. If my best friend is organising a party, then I'm the first person there, and the last one to leave, too, staying to help clean etc. (though I might not talk much by the end). If we're talking "courtesy" socialising ("I don't hate you and can't find a way to refuse the invitation, nor do I crave your company and conversation is a bit of an effort"), then I'm obviously one of the first out, unless I find a way to help out in the kitchen or with any practical things away from the crowd (just let me out from behind that table pretending to enjoy participating in the inane conversation). That might be because I socialise very rarely, but if I feel connected to someone, I will stay up until the wee hours even if it's not prudent, I'll go hungry to keep the conversation going, I'll put off other plans if possible. However, if we mean get-togethers that drain rather than fuel, then obviously I'm out as soon as I've fulfilled the social obligation.

[@ylyl2079]

spot on. i always feel i need to explain myself, and then i get to a point where i feel i am over explaining, and at the same time, i don't feel i need to apologize for who i am. but yet i do explain myself, in hopes of being understood. this is enlightening. some people may never understand and the infj needs to give themselves a break.

[@tigre7739]

This is me 💯! I have as I've matured, and especially after learning of being an infj, begun to implement a lot of these things. Great advice as always!😃

[@stevequerin2504]

HABIT #2: YOU LEAVE GET-TOGETHERS RATHER EARLY I don't do this. Then again, I don't engage in alot of Social Get-Togethers; because, I have No Social Life. I have very strong Negative Energy; and, I avoid others because of it. Even at Social Get-Togethers. What I have experienced as a High Schooler was that I could hang out with my friends for a few Days in a row; but then, want to spend a Day to myself, or away from them; even when, they ask me to engage in a Group Thing that I would like to do with them. In Large Get-Togethers, I would hang around a group for a bit; then, find another group to hang around for a bit; and, so on. The only reason I would want to leave a Get-Together is because there is Bad Energy at the Get-Together; or, there is a Bad Person/Group at the Get-Together; or, my Negative Energy is affecting the Get-Together.

[@gianniyuma8852]

Explaining explanation? is truly in a way powerful

[@wolfeyessouls7965]

Beautifully on point ❤thank you❤

[@wallymarcel1]

I started leaving birthday parties early at about at age 7. Maybe I’d last forty minutes, then I’d have to walk out. Parents looked at me like I was crazy. I was just bored and irritated. I thought Pin The Tail on the Donkey, blindfolding a kid then spinning him around in a circle was abuse disguised as fun.

[@marcp.1752]

I never celebrate my birthday since i was 14. It felt odd. My friends...well, they haven't been deep enough for my taste. It felt too superficial for my taste. I get crazy when i have too many ppl around me. It drains me emotional, psychologically. All that B$, gossip & chitchat, it's overwhelming. Therefore, i always have my lunch alone. (or with my gf before, but this is a thing of the past)

[@sukiyakking9138]

@@marcp.1752 i feel the same way.

[@marcp.1752]

I've had my last b-day "party" with 14- and told my friends (after having a cinema 99% for ourselves, plus 1-2 other ppl) this is it - there's no more birthday celebration ever again, it sucks, i don't want it anymore. My friends found me crazy, i've found it total ordinary. And Now >3 decades later, still...that was the perfect choice as kid.

[@taylormilton3]

Number 4 absolutely described me. It actually blew my mind hearing this.

[@tinacherry2295]

Sometimes it's childhood trauma keeping you obsessed with that romantic interest. My reasons to be obsessed were also things I didn't get from my father. I think our INFJ and trauma can go hand and hand. But hearing it in this way takes the pressure off the trauma but the trauma helps to pinpoint the issues a lil more quicker. Not everyone is an INFJ and they also get into dating (not healthy) patterns and obsessed w potential partners.

[@sspencer4036]

Agree, the term Limerence covers what you explained. Very eye opening.

[@marcp.1752]

And more worse is, you don't get a possibly relationship, that kind of person, because you've grown older...well, anyway. Sometimes, meditation could be helpful. As long, as you're fine with your own thoughts, your inner & outside world, it's fine.

[@mariaayala6000]

@@sspencer4036 I had never heard the term limerence. 👍

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Limerence

[@japanesereadingandwriting]

The effort INFJs put into explaining themselves could be a result of having Tertiary Ti,. Since INFJs so badly want to understand things, it leads them into falsely concluding that others also want to understand things.

[@marygb777]

Dang. So true..

[@lucky_i.i]

You seem to be so right!! Most of my life (I'm working on it now) I've explained to people things IN DETAIL **exactly because** THAT'S HOW I want people to explain things to me and THAT'S HOW **I** need to know things in order to understand them. Trying to be good to them as I would want others to be to me. Needless to say, my generous good deed was never appreciated, people respect and admire those who explain LESS than it should be explained...strangely!

[@Kris-h5z]

Yes exactly this! People never want to nerd out the same way, sadly. Sometimes they assume the amount of explanation makes us submissive to them to some effect, which absolutely blows my mind because it is just consideration.

[@carlyrios8297]

Ouch, yes this is true. Not everyone has the thirst for understanding things like i do, I've fallen for this many times sharing interests thinking other people would find it interesting too. 😅

[@meaningmean]

Dang, I just wrote a long message to my friends' group explaining myself. Now I regret it.

[@depthsowned]

Yes all Five Points. Found that looking for Emotion from other People very hard to shake. Not much internal emotion ( save for Music) , hopeless ' Junkie ' on others moods for a Long Time.

[@SweetandSassyRedhead]

My sister came to see me a few months ago. She stayed at a cottage (I have a 1 BR) and each day she visited she understood I needed a little down time. We hadn't seen each other in 14 years. We had SUCH a wonderful time together. So much so she is coming next month to visit.

[@petecrumpton55]

100% accurate. I’m just about always the last person to show up & the first to leave a gathering. Large groups make me uncomfortable & what you said about not having the capacity as an INFJ to help a lot of people is also accurate. I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m glad not everyone reaches out to me for guidance & support. If they did I’d probably commit myself to a psych ward.

[@malibubliss8153]

Sooooo true ! I’m learning to feel comfortable not explaining myself anymore…

[@TexasMadeAprilRenee]

TO ME IT'S ALWAYS OF HOW I CAN BE LEFT ALONE😂😂BUT, ALSO BE SOCIAL AT THE SAME TIME. EVEN IF I AM HELPING YOU. HOW CAN I HELP YOU TO CHANGE YOUR MINDSET ETC SO YOU CAN NOT COME BACK TO BOTHERING ME WITH THE SAME ISSUE. NEGATIVITY IS SOO DRAINING FOR ME💯💜♓️

[@nicoetic]

Re: #4, I have a bad habit of obsessing over guys at work as a way of getting through the mundanity of my job. Unfortunately I can’t switch jobs right now because there’s a lot of benefits to staying, and I really need the stability at the moment. Developing an obsessive crush seems to be the only thing that’s gotten me through most of life 😅 I also did this to get through school..

[@jpink8546]

The part about relationships was spot on! I have recently been just realizing I am addicted to the yearning. It is the ultimate problem which can’t be solved.

[@Hildred6]

How to deal with sharing with others rather than being the one who listens, helps solve issues etc. I’ve been aware and tried to say more of what’s about myself, and I realised they don’t want to hear it, they want me to listen or help not talk about myself. This has happened several times, my conclusion is that few people genuinely listen or are interested to listen.

[@MegaCyberleader]

all of them, and I outsmarted a psych doctor who decided to gas light me. So im good.

[@JB52520]

When one sees enough of them, one becomes familiar with the process they use. It becomes apparent when personal feelings get in the way of professional detachment. Some have an agenda (like recruiting for religion or veganism), and some just don't like a challenge. It's too bad I haven't met one with an agenda to end loneliness, but for some reason they never introduce their clients no matter how isolated and touch-starved. Isn't it sick that there are rules against it? Or maybe they just don't care. One simple action at no cost, and everything is better. But maybe the cost is not being able to sell antidepressants, antipsychotics, ECT, hospital stays, ketamine, and suboxone for the self medicators. Despair is profit, as long as we don't die.

[@michaellawson6533]

Love is so rare but when found it truly lights the mirror of my soul.

[@deannastands5141]

LOL I laughed out loud for #4--obsessing over a romantic interest. For years, at least 20, a person who lives in another state has been my obsessive interest. yeah, the thing is, he breadcrumbs me every once in awhile and I get hooked again. lol oh well, it's been fun and interesting. we see each other every three years or so.

[@ima.ekenes]

I was 15 when I met this guy I knew I wanted to marry. 9 years later I was!! Happily married for 12 years. Maybe I have mye infj traits to thank for my patience. 😊

[@martindavid1972]

That "tea" situation is exactly what happened when my friend started struggling at work recently. She expected me to bring a cup of something, not any of my advice which she didn’t ask for in the first place. Explaining myself... nobody is willing to wait for the answer or expression (mostly) and if I take a shortcut, nobody understands it. And I understand.. there is nothing to complain about, but it sucks a lot.

[@martindavid1972]

@@laurie6644 To be honest.. it goes both ways. I don't have close friends so I mostly cooperate with social workers which includes specific lenght of time. Sometimes both sides know where the other is heading. The worst moment comes when they ask a question and stare at me for ten seconds without me saying anything because of me processing. That according to them require an explanation.

[@medusagorgon9]

My cousins affectionately joke that I'm always the first to leave. I can't help it. When I've had enough I just go. I don't care what is happening.

[@MrGadfly772]

Limerence is a particular weakness for INFJs. I know as I am 64 and have had it since I was 16 and married her. Our relationship has become very damaged, and my son has become my center rather than my wife, now my ex, who is very unconnected to us and quite self-involved instead. At 64 I still struggle with this.

[@troyw.5101]

You blew me away with #4…. A short story is here; if anyone wants to read it. (not about the romantic obsession; about the foreign countries part)

[@jlm517rocks]

dittos...more than once...duh...

[@busterscruggs5397]

Interesting, I have all of these. I have taken the test a couple of times. Sometimes I am INFJ and sometimes INFP. It apparently boils down to a couple of questions and the mood of the day.

[@ladykupo]

Wow. Just, wow. Even though everything pointed at me being an INFJ, I still had a bit of self-doubt because of so many others saying so many people mistype themselves as INFJ. But after so much research and trying to gain as much insight as possible, there is no more doubt in my mind. I am absolutely an INFJ. I am tired of trying to represent myself to others. I just want to be seen for who I truly am, but i'm at a pivotal point also, where I need to just be me and allow others to choose if they stay or go. I am only speaking on friendships, which have been so draining for me. I feel like I haven't found the right people. I am incredibly lucky to have a partner who is the only person I can truly be myself with. He sees me for me. And now I'm just rambling, but thank you so much for the eye-opening and relatable video!! ❤ Edit to add.. My mother has borderline personality disorder, and I became a soundboard for her. She would vent and release everything, and I would just sit and listen. It was exhausting. I eventually learned to put up a wall of depersonalization so I could protect myself physically and emotionally. I am an adult now, but still have a similar relationship with her, unfortunately. I can set boundaries now and not see her as often.

[@kristyboxx]

Guilty AF, especially from that 3rd point. Thank you again Wenzes

[@brianhales1416]

This brought me to tears within a way that truly hits home A place I haven't checked in for quite some time

[@lalune323]

Thank you Wenzes. You explain my INFJ-ness so well. Your video’s are study material that I treasure. You have changed the way that I look at myself and that has changed my life, step by step ❤️.

[@MarkTannenbaum-i2x]

Oh I was smiling and laughing along with every point Wenze described. Did I have to listen to each one as described? Sure, an added reminder even to the point of responding who cares when trying to explain over and over, they just won’t get it, what they will get is the action I take for myself, for me which was counter productive to be a pleaser, I am going to hurt someone… not really, when I stand my ground, I am loving myself more and gaining confidence to get stronger… so people won’t get me, oh well. It will be through my intent of my actions to what I want… a learned step by Wenze from this channel. Did I learn something new as an INFJ, sure takes practice, work, and love of self to continually grow as an INFJ, yay yippee 🥳

[@loisbock9591]

Yup. Excellent especially leaving early after having a lovely time!

[@francinegillett869]

All of this information,explains who I am & the way I see others and the world.

[@meimeiamore394]

I feel like this was reading my mind, but you're a power house all on your own. I thought, gosh what a conversation she and Jay Shetty would create! Guess who was in the feeds! Jay!

[@jaimeflor4181]

I definitely leave early. I did so @ my most recent choir performance. My younger INFJ friend stayed though. I tend to always drive to get togethers, so I can leave early. I also prefer a mindset change when helping people, but I can comfort as well. As a counselor in training, both are valued in my field of study.

[@borndeafin1ear]

Very interesting perspectives. Your explanation helps identify whether I am an INFJ or INTJ. Everyone exhibits all aspects to a certain degree, but these two types are strongest for me. It mostly depends on the context. My INFJ is strongest around those closest to me. I often "feel" other people's headaches when I get within a few feet (without even looking at them, it only requires close proximity). When I move away the "headache" goes away for me. This has only happened with 2 people so far (both in my family). I also tend to listen to the speech rhythms, tone, inflections, and other aspects when someone speaks than the words they use - also true for what they write. However, as a software developer, I tend to be highly analytical. I've been described as a very analytical in almost everything outside of personal relationships (science, history, etc.).

[@francinegillett869]

I'm an INFJ for certain.

[@Joshua-ej8rm]

If people are more worried about the fact they are or aren’t because I’ve understood everything and I’ve done testing and I’ve been enlightened by how much I actually do know. Thoughts become actions eventually

[@TheSigmaINFJTigerInMe80]

Super video. Sympathetically displayed. That is me, right there. Instant like 😃

[@TheParez]

Spot on with all habits you listed. Thank you for reaffirming these thoughts yet again 😊

[@nattergalen1000]

Great videos! are there any other people out there who are both INFJs and on the Spectrum (Asbergers)?

[@charliwhyte2322]

Thank you so much, I love your videos and they really help me understand myself more. I am curious about Habit #4 because I am currently in that obsession with someone. It is hard for me to understand what you mean by shifting that focus and power to myself. I really believe my life would be stronger and better with him in it. He can learn from me and I from him but it has been going on in my mind for a long time without much happening in the real world.

[@kymelatejasi]

All but the second apply to me. It all depends on who's at the get together. 😆

[@Roltereen86]

5 HABITS THAT PROVE YOU'RE AN INFJ! (RAREST PERSONALITY TYPE) 1:20 HABIT #1 You think in mindset solutions when it comes to others 3:04 HABIT #2 You leave get-togethers rather early 6:19 HABIT #3 You have the urge to overexplain yourself 11:06 HABIT #4 You have obsessed over a romantic interest for a long period of time 16:26 HABIT #5 You listen way more than you share

[@jlm517rocks]

seems receiving clarification beyond any doubts is the daily m.o. & yr explanation maxed this up... W o w... ty...

[@ladygracesparkles]

I once had a next door neighbour that would invite you over, only to expect you to leave once she downed her latte. I stopped accepting her invites, as I realized I could get the same amount of socializing riding on an elevator.

[@jean-francoisgagnon680]

Merci Wendy j'étais un amoureux imaginaire. Je vais mieux.

[@shashankkasliwal6381]

You are simply super ❤

[@pangsupharatch1452]

All the points are so true

[@abscess7476]

The ignorant people consider you insecure as an INFJ because we constantly explain ourselves. It can be a huge turn off for the ladies.. In my experience, I have so much vast information. I can't put into one sentence..

[@mork8144]

i have 4 out of 5 of these. the 2nd one is weird for me cuz i will stay in social setting for a long time. i dont necessarily feel uncomfortable. i have this underlying fear because i have no clue how long it will before i get any social interactions,people dont like to spend alot of time with me. sometimes it will be months between any social events for me,so i feel like i need to spend as much time as possible because i know i will be starved of human connection for a very long time.

[@pitulanek]

Same! If it's a good social interaction, I want to squeeze it to the last drop because it's hard to predict when the next one will happen.

[@Symphonia1983]

I tend to be as a vacuum cleaner for negative energy, It's the only way i can understand people and i need a lone space after. This is why i have never been really into relationships that have been functioning. Even if i meet the same person every day can be exhausting.

[@l0I0I0I0]

Leave gatherings early? Why go, I was there a week ago. Lol

[@commoncitizen03]

Very nice Wenzes 🎉

[@lifewithmargot]

Most people don’t want to change sadly

[@JewLsTruly]

Omgosh the leaving is totally me

[@donhammer186]

Ok... First things first. I despise the over use of acronyms, they are a waste of time and a distraction to an otherwise interesting conversation. I've always had an insatiable thirst for knowledge. As a child I taught myself to read at 4 years old. By the time I started kindergarten I had read a 10 volume set of book's that explained so much about human nature and the motivations at play that the only place I felt comfortable was in the company of people much, much older than myself. What I understand now is the fact that so much of what I see in others is a pure lack of understanding the repercussions of both action and in-action on themselves and others (very disappointing!). I'm not sure how this topic found it's way into my "suggestions" but I'm grateful, (I think?). Introspection seems almost a hobby that is far more interesting than the clown show that humanity has become and, in away I'm disappointed in myself for that attitude. At least I have a better understanding of the reactions of others to my personality thru this video. I've been called a sigma male, an introvert, a blah, blah, blah... but what the he!! is the full meaning of "I.N.F.J." and why the secret code, what makes a silly label so important? Going on 70 years old I'm at peace with myself "but" life is still better shared with a likeminded woman. It's a balance thing... A very wise friend once said of my plight "Wish with one hand, pick up rocks with the other and see which one fills up first"! Well... I'm still a rock hound. Almost forgot! Thanks for the video Wenzes.

[@jazzychazzy007]

Very true!

[@buckjones4901]

I swear mankind has to place a label and categorize everything and everyone to make it easy to deal with, I literally have to look up what INFJ even means. People are more complex and placing labels on them I think is a bad idea, it makes that person think they are X and others think they are X, when maybe they really aren't, or are just going through something at that point in life that makes them seem to be X.

[@ILEANAPONZO]

I never knew that the way I am has a definition and a label and I never cared to know if there’s any. I dissent about the 4th habit. I am SO pragmatic when it comes to romantic relationships, that I find really silly getting obsessed over someone who we can’t be with: it’s not productive at all. Being faithful to who I really am is what has always counted, regardless to anyone’s opinions. I don’t think that trying to put a label on categories of people is useful indeed because, depending on many factors like families, sports, school, teachers, trainers, books that we read, music that we listened to, the profession that we chose and the skills that we chose to develop, and many other factors, one can become what I call “a multilateral person”.

[@lieushinn]

you catched me!

[@caslahao2359]

I love this!

[@cinderling5472]

I feel bad about not having the same capacity as the ISFJ to care for people Our role is a different one however... It's good to be mindful of that

[@leighlong5447]

I don't know, it's all so complicated and weird being an INFJ. Can I try being another type instead? lol.. I have no social life, cannot relate to social butterflys.

[@Mr_Curious]

I really like your short hair style. ❤

[@JewLsTruly]

I was always late and left early

[@stevenjohns-savage7024]

Bit of the opposite for me 😊. I've got to act strange to get people away from me. Yup 😊. I'm a pretty good actor now I fink😊. Hahahaha 😃

[@JewLsTruly]

I stopped explaining myself cause i will give the truth onnce and then if ppl lie i tap

[@josephwinters5902]

Shes soo pretty

[@paDdywitha]

I can predict and control traffic. 🎉

[@bonitaclaireloveday-wp9rq]

💚Thank you. Thank you 💚👏😊

[@shyamalganguly3598]

Like any other human beings infjs are at the depth of their minds first human and then they're different so much so that they become rare people who have a rather specific minds that make themselves by their own habits developed since they started to realize about the difference that they make characteristically but seemingly enough indifferent to what most people would plunge into needful action in real time but infjs I don't know, have a reaction time much more than others to get in touch with a needed action and this laggardness finds infjs in a sphere which is small and so tough that they struggle in companies which don't like the kind of inertness infjs possess, by and by they become almost unexplored by most people who are more at extroverts enjoying life in a general way and they make larger portion of any community and being nearly out of the mass their system makes a tumbling block to find their own community a little more larger and larger to find same kind of people who understand themselves very well and this probably makes a world of difference for anachronistic infjs to unfold themselves! I believe, there's always a darth of understanding people around infjs but this darth doesn't matter much to any infj whether in single or in a small group until they, especially the loners, are in a difficult spot to get home their pov to the throng they are still didn't have to work on such events and being very introverted they start struggling to find some who understand their special language! Special because what the struggling infj wants to make it understand in their way to have it done but now they are fish out of a water where different fishes abounds in, maybe better, if not the best, in a given communion! Sometimes it becomes so intense that the infjs never thought of because, at least it occurs me, that most of the time people like me loves to be in a daydream far far away than real world where down to earth people rule the roost when an infj broods over her prince charming, writing a few lines for him what appear farfetched to most real people, or thinking of a picture in their mind much so abstract before they're made, or even venture into something which other always fear to at a given time in life and now think you try to put on track such a personality like putting a derailed coach on its track again! Now you must strive to find some breather by saying approving words like, this will pass! You know world War l passed, ll also passed and we have fifty six at hand and it'll also pass but even the warmongers don't know how much time they require to give us a world when there'll be no war zone and none of us have difficult to reach where we actually belong to give vent our very self with unmatched joyfulness! 😂😂❤❤ Love is in the air, I'm sometimes beside myself to expressions that does very much mismatch my very much and when I find myself to unfold I try my best not leave anything unexplored to recompense my folies out of infj rage!

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

You think in metaphor

[@Helloooooooooo131]

Habit #2. Omg. It’s so me….

[@Dethian666]

A tortured soul that's all I am today.. trying to heal for tomorrow

[@jessmason2112]

💯 6:47

[@SkyJackMart]

God Bless you ❤️👁️❤️

[@irregularmom1236]

I like to think that that's not our madness, most of the people are just dumb or shalow. They just don't see, or don't want to see bigger picture. I stop explaining myself long time ago.