5 Harsh Truths That Will Change Your Life

Breaking down the five most important truths that have impacted my life. Hopefully they'll impact yours.
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00:00 Introduction
01:30 Truth #1: Humans suck-try to suck less
08:44 Truth #2: Pain is inevitable-suffering is optional
16:43 Truth #3: Everything you believe will one day fail you-this is how you grow
24:25 Truth #4: You don't deserve happiness-you don't deserve anything
30:32 Truth #5: Everything you love will one day be lost-this is what makes life meaningful
35:55 Summary
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[@nelsongigstad3961]

This podcast had a very special meaning for me. A week ago I received a phone call that my son had been found dead in his apartment. This is something no parent should have to go through. What I heard Mark say is that death is a part of the experience of life. We can't experience life without experiencing death. This brought a sense of peace to me. Rather than fighting the grief, I can embrace it as a human experience. Erik is gone, but his memory can never be taken from us. Thank you, Mark, for helping me through this time.

[@MTMYOU292]

I'm sorry for your loss😢

[@pas_du_tout]

Sending you a hug😢

[@FernandesBrunoPT]

Sorry for your loss

[@nelsongigstad3961]

Thank you.@@MTMYOU292

[@nelsongigstad3961]

Thank you for caring.@@pas_du_tout

[@carlrowlinson2833]

A general rule of life that's made living a lot easier for me: Never assume malice when incompetence explains the same thing. It's a lot easier to think about people not paying attention rather than thinking they're deliberately fucking me over.

[@thelordmemnoch]

I don't know about this one. I have always thought this way and for the life of me couldn't understand why things weren't going better for me. Once I started attributing malice, rather than incompetence, not only did their behavior change, but my tolerance to them as well. I think the difference is between an isolated incident and a consistent pattern.

[@rohitsasmal8146]

1:32 Human suck, try to suck less 8:46 Pain is inevitable Suffering is optional 24:25 You don't deserve happiness you don't deserve anything 30:34 Everything you love will one day be lost This is what makes life meaningful 16:47 Everything you believe will one day fail you This is how you grow

[@DarkPesco]

Dude...stop it. Really, stop it. Seriously, STOP IT!! . 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Selsmittenxo]

😢😢😢😢

[@TiffanyNg100]

1:51 I’m wrong so I just correct all my wrongs

[@Oxymoron666]

I like your style. Thank you very much. You suck less than me.

[@steniorodrigo5590]

Thank you very much, my friend.

[@promiseobieshi4367]

You are my life saver...just lost my dad, knew k had find comfort here

[@saurabhpawar7111]

"A Life Ends, And Because it Ends, You Should Make it As Good As possible.'' This line hits so hard. Thank you mark for this Amazing Session😍

[@dbutler9028]

Welcome aboard the pain train! Love it!

[@dad-ms8mz]

1 You are not special. 2 you will die after few years. 3 Some things cant be controlled. 4 You doest matter for the universe. except close relatives they too will start laughing after few months after you die. 5. There is possibility of bad , and injustice happening to u no matter how good you are.

[@zerosoma33]

4 “ LORD, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered- how fleeting my life is. 5 You have made my life no longer than the width of my hand. My entire lifetime is just a moment to you; at best, each of us is but a breath.” Interlude 6 We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing. We heap up wealth, not knowing who will spend it. 7 And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in you. (Psalm 39; 4-7)

[@sadboy1122]

I'm on lowest point of i can ever imagine right now i need to hear this , thanks mark

[@movement2contact]

Don't be sad, sadboy ✊🥲

[@okabeokuyasu2505]

I was at my lowest too just after covid. So much growth followed, it sounds cheesy maybe but it's the truth. The bigger the grief the bigger the potential growth. But you have to turn the tables thought, by face the primal cause of your state below the surface. For me it meant getting in a serious long term therapy, i think many people should to just like he said in the video. Unraveling past conditionnement. I'm the strongest version of myself now, life is good

[@tomrhodes1629]

Then you'll like this....The Number One Absolute Truth that will change your life is so amazingly good and wonderful...that men have instead lied to themselves and denied this Truth, masochists that we are! What is that Number One Truth? YOU ARE NOT A "SINNER" AND NO ONE DIED FOR YOUR SINS...because "I have said ye are gods" as "the Kingdom of GOD is within you"!! You have simply forgotten Who you are (a son of GOD) and THAT is the "good news" of Jesus Christ that men have corrupted into the bad news of the anti-Christ, which is entirely untrue! The biblical prophet Elijah has returned, as prophesied, and testifies.

[@movement2contact]

@@tomrhodes1629 What other fairy tales are you a hardcore fan of...?

[@chrisrudkowski4329]

Thank you Mark. Thank you.

[@karenbush5451]

I heard you say in an interview that you are more than one year sober. It seems like some of your writing and thinking in the subtle art was leading to that - about us all seeking to go from high to high and how ridiculous that is as a goal. I think a lot of us would love to see a podcast episode in which you discuss your journey through sobriety and what was hard and why you maintained it and how you are feeling now as a result of it.

[@alocarmonab]

I always watch your videos Mark, I'm introducing my friends to your content Hola desde México 🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽

[@Skydiver1257]

What drew said around 20th minute that he is proud of a hypothesis he came up with is also what Julien Blanc explains in his seminars about the "Im not good enough or not attractive enough" and what that does to people at the long run is quite a good find of idea to explain im also proud of that..

[@charlesmuller120]

As a High School PE teacher for 30 years, my students knew if they had me as their teacher they would need to "earn their balls" as I would say to them!. I was the black sheep out of our PE Staff who would simply take them to the gym, grab the Basketball rack and volleyballs and let the kids have them and then the teachers would chat. My students knew that they would have to earn their balls: 5 min warm up jog, stretch, calisthetics, planks, and top off with sprints and then they "earned their balls". Most of the time I did the workout with them. Nothing like getting paid to workout! And if it wasn't Friday, there was drills and skills to develop. I had so many students over the years come back to thank me explaining how my mantra of "earning your balls" applies to all of life itself for the feeling of earning your stuff and the feeling of Happiness(contentedness is a better term which is more sustainable as happiness is fleeting!)that comes with being self made. Earn your shit and you'll be content!

[@michelle_cen]

Great PE teacher!! Props for working out with them at the same time - it's extra motivating for them!

[@timcentralpointinvestigati6683]

Awesome! Agree with ya. Could ya imagine the “balls” Comment in todays society?

[@ZachBratland]

Way to hit a Million a mark !!

[@hackedaminations6893]

FACTS!!

[@wong40k42]

That part about victim olympic and the sudden start of an anthem was glorious 👍

[@karinturkington2455]

Great video. Just what I need to hear.

[@zosiasmok664]

I always wonder... I listen to this podcast the second time and every time it struck me. "Why are you saying these truths are harsh and dark?" When I listened to it, it was actually optimistic. 1. Humans suck, try to suck less If everyone is bad, it means that you/I are/am not as bad as I could think. There are worse people, there are better people. It gives freedom to act at one's own will, on their own accord. As long as a person have a need to be "good". This can actually help in being calm. In seeing clearly, not to be tied up by anxieties. 2. Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional I can choose my pain. And when the pain is choosen, you don't suffer. So if suffering can be excluded then there's not so much to worry about. 3. You don't deserve happiness, you don't deserve anything I don't deserve bad stuff either. If I don't deserve suffering, then why bother? It's better to go ahead and keep trying at one's own pace, on one's own rules. Everything I do is just what I do. Not what I deserve or not deserve. 4. Everything you love will one day be lost - this is what makes life meaningful Conclusion for me is simple - if life, if time, if moments I spend are meaningful, that's enough. Nothing should last forever. 5. Everything you believe will one day fail you - This is how you grow It's like science. You test things out, check if they work - try to get better results, rinse and repeat. If there is growth it will never be boring. There's nothing worse than stagnation. So yeah, maybe it's me who have dark visions on life XD, but it works for me so I couldn't care less about it, haha. Thanks to anyone who read this.

[@kristjankomel3453]

You are great guys, thank you

[@emptylikebox]

I agree with number 4, and that's why I think it's so much better to believe in the law of jante: that you are not special. Because the problem we have nowadays is we think if we did something good, if we believe we're a good person, or we worked hard then we should deserve "happiness" or for great things to happen, only to end up disappointed in the end. it creates a ripple effect in our lives such as envy, bitterness and hate (towards others) and depression.

[@whitenbald]

Drew told me that you should give him a raise per golf clap

[@mahlas5778]

The first time I heard about your book was when somebody recommended it to me. That somebody was a stupid person (in my opinion - not good of me to think like that), so your book was immediately also stupid. When I saw it in the bookstore, I thought: "I'm never going to buy that stupid book." Now I can really laugh about it.

[@beths8998]

If I see someone speeding down the highway or running a red light, I think "damn, they must really have to poop". 😂

[@IamJaysonJayOracion]

Thank You

[@michaelbenjamin6273]

new haircut looks dope 💯

[@BarryMcColeman]

Thank you

[@user-cp9hy2ky6z]

Some very wise words here.

[@agentsmidt3209]

"We are not good, we are optimized for self preservation"...A tattoo worth having.

[@_nils]

Good stuff!

[@DanDanTheFireman]

Well done. The banter, conversation, strong topics... Well done.

[@noname9583]

Great

[@snsubhrajit289]

Thanks❤

[@kritikaajaani]

He is the Best out there! I am a big fan of him since I came across him! He is literally real, practical, rational and straightforward!❤

[@danvilcu1458]

Great video.

[@oliviergagnon2592]

Super good thx

[@AnastasiaFalisha]

Being single is pain, being in relationship is pain. Being close to toxic family is pain, being far from toxic family is still pain. Being lazy is pain, being hard work is pain too. Being surrounded by people is pain, being alone antisocial is pain too. Being in distopia is pain, but being in utopia also more painful. Life is suffering in every aspect of things. Choose your pain that you think is worth of the suffering 👊. Everything happens is not your fault, but for some reason your reactions still gonna be your responsibility. You are not a victim. It's your challenge to be accomplished. Don't too obsessed with happiness, more happiness means more pain to pay off. Don't be sad with pain, more pain means more happiness and more meaningful. Life is always gonna be sucks a little bit. Try to enjoy suffering so you could suffer less.

[@colinlischy8888]

Very nice!!

[@kaitlananderson4302]

Pain doesn't always go away, as in living with chronic physical pain..but I guess I can still choose how I react to it.

[@fulltilt151]

12:00. My therapist said something similar. "Stop shooting yourself with the 2nd arrow." Something 'bad' happens. "Ah, I forgot I needed to do before ." So instead of saying "fuck, I'm such a dumbass" (my default), don't shoot yourself with the 2nd arrow. "I forgot X. I got a lot on my plate, let me see how I can fix this" You get the point. So I have to remind myself when I fuck up, don't start piling on myself...

[@michellegracerobinson3297]

I love the part about grieving an identity and that everything will fail you eventually. I have felt like I've reached another place in life where I think everything in my coping toolkit is just not working. Reframing that as a known part of growth has made it slightly more bearable. Thanks!

[@LeeLikesFrenchFries]

I have no idea who the fuck you are and the algorithm just plopped this into my queue. But your topics are interesting and on point for this phase in my life. I very much look forward to listening to your next podcast!🎉

[@travism9376]

BMTH intro 🤯

[@keithjaysonromero4974]

Love you dude..

[@shahdganayim1100]

Loved this

[@sanjlon4522]

Interesting video!!!

[@Musikwagner]

This SO GOOD

[@maryloupodlasiak74]

Another great podcast. I started watching Mark after recovering from cancer and experiencing a 180 in my attitudes and beliefs about life. He makes sense of struggles no matter what you are facing.

[@darshilmali]

Hey Mark, A good podcast really, but just wanted to say that the thumbnail's misleading and even the title. I felt put off when I actually opened the video as I was expecting just you to be talking to the camera, but then it turned out that it's a podcast with a guest. I would suggest you put your guest's face on the thumbnail too, and make the thumbnail suggest that it's a podcast.

[@nobodyknows3180]

BElieve THEre is GOOD in the world.

[@paulallen6336]

This was like a therapy session. "The I'm available for children's parties" sent me 🤣. Yet, it's true. I wish someone had told me life can and will be utterly awful sometimes. My expectations would have been lower, so every good thing would have seemed so much better. Enjoy the sunsets, and romance when you can. Pet a cat when you see one. One day you won't be able to.

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Thanks

[@heydave56]

thank you

[@bhavya8298]

We love you! 🫶🏻

[@afnanbabikir2098]

“It’s the victim olympics” 😂 I felt that. I want to start learning from pain instead of indulging in it.

[@aguynamedryan395]

Oh yeah, I used to do it so bad when I was younger. Got friends that still do. Like almost out shitty eachother when we're talking about our lives. Then one day I was like, fuck why am I trying to convince people my life sucks like i want to be unhappy, that's fucking messed up.

[@arghya_333]

Yeah, I realized that after a certain point in life me and my friends started taking pride in getting lower marks. "Bro you are a topper, you don't enjoy life, look at me I barely passed without studying." Sure, enjoying life is important, but so is doing things that help you maintain that enjoyable life. Failing and repeating a semester will make your life more miserable than it is.

[@_AntaraChowdhury]

​​@@arghya_333can't judge them on that, they are kinda choosing their own pain as well, they'll learn from experiences at their own pace

[@kbronx64]

Dark is 👍. We need dark truths in our lives to remind ourselves to constantly recalibrate our compass. Love it

[@1cpapana]

I like victim Olympics, level up from what I had it set too as the “saddest story Olympics”. The worst thing about dissonance is that we all suffer from two truths in the same space that appose each other. How did that happen!!!

[@rikubear6549]

For me my story unraveled in my 20s by joining the military all my life i had been trained and had the story of. I am a warrior. I literally fight for the things i believe in. I also had the story that warriors keep the peace by protecting the innocent. That narrative was shattered to pieces on my deployment to afghanistan for sooo many reasons. I realized that I wasnt defending the innocent. I was defending the war profiteers. I also realized that by killing and fighting in a war i was actually causing more violence. Violence does not beget peace. Its quite the opposite. But ive been told this lie my entire life. And american society is complicit in this lie 24-7. This experience changed my life for the better and now i have a totally different story and identity but i also didnt discard the good warrior ideals i reconciled what it means to be a peaceful warrior. ❤ its why enlightenment just means so much to me. I got out of the military and a couple years later became a middle school social studies teacher.

[@gangmgang_]

The reason I resonate with you as a person Mark is that I listened to your audiobook 5 times in the past 3 months and I really had an lightbulb type of moment and said to myself damn. it wasn't the lack of knowledge or my unwillingness to work hard on anything I wanted to pursue it was thinking that I needed to follow anyones "path to success" and I cried realizing that at 23 years old but now I am more happier and less stressed without having the need to people please and be overly nice as I had been in the past so thank you so much for being who you are and making me love myself more with the flaws and narratives I've said to myself in the past. 💯💙🙌🏾

[@nathanwarner3383]

hey brother I would love to ask how u absorb the material while listening to the Audiobook?

[@gangmgang_]

@@nathanwarner3383 my bad for the late response my G I won’t even lie to you during the time I was listening to the audiobook repetitively I had already was into audiobooks 3 years prior but at the time I was homeless at 24 and didn’t understand why the shit I was going through kept getting me burned to sum it up. You can be kind as a man but remember the only thing people love unconditionally are: Women, children, and pets so your worth as a man is only what you can provide also remember that everyone has 24 hours in a day in that 24 hour period you can either make your life or break your life. Hope that helps! 💙💯❤️‍🔥💎

[@blakebunch4485]

"we don't know what's lucky until the story is over" reminds me of the "Chinese Farmer" ... Alan Watts Maybe

[@R3C-P]

did NOT expect bring me the horizon as the opening song. NICE

[@joilake]

You crack me up! Thank you for giving me a safe space to laugh & learn and remember stuff I’ve forgotten! You’re doing a fantastic job!

[@RezaKhajepour]

That's great mark , let's go🤍🔥

[@66norko66]

Great stuff! One wish though, maybe a little less cutting with camera, in one point so many cuts did make me dizzy :D

[@user-rx5vz4ov3f]

You Are Therapy!!!

[@hourblood2974]

One of the best podcast I listen through, it reminded me to pick my poison in life. Choose the good Pain over the bad pain

[@likachambers6465]

I almost finished your book - I am 55 and lived life ✌️😉 and your book is amazing and life altering. Thank you! ❤️I loved your podcast, thanks guys and keep it going please!

[@henmat3000]

Thanks for sharing stuff, Mark. It really helps.

[@frangomez95]

I hate podcasts, just very few i spend time listening to, as usual this is one of the best.

[@KarthikeyanSrinivasan0101]

Man This is Therapy ❤

[@_SliK_]

I think Mark would enjoy ‘The Boys’.

[@frickinlazer8182]

Mark - this was fantastic all around. Content and presentation on point. You have made great strides on this channel since the last time I watched. I have been a fan of your stuff since before Subtle Art was released.

[@nicoleduncan9067]

Absolutely love your content and everything you shared!! Thank you for being you!!

[@adelitaserena4777]

This is like a strong cup of coffee ☕️

[@dannymathis7275]

Loved this!!! You guys rock. 1 fuck given...

[@raminaghajanzadeh8998]

Thank you and please continue.

[@nickbecerra9580]

Nice too see you back Mark! I just finished listening to Love is Not Enough so I needed a new Manson audio thing for my drive home! Looking forward to your next irl vid though, the last two were pretty inspiring!

[@nickbecerra9580]

@DontReadMyProfilePicture.57 Ok, I won’t

[@rakusko33]

Please never stop making videos and writing helping people all over the world go through their lives like me. Thank you. Greetings from Lima, Peru.

[@rainbowgirljules]

How is it possible that you can love someone you've never even met? I love you, Mark Manson.

[@dreamisover9813]

Didn't expect to hear Bring Me The Horizon in the intro, awesome haha

[@hardway_6823]

Wow, what timing for me to see this particular video just now, at just this point in my life. I'm currently in the process of "changing my life" now, I quit my job and moved to Spain with a bunch of dreams and big ideas about how I was gonna rebuild and redirect my life. Turns out, it's not actually easy to do all this. I'm really feeling the pain of being WAY out of my comfort zone and having to either grow or fail. Well, I'm not gonna fail, but it sure is encouraging to hear the stuff you're discussing right now, this is exactly what I needed to hear! Thanks a whole bunch for what you do Mark!

[@rl3656]

I see the $FINE mascot back there😅😅

[@Mistressofthegroove]

Loving this! Quality advice as ever Mark, great Podcast!

[@juanpiedrahita5371]

Thank you Mark! 🔥

[@ABCDEFGHIJKLMNOPQRSTUVWXYZ2012]

Loved the intro ❤😊

[@Dawinmi]

man I just found you !!!!!! after reading your book illegal translated to Persian . I see that your not a OLD ASS man . I'm obsessed 🤣🤣😍😍

[@reflectionOfLyf]

Mark’s words have helped me turn around my life. I like these kind of videos where I can relate to myself. He is talking about all of us.

[@MuhammadSh1]

1:32 was really a good point

[@EFB43]

Hey man, you have a big brain!

[@Daniel-vu4qu]

Bro is bumpin Bring the Horizon for the intro, No fucks given on royalties 😂

[@jerbear97]

holy shit is that a BMTH intro

[@lorenawesterman8416]

This is so good! Love your work👏🏽👏🏽

[@downupsidetoside]

Yes phenomenal.❤❤❤❤ Thank you!

[@ReReChan]

This is an amazing podcast episode! Thanks!

[@andreabordelon4820]

I love your work and have been an avid follower for years!!!

[@ChickpeatheTortie]

At 12.42 The Chinese have a saying "if you snag the sapling you scar the tree'

[@R.oboCop.]

Thanks for the insights!

[@RajSingh-hv2ij]

Excellent Podcast Mark….❤

[@wheresallthezombies]

Grieving an old identity is definitely something I’m going through. That guy was a nightmare but death is still sad. Now I feel like a completely different person. All for the better. It was a 3 year process to get here. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and still going. I do need to work on my financial situation though. That last guy got me into a real pickle.

[@Ericaaaaaaaaaa]

When someone cuts me off in traffic, I think, "Oh, they must really have to poop. Godspeed!"

[@jeremiahsanders1103]

You’re lookin great Mark! Nice and healthy! Hope you’re doing well!

[@iamdickdavid]

Best Podcast I've ever listened to in my entire life. Thanks for this ❤❤❤