5 Misconceptions About Dating an Asexual

I hear or see all of these comments WAY too often. So I am here today to clear up 5 key misconceptions that people have when discussing the dating lives of Asexuals.
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[@hannahwoolery7110]

3:53 One line I read in a book a long time ago that still pisses me off; the character said "You've been dating 5 years and he hasn't seen you naked? That's not dating, that's friendship" The character who they were talking about then went and had sex at the end of that chapter. Still makes me mad.

[@AbbieElizabeth13]

Just sitting here shaking my head

[@CrepuscularQueen]

Even with the comments on videos (and yup the last video) I still feel happy you provide a safe place for ace and A-spec people. Your videos make me happy and secure with my identity and I'm thinking about showing my non ace friend your channel since they always want to learn more about the community in general. I'm also just generally confused by aphobic people why they think sex is such a big thing for intimacy. Not hurt but just really really confused. Cuddling is so intimate in general. So is watching the stars together having deep conversations and dancing together alone in a living room. I also still watch kids cartoons! Cartoon couples are still showing their feelings and it's still genuine and caring as a couple. Nobody would say they weren't a couple unless they did something farther(It's a kids cartoon!)(Adventure Time, Shera, and The Owl House). Just a confused ace sharing my thoughts and sending love for this channel and you ♡

[@christinesizemore3]

Oh hey I recognize that shirt pattern from this year's Target pride line. They are cake. I could not find an ace colored slice on the fabric photo on their site. Cake. Ace. Who okayed this design?!

[@AbbieElizabeth13]

Silly people! Although is it super cute

[@Blonderellas]

We need an ace dating site like legit like tinder with photo verification etc

[@memor22]

The fact that people think that we cannot feel love annoys me so much. i dont even have words to describe it, how do you come up with that?

[@vpoof7804]

hi, I wanted to ask for some advice, about an hour ago my gf told me she might be grey or asexual and idk what to do, I kinda was realizing she was I had a feeling but now im scared im gonna make her uncomfy, I wanna stay with her yk, sex isn't a need right? i just have no idea what to do, before I was abrosexual but ever since ive been with her I have been sexual to even hypersexual. and the last thing I wanna do is make her uncomfortable. she thought I was gonna hate her... I would never hate her over something like this. I just have no idea on what to do and im kind of on the bridge of crying rn. well maybe I already started. I just dont know how to talk to her about it. and im a bit confused cuz she was never greysexual or asexual before, it definitely seemed like it when we started out but in the past i know she has done certain things, and she was sexual attracted yk. so im kinda feeling like she just doesn't find me sexually attractive like her last partners so idk. should I ask if we could test some stuff out to see if she really is asexual or grey? not sex but like seeing if what turns her on is physical cuz we do kinda not see each other much and affection is new to her. I just dont wanna be those people that like say that they need sex and make her feel like she has to to keep me. i dont wanna say the wrong thing to her rn and im kind of panicking.

[@emilymagyar1794]

Hi! I hope things are going well for you guys! I want to preface this by saying I am a bisexual and biromantic person. I have never romantically been with someone who is asexual, although me and this girl really like each other and she is asexual. We have had conversations about what our differing sexualities would be like in a relationship and have decided to go forward with things. Although I am allosexual and she is not, I think that we will be able to make it work. She is comfortable kissing and snuggling and I believe that I can take care of my own sexual needs on my own time. She has expressed that perhaps in the future she’d be open to doing sexual things, but I am wary of that because I never want to make her feel uncomfortable I think the biggest component of any relationship is communication and as long as we continue communicating with each other about this topic everything will be fine. The girl I’m talking to also thought that I would change my mind about everything and not want to be with her once she told me she is asexual. I do not think it’s a dealbreaker at all. I really, really like her and want to try being with her despite our differences in sexuality. Although I think that sex is important to me as a person I think I can satisfy myself. I do not need that from her. The emotional aspect of a relationship is far more important to me. I also cried when she told me because I thought it would be the end of us. I also had to let go of that aspect of what would be our future. But that’s okay. I’ve come to terms with it and I’m excited to go forward with her in our emotional relationship. I mean she likes to kiss and cuddle and I honestly think that that is enough for me. But who knows? We have both been realistic in the fact that this may not work because of our different sexualities, but that’s okay. At least we would know that we tried. I wouldn’t put any blame on yourself or think that she is saying this because she isn’t sexually attracted to you. I think that you should think of it as her getting to know herself better. I don’t think it’s about you at all. It’s about her and her own feelings. I think you can ask her if she wants to test things out, but please take it slow and remember that the ball is in her court. You never want to push her too far. Take your time. Nothing is wrong with you. Or her. This is just life. Sex and sexualities are a part of our human nature, but anything can be worked on and figured out together. Communication is key! Good luck! I’m sure everything will work out

[@vpoof7804]

@@emilymagyar1794 thank u, this really helped! , We talked it out already and we agreed to test some stuff out but slowly, I guess it kind of overwhelmed me because she isn't really affectionate either, but that isn't her fault she just has never been with someone who cares for her so much and her family never really gave her affection so now that I'm giving it to her it's kind of odd and new. It broke my heart when she said she didn't get why I cared for her that much, she would get annoyed that I would ask her if she was ok and when I could tell when she was upset, she told me she didn't want me to ask her anymore and I did what she told me because yk boundaries and this year I found out that she wants me to ask her what's wrong, but when I did it before she didn't understand why I was asking her so often. It made me sad to know that no one gave her that much affection yk, at least the bare minimum. Her ex didn't help either cuz he just pushed affection on her instead of letting her get used to it in a healthy way, he would guilt trip her if she didn't too. As for sexuality, we talked about it for a while cuz she has had those feelings before, it just switched. What I mean by that is all her other relationships which was just about 2 , were online. She did feel sexually attracted to them and to me as well, but I'm not online I'm irl with her. So now she kinda only gets that way when we are in person, it's rare when online cuz she doesn't really see the point yk. If she was completely asexual tho I would still try, it would be hard but who cares I love her. We aren't gonna focus on sexual stuff rn tho, more into the future we'll test that type of stuff out, as of rn we are trying to get her used to being vulnerable and getting affection from me. And I'm working on not overthinking as much . It's going really well so far and I'm happy that she is slowly opening up to me, I'm very proud of her, trusting someone is hard and being vulnerable, its a huge risk. But she is taking it on me and I won't ruin it :3