“Remember...Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you.” ― Ziad K. Abdelnour
@isaacvance50904 жыл бұрын
AcidDome really want that top reply, huh? You’re replying like crazy.
@martinfiedler43174 жыл бұрын
@AcidDome She just want's to create awareness for her channel.
@Leto854 жыл бұрын
'(...) Whever is trying to bring you down is already below you.' So much for equality, eh? No, whoever is trying to bring you down, needs help. Bullying is for the scarved and mentally hurt people. That doesn't make them less worthy.
@thumbsup33974 жыл бұрын
@Leto85 Sir, this isnt his quote. Its someone else's quote ಠ,_」ಠ
@thumbsup33974 жыл бұрын
@AcidDome Are you *_NOT_* gonna talk about the fact that you are also spamming? You're putting the *_SAME_* reply in *_ALL OF HIS COMMENTS_* . So you're basically spamming on a spammer 🤦
@jonijokunen35424 жыл бұрын
It's sad how sensitive and gentle people usually get bullied the most
@kenhoward35124 жыл бұрын
Bullies deliberately and immediately zero-in on them to satisfy their twisted needs.
@spenser99084 жыл бұрын
@@kenhoward3512 They get bullied for being too sensitive. Change that and you won't get bullied. Pretty straight-forward.
@thecozyconstellation4 жыл бұрын
because bullies are cowards.
@spenser99084 жыл бұрын
lunatika So are people who don’t stand up to bullies. Plus, is Butcher really a coward? He stood up to Homelander.
@marksilla82764 жыл бұрын
@@spenser9908 Why focus on the bully when you can blame the victims.
@abb55964 жыл бұрын
"don't call me that again" they will proceed to immediately say it again lmao
@stjepanmatanovic25554 жыл бұрын
yeah, but then you have a good reason to move away from them and they will know its their fault.
@abb55964 жыл бұрын
@@stjepanmatanovic2555 you already have a good reason and... I don't think they would care
@stjepanmatanovic25554 жыл бұрын
@@abb5596 oh, they would care. Being ignored is their nightmare
@picklejho694 жыл бұрын
I mean, at that point I'd probably just throat punch 'em, but in experience that don't work out too well for anybody involved. I've had to learn to not immediately jump to physicality when words fail, but to adopt a silent, brooding sort of anger. To clarify, that's more or less just death staring the target after dropping the 'Don't call me that again. Ever.' and making sure not to blink, break eye contact, or waver until they've given me the response I want. Also, never, NEVER, move away in this situations. Move closer. The second you do ANYTHING even slightly defensive, you will be on the back foot, and you will only really be able to recover dominance or at the least equality in the confrontation with more, shall we say, aggressive means. But this is all dependent on who it is that is trying to bully you. If there is a real potential for you getting hurt, remove yourself from the situation. No point trying to act 6 foot tall and bulletproof if you're comparatively 5'5 and 50.
@alexandrebeaudry83774 жыл бұрын
And in the video they had just wait for the apologize so you can move on. If the person doesn't care about you (which is more than probable considering he insulted you) you just give them more power. Waiting is the worst and now it became your emotional state. There is different way to respond to an insult and this one is awful. I recommand listening to the insult (you can even repeat it in a smooth and calm voice to steal the power of what is said) , separate it from yourself and laugh at it if you can.
@Vincent-qh7zz3 жыл бұрын
Dude: I don’t know where you grew up, but bullies don’t apologize.
@CLEYENTE_JUANDER93 жыл бұрын
They do. If you let them do.
@Potatofella3 жыл бұрын
i dont know where you grew up but bullies were never an issue a bully mocks you mock him back if you cant violance
@Potatofella3 жыл бұрын
@Dark Aster facts
@User-546314 жыл бұрын
I responded to bully’s in school with extreme violence. One took my backpack so I hit him in head with a chair. The 2nd bully I hit with a baseball bat in the ribs. After that nobody really messed with me.
@User-546314 жыл бұрын
My philosophy is “Don’t start nothing won’t be nothing.” Never started a fight in my life. Violence should always be a last option. The thing is that it is a option and it works.
@darwinmontoya75644 жыл бұрын
Wow your so fuckin tough arent you
@nihilism62263 жыл бұрын
John Morris Don't start fights yourself, but always end them. Permanently.
@darwinmontoya75643 жыл бұрын
@@nihilism6226 watch out we got a killer on the loose, everyones a badass these days, at least in their own worlds
@SteelSaint7493 жыл бұрын
And you DIDN'T get put out of school?! Cool story, bro
@NH-ly7zc4 жыл бұрын
“Wait until they apologize”? I have never known a bully to do this without being a requirement
@XiaolinDraconis4 жыл бұрын
He mentioned early on that it may not be their intention to bully you, that's the type of person who would apologize.
@dunnowy1234 жыл бұрын
I'm assuming he's talking about adults, who tend to be somewhat more socially calibrated.
@DeterminedGoat4 жыл бұрын
Yeah it's also funny that he doesn't take the option that they go ahead and call you whatever disrespectful name again into account.
@TheFuschiaDragonfly4 жыл бұрын
Nine times out of ten the teacher will ask YOU to apologize because you don't fit in
@rolliemcsplat76184 жыл бұрын
N H just watch season 2 of The Boys, apologies happen after the bully sees what he has done.
@wisdom-for-all4 жыл бұрын
Blowing out someone else’s candle does not make yours shine any brighter. If courage is fire, then bullying is just smoke. Bullying is for losers 🖖
@JJSS-vg1qs4 жыл бұрын
and now you know
@maggotreynolds97494 жыл бұрын
I mean by comparison it makes yours brighter
@KarmasAbutch4 жыл бұрын
Jerry Andersen or in positions of power and ruin your life when you follow their own harassment and bullying policy... resulting in a giant ongoing human rights complaint, loss of income and PTSD... but hey, what would I know? People need to stop with this shallow, higher moral ground, throwaway sound bites around adult bullying... it’s as serious and nasty as well adults can be.
@Koozomec4 жыл бұрын
Bullying obviously works and it's attractive for many people. They thrive in today's individualistic society.
@Niko-ms5op4 жыл бұрын
There is no candle. Not outside your own conception. No flame, no smoke, none of it. Still there is more than you could ever conceive.
@QuestionEverythingButWHY4 жыл бұрын
“Keep away from people who try to belittle your ambitions. Small people always do that, but the really great make you feel that you, too, can become great.” ― Mark Twain
@k3nz1e734 жыл бұрын
Question Everything - Thought Provoking Ideas you have copied to quotes and posted both of them for likes. They’re good quotes tbf but ik what you’re doing
@andiemorgan9614 жыл бұрын
Even on this comment section you can't escape those who like to criticise!
@k3nz1e734 жыл бұрын
Jerry Andersen Those could be his true intentions but I just decided that I know longer care.
@isaacvance50904 жыл бұрын
AcidDome really want that top reply, huh? You’re replying like crazy.
@jonathanbowen36404 жыл бұрын
@Jerry Andersen you completely miss understand. his comments are spam done for selfish reasons.
@Caine614 жыл бұрын
My boss told me to work overtime and when I said no he got angry so I performed a Jiu Jutsu hip toss on him and now I'm looking for another job.
@raahi25314 жыл бұрын
Fish Ha! 😂🤣😂
@user-or7nv3uq4f4 жыл бұрын
You forgot to pull your pants down first
@extraterrestrialhorse97224 жыл бұрын
@@user-or7nv3uq4f lol
@gnarthdarkanen74643 жыл бұрын
Lesson in life.. look for another job first. ;o)
@josefwissarionowitschstali12253 жыл бұрын
Respect, man. Jiu Jitsu rules :D
@harrysethh4 жыл бұрын
Someone once told me a way to deter bullies physically which I've often thought about: They said that if someone is approaching you in a physically aggressive manner, one way to avoid this is to look them straight in the eye, pull down your pants and underwear, then smile. Cause no one wants to get physically near a smiling guy with no pants on. I often wonder about the dude who told me this: where is he now? And, is he wearing any pants? Thank you for listening to my TED talk.
@minuit63053 жыл бұрын
I think it only works men on men. I tried this as a woman to a man and he also took his pants off and smiled. Now he is convinced we are a couple!
@harrysethh3 жыл бұрын
@@minuit6305 😂😂😂
@Mantosasto3 жыл бұрын
Alright, you two made me laugh. You win this comment section in my book.
@harrysethh3 жыл бұрын
@@Mantosasto we are but doing what we were put here to do
@aminatamaiga13 жыл бұрын
What about women to women? Does that work?
@georgeindestructible4 жыл бұрын
Saying to someone "that's respectful don't call me that again" only ensures they know for sure what triggers you so they can use it again and again, i don't think you actually know how bullies do their thing.
@gernottiefenbrunner1724 жыл бұрын
Than say it about something that is disrespectful but doesn't bother you.
@orelas1674 жыл бұрын
That's not something people say when they're triggered. It's a warning that the person is ready and able to destroy the other person. It is also a firm "No" to the bully's demand.
@georgeindestructible4 жыл бұрын
@@orelas167 A bully doesn't give a crap of what you say most of the time.
@HoorayBagels4 жыл бұрын
@@georgeindestructible yes but bullies want to see a response. They'll see that that won't give them the response that they want.
@georgeindestructible4 жыл бұрын
@@HoorayBagels That's the one types of bullies, i've known the other type, the one i describe.
@wakeful17103 жыл бұрын
“Remove them from your life” or remove life from them
@ablurida3 жыл бұрын
🤣
@riell.40213 жыл бұрын
underrated.
@fwcube82943 жыл бұрын
Murica moment
@cyrusjohnson60502 жыл бұрын
Amen
@TheReal_GigaChad2 жыл бұрын
Quiet kid
@martinshillitoe47353 жыл бұрын
A guy tried the “friendly touch” on me. He did the gentle pat of my cheek and said “now be a good boy”. I responded in kind with the cheek pat and said “my mum always taught me to be good” then said “but my dad taught me to how to uppercut” and then levelled him with a blow to the jaw. Never been near me since
@myachi_art3 жыл бұрын
I've gotta admit, that shocked me.
@ritam87673 жыл бұрын
Man, that's awesome. I wish i had this opportunity.
@brownie_x3 жыл бұрын
well that's a fuckin lie lol
@BoutYoungAnnaLee3 жыл бұрын
HAHAHHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHA 😂
@clawsthelaw98543 жыл бұрын
Then Obama came out from behind the bushes and said what a brave young man you are and your whole family clapped
@johnny2hats3304 жыл бұрын
From my experiences in school, the best way to deal with a bully is to confront them when they're on their own. I think most people bully to gain approval from their other peers, and once those peers are removed they tend to be a lot less bold. On the school bus, some guy used to throw stuff at me so one day I got off the bus with him at his stop in the middle of the countryside. I then proceeded to shove him into the hedge repeatedly until he got the message, before I walked the several miles home. He never so much as looked me in the eyes again.
@NuLiForm2 жыл бұрын
Love it! This deserves a Standing Ovation!
@chiefchiefstress7 ай бұрын
They mostly walk in packs
@Manlihood3 жыл бұрын
I was bullied in middle school very badly. The BIGGEST way to overcome bullies is when you overcome yourself. You've got to be secure in yourself first. When you know who you are, and what you stand for, their manipulation means so much less.
@dateengineerazurecloud29043 жыл бұрын
I was bullied in the work place. 3rd person insults are clever. There is not defense other than knowing yourself and agreeing with some of what they say. Like in the final battle of 8mile.
@bobinthewest85595 ай бұрын
The only thing a bully understands is… some people stand up to them, some people don’t.
@TheFuschiaDragonfly4 жыл бұрын
I needed this while I was still in school
@WhiteAngelLovesEarth4 жыл бұрын
adults are even worse bullies
@davewillmusic33344 жыл бұрын
Lol yeah... you still need it.
@davewillmusic33344 жыл бұрын
@Jerry Andersen ...huh? Lmaoo
@07Flash11MRC4 жыл бұрын
Absolutely! This video is at least two decades late... 😅
@ovahlord14514 жыл бұрын
@@WhiteAngelLovesEarth shiiieeeet
@EamonBurke4 жыл бұрын
Never say BUT after "I love you". Say AND "I love you, and I'm not going to do that."
@fkerpants4 жыл бұрын
This. ^^^^^ Best advice on relationships I've seen in years.
@CDeeez944 жыл бұрын
Perfect, mate.
@PapaSmurf11182nd3 жыл бұрын
That’s a fantastic way of phrasing it.
@PapaSmurf11182nd3 жыл бұрын
It’s similar with I’m sorry. If you’re saying “I love you,” or “I’m sorry,” and then the next word is “But,” then unfortunately they don’t mean that as much as you may think. That’s been my experience anyway.
@martinkuliza3 жыл бұрын
What if you say IF the truth is , you can apply digital logic to Love and saying I LOVE YOU Logic Gates AND OR NOT LOL if you want to get creative you can start adding NOR NAND XOR Imagine a statement like I Love you NAND.............. I'm going to do that LOL MAKES YOU THINK DOESN'T IT
@misterg11573 жыл бұрын
5:05 “Say nothing. Wait until they apologise...”. 😂 Man, you are not used to taking on narcissists or even a common-or-garden bully. When is the last time you heard a bully or narcissist apologise? The only apology they offer is a fake one (e.g. “I’m sorry if you feel I offended you...”)
@PCProphecy10 ай бұрын
True, true. The key is... once you state your boundary, if they double down and begin blaming you or any of their mental gymnastics, you no longer need to socialize with the individual, WALK AWAY because they have shown you their incapable of accountability. This is a HUGE red flag and should never be overlooked, even if they don't fall in the spectrum of NPD, BPD, etc... a lack of accountability is an immediate cut-off.
@hewhositsuponfroggychair57224 жыл бұрын
"They may threaten you with their own harm." *Give me your lunch money or I'll beat myself up!*
@dea92733 жыл бұрын
That is hella funny!
@luminousweb3 жыл бұрын
That's funny but also, narcissists definitely use this tactic. My grandma used to say things like "All this food will go to waste if you don't come eat it," and she would mean for me to feel responsible for her decisions. It can be super manipulative
@blindknitter3 жыл бұрын
I have had people tell me that if I don't do as they say their suicide is on me. So, it does happen. It's one reason why men and women can be trapped in thoroughly miserable relationships.
@arthas6402 жыл бұрын
I did once end a really irritating diatribe by a coworker who was kind of a bully by stabbing myself in the leg with a knife. lucky for me he didnt realize I've got a leg brace so the knife got stuck in that and he got too worried to stick around and wait for any blood to start spilling.
@BurntBattleBagel6 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂😂
@Motorsportsinjapan3 жыл бұрын
Much of this sounds like it was written by someone who has never been bullied, only studied bullying at college.
@arthas6402 жыл бұрын
this sounds like those bullying PSAs they force you to watch in grade school, the kind that are clearly written by upper middle class white people who've never actually seen a bully except on after school specials and decided to write a thesis on bullying regardless.
@Motorsportsinjapan2 жыл бұрын
@@arthas640 Pretty much!
@bobinthewest85595 ай бұрын
Taught by the kind of person who says things like, “Just tell the teacher about the bully.” 🙄
@MisterPol4 жыл бұрын
Looking at someone in the eyes is the best way to appear confident. If you can't, try looking in between the eyes!
@MisterPol4 жыл бұрын
Btw thank you for inspiring me to get into self development and teach others!!
@vlemm77984 жыл бұрын
or forehead
@matthewwarren78794 жыл бұрын
@Jerry Andersen or learn to defend yourself...
@Littlespooby4 жыл бұрын
Or their nose.
@MeatCatCheesyBlaster3 жыл бұрын
I just cross my eyes. It commands respect
@QuestionEverythingButWHY4 жыл бұрын
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life, but define yourself.” ― Harvey Fierstein
@isaacvance50904 жыл бұрын
AcidDome really want that top reply, huh? You’re replying like crazy.
@jonathanbowen36404 жыл бұрын
did u even watch the video? or just came here to promote your channel based on the title of the video?
@QuestionEverythingButWHY4 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanbowen3640 hmmmm.... seems like you've already made up your mind. So do you think anything I say will ever change your mind?
@jonathanbowen36404 жыл бұрын
@@QuestionEverythingButWHY Nope, just take a look at this comment section. Its disgusting, its full of self promotion. Its in authentic. It's a mess and makes the comment section painful. I use ad-blockers and avoid advertising in general. Yet the comment section is full of it. If you want to spread your message just stick to your own channel and spend you time on that. The algorithms work, it takes time but the content will speak for itself and you will get subscribers that way. It's the only way.
@QuestionEverythingButWHY4 жыл бұрын
@@jonathanbowen3640 KZbin only promotes contents they can earn money from.They don't promote who has just started. That's why it takes 2 years on average to gain first 1000 subscriber. Also youtube wants you to keep uploading and keep engaging with others. If you don't do both then it won't even show your content to your own subscriber. Yeah people thinks content will market itself. That's only partially right. As if it were 100% truth then no movie producer would spend almost 50% of their budget promoting their movies. And as you can see, movie stars are already million times famous than us .
@no47334 жыл бұрын
This channel seems great for actors... and psychopaths
@NDK04 жыл бұрын
If someone tries to give you that "I am the boss" type of handshake, you grap their hand even tighter. If he (or she) is stronger than you, grap their shoulder and SHAKE them while you say hello. And if you get the chance, lean in and tell them that they need to learn how to shake hands.
@sly11benal74 жыл бұрын
I used to get bullied cause I was small til 21 yrs old. I still get disrespected at times as an adult. People are assholes...I stay in shape gained confidence by sticking up for myself, being in shape, having close friends around me, learning how to fight, and now full circle am Infantryman Vet. I am not scared of anything or anyone no longer n I'm smaller than Connor McGregor by few lbs. Been long hard road, to get to where I am. Keep your head up and drive on!💯🍻
@nihilism62263 жыл бұрын
Sly11B Enal What about assassin drones that kill with lethal injection in your sleep?? Not afraid of even that????
@You_Tube_User52 Жыл бұрын
I faced bulling in my office by my colleagues one was younger than me and other was 10 years older than me. I threatened the younger guy to beat the hell out. I phoned the elder one and insulted him in private. Not saying i feel proud of this but it earned me peace during work breaks.
@bradhuygens4 жыл бұрын
"Would you like fries with that?" "Sorry I have a policy to never make a big decision without at least a night to sleep on it". By the way I hope a girl doesn't tell me that after I propose to them
@praisekek1814 жыл бұрын
The thinking of saying yes comes before the time of asking usually, on both those accounts. You have already have had fries and slept on wether you liked them or not, and proposing does not usually come unexpectedly. If the person doesn't answer yes soon after the asking, they weren't thinking about something that long term, they could simply not be thinking, but after 4 months it should probably be thought about and prepared for.
@rainpooper70884 жыл бұрын
Talovax 4 months is pretty damn fast if you ask me. My parents both had relationships with other people that lasted for up to seven years before they met and got married to each other after a similar amount of time. It wasn’t that they didn’t love these people they didn’t marry, it’s just that they had different long-term goals, especially regarding children. I don’t see 4 months being nearly enough time to find out if your long-term goals are a perfect match with that of the person you’re in love with at the moment. The point being, don’t rush it. You can have a perfectly loving relationship without getting married for quite some time. But it’s like you said, if as a couple you actually went and figured everything out together up until that point, the proposal will not be that big of a deal anymore.
@praisekek1814 жыл бұрын
@@rainpooper7088 agreed
@Koozomec4 жыл бұрын
Protip : propose only if she agrees before.
@sararamonajohansson4 жыл бұрын
Four months???? "OOOH! A dozen red flags, I love them!"
@makeromaniagreatagain96973 жыл бұрын
4:50 "Where I come form that's very disrespectful" Isn't that the bully's intention?
@MrXboy073 жыл бұрын
This just gives more ammo
@piano_master_52463 жыл бұрын
If it gives more ammo that's a cue to get more aggressive, if it doesn't, then it worked, depends who you're talking to
@ablurida3 жыл бұрын
You are giving them a last chance to redeem themselves before either removing them from your life forever or whipping their arse if you are able. Intentions can be misread.
@jaketinsleywbc4 жыл бұрын
Gotta say im disappointed in myself, i used these for years while i was going through my bully bully, protector of nerds phase. Took a whole damn year for my best friend to get up the guts to tell me i was being a bully myself, really Kickstarted my self awareness.
@timinator11784 жыл бұрын
"Charisma on Command told me to learn jiujitsu Mom, I swear!"
@AxxLAfriku4 жыл бұрын
I am being humble when I am telling you that I am the most powerful strongest coolest smartest most famous greatest funniest KZbinr of all time! That's the reason I have multiple girlfriends and I show them off on my channel all the time! Bye bye tim
@timinator11784 жыл бұрын
AxxL bro your biceps are the same size as your wrist
4 жыл бұрын
@@timinator1178 why do you have to mock my huge wrist deformity?
@timinator11784 жыл бұрын
@ sounds like a you problem ngl
@timinator11784 жыл бұрын
@@Surteronarto as someone who practices BJJ, wrestling, and (formerly) judo, I can confidently say BJJ will serve you better than judo. Sorry to burst your bubble bud. If you don't believe me, listen to basically any decent MMA commentator.
@thehood-nv7xl4 жыл бұрын
This channel is perfect for lizard people who are trying to look more human
@floki45714 жыл бұрын
the hood 2099 I have asperger’s syndrome, that’s exactly what I’m doing on this channel lol
@thehood-nv7xl4 жыл бұрын
@@floki4571 ma bad ma bad , apologies are in order
@floki45714 жыл бұрын
the hood 2099 No need to apologize, I actually found your comment funny
@piano_master_52463 жыл бұрын
@@floki4571 hello lizard person
@ipshitatamjid28863 жыл бұрын
Yea, Mark Zuckerberg
@kyeraff4 жыл бұрын
My go to response to an insult, "Do you think that's okay to say to someone?" Yes, this starts a very different conversation. But I'm almost always ready to have it. And that conversation is a dominance reversal if there ever was one. My empathy and sincerity might make me a friend out of that initial bully.
4 жыл бұрын
Karl Urban would be a phenomenal Wolverine. Too bad he's not 15 years younger.
@MAS7s4 жыл бұрын
ahhh now I can't unsee him in yellow/blue spandex!@@
@piglet25483 жыл бұрын
I wish they cast a shorter,bulkier person as wolverine.
@GlowVolve3 жыл бұрын
I'm surprised to see someone with the same thoughts as mine
3 жыл бұрын
@@piglet2548 I've been impressed by some renderings of that Harry Potter kid. With his shorter frame, if he added 10-15 lbs of muscle he'd be a pretty good fit.
@Kalambur22334 жыл бұрын
I am yet to see a bully apologise when saying "Hey, that was disrespectful to me, you should apologise.". Is this a Blue's Clues episode? You're just getting into a defensive stance and will get picked on more.
@GodBlessDJT9773 жыл бұрын
If I waited for an apology I would never speak to my mom again!
@jmlkhan51533 жыл бұрын
InfoJunkie .....so, if she wants to speak to you ever again, even to bully you, she will have to amend her behavior. Win win.
@allye42283 жыл бұрын
If you say it in an angry or emotional way of course you'll get picked on more. But if you say it in a calm tone they are more likely to take you seriously.
@williamj.dovejr.86133 жыл бұрын
@@GodBlessDJT977 I thought I was the only one who had a mom who was a bully...damn.
@johannas.l.brushane25183 жыл бұрын
It depends on the context. And they did not phrase it as you quoted it. They phrased it in a way to pinch the bully's poor manners, lack of social skills not stating anything whatsoever about how you really feel about the insult. If it's a bully in a workplace, a sportsteam or similar it could well work when essentially being told that their behaviour is disruptive, especially if they are doing it because they think it's a cool jargon (they also said it was for when in a situation where you had to deal with the person).
@dunnowy1234 жыл бұрын
5:18. I did this to one of my friend's once (although it was directed at the entire group). There's a point where a friend can go overboard with the teasing to the point where you feel like a punching bag. I just told them straight up to stop doing it. It worked. It's sometimes that easy.
@Imthesoulofthes Жыл бұрын
Yeah and you already had Friendship with The Bully.
@betolink02984 жыл бұрын
04:56 "Where I come from.... People like that get slapped". - Nick Diaz
@martinfiedler43174 жыл бұрын
Are you physically threatening people with this poor quote?
@betolink02984 жыл бұрын
@@martinfiedler4317 Absolutely dude. If someone messes up with me I'm gonna send the Díaz brothers to Stockton Slap them.
@AnonYmous-mc5zx4 жыл бұрын
I hate it when my bully threatens me with his heat vision.
@CaseyBurnsInvesting4 жыл бұрын
I like the reciprocating unreciprocated touch tip. These videos are incredibly valuable and underrated.
@alejandroescudero13793 жыл бұрын
where I come from, saying "where I come from that's very disrespectful please stop" it's like giving a flamethrower to a pyromaniac, absolutely nothing good will come out of it and the bullying will only become worse haha
@cloroxbleach57343 жыл бұрын
Yeah him saying that made me take the vid less seriously.
@forgottenmma36942 жыл бұрын
Exactly. Thats that “You’re hearting my feelings”
@justindavis55194 жыл бұрын
At the end of the day, if you get hurt whatever just remember you had the balls to stand up to your bully
@jmlkhan51533 жыл бұрын
Better to die with dignity than win in disgrace.
@9525joe4 жыл бұрын
Where I come from, some of the tips in this video just gonna get you bullied some more
@MrSpartanspud3 жыл бұрын
I have only watched three of this channel's videos and that piece of advice has completely shattered my faith in this channel.
@cyndigooch11623 жыл бұрын
9525joe I totally agree and it doesn't matter what people say to some overly aggressive individuals, because they generally don't give a f - - k anyway. 🙁
@SmokeFlame13 жыл бұрын
Most bullies are cowards. Stand up to them firmly and the back down.
@Itzblu7774 жыл бұрын
More like: “5 Psychological Tricks I will now use and what to expect as a Counter”
@crownedone88374 жыл бұрын
Oh my gosh
@acechima75253 жыл бұрын
🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂 Diabolical
@paulwestwood44173 жыл бұрын
Pressuring you to make an instant decision is very common, especially with sales people. I got a lot of people pissed off by delaying decisions, but I still do it.
@theofungi65624 жыл бұрын
You, are so helpful in giving us strength to get our self esteem back. I have never been so serious in a comment than the one I just made. You are helping strangers find esteem, so that we can BE. Thank You.
@SpaceCouncil3 жыл бұрын
"That's really disrespectful" - That won't get you anywhere. The person is trying to make fun of you, disrespect is the entire goal of their interaction with you.
@henstar3374 жыл бұрын
I'm sure that telling them they are being disrespectful is really going to work.
@henstar3374 жыл бұрын
@Jerry Andersen I though the point of a bully was that they were trying to hurt you. Surely then, indicating to them that they are getting to you will only cause them to double down.
@jmlkhan51533 жыл бұрын
Henstar i can relate from experience that if you have a bully, particularly a narcissistic one, never reveal your weaknesses to them.
@dateengineerazurecloud29043 жыл бұрын
they will deny it/gaslight you. Been there.
@why_karlaly4 жыл бұрын
From my personal experience, the best way to deal with people insulting you is to agree with them in a jokingly way and maybe even hit back with a compliment. That way you can easily show the bully that you're comfortable with whatever they're "calling you out" on and that you're still trying to have a friendly relationship with them.
@supDARe364 жыл бұрын
You are right! I caught myself unconciously doing this when I was in high school since I am naturally humorous. Their faces filled with confusion then later annoyance was priceless. They left me alone.
@Jonathan-xt6jw3 жыл бұрын
If someone insults you, instead of admitting that it was hurtful to you, offer to buy them a Snickers and say, "You're not you when you're hungry."
@dateengineerazurecloud29043 жыл бұрын
That's funny. Bully would not laugh though.
@s.akhtarjoomun2633 жыл бұрын
"Wait until they apologize"?! I'm still sitting outside of the house of my 5th-grade bully, waiting for him to apologize. I was about to give up and go home, but now that I've watched this video, I'm not going anywhere.
@sponggg_70964 жыл бұрын
If you said "where I come from that is very disrespectful" to a bully you'd probably get ridiculed even further. Bullies dont care that they hurt your feelings and aren't gona apologizes for it.
@steviekeas4 жыл бұрын
Everything is about control. Bullying is just a way to get control.
@martinkuliza3 жыл бұрын
that's right..... so... you smack him in the mouth and make him lose control of you
@nemanja67944 жыл бұрын
You really need to do a video on Raymond Reddington. I think it's seriously overdue.
@Idkhowtofkinread3 жыл бұрын
This needs to be upvoted to the top my friend
@NeilCWCampbell3 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@shanonsnyder94504 жыл бұрын
Appreciate how you showed both Billy and Homelander as bullies. Really gets to the heart of the show’s irony
@taylorskyblue94133 жыл бұрын
I needed this video 10 years ago. I was bullied and I was even sexually assaulted. It took 10 years to heal emotionally, and your channel has helped me a ton. I'm a longtime subscriber. I truly think Charisma Command knows what he's talking about!
@terribledeed21372 жыл бұрын
Sorry bro
@physicslover195010 ай бұрын
As a teenager, I got bullied by my classmate in a very harassing manner... She used to sit to my right and always bullied me whenever teacher wasn't looking... She used to pinch my chest so forcefully that I got scars when I saw myself in the mirror by taking off my clothes. I used to cry the whole day and couldn't sleep at night. I didn't want to go to school because of her. She was physically very strong and used to go to gym... Whenever I used to take revenge by doing the same thing to her she used to stop me easily with little or no effort as she was physically stronger and pinched my chest me more and more. It was so painful and I wanted to die. It was such a shame that I couldn't even tell anyone about that those wounds of her brutal pinching were all over my breast and that felt so humiliating... 😥😥.. I felt so alone and even now I feel afraid to see stronger woman because of the fear of being bullied in the same way.. What would you have done if you were there istead of me.
@elielterman4 жыл бұрын
POV: ur watching this to become a better bully
@RiseAgainst7863 жыл бұрын
Yes
@terrainvictus12103 жыл бұрын
I need to bully my bullies
@anwin45053 жыл бұрын
@@terrainvictus1210 i need to outsmart the outsmarters
@sarahrivers31714 жыл бұрын
Charlie and Ben, thank you so much for these terrific tips. Bullies are everywhere you look and it can be difficult to know how best to handle them.
@garyholloway72473 жыл бұрын
I was raised to be kind and respectful. However, I used to get bullied when I was young possibly because I'm small. I quickly learned that if you displayed extreme violence towards said bully, the message soon got around and everyone left me alone. Don't get me wrong, I always tried to talk my way out, but bullies generally aren't that bright, so they got taught the hard way. You could see the shock on their faces. I did feel badly afterwards but at the time it was survival. I didn't ask them to pick on me after all. In my book they got what they deserved.
@gregoryscott38583 жыл бұрын
This advice isn't about stopping bullies, it's about resisting high pressure sales tactics. Aside from being cartoonish fictional characters, Butcher and Homelander aren't 'bullies', they're 'violent narcissistic psychopaths' who deliver on their threats. There is no way to 'stop' people with disordered, pathological personalities, your only effective option is eliminating all contact. As for the vid title, the only way to 'stop' an actual bully is to push back hard enough --- psychologically and/or physically --- that you establish dominance.
@rtc33633 жыл бұрын
I love how genuine this channel is to help people’s confidence with practical examples, totally deserve the 4m+ sub. And none of the annoying “what’s up guys!” opening so many youtubers use nowadays
@AliothAncalagon3 жыл бұрын
To put it bluntly: Find a way to develop confidence.
@wanderyaman59994 жыл бұрын
I'm still at the process of standing up for my life and getting them out of my life but I can already feel the satisfaction of that , just Know that none of you deserve such treatment. Stay strong 💪
@360.Tapestry4 жыл бұрын
there's a bully at work. my coworkers and i talk about leaving all the time. i'm the only one who's actually left
@chellefell13314 жыл бұрын
what does this bully do?
@Mahmood.234 жыл бұрын
I say you learn jiu-jitsu and go back for a visit
@ScareFire4 жыл бұрын
It was the right choice, hope you the best
@Mahmood.234 жыл бұрын
@Jerry Andersen it was a joke..
@svenkamog22324 жыл бұрын
Good on you, I made the mistake and stayed far to long...
@handy8644 жыл бұрын
I've picked up a particularly nasty trick that only works because it's based in the fact I had to realise when I bully bullys I'm still a bully. When someone gets threatening to me I stay calm and happy, mirror them and point out how pathetic and week I am proving I'm terrifying and challenging them to be more clever. When they inevitably disappoint me, they have a new fear of me that I twist into a stance of keeping the conversations respectful so we don't devolve back into a situation that leaves them at a major disadvantage. I wouldn't recommend this as I get set on fire literally and don't care, but a lot of what's talked about in this video comes into play so I thought I'd share. Charisma on command is a great tool to help explain what I do and I still learn things from it. So to everyone out there, would you kindly not let people push you around... This is where the maniacal laugh comes in, stay smart out there.
@samaymirpuri68864 жыл бұрын
Can you do a breakdown on Jeff from community and how he maintains his coolness. Like so he can see
@mallorysandstrom39284 жыл бұрын
Jeff's coolness is a facade. Abed is the real cool guy.
@TheSchemer14 жыл бұрын
Or how he's able to present a confident, sarcastic persona
@davewillmusic33344 жыл бұрын
Yeah dude, Jeff just puts on a facade to hide his pain but when he's alone he cry, cry, cries in his lonely heart.
@samaymirpuri68864 жыл бұрын
MallorySandstrom fr
@kevineldracher94223 жыл бұрын
@@mallorysandstrom3928 facts
@Lisarata3 жыл бұрын
I want to tell people that got bullied: It's because you're learning. You will do better next time. Listen to these techniques. You'll do better. You'll be better off. Love yourself and be your own friend, and learn what you can do.
@msrtoday3 жыл бұрын
Ah the solution to all things - boundaries and discipline
@dateengineerazurecloud29043 жыл бұрын
Made new friends at work. Went no contact with my bullies/narcissists. GS scale is rankism in its finest form.
@probsnooneyouknowtbh3712 Жыл бұрын
To any lovely, sweet, sensitive person who clicked on a popular KZbin video looking for answers because people have been awful to you and you don't know what to do, I don't have any advice but I just wanted to say something to you. I'm sorry the world is so unkind. I'm sorry society places the onus on you to harden yourself rather than those people to stop being jerks. I'm sorry the process of hardening is difficult and painful. I hope you are able to keep some of your softness, and please don't be ashamed of it because it's nothing to be ashamed of. Yes, many of us have to "toughen up" to survive, but always remember that's not because there's something wrong with you. It's just a way you unfortunately have to adapt to survive in a messed up society. I want you to know it's never your fault when people mistreat you, okay? Okay. Now you go and keep on keeping on. Things will get better for you.
@vdmur79524 жыл бұрын
Was specifically looking into 'the boys' as a case study. Glad you did a video specifically on it.
@kd2239 Жыл бұрын
I hate bulliess. I once asked for a kids lunch money and he said "no". I was really offended and embarrassed so i punched him repeatedly in the stomach. He gave me his lunch money. Remember folks, always stand up for yourself.
@remc0s4 жыл бұрын
I was never bullied in school, but for some reason as an adult, a former colleague and friend of mine thought i would make a perfect target for him and his overweight neckbeard buddies, so i kicked him out of my friend group. Mocking me because i go to the gym, am not fat and use deodorant? Seriously? Something went really, really wrong with those guys.
@chiron_uncoded59122 жыл бұрын
Jealous of you. You threatened his self esteem
@calgakispict36523 жыл бұрын
Homelander isn't fake friendly, he's just a sociopath trying to appear normal and affectionate most of the time
@holypikeman46034 жыл бұрын
Victim bullying is another good one. "I'm a poor woman and you raised your voice, thats abuse! Now I get your job"
@artyomarty3913 жыл бұрын
thats actually the most common form of bullying these days. Its also passive aggressive bullying in a way
@mathurm1003 жыл бұрын
be certain in yourself. maintain gravitas when you speak. ignore whiners and if someone questions you address them decisively. doesn't matter if you're right in your position. it matters that you HAVE a position. most people don't. and most people don't know what the eff they're doing in life anyway.
@SusanaXpeace2u3 жыл бұрын
Please do a video about how to handle being given the cold shoulder by one person in a group you have every right to be in. This has happened to me a few times now and it always surprises me as I wasn't trying to take over the group, I was just happy to be in the group. I don't know why I'm a threat to this type of person but when something has happened three times, and the woman has behaved in an identical way each time, love bombing every other member of the group and treating me like I'm a ghost, then I realise that I'm triggering these types somehow. I'm too accommodating, I was a people pleaser but I'm not now, although there must be some residual essence of people pleasing about me that revolts these scapegoating bullies. They want me gone. Being treated like this makes me wither and I can't be natural. SO I stay quiet. I freeze. while they fawn. And then I'm ejected from the group one way or another. I know this is not how men tend to bully but please can you look in to how to deal with it? I like your turn of phrase. I like to have the right words to diffuse a situation.
@lpquagmire36213 жыл бұрын
Respond with kindness -- it will confuse the bully and put him off his game.
@rafiqrashad3924 жыл бұрын
2010 : I'm a victim of a school bully or at workplace 2020 : I'm a victim of an Internet bully
@The_Gallowglass3 жыл бұрын
"Where I come from that is really disrespectful. Don't ever call me that again." To me that would only make them enjoy insulting you more, unless they're trying to appear respectful, in front of other people. They might just hit you.
@ShirleyitsJohn4 жыл бұрын
I'd love it if you guys did a video for how to convey charisma in writing. I find it's much more difficult for some reason since you're unable to rely on things like vocal tone and body language to help communicate your message.
@Kaalokalawaia4 жыл бұрын
Or going absolutely crazy works too. People tried to bully me as a kid because I was so small. That didn't work out for them very well.
@barrywhite17704 жыл бұрын
Be careful with that. I tried to befriend the crazy kid in high school that always got picked on. He stabbed me with an electric chisel in shop class. Avoided him from then on. Saw him again in university, still getting picked on. Sad.
@GODCONVOYPRIME3 жыл бұрын
Homelander seems like he just needs a friend. I actually think he's a hero.
@Robotogram3 жыл бұрын
To say, I am telling you how to be, is so manipulative. Worthy of a true bully wannabe. The truth is there is always someone in the school that is stronger or faster than the bully. But not the bully. It may seem awkward at first but tell that person your problem and ask for help. Chances are they will and maybe you will find a good friend in the process. I’ve actually seen this done, A boy found two girls willing to help. Together they could decimate and humiliate the bully into submission. Believe me this was really fun to watch. Remember when you try to hide, the game begins.
@lilrask94644 жыл бұрын
"Well the Jerk Store called... They're running out of you!" - George Costanza
@danielminnear96204 жыл бұрын
Ok thats... cringe
@jerryhablitzel33334 жыл бұрын
You have done your homework on the subjects you discuss. To be a good teacher you must first be a good student. Well done.
@Reggie20004 жыл бұрын
I disagree with the hard line on the 24hr rule. Many a person has lost out on a great opportunity by being meek. Sometimes you have to be bold in life. Sometimes you have to answer that door right now, or lose that opportunity forever.
@dsharkyo4 жыл бұрын
24 hrs might be too long, but it could be a good rule to start practicing resisting the sales tactic he mentioned
@chrisfrank53313 жыл бұрын
If you dont fight you lose. If you fight you may lose but you still win. Sadly wimping is encouraged now
@BG5974 жыл бұрын
I miss seeing Charlie's face :( Great to have you back.
@Derek-Moran4 жыл бұрын
Most bullies were bullied themselves; mainly by one parent, sometimes both parents or sometimes by an older sibling. If you can break down a bully (emotionally), you will normally find a young child in incredible emotional pain. Heal the child and the bully suddenly wakes up out of their 24 hour controlling nightmare.
@RaymaMcClure4 жыл бұрын
This was so helpful, thank you!!! I loved the bit about reacting with similar gestures. Killin’ em with kindness. Hot damn.
@echase4163 жыл бұрын
Motley Crue rocker Nikki Sixx had a story of being bullied by kids on the bus in his biography. He knew he couldn’t take them so he loaded his metal lunchbox with rocks and used it to defensively swing at the bullies. Sometimes you do what you’ve got to you.
@VondaInWonderland4 жыл бұрын
I love your channel and I've watched about 20 of your videos in the last couple of days. I got some great tips from Russel Brand to talk to my daughter last night. I didn't know how to communicate my peace and how she could have it too. Sitting up tall while I talked, even though I was on the phone was everything. I have found that my security comes from Jesus, not from myself. I am content in His neverending love, and feel complete trust, and need of nothing. But being able to communicate that isn't always easy ♥
@borderlinepsyco17453 жыл бұрын
Being ignored is a bullies worst nightmare. If you show it doesn't affect you then they lose all power over the situation.
@dateengineerazurecloud29043 жыл бұрын
Ill qualify that and say being ignored is a narcissists worst nightmare. Have plenty in Government where your GS level is your status. LOL
@thetriumphanthustler70014 жыл бұрын
"When you want to succeed as bad as you want to breathe, then you'll be successful" -Eric Thomas
@stevefarrington56183 жыл бұрын
I saw a kid getting bullied by 3 guys. I ran over and jumped in and he didn’t last long with four of us.
@bigfriki4 жыл бұрын
Can you make a video on how to be more like Homelander next? I'm considering a high-paying position at a big bank and still need to check a few character traits.
@Disgruntledgamer3 жыл бұрын
"That's disrespectful don't ever call me that again" Or What? What are you going to do? Telling someone they're being disrespectful when they're trying to be disrespectful doesn't work.
@urbanexpansion13574 жыл бұрын
Before I play this, I really hope its a character analysis of Billy Butcher..
@BeowuIfs4 жыл бұрын
Basically learn to create/bring up boundaries with someone, respectfully call the person out on their behavior, and learn to walk away from someone that's toxic.
@pats37143 жыл бұрын
Don't react. A bully, by definition, is looking for some sort of fear reaction. Personally, I always found bullies rather funny, like they'd sock me in the face and I'd just smile. Wish I'd met one of these guys later, when I'd put on a bit of weight, not to be unfortunately.
@greegeree3 жыл бұрын
I've had more than my fair share of them. I'll keep these tips in mind. I've cut toxic people from my past out of my life and keep my friend circles tight but mostly i hang out alone. And now I'm not so naïve that I try to jump right in to friendships with people i just met.