5 REASONS INFJs DON’T FIT IN BUT STAND OUT

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INFJ Life Coach Lesson: Get ready to discover why INFJs are the ultimate standouts! Let's face it, blending into society is just not our thing. Sure, we can put on a show and pretend to be like everyone else, but deep down, we know we're different. It's about time we stop trying to fit in and start embracing our uniqueness. So grab a seat, relax, and get ready to learn the five reasons why INFJs can't help but stand out and shine. It's time to embrace the journey and enjoy every moment of it!
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[@Wenzes]

What are some of your traits that inevitably make you stand out?

[@TheIndyspace]

Being "quiet" makes one seem *suspicious* to others. 🤔

[@jessmason2112]

Seeing through their mask 🎭. 3:56

[@A_22398]

observation, wry remarks (humor), persistent creative output

[@why55555]

I have a bad habit of making a brief comment at the end of a Con Masters BS spiel that dismantles his bogus logic supporting his claims. It's hard not to chime in when I can see through their lies & others can't. I'm too anxious to help others by sharing truth not everyone wants to see, sometimes.🤷

[@user-gj3eb8qd6p]

My daughter says that I can make a comment about the weather...differently. It attracts attention. Some people like it about me--some people hate it...everything I do distinguishes me from the crowd. My instinct is towards saying something original and to say it differently, too. To seek to differentiate--to deviate, always. I know there are INFJs who can blend but--me? Not so much. I have a very urbane--ironical tone of voice--very stagey...full of "effect". My aunt & mentor was the first Poet Laureate of Maine and she had a voice I connected to the Victorians-, very Old World. Proustian--very upper class, hyper educated, lilting and full of music she was always signing a line of German or French. Off the wall. She was a total INFJ and would complain about the hatred of total strangers. "Why is it I find a gas station in the middle of nowhere I go in to pay and the girl's eyes narrow w hatred when she hears my voice?" Poor Kate. When you are 85 and live alone on a blueberry barren upland--those little interactions leave a lingering impression.

[@deborahwolff5651]

I gave up trying to fit in years ago. I like myself for who I am. It's a lot more comfortable that way.

[@stephaniem2743]

There are times when it suddenly occurs to me, "oh, people must think I'm weird for doing this." Like reading while I walk outside (2 things hardly anyone does, let alone together), talking to myself out loud in a store, doing things alone. It often takes me a second to realize it's not actually normal. Not that I care.

[@liliallie314]

As an infj i've always felt left out/misunderstood, ur videos are so comforting and empowering, thank you.

[@Angel-gb9gi]

I don't feel left out, and if I do notice it happening I know it's because I am such a loner and prefer to be alone that people just stop trying to make the loner fit in. We choose this life, if we didn't want to be left out we would play the social game and laugh at all the silly things people say, we would be in the circle wanting to be part of what is going on, we would be needy and clingy for attention but we dont and most of us stand by ourselves doing our on thing and not participating and we get left out on things. It's the price we pay. I have accepted it.

[@irodirod4679]

Like a skilled artisan, identifying and restoring a work of art, so is Wenzes at identifying and restoring the INFJ. 🙏👏

[@RayPeng-07]

5 REASONS INFJs DON’T FIT IN BUT STAND OUT 1. INFJs just think differently. -> 1:07 2. INFJs question authority -> 5:26 3. INFJs don't need that much social acceptance. -> 7:14 4. INFJs are willing to break glass ceilings. -> 11:00 5. INFJs can hold onto a vision -> 13:08

[@avikchatterjee1945]

We're not misfits. This hypocritical society can't face us. I have absolutely no expectation from anyone; Wen you are so so spot on.

[@OneThousandHomoDJs]

George Bernard Shaw: “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”

[@tuanphanthanh5111]

wow good quotes

[@JHixon-bi8ok]

Regarding breaking glass ceilings: my dad was an INTP. He raised myself and my sisters to be independent, logical, and to be hard working. He treated us as “people “, not girly-girls. He succeeded in raising 3 “glass ceiling breakers”.

[@RicoMoneybags]

When others come to the fork in the road they either go left or right with a perceived sense of choice… The INFJ is a trailblazer and decides to go straight and make a path of are own…

[@thechaostrials1964]

I don't dress or carry myself like other people--and my vision of the world is unique and very dark. I keep it to myself because it probably scares people!! Sometimes I feel stared at, other times completely invisible. It's a really lonely existence, frankly. I do long for connection. But, alas, it alludes me. Amor Fati I guess.

[@artistocracy]

Yes, same for me. I get stared at, my walk and physicality is unique, the way I moderate and articulate my voice when speaking, it is all about my calm state that stands out without me trying to. There are lovely people all over the place and I have really nice brief interactions here and there, but a deep and lasting connection is rare. There is only one in my life right now whom I am in love with who loves me. Being alone is valuable time to reflect, conceptualise and create. I am an artist 30+ years. . I feel blessed to be me.

[@salomeyul]

Wenzes is the Fairy Godmother of INFJs ♥♥♥

[@BeholdIamaNewCreation]

Hey Wenzes, I have been thinking about you and your INFJ ministry. Thank you so much for what you are doing and have done. You are like the voice in the back of my head that keeps saying: "You don't have to do ALL the things, but you can do all the RIGHT things." I am applying your concepts to my life, along with doing a host of other selfcare actions. I feel better than I have my whole life. What stands out? Well, now that I am allowing myself to realize I have the secret juice inside already, I don't have to force anyone or anything to go my way. I am letting go and letting God. While at the same time, taking noticeable actions in the 3D world.

[@roblox_explorerfromspace]

my confidence, simplicity, and authenticity. I forgot to mention being unbothered and staying Zen

[@chocovanille5809]

I imagine things that have not happened yet and I am so sick of it!!!!

[@KannanMohanME]

I just want at least one person whom I can be myself with. I'm done with Masking. 🧠

[@katiamikriukova]

Same here..❤

[@stephenfegely]

Queen of Swords 🗡️ #INFJ 😎

[@HaleyMary]

I'm sure I think differently than most other people. I used to think it was due to my learning difference and being more of a visual and kinetic learner rather than an auditory learner. As I get older, I wonder if my learning difference is also a personality difference. I also don't care about social acceptance a lot. I feel like if I changed myself to be accepted by most of society, I would end up hating myself.

[@imdjc4]

I've been trying to convince my dr.'s for a long time about this stand out curse/blessing and all they want to do is avoid the topic. Thanks again Wenzes.

[@DonnaChamberson]

LOL. It's hard. INFP's usually stand out because they're pretty and good looking. As an INFJ, I feel like I stand out because I'm just perceived as odd. :'(

[@charlotteburton9483]

It's because we are self starters, can read a room in 3 seconds. Topped off with don't take crap

[@vibeaboutittarot]

Omg I needed this! Yesterday I was so upset because my daughter and I tend to be excluded from things even when we always involve and help others. It gets so frustrating but I’m starting to realize some people just can’t and won’t understand us ❤

[@steppentofortune7934]

I’m kinda of dealing with something similar right now with my mom’s boyfriend and my half sister. My mom has been sick in the hospital for 3 months. I have been checking in with both my sister and mom’s bf, bringing them food, and attempting to keep their spirits high on the regular. It’s been such a wake up call to know neither of them can even do 1/3 of that in return. Absolutely heartbreaking for me. I wish you the best.

[@Angel-gb9gi]

I love to be excluded. I don't want to take part. I am like please stop the bus and let me out of your silly noisy world.

[@vibeaboutittarot]

@@Angel-gb9gi love it ❤️

[@Angel-gb9gi]

@@steppentofortune7934 I hope your mom is getting better. I have a sister that is naturally like you, she is the care taker the one that goes far and beyond what's expected and she gets hurt a lot from lack of care returned. Remember not all of us are so good at taking care of other people unless we have to and we never ask for help or to have our spirits lifted but when people do it it amazes us that people like that exist. It does inspire us and we don't forget we just are not good at it, it doesn't come naturally for us. You are gifted in giving of yourself which is a great gift to have just don't over do it and forget about your own needs. You are not a selfish person like so many of are. I am infj but I am selfish and don't reach out to people. I have a lot of anxiety and fear that gets in the way of me doing things I should be doing. Sorry that so many of us are selfish, glad people like you exist.

[@stevecook5842]

Sorry not sorry?

[@BenAvodot]

I just found your KZbin channel and I took the Meyers Briggs many times, but have landed on INFJ repeatedly. I didn’t think it was a big deal or anything special, but curious perhaps, that’s about it. However, after watching just a few of your vids, I realize how much my life has struggled with other people. Dimming my lights, only to be rejected when I happen to shine thru. People mess with me, but at some point, I let em have it, revealing that I have been studying them, their weakness and strengths, and I can reduce them to their insecurities when pushed to my limits. I can’t tell you how many times that has happened. I just wanted to thank you for validating my experience. Everything you been saying soooo fits my life. I only wish I had found you sooner. Thank you for liberating my mind in order to allow myself to be me without apologies. I mean that, thank you!

[@heatherlaine3082]

I feel understood since coming across this KZbin channel.

[@groundwalker19]

I needed this today. It's like the last 3 months have been life changing now that I have atoned my anger. I've stopped mirroring other people and have isolated for the last two months to brood. It's an emotional growth spurt. I've never listened to my anger before.

[@rgiltner70]

I love your comment: I CAN DO IT BECAUSE I AM CRAZY ENOUGH TO THINK I CAN. As an INFJ, it has really inspired me. Thank you so much!.

[@paulwilliams7119]

I done the myers brings test twice sigma infj-A known since a teen

[@purple_1]

Same. My teacher had it done for me in H.S. she wanted me to understand myself better.😊😊😊😊

[@SarahAlAmeri]

Self expression unapologetically

[@carol-us4xn]

I'm glad I can see consciously! Who cares what they think??? Not my problem???

[@ronvanderveen6883]

Impeccable timing on my personal behalf! This is a bullseye and I am always impressed with your awareness and ability to explain and see that which for me has been invisible most of my life. Having sight(understanding) is truly one of humanities most profound gifts. Thank you Wenzes. Truly. How many people you have (and continue to) give clear vision is obviously many 🎉 this is very noble 🎯

[@correanne5366]

Ya, I'm learning to like myself & my way ... already suffer...just pick my sacrifices now 😊

[@DHARK1873]

I like that description “pick my sacrifices”… I need to do the same. I actually love the giving part of being an INFJ but yeah, not being careful where/when you give can drain one’s energy so so fast and so constantly.

[@warlocktony1]

Yes very true! They just cannot understand! I tried everything for them to understand but still they act the same. When i stop , i felt better,am happier and i love it! I do stand out and am ok. When i started to consider me first ... it was amazing! Not tiring anymore! Thank you wenz!

[@thedopeone96]

When us INFJs do stay true to ourselves we do get ridiculed and for knowing who we are inside people think we're not that on the outside on how they perceive us and when we constantly show our true selves people real life be getting mad as hell 🤣

[@raft115]

I can't explain the joy i felt when I saw Wenzes video is ready , you are like a mother 💙✨

[@why55555]

TY so much for being here. It's a lonely world the 1st few years that you find out you're a surprise CIA Minister Spy ExWife Widow. You really help me understand my unique strengths so I can support myself in my Trauma Survivor's healing journey after assaults. You have stepped into the role of best friend to help guide me out of perfectionism traps & self defeating habits. TY so much for sharing your consistent helpful content & life's work with us all.🤗❤️‍🔥🥰💓💞

[@vanshiuwucutiee9480]

U r unique Choose yourself ❤❤just as u r

[@barbarahall5514]

You will be understood….you will be understood from others’ perspective..simple but so profound. Wenzes has changed my life helping me understand “me”….❤

[@ladyinasuit6811]

You don’t have to be understood to be loved 💥

[@JoanHenderson-bn1yz]

I find trying to fit in exhausting it’s excruciating to the point where I don’t bother anymore. I’m 80 yo and have had a fantastic life a successful career as a Designer ect ect but an absolute disaster socially I love creating and look forward to stumbling upon new things each day with almost no distractions. I have not heard of this personality type before so there you go I am an INFJ-A. Thank you 🙏🏽

[@cilegnadeerb]

Did you know that most of us are also on the autistic spectrum... Very cool... Well to me... Cos I don't want to be what I am not I really like who I am most of the time just the decision making abilities and taking long and self management lol gets a bit irritating at times but I'd rather be me than anyone else and finding out I'm a high masking undiagnosed female on the spectrum... Alas so many things have changed for the better for me... It is amazing finally that knowing that ur different just clicks in u found ur tribe now proceed to apply things that can help u live in a world dominated by neuro typical. Check Orion Kelly and some other Asian girl can't recall her name but live her stuff and mom on the spectrum... It is so nice to finally find the thing that explains every other little weird thing u were confused about... Anyway check it out it is life changing in the best way

[@jennifercatherinekarel8925]

I needed to hear that

[@drewford3205]

Awesome video. ❤ Definitely resonates

[@Accelerator_Lastorder_x]

Crushed it! Best video ever. 😎🤟✌️⚡

[@paolarominaprieto3177]

❤ Gracias!

[@shashankkasliwal6381]

You are simply super.

[@jerome6572]

Wenze's awesome I've achieved two visions coming to be real.Wenze's thank you for you.Jerome❤❤❤

[@olengivens]

13:00 "So embrace It "

[@corydodd4333]

I appreciate your content I'm excited that I will be able to afford learning more about everything soon

[@markhenry514]

much lov for your work=freedom baby

[@staciehaneline9533]

I think your hair is fabulous!! 🥰

[@imdjc4]

During the times I do have employment....as an INFJ, I eventually become management's facilitator of workplace hatred. Ironic, because up until that point, I'm one of the few who don't hate management.

[@annazunder3812]

Great explanations, thank you very much❤

[@straighttalkinggirl7622]

Your video about not falling in line made me gasp, I don't pull rank, because as far as I'm concerned there is no rank and I find that, I fit in with others who feel the same. Thank you for this channel its very empowering to hear what you share and others testimonies.

[@vivianeprudentiabuelens9142]

No you are right ‼️ 5:48

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

This was a very inspiring video and I took lots of notes on my phone for later inspiration! Thank you Wenzes!😊

[@jessmason2112]

💯🎯 7:34 I've been through this in the past. Especially when in the neighborhood. It's not truly who we are. Our moral compass 🧭 will ultimately override that. That's if their moral compass 🧭 is still intacted. Some end up beyond return and will fight to protect that. Great commentary 💯💪♥️

[@nourfattouh6547]

My smile sense of humor calmness helping others and not integrating into society

[@Hildred6]

Thank goodness I finally find out what it is 😃 wish it had happened sooner. Always knew I thought differently

[@raft115]

Your thumbnail picture is super👌✨👏👌 with the awesome words infj work your magic✨👌👏👏

[@Ohwome]

Amazingly perfectly explained. So many years and people have never been able to understand why I've always lived the way I've lived and always seemed so strange and unusual and never once lived like the rest of the world or even could understand why they would choose to live the way they lived. Amazingly Accurate and finally explained perfectly. Thank you. INFJ-T ♓🖤

[@user-bu2mq3tw7w]

Shouldn't we have a sign? A lighthouse as a guide? Our functions are trained in youth. We need to teach our boys that after emotional control, image control, voice control and then recall control are possible.

[@ndeyekhady4415]

U’re my best friend ❤😊

[@jnl3564]

My fears are mostly false conclusions I’ve come to about my potential because of corrupt data I’ve recieved about myself from SE. Its the gap that happens from trying to experience myself through people who are too different. And the only way to correct that error is to consciously put myself into the fearful scenario to see if my expectations are correct. I wish there wasn’t a way to fact check the conclusions or use Ni to “figure it out” before I face the fear but no, i can’t. Data is actually missing and it cannot be catalogued or uncovered until I actually experience it. I think the key is to experience it from another angle AKA my own perspective rather than the outside world perspective. It’s not easy to do because in the moment and right after, my authentic experience is kind of unavailable? Or it feels like an empty space? Or like a nothingness? I wonder why that empty space is so uncomfortable... Its like I’m not supposed to veer off the path but also the path isn’t real. I can handle these feelings, but what IS THAT??? Is that my severely stunted Si? Is that rewriting Ni? Is that Se processing? Is it an emotional block? Am I just bored LOL? Hopefully someone knows what i mean.

[@YAMISOOLD2009]

I love that first sentence you wrote. If only our parents and teachers had got through to us that we didn't have to be like the extroverted sensors in our life. Too many parents and teachers try to mold everyone into the same shape. This is so devastating to those who are naturally different.

[@GreenWizardPTR]

Psylocibe ftw. I'm not even surprised ;)

[@NicolePearson-ss5qp]

Hi Wenzes, do you have an "assumptions" video on your channel 😊

[@JuvilleSB]

Different perspictive

[@user-bu2mq3tw7w]

You are asking the wrong questions or drawing the wrong conclusions. Does it have to be the case that we have to ask ourselves how they make us feel? Shouldn't we unite, whether in a larger consciousness or in a territory? INFJs work hard, help each other, develop together. We are alone in this world with these characteristics. But what if we lived together? What if we implemented our visions? If everyone in our city had a helicopter, if we had airways (approved routes) on the display. We can develop, we can move forward. Aren't we? The ones that make everything better?

[@raft115]

I agree but there seems no way out

[@user-bu2mq3tw7w]

We must get every citizen airborne. Through simple helicopter designs (version 1.0). The drive must be hydrogen as a popular commodity. Produced centralized and distributed under government funding. Logically, after the “conquest” of the air there must be the conquest of space. With an infinite source of hydrogen and modernized “spaceships” it can already be implemented.

[@user-zb8xp2zc4v]

Blonde hair or not ur pretty❤😊

[@erik_1953]

Emagine your dad threw you in the water when you were young.. So you had to learn to swim to stay alive.. But emagine all the other kids had a different education and never learned to swim.. So, now you are different from the others and you can not "un-learn" these "gifts" and also not explain them. SORRY!!!

[@stevecook5842]

Do you think it's possible that two INFJs could fall in love with each other's unique authenticities while still remaining their true authentic selves?... I never cared what people think 🤔 but I wonder if other INFJs have struggled with remaining true to themselves within a committed relationship, especially with another INFJ... We are all strong personalities but perspectives will always differ, if not in direct opposition, at least in degree... I personally find myself drawn to other unique people and have made lasting friendships with such people of diverse interests and experiences, who have helped me grow in ways that I would never have without them... but I struggle to find my romantic match...

[@roberttrough6439]

Wow 👍 🙃 hahaha 🤣

[@BlackjackMain]

Oh come on, i just recently came to the holding onto a vision realization. Your articulation greatly helps my reflection, but I just worked the gist of it out. I want to learn something I haven't worked on yet, expand my awareness!

[@LolLife84]

is their infj group ? like in discord

[@mikewalker3554]

LOL

[@user-zb8xp2zc4v]

I appreciate u wenzes❤ but im kinda starting to dread what I'm about to become. Ur advices have led me to an (unleashed mod) what if i become the next Andrew Tate? Unleashing the fierce thing about us we so much try to bury. Coz its there, the flame that can consume anything in its path once set aloose.(have nothing against Tate by the way😂)

[@jnl3564]

I feel similar. This channel has led to some incredibly fast changes in my life. But maybe consider that you are actually way more in control of your actions than the typical person. You make other people feel out of control and that’s why they project that negativity onto you. You don’t have to believe it. Slow down if you want to, you can choose that. Youre probably a thoughtful and conscientious person. If the fierceness inside has uncovered a hatred of women like Tate, then process it! Create boundaries with woman like you weren’t able to have as a child. Learn from it and it will be ok.

[@Groovytunes96]

​@@jnl3564I don't think thats what he's saying, he means unfiltered like Tate

[@jnl3564]

@@Groovytunes96 Tate as an unfiltered person? More like he has filtered himself and his humanity to oblivion and all that's left is a caricature of a person

[@user-zb8xp2zc4v]

@@jnl3564 i appreciate ur advice, it really means a lot. And chillex, unlike Tate i don't and won't( inferiorate) the ladies😂 i only pick from him the positive stuff he talks about only! Dude's gotta super vibe wouldn't u say?😂

[@Tified967]

I'm actually starting to veer more towards ESFP as your type; the Ni-Fi divergence appears 'locked' in place & I can see an Fi authority for sure. No offence my fiancé is an ESFP they're a fantastic type 😊. Ni for the cognitive INFJ isn't about having a vision but it is in the case of the ESFP; the INFJs Ni is constantly reconceptualising cerebral abstract information not concretising it in reality - you're getting the 2 poles confused on the Se Ni axis. Harry states from CPT that ESFP occupy the greatest proliferation of INFJ mistypings. I really suggest going away & politely consulting Jung's work. That's gonna be one large ESFP & ISFP boot camp! 😊

[@raft115]

infjs are misunderstood mostly you see 😁✨

[@raft115]

✨😁being understood by others perspective

[@carol-us4xn]

Really???

[@merlebrown7664]

Wenzes I think you actually care if someone says you should have been blonde 😂 And secondly, your intelligence makes you so beautiful. And lastly you should wear makeup more often when making these videos.. brings out your face.

[@NightMystique13]

She knows what she’s doing. Quit negging her already.😠

[@merlebrown7664]

@@NightMystique13 Whatcha mean

[@gokhantoksoy2826]

I think you will look much better with blond hair :)) That is very selfish of you 😂

[@Dawn5048Batchelor]

Curious, I've been told that i have an vibe that permeates from me and can fill the room full of my emotions that i am feeling, i don't do this intentionally and from my perspective im trying to be non reactive. Problem with this is people can read me like i read them ,sometimes this can work for you sometimes against you. Is their anything i can do to control my emotions so I don't glow like a wood burning stove in the middle of winter.? ❤your channel 👍🕊🦘🥳