5 Reasons The Dumper Is SILENT - The Love Hate Of The Dumper

Nick will discuss the 5 reasons the dumper is silent and why the dumper has a love hate relationship with the dumpee
The dumper can be silent for many reasons. They may still love the dumpee but find them to be emotionally draining. The dumper may be grieving the relationship and simply needs some silence.
Whatever the reason, take a walk with Nick through this video and find out the 5 reasons the dumper stays silent during a breakup
If you would like personalised advice and coaching regarding your breakup situation, email me at [e-mail] to arrange an appointment.
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[@freyasharpay3668]

sometimes i used my dumper experience as reference to my current dumpee situation , i remember when i broke up with my uni classmate. he was very needy and clingy and i didnt have emotional feelings for him at the beginning, to me it was a mistake i shouldnt commit to a relationship without thinking carefully , and i was young , anyway , after i broke up with him , the first feeling just as podcasts said : relief , freedom indeed , and my mind was like i finally could play video games on weekends , at the first 4 months , i didnt think about anything or any serious relationship , even i went on dates but my mind was like : i'm sick of in something serious , we didnt know what is NC at that age though , he reached out many times i couldnt remember for now , but when i saw his msg the first feeling came to my mind was more like ads notification , like KZbin or email sending you something you never gonna open, i think thats one of reasons of slience , maybe they are busy with feeding dragons and play their magic sowrd in the games lol , and during the 4 months my mind was fully with GTA5 and Dragon Age, i dont know how he been through the first 4 months but i was really happy with gaming , then life got bored , and i did reached out to him , you guys may wanna know when i finally reached out to him , i think its really after a long time maybe like 6-10 months dont remember which number is just quite long, not over a year that way when i saw him got a bit fit from his social media photos and there's a thought like we havent talked for a long time so i asked how's he been doing , but after a few talks i felt he's still the same person still stubborn , so its kinda cut off all the idea of going back with him again , it may not a good reference to someone who has an ex really loves them, i never in love with this guy though so i think i didnt have dumper sad stage or shocked stage , no matter he reached out or not , but if someone really loved you i think their timeline and feelings during the break up maybe more complicated

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’ve pinned this post. This explains so well a dumpers journey. And the KZbin ad analogy….. I’m so using that 😈 Thank you for the contribution.

[@fathurmaulana2973]

did you ever really love someone?

[@mutechannel13]

6 months into a breakup after a 8 year relationship ( I got dumped for the first time at 35 ). I am at the point where I can put myself in the dumpers shoes and almost feel pity for them. I'm starting to think that it's better to be a dumpee then the dumper. The dumpee gets over it while the dumper always look back on the decision that they ultimately made. The dumpee has the upper hand in the long run. Especially if they go on to deal with more failed relationships... and 90% of relationship fail.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Great mindset buddy. I’m glad you’re doing well.

[@knutewales1171]

Disagree. Dumper (me, btw) had already lost emotional attraction to dumpee---if the dumper DOES the work then they can stay NC and move on well before the dumpee.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Possibly, but you’re perspective of one. It’s not the same for everyone else.

[@1111spiritualone]

@mute are you saying the dumper goes thru continuous failed relationships?

[@flat4wankel]

If she monkey branch, chances are it wont failed. I dunno that happened to me and it seems now maybe she made the "right choice" my ex has been in 4 relationships.... so i dunno what are the chances of fain or maybe this guy is the "one"

[@jeffmullins7260]

It’s hard when you care and love someone to experience all this. We were together 6 years, engaged to be married in the fall, watched her daughter grow up from 6-12 years old, all these things make it even more brutal when they walk out on you. It has been nearly 4 months now and I think the thing that hurts me the most is that I have no clear, definitive answer. I have been improving myself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Going to the gym, running a lot, started hobbies I enjoy doing again. I can feel such a positive change. We all need to realize that if we were the ones dumped that we were basically told we were not good enough and if and when they do come back they will have to prove themselves to us and earn there way back into our new lives. After all, they broke our heart. We are the prize, never forget that!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Your are good enough my friend, you simply no longer suit your exes requirements. It doesn’t mean you won’t suit someone else’s requirements. The thing is , you do have the answers. They left and that’s the only closure any of us need. It’s just our imaginations likes to think there is more to it when in fact there isn’t. I know that’s brutal but I tell the truth so you can move forward. You’ll be fine my friend. Feel your feelings, it’s okay. But don’t stay there too long. You’re doing great. I hope you feel better.

[@seanj11421]

This is as if you were watching my story.. You are not alone.

[@edwinhernandez5581]

YOU ARE A GOOD MAN BROTHER. I FEEL YOU. SOME OME LIKE YOU DESRVES BETTER. BEST WISHES KEEP UP TUE GOOD WORK LOOKING OUT FOR YOU

[@edwinhernandez5581]

AFTER A YEAR HOW ARE YIU DOING/FEELING? I AM CURIOUS

[@Wildanimal864.]

Crazy how they just detach, I’m convinced Love in a romantic sense doesn’t really exist just opportunity.

[@lordchino2198]

No they're silent because they're definitely dealing with someone else which is a bad thing to all parties involved but it's going to catch up with them when the the new relationship fails and they really realize what they have done it never fails

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

“Definitely dealing with someone else” 8 billion people on the planet my friend. Quite a blanket statement you’ve made.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you man and I’m sorry you had to go through that. But to say it’s common just isn’t true. You’re making a blanket statement based on your experience. That’s a sample size of one my friend. Hardly enough data to make that kind of claim. I hope you feel better. Don’t allow one woman’s opinion to shape your identity.

[@KVG822]

Who cares. This has happened to me so many times that I don’t care cause when it fails yrs later they want my time again and by that time I have someone else way better.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

That’s great, but always remember, people are not you. 😊

[@sammyrizzo1199]

I don’t think that’s always the case. My ex was an introvert and wanted nothing to do with women or anyone lol. He’s probably working overtime and playing Pokémon video games truthfully. Definitely drinking.

[@marcowijbenga7901]

This is the best simple advice I’ve found here. It can be difficult to process but it’s well worth it and best I’ve heard on KZbin

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m glad I could help Marco. I hope you’re well.

[@9parasqn656]

Your last comment did it for me. You didn't hear from your ex and you're glad because it would set you back 6 months. Well my love left me 8 months ago after 6 years living together in utter bliss, so I thought. . Apart from business I haven't heard from her. I don't expect to and it really hurts like i've never experienced before. But if I was to hear from her and it was a negative and I was set back 6 months I'm not sure I would survive. I am only now just managing to see her as a heartless, selfish bed hopping vulture. But I'd still take her back. Pipe dreams I guess. Am looking for a new love now ... but I'm 64 ( albeit a young and fit 64 ) and it's not easy.

[@daviddavila7571]

It's been 2yrs in half since the Break-Up of june 23 of 2020...all I've been doing is working on myself I haven't been with a women, no dates with women, no sex... because I needed to really need to better myself it was so hard the hardest thing was to letting go, that it's over so I did get help to get my Mental Health back I needed to get my life back because when left me she broke me 6ys together it was a love that I couldn't control..but now I'm a new man I level up I feel and look better my money went up, now looking forward to the future weighing in of what options do I have and I have plenty of options I realize a woman can never love you unconditionally the only thing you can do is love yourself and focus on yourself and that's what I did I haven't heard from her ever since but it's okay cuz she will realize she made the wrong mistake by leaving me.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Smashing it my man. Well done. 💪💪💪

[@mw7540]

Yeah samething happened to me. Mine was 2019 July when i was dumped. 7 year relationship with single mom. She just announced she is engaged to new supply on FB last month. They were together during covid 19 for 2 years. 2020 & 2021.

[@chevy2583]

Thanks, Nick, Do you think the dumpers know the level of trauma and emotional and physical pain they put us through? I remember the very last word of my ex when I was crying and begging, she said "you are exaggerating, just move on". Do they really know how much pain a breakup can cause!!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Yes and no but there is no way they can perceive your version of reality. Everyone’s version of reality is unique to the person and the situation. But I will say this. Biologically, women do not respond well to begging and pleading. They seek safety and leadership from men. Begging and pleading is the opposite of that, and they may explain her reaction to you. Or She’s just an avoidant and a bitch and just not that nice of a human being. Only your ex knows the truth from that perspective.

[@chevy2583]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thanks, Nick!

[@chevy2583]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Nick, I think many of us ask the same question, did my ex know that they hurt me at a deep level and put me through emotional and physical trauma by breaking up with me. You may consider this as a topic for one of your videos. Thanks again!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’ve taken a screenshot of your comment bud. I’ll see what I can do.

[@realmsofthespiritarts8557]

Mine said the next day “I love you I’m not in love with you.”

[@JPFRANCHISE87]

My ex. (The “Dumper”) is silent because she feels nothing for me and I’m sure is much happier without me!! Two years together clearly meant nothing. And I have left her alone, never once begged, and pretty much have been a “ghost” since she dumped me a year ago.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

If you meant nothing to her, she wouldn’t have stayed with you for 2 years. This is projection my friend. You’re projecting your imagination onto her. Some exes just don’t come back my friend. That’s the sad reality but you’ll be okay. Focus on you and level yourself up.

[@askquestions1236]

maybe she is a sociopath and it is a blessing

[@msayweddingfilms]

Im actually going through this I broke up with my girlfriend of 3 years and she moved on with someone 2 weeks later after the break up and whats worse she took our daughter of 2 years to introduce to the guy and posted the pictures on the status for me to see. As much as she wronged me through out the relationship i still asked her not to date this guy an let us fix things I felt our daughter needs us and I need her, she told ne shes fine where shes I felt like im beeing burried alive. Tomorrow our daughters birthday and she asked me to take pics of our daughter im not in a good space but i will show up. Its really hard beeing a Dumpee. Its affecting my creativity as i work as a film maker.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you. Take that pain and put into a film! 💪💪

[@msayweddingfilms]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick thats actually a good idea thanks man

[@BrianWoodall-i5i]

Find you a women

[@sreach93]

I'm not sure if the dumper can have their walls up and grieve at the same time. They probably keep their walls up as long as they can because it helps protect them from the pain of grieving. They're just deferring the inevitable grief process.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Have you been the dumper before?

[@Misagonna88]

As the dumpee, we need the silence to grieve and if the dumper doesn’t contact you-that’s a good thing. If anything it’s helping you lose feelings for them. If someone doesn’t want you-that should be the biggest off putting scenario ever. It always catches up with then-and it will be when you’re healing and moved on. The dumper doesn’t deserve our thoughts and more importantly our love. I’ve been the dumper and the dumpee. I’m staying silent in my current situation. I want him to see that the grass isnt greener, because it won’t be. I was his first love and he wanted a baby and marriage. I will never reach out to him. Never. If he ever wants to talk to me/he comes to me. Then it will be too late-and he will go through the process I did at the beginning

[@jason2723]

Agreed it’s 10 times worse when the dumper popped up

[@doglover5519]

I'm going through the same thing. Things we're great and he ghosted me. Haven't heard anything for almost three weeks!!!

[@hecticsheff1]

Rebound relationship with the monkey branch guy after a month yesterday? Iv stayed on my own and been healing and I'm starting to feel better i acctually pitty her as she has thrown her life away 😌

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Don’t worry about what she is doing. Worry about what you’re doing and you’re journey now.

[@Happy-Me.]

The Dumper is quiet because they have moved on. You're theyre ex for a reason. Before you were dumped the dumper will have thought long and hard about where the relationship was going and whether it was worth pursuing. In the end the conclusion was to end it.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Fair point, but it’s not quite as black and white as that.

[@Happy-Me.]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick What could you add?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

What if the dumper dumped you because they had no other choice? Like someone had an addiction.

[@Happy-Me.]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Well I dumped her because she was showing all the signs of BPD and I was her favourite person.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Sorry to hear that. I hope you’re okay.

[@anthonywild9040]

Two weeks after my ex dumped me, her mother died, so I don't think she is thinking too much about me. I don't expect to hear from her again, despite she lives 500 metres from me. I have elected to go no contact and just get on with life. I think I dodged a bullet!

[@111mmgg]

Man I’m too damn nice never dumped anyone not even once. Ok maybe only once but still 90% of the time i get dumped like a damn clown 🤡

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Read a book called No More Mr Nice Guy, by Dr Robert Glover. Trust me.

[@jamesjones7798]

Being nice guy gets you ran over. Set boundaries at the beginning toughen up

[@askquestions1236]

LOL 😂 Good for you!

[@corinnehiggins3968]

My ex broke up with me unexpectedly after a beautiful eight year relationship. The thing is he had a major panic attack telling me? What's that about?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that Corinne. I’m not sure what that is about. There could be a hundred reasons for his panic attack. What I can tell you, when I’ve ended things with a woman it sucker and my anxiety was through the roof. I hope you feel better.

[@johnton6488]

...that life is not fair?

[@cuteandfluffypikachu3405]

It’s been nearly two weeks since we spoke and he hasn’t reached out either but freinds have told me he’s still single aswell I hoped he had moved on already is that a bad thing 😊😊

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Tell me what you think if it’s a bad thing or not.

[@cuteandfluffypikachu3405]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick we broke up nearly 3 weeks ago if he hasn’t moved on then when I eventually do in the future he’s still going to be about so I can’t if that makes sense 😊😊

[@12AB17]

My bf of 7 years broke up with me but that's ok I found someone way better ☺️

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to about the breakup. How long were you single before getting with your new boyfriend?

[@12AB17]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick like 4 days 🤣, the thing is that person been in my life for like 10 years so we were friends at first, he broke up with me like 3 times this year he keept ghosting me and coming back to me I begged him not to break up with me I was crying it was bad then last time he broke up with me out of nowhere and this time I actually had enough myself and decided not to wait for him went on dating app and found someone way better that shows more respect towards me than all this 7 years I've been with him

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I wish you all the happiness and best with your new relationship, but I’d advise caution that you might be doing the dumpee version of a rebound. Be careful and give yourself time to process.

[@12AB17]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I know I'm aware of that,, no I'm over him I expected him not to be with me it was too toxic and the disrespect was way too much so i got over him pretty quick. But thank you 😊 I will keep listening to your videos they help me alot even in new relationships

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Appreciate the support, and enjoy your new adventures 😊😊

[@user-nickxlmanou]

Man.... After i started no contact she blocked me :'( for almost a month now, what do I do?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Stay no contact. It’s the only real response the dumpee has. You can’t out logic feelings, and you can’t negotiate someone back. Focus on you, level up, feel your feelings, and take baby steps forward. You’re doing fine and you’ll be okay. Stay strong 💪💪💪

[@SkylerOakley]

same here man. didn’t speak a word to her for over a month, we didn’t follow each other. one month of silence and i’m blocked. difficult to say why, probably to prevent herself from looking at me. if she wants to be alone right now, she can be alone! i’ll keep having fun and posting regardless

[@TChalla-yg8bl]

my ex did the same to me..not sure why she did but reshaping myself into a better man for myself..not her

[@jamesjones7798]

Leave her alone

[@yeeeeeyy]

Didn’t tell me anything.

[@askquestions1236]

i caught my ex cheating and found out he had been dating this other person for 2 years behind my back. a whole 2nd life. Neither of us knew about the other. She probably still doesnt. oh well. I guess he wanted to dump me for a long time. Im not even sure when he really left me. lol. I know we had both been going thru a lot in life the past few years and neither of us made the other a priority. guess ots over 😢

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Ouch. That’s heartbreaking. A whole second life would suggest there is more going on than a simple case of cheating. Sounds like has some major validation issues. I hope you feel better 🫂🫂

[@keyhansaldjoughi9613]

It's pointless to be with an avoidant, just give them their walking papers and let them be someone else's problem. One wrong word and they shut down. They offer so little and ask for so much in return

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

That’s quite an over generalisation, my friend. It’s not fair to write everyone off who is avoidant. Many avoidants have very healthy relationships.

[@sagaliina]

We never had problem. He just sleep one night and wake up ignoring for no reason😢😢😢 it's just A week. Am Soo heartbroken 😢😢😰😰😭😭😭

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I am sorry to hear that, but it sounds like he just wanted sex and nothing more. Feel your feelings, process, heal and leave him behind. I hope you feel better.

[@sashmolinton5649]

That's the thing with love, ppl can just wake-up one day and not be inlove with you anymore, as hard as it sounds and can be we have to just move on.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

People must realise that after some time, love is no longer a feeling. It’s a choice.

[@diegomarquez9505]

She said she was drained and tried to talk to me as I worked on my mental health. I tried to get her to work w/me and she didn’t want to. Emotionally unavailable to handle it? Maybe, still I went my own way to heal and hope she fixes herself too.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Only you can fix you, and only she can fix her. Focus on you my friend.

[@diegomarquez9505]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick will do, and I am!!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Good man. 💪💪💪

[@diegomarquez9505]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks for the work you do for us to have hope

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

My pleasure. Thank you for supporting the channel. 😊

[@maameyaaafaawuah2807]

9 months into no contact and my ex hasn't reach out will it still work?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

No contact is to get you back. So yes, it always works 😊

[@fpjhr548]

I know that I get furious when he lies to me and I can't do anything apart from crying with me heart and soul. Last time when he saw me crying like that again & he said "let me drop you home, i can't see this" The reason that i was crying was he continues texting with other ladies. He told me that he cant have the same feelings for me that he had in the past and he cant devote himself to me so he is in non-stop search for women on dating apps and work place.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you. So why are you hanging onto him?

[@fpjhr548]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I don't know. It's taking too long to get out of this

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

So that’s where your effort must be focused. What is it about you keeping you in that place in your head.

[@gleaveinjapan]

Good advice but, as with most of these videos it doesn't apply to my situation. It is very different.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I can only make broad content, my friend. If you need bespoke advice, I offer one to one coaching. 😊

[@takingitslowly]

I had to contact my ex cause she wouldnt stop talking mess and trying to turn loved ones against me. She didnt reply but i know she read it

[@CGermain-s6l]

I am ready to stop being friend zoned and paying all the bills and chores and made into being blamed for everything. I am simply not important while someone or people that said she is Sexy and hot means more than when I say exactly the Dame Words from my Heart…I am now realizing that this is not a healthy relationship…My words are Zero to them …other men and their words are Everything they think they want…I am adult…got to accept the truth and move on…

[@daisydeltoro]

He broke up with me 2 weeks ago and no contact for a week and he hasn’t even reached out to me feels like he never cared for me or that our relationship meant !!nothing 💔

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that Daisy, and i know how painful that can feel. Someone not reaching out doesn’t they don’t care. There are times people don’t reach out to respect your space.

[@13thbornpr]

Most motivating video ive seen to date. Thank you.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thank you, I’m glad you liked it.

[@13thbornpr]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I sent you an email today

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Will respond shortly.

[@antilaw9911]

Because she with another man

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

That’s a possibility, not a certainty.

[@antilaw9911]

Most likely though.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Most likely based on what? Evidence or your imagination projecting and filling in the gaps?

[@D.M.S.]

She dumped me because she had problems that she wanted to figure out alone. She was a relationship addict. Furthermore, she never faced the pain of a break-up and never really moved on. I was the first good guy she met, and one day she realized this guy wants to stay, and I could imagine him staying. But she didn't know if it was because she loved me or because she can't be alone. She said what she feels for me is real and because of that she has to figure it out, or she would forever ask herself if this is really her or her pain that she tries to shut off. From that moment on the whole relationship didn't felt right any more even though I was the right one (at least she said so). She should never have dated in the first place. Every decision she ever made was with someone else in her mind. She had to change that. The sad part is, she got that idea from me, because I made her question her past, her mental health and so on. She didn't say that, but the timeline fits the conversation we had. The day after that, things were different. A week later it was over. That is why it is so hard to move on for me.

[@garbuglio66]

same here, just be happy that you were able to have a positive impact on someone's life journey. If you were truly good she will always look back and smile when she thinks of your impact. Just because it didn't go all the way does not mean it was worthless. You and her both will learn and grow from this and God will guide you to the one for you. I believe in you bro.

[@kennyplay5982]

To little to late ... Yikes

[@lestermatos2989]

After 3 months?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Possibly yes. I’ve had people tell me their exes came back after 2 years, albeit that is rare.

[@LeonaPayton-o3v]

I still dont know why ~ just stupid ~ I thought we were good

[@claytonpasley4048]

Nick!!!! You Speak the Gospel!!! 😎🙏🏽

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Appreciate it man. I hope you’re doing well. 😊👍

[@alatazgames2122]

Hello, first things first you and your videos helped me "turn the tables" in my head and its only been a month since the break up (we were together for 4 years) so I thank you and few other channels very much for your knowledge. Second I didn't see a SINGLE channel talk about what happens when friends have a say into her/his decision and influence her. I know this because when we broke up I wanted to go "suprise" her and texted her colleague to help me in which he responded threatening me and telling me how she can do better and all that crap. Yet I've known her since we were 5 year olds... Sorry for the alt acc, I just don't wanna risk it with my main account in case she sees it.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thank you Alataz. Your exes decision was their decision. Regardless of possible outside influences, why would you want to be with someone who cannot think for themselves? If they are that easily will influenced, hardly someone worth being with, no? Either way, the end result is the same. They left my friend. Sorry to be the one to be direct but I want to accept reality so you can move on do great things.

[@alatazgames2122]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I knew you were going to be brutally honest... that's exactly what I've been thinking. How could I trust around any other friend if she comes back. Its like cheating just 2x worse...

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Don’t ever be the back up option buddy. That’s the answer. If she comes back, ensure you’re in a position where you no longer care.

[@shellygehlot3556]

Why does my ex still have my number saved in his phone after he dumped me

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Only your ex will know the answer to that Shelley. It’s best not to mind read. May I ask how do you know that? I’m assuming you’re still in contact.

[@oye_hoye_mickey]

You guys got back together?

[@jayburns94]

ITS HARD! I loved her! I treated her good. I cared about her family! What she ate, etc.. She kept me dangling for a whole year but I had this strong feeling there was someone else. She always tell me that she does not want to lose me. But... I was guided to find out I WAS RIGHT! I loved her - I gave her a chance. I wanted to believe she was sorry - I was fooling myself. 7 months later she told me she was going to a wedding with her sister. But I've noticed she has no IG stories posted & that was strange. I thought to myself, what if she blocked me from her stories. I borrowed a friends phone and to my surprise, she has STORIES to view. SHE GOT ENGAGED to the same guy from before. She always wanted to travel. She followed the money & a dream. She's still on vacay for 2 weeks already and he's taken her to about 5 different countries! Forget love - it's all about the money. I'm getting better! I loved her - I cared about her. I loved everything about her. !!!UPDATE!!! A few days after her return, she DM me a stupid joke. I replied, "I'm confused, I think you sent this to the wrong person". She replied, "Oh shidd, ur rite, sorry about that".!!!! I KNOW IT WASN'T BY ACCIDENT!!!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Take a step back and analyse what you just typed. Do you think this is worth that amount of mental and emotional energy? If I told that I knew for 100% certainty your ex would come back if, you stopped the social media stalking, you levelled up and, you moved to a new job and started therapy, would you do it?

[@jayburns94]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I don't want her back! I stopped lurking on her social media. I don't have the urge to contact her. I just didn't think she would reach out to me this soon. I guess it's natural for me wanting everything to blow up in her face. But I am in a better place.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

How you feel is always okay my friend. How you respond will determine the outcome. Choosing to respond positively when the shit hits the fan is the difference between levelling up and staying where we are.

[@jayburns94]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Agreed! Do you think my response was inappropriate?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

The only thing I would’ve done differently would have been to ignore her message, given she got engaged. But yeah your response was fine. Maybe a slightly better response could be a simple lol and left it at that.