5 Stages The Dumper Goes Through After A Breakup

Let's find out the 5 stages the dumper goes through after a breakup.
In todays video, i will discuss what the dumper goes through after a breakup.
Most dumpee's think that the dumper does not feel anything after a breakup.
The truth is, the dumper is in more pain that you probably realise post breakup.
Take a walk with me through this video and find out the 5 stages the dumper goes through after a breakup.
If you would like personalised advice and coaching regarding your breakup situation, email me at [e-mail] to arrange an appointment.
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[@toecutter6968]

It's just a matter of time until you realise you deserve better, then you can truly move on. If she comes back in the future she can jog on.

[@toecutter6968]

Do one you melt.

[@NabilxIqbal]

Or get her pregnant then bail

[@summersunrise.9518]

My ex killed me inside

[@paulsell2438]

I may not have done everything perfect, but I can attest that they do go through all of these stages. It's really amazing to watch it play out. Currently in the middle of stage 3-4.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

You’re doing good buddy.

[@giovannimorgan8728]

Update???

[@paulsell2438]

We've moved from talking to having an actual date...went perfect, we had fun together. Looking to plan another date and build on the positives.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Glad to hear it, Paul. I hope you guys make it.

[@paulsell2438]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick if we do, great, if we don't, at least I know I'm in a better mental state to handle it and know my worth

[@andziagreen4922]

Thanks for this summary of cold harsh reality👍 I needed this today, got little emotional suddenly out of nowhere. It's been 12 months and he didn't make any contact except we said "Hi" when we met during one event in the town and he gave me back my notes from gardening event we went to together while in relationship. I don't know what to think about him now but I'm still staying cold turkey😁 the breakup wasn't difficult. I accepted his decission because I had enough myself. I cried out of insecurity during relationship when he was treating me like a stranger when there was one woman around, we both know her. He was ashamed to show that we are together especially when she was around. I'm healing and moving on. I treat it as a lesson learned the hard way. Maybe we are incompatible and better to go separate ways but for sure I won't accept back a man who broke my heart and who doesn't really want me. Why would I do it to myself? What would someone who loves themselves do? Thanks for your time to record those videos to educate us dumpees😜

[@lgr7787]

Hi Nick, I appreciate your channel and the time to take to make your videos so much, they have kept me sane and focused on myself over the last month. I started doing NC even before I knew it was a thing. I did it out of the love and respect, I felt for him. After a year of relationship, he told me that he loved me but he wasn't in love with me and he would want us to stay friends. I read that as he wanted to explore if the grass is greener out there and would like to keep me as a friend, just in case. I told him that I couldn't be his friend as I was in love with him and I will need to take my time and space to heal and move on. I have been in NC for 5 weeks, he has reached out 3 times. The first one was one week into NC, Friday night asking how I was. I replied the next day being courteous and letting him know I was ok and thanked him for asking. He reached out again on week 4 asking me again how I was doing and we chat a little bit, very casual, and without me engaging in asking him questions. He reached out one more time on Saturday (week 5) with the most random message telling me that I should check out an art exhibition in town. Again, I replied by being friendly, thanking him for the recommendation and not asking him further questions. I have been working hard on myself, going to the gym 4-5 times a week, taking dance lessons, reading new books and making again photos and videos to share on Social Media (one of my old passions). He has been watching everything I post almost immediately. I don't know where things are going to go, I don't know why he keeps reaching out with out-of-the-blue suggestions, and I don't even know if I still would like him back because now I know that what we had doesn't exist anymore. So, I will keep listening to your videos and patiently wait for so many answers that eventually will come to my mind. And thanks again Nick for becoming my lighthouse during these uncertain times.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thank you 😊 My advice. Don’t ever take this man back. He’s basically told you he wants to go mess around and keep you as a back up option. I’d honestly tell him not to contact you anymore . Have to have more love and respect for yourself. I hope you feel better.

[@saraholland8743]

I appreciate your channel. You have a balanced approach without the hype. Your voice is calm and matter of fact. Don’t feel like you’re selling something. Wish I had found this 9 months ago. Didn’t, so it is what it is. I’m friends with my ex. It’s weird. But we will figure it out.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thank you Sara 😊 Just leave your credit card details and I’ll cast a spell to get your ex back. 😂 How’s being friends with your ex working for you?

[@larryclay8875]

Great video. One thing I'm glad you said that in the video is that after the breakup, sometimes some Exs don't get back together until one, two, five or more years later. My ex-fiancé, whom I loved very dearly, left me unexpectedly about three months before the wedding day. That was three years ago. I have not heard from her, not even a single word, and that's okay. As I was working on myself, I became stronger and more aware of myself and the people around me. God is good.

[@covidoff]

When they reach out, leave em on unread for a few years until you've had all your fun as the dumpee and then reply 👌or not... They're not worth more

[@summersunrise.9518]

In my case it wasn't the attraction.

[@halo99yo]

But rebounds only delay the grief right? Do you see rebounders reaching back out more or people who do not rebound?

[@thrillschills679]

So did NC and I guess it worked she hit me up we made plans and kissed after ice cream. Then she took me home after our baseball game and she kissed me again. Then we talked about a fresh start and was good for two weeks until she said I didn’t know what I want and stuff, then I had the conversation that was hard for her that I’m leaving and not turning back around ( basically didn’t come out that way but yeah ) so NC again and working on myself even more, it didn’t hurt anymore then the first time if not even.

[@ponokunishima1]

I don’t think I’ll be in another relationship, just because I only want to work on myself and simply because I was very attached to my ex and she was attached to me as well.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Be in a relationship with yourself. Get that right first, then I a new relationship with a new woman will follow.

[@ponokunishima1]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I just want my ex back, be it a few months, a year or two, I would like that

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Get you back man. If she came back now that’s the worse that could happen because you would stop working on yourself.

[@ponokunishima1]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick No, I’ll just keep doing the work and figure out what I did before so I won’t mess up and probably get her to watch and listen to all your channels with me and see if she can work on some things too.

[@summersunrise.9518]

Or shack up with another woman already

[@chevy2583]

How can we be sure that this is what the dumper goes through? We should hear that from a dumper.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

We can never be sure buddy. There are always exceptions to the rule. But as a rule, the sequence of events for most dumpers are similar.

[@Bbctechspecialist]

Thanks Nick, breakups can be a catalyst for immense growth for the dumpee, but is it the same for the dumper? I won’t be where I am today without my first ex dumping me

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It can be for the dumper, if the do the work on themselves, but the seldom do.

[@Bbctechspecialist]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick cheers thanks bro

[@NintendohFreak]

Hi there, im the dumpee and he's the dumper. I put him on a pedestal, we would have routines, and we would have bad communication at the end. I had problems with insecurities and it felt like a responsibility than it was a relationship to him, but he had problems with anger issues and never talked about them. We were together for 7 years and we were going to move in together with his son and he was going to propose next week 2023. But now, the last thing he said to me was I should go out and date, explore, find new things, yet I asked him this question "do you still have that family drawing of us?" (It was a spiderman drawing of him, his son, our dog and I) he responded. "I still have it, but it's not on the wall anymore, it's in the closet." I told him it's okay to get rid of it (becuase it doesn't represent us anymore). He said, it's fine, it's a good drawing. It brings up a bit mixed signals when he tells me to go out and date while he's holding onto that family drawing. It doesn't make sense for me to me go on dates, and yet he holds onto that drawing, even if it is in his closet.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that. Truly heartbreaking. It seems like you’re overthinking the family drawing. This is called projection. You seem to be finding any little bit of evidence of hope. This will not help you feel better. Use this time to work on you, your insecurities and go to therapy. I hope you feel better.

[@NintendohFreak]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I am. I'm seeing a counselor at my church that I have been recently attending and I have an appointment with a therapist on Monday afternoon. I'm looking forward to fixing my insecurities

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Good for you. I hope it helps 😊

[@blindsun]

It's been almost 4 months, I'm working on me. Things are looking up. But I'm having a difficult time gauging if these stages ever applied to her because the last 5 months of our relationship was long distance where she just kept pulling further and further away. She used the old "I love you but i'm not in love with you" line, and added that she definitely needs me as a friend in her life. And I walked away and blocked her on social media (for my own benefit not out of vindication). Do any of the stages in the video apply to someone who has been pulling away for months? Or to put it more clearly, someone who has been rediscovering themselves, reconnecting with their friends and having fun during the last 5 months of a relationship? I know that every relationship is different, but i'm hoping you can share your opinion on this beyond relationships being different. For example, Is there still a grief stage when they've checked out emotionally a while ago? What are your thoughts on this? Thanks for the great content Nick.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I think you’re asking the wrong questions buddy. Better questions would be “how do I respond better to this situation?” The content I put out Is general, so there will of course be situations this does not apply to. I said stage number 5 can one of two ways buddy You’re going to be okay. Keep doing the work focus 100% on yourself. Only invest in people who in invest in you, but you must first invest in yourself.

[@garethgates3706]

Hi Nick, I am currently in NC. My ex left me almost 4 months ago, she had a LOT of stuff at my place and I keep finding extra bits and bobs. I thought I got rid of the last of it but I just found something that I know she was looking for for a while - I told her it wasn't here as I thought it wasn't but I just found it under my bed. Do I message her asking if she wants it back? I recently about two weeks ago messaged a mutual friend about something else she had here - didn't contact her, just dropped it at the friends place for her to collect. I just don't want it to look like I am purposely drip feeding her possessions back as a way of getting to her so I'm not sure I want to do that again. FYI the breakup situation, if you can be bothered to read but it's long so that's okay if you can't; She broke up when she clearly wasn't sure about breaking up, I think her anxiety got to her, we were in a rough patch and felt the spark had gone a little but we both said we wanted to work on things - around a week later she broke up with me over text - we had broke up once before around a year ago because we had an argument and I lost my temper (although this was a fake breakup) I begged a lot to start with an eventually gave up, she behaved very weirdly, but she got in touch after around 6 weeks and we talked things through and got back together. This time around I didn't beg at all, which I think shocked her a bit, as when I tried to go into no contact she got very angry at me for not talking things through with her. I eventually did, I said I wasn't going to ask for her back, she cried and got upset but I thought we both left things on good terms. About a week later she got angry at me again because we both went to the same place (she knew I was going) and she left because she got upset (she had fallen out with a mutual friend) and I suspect she was also a little upset about seeing me there. This was around 1 month after the BU. We spoke on the phone and I said if she was still upset in a few weeks then she should message me and we should talk, which never happened. Around 2 weeks later (6 weeks since BU) she turned up in the same place as me again, knowing I was there due to mutual friends. She spent the whole night dancing around me and our mutual friends talking to everyone but me, and when we did speak it was quite cold. I then went to a friends place afterwards, which she tried following me back to, but the guy who's place we were at said she coudn't come due to there being too many people already. Around 2 weeks later again (8 weeks since BU) she then messaged my flatmate about some stuff I still had of hers, wanting it back. At this point I thought we were okay and on good terms since our chat so I thought it was odd she didn't just message me directly as we would have to interact for me to give it her back anyway. I messaged her saying I hope she's doing okay and I would get it over to her next week since she needed it. She was extremely cold and argumentative about how we left things, I explained I thought we were on good terms but she was annoyed I hadn't reached out to her. When I gave her the stuff back I wasn't sure how she was going to be with me, and all I wanted was to be on good terms, so in preparation that she was going to be angry at me I wrote her a letter - not saying to get back together with me - but to explain that I understood why she was upset (she felt I had iced her out of the group because all our mutual friends are closer to me than her, which sort of did happen because naturally they sided with me after the breakup, but this wasn't my fault), so I said I understood why this upset her and explained my side of things that it wasn't right for her to get angry at me for wanting space after she broke up. I made it clear I was happy to move on and that I did't want to be with someone that didn't want to be with me. I wrote the letter in anticipation that we weren't going to talk as she was angry, but we did end up having a talk in person when I gave her stuff, it was for a few hours - she kept flitting between being extremely flirty with me, bringing up inside jokes and memories, and then going to being angry at me for various things, which I listened to her and explained my perspective on, and then between the two. Bare in mind she hadn't read the letter yet. All in all I listened to her a lot and we both left in a good mood. Upon reading the letter she got back to me, and was very happy. I signed off the letter saying that I wasn't expecting a reply, but at the same time I don't want her to feel like I was having the last word, so if she wanted to respond I would hear her out. I asked that if she was to respond, then to take time and reflect on things before she did. She told me that she would respond but she said she would take her time like I said. She then flirted with me over text for a few days (like really fucking flirting) but then the conversation died so I didn't bother replying. Like two weeks later she text me out the blue saying she saw something funny on holiday about an inside joke we had - we had a boring text conversation after this but it didn't go anywhere so I left it again. Around a week after our boring text convo, it was my birthday and I figured she would say something, but she didn't which I thought was odd that she would message about something pointless a week earlier but nothing on my actual birthday. Fast forward just over a month from the letter and around 3 weeks since her pointless text, it's her birthday (I didn't message) but she does turn up to where I am again (surprise surprise) she knew that my mutual friends were going and when I saw her last in person she said she wasn't going to this place on her birthday, so she must have changed her mind. I saw her briefly and we had a chat, I was looking great, with new friends, and I had since got a promotion at work. We chatted briefly about what we had been up to but not much, didn't speak to her for the rest of the night. She didn't dance around or interact with our mutual friends much this time however, although the place we were in was huge so didn't bump into her as much. It's now been almost four months since the breakup, two months since I gave her the letter and six weeks since she last reached out to me directly. I am trying to move on but the fact that she said she would respond to the letter but is taking her time is making it difficult. Again back to the subject of her stuff, I know she wants it back and I think it would be immature to keep contacting her friends and I don't want it to look like I keep doing this intentionally as a way of getting to her indirectly. Do I just message her and be very formal about her collecting it, or would that be considered breaking no contact? I'd like to say just fuck her but I know she is looking for it and I thought it was lost, I have only just found it in my apartment whilst clearing things out - she can't ask for it back herself as she doesn't even know I have it.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Thanks Gareth. As for her stuff. Take a pic, send it to her and say “hey, was doing a clear out and found this. Let me know if you still want it. I hope everything is good your end” Or just chuck it out. Only you can make that decision. As for everything else, it seems very toxic. Seems like you’re finding things to cling to (waiting for response to the letter) and it’s keeping you in the place that made you sick. Keep working on yourself buddy. It’s going to sting for a good while and that’s okay. How you respond will determine how you heal. Stay strong man 💪💪💪

[@garethgates3706]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thanks Nick It does seem very toxic - she has behaved quite immaturely since the breakup but she had an extremely difficult and quite traumatic upbringing which has led her to having various issues, which is the reason for her behaviour here I suspect. It's frustrating because when we were in the relationship it was extremely caring and loving with no toxicity or arguments at all - deep down I know that she is a good person, she has just handled things very badly, and if she can learn from her mistakes then I certainly would like to give things another go with her. I think for now I will leave it a few weeks before messaging about her stuff - as I said before I recently dropped what I thought was the last of her stuff with a mutual friend just two weeks ago and I don't want it to seem like I am trying to send her some sort of message indirectly by dropping more of her stuff off every other week. Thanks for your help

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Gareth, I have 3 words regarding her upbringing. NOT YOUR PROBLEM! It’s not your responsibility to fix her. You fix you. Is she taking responsibility? Is she getting therapy? If she isn’t then I’d suggest you move on my friend. Otherwise she’s going to take you down with her.

[@garethgates3706]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Update - I didn't text her in the end and thought I would leave her some more time to come to me. About a week ago I ran into her at a club that my friends and her friends regularly go to (we always go to the same places) and she was working there for some reason (very weird that she is picking up weekend bar shifts because she has a really high salaried job and values her free time alot, she has some friends that work on the bar, although I did bump into some other friends of hers that were just there to enjoy the night that she could have gone with). I was with an attractive female friend I had met since breaking up with her (completely platonic, although she doesn't know that) so not sure what impact this will have. I remained calm and didn't speak to her much as the bar was busy, I tried not to notice her until she waved at me and said hi. We had a brief chat and I told her I had some more of her stuff and that if she wants it back to text me. She texted me after a week being very friendly saying she hopes I am doing good and apologising for not talking much because she was busy working. I waited and replied the next day and said she could grab it any time after work next week and I would leave it with one of my flatmates with her to grab if I wasn't around (who she knows very well from basically living at my place for a year). How do you think I should play this one out? It's very clear that from the off she wasn't sure about leaving me and I think one of the reasons she tried to blame me for everything was to justify her decision to herself, and I have been working on myself a lot since we split. I'm trying not to get my hopes up but I also don't want to blow my chance, if this is it.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Keep doing what you’re doing. She left, it has to be her idea to come back my friend. Stay on your journey and purpose. Be so busy that you don’t have time to worry about such things. Also, why take her back if she hasn’t worked on herself? The same thing will happen as last time, a breakup?

[@elinlarsson8439]

my ex had the grief directly after he dumped me… didnt eat and was very sad… is the process different then?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It’s possible for sure, but I guess it depends on where he is emotionally.

[@robpz448]

Mine suddenly dropped me in a text. Her words were I'm a "selfish monster. we're so f'in over. " completely blocked me everywhere. I'm good. I'm over it. It's funny how you said they build you up to be a monster. That's exactly what she did. After a week, I reached out , not to be desperate but to reconcile. Still ice cold that was my final and Last attempt to reach her. Funny how she left me unblocked on twitter. She knows I view her Twitter. It's Been about 17 days since the breakup.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that rob, that’s really tough. But dude, are you really over it? You’re on a breakup channel and you’re viewing her Twitter. Just keeping it 100 with you buddy. It’s okay if your not over it, but you must be honest with yourself to heal my friend.

[@robpz448]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick well , no. I'm not completely over it. If I'm being honest here. The symptoms of heartbreak have improved but , I still am having issues sleeping straight through the night. It's been almost 20 days now. I don't necessarily want her back but , it's very hard. This is a best friend I lost that I used to talk to everyday.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Buddy, 20 days is nothing. I coach people who are 20 months in deep and are still struggling. Be kind to yourself and give yourself time. As for the sleep, been there my friend. Try meditation. Just 10 minutes a day. See below link. kzbin.info/www/bejne/hV6Zl2ithr2Gq5o Keep a journal and try cold showers. Make sure you’re exercising and taking care of your nutrition.

[@robpz448]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Thank you.

[@TheKing-rj6zt]

@@robpz448 I’m on the same boat. Contacted her last night because I felt so guilty, I had to tell her some stuff that I just had to get out before I do no contact, this is day 1.

[@gagsjjmomom9014]

can you do video about day 45 of no contact becouse, according to coach lee it is when break up anxiety USALLY happens.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Coach Lee is full of shit regarding the 45 day rule. He only does that to get you to sign up to his ex back program which is equally full of shit. How do I know? Because I bought it to see if he was giving good genuine advice. Sadly it was left wanting. No contact is TO GET YOU BACK! Not your ex. No contact LASTS AS LONG AS IT NEEDS TO.

[@gagsjjmomom9014]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick thanks bro

[@MegaIceLynx]

Glad someone finally said this

[@chevy2583]

Nick, can you have a video on when she says I break up because You did not give me enough attention? Can this be true?? with all the love I have for her, I cannot believe that I did not give her enough care!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

It’s possible the type of attention you were giving wasn’t her love language. Do you think that may be true? Could it become how you communicated with her didn’t match her style of communication?

[@chevy2583]

​@@rehvex Well said. And to answer your question, would I treat her the way she treated me, ABSOLUTELY NOT under any circumstances.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

@Chevy. Why did allow yourself to be treated in a way you did not like?

[@chevy2583]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick she used to treat me nicely but became terrible in the last 6 months of our relationship. She kind of demonized me and criticized everything, my culture, my height, my hair, etc. I did not take that seriously as we were in a relationship for six years. I thought it is just because of her job stress. The breakup was BRUTAL, Nick. She literally left me bleeding as I never existed in her life.

[@chevy2583]

@@rehvex For sure, what makes me even more shocked, is how I dint not realize that she lack of empathy for six years!!!

[@ahmedkotby3778]

Hello I really need your advice on this matter when me and my ex broke up she said let's love each other as, friends and I was like ok what ever after this 1 week later I tried to convince her to fix things but she just said she wasn't having feelings and next day sent a clean slate message and she replied nicely and it's been 8 days and both of us are silent for 8 days, do I send her a text saying the Being friends is a bad idea or do I just keep staying silent and act like she is not my friend? ?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

You’ve been watching love advice TV, haven’t you. Dude, clean slate messages are complete BS. And no, don’t be friends if you still want romance. Dumpers say “let’s be friends” so they can use you, to get over you. Is friends possible? Yes, but not right away and not until all romantic feelings have gone. You can’t out logic how someone feels, so give her the breakup buddy. I know it hurts but when someone says I don’t want this anymore, it’s not code for try harder. Check out my playlist on no contact. You’ll see why contacting them is a bad idea.

[@ahmedkotby3778]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick do I send her text saying that I don't think being friends is a good idea? Or just remain in no contact or is it just over and I lost ?. .. .

[@ahmedkotby3778]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I haven't contacted or initiated contact with her at all and she just silent on everything even on friends group chat, I'm not talking too but I really don't know do you suggest me telling her that I don't think being friends is a good idea or do I just continue in no contact?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Stay no contact. If she reaches out you can respond but I’d keep the conversation short. If she keeps messaging then tell her being friends doesn’t work for you as you want romance and friendship is not enough. Please only message me if you want to reconcile. Get away from her social media and friend groups. Do not have ANY information on her.

[@kevinchadwick3230]

Been with my ex for 2 years we had 1 fight got arrested last year got caution she took me back and this year we was up and down again and she ended up wanting space in August found her with another man when she said she still loved me and wasn't going to date for a why now since I found her with another man in her house she's got a injunction on me. She keeps blocking me and never tells the truth on what I actually brought to the table. What should I do ???

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Buddy you should leave her alone. Honest question. Outside of leaving her alone, what do you think you can do? What choices do you think you have?

[@kevinchadwick3230]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick whats your email please

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

[e-mail]

[@Cfty111]

Normally how long may Dumper reach stage 3 and 4?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Every relationship and breakup is different. They may never get there, or maybe they get there and still don’t reach out. I try to encourage everyone to assume they won’t come back and focus on the here and now. I hope you feel better. It will be okay.

[@gelgoorx]

Nick do these stages apply if they monkey branched and cheated at the very end?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Why would you them to work on someone who treated you so badly? Wouldn’t be for the best if you focused your energy on your healing and growth?

[@gelgoorx]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I understand Nick time worrying about that is time not we spent.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I get why people are looking for a strategy to get their exes back. But at the end of the day, all you can do is get you back.

[@sumightt]

what if I tried to contact them for my clothes back she still has my clothes and tells me *what makes you think I have all of that* then a day later she tells my friend she still has everything.. she also has a new guy but keeps it a secret she has him labeled as part 2.. she tells everyone she's not talking with anyone when she is..

[@sumightt]

she also goes around talking bad about me still when I'm still respectful to her.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m sorry to hear that. How badly do you need the clothes? If you can easily replace them I’d let it go and walk away.

[@sumightt]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I don't care for the clothes anymore I'm mostly upset about the fact she lied to me about it and with the new dude there is a bit of jealousy but its more like why does she have him labeled as part 2 is she trying to fil the gap we had with this new guy or is it real with him

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hear you man. Is this worth your time a dignity? Silence kills my friend so give her all the silence she can handle.

[@sumightt]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick no its not worth my time or dignity so im just going to let it be and let what ever happens happen.

[@owen3937]

Hello Love Fix,my ex contacted recently by email asking for money as she was desperate so she claimed,I didn't respond to the email and deleted it! I was the one who broke up with her..she has a rebound boyfriend now,I was wondering why she contacted me asking for money when she has a guy! Its been 6 months since we were in touch by text,although I changed my phone number and moved home recently..We are separated but still married...I have no intention of getting back with her, just curious why she suddenly contacted me as she told me that I'm part of her past at the beginning of this year and I wished her well..Any thoughts on this love fix?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I wish I could answer but that would be mind reading. Short of hearing it from her, anything I say would be a guess. Why do you think she asked you?

[@owen3937]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick I think she asked me for two reasons one to see if I'm still available to keep in touch with her and secondly she maybe wants the money to give to her new bloke but I'm just guessing..

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Both theories are possible. Now here’s my question. If you’re the dumper and you don’t want her back, why are you listening to a breakup channel and spending your valuable mental energy wondering what she wants? 🧐🙃

[@owen3937]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick Just out of curiosity as your channel popped up on my notifications as I'm a subscriber to your channel but I've not watched ur channel in a long while..

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Okay buddy. 😊 I very much appreciate the support, but don’t spend too long on breakup content. 😊

[@mattdawson6627]

YOU ARE SPECIAL! YOU ARE UNIQUE! YOU💯ARE THE PRIZE!!! Unless you were a douchebag like a liar, cheater, or abuser, and you gave them your love, time, and all YOU bring to the table selflessly, unconditionally, and purely…they WILL regret it!! Even if they don’t come back, they WILL regret and realise the prize they had that was YOU!! And, they will never - NEVER - find a YOU again!! More than likely, they will regret it for THE REST OF THEIR LIVES!! My ex-wife and I had not seen each other for 25 years until our daughter’s wedding and, guess what? She told me she had regretted cheating and leaving me all her life!! So, see that YOU are the prize; YOU are special; YOU are deserving! If they don’t, it’s THEIR loss - because someone else as good or better WILL, and your ex will lose YOU forever!!

[@awesomeayush6793]

Does this happen in every case..?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

There are exceptions to every rule.

[@awesomeayush6793]

I begged n pleaded for 3 months now finally following no contact.. should I text back after a month or follow no contact until I get her text

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Buddy, no contact has not time limit. It’s to get you back.

[@repulse_wkey4432]

She killed me I had to do it I lost 10kgs due to anxiety

[@ola467]

I wonder how often the dumper has the courage to reach out and immediately say: I made a mistake, let’s work on this… My dumper reached out now 6 months after the break up: I want you - send me your erotic picture 😮 that did not feel like the right conversation opener 😅 Apologised next day. And then same thing few days later. I blocked him, then unblocked him few days later. He apologised again, mentioned that he can’t help himself wanting me. But no words of apology for the past, no words like I love you, I want to fix it

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Seems like he wants you, but doesn’t want the responsibility of a relationship. Cast him back to the pits that spawned him 😁

[@ola467]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick lol We are still married though and share a child. All our rare communication was about the kid and some household stuff. This is first time I see “a desire” in addition. I did not answer anything to those points yet. It does seem to work as a cold shower and a bit more respectful treatment as a result

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Ola, you must set your boundaries and know your worth otherwise he will come and go as he pleases.

[@ola467]

@@TheLoveFix-Nick agreed- thank you!

[@yeticusrex1661]

Sounds like there was alcohol involved before each reachout.

[@dr.options]

I've just come across your videos at an opportune time. You affirm alot of my thoughts in your videos. I'm going to try to setup a one-on-one voice session with you. The only thing slowing me down is that it sounds so exhausting to talk about everything atm. Thanks for your insight!

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I’m glad I could help buddy. I get how draining it can be. If you feel a less direct approach is easier, you can join my free Facebook group. Just search the love fix breakup recovery and join.

[@vandaman85]

It’s been 4 weeks since my ex dumped me, I was with a mutual friend last night and they were out with her on Friday night, she told me that my ex brought me up twice just out of the blue, asking where I was living now etc. is that the curious stage?

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

Unless your ex reaches out, it means nothing my friend. Focus on you and keep healing. If they were to come back, who will they find? The person they left or the person that levelled up.

[@thrillschills679]

So did NC and I guess it worked she hit me up we made plans and kissed after ice cream. Then she took me home after our baseball game and she kissed me again. Then we talked about a fresh start and was good for two weeks until she said I didn’t know what I want and stuff, then I had the conversation that was hard for her that I’m leaving and not turning back around ( basically didn’t come out that way but yeah ) so NC again and working on myself even more, it didn’t hurt anymore then the first time if not even.

[@TheLoveFix-Nick]

I hope you’re okay Thrills. Control what you can control and let everything else fall where it may.