5 Signs You're In a Trauma Based Relationship - TWR Podcast #59

A relationship built around trauma can feel so right because they play right into our wounds. Because that bond over traumas is so powerful, it can be difficult to recognize real differences in values and interests or make healthy decisions within the relationship.
Here are 5 common signs that your relationship may be trauma based and how staying in the relationship can negatively affect other areas of your life.
0:00 Introduction
2:48 #1: You act dramatically different in your relationship
7:46 #2: The dynamic mimics a parent-child relationship
14:54 #3: The relationship mirrors attachment styles
22:41 #4: Your relationship is a part of a pattern
26:30 #5: Unable to reason over your emotions
34:46 Outro
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[@KelzVisuals]

i learnt a lot from you two, God bless you for what you do. I had a terrible break up and this is the core aspect of our relationship. i'm moving on, I'm single and ready to give love a whole hearted try again so I keep learning from you guys

[@_kylie_bee]

Thank you! I realised I had been choosing men with similar traits to my dad because it was familiar, but I’ve realised it was a false sense of security. When you brought up your client who realised she was choosing daddy I was like ewww (hahaha) I was doing the same. I am not choosing daddy anymore. I am choosing someone who aligns with my core values and aspirations ❤️❤️❤️ landed hard!

[@hellobeautiful3301]

Great episode. Thank you both!

[@natassjamyers5999]

Thank you for pointing this out. But is there a way to fix the relationship after finding out that it's a trauma bond?

[@Growwithgrace101]

My thoughts too

[@ayuodagiri1577]

Why would you date when you don’t want a relationship right now - just focus on your own healing and date when you are ready 😂

[@stevenquella5512]

Well why not take things extremely slow during your healing. : )

[@yoya641008]

Yikes…. Everyone I know falls into one or several of the cases you mentioned. Including myself and my ex . There was a point when I felt I was dealing with my brother instead of living with my boyfriend…of course my sex drive flew out the window. 🥺

[@kingaberlakovich5585]

I was married to a 9 year older man for 20 years. I think this marriage was healing the girl in me, who was left from his father. My hub funktioned like a father to me. Is that also trauma bonded?

[@christinefury1040]

"I dont want a relationship thats not on my terms only" is what you menat to say. She picked up on that vibe and felt rejected. Because who wouldnt ? Intimacy while saying "i was to be distant from you" Mind fuck stuff

[@jessklay8594]

I don’t like when you talk (extensively) negative about your first marriage. I doubt your first wife was horrible and everything was 100% her fault

[@Overcookedhamburger]

Ok whats a relation ship where we keep getting victimized and we keep depending on eachother. Her need of me is why im alive and asking this and yes i love her

[@stevo5000]

omg, another video where the guy on the left wants to continually talk about his relationship. Never get to hear what the expert says because the interviewer keeps rambling on about himself and his marriage constantly

[@LynnMari-]

Right 😓