5 Things You Should Know About Being Genderqueer

Do you often ask yourself, "Who are those genderqueer people anyway?" Here are 5 things you should know to get started!

[@JaeHyunFae]

Thank you! I think lately I've realized I might be genderqueer because I've never been fully confident in identifying myself as female. I've always struggled... The problem has probably been that I've confused these feeling of thinking I was a gay female. But I am def attracted to men lol... I just feel most comfortable being androgyn (not female/not male). Videos and vloggers like you help alot to try to accept and understand myself :)

[@alonzokincaid1362]

You arnt gay. You are a straight woman.

[@MichaelJohn-xk5tk]

Male and female are identified by the genitalia they have shee even look you refer to yourself as a female so that means you're a female just because you're a little confused does it mean your gender has to be altered it is the state of mind that you're in your body will never be confused if it's a male or female look down and see how destructive this pathway is full of destruction misery then eventually self-destruction become comfortable and happy with yourself and no matter what you will always be super happy so you know you don't have to change your gender it was never our choice to begin with or is a choice now

[@johnk9017]

Just started wearing makeup and accessories to work and I love it!!! Love feminine stuff. It's so preeettttyyyy. I get lots of ignorant people hating on me but I don't care. They can suck it.

[@StormEscape]

+John K Cute :) Just keep being you ;)

[@eclipse572]

+John K You get lots of hate simply because you look stupid and that look isn't the norm.

[@johnk9017]

You are a bigot and a simpleton.

[@johnk9017]

eclipse572 Also read a history book. Id like you to talk to an Egyptian warrior who wears makeup and dances while women watch and say he looks ridiculous. You have such a small brain that you cannot fathom or accept anything that you are not used to. You are intellectually incapacitated.

[@eclipse572]

John K yeah... 'cuz ancient Egyptians totally have the same society as the 21st century lmao. dumbass.

[@TheMagnificentMrM]

Chris here, agender, commenting with my roommate's profile, who is bigender: Keep being you! A good person is defined by their compassion, conscoius, and empathy, not by their ability to fit into gender rolls.

[@kathiren1]

whats the difference between bigender and agender? I was kind of under the impression they were similar, if not the same... seeing this I think the lightbulb went off that they're not the same... sorry if this is rude or too personal...

[@TheMagnificentMrM]

Well, bigender is like switching from one to the other at your own free will, it's like "gender fluid" which is the same thing, except with the whole gender spectrum. Agender is doing whatever you feel (along gender lines) without needing a name for it, or a label

[@kathiren1]

Oh, okay! Thank you for responding. You're answer made a lot more sense then when it was explained to me in the GSA at my school.

[@popethyniawncariad6705]

***** Yes!! Well Said

[@karthik547]

he needs science in his life atleast basic

[@victoriarosvald2072]

When you were brought up you were taught that there is boys and there are girls. Then you grew up and realised that it wasn't true? Well, it still is true. Either you are male or you are female. Some disorders blur out the lines, but they have disorders. And I am talking about physical disorders. What you must be talking about is gender-roles, and who cares about what role other people feels is right for them? I have never asked myself, "Who are those genderqueer people anyway?". What other people do is none of my business, and as long as they don't break the law or stomp on kittens I am fine with them, no matter if a man wanna wear lipstick and skirts or a female wants to wear a bowtie. She can wear a bowtie on her head for all i care.

[@KatarinianaCasiaca]

you are incorrect, sorry...

[@francis8604]

this is so incorrect. he's not a man wearing lipstick and she's not a woman wearing a bowtie. they are a person expressing their gender identity. also, female and male are sexes, not genders.

[@josetato]

A man who identifies himself as a woman. Not everything is absolute relative as society nowadays want us to think. Saying he is a man is not an opinion, just a statement based on his biology.

[@francisbarratt5595]

when it comes to people deciding who they love, how they want to dress and what they want to identify as, who gives a shit? just let people be happy and awesome. there are so many other things in the world that actually need attention and discussion.

[@catherinesavidge3248]

The disorders you're talking about? Yeah, it's called being open minded.

[@elliothopwood3188]

That lipstick really looks beautiful on you I would never expect it to match facial hair but you look AMAZING

[@elliothopwood3188]

woah, let's take it down a notch XD

[@jackdasnaccproductions8437]

Lipstick looks good on everyone, as long as they’re happy and comfortable in it :)

[@AelaMoonshadow]

I showed this video to some one yesterday, and they said "he's just gay." They got slapped. And not just by me.

[@alonzokincaid1362]

Turning to violence to support your homosexual beliefs is not the right thing to do.

[@AelaMoonshadow]

@@alonzokincaid1362 honey this was 4 years ago. i was a dumb kid just starting highschool. this was also a made up story i said just to try to get attention, as i had a bad habit of doing that; nobody got slapped, though i do recall someone said that and got told off by a LOT of people. next time look at the date a comment was made before you reply. i was about to say i hope you have a lovely day, but i realized you're being a bigot. i do hope you rethink your life choices and find god in your life. I don't worship god myself, but i know they promote love and acceptance for everybody.

[@greennn0]

@@alonzokincaid1362 homosexual beliefs? You mean basic respect and support? Bare minimum?

[@alonzokincaid1362]

@greennn • your getting in my safe space. Back off bucko

[@greennn0]

@@alonzokincaid1362 safe space? Your safe space for homophobia? Having different beliefs is fine until it becomes homophobia and such.

[@melaniecrandell3498]

Spiffy video. My daughter is asking questions about this & other lgbt topics. I know I don't have all the answers & your video popped up on my fb newsfeed from upworthy. She found it helpful & is now looking up various terms you talked about. Thanks Jacob for starring in the video & Colin for making the video

[@hansdylan3182]

Thank you for being a supportive mom, that's beautiful to hear

[@sarahenany]

Apologies for the personal comment, but you have the most BEAUTIFUL BIG BROWN EYES. Absolutely lovely, and the eyeliner and mascara are absolutely perfect. Your points are also valid and enlightening and compassionate - but those eyes are just, you know that awful word "distracting?" Swoon!

[@dragonsaxophonist9082]

Fr. And that lipstick is 100% a killer color for their skintone! Someone clearly has an eye for color and style. And I love this and hope that anyone fearing being 100% their authentic self finally breaks away from that fear and finds happiness.

[@jenniferfields5640]

I'm genderfluid. I went out dressed masculine and bound today and I know I don't pass as male. The cashier at the craft store told me I rocked my outfit. Sometimes people are okay haha.

[@Wulfshade]

I think some people care too much about gender identity, and/or over analyze their gender in general. Personally, I don't care about any of that gender identity nonsense. If you are physically a male, but like to act feminine, wear dresses and use makeup, then hey, that's completely okay. How ever, I will still see you as a male.

[@antsinmypantsallday]

So basically you're transphobic is what you're saying.

[@Wulfshade]

Ocean Anderson Call it what you wish. If someone wants to live and dress like the member of the opposite sex, I'm not gonna tell them not to. I also support the idea of gender neutral bathrooms.

[@antsinmypantsallday]

As long as you respect their pronouns too :)

[@Wulfshade]

Ocean Anderson I may play along and do that if I actually like the person. If they get on my face and start demanding it I will definitely not. Using their chosen pronouns is an act of courtesy, not an obligation.

[@antsinmypantsallday]

It's still a terrible and very dehumanizing act to misgender someone purposely, even if you don't particularly like the person.

[@dubsideproductions2859]

I'm not trans or genderfluid but i am lgbt and i have had to hear my parents talk shit about trans people and frankly its disgusting I'm really going to need to have the talk with them.

[@dubsideproductions2859]

Poobum FTW Please educate yourself.

[@Jurgenels7]

Poobum FTW you are a troll right? As a straight male with a degree in psychology I can assure you that sexuality or the absence of it in all its spectrums twists and turns have no basis upon which to be called mentally ill...however if you are being serious I suggest you take a deep breath and slowly rethink your own perspective and to what level you are indeed acting in a coherent and sensible manner.

[@juniperfox1064]

+Poobum FTW You remind me of the people who forced Allen Turing, the genius who broke the Nazi code with his computer that he invented, to take chemicals to "fix" himself because he was gay.

[@dubsideproductions2859]

***** Wow you would drown your kid, you're a horrible person

[@dubsideproductions2859]

Oh disown, I read it wrong my bad, but honestly still you're a horrible parent

[@valentinaarcila1716]

I am proud of you!! Be who you are and dress however you want as long as you are comfortable! Plus I really like the whole one earing thing you got going on there. :)

[@alonzokincaid1362]

What is there to be proud of?

[@blakehoss6837]

I seriously have no idea why anyone would be threatened by these concepts. It seems like it should be pretty straightforward to understand. I thank you for making this video. I hope we can all look back someday and laugh about how ridiculous it is that we had such a hard time grasping such a simple concept. I'm the first to admit I need to be more conscious of the pronouns I use when addressing people, but we've all got room to grow.

[@juniperfox1064]

+Blake Hoss Thank you!

[@juniperfox1064]

***** I doubt it - I would say that the unintellectual thing would be calling something dumb just because it isn't the way you are.

[@juniperfox1064]

***** Okay I'll look at it - by the way I don't like tumblr-ites who are "social-justicy" in a stupid, uneducated way and hate cis people either. They are ignorant and make me look bad - and that doesn't mean that all genderonbinary people are like that.

[@blakehoss6837]

+Sketcha Fox45 Sorry if I provoked bs in your comment thread. Didn't realize this would happen.

[@juniperfox1064]

***** lol this is just a guy who compiles tumblr teens - I do not see how this invalidates the existence of other genders XD

[@maggiekoch9348]

Thank you. I am figuring out my gender and this really helped. I have a question: Is it possible to be a biological male, not want to physically transition, but internally feel female, and take a female name and pronoun? This is how I experience my gender.

[@tektitestomp240p8]

if it's how you feel inside, then it is valid.

[@maggiekoch9348]

babonbo bazingr Thank you, I needed to hear that.

[@katk925]

Matthew Koch It's really good to hear you say this. I'm struggling with the fact that I've always just thought I was straight but I'm now realizing I think i'm most attracted to genderqueer spectrum people like you, who don't want to transition necessarily, but are in the middle, but it makes me feel better to know there are more people like this in the world I can look for.

[@omershaik6374]

Yes. Yes it is. Not all trans want to transition. Not all trans want to change their pronouns. You do you. We are not here to tell you what makes sense to you. Stay strong!

[@maggiekoch9348]

omer shaik Thanks, I needed to hear that.

[@jamestiberius1114]

I understand allowing people to be comfortable in their own skin and I accept and promote that, but holy fucking shit, when do we draw the line? This shit is going to get really confusing and really old really fast.

[@kylegilbert5009]

I don't understand how personality has anything to do with a gender. Anyone with a touch of common sense knows that personality traits are not specific to one gender. Just like Make-up, skirts, or the color pink don't make you any more female than a bow-tie, shaved head, or the color blue make you more male. Your natural physical features are what make you a male or female, not the items or styles you choose to adorn yourself with. You want to destroy the societal stereotypes of male and female yet you perpetuate it by saying something like this "when someone's trying to embrace their gender for the first time and their femininity...".

[@juniperfox1064]

+Kyle Gilbert Masculinity and femininity are set terms that people do not argue with. We just want to stop boys from feeling like if they are feminine they deserve to get beat up, ect. People who identify with a more masculine gender like to wear traditionally masculine things in order to feel more connected to other people like them and to be accepted by people. Yes, women can be masculine and men can be feminine. Just because that is true does not mean that genderqueer identities aren't valid.

[@avarohan2600]

There was an entire video that I found just bashing all of this, and bashing genderqueer people. That made me so furious how the world is honestly so non-accepting. I'm not actually genderqueer, so I can't say I've had to experience any of this, but I'm bisexual, and so AS A PART OF THE LGBTQ PPLZ, I WAS EXTREMELY DEFENSIVE xD I have a bunch of genderqueer friends aswell so to listen to some guy talk shit about all of it made me really upset. Everybody deserves love, and to be respected for whatever decisions they make, and it doesn't matter if other people 'agree' with them, or not. I didn't wanna contribute to the hate too much, so I left a (slightly rude) comment and disliked the vid, then came here. EVERYBODY HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY//NIGHT

[@LatinAmericanDog]

I didn't really know much about this subject, but it's good to inform myself and learn new things. People shouldn't be afraid, instead, everybody should be eager to learn more about the things they don't know. Great video, this is a very brave young person, sometimes it's really hard to be yourself, especially when people are ignorant.

[@CintiaCosta74]

I am happy I could see you around when I taught at Duke! Thanks for sharing this video so more people learn to respect everybody. :-)

[@alonzokincaid1362]

I remember the little creep sneaking around in womans clothes trying to get in the womans bathroom.

[@MEOW_MEOW_MARKERHEAD]

I'm glad that on *this timeline,* people *reject this shit.* Because in *Dimension L,* this shit is *widely accepted* and *criticizers are shut down almost instantly.*

[@cloudambient]

I don't know. I don't think outward appearance is what makes who we are. I think it's shallow. Gender obviously means SOMETHING if you're wanting to identify as the opposite than the one you were assigned to at birth, or if you're trying to mix qualities of both. I kind of don't buy this. "I'm more authentic when I wear fabricated items" I fully support LGBTQ rights, I'm gay, I fully support anyone who's going to/has/or is in the middle of transitioning, but sometimes I think this whole "gender queer"/"gender fluidity" is fairly self centered, and that people are thinking waaaay too much about themselves ("how do I want to be viewed") rather than just ... being. I'm sorry, but scientifically speaking, there are only two genders (three if you're counting hermaphrodites). Gender fluid people one day want to be identified as male and will scoff at you for calling them Miss, and then the next day will want to be identified as a woman and scoff at you for calling them "man" like ... really? Be realistic, some people have way bigger fish to fry than your ego and vanity in appearances and identity. Everyone should be loved and respected, but everyone also needs to think a little less about themselves in this ego centric, selfie-generation, narcissist world.

[@AllieBorse]

+accompanist603 I agree and disagree with you on a lot of points. For the most part, I do think a lot of these people who want to be identified as genderqueer, or more specifically as genderfluid, are taking it far too seriously. I do believe genderneutral and genderfluid work as ideas of presenting yourself, but the concept of constantly shifting gender to the point of being a boy one week, a girl the next and both/neither the week after does seem a little farfetched. However, gender IS a culturally specific concept. SEX only exists in a binary, and the presence of people who are born intersex even call into question that idea. You were raised in a world where it is boy or girl (and as of late, something between or beyond), but in many cultures their were genders which cover pretty much anything inbetween - the Hijras of India (male-born, living similar to women, explained within their culture), the five genders of the Bugis people, and even the genders within Judaism and two-spirit people with indigenous tribes. What differs however is how they're explained - many of these genders are still based on the concept of some fusion of male and female, and sometimes when translated to OUR system, it could basically lump certain types of trans people with gay men and women. TL;DR I agree with your sentiment but trust me gender is a fucking mess

[@michaelt.6419]

Quick clarification: Just because you denounce or choose to act like or dress like another gender does not mean you can classify as a new gender. You can definitely *identify* as gender queer, go ahead, but in no way does that make you a new type of gender. There are only two genders: Male and Female (No, non-binary is not a gender it is the absence of one). Also for those who may bring up the point that sex and gender are two different things, they are not, just different words that mean exactly the same thing, search it up on the dictionary. If you really please to say that you are "gender-queer" or any other gender Tumblr fed to you, go ahead, but Gender is classified by sex organs, so if you desire to switch from male to female you have to switch those out (A quite simple procedure). You can easily identify as anything you want, but when it comes to gender, you have only two choices. Thank you and have a nice day.

[@sofa3301]

Although so many of the hate comments on this are frankly...discouraging, terrifying...however, your video helped me, so thank you

[@anna-mariahjorth6527]

A lot of these hate comments seem to confuse sex and gender. No, having a different gender identity won't suddenly change your body -- however, we're all entitled to our identity and way of defining ourselves. People whose assigned gender at birth doesn't match their gender identity would only make other people happy by saying they're the gender "they were born into". I think for most of us, it's been a long struggle starting from childhood or adolescence where we've felt like something is up and however much we've tried to fit into the gender box, it's made us unhappy and others happy. So at the end of the day, whether you believe it or not, it's a real thing and that should be enough for you to at least respect it even if you don't share these emotions of dysphoria or unhappiness yourself. To me, saying genderqueer isn't a thing is like telling a muslim or a bisexual man that they can either be Christian or atheist, straight or gay.. I understand that what you're saying is coming from a place of not understanding or being able to relate to these emotions, but fact of the matter is most of us would rather identify with the gender binary instead of feeling this way in this era of non-acceptance so that we didn't have to get beat up in the street or fear for our lives. However that comes at the cost of unhappiness, depression, and an inauthentic life experience. To live not being yourself isn't really living.

[@NomadSage]

This is a lovely video. Who made this? Is more forthcoming?

[@athomassen3980]

Great video, very uplifting and informative!

[@InaArtsHere]

I recently started looking more into Transgender and genderqueer, since I'm more comfortable with not identifying as any gender (sometimes I do tho). I was told that I'm transgender, due to how I'm feeling. But I don't know, it's all very confusing. Barely none of my friends knows about this. And whenever someone asks about what I identify as, I'll just go by "Magical bunny". No one has questioned it so far.. xD

[@InaArtsHere]

The Magical Bunnies will rule the world! c: But I think the best pronoun are the correct ones o: all are equally as awesome, as long as they are used correctly! c: It seems tho that I'm either non-binary or gender queer, still as confused as I were when I posted the first comment q-q And it's your gender/gender identity, so if it makes sense to you, that's all that counts! :3

[@InaArtsHere]

Yush c:

[@InaArtsHere]

Go for it c: I'll happily join :3

[@juniperfox1064]

+Tilly Bunny this is very cute and all, but stuff like this is why idiots call being genderqueer a joke. It's sad, but true. They will twist having some fun to ease your stress about gender into "sEe? tHeY aRE jUst tUmbLr kIdS"

[@juniperfox1064]

***** Yes I support the trans community and am genderqueer myself. I appreciate you replying this way instead of getting defensive. :)

[@SoftCarno-co7wu]

As someone who identifies as Genderqueer I notice a lot of other Genderqueer/non binary people get all pissy if someone accidentally calls them he or she, I just want people to know that not everyone is the same (I get annoyed by the whining too) I accept being called as either male/female, He/she. I guess what I am trying to say is some people may bite your head off for addressing them as he or she but there are some of us who don't really care either way. The reason I am saying this is because I have run into some people who will literally go on for weeks and sometimes months whining and bitching and harassing a person just because they called them a he or a she. I just want people to understand that we are not all the same in personality and/or beliefs. Just like any other person in the world some Genderqueer or Non Binary people are nice and understanding and some others are not so try not to judge all of us based on a someone else's decisions or actions. (Sorry for the book)

[@RattheKing]

As a gender queer person in the same area, it's nice to know there are people like me. Sometimes I feel so dreadfully alone and misunderstood, but when I see amazing people, like yourself, speaking on this topic so eloquently, it gives me hope that one day I won't have to worry about presenting as my biological gender in order for people to take me seriously. Thank you for this video and informing the public, even though some of them would rather remain comfortably in the dark where a biological man in makeup and a skirt can't be more attractive than them.

[@ricochet188]

My only problem with all of this gender stuff is that I never know how to refer to these people. If I saw this person in the video on the street and wanted to compliment him/her (SEE!?) what the fuck do I say? If In a sentence I needed to use a he/she pronoun what should I use? If you expect us not to care what gender or level of transsexuals you are then you can't expect us to care whether or not you would prefer male or female pronouns. Because immediately you've just put the burden on others to consider your feelings by expressing your gender fluidity. I speak from experience. I've had 2 instances where I used the wrong pronouns toward someone (worked as a cashier) and the dude/gal flipped their shit on me. This one person literally just looked like a guy with long hair. I looked up, saw a guy, said 'sir'. Fuck off. I was so pissed they got angry at me.

[@TheTwigCrackedAnd]

+ricochet188 Hey, i get that it's frustrating. But think about it from their perspective: they're not dressing like that to make you confused, but just to feel okay in their own body. and they probably have people use the wrong pronouns, question and harass them pretty regularly, which can be really difficult! i'd advise going with 'they' if you don't know and can't ask, otherwise it's totally acceptable to ask "which pronouns would you like me to use?" and it's okay to make a mistake and apologise! most androgynous-looking people will be cool with that.

[@moti2748]

+ricochet188 it's not a burden to consider their feelings, considering how much shit we go through when we're constantly misgendered. Get over yourself

[@moti2748]

Just use gender neutral pronouns if you're not sure?? It really doesn't require much effort

[@bdhesse]

+ricochet188 If you don't know how to refer to someone, the best thing to do is ask. So long as you're polite about it, they won't mind. In fact, it's becoming common practice in LGBT spaces to ask what pronouns people prefer upon meeting them, even if they seem obviously female or obviously male (because you never know).

[@ricochet188]

Oh yeah I don't have a problem asking, Though sometimes asking, in it's self, can insult someone who you may *think* is trying to come off as trans/whatever but they really aren't. Aside from that, I'm specifically refering to scenerios where you're in a situation with someone where either there isn't time or you're literally only meaning to say one or two words to someone, say, as you're passing a stranger on the street: you don't want to stop them and spend time asking how they'd like to be addressed, you just want to say, "Hey man, I like your shoes" or use even less words than that. You know? There have been times where I'd have said something to someone who was obviously trans or something other than the typical cis male or female, in passing but chose not to because I had no idea how to address them and wasn't about to awkwardly stop them to find out.

[@blakehoss6837]

Thank you for making this.

[@finchan6976]

This video is great! It's such a shame there's so much hate in the comments.

[@notanuploader1269]

My God. Such an extreme level of self importance for people who have nothing to say. The need to obsess and convolute gender is a way to mask their everyday blandness. It's the dismal tide.

[@renhoek77]

Thank you for making a video that can speak to sooooo many people that feel so desperately alone because of how they feel about their gender. I shouldn't wear a skirt because I'm a guy or get my nails done. Through years of being told what is "right" and "wrong" you are almost made to forget how you truly feel and become ashamed. That's why beautiful people speaking out about their authentic self is important and helpful. You DO go girl 😘

[@TonyMello304]

No matter what you think i spilled baked beans all over myself watching cars 2 in the theatres and a black teenager shouted "this nigga eating beans" and everybody laughed

[@imkrisyoung]

When I was little, I never liked people using she/her pronouns for me, but at the same time I didn't like he/him pronouns either. They/them is perfect for me. Thanks Jacob!

[@caseyem4895]

I hear your words. They make sense. Buuuuut... I'm still having trouble being comfortable in my own skin. Nevertheless, I'll soldier on. Thanks for the great vid! Cheers! :D

[@エイブリー-i5b]

You truly are a brave soul.

[@Dawnseeker_Ch]

Won't deny, I liked the premise of the video and what was said. I've also gotten a good reminder about myself when I got a reaction of what I saw. It wasn't so much that this is someone who makes me uncomfortable because they don't fit what I expect, it made me uncomfortable because I'm still learning that I'm uncomfortable with myself, and since I struggle with giving myself permission, I also struggle with anyone who affirms that it's ok to be different. Thank you for the reminder in my own flaws and where I need to improve as a human being.

[@razzyjazzy6883]

JACOB, PLEASE TEACH ME HOW TO MAKEUP. Sincerely, A genderqueer blob

[@エイブリー-i5b]

I too am a genderqueer blob. Let us be blobs together.

[@razzyjazzy6883]

+Gamzeerz Blobby buddies! 😃

[@エイブリー-i5b]

***** Don't trigger me I am a blob I need my safe space

[@エイブリー-i5b]

Dylan Triggered af now :"^(

[@razzyjazzy6883]

***** Hi! :D

[@TerraNovaBoys]

LOOOOOOVE this video and love you. One person at a time, we are educating people on new things and about the spectrum of sexuality and gender. I'm a great example, 5 years ago, I didn't understand transgender, 1 year ago, I didn't understand genderqueer. It's videos like yours that act as passive educational tools that continue to educate. Love you!

[@KristyYoungAutistic]

You're awesome! Thanks for sharing this!

[@erickgoins9199]

It's sad to see all the hate comments on this video. I love it! Please make more ^_^

[@erickgoins9199]

+Louie 1329 ok but I forget the part where I asked

[@torisking6989]

I don't know a single person who has a bowtie so it took a ridiculous amount of time learning how to tie one myself :-)

[@jim6258]

I identify as a black girl most days, I mean sometimes I feel like a Asian gay, but a few times I identify as a bannana.

[@soapypunchers9257]

That lipstick looks great on you!

[@cottontaelle]

o they're so cute ! their eyes are so pretty and i like their earring a lot it's neat and asymmetrical

[@TheSandboxSoldier]

I think this might be the best satire I've seen in a long time. Props to CHJTNYC

[@ShedonistaShamanatrix]

I LOVE YOU❤️🌈💜 My version of " Yaaaas GIRL, WORK!" is Ooooh Girl, YOU SOOO FOXY!!!

[@beckyjameson418]

This video is super helpful and you seriously do not deserve this hate

[@Olivereliocorcordium1983]

Keep being you reguardless of the world and its small minded people they will never understand because of fear. You are a wonderful person no matter race color gender or sexuality!

[@drewg.4779]

I've been assuming that trans is just an umbrella term for anyone who isn't cis (or intersex), so saying trans would include agender/bigender/genderfluid/etc, is that correct, or does it only apply when a person identifies as the gender opposite of what they were assigned at birth?

[@TheTwigCrackedAnd]

+Magic Penguin It's correct. However... language is weird! and people use it differently! therefore, some people will not define themselves as trans even if they are agender, etc. So if you are refering to a group, i think it's okay to use trans to mean anything under that umbrella; if refering to a specific person (particularly those outside binary) maybe check with that first?

[@TheTwigCrackedAnd]

+Magic Penguin just to add- "trans" comes from greek or latin (cant remember :/) and means going across from one thing to another, as opposed to 'cis' which means staying the same. so for me, at least, trans works for all peeps who don't align with gender they were assigned at birth

[@TheNextshadow]

If you define who you are by what you wear, it's very sad, regardless of gender or social status. "Cis" men who define themselves by having a fancy house, a big car and expensive clothes are as mindless as people who define themselves by their clothes and makeup.

[@zolamunoz2685]

I wonder why people come on these videos to tell people they don't know themselves. Hmm. Do people love spreading hate that much? Girl....

[@twiggyjali]

"I'm never sure when someone's going to catcall/harass/comment" How cute, you dress like a woman and getting the attention most women get makes you uncomfortable. Just amazing.

[@orca3413]

if you're genderqueer and you are only attracted to men, are you straight or gay? or...both?

[@thingamabitch]

TheGamerLizzie It means that the genderqueer person is an androphile. Whether or not they are heterosexual depends on if "male" is part of their gender identity.

[@orca3413]

what if you're a genderqueer and you only like genderqueers? would that be skolio and gay or what

[@thingamabitch]

You're gay if you're only attracted to people who are the same gender. I would be gay if I was only attracted to other neutrois people, for example. You would be skoliosexual if you are only attracted to other genderqueer/non-binary genders, or lack of gender. Or you can be polysexual (polyromantic if you're asexual), which means you like many genders, and if you like all genders, you are pansexual (or panromantic if you are asexual, like me.)

[@orca3413]

awkwardCrabwalk dude. i'm panromantic, asexual, and neutrois. literally i'm not kidding!

[@thingamabitch]

TheGamerLizzie :0 I have found a member of my lost tribe!

[@alonzokincaid1362]

This guy should be in a straight jacket (no pun intended).

[@drinkme7687]

What do you say when you fill out a form tho? Like....do you cross the box that says male or female?

[@drinkme7687]

+Ankle foot Okay. That's nice

[@Anonland]

this dude's eyes are beautiful.

[@pseudonamed]

what does a bowtie have to do with gender? is this just a term for people who like to dress in clothes labelled both feminine and masculine by society? how is that a gender identity?

[@chocomental]

You're awesome

[@malou3691]

If I saw you Irl I would say "I appreciate that you a being you. Work it as hard as you can!"

[@cassiusvoidkin]

You got style and rock you like no one else can, baby. Keep informing.

[@Lunaius]

Tbh I think the underlying issue here is a need for identity. People who have other things that make up their identity don't feel the need for these gender labels.

[@kathleendavidson3316]

Thank you for sharing! My youngest child identifies as bigender and really enjoyed your video.

[@Huz9999]

can someone please help me! i cant find anywhere to go, noone wants to support me how am i supposed to find my gender

[@arigarcia7663]

I kinda have it good because my name is a boy and a girls name. Also, once, a little boy asked me if I'm a boy or a girl and I said "yes" and it confused him so much xD and why the fuck is it okay for a girl to wear guy clothes, but not for a guy to wear girl's clothes, like wtf?!

[@thelostjournalofmystifying354]

i have never heard of gender queer .... that's a new gender term for the week.

[@robertpugh2978]

This is awesome :) It's nice to know how a cisgender can help make a genderqueer person feel more safe in this world :-D

[@desi12346]

I identify as a female but I honestly don't mind being called "he" or "him" or a "man" am I still genderqueer? And if not what am I?

[@quinn9841]

You can still be female and use any pronouns you want. It doesn't really matter. Someone best explained it to me as "pronouns are gender neutral". It's hard to explain, but if you're still questioning your gender identity, you can test out other labels.

[@randomanomaly6997]

You are so awesome. I was having a really shite day, feeling like I was the only nonbinary in the world, went on youtube and found this video

[@mystics1ay3r17]

It’s funny how people say gender identity is made up. So is every word ever. These words, gender queer, non binary, etc. are newer words, but what they describe and represent has existed since the dawn of time. There just weren’t words for them. Example: the elbow. People have always had elbows, but the word elbow didn’t exist until the 1600s and evolved from other similar words, as all language does. People didn’t not have elbows and suddenly grow elbows at the invention of the word. Elbows have always existed. Non binary people have always existed. Our language, the English language is just evolving to have words that describe these people properly.

[@filo31]

i sexually identify as a MK14 assault rifle

[@JordyAuto]

+I Don't Fit Your Binary I don't think he cares

[@haizekhaze8868]

omg i met you at aspyre!!!!! i complimented your outfit..wow its great seeing you again!!! ;DDDD

[@Lindavista63]

ahhhh, i get it but seriously, this girl loves her shoes.. i will not let anyone borrow my shoes.. they can have my mac ruby woo !

[@icommentoneveryvideo5318]

if i had a dollar for each gender, i would have 2 $

[@paulcosta8297]

"im scared bc I never know who's going to cat-call me" 😂😂😅😅 This is some truly deranged shit right here folks.

[@atriggeredsjw8532]

Anybody who puts on a wig, make up, and cross dresses and then tells everyone they are “genderqueer” is deranged.

[@austinb9819]

I'm so happy you made this video it explans everything so great and I'm going show this to my boyfriend because it was hard to explain GenderQueer too him. I'm very happy to say I'm GenderQueer

[@tonyboy4334]

+Portia The Drag Queen , oh look a special snowflake

[@tonyboy4334]

***** how do you identify as both?

[@tonyboy4334]

***** OK, so you're a male who might be a bit different. Male. Simple.

[@tonyboy4334]

***** your "sex" is biological. "Gender" is what you identify with. It sounds to me like you need to do a bit more research.

[@austinb9819]

***** that's so cool you just keep rocking you and don't listen to the hate anywhere have a nice day

[@lemonp0ison]

The thing I love most about being genderqueer is the community. Thank you for this video, you are saving many confused kids' lives!

[@rosenmael9724]

I love you so much omg!!! You rock your gender expression while I’m stuck wearing feminine clothes ;w; I really wanna wear “boys” clothes and express how I feel at the time, but I can’t :,)

[@buuzzsawtouchedme194]

+Yozanai, I don't if your living in the 1920's, but it is not socially unacceptable for girls to wear boys clothes. Last time I checked, Jeans were stereotypicaly Manly, but you can wear them and not be judged. You can wear Shirts (male Shirts), you can wear boots, in fact name a Male type of clothing and you can wear it. In fact the majority of Men tend to find it cool when Woman dress like them, so you really have no argument. On the other hand If I worse a Dress, I'd not only be a laughing stock, but many people will refer to me as a pervert (as most man gain sexual arousal from wearing Female clothing).

[@tylerwatson7167]

Please tell me this is a joke or something

[@lauriacrawford7574]

you are awesome as thank you for sharing this ❤

[@LittleFishyFishies]

[@delightfullydakota5019]

I'm not trying to be rude,but I think that you're a man who likes to dress feminine or androgynous and I don't see a problem with that.But,unnecessarily labeling yourself as "genderqueer" is kinda silly.Gender as we know is pretty binary in a neurological and psychological sense,and sex is binary with a small percentage of the human population being Intersex.The general public for the most part doesn't even understand transgenderism,and adding things to the equation that make no sense just makes it harder for gay,lesbian,bisexual,or transgender people.Youre just a Gender Non-Conforming man(gender non-conforming isn't a gender) and just express yourself without these extremely nuisanced labels.Just my thoughts no hate towards people who identify that way,but I think it's unnecessary.

[@beastiebabytm]

If you don't believe genderqueer is real, that's perfectly valid, just be kind and tolerant. If you do, that is also perfectly valid, just don't go around trying to change everybody's mind. If you're skeptical about whether or not genderqueer is real, start by trusting your genderqueer identifying friend, family and peer group member when they tell you how they are feelings about their gender. Support them and allow them to express themselves freely. If they allow you to, gently give them your opinions and ask polite questions. Your view may or may not change but, they will appreciate your interest and effort. I only hope that we can all learn to respect each other and love each other despite our personal beliefs and identities.

[@CLee-oo9yl]

No! We do not live in a Utopian society. You will not tell me how to treat someone that I find is acting ridiculous and you will not make me pretend their delusional bullshit! You can not force me to treat these freaks like pple. I am gay, and I don't expect acceptance or tolerance of my sexuality. You don't have the right to demand acceptance from anyone!

[@sirrparker47]

People have the need to say facts and not let these type of idiots feel like they achieved something.

[@beastiebabytm]

Big Boss Please don't call people idiots. No hate, friend. You might have an easier time getting people to see your side if you were a little nicer. I would love to hear what you have to say. I just wont tolerate name calling. Thanks! Tim Alexander Your comment was removed, but I restored it because I feel that you deserve to be heard. It's simply your opinion. I'd like to start a discussion. I know that we can never expect a person to be kind to us. But if a person chooses to be kind it can make a world of difference to someone who needs it. Some where someone was called a freak for being gay by someone who didn't believe in homosexuality. The person who said it could have chosen to be hateful or tolerant. They chose to tear someone apart. I only encourage people not to contribute to creating a hateful society. I won't tell you what to do. But I will speak of acceptance and kindness and hope that it affects someone positively.

[@sirrparker47]

ahoymydarling​ What I'm trying to say is being gay, les, bi, or tran is fine. But making up a gender just to appeal to you makes absolutely no sense. Gender means masculine or feminine. You can be a feminine man or masculine woman but qualifying yourself as a "genderqueer" and getting upset when people call you a male or female is completely idiotic and is the reason this video is getting so much hate. Sorry if my first comment came off as mean, I just don't like having propaganda pushed down my throat.

[@beastiebabytm]

Big Boss Thank you for your apology. I can relate because when I see people who disagree with me get aggressive over what I believe to be make believe I get frustrated. I think anybody would. When someone has a big sign that says "gays go to hell" I become upset and have the urge to be aggressive back. Their gesture hurts me and angers me and I end up thinking to myself "if they only knew the truth...". But, who is to say what is real and what is not. What is truth to one person may be ridiculous to someone else. It happens all the time. I do question this habit that we all have as human beings. Why do we choose to lash back? Why are we negative to each other? Why do we push each other away? And even more so, why do we accept this lack of compassion as reality when we are the ones with the power to change it? You see, my problem is not with our differences. It is with our inability to accept and cherish them.

[@pablowusgood7724]

What happened to be happy for you are? If you're a guy be happy for that if you're a girl you also should be happy for that

[@mcp0y3]

ok so what is gender identity disorder... are we just gonna ignore this?

[@beegnutzz]

"ideally you should always feel good" .. because that's how life works right

[@ramulade98]

That's why the word ideally is right there at the beginning of the sentence:)

[@エイブリー-i5b]

No, not always, hence the word ideally.

[@thelostjournalofmystifying354]

your gender "ideology" is based on materialistic and visual values : makeup , shoes , clothes , earrings.. So if someone decides to wear a mask or a costume regularly to represent an animal like ... well... lets say furies for example ... have they suddenly created a new gender we should call them by ? what if you can't tell the sex of the person wearing the costume or the species of animal they are supposed to be? are we going to need new species / gender neutral pronouns for that too ? what you wear does not create a new gender - there are only two genders because they are based off of the two sexes - male and female

[@loriekey5860]

yessssss.

[@BishounenAi]

You make a good role model.

[@nathythestrage]

I already love you

[@mxmrshll]

Gurl, werk!

[@MrDorito2002]

I sexually identify as a pencil cap eraser

[@Simonjose7258]

Respect yes but "loving" everyone...not so sure about that.

[@jameswatson6364]

I certainly don't think the straight men and women are going to catcall you dude. You can dream tho.

[@puk3fairy]

Work it.

[@DangerousFacts48]

He's a dude wearing lipstick and earrings. So what?

[@sarahsteinhofer292]

+Amateur Brain Surgery Society Nope it's a PERSON who wear lipstick and earrings

[@DangerousFacts48]

+Levy McGarden He's biologically male. That's obvious. Why try to deny it?

[@sarahsteinhofer292]

+Amateur Brain Surgery Society Meh I'm to tired for thinking in English, don't care.

[@juniperfox1064]

+Amateur Brain Surgery Society Sex. Is. Separate. From. Gender.

[@DangerousFacts48]

Sketcha Fox45 Putting lipstick and earrings on doesn't make you a different gender. It just makes you a dude with lipstick and earrings on.

[@Elisaramita]

Being authentic is very important! Nice videos and nice way to explain and share how you feel and how you want others to see you. You are authentic...and very beautiful!! Love and blessings on your path my friend!!!

[@tabestorm9259]

A gender is not an identity, so why the fuck would you try and 'invent' another gender? I'm a guy and I like many stuff that women like. So what? It doesn't mean I have to deny I'm a man. It's just your gender. It doesn't define anything. So what's the freaking problem?