5 Signs You Might Be Agender

[@Spectrestarsarts]

I just kinda feel neutral. As in I don’t care if you call me a man or woman, boy or girl, or other. I have never really felt connected to any genders. I am just me.

[@sophiehendrich2669]

I'm a human ✌🏻

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

I am human, too. For me it also feels like being disconnected from gender (It also does not make sense to me how much people allow it to shape their lifes.), but instead of not caring what I am called I feel averse to being called either binary gender.

[@evanramee796]

Have you heard the term "gender detachment"? it was coined very recently and I heard about it on a podcast called "Sounds Fake but Okay." I also feel like gender just isn't really important in my life. While I don't feel any concept of gender, I also don't care enough to proclaim THAT I feel no gender. I feel that "gender detached" best encapsulates my feeling, and that "agender" almost implies that I care more abt gender than I really do.

[@Never_again_against_anyone]

@@evanramee796 Seems to be part of the experience for most agenders that described theirs. But honestly, I am comfortable with my agender lable. It does not play that big a role anyway, being aroace shapes my life more than being agender on top. Could be vastly different of course if I was not aroace.

[@stachu5049]

LITERALLY ME

[@Ayelet_BringThemHome]

Thank you for this video! I'm genderless, but I think it's close enough to being agender. The difference for me is that agender feels, personally, too much like a gender identity, when I don't have a gender. Two signs I had that I can easily share: 1. Being confused by what gender is, despite knowing it exists and respecting it. 2. Being ok with the sex (though not the gender) I was assigned at birth, while being ok thinking what if I had been assigned another sex at birth (specifically sex, because I do not have a gender. The fact that I've been assigned a gender does bother me).

[@bquad2]

I think that could also be gender apathetic

[@cobaltpterodactyl]

I call myself "gender meh"

[@DragonTalonontop]

What's that profile pic 🤮🤢 People like you are the reason What's wrong with the world

[@Seramoonn]

Same! Like I psuedo-understand the concept of gender and can respect others who really believe in it, but I deadass do not actually know what gender is or feels like. I feel like my “”understanding”” of gender is purely based in the hypothetical (ie. “if gender were real, then …” or “if I believed in gender, then…”

[@alecthomms234]

Same

[@sofiapsih]

I just feel like gender is a big amount of stereotypes. Like, if we won’t have all those gender stereotypes, where is the difference between people, excluding their body? (Sorry if I wrote something wrong, my English isn’t very good)

[@dumdum8538]

Not really. Ftm people transition but can still have a soft feminine personality, mtf people can transition and have a more masculine personality. Trans people normally never transition cuz of their traits, it's about your body. People are probably wired to think that a certain type of body is right for them. And not having that wiring is something about neurodivergency? Something like that.

[@SamirCCat]

I'm also really confused about this! What does it mean to identify as a man/woman? It's not about gender expression, and it's not about physical dysphoria (because a lot of people consider non-dysphoric people trans as long as they identify with a different gender). So what's left? What's a man/woman? What does it mean to identify as a gender? I have no idea, and that's why I'm flirting a bit with the agender idea. If everyone felt like me, no genders would exist. Do they even exist? I'm the first one to respect and defend trans people of all kinds. Of course people are allowed to feel different from what I feel, I just personally CANNOT understand what a gender actually is? Does that make me agender?? FYI, I'm asexual and neurodivergent, and I feel it might be relevant...

[@laryssasilva01]

@@SamirCCat Hey! I feel the exact same way. I am also neurodivergent and I think that probably relates to that feeling, since gender is such an abstract term and at least for my brain, concrete things are much easier to grasp. It’s crazy that you left this comment a few hours ago because at that time I was wondering exactly that: what even IS a man/woman (apart from gender roles and expression)? This is almost like a post-gender approach I think? I might be talking bs, but I think it’s a really interesting discussion.

[@SamirCCat]

@@laryssasilva01 What do you mean with post-gender? I sometimes feel I over-think gender issues, but at the same time I can't even understand the basic thing of what a gender identity actually is. Personally, I've mainly decided to not bother, because the less I think about my own possible gender the less concerned I am. I'm just "me" and everyone around me knows I'm unique in many ways. I feel no need to transition or change anything, so I just live my life the way I want and worry about other stuff instead. I worry way too much about everything :-(

[@Waysa1710]

I think everything about the gender is just a way to find a concrete name to who you are, to not feel lost. A place where you can do what you like, not completely free, but you're at least close to something. For some people it's a little bit difficult to accept neutrality or nonexistence, not because they are not, but because it doesn't give them an actual answer to they're confussion.

[@DustSoilStudio]

I recently started identifying as agender. I literally don’t care. Womanhood means nothing to me. I think I feel like a woman in a sociopolitical sense. Like, I know I move through the world as a woman, and when people talk about women, whether I want them to be or not, they’re talk about me. Especially since I move through the world as a woman and am married to a man. Gets even more nuanced because I’m Black. But as for me??? I could care less. Im just a person.

[@Seramoonn]

Absolutely!!!! I fully understand the state of being a Black Woman, but that label honestly has nothing to do with me. The societal reaction that my skin and biological sex incites has nothing to do with who i am, so I truly cannot internally resonate with gender (and race lowkey but, that has to do with other parts of who i am).

[@mareenique8191]

thank you for this video! It took me a while to figure out that I'm agender because I never felt a strong dislike of my assigned gender, but rather a disconnect to gender in general (and so for example my nb friends' description of their experience didn't match mine, since they still described experiencing a gender, just not one within the binary). My assigned gender never bothered me because it makes sense to me that people would see me that way, based on how I dress, the length of my hair, my body shape etc. But if people who understand what agender means address me in a gender-neutral way after I tell them that I am agender, that definitely makes me happy. I'm just writing this to reassure others who might not experience dysphoria or a strong dislike of their assigned gender, but still feel drawn to the label agender, or the idea of having no gender, to consider that it might be an option for them.

[@snowyzkitty]

thank you for explaining it this way! I've just started my gender questioning journey last year, and started asking friends to try they/them for me. While I don't feel discomfort with being called she/her, they/them makes me extremely euphoric. I've also been labeled as a guy in games and I really couldn't bring myself to care. I do present as my assigned gender so it also makes sense for me why people address me the way they do. I appreciate people like you who share their experiences c:

[@sardonicrose]

Finding out I was Agender was rather tricky on my end! I am a "I completely lack gender" / gender-apathetic Agender person, with extremely little dysphoria. For the longest time, I thought I was just a "chill cis girl," as I didn't mind what gender I was called by. I had questioned it before, but seeing as no other gender identity applied to me, I kind of just gave up on it for a while (I forgot to take *lack* of gender into account when I was first questioning lol.) Finally, when I was like 20, I had a lightbulb moment. I looked at all of my friends that I had made, cis and trans alike, and I just went, "Wait, they... actually _care_ don't they? Putting on makeup _actually_ makes her feel girlier. He _actually_ feels manlier after a good workout or a cool haircut. They mean it. They aren't exaggerating for comedy. That stuff actually _does things_ for them identity-wise." From there, I pretty quickly realized that gender was not something I have ever experienced lol. As I mentioned earlier, I also have extremely little dysphoria. I was mildly uncomfortable with my voice until I had a small voice drop at 24, I'm a bit put off by the fact I'm short, and I have some complicated feelings around menstruation, but nothing overt or obvious lol. I feel like I could wake up tomorrow with everything the same except for suddenly being male, and other than a freak-out over _how_ that could have happened, my life would continue as normal. Slight wardrobe adjustment, change my hygiene rituals a bit, and I'm good to go. My body is only a body; it has nothing to do with my identity. I find myself most comfortable in gender-neutral language, but I'm not fussy about other, gendered terms being used for me. Aaaand that's that! I thought I would share how I experience life as an Agender person and how I discovered it, in the event that this could be helpful to someone else. 💚

[@Nernel]

Thank you for sharing, I have similar experiences. I'm just me, I've never felt particularly masculine or feminine, I don't even know what it means to feel that way.

[@mihailoaleksic3330]

Some of this is relatable to some extent, but I think I'm a guy for a few reasons. It's not that I don't care about my pronouns, but I wouldn't be mad at someone not calling me the he/him pronouns. I may not care about some masculine things as much as a normal guy, but I still can feel the difference. And yeah nothing else of this applies to me lol

[@raven-sister]

Honestly, thank you!

[@WhatsUp142]

OH OH WOW THIS IS ME THANK YOU SO MUCH I DIDNT KNOW THAT ACTUALLY MATTERED TO THEM

[@sardonicrose]

@WhatsUp142 It does!! Like how drawing brings an artist joy, it's just something innate to them. I cannot know what it means to be a man, in the same way I cannot know what it's like to REALLY love hockey. Some things just are not a part of me. Also, if it turns out this post makes u realize you're Agender, then welcome to the club. 😎 🖤🩶🤍💚🤍🩶🖤

[@meep-metal]

Thanks so much for this! I just recently started questioning my gender for about the tenth time and this video really helped! 💚

[@HyperNovva]

I am no longer questioning my gender (I have come to realize I am FtM trans), but I'm sure you helped and will continue to help a lot of people out by making this video, so here's a comment to boost it! Thank you for doing everything you do and I hope you're settling into your new home 🧡

[@OfficerZlock]

being gay is a choice

[@aurora_skye]

@@OfficerZlock No

[@eepydoll]

​@@OfficerZlockno it's not so the same logic would be being straight is a choice?? Ps. It's not you can't PICK your sexuality and who you love. Go take your bigot self and |

[@eepydoll]

​@@OfficerZlockno it's not so the same logic would be being straight is a choice?? Ps. It's not you can't PICK your sexuality and who you love. Go take your bigot self and |

[@igloled]

@@eepydoll That reaction was so overreacted, all he said was no.... unless its sarcasm?

[@angelamelone7598]

I'm agender and really don't give any fucks about my pronouns 🤷, not the best indicator I think. What made it obvious for me was that I've never understood the need for why both cis and trans binary identifying people feel they need to present/act a certain way to be seen as a cis woman, or a trans man etc. never made sense to me as to why that stuff was so important

[@lima913]

I think because they want people to see them as what they are, like if you know you’re a specific gender, but people don’t see you as you are,they’ll be concerned over what it is that would make people *see* them That’s my guess

[@cherusake]

I have just given up and let people refer to me however they'd like. I present female hard, and I don't have attachment or hate for any of the pronouns. I've legit just been saying I'm a sparkly fart in a meat suit. Because I just ...don't want to be attached to a body anymore. If that makes sense. I'm me. That's all I got. So I'm probably agender, I just can't drive myself crazy with labels and stuff anymore. The less I focus on it, the better I feel. X.x

[@DSS712]

That sounds like body dysmorphia, not gender dysphoria. I hope you can get therapy and find peace with your physical self.

[@bestypotato]

Yes. Happens to me too sometimes. I just want to be a floating entity with no gender and no pronouns. Or at least neutral ones.

[@lav-kitty]

identifies as agender for two years, ever since the start of gender questioning, still watches this, not because of gender questioning, but because listening about being agender is fun from time to time I'm claiming this as the average agender experience

[@maryterribilini6520]

Thanks for this! I've been questioning my gender lately, and I always love seeing agender content and getting to learn more.

[@BowieBrady]

I recently came out as a Panromantic/asexual a month ago, and the chaos that followed sent me into a termoil. Before that, being someone raised in Christianity, I used a facade that tricked everyone and myself into thinking I was a straight role-model male. When I came out I also left the church, making some relationships break apart and some get stronger. Now that I have fully disassociated from that facade and embraced my sexuality, I'm noticing that taking it off also removed that role-model male deal, leaving nothing in the way for gender. For a month that was fine cause I was more worried about my safety from a particularly toxic "friend", but now that void is hard to mentally deal with. I don't know if I am agender, but that label brings me more comfort than others, and this video helps me recognize that. *(Edit update from 2ish months later, reading this comment again)* I was definitely panicking then and was only a few days into thinking about gender. I'm certainly not an expert now on it, but I do definitely have a better perspective on myself. Long story short I am Agender in the idea of being non-binary Flux. Each day I am both non-binary and Agender, but the intensity of each changes, with some days being more neutral and some days being absent. Figuring that out took a lot of time and self reflection with a lot of other life things going on. If your someone reading this comment questioning, it's ok to take time. Finding your gender will not happen overnight, and your identity can change over time. A year from now myself and you might identity differently and that's ok. We are human, there is no way we could of gotten to this point of civilization without individuality.

[@MissNerdypants4461]

The timing of this video is amazing as just recently questioning whether I fit under the agender label more. Thank you for the work you put into your videos

[@owli-wankenobi3727]

I have been experimenting with my gender expression for a while now, and in doing so, I've come to realize, I don't want to be perceived as any gender. I don't want to be shoved into an arbitrary box that I can perform (at least male and enby for sure), but isn't really me on the inside. I think whatever attachment to masculinity I have is due to the fact that I was raised as one, but not because any part of me is male. I am simply me. There's no particular gender attached to that. Thank you for making this video, Lynn. Also it's good to have you back!

[@Waysa1710]

Yeah! It's like the gender you're told is a series of steps you have to develop in order to be what you're supposed to be. And it gets just worst when people tell you female and male roles are important, that they EXIST. It's suffocating, like they're already asking too much from you, and it's still not enough, never, to be what you "are". I mean, why do they care so much? It's confusing.

[@owli-wankenobi3727]

@@Waysa1710 Mhm mhm yeah. Honestly I don't really get why it matters so much to some people. And why people assign a gender to certain objects and activities. Like, why even bother labeling these things?

[@veglord_the_profane]

I’m still questioning but to me gender just feels like an act or a game that everyone puts on for no reason. I also resent it when people try to cast me into a stereotype, or tell me what I like and how I am and all that. I don’t care what pronouns people use for me, I prefer to look neutral or androgynous, and I don’t get why everyone cares so much. That’s what makes me think I could be agender. Currently trying out the label.

[@Beansaucer]

I definitely feel agender/genderless but I’m still confused on which pronouns fit me. I usually prefer any pronouns but it just results in me being called my birth gender 😭

[@sleepysoup4321]

i am not anything specific, i am merely a person who is vibing in the world. call me a man, call me a woman, call me something else, i don’t care. i’ve never been happier

[@pedroba76]

i think I'm agender, born male and always seen as male by others and identified as male, and I care if I am called woman, but I still don't think that I really "feel" male or female, I just am. Why care? I feel uncomfortable with the idea of being called a woman, but also, think to myself: Why feel this uncomfort? Why care? Shouldn't the identity, the ego of being male or female gender, something to be "surpassed" to go "beyond", and simply accept being? Because of these thoughts, I think I may be agender. The idea of *not* seeing myself as HAVING to fit as a male or call myself a male, I don't know why, but it gives me relief to my body, I feel my body lighter, less heavier, and more in peace in my arms, Idk why. A peaceful non-attachment, idk. While, If I think to myself "I am male, I am a man, I need to be a man", it gives me a sense of being "trapped", my body feels heavier, gives more unconfort than the non-attachment thought. But I still don't like and feel uncomfortable at the idea of being seen as a woman or being called she/her, much more than being called him, being called him I accept easily. So that doesn't fit on agenderism, I guess.

[@Ilovemigata]

@@pedroba76 maybe u dont feel feminine nor masculine?

[@pedroba76]

@@Ilovemigata Maybe, I would say it can be kinda like that. But I also kinda "feel" masculine, in the sense that I don't experience gender dysphoria, and don't reject my body, neither my name or male pronouns that people call me.

[@MiniMellowMelody]

​​@@pedroba76 I FEEL THE EXACT SAME I was born as a girl and I'm okay with she/her ig, but not okay with her/him, but I don't feel like I have a gender at all and hate it when ppl call me a girl, lady, whatever. This is why I'm still questioning whether I'm agender or not

[@pedroba76]

@@MiniMellowMelody I understand. Althought I'm not repulsed by being called a man, I don't enjoy the gender stereotypes and the way people talk like "men should do this", "you need to be a real male, "if you are man you can't be virgin, it's a shame", "iffyou are a man you have to be tough and impose respect", and such. People are individuals connected to a larger whole, biological sex is only a part of it.

[@JennaTheFox277]

This was the third step in my self discovery. I heard the term and was blown away with all the new knowledge. 7 years later, here I am

[@Milotriplea]

Thank you for your videos you were a big help for my to figure out that i'm aroace and agender. Hope you get the 50.000 subscribers soon

[@Omneyvdwatering]

I experience myself as brain in meatsuit. I would prefer it but most people are uncomfortable with calling me that. So they/them is fine. Does that count as agender?

[@aurora_skye]

I'm guessing it does if you want it to be! That's how I see myself pretty much, too!

[@majesticfool]

thats a depressing way to view yourself

[@OfficerZlock]

being gay is a choice

[@Omneyvdwatering]

@@majesticfool not for me. I felt delighted when i found words to describe how i experience myself and my body.

[@Omneyvdwatering]

@@OfficerZlock I can imagine you feel that way as a closeted bi-sexual who "chooses" to only have partners in the heteronormative area. But feelings don't lie. :)

[@missnaomi613]

Thanks for another informative video! *Just a reminder to all the lovely folks out there... It's important to learn what we can about people in "a different part of the rainbow" from ourselves, so we can advocate for each other! That's why I'm here. Blessings, y'all! 🙏❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@wolfponybotblast101]

Im agender and don’t care what im called. Female or male, he or she, don’t care, But i will also not identify as they or them, but wouldn’t care if someone called me that either. But I think people who go by they or them are more binary than agender. Agender is more neutral and doesn’t go by anything or any gender identity.

[@warriorcatkitty]

I am agender!! I use a few other labels as well, but simply put I am agender :) Very good video btw! How I feel about gender is kinda like it's a... like a roleplay of sorts. It's not who I really am, but sometimes is fun to play the role! But it's not me, and I do sometimes wish people would see me for ME, not a gender, becuase gender feels like something that is fake... if that makes sense aha. I still use she/her and feminine terms (alongside neopronouns) becuase it doesn't bother me. I don't really feel any attachment to pronouns at all, besides the way they sound. I use she/her becuase it's familiar to me. I use ey/em becuase they sound cool. As for the other terms I use- I like to use xenogenders becuase I feel more attached to things, like the color blue for example, waaaayy more than "gender". When presenting myself I think more about things I like- the color blue, cats, stars- more than "is this feminine" or whatever. I'm also lazy + have sensory problems, and normally just wear a cotton tshirt and pants anyways.

[@lilacmoon117]

WAIT so I think I’m agender too, (typically just use the nonbinary umbrella and I feel the same way I know this is a year old but like I feel like in the end I’m just me but like day to day i’ll like see a really cool male character and want to be like that and then like an hour later see a really cool female character and feel the same. I wish I could just switch whenever I wanted for the bit hahaha

[@Moonshine_Victory]

I feel all of those very much- Been questioning my gender for some time now, wondering if the label agender might fit and I think it does^^ Guess I really am a triple-A battery now (aroace and agender)

[@earthmanchen]

Haha! I’m just wondering - what is the third a?

[@Moonshine_Victory]

@@earthmanchen aroace is two things put together: aromantic (aro) and asexual (ace) so those are two^^

[@liamodonovan6610]

Really hope you get to 50,000 you are someone i wonld love to meet you are one of my hero's love your channel

[@OfficerZlock]

being gay is a choice

[@This_dumb_m3n]

⁠@@OfficerZlockno boomer, you don’t choose ur sexual orientation and ur gender identity (:

[@liamodonovan6610]

@@OfficerZlock sexuality is never a choice i suspect you are straight great straight privilege you have iam asexual and aromantic i didn't wake up one day and decide oh i don't think i will bother getting attracted to anyone thinking sexuality is a choice is an expected hetrosexual privilege no sexuality is a choice including hetrosexuality

[@KogetaiKid]

⁠@@OfficerZlockYOUR BACKGROUND IS THE FUCKING M.A.P.s FLAG!!! GTFO, PERVE!!!!

[@HyperNovva]

Y'all, please ignore the person named "NotVille." They have several accounts that they use to go onto the channels of many LGBTQ+ youtubers and spam in the comments section. They send "being gay is a choice" among other things in the replies of every comment on videos of different people. It's best not to give them attention

[@natycrap]

I've watched this video ten times, and am still in denial

[@simplymeowlogical]

Regarding pronouns I don't use any, since I'm agender. I prefer just being referred by my name

[@svoboduingrii]

Tack så mycket! Mycket lärorik video!

[@NoFaceNoCase329]

Made this video at the perfect time thank you so much😭

[@canvas4708]

I'm gonna use this as a checklist: 1) Yes, I feel a disconnect to traditional gender labels. Rn I am identifying as Genderqueer (and I go by they/them) but I'm contemplating whether or not the term Genderqueer fits me that well anymore, hence the reason why I'm watching this video. 2) Yes. I already do this xD 3) I definitely have ✨gender dysphoria✨ 4) Yes! I love portraying myself as androgynous (but unfortunately I haven't been able to cut my hair short or get top surgery yet 😢) 5) YES. Just YES Thanks for the help! I'll do some more research and I might get back to you all. Also, thanks to anyone who is reading this!

[@denisemayosky1955]

The last two I could identify with. But I identify more as a demigirl, which is in between agender and woman. So it's nice to learn a little more about anything sort of related.

[@M00N_IVY]

Could you maybe explain how you came to realize you identify as demigirl? I've been questioning my gender and have been thinking about demigirl recently. Of course if you are comfortable! I'd love to hear more❤

[@Waysa1710]

Hi, for those who are questioning their gender identity, one thing that helped me a lot is focusing on who I am, I mean, it's kind of like self love, but in a way you get to know WHO you really are, EVERYTHING that makes part of you, and not what you're supposed to be according to society or others. It's super important to identify if you have changed something about yourself to "fit in", identify WHY did you do it, what did you think you were different about from the rest?. I mean, this is not just for gender identity, but for sexual orientation too. This helps you find the true you, most of all when society teach you that how you fell is "normal" and it can be "fixed". Feelling different can tell you a lot about who you are.

[@nothing.ever.last.forever-369]

damn...the more you talked about agender people the more I was like:...damn..it's me..I feel like that! this video helps so much thank for making it, it was really great

[@asmcar23]

WOW! Thank you again for this!

[@dontreadthisplease2416]

I identify as agender myself and the end started sounding kinda weird with the "putting personal attributes over gender" being a sign thing...I mean, that's pretty much everybody, isn't it? Am I right? Or am I proving your point? Who knows?

[@АнечкаРоманюк]

Oh, I need it so, thanks

[@muddiipawss]

I’m just confused. I’m biologically female, and I’m fine with it. I feel like if I got turned into a male overnight I’d be a little freaked out at first, but I’d adjust and be good with it. I feel like I’ve kind of got a gender, but I also don’t really understand what it means? I don’t get euphoric or dysphoria about anything like that, except for body image issues, but those don’t have anything to do with my gender.

[@courtneyisaseagull]

Very informative video! Thank you for the great content you create. I'm still pretty sure I'm genderfluid, but it's nice to be more knowledgeable about what it means to be agender.

[@justjulia1720]

I've been somewhat questioning my gender for some time now, and this video is helpful on that journey. I think I'm cis, but I'm not entirely sure. The thing is, I grew up with a mom who's considered "boyish", so my idea of what's feminine was always outside of the traditional idea. I think the experience of having my sense of femininity constantly undermined, dismissed and invalidated is what's made me sick of gender stereotypes. I want to be seen as just a person. I almost wish gender wasn't a thing at all so I could just be me with no expectation for how I'm supposed to act just because I have boobs or whatever. I do sometimes feel more feminine when I dress in certain ways, do certain things or stuff like that. I can't explain it other than those things make me feel more like myself and I'm socially recognized as a woman, therefore what I like and what makes me feel like myself is feminine for me. Gender is so confusing. Identity is confusing. A lifetime isn't enough to know myself. All I know now is that whatever my gender is, it's me.

[@MyCatMyca]

Not gonna lie… that last one made me think and now idk if I’m genderqueer or agender anymore 😅 I’ve been thinking about being agender instead of genderqueer for a while but I still don’t know. Could you make a genderqueer video and or a genderqueer vs agender video 😁 I’m a new fan and am really in joying all your videos as someone on the aroace spec and questioning my gender identity 😁

[@NonbinaryCatDad]

Omg I relate to AceDadAdvice's story so much!

[@J-Rad-]

Your never too old, to explore this topic, myself im a biological male, but I identify simply as A-sexual, I still have a beard. And present as a male,..but in my dreams I present as a female, crazy huh...but ya I'm not gay, or trans, just a feminine soul in a male body, (I also have 2 kids),... but ya I thought maybe I was gay when I was younger cause I thought that was the only option, either strait or gay, basically...but now finally society understands its way more complex and is more excepting and today I am completely comfortable with myself when tho as a teen is was really confused....I dunno, that's my story

[@bearthesilly2763]

i just dont feel like any gender nor do i want to be any gender i cant tell if thats agender

[@thundergrowl]

i feel so confused about my gender. Like i do NOT feel like a female (i was born a female) and i like expressing myself as male. But i do not feel like a man or nonbinary. I kinda just exist? I just know im not a girl and that's all

[@jaydennadolny798]

Same!! It's like your just there and for me it makes me feel weird because I'm not like the people I see around me

[@dradenlol8667]

I feel no strong connection with being agender, I just feel no strong connection with any gender and therefore call myself agender.

[@charliepupper]

I’ve been searching for the best way to describe my identity, I always knew that I was different, since I was a child I didn’t feel like just a girl or a boy, I just felt like me, with no need to specify my identity with the sex (since they’re parts of my body, but not fully who I am, like I’m not my hand or my eyes), or with any gender (because gender is a social construct which can change over time, and I never fit or liked to be one or another, I’m just me), and now I’ve realized that I’m agender because my identity goes on my essence more than just the body that I have, I’ve discovered that I’m not my sex, my sex is part of my body, and my body is part of who I am but not entirely, I have a body, emotions, a mind and a soul, which together working in unison and creates who I am, not just one or another, but all of them, and that being is called a human, which unique composition and essence is different than every other and that differentiates me as a person. I also like to look androgynous, my body has an androgynous look, but I would like to improve it more, first with diet and exercise, and then with special clothing, my sense of style I think it is like grunge, but also not entirety, idk I just like to wear beanies, plaid shirts, forest themed shirts, cargo pants, and converse, all of those with earthly neutral colors, and accessories related with Vikings or nature, tho I use they them pronouns, and have a new name, and a short brown curly hair which helped me so much to gain the andro look, but still I think that I’ve got improve more things, like maybe doing some voice training.

[@iris869]

your videos are amazing... thank you so much... I never fit in anywhere and I am just learning all about it and am so happy to finally understand it.. agender is me, as asexual and to top it with being highly sensitive... that's why it took me 40 years to figure my brain out... but now I get it 😅

[@ogmurk8129]

I think I’ve been Agender all my life lol. Thank you for this information. Subscribed 💙

[@Shamazya]

I think another a big one relating to pronouns is an indifference towards which pronouns people use for you.

[@OpheliaDarling2814]

Yes. This is me. I'm generally only offended when someone calls me a particular gender as an insult, not when they mistake me for one or the other.

[@SuperSzaucy]

I feel like this seriously helped me in reaffirming my gender identity, but I noticed I also strongly identify with masculinity (to a degree). Normally this wouldn't be confusing if I didn't also just as if not more strongly identify and associate with agenderism. To add on, I am amab so it can be hard to tell if what I experience when I feel euphoria when looking, dressing, and being interacted with in a masculine manner is because of socialization of gender roles or something more outside of gender

[@RainyeRaye]

I would say 2 or 3 of these signs almost match me Perfectly. I also want to say about thr Pronouns situation. Sometimes I feel OKAY using she her or he him, but most rather go by neutral pronouns and terms. The 5th one, talking about attributes and how you address yourself, I wish to be addressed as a person rather than gendered term. This whole Gender thing is very confusing to me right now, and this video helped quite a bit. Thank you for posting this. There are some parts of me that think having a Gender is right, but feeling neutral or no Gender most days also feels right. I just don't like being put in a male or female spectrum.

[@giraffex11]

This helped me a lot. Thank you 💚

[@PlatinumDawg99]

Have you ever heard of the term cassgender? It's pretty much not caring about gender.

[@iam_Maria_from_Ukraine]

I am kinda confused, bc what is gendre without stereotipical gender roles?

[@GaTraCos]

Gender is someone's sense of self. I, for example, have an internal sense of self that is genderless and featureless, like a Mannequin.

[@DSS712]

@@GaTraCos If your internal sense of self lacks a physical body, it sounds like you have body dysmorphia. The human body is a natural thing that is part of all of us, and most people don't associate with it, they just accept it. I hope you can get therapy and come to accept your body as a normal and welcome part of yourself, because it will be with you for your whole life.

[@GaTraCos]

@@DSS712 You misunderstand; my internal sense of self lacks a gendered/sexed body. Hence why having a gendered body causes dysphoria.

[@michellegable3400]

I don’t know what I am. I’m terrified. My sex is female. I feel more masculine but I don’t want a pee pee. I hate my breasts and I will get them removed as soon as possible. I’m too young to say anything about my face but it’s very neutral and I’m ok with that. My voice is deep for a female assigned person. I’ve always wondered about having a beard and have been obsessed with beards but I know I would not look good in a beard and I can’t imagine myself with one. I don’t really feel weird about pronouns. More along the lines of is someone says she her I don’t want other people to look at me and wonder what I am. I don’t have answers and my therapist is on vacation during this crisis so any help would be appreciated

[@somerandomidiot1561]

I've been rather carefree for most of my life and only started to wonder about gender identity recently. I never felt uncomfortable in my physical body (AFAB) and have been completely fine to being referred to as she/her, but then i noticed that when i refer to myself i tend to do it in a neutral way and almost like in a vague way? Like i talk about my experiences and refer to myself as "one" or "they" when ranting in my own mind lmao. I never got upset either when people mistook me for a guy online, i just thought it was a little funny seeing how shocked they they would be. Sometimes i wish i was a man or just get to experience having a man's body but it's not something i would want to like go through any medical procedures, just little thoughts or whatever. I generally prefer the way that more feminine bodies look. For some reason tho it's titles that piss me off, for example, hero and heroine, i much prefer the masculine version of most titles and view them as more neutral and get uncomfortable when someone calls me the feminine version of said title, i find that version unnecessary and just get a bit frustrated. Especially if someone first calls me the masculine version of it before then correcting themselves and switches to the feminine version, that's the worst to me and idk exactly why tbh. My brother joked and called me Mr. Worldwide cuz i was talking to friends online from a bunch of different countries simultaneously and it was funny, but then he corrected himself and said Miss Worldwide, that was the moment i first felt extremely off with how i was referred to... Idk if it could've been a form of gender dysphoria or not but ever since then i've tried to do some introspection and really actually question my gender identity. As said in this video i've never really felt fully connected to gendered labels such as woman and girl, i've connected the closest to the masculine/neutral labels like guy and dude. I've also rather often had thoughts of wishing gender wasn't a thing complelety and wanting to just be neither and just exist, or that we would only have one pronoun, like some languages do. Idk there's alot of different gender identities and it's very complex. I feel like i am female representing when it comes to expression, idk if agender fits me or not, i've only just started looking into this label. Sorry for the little rant, leaving this here for others who may feel similarly or maybe wanna have a discussion on these kinds of things idk. :')

[@Orech-the-Nut]

I don't know, because I kinda hate gender stereotypes, but I never thought of this in terms of choosing different gender that I was assigned. I was ruminating a lot about this recently, and than I had this idea to imagine myself as a different animal species. Well, I always imagined myself as a female animal... so I consider this a sign that I am probably only gender non conforming... but yeah, qualities like kindness and creativity means much more to me than any gender characteristics.

[@Sasha3blur5]

I got only 2 I still don't know I need help

[@Orlandomatheus]

Not everyone possesses the same level of critical thinking, self-awareness, or emotional regulation. Trauma, confusion, and societal influences can impact individuals' understanding of themselves and their place within the gender spectrum. some individuals may identify as animals, aliens, or other entities, which can be a manifestation of various factors, including trauma, dissociation, or creative expression. However, even in these identities, gender can still be present, often reflecting the triadic structure of male, female, or androgynous energies. This highlights the importance of considering the complexities of human experience, including the interplay between biology, environment, culture, and consciousness. The Whole Way framework acknowledges these nuances, recognizing that: 1. Gender is a multifaceted, dynamic spectrum. 2. Individuals' experiences and identities are unique and valid. 3. Trauma, confusion, and societal factors can influence gender understanding. 4. The triadic structure (male, female, androgynous) is a fundamental template in consciousness. By embracing this comprehensive perspective, we can foster greater empathy, understanding, and support for individuals navigating the complexities of gender and identity.

[@Andreas-gh6is]

I think I feel dysphoria around my name. But that may just be that I've been bullied and excluded all my life and feel a lot of shame about my whole identity, not just the gender question.

[@AraneaTempestatum]

In my experience, I struggled with gender dysphoria during high school. I despised anything feminine and began to hate my body, unable to separate sex from gender. I then attempted to pass as a man, simply conforming to stereotypes of appearance and behavior. I knew I would never truly be a man, but I wanted to escape femininity. As I started spending time with men, I found their gender expressions equally distasteful. One day, a schoolmate, aware of my desire to reject femininity, told me that unless I acted a certain way, I wouldn't be considered a man by the group. That's when I realized I didn't need to prove anything to anyone. I rejected all labels, embracing that I am a woman, but I don't need to conform to society's notions of femininity or masculinity. I'm not saying there aren't positive aspects to gender, like strength or compassion, but I don't see them as inherently tied to gender. To me, gender is just a bunch of rubbish used to pigeonhole people. I'll never understand why appearance and wanting to enclose certain things as one or another carry so much weight, why they feel the need to categorize everyone? I am who I am, and that's all. I don't need or want to be pigeonholed. I'm perfectly content with my sex, not the gender assigned to me at birth. I knew that I would never be a man, but I wanted to simply because I despised femininity. Eventually, I realized I didn't need to prove anything to anyone. I rejected all labels, embracing the fact that I am a woman, but I don't need to adhere to society's notions of femininity or masculinity. That's when I understood that I didn't need to conform to society's expectations. I'm not saying there aren't positive aspects to gender, such as strength or compassion, but I don't see them as inherently linked to gender. To me, gender is just a load of garbage used to pigeonhole people. I'll never understand why appearance and expression carry so much weight, why we feel the need to categorize everyone. I am who I am, and that's all. I don't need or want to be pigeonholed. I'm perfectly fine with my sex, not the gender assigned to me at birth. And I don't mind what people call me, as long as they don't use those new pronouns-I'm not a fan. But otherwise, it's fine. It's common for people on the street to refer to me as 'him' or 'her' interchangeably. Some notice, others don't. I don't bother correcting them. Just a haircut was enough for people to perceive me as a man. It just goes to show how superficial the whole gender issue is. Something as trivial as a haircut leads people to believe I'm one thing or another. Although maybe having a gender is useful for dating (? I don't know, I'm aro/ace so I don't see any use in that sense either lol.

[@mk-aka-morgan8386]

I have an OC that’s agender 💕

[@Jess38044]

I used to identify as nonbinary, then agender, but honestly I dunno. There are two wolves inside of me, one is feminine (i'm AFAB), one is agender, and they fight for dominance from time to time! I've made peace with and have come to love my body. I feel weird about all pronouns, even neutral ones. Am I just in denial and/or have some internalised things to unpack?

[@Miraki555]

Why does gender even exist? It doesn't make sense to me 😢😢 Also I'm confused if I'm apagender or agender... I experience no gender, but I also do not care what people call me.

[@shortcake-nu4bn]

I've been questioning my gender for over an entire year. I went all over the place, I went from girl to polygender to non-binary to genderfluid, you name it. I stayed non-binary for a while, (maybe 8-10 months) but then I was looking at one of my favorite characters from a show I like and I was like "Hey wait a minute.... they look like the agender flag!" and so I searched it up and funnily enough, I liked the term agender! Right now I'm questioning if I'm agender girl or just agender, but overall I think I finally found my little corner.

[@Eclipsethewolfdog]

In my experience as being Agender, I feel okay with my body, but I'im not my sex, and I respect all gender identities, but I don't feel like I'm a gender either, so the word that best describes me is a "person", or a "human being", I also have feminine and masculinity but rather than being my hole self they're just part of my personality, I also enjoy to look androgynous, and use they/them pronouns. I've discovered as well, that I'm omnisexual, which means that I'm attracted to people, by their personality, and identity, but that gender plays a part on my attraction towards them, and as an Agender person I prefer just to engage with someone who's pansexual or something similar to avoid misunderstandings. As with dysphoria, I'm working it with a psychologist, since iv'e noticed that I have discomfort with being misgendered by other people who uses binary pronouns on me, (and don't respect or use my pronouns once I correct them), or expect me to be certain way by the sex of my body, or want me to do certain gender roles, or just inssist in saying to me that im rather a man or a woman, and want me to be in one or another box, ppl who also told me that im mentally ill by my identity or sexuality, and many other stuff with no sense, which psychiatrists and psychologist says that it is not true and they are just ignorant ppl. Also, investigating all of this information with a gender psychiatrist, and online with different sites and corroborated information by sociologists was very useful, and helped me to understand my Identity and sexuality much more.

[@QueenSnowfallWoF]

I’ve never had much care about gender, but have been finding my more feminine side lately. I kind of feel like maybe I’m gender-fluid or agender, and I’m trying to figure out if I even care about my pronouns.

[@Syrupandtheinkmachine]

This helped because I have been confused about myself and my gender was all over the place so I just slapped it/its on myself and called it a day lol

[@BhaktiRosin108]

I'm non-binary, thought I might be a gender so that brought me here but basically I'm still scared to ask people I trust to use "it" pronouns w/ me because I've heard so many hetero, cis and even trans individuals saying that pronoun isn't valid so I don't know how to feel since I literally didn't even know that was a problem until I looked up if "it" is even used as a pronoun in the first place because I thought I'd made that up for myself

[@DecemberHeath]

YAAAAAY 😭💛

[@ismaxeroart4902]

One question if i pick the color white or black rather than blue or pink ipad because blue is more boyish and pink is more girlish, does this make me agender? Because sometimes i rather pick different colors that are gender fluid rather than blue or pink or any color close to blue or pink such as rose gold or turquoise blue

[@AURESHION]

Just gonna infodump in no particular order. Figuring out I was agender took me quite a while. I think it was like... 2 years ago maybe? and I'm almost thirty. (it's never too late to come out people!) I never really understood gender. and am not dysphoric at all. I prefer presenting male because... well it's just convenient because my body is male. no need to explain stuff unless really necessary. Also, I feel it just looks good on me. including the beard. I do get curious sometimes though. but other than appearance I really don't pay much attention to how I present myself gender wise. (you should see me when I'm reading a really cute romantic novel, giggling and squeeing all over the place lol) In my younger years I always played with toys for both boys and girls. and I remember always finding it weird that one was for girls and the others for boys. they're both fun to play with, right? why does it matter? but being autistic already made me socially awkward. and the instinctive need to mask meant I'd often hide my interest in stuff not "meant" for boys. Among other things. I thank the stars that my parents actually didn't mind at all. and would only request that I'd ask my sister first before playing with her toys. my masking prevented me from ever asking for my own girl toys though. and I do feel like I missed out. but I never felt judged by my parents or siblings. (I genuinely wish everyone could've had parents as open minded as mine. hearing horror stories from people about their parents breaks my heart) anyways. for the longest time I had thought that I might be trans, I absolutely love gender bender content. and I thought that meant that I maybe wanted to be a girl. which was confusing as hell. because I felt none of the dysphoria described by others. It was much later that I actually realized I was just fascinated by the concept of gender. I just wanted to look into a world different from my own. here are all these people experiencing something I wasn't. and according to all the stories I read. being a specific gender and feeling like that gender was supposed to be euphoric. I didn't feel that at all. at best. I fantasized how interesting it would be to have a female body. but to me it feels much more like changing clothes than something I need to be happy. when I finally came out to my parents they weren't really all that surprised. except they assumed my gender-non-conformity stemmed from my autistic pragmatism and logic. which I guess is probably also kind of true? but it doesn't change the fact that I am the way I am. the whole affair was suprisingly anti climactic and "matter-of-fact-ey" I'm honestly just glad I came out to them when I did. because my mom passed away roughly half a year later from a very sudden and rare form of cancer. Anyways, that's about as much as I'm willing to say. It always feels weird to talk about myself like this. As if I'm not allowed to look for validation and attention from others.

[@Weirdowillowdiaries]

for years now ive been questioning my gender first i came out as trans when i realized how much i hate being called she/her but after some i also realized i dont feel like a boy so i came across non binair but that just doesnt feel right i want ppl to see me for my personality traits not my gender i go by he/him pronounce now since she/her make me feel so uncomfortable but idk how to feel about it its all so complicated i think i might be agender thank you for making this video

[@izaimedushat42]

I thought that I was just uncomfortable with how do I look like, but even when I’d changed that (started looking more feminine that I thought would be better) I was still uncomfortable with it. I can’t really explain how I feel but I just dislike how people judge me based only on my gender (?) so I tried to look neutral unconsciously So maybe I am agender but I’m not sure yet :) (Sorry, my English isn’t good)

[@dradenlol8667]

My experience is mostly being VERY confused why anyone would internalize and maintain the burden that is gender. Like it’s such a restricting identifier, doesn’t seem to serve any positive benefits, and can be the cause of a lot of hardship. Men are under constant threat of their masculinity being called into question, and women are under pressure to meet a lot of impossible standards. Men aren’t allowed to express much emotion, women aren’t allowed to express discontent or to stand up for themselves. My experience is of being a man for a short while, and that was such an uncomfortable time; I’d want to experiment with feminine things, express how I felt to others, compliment my friends, and so forth. While not all men of course want to do allat, there’s a lot of documented research about most men enduring hardships unnecessarily. Masculinity is not made up of component parts, it is made up of an absence of femininity. And femininity is made up of component parts that are hardships within themselves. And neither men nor women are able to fully meet the typically listed off components or lack thereof of either masculinity nor femininity. These categories are not properly definable nor are they separate. To me, they just seem like boxes within which we place various expressions of personality; each box having rules. And everyone is pressured to contort themselves into these boxes. Idk if it’s just my experience, but I simply call myself agender because it seems wild to have some internalized identity with gender, and it was a major stressor in my life trying to contort myself into masculinity. I don’t feel a strong connection with being agender, I feel no strong connection at all with any gender. I gave up on gender and haven’t been happier since.

[@HotDogTimeMachine385]

A gender? no agender! 👉😎👉

[@zhezdrindrin]

Im ageneder and feminist! My body is really feminine, and I'm okay with it, I think it looks fantastic 😎 I don't have bodily dysphoria. As a feminist, I know that women can look however they want and still be women. And all of this made me question my identity like: "maybe it's just inner misogyny?". Being a feminist is part of who I am. For me, each person is first and foremost an individual with their own story, and that story usually includes gender. But mine rather not 🩶💚🤍 Looks like I've been a little brainwashed by TERFs, and now can't figure out what i actually feel haha :P

[@piorun23]

How I know? I always was just Me,. Newer-ever I felt like a man, but I never felt like a woman either. During studies, I started to think about myself as a "unit", or "person", and using pronouns "it/its". I have always chosen the kind of clothes I like, are practical and have lots of pockets. Learning that something like "being non-binary" even exists came much later

[@XxCyrylxX]

I openly identify as agender since i was 11/12 years old. When i was young i diddnt know what gender am i, and calling myself nonbinary diddnt seem right to me, i dont feel any connection to gender, then i discovered that being agender exstist, and since that im a proud masc agender person💪💪

[@MarsAshSanchez]

Thank you very much. It was very helpful. And I realize that I’m both non-binary and agender. I always felt disconnected from both gender’s female and male and I do not know what it means for myself of being those two gender of female gender male. So yup I’m Non-binary and Agender

[@tortle306]

Is it ok if I'm a gender and use she\he\they

[@NonbinaryCatDad]

I relate to some of this. Recently discovered that they/them pronouns feel like a warm comfy hug to my brain. Tho I also relate to your points about demiboy identity too. 🤔

[@Hailpaws]

I need some help.. So i genuinely hate wearing dresses.. I mostly always have by the time I was 8-10 I hate.. absolutely hate my boobs. Ergh, I just can’t stand them. Even thinking they are there, i kind of lift up my hand to cover them even if im wearing something baggy (which i usually do, i also hate clothes that show off anything unnecessary) Another thing would be is that i never wear makeup… could this mean anything? i dont really care about genders but i wish i could just look like neither in a sense.. but also not? idrk

[@C1b3rPh0b1c]

Question??? Can you be transmasc , demiboy and agender??? Since google said demiboy is a man who also identifys as an other gender too , in this case agender for me? Like can i be transmasc/agender and demiboy or can i say : " Im a transmasc demiboy and my other gender is agender " CAUSE GOOGLE AINT HELPING 😭

[@Idkmwillow]

I keep thinking about using xe/xem pronouns but then I sometimes feel like i would want xe/she or xe/he until I get frustrated and then just want xe/nothing else and then I realize I just don’t want to be gendered and it’s a cycle I keep going through.

[@user-dc5wd8jg4n]

I feel a mix of masculine and agender. Is there a word for that?

[@Nina666]

Heyy, maybe looking into libramasculine could help you? It has been a week so you might not need it anymore, but good luck!!!

[@VixieCake]

Hey, I'm really loving your videos :) Could you do one on maybe being Gender-fae? I think this label fits my gender, but I'm not sure if I'm experiencing gender-fluidity, non-binary identity, or am in denial that I'm a woman... even though just typing that out feels so wrong :/ I'm so confused, and could really do with some help! Edit: Just wanted to add, the closest I've gotten to any sort of idea of my gender identity is that I feel like, at least 50% of the time, I feel like a feminine person much more than I do a woman. I quite often just want to wear baggy, oversized clothes that hide my figure, but sometimes I want to wear big, pink, fluffy dresses (think Sweet Lolita fashion). I also have this weird experience with my breasts, where sometimes I'm okay with them, but other times I feel like I want to "take them off", like another item of clothing. Like sometimes they fit with certain outfits, sometimes they don't, but generally I'm bleh towards them.

[@garibalditv1632]

What childhood did you have to write this crap? You are a woman for God sake and very pretty..do u know how difficult people like you make the world, what if someone attacks one of ur family members and it goes to court where the person on camera is claiming different in court? Like it's a man but wearing a wig claiming to be a woman? My kids are being home schooled because I want them to grow up normal and not get brainwashed by people like you who thinks they can make up a gender when there's only ever been TWO

[@nurzahidahrashidi]

i THINK im agender... but i use Genderfluid cause it seems to fit me more... should i consider agender or folow what im very comfotale with (genderfluid, despite how im usually gender neutral?)

[@Ivy_the_therain]

I think this might be me but like I’m afraid of not using pronouns.. like I’m fine with they/she and they/them but like when I really think of my gender it just feels empty. Idk if it’s just my really bad mental health but like when I think of gender there is nothing. Like I change my name to Ivy but like everyone just calls me my deadnamed and I’m way to afraid to tell people that I don’t really like my deadname. Why the hell is being 12 so hard like can my gender just gender properly please 😭(by that I mean just make me comfortable with she/her/my assigned gender or have me just understand what I am)

[@dochics1053]

I am a gender leans to more female,,my doctor charts say,, she ,,they already marked me already..❤ I don't care anymore I like being a girl 👧I do have hormones my mom gave me by medicine she took..I 5:43 brought my first female top today..😂

[@Christmas_wolves]

Even though I am Agender ima do this anyway 1-✅ 2-middle (50/50) I use all pronouns:p 3-✅ 4-✅ 5-✅

[@danyukhin]

thank you!

[@supreme_leader_of_the_internet]

heres another tip to find out if your agender You probably are one of them, if not more

[@Local_vivian]

Oh! I'm agender!

[@Seramoonn]

I have the same wallpaper!

[@Wind_Cursed]

And I just hit all these signs

[@Artishtar]

Thats exactly how i feel about my gender..and that's horrible

[@Richard-rd1ki]

Il. Learn something Thank you

[@Ceaser_cl0wn]

As an agender thing I use a bunch of random neopronouns like xe/xyr it/its and void/voidself I like these because they just feel like me

[@Newfoundlanddogtherian]

I right now identify as nonbinary and trans and use they/it/zir pronouns and all that feels fine 99% of the time but 1% I feel like the term agender would work I would also like to add that I'm also super uncomfortable whith she/her pronouns and while I don't really like he/him pronouns I guess I'm fine whith it I've been questioned if I might be bigender or genderfluid or agender but none of that seems to fit I don't know really I still feel like either way I'm gonna identify as none and trans but I feel like there is something else I've been questioning for months now

[@Newfoundlanddogtherian]

Still at this point hehe😅