5 Types of Dysfunctional Families

As you become aware of how your upbringing impacted your life, it can be helpful to understand some themes of dysfunction you may have grown up with. Today I want to talk about dysfunctional families and five types that I have seen impact the mental and emotional health of people negatively.
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[@lovewhoyouare7256]

Mom always told us “be on your best behavior since we don’t know what kind of mood your father will be in.”

[@katiesanders96]

💔💔💔

[@muskee1]

hi mark it would be great to do a book for emotional neglect as a child and a workbook how to recover thx

[@LexHeroux]

Things that weren’t given that I didn’t know I needed. Definitely emotional neglect in my family. And grew up without Mom living with me because of addictions. Also performance-driven because Dad, grandmother, and grandpa had their expectations of me and when I didn’t do well it didn’t perform to their standard, I could feel the disappointment. I remember my grandpa’s disapproval and his mad voice just emotionally wrecking me, like I couldn’t control my tears when he’d talk to me a certain way.

[@graceplease7958]

2,3, and 5. Domestically violent home. I was told never to tell. Only child. Perfectionism in hyperdrive. Past fifty years old now and still suffering. Having a couple of therapists earlier in adult life, I was told around menopause one will have some reconciling with regard to childhood. Very true in my case. Along side the birth of my daughter, such a gift from God, I have landed in a wonderful journey to Jesus. All that misery has me in love with Jesus. The most wonderful gift He has given me. Still finding my way but now I know I don’t walk alone and I’m slowly feeling stronger. I’m truly blessed.

[@chicenburger]

Thank God for Mark and Melissa's work, it has been so helpful in healing my family.

[@katiesanders96]

Amen.

[@daleenduplessis8074]

Thank U Mark...Neglect was a big part in my life.😢

[@katiesanders96]

Just as positive feedback on the set, I like the wood background and this lighting the best. Makes it very warm and inviting. The whiteboard sessions feel the most personal of your videos. I always feel like I’m receiving personal training. How fun would it be if these were in person, with you teaching at the whiteboard and us attending in small groups?! Then we could have live interaction, connection, and opportunities to ask questions. Maybe an adaptation of this idea would be possible in a private online format, which I think you’re already planning to do in your community for the book.

[@katiesanders96]

@@nancy-n High five! Mark is building some sort of online community for those who read the upcoming OCD book and want to take their healing journey to the next level. He’s mentioned it would allow for interactions with smaller groups and getting to know and invest in our journeys more personally. 🤩 He’s thought about doing Zoom calls or even live 1-on-1s, but also wants to protect our privacy, which I’m so incredibly grateful for!!! I would be ok with people knowing who I am and what questions I’m asking if it was a small, private group of the people on this channel who are regulars and are really invested in healing. I love the idea of live 1-on-1s, but not for the whole KZbin world to see, lol. Which is an incredibly generous idea of Mark’s, given that private coaching sessions are $250/hour. Just think, he gives us 1 1/2 free coaching sessions EVERY WEEK on the Sunday live.

[@MarvinEngle-he8kq]

Numbers 1,2,3 were definitely what I grew up with. My dad left us for a time then was an alcoholic and my mom was very sick with massive migraines and inner ear problems. Thanks you for helping me heal to the point where I know and experience God's everlasting love more and more, and I'm learning to be kind and graceful to myself. Keep up the good work!

[@Chelz15]

It was real difficult... but bec of ur videos I experienced God's grace in my heart healing

[@jesuslovesme2023]

1,2,5 a little of 3. Thankyou. I appreciate you confirming the areas of my life today and upbringing that I thought were unhealthy, but today I see them in a new light, one that can be healed. I am not damaged forever, and I see that you will probably help me thru biblical aspects into forgiveness and aright relationship with my unfortunately, I must say, damaged father and family. Praise God for you and letting God use you for our sake. God will bless you my friend!

[@tomsandoval5692]

Senor De Jesus I am 57 year old and just began my journey on why my life has such a nightmare just about everything you talk about I can relate to I've been in and out of prison for most of my adult life and just now I am poised to face my demons however at 57 I feel most people what what would just want me to be quiet

[@shirkiahbull]

Thank you. I can relate to 3-5 my father was in and out of my life and now just out & my mom is here but emotionally absent. She’s a christian and i often get tripped up about talking about what’s really hurting me..Glad you talked about this❤️.

[@lovewhoyouare7256]

Yes, i grew up with my father being alcoholic and abusive with my mom. This is very helpful to me as i am still healing from this even at my age

[@benaiah2119]

When I was a kid I was terrified to get a bad grade or be marked on yellow at school because I would always get spanked by my father if that was the case. I don’t know if this was good or bad because I’m only 17.

[@clarealice9622]

Wow thank you mark this is SO helpful. I grew up with not addictions in parents but in a sibling. My teen years and early 20s contained a lot of drama anxiety and unpredictability around my older brothers alcohol abuse, drug use, porn mags and awful friends who were mixed up in crime at times. Mark I’d be interested to hear your comments on how much of an impact this can have when it’s not your parents but a sibling. There was also constant strife and yelling between my father and brother , and a feeling of distance between parents. Emotional disconnection was big. Our dad was perfectionist and unwittingly had a performance mentaility. was pleased with us if we did good work.I’m a perfectionist , depression anxiety and OCD person ... you’ve explained so much in this video . I’ll talk to my psych about this stuff next week!!

[@josho2455]

God bless. Love your work and help you provide toward all of those who listen 👍

[@loriwicker1701]

Yes Mark, really enjoyed this teaching. Pls do more teaching on this subject.

[@Caioknight]

By the way Mark, have you studied psychology? Imagine a Pastor, choach and a psychologist it the same person.

[@jayren43]

I love how he explains everything with sophisticated words :)

[@erhardtharris8727]

This was one of the best 'psych' videos I've watched.

[@katiesanders96]

Preach! 🙌🎉

[@booknookclub]

Mark, thank you so much. Please continue content on how to heal current homes operating with dysfunctional patterns. We fall into the emotionally chaotic system due to my husband's battle with OCD which praise God for your channel because all the arguing ended when we figured out the issue wasn't the issue. Unfortunately, we and our children struggle with focus and structure. How do we heal as a family moving forward? Thank you and God Bless!

[@dreamiedips8624]

You are excellent and answer to my most of the prayers to Papa God in heaven. Thank you so much 😊❤ your works are excellent. I have already purchased so many of your books and just love them. 😢I can recognize that I have experience 4 out of 5 types and I need to embrace this healing journey in order to bring change in the dysfunctional intergenerational pattern. I'm not gonna continue to inherent dysfunctional intergenerational lifestyle from my bloodline anymore, in Jesus name Amen 🙌😇

[@monicanixon5140]

...I dont know about you all, but my heart started pounding right out the gate. Heart rate increased steadily through each category. The kicker is I've been involved in ministry work for years and for some reason, alot of this junk is till in me -talk about extreme frustration that I wasnt " fully delivered" or completely "set free' like so many I've personally witnessed and rejoiced with. I'm not going to lie, it was hair pulling getting to me and causing me to wonder what the bloody heck was really going on. Something in here pinned the tail on the donkey and confimed I'm not crazy and not to feel bad about the truth of where I am and get some Spirit-led/biblically based counseling. Ok...thank you Mark, in Jesus Name. I genuinely appreciate this.

[@annaandrea8320]

Type 6 There are families that sum up all those characteristics.

[@ovld2023]

We live FROM love - this is the motto that all believers fight for. It's a big battle against the enemy's lies.

[@herdelr4677]

Basically all of them.

[@antonego7950]

Thank you 🎉

[@tango-bravo]

@Mark, is there waiting list for the pending book? If so, I’d like to be added to the list. I don’t see any links on your webpage. Have you considered offering autographed initial copies as a special? If not, would you consider it? I have enjoyed hearing about your process on this book over the last year. Best. -

[@katiesanders96]

No waiting list. But I would love an autographed or personally inscribed copy!

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

I prefer to keep to myself, it was a blessing COVID 19

[@btfields323]

Coming in hot!!! I loved this!❤

[@Kelli2200]

Omg I grew up with all of these 😢 no wonder … God HELP!

[@ivygitau4655]

Number 2

[@jamarionw1344]

Can anybody talk on here about The Laws Of God with me I think I struggle with religious OCD and how do I email mark

[@jamarionw1344]

@Olia Krist what link

[@laurenbatson5918]

@@jamarionw1344 do you mean legalism?

[@laurenbatson5918]

​​@@jamarionw1344 kzbin.info/www/bejne/gqmxk6GCj9yYqsk Maybe?

[@jamarionw1344]

@@laurenbatson5918 the 613 commandments

[@ovld2023]

Neglect - in these times we are dealing with entire cultures that have this problem. Inability to process and handle emotions adequately. I won't be surprised if the number reaches millions in my country at least. Just the usual sin of the human race. Well we have a saviour, and he will solve the problem in time to come.

[@marinvidovic763]

We LOVE You unconditionaly here ...but - your COMMENTS Will be DELETED !!!- if they don't satisfy out ideas and standards !!!

[@ivyadedoyin1459]

God has structure 6 days He worked 7 He rested there was order. Growing in chaos is a problem

[@user-ts1ou2oo2r]

Oh y agrego. Unos niños criados en el “temor de Dios”. Y que alguien se atreva a decirme “Tienes que criar a tus hijos en el Temor de Dios” no…es educarlos y hablarles sobre las realidades de esté mundo. Hablarles de nuestros propios errores. De lo que puede pasar si tomas esta decisión. No decidir por ellos pero que sepan las consecuencias.

[@soioioioioioio34]

agree with everything you say besides the religious bullshit

[@ProfessorBorax]

In europe we're mostly atheist and a relationship with "god" isn't a necessary part a healthy household. Also some cultures have many gods not just one. Disapointing you should put such an amphasis on that, it hurts your credibility :/

[@ProfessorBorax]

Maybe something more neutral like spirituality could cover what you're alluding to.

[@gillessteffen5419]

Interesting but these constant references to god, bible, church and religion makes me annoyed and uncomfortable. I will never watch again.

[@Heaveniswaitingforyou]

His website says: I have years of pastoral experience in large church and small church settings. Today I am passionately teaching people how to experience healing and freedom in their mental, emotional and relationship health. This flows out of my own journey of working through mental health struggles and heart healing. I am passionate about navigating the journey of mental health with biblical perspectives that empower the lives of others. I am a teacher, author and transformational consultant. I love being a husband and father. But most of all, I am God’s child. I am a loved son.