5 Ways to Speak with Wisdom | Wisdom from the Monastery

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Which speech can you continue to improve? Timestamp 0:00 Intro 2:46 Proper timing 5:46 What is said is true 7:09 Spoken gently 9:36 Is it beneficial? 11:20 Spoke with loving-kindness

[@elizabethshingola2787]

Thank you for sharing this wisdom Ven Nick 😊 I’ll be working on improving all areas of right speech♥️🧡💛

[@jacquelineireland2273]

Speaking beneficially. My head spins when people talk about garbage and then repeat the same thing again because I did not give them the response they anticipated. And I especially dislike when people talk....with a mouthful of food. I immediately concentrate only on my plate before me and block out the visual and auditory around me. I've become quite adept at this. I also close my eyes, breathe and meditate while enjoying my food.

[@melissaqualls5774]

Proper Timing! I struggle with this so I need to work on it. Thanks 🙏

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[@Omnikona]

I find this to be one of the hardest paths to practice, emotions can make it so difficult! Very important topic and you've covered it masterfully as always, I always look forward to your uploads as I've learned so much from them. I hope this comment finds you happy, healthy and well my friend ♥

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Aww thank you so much my friend and yes speech is definitely something we need to continually be mindful of.

[@pamelapeterson2987]

I feel what I could work on more, and what I have been working on over the past few years, is the "Is it beneficial" question. I am a teacher at heart (as well as a lifelong student in many areas I'm passionate about) and love to share what I have learned, but now I wait until I am asked before trying to "educate" someone who is not looking to be "educated".

[@behall464]

Thank you so much for your channel THANK YOU Recently I had a realization that seems to be working, at least for me. Many parents of older children ( 30'ish on up) struggle with the way their children are living their lives. I realized that by that age they have heard all the advice and pushing to change what they are doing. They've heard it and life has been a teacher too They are aware of the WISDOM. If we, as parents, move from our 'teaching and parenting' knee-jerk reaction and turn to Loving them and Sending encouragement, it stops another punch of guilt and hopelessness. Remember the incredibleness of this child, we can easily say "I know you are going to figure this out. And I love you." When I tried it, there was a shift of energy between us and 'she is figuring it out' If this is not good advice, please forgive me. Thank You

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You’re welcome ☺️

[@sunnycali1294]

Thank you Ven Nick.. I’m learning so much from you and you have brought me a lot of peace…

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Aww thank you so much. Glad it’s helpful 😊

[@janinehew9944]

With words kindly and gracious I purify my speech…, I wish… I will not give up on this journey…

[@teresitarazote5235]

Yes speak with wisdom is we need our lives

[@nickkeomahavong01]

😊😊🙌

[@peterlawrence738]

Timing Truth Gentleness Value Compassion and humility Preparation of mind

[@Morgan-ky9nh]

Thank you!!!!!

[@AdamGbl95]

I think the ultimate lesson is learning to find and tap into the power and self-acceptance within and not outwardly.

[@danielbedoni4844]

I'm a Brazilian guy who's very interested in Buddhism and Buddhist practices, and I must say that your videos have been making me more aware of this doctrine and more and more interested. From the bottom of my heart, accept my thanks and regards.

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Aww thank you so much Daniel. I’m glad it’s helpful. Please keep going on your path my friend 😊

[@sitmengchue4077]

Of all the CRITERIA, i think the most important CRITERION is timing. Thank you for sharing.

[@purpleicewitch6349]

I love how you phrase it as "they can't hear you" instead unwilling to hear you, or being antagonistic or deliberately difficult like it's all too easy to assume. It makes total sense that if someone is upset or overwhelmed they won't be able to fully process what someone else is saying even if they would otherwise want to. And if I may add a bit to "is it beneficial?" (which is also a good point), that just because the person saying it *thinks* it's beneficial to the person they're talking to doesn't necessarily mean it actually is. It's not always easy to find out that our brilliant suggestion wasn't actually helpful at all, but sometimes it's not and it's no one's fault, it's just life.

[@Michele.3142]

And thoughts are just thoughts-they don’t always have to be front and center. Thank you Ven. Nick for these wise reminders. I have “blurt it out” disease and need to slow myself down to catch myself.🤭Blessings to you🩷🌸🌸🌸🌸🌿

[@nickkeomahavong01]

😆😆😆 yes speech definitely requires effort and mindfulness

[@eddabirchall5530]

Yes, if we‘re more relaxed, open minded, we achieve better results for both sides

[@Maura-u6b]

Thankyou Nick its exactly what I needed to learn today

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Wonderful! I’m glad it’s helpful 😊

[@Maura-u6b]

@@nickkeomahavong01 I watch one video of yours everyday to compliment my meditation practice and I'm getting souch from the teachings 👍🙏 thankyou

[@emilyguo2146]

Thank you for sharing this wisdom! As I was taking notes I also realized that these things apply to speech to ourselves as well, especially the truthfulness (a more objective perspective), spoken gently, and spoken with loving-kindness. Just wanted to put that idea out there for anyone who sees this!!

[@Geemeel1]

Great vid Thank you so much , I always try to remember the words of the Buddha: " speak only if you have to add something to the silence..." I am practicing...😉

[@fugaz171]

right speech is so essential in our path to wisdom and liberation. wonderful teaching bikkhu Nick, thanks

[@nickkeomahavong01]

thank you so much!

[@ליאתבראשית]

Thanks a lot, dear man. You spoke with wisdom. Be blessed.

[@Brohhamm]

your videos have brought me so much insight, thank you very much 🙏🏼

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You're so welcome! Glad it’s helpful 😊

[@lindabeaumier4197]

Good Morning, Nick! Yes, helpful. Thank you! ♥️ L

[@ginahamlyn2569]

Ven. Nick you are my favourite you tuber. I get so much out of what you put into your videos. Thank you so much for all the work and thought that goes into sharing your wisdom.

[@sharonweikel8463]

Thank you for your help and wisdom through your videos.

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are so welcome 😊

[@apeacelily5151]

Anyone else waiting patiently for Ven. Nick's next video? This channel is currently my sangha, so I very much look forward to each new opportunity to learn. Namaste fellow subscribers 🙏

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Aww thank you so much my friend 😊

[@donnamarsh3474]

Beneficial....yes, what i say would be beneficial, but sometimes my partner does not want to take my suggestion or change. Thats when i have to be gentle or be quiet. This is a bit difficult, but i am learning. Thank you for this valuable wisdom. ❤

[@keis9247]

Thank you Ven Nick for this video. I can already think of so many ways I can improve the way I interact with other people. Right timing was a point that I really needed to be honest. I've always found myself talking out of turn, just because something popped into my head. I realise now that before I speak, I must take a moment to reflect on whether this is the right time to speak, or whether I should wait for a better, more appropriate time.

[@blacksootohmy]

I agree that emotions are difficult to manage. But with practice it actually becomes easier and especially with age. I also find to speak plainly or simply helps to negate strong emotions. Thinking black and white helps. The last one is very difficult because I can easily fall into a trap into excuses for our behavior. None of it is easy but I find understanding the world incredibly easy than before.

[@gingersutton8240]

All of your suggestions! My speech has been more times helpful but not always wise. I hav knowingly used it as a tool to my frustrations through a very words. Very unwise many times. Truth: ppl listening & timing as to sharing & sharing w a kind heart should be my focus. Thank you again for your kind guidance…all the way from Disney World.🦋❣️

[@hyywes]

Greetings LP Nick 🙏🙏🙏Namo Buddhaya Namo Dhammaya Namo Sanghaya🙏Namo Amitabha Buddha🙏truth wisdom share right there thank you for the insight and teaching LP Nick 🙏 Have a great week ahead 🙏Sadhu🙏🙏🙏

[@patriciacornish]

Nick thank you! I love your calm voice as it seems all very doable ❤

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Aww thank you so much 😊

[@Kimberly-n9p]

Thank you Nick for taking genuine time to share your wisdom, knowledge, teachings and experiences.

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are so welcome :) thank you!

[@tankl4299]

Thank you for the words of wisdom!!

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are so welcome 😊

[@amaliaruja8947]

Thank you ❤🤗

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are so welcome 😊

[@lynnettecapozio7327]

Good Morning.... I needed to hear this video. I struggle speaking with thought and intention - Your video has given me much to work with and think about.

[@ReaversRespite]

Another wonderful piece of dharma. Speech is such an important interface with the world -- and should be guarded and mindfully sent out or withheld. As a therapist and Buddhist, who focuses on DBT (Zen) interventions, I love how clear and edifying your content is. Be happy, healthy and blessed Nick!

[@joyfulalways3464]

This teaching comes in timely and all the others that Lung Por had taught were all good lessons to learn and practice as a Buddhist. As for the speach, tone and wisom to convey rightly, It is not easy to do so, will still try to exercise on it to get it into my daily systems. Thank you for all your sharings, teachings and being a Mentor to me. 🙏🙏🙏

[@OmFlorinda]

Thank you Ven. Nick. It would be great to remember all of these moving forwards. Namaskar! 🙏💕🌟☮💕

[@rolandlawai9002]

You have really teach me the importance of stillness in life, thank you for sharing your wisdom it means a lot.

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are so welcome :) thank you!

[@katherinepace7369]

Very important topic. Thanks for sharing your wisdom!

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Glad you enjoyed it! Thank you 😊

[@daveec8915]

Crucial insight! I need to ruminate on this topic so much. Bless and thank you 🙏🏿

[@racheljones9786]

Thank you nick. Will be having a difficult conversation on Tuesday. Will bear your teachings in mind as I have listened to you but it's not that easy when you are dealing with controlling trouble makers. I am trying but I'm not at the place you are at,... but I am listening and trying. Will think of you when sitting down and talking calmly without reacting. Thank you 🙏

[@apeacelily5151]

🙏 Thank you Venerable Nick. Your wise words resonate. My speech improves; with more thought, honesty and sometimes, bizarrely, silence.😂 However, I cannot imagine a time when I will be able to go for the difficult conversations - I'm a bit of a coward really and will hold my tongue too often.

[@paulamarsden-robbins4981]

Wonderful wisdom as usual Ven Nick. Thank you for these practical steps x

[@kelleygirl]

Thank you so much for your teachings

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You are very welcome

[@sharkysharpy6233]

Thank you Nick, appreciated 🙏

[@nickkeomahavong01]

My pleasure!

[@mark_______]

Thanks Ven. Nick. Wonderful 🙏

[@eleanorlea3511]

This is so helpful for young and old. Thank you for these words of wisdom 🙏🇨🇦

[@tatahaha4873]

Thanks for the wisdom, Nick. I need wisdom like this

[@midnightmayhem6402]

Ven. Nick your talks are so helpful. Thank you so much ❤️

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You're so welcome!

[@Francisesque]

Happy to hear what you’ll say on this topic! Thank you 🙏🏻

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Thank you so much 😊

[@daniellemarieclarke2965]

Very helpful, thank you!

[@Angelwings0209]

Hey Nick I agree I was told that there is a time and place for everything as always loving your comments and channel 🙏

[@lauraromeroescarcega3079]

Thanks, I appreciate your advice every single time, I love your laugh it makes you so real 😊🙏🏼💯

[@thomass1]

Thank you for all the info. Reading a couple of your books now and they are very helpful

[@nickkeomahavong01]

oh wonderful! I'm glad it's helpful my friend. Enjoy!

[@belkisgarcia2692]

Thank you Nick! Your videos are very helpful for me!

[@anitacarter8060]

This was very helpful ❤🙏🏻

[@tienkiengiang68]

Good evening Sir, sadhu sadhu sadhu ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Sadhu sadhu! Thank you 😊

[@jamesbuckner6536]

Thanks Nick !

[@soonlaykheng2887]

Thank you

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You're welcome ☺️

[@Patchouliprince]

Ah yeah, most conflict in my life arises from my delivery of things, I’m autistic and understanding my own tone and what it sounds like to others is extremely difficult for me. Often people hear a tone they don’t like and refuse to listen to the actual words I am using, like I said it causes majority of the conflicts I experience. It’s good advice, just hard for me personally to hone that skill

[@nerdbamarich2063]

Thank you as always for the wonderful message 🙏🏾

[@reginaanthonypillai7515]

Thanks for sharing your wisdom ido not want to talk any more to anybody what I want to do is meditate🙏

[@orcabytheocean]

As always, amazing.

[@AngDevigne]

Thank you 🙏

[@lillehammerexperimental]

Wow - this is so helpful 🙏🙏

[@nickkeomahavong01]

Wonderful! I'm glad it's helpful :)

[@sofiac4114]

Again, thank you .

[@amare83]

Yay! ❤

[@nickkeomahavong01]

😊🙌🙌

[@bautibhattacharyya8396]

Thankuu so, much, Nick. Wonderful, wonderful, of your, Advice. For, Beautiful heart. Sadhu, Sadhu, Namo, Buddhi. 🙏🙏🙏🙏👍👍🕉🕉🌻🌸🥀🌷❤

[@carmenpellegrinelli9796]

Dear Nick, thank you for this interesting video and your supportive work. I always follow you. If I can give some advice for recording videos, it's best to record not close to the road. Road noise distracts the listener, making the listening experience less fluid and pleasant. Thank you for listening to me and again for these beautiful contributions.

[@keis9247]

I agree with you, the road noise is a little distracting. But we can also use this distraction as a tool. For me, I often have trouble focusing during meditation, so by trying to focus on the words Nick is saying, ignoring the road noise, I am using this small issue or distraction as a tool to improve other aspects of my practice.

[@S1000rrboy]

Nick could you do a video on what brought you to your journey as a monk?

[@adamsd6638]

Please make a video about wisdom, what it is? And what dose it mean? And applications of wisdom 😊

[@thiabrabson2533]

🤔🤭I need to speak 🗣️ more thoughtfully 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡

[@Michele.3142]

I have a question Ven Nick! How do we know if what we might say is helpful ahead of time? Many times I thought the thing I was going to say would help but I’m met with anger or frustration. 😢

[@FifthKnowledge]

My favorite sutra about talking to people is the one that goes through various comparisons like "I won't get angry and he won't get angry and I think I can lift his view up so I will speak." Or "he won't get angry but I will, still I think I can teach him so I will speak." Ending with "He'll get angry and I'll get angry and I don't think I can teach him anything," so then just treat him with common courtesy and say nothing. Lol, I don't think there's any situation they haven't seen in the monasteries in 2600 years.😊

[@ITZBRYAN487]

great video as always venerable Nick. What is the difference between the titles "ajahn" and "Venerable" if I may ask.

[@aneliquirozvillagrana5028]

Ven Nick, is there something called “silent vote” ? How does it work spiritually?

[@_habibir]

Perfectly on time 😂❤

[@johninman7545]

happy Vesak at this time Sangha

[@BulletproofGroove]

Is it worth practicing considering everything you say, before you say it? Like choosing your words wisely, instead of letting an unending stream of mouth-diarrhea flow everyday? I mean, if you said less words, but they were more wisely considered, you'd be heard more, because ppl would know that when you speak, its because you actually have something of value to say? Trying to convey the same message as normally, but with fewer and more wisely chosen words? I dont know if I explained this very well, but what are your thoughts Nick?

[@ButFirstSheMeditates]

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[@CrisBeMe]

Venerable Nick, I would like to ask if you know of any monastery where females can ordain? Thank you very much. Metta

[@nickkeomahavong01]

I do not know of specific ones, but I do know they have programs for women in myramar, sri lanka and taiwan :)

[@monikaolausson4158]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Houdini_Bob]

one way I think about what I say is : would I want what I say/said to be lead news story on local news where all my friends would hear it, or family if you have them

[@ejwrigley]

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[@josephkapremlal5208]

My Brother Do we need to continue deep breathing while meditation or can we just breath normal during meditation. I am confused??? Please help me 🙏🙏

[@nickkeomahavong01]

You can take deep breaths if needed. Once you are calm and relax, you can resume normal breathing :)

[@selinaakter5917]

Nice to see you master i am weiting for your vedio thank you so much.master please tell me why some time don't work menifestition.

[@Leo-fi2mw]

My mind starts racing whenever i wanna meditate. My thoughts seem so loud. Going from one topic to another. Meditation doesnt make em slow down, just make em louder. Your thoughts on this?

[@laura3619]

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[@Kimberly-n9p]

I'm deaf and hard of hearing. I lost my hearing in my 40's.❤ I'm completely deaf in one ear and hard of hearing in my other ear.❤ I've been going to school for ASL. Communication is so difficult for me since I lost my hearing. I truthfully don't want to talk anymore. I don't like to talk to begin with. I'm an introvert by nature. I'm a lone wolf by natural nature. I'm tired of people trying to change how I am naturally. I prefer to write, text or use American sign language. ❤ Please give me some insightfulness, wisdom, knowledge and suggestions on these very difficult circumstances.

[@nickkeomahavong01]

That makes sense why you would want to isolate. Sometimes we need alone time, but also sometimes we need interaction. Just try to find a balance of both :)

[@ZengHuaXiansheng]

What would you do if someone is not allowed to stay in contact with you and you can’t deal with it? If you think that what they told you as a reason is not acceptable for you but you can’t change it anyway? How is it possible to accept it then?

[@AdamOrpen-wo2ei]

Can you tich me how to chanting

[@porvoonosho]

Could you please help me with something? We had a mouse problem in the house, and I was forced to use a lethal mouse trap (nothing else was available, and we had to go to a trip). When I saw the dead mouse in the trap, I've been crying for two hours. The mouse was so beautiful and perfect... I could never even kill a fly. This hurts so much. I really didn't have the right to decide wether it lives or not.

[@sherylgergen6672]

You have a very kind heart. Forgive yourself and move forward. Know that this was a lesson, and it will have a different outcome the next time. (I have the exact same regret)

[@kondojunagaraju8899]

Hi, What is your Favourite Perfume?

[@tommysim2840]

Are you still in Azusa? When would be the best time to visit you? I'm the bhikkhu that wanted to meet you.

[@karenharker1790]

Let's talk less and listen more x

[@aneliquirozvillagrana5028]

Sorry, i meant “silent vow”

[@mohandsss]

One more thing to add: When words comes out of your mouth... Those words are not yours any more ... They become the property of the other person / receiver

[@mohandsss]

Very kind regards to your efforts

[@nickkeomahavong01]

😊😊

[@bObsy.]

:D

[@nickkeomahavong01]

😊😊

[@msanabria8159]

Im sorry VN Nick but I have a doubt.... The alms round???? I mean, village people look like they are the ones that need to receive food and help. They look like poor families to me. Yes, it is alwats good to help others ahare what you have. But it is probably that them people are giving you the food they need to keep themselves healthy. I like your theories, your perspectives, your ways....But regarding that aspect...??😢

[@nickkeomahavong01]

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[@draskogagula2073]

Peace wit you