6 DO'S & DON'TS: Vendor Communication

[@CarolineMAdams]

To be fair, I feel like the road goes both ways. I have had wedding planner tell me for a wedding that was full planning they never charge more than $2200 for a wedding like ours...then the "estimate" comes back as $3400.....soooooo that didn't go over to well. This industry is built on a history of lying to brides and inflating prices

[@sarahmoir3818]

What stresses me out is the fact that I'm getting married in October and after my wedding youll still be putting out videos 😭 I feel like I'll have missed so much good info!!

[@amberleyselesky6700]

Getting married in October and I'm going BACK through all your videos to make sure I haven't forgotten anything! You're the BEST! Please make a video on weather/wind/contingencies! I'm super stressed about it!

[@kailebrogan447]

20 questions you should ask your vendor by jamie wolfer addresses it. Congratulations

[@lexythompson9131]

I WISH I HAD MADE A WEDDING SPECIFIC EMAIL. Especially after a bridal show there was so much spam

[@baileyj8354]

I hadn’t thought of that! What a great idea!

[@BB-bx4dp]

I hope the kitty-cat appears on future episodes

[@immogen7224]

Could you do a video about unusual and unique ideas and things for weddings or unusual things you’ve seen brides do that worked well 🎉

[@stephaniepepiot8450]

I’m getting married next spring and planning my wedding with the master plan! I was wondering if you could do a video on wedding insurance?

[@ashleyeliza0608]

YES!

[@rella713]

In the UK all of the insurance companies have actually suspended their contract offers. We can simply not get an insurance 😓

[@rachel7455]

YES PLEASE

[@barbarafoor7468]

I haven't planned a wedding in 25 years and now my granddaughter wants me to be her planner. I have watched so many of your videos. You are so great at what you do. I'm going to go back and watch them again asking with my note book and and write most of this down. She isn't getting married until June 29, 2024 but I would like to get started early. Thank you so much.

[@AK-jt9gx]

How was the wedding? 💙

[@kelseyalskog]

I’m getting married June 19, 2021 and your videos have been a lifesaver!! Would love to see more DIY videos!! :)

[@Alissaxboyle]

Kelsey Miller yes!!

[@CardboardTriangle2]

Haha I'm getting married the week before. Shes helped so much

[@Ashley-uv5yc]

she's helped me too, we have the same wedding day! haha

[@PurpleKittens619]

That's my 31st birthday! Congratulations. Im getting married October 4th 2021

[@kategoodness5554]

I'm getting married that day too!! Have a gorgeous wedding day!

[@mechellepryor4421]

I’m getting married October 19 2024. Amazing video!!🎉

[@EYTSIRHC1]

Can you do a video about the lamps and the little vase behind you?

[@oliverlovesu2]

I’m a wedding planner and throughout the entire video, I was like can I get an amen!!!!! I love your videos!

[@loveludin]

Can you do a video about all inclusive wedding venues?

[@maddievictoria4947]

Hey there, she has a video about all inclusive wedding venues that she did a year ago it says

[@jacqueleneclark2325]

Our wedding is next October and we have a majority of our vendors all set up. I cannot stress how important it is to stand for your expectations and match the personality of the vendor with yours as a couple. My fiancé and I have a “type” of vendor we are looking for and have found that in every single choice we’ve made.

[@constancew]

wedding was 1.5 years ago and I'm still watching 😂

[@ZaraBizara]

I say this as someone who loves your channel and really benefits from the advice you gave: It sounds like you have too much going on and you have let your KZbin channel about what brought you here in the first place get in the way of your ability to be a good wedding planner.

[@livingwithjennie2989]

That was so relatable about the point of contact as I am a nurse. We get all kinds of cousins, aunts, uncles, etc. call us so we only let patients have 2 points of contact. Helps soooo much!

[@valerielinares2068]

Awww! I like your kitty guest! He (or she) is adorable!! 😍

[@leniqueschreuder3584]

Your hair today, looks amazing. Thanks for all the tips.

[@CassieLino]

Im getting married june 2021 and I have been SO stressed because of the photographer that my mom hired a wedding planner for me (I had spoke to her before but she wasn't in my budget). Oh man I've only had her for 2 days and im already breathing easier!! I cant believe how much I underestimated the stress that comes with wedding planning....it doesnt help that I work full time and go to school full time...I feel so much more confident that I can pull off a couple of DIYs now ^_^ Also I love your hair in this video.

[@AMK544]

Wedding is next weekend and your videos have been such a help! I feel relaxed now and feel like everything is ready!

[@alissabrown1959]

Congratulations!!

[@Skattypip]

WOW! I usually avoid subscribing to mailing lists (because...we all get enough emails lol), but subscribing to Jamie's was totally worth it!!!! Her team sends you relevant advice (related to your stage of planning) and the advice is in chronological order. ^.^ The emails really help guide you through the planning process and the language used is very personable :) I am finding them extremely helpful! Thank you Jamie for making these available free of charge. So happy I stumbled across your KZbin channel!

[@redpanda_ann]

I wish I could hire you for my wedding 😩 you seem so kind and fun

[@Iokksable]

Your videos are helping me so much and I live in a country with very different traditions. My wedding is in a month and I'm doing everything myself...so I just wanted to say a big Thank you! I hope you and your family are healthy 😊

[@TheMichelleasdfghjkl]

Thank you so much for putting out excellent context to help us all. I've been so stressed about planning on top of everything else. Your videos are like a warm hug, that make me feel like everything will be okay. You're the best!

[@cindybennington4821]

Hey Jamie! We have a 3-month of coordinator. Can you do a video with recommendations on how to best organize all of our supplies and decor for day of and month of coordinators? I want to make their lives as easy as possible. Our venue will handle all tables, chairs, and catering. Thank you!

[@graciemay49]

It would be super cool if you did a video on different ceremony add on traditions... such as the knot tying

[@beccamcdouble]

I just want to say thank you for your how to fire vendors video. I was getting super uncomfortable with the florist we had hired and her erratic behaviour/communication. I was able to use your tips to fire her and ended up getting 75% of my deposit back. I also think I've dodged a bullet because it looks like she's no longer accepting bookings and may be going out of business? Concerning considering her services would have been moved to next year with everything Covid.

[@ccroque1]

Yes on the email! This is the first thing we did!

[@ashleyh9430]

Thank you for this! I just finished The Master Plan course yesterday, and we're meeting with our first potential venue on Friday!

[@krystalmoore8585]

Is it to much if I've binge watched every video on this channel in less than 2 weeks 🤣 Also just signed up for the Master Plan. So excited to plan my wedding 😊

[@Emma-ju7lg]

Very helpful! I just have a question: I feel like I am good at planning most details but I just want some design advice, like color of the linens and runners, and what dish wares and silverwares will go well with my table settings, and how to arrange the items I rent from rental company in a pretty way. I don’t think I need the typical full service which handles everything for me. But I want some help in design in addition to DoC service. I am curious usually who is doing wedding design work? The rental company (I mean something like lounge furniture), or florists, or a role like “wedding design”? So many thanks to your videos and really love to see some thoughts on wedding design!

[@notjessaplanner]

Hi Emma, there are some planners that offer both planning and design like myself. If you are doing your wedding on your own and would like to hire a designer to help with this process, planners can help you with that by charging an a la carte service instead of full, partial, or managing it the day of. If you are wanting advice and insight without paying I would highly recommend joined a local bride Facebook group and share pictures of your overall vision. :) They're a really great resource to adding in their opinion.

[@malvikadamle8605]

I look forward to this content. cannot wait to start planning my wedding!!!

[@nicolebarlow8049]

More D.I.Y videos please 😍 also a q&a!

[@ginnymauceri9132]

Thank you for all of this great info! I’m starting to hire vendors and want to be as respectful as possible!

[@annahatton924]

More Monkey please! Also to note: at some point it is too late to keep making changes with your vendors. I'm a wedding entertainer and had an occasion where I was already en route to the venue when I got a phone call asking if I could change the music (ie: creating a completely different set) and send it to them in a different file format from what had been agreed on earlier. Since I was already in the car, I didn't have the computer equipment with me I would have needed to change file formats, let alone the time to create a whole different set from the one we'd already agreed on.

[@notjessaplanner]

I'm not a lawyer, but I would recommend to add a section in your contract that states X amount of days prior to the date of event no changes can be made to the music list. OR this will result in an additional fee. It would be unfair for you to put in so much time and effort in creating a music list then have to do it all again, but with a huge time constraint. Hope that makes sense. :)

[@haleymcbroom200]

I would LOVE for you to talk about rehearsal dinner planning... such as what needs to be done, what to avoid, etc.

[@allcoll557]

When I saw this video title I was so excited! I got to the end and still had a question. I booked my vendors for April 2021, I feel like I should talk to them every now and then just to remind them who I am? Is that weird, I just don't want to be forgotten but I don't want to be annoying either!!

[@sarahmoir3818]

Omg I get that! I have vendors I haven't spoken to in a couple months and that stresses me out. Should I text them and say 'hey what's up'?? 😅😅

[@allcoll557]

@@sarahmoir3818 exactly!! That's exactly what I'm thinking too 😅 I try to comment of their FB uploads but I feel like a stalker

[@SaidiLouise]

OMG!!.....I did it!! I text my hair and makeup artist at SEVEN IN THE MORNING!!! I was prepping my text to send later and just hit send out of habit!!!

[@chrisk4053]

My daughter is getting married next year. After seeing your videos we are definitely getting a wedding planner. I wish you lived by us 😊

[@tilarfifield2407]

Such a great video Jamie! I wish I had this info for myself because I can be a bit overbearing and forget I’m not the only person someone is working with 🤣 In August I’ll be married for a year and I just want to add I’m so grateful for all the awesome information you share on this channel! We wouldn’t have been able to pull off the wedding we had without Jamie’s internet help.

[@alainaswanner2688]

I’m getting married next Saturday, this would’ve been so helpful!! ♥️

[@sum12sumwhere]

Right now my venue, local community center, is closed. Theyve been the only vendor to not have the best communication right now because they arent there All summer events and programs were cancelled, hoping my October event can still happen

[@alexisvoyles7218]

I need a video on how to help if I have to coordinate my own wedding?? Help me! Please

[@user-emilyyyy]

If you scroll through some of Jamie’s older videos, she has several about how to plan your own wedding without a coordinator! They’re all amazing :) She also has a course on her website you can purchase called the Master Plan. It’s like a virtual wedding planning guide made by Jamie for us

[@lexythompson9131]

@@user-emilyyyy She has a lot of videos with planning without a coordinator, but she specifically has a video saying you can't be a coordinator at your own wedding, sharing her wedding as an example. Even if you don't have a planner (we don't), you some type of day of coordinator to do things like time your entrances, guest movements between locations etc

[@karissakeil8441]

Thank you for the videos that you make. But do you have any advice for someone who is wanting to start her own event and wedding planning buisness? Could you make a vidoe on how to start a wedding and event planning buisness?

[@Neon_Medusa]

I've seen several suggestions on who shouldn't be taking calls before/during ceremony but like who are guests supposed to call with questions if not the couple, bridal party, parents or coordinator?!

[@ambermcdonald8690]

Do you have advice for couples having the ceremony and reception in the same room?

[@bethanywarnock5242]

Any advice on leaving vendor reviews? -If I interviewed with a vendor and they were responsive and professional and wonderful BUT I ended up hiring someone else wonderful, can I leave the vendor that I DIDN'T hire a positive review? (Or does that look bad because I didn't hire them?) -How to leave an honest but negative review for a vendor who is nice.. but takes a weeks/months/never replies to emails and almost always has a reason why they are late/don't call for scheduled meetings.

[@chelseaconnolly4884]

Love your videos! Would love to see a video on what moms need to help or do or can help with! My mom and I are super close but when it comes to wedding planning it hurts that she isnt involved. She doesn't know how to help and when I talk to her about things she goes im not crafty or its been 25 years... Well ive never been married so im not sure what im doing. What can moms do to help or be involve rather than a check?

[@mixzyprue]

Omg that is seriously me with texting 😭 i'm not alone!!

[@Kaibigan39]

This was great- THANK YOU!!

[@monMoments]

Need help on choosing Band or DJ or spotify - any tips?

[@caitlinclaflinmongillo6021]

Monkey is adorable!

[@rachelcox791]

I love your videos ♥️

[@ambercaly4368]

Can you PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE do a honeyfund video. I am struggling with how to go about doing it! HELP!

[@samanthavoss2229]

Jamie!! Question. Im having a destination wedding. I paid for FULL SERVICE destination wedding planning with my planner which included communication with all vendors, day of, access to online planning etc. Due to covid pandemic, my planner has been out of office and in the meantime I had to book half of my vendors on my own which is part of what I am paying her for. I don't want to be rude but I feel like I shouldn't have to pay the full amount because I did half of the biggest part of the work with communicating and setting dates and contracts with vendors. Should I just let it go? I don't want to make things awkward! But I just feel like I did not get what I paid LOTS of money for. heelppp

[@samanthavoss2229]

Also I completely am aware of other people's situation and mine is not as important right now, but I am just looking for an email back! I just feel like I am going to be ghosted :(

[@CarolineMAdams]

Interested in that one...

[@macim8813]

Could you get a wedding planner for your elopement? Do people do that?

[@notjessaplanner]

Oh for sure, especially after this pandemic a lot of planners have converted to offering elopement/intimate wedding packages. :)

[@annejia5382]

*Love yoooou jamie* 💖

[@itszeerah]

Newly engaged gal here! I’m beginning my wedding planning and am wondering if I should settle on a wedding planner or venue first? Is there an order to these things??

[@midnightmave]

What's the best way to address issues with a vendor? To make a long story short, we had to do the engagement photoshoot in two parts. We were told we'd get a preview of the photos one week after and then have all the photos in a month. It's been the full month and we haven't seen any photos. My fiancé has already reached out to the photographer and they said they were working on them, but I'm worried that we'll soon have to discuss other alternatives... Help!

[@itsnikkibell]

Quick question, do you have to have a reharsal dinner? If so, what do you do? I've seen so many resources but it doesnt really make sense

[@lovemarisol9711]

Yes please! I have the same issue.

[@Sky-Child]

Didn't have a rehearsal dinner, but my wedding was quite relaxed. Will be doing the same for my second wedding. It might be worth doing if you have a lot of complicated details/timings or a huge bridal party

[@mariahdinovo6372]

Any recommendations: we had a wedding cruise planned for September and a local party in October. Due to the virus our cruise is canceled and therefore we are going to put something together here on the week in September that we planned to be married. How do we approach telling all of our guests that the old plan is out and there’s an entirely new plan??

[@EYTSIRHC1]

I have no idea how much things cost to know about a budget. My venue says 1,000-3,000 on their website and they’re my parents’ friends / neighbors and it’s an all-inclusive venue. I have a lot of friends who are photographers and deejays because I used to be a competitive ballroom dancer and a singer. I have a friend who bakes and decorates like Cake Boss. My grandmother is a seamstress and tailor. I know quite a few pastors. I know and have several friends who sing and play instruments. I want to give people I know business, but it might be rude to pick one person and not others. It also might make things cheaper. I don’t want to invite more than 40 people. I think I can do a small budget, but I have no idea how much things cost. Is a cake $100 or $1,000? I don’t know.

[@rebeccakings754]

Dang...should have made the wedding email!

[@moothehappycow]

I am so frustrated with my one vendor. She is doing my florals and is helping me find other vendors since she also does coordinating (I didn't hire her for that since money is tight). She takes forever to get anything to me, she will say I'll send this to you tonight then I have to message her two days later asking where it is. My wedding is in less than 3 months and I don't have all my vendors booked yet so I am stressing and she is just frustrating me with how unprofessional she is being. I already paid a deposit otherwise I might have fired her by now. Ugh, I don't know what to do.

[@courtney22love]

Ohhh my goodness, that’s my photographer. Takes forever to respond! Getting married in October so I’m just choosing to push thru...

[@ktmkj1]

Im getting married next march (2022) I have been planning for 6 months and have almost a year to go, do I bother to make a wedding email? I only have have 2 vendors booked so far.

[@owynvowell4578]

Bad at texting✅, talking fast✅, talking till someone's ears bleed ✅ repetitive ✅ think we might be the same person.

[@astrea79]

I keep getting so much crap for telling people you can't lie to your vendors that your wedding is "an anniversary party". I'm not even a wedding vendor but I know it's bad business to not be truthful with your vendors about the event your having. As long as you're clear what your budget is, you don't have to worry about your vendors overcharging you.

[@aleeshapassey3392]

Love your videos, im in australia and i am in a predicament some of my guests do not drink beer or wine so i wanted to offer signature cocktails provided by my partner and I some guests who drink beer and wine have said this may cause issues as they would like a cocktail too please help! What is your opinion we want all our guest to have fun and be accommodated for but we also cant afford for everyone to have cocktails at our expenses

[@holleybede215]

We’re doing the same thing. Our venue is letting us send them the signature cocktail recipes and they’ll be mixing them for us and serving but, basically, when signature cocktails run out, they run out. We just told our venue how much we could put towards signature cocktails so they’ll make as much as they can with what we are able to afford. Good luck!! I hope that helps some. It’s impossible to make everyone happy, we can only do so much with already having to pay for so much.

[@aleeshapassey3392]

@@holleybede215 its more that were happy to pay for cocktails for only our guests who do not drink beer or wine however that seems to have upset or could upset our other guests who drink beer and wine that they will not be allowed to have cocktails as well

[@notjessaplanner]

I love that idea of having mock-tails. You can create a menu so they can see their options. This actually saves you so much money as opposed to having alcohol and sometimes less is more. If you give guests so many options sometimes it makes things complicated. Great thinking!

[@ashleyb6491]

And please, PLEASE let your potential vendors know if you’ve decided against going with them, especially if they’ve got the date reserved for you. As a professional wedding violinist, I cannot count how many times I’ve been ghosted by a bride or groom after we’ve communicated about what they want and have sent the contract. I understand if you don’t want to go with me. I’m not for everyone, and I don’t fit everyone’s dream or budget. I promise, as a professional, I will understand. Just please don’t ghost us.

[@randomstrangerrr]

PLEASE HELP! Hello! I really need your input because I don’t know what to do. I signed my contract with my venue and read it through. They only say on the contract that vendors must present their insurance. It doesn’t mention any other restrictions. I also asked the planner that was helping me book the venue if there were any restrictions on who I can hire as a vendor and he said they just have to be insured and licensed. Now the venue sales person finally contacted me after a week. By now I’ve already hired my DJ and photographer. She told me that I had to use their preferred vendors list. If I bring an outside vendor they have to approve of them (understandable) and I have to pay a $300 fee for each outside vendor. But that wasn’t in the contract! I don’t want to pay an extra $600 for no reason when I’m trying to save money where I can. What do I do?

[@christieho2797]

“I have the contract you provided and what you’re asking, and the fees being charged, is in violation of your contract. I will not bring those fees but I will have my vendors provide their insurance, per our contract”. I’d say something like this

[@Mz.Marianne]

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[@anggieperez8584]

I’m so sorry to unsubscribe but I had to end my engagement and I can’t bring myself to keep watching your videos 😫