6 Life Goals You Shouldn't Waste Your Time On

In this video, I dive into six life goals that society often glorifies but aren't truly worth your time or energy. Explore why these commonly pursued aspirations might not lead to the fulfillment and happiness you're seeking. Instead, lean into my perspective ... it might bring more meaning and satisfaction to your life!
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[@gatewayz75]

I had a wealthy boss once who said money isn’t everything when I was trying to get a modest pay rise for a minimum wage employee who was struggling financially, I told him that only a financially secure person would ever say that, money is seriously important if you’re just scraping by and have medical bills.

[@always_b_kind]

That's why I detest the "get rich" attitude of some people. They do it on the backs of others. Slavery is not dead.

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

🎯💯🎯🎯💯

[@istoppain62]

Look up Maslow’s hierarchy

[@always_b_kind]

​@@istoppain62 I'm familiar. Why do you mention it?

[@ladyd8028]

Money is a tool that I need. It's not the main thing, though.

[@thisismyyoutubeaccount3322]

1:55 - Being number one at work - spend time with your family instead 3:20 - Big flashy wedding 4:16 - Building a big dream house - build yours, not what society says you should have 6:06 - Big city living 7:39 - Becoming a millionaire - shoot for financial security instead 9:06 - Being a health icon

[@frankgradus9474]

thanks awfully, that's a huge help

[@bonnacon1610]

The ADHD nation thanks you.

[@rudyspective1870]

Thank you!

[@dsstudio76]

I dropped the number 1 just recently! I’m 48 though. 😅

[@dsstudio76]

Disagree about the last one. I love feel good, have energy and being healthy and happy. Exercising since 18 and my looks are not the number one goal. 😊

[@fruitypopwhickle6806]

Health is wealth. Seeing people age with lots of preventable illnesses is heartbreaking. Eat healthy and walk often, people!!!

[@ladybird491]

Walking often is not needed.

[@Suryeon55]

100 true! Intermittent fasting and walking is the best medicine for me personally

[@thatswhatisaid8908]

Good advice which I should heed!

[@CaraLiebe]

so true! I am dealing with this right now in my family, and it is so sad to go through.

[@jamilgotcher365]

Fruity, many people don't have walkable neighborhoods. Even neighborhoods that used to be walkable are becoming unwalkable due to pitbulls and rottweillers. Most people don't have time to go for a walk, if they're like me, they own their own business and are taking care of their parents and also helping an adult child with their business as a part time team member when needed. It's a lot. I'd be to terrified to walk in our neighborhood with the dogs that are in the neighborhood now. I'm so worried that one of them will get out someday and attack children on their walk home from school or an elderly neighbor going to pull the garbage can back to the house.

[@shanbush4127]

Things I’ve found that are overrated by age 51: marriage, working 60 weeks to get ahead(when you leave or retire, they forget you lol), long hair, having an expensive car/clothes/house. I could go on but being single the past 15 years and having traveled solo around the world and done my own thing, I’m definitely with the person I’m supposed to be with…me!

[@douca1]

Before I retired I spent thousands of dollars on my hair color and style. Now I wear my long hair up or in a pony tail or braids, get it cut once a year. I'm saving lots of money and the vanity is gone.

[@Scott-xf5xb]

Marriage? CAT LADY! WE HAVE A CAT LADY!

[@shanbush4127]

@@Scott-xf5xb LOL no cats....yet!

[@jadebayliss9388]

I agree about marriage. I’m still with the love of my life (just about to turn 51!) but have been disillusioned probably since having our baby (now 14 yr old boy). It’s like suddenly you understand what all the feminists were talking about! How come I’m responsible for practically everything? Why am I constantly doing laundry and dishwashing? I’m so tired.

[@maryr6300]

Love that!!!!!❤

[@annm.4353]

The best decision I’ve ever made is to be child free. I never felt the urge to have children so I didn’t, despite the societal pressure. Hubby and I are in our early 40s now so the questions have mostly stopped. We only have one life. Live it the way you want as much as possible.

[@MariannaV]

My husband and I are in our 60’s and never had children. No regrets regardless of pressure to please society

[@kithu1231]

Atleast you guys got married, that by itself is an achievement friends I didn't even get married due to personal reasons..I am 36 now.

[@MariannaV]

@@kithu1231 I was nearly 35 years old when I got married.

[@deborahcouzensVEGAN4animals]

I agree 👍 I'm 60 and made that child free decision very young. I was always told I would feel differently WHEN I had children never IF. I've been very happily married and dedicated to my animals and animal welfare. Like you once I reached a certain age questions became less and accusations of being selfish. I love animals and support many but surely my way is my decision and all we need is respect. Just as I value and respect others who decided to have kids. Live and let live to everyone 😊❤

[@ckdraws410]

If you do want to get married, it’s not too late. If you don’t want to get married, that’s all fine and good, but don’t think you can’t get married now (or several years down the line) just because you’re a little older than when most people get married. I wish you the best

[@iviaqua]

Finally, I found out what my life goal is, Freedom. Freedom to sit around doing nothing and not feel guilt, freedom to drive my crap car but have no car payment, freedom to call in just because I want to cuddle with my kids. Freedom to wear no makeup and feel beautiful. Freedom to be a single mother and not live with guilt. Everyday I strive to be free which has given me more fulfillment, not easy but worth it. No more trying to be number one, or 100lbs, or in a loveless relationship. Great video❤

[@Chrystal-nt2wc]

👏Cheers to freedom, happiness, and peace!...

[@jonathanmchugh5978]

26 years in a loveless relationship. I’m still here and i don’t know why. Kids are adults and I still take grief everyday. Why why why

[@dsstudio76]

Same here! 🙌🏻♥️

[@HUEHUEUHEPony]

Carmerican take

[@shahzaib4011]

All the best to you and your kids. Calling in sick to cuddle with your kids is a dream I'm looking forward to as a dad!

[@Cindy-bee]

Why do we need goals in retirement? I had a demanding career in nursing. I missed many many family events, holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving due to my shift work schedule. Work involved emotional and physical demands which took a toll including my marriage. Now that | am finally able to go to bed when I like, cook what I want and wake up when I want why do I need to make even more demands on my time? I wake up and unless I have an appointment or lunch/dinner plans my day is my own to live. I like that.

[@paula-pw7yd]

It’s like I could have posted this! It’s me but from the UK. I’m loving how my days are unfolding without time constraints or the need to be anywhere in particular.

[@Cindy-bee]

@@paula-pw7yd Exactly. We deserve this so enjoy it.

[@kathyoliva6966]

Same! 😁👍

[@sharonslocum9422]

I had a 40 yr career in nursing. Yup. It about did me in..Left 1 yr ago without a plan b or enough money. But now stressfree finally. Working PT at an Assisted Living facility at much less pay, but enjoy my days now. No acute care,yeah!

[@Cindy-bee]

@@sharonslocum9422 40 years for me also. I left because of a major health event. Gave up my license and never looked back. Money is tight now but my freedom is priceless. Glad you found a place to enjoy working at. When the time comes you will appreciate your free time.

[@drbettyschueler3235]

I haven't achieved any of these goals but I have had a fabulous life. My husband and I decided early on to forego wealth for family. That pretty much nixed all the other life goals you mention. We exchanged a big wedding for getting through college. We gave up a fancy house for a sturdy one that could handle a lot of foster children. We worked jobs that allowed us lots of time with our kids. We never cared for city life, so never lived there, but lived close enough to visit regularly. I'm now a widow with a large extended family. I'm not rich but I'm not poor either. At 80, I feel blessed that I had such a great life and look forward to more adventures in the future.

[@ezb6798]

One theme that emerges from this video is: do what actually fulfills you, not what somebody else tells you will be fulfilling. Nobody - not your family, not your teachers, not some stranger on social media, not society at large - knows the answer for you; you have to find it for yourself. And I would add that it’s extremely liberating to not care about the opinions of other people who are baffled by or critical of your choices.

[@olive4naito]

Yes. Do it because it makes you happy. 😊

[@skooshy621]

This is very well put. Being of free and independent mind has always been a joy and a delight in life, but even more so with every day as I age. I am profoundly appreciative of this. Sometimes, parts of this have been sore challenged by (some) others in my life, so I have had to defend my right to be of independent mind, and learn to deal with that not being popular. I have found that those I truly love and who truly love me have stuck by me on this, as I have stuck by them. It is one mark of being a responsible adult . . . and of being human.

[@kaasmeester5903]

I don’t think it’s wrong to care about the opinions of others… within reason. As long as you don’t let yourself get pressured into trying to be someone you’re not. And you’re right about having to find out for yourself. As a wise man once said: you can be anything you want, you just have to know what that is.

[@billwoods5406]

That is awesome advice!

[@hansowerydberg]

After I turned 40, I began to avoid meaningless achievements. Haven't regretted it!

[@janmillerstopmotion]

I’ve decided that extensive travel is less important than living where I really want to and taking road trips.

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

Totally agree with this, explore your own backyard, act like a tourist in your own town there's plenty of things to experience locally that you forget to try because you live there

[@dreamscape405]

​@@Kelly-oe8krAGREED 🥂💃

[@dreamscape405]

AGREED 🥂💃

[@josh3221ify]

I hate airports, and airport drama.

[@RJ12347]

Girl if you're broke just say that...

[@jeanhowell9353]

I am a 73 year old woman. I married at 17 ( still married to the same man). Have above average number of children. A bed of roses? Hardly, but it has been probably 90% good. We are square pegs in a world that is mostly round holes. I believe one road to contentment is choosing what you and yours want NOT what “the majority” thinks you should be doing. Trying to fit into someone else’s ideas of what we should be doing is a terrible waste. Life is short. Be kind. Help when you can. Just don’t turn yourself into a pretzel to fit in. I sincerely enjoy your messages. I wish you well.

[@tom18410]

Good video! Regarding the dream house from a 69 year old single guy, I built mine three years ago. Designed it myself to age in place, 1800 square feet single story ranch. No tub! The shower is 5 feet by 5 feet. Half the house is living space with one bedroom, other half is one car garage and wood working shop. You are spot on about making the most comfortable life for yourself!

[@karenfabiano5980]

The house I bought in 2017, my forever home, use to belong to a bachelor. Nugget ice maker, outbuildings galore (all with wood wrapped windows), pizza oven and fireplace in the pavilion, an adult treehouse that is better than the Tree Master... with a three bedroom rambler. Things I would not have dreamed of including but SO VERY thankful. It feels like he build the property with ME in mind, yet I never met the man.

[@muma6559]

@@karenfabiano5980 how sweet is that ! Enjoy

[@KeithandPamBilyeu]

Pam here….personally I think the so called ‘life coaches’ have done so much damage to people’s psyches…pushing them to pursue passions, start businesses, leave boring jobs, ect…. This has sent so many down roads of risky, high stress choices, put them in debt and made them Chuck relationships rather than work on the issues in them. So many have wound up broke, struggling and alone.

[@spicychickpea3477]

As a 25 year old, I agree

[@anabeatrizdiniz1]

Totally agree

[@alishafarmer7674]

I'm not sorry, the thought of spending my life working at a dull job and never pursuing passions or taking chances that may or may not pay off, would feel like a wasted life to me, and a waste of the gift of free will.

[@milesandjohnsadventures]

I think people need to take stock of themselves and go with their gut instincts. I think people sometimes give up on themselves too soon.

[@emc6511]

@@alishafarmer7674 I think her point was the "life coach" aspect. As in being "led" vs her own intuition, perhaps

[@1wholovestrees]

Years ago, when I was a single mom, I was working for an attorney who was quite impressed with my work. He wanted me to study under him so I could, in two years, take the bar exam and become a member of the firm. It was tempting! It took me just one day to decide, and I came back to him and said, “It would require a lot of time away from my child”. He completely understood and I’m forever grateful.

[@selinsu5790]

Im 26 and its so refreshing to hear the perspective of a real wiser person here on yt

[@erikaquijano3075]

My happiness is traveling to new places, enjoying tea time with my loving husband every afternoon, walking in the forest, cooking for my husband, watching my favorite TV shows at night, taking care of my plants and knowing that my loved ones are doing well. This is all that I need to be happy every day. I love my simple life!

[@alexandrailnyckyj6059]

😂😂😂 laughed my head off!!! “ why should I keep a tub for a mythical stranger who may want a tub in the future”

[@ajwells322]

Jenn, I bought my dream house in 2017 when I was 47. I bought a brand new manufactured home and was able to customize a lot of features. Not everyones dream, but it was mine. 7 years later, I have no regrets!

[@elizabethinnb]

I agree with your last point about being fit and eating grilled fish. At 61 I bought my first and only house and looked forward to being outside and gardening, doing yard work, building things. However, I have found that I cannot reach and maintain that goal if I don't put eating well and exercising at the top of the list. I don't feel well and I am prone to injury. I began to realize that if I didn't hit my home gym every day and eat grilled fish, whole grains, and fresh veggies I would not be able to take care of the house and do the yard work and gardening, and would be back in an apartment. I love being able to go out and water the plants, tend the vegetable beds and small orchard, weed the flower garden I planted, prune the bushes, and mow the lawn. So my goal is exercise and eat better in order to do that for a lot longer.

[@juliebecker5238]

This!

[@lonefaolan6042]

❤❤❤

[@owenwilson6737]

💯 I have similar goals with my health and fitness - to be fair though I could be doing more. Injuries gave me a glimpse of what it would be like to lose my independence and I don’t want that, so I’m staying active so that I can do things around my house to keep it maintained. I plan to move into something easier to care for in the next year or two, budgets allowing and planets aligning. Wherever I end up I will go with a smile, the aim is to not end up in any higher level of care than an independent living unit.

[@Lourdes-A.]

The older we get, the more we have to work at staying healthy. Stay active every day, unless you are sick. Keep on eating healthy because it will pay off. I am 68, but find that I have to exercise at home every day: whether cardio, or lifting weights. I also fast power walk every night 3 miles, doing lots of uphills. If I didn’t do this, I would have health problems. However, staying on top of my exercise routine, keeps me in shape, keeps my blood pressure and cholesterol low enough that I don’t need medication - yet.😁It also keeps my mind sharp- for my age- as well as giving me lots of energy to do yard work, wash windows and all the housework. Keep up your exercise and healthy eating! It will pay off. Congratulations on your new house!👍🏻

[@brigitteleafbarnes1441]

Strongly disagree with this video's final point! HEALTH is wealth. Most Aging Adults (and all ages for that matter) live a sedentary SAD (Standard American Diet) life -- which woefully compromises their quality of life. Nutrient dense meals, some walking/ moving & some calisthenics/ weight bearing exercise helps strengthen & cushion bones from catastrophic life-ruining falls

[@marhlfld1]

Since childhood all I wanted to do is ride horses, teach riding and train horses. My parents said that horses should be my avocation and choose something else that I could fall back on if the horses didn't pan out. So I went into the corporate world as an executive secretary and pursued climbing the corporate ladder. I hated it. The people at the top weren't necessarily brillant or had common sense. There was always someone trying to climb over top of you or pull you down. I finally quit and went into horses fulltime. No, didn't become a millionaire, but my sense of accomplishment was fulfilled. After 28 years of marriage, I quit that too. I was not fulfilled there either. There were good times and bad, but unfulfilling., I prefer to be on my own. I haven't got my dream home yet, but it will come. A single level craftsman style is my choice. Never liked the cities. I'm a country girl. My dream is to have a home, where I can just garden, play with my dogs and do things on my own schedule. I retired from horses after 50 years and now a dog groomer. I have tons of friends and clients, but at the end of the day, I'm alone with my dogs. I'm the happiest right there. I can work as hard and often as I want. If I want to spend a day reading a book, no one interrupts me. Well, except for the dogs... lol... potty breaks and play time.

[@northstar4851]

Good for you!!🎉

[@PiggyLong-zz6uw]

Get that horse😀

[@Missrere1984]

I love how you have a picture of you and a horse as your thumbnail 😃

[@bluebonbon22]

Dog grooming is a great choice. I groomed from 1972 - 2022. Now I am exploring my creative side, creating art, involved with a group of other artists. One of my life goals was having long hair. Now that I am retired and I have an easy routine, I have my long long hair, way down my back. I'm 76 and I'm looking forward to lots of fun, I love living in Los Angeles, and explore all areas of L.A. from Hollywood, to the beach, to all the rest. I love living in a big city.

[@reckonerwheel5336]

Beautiful pic of you and your horse in your profile! ❤

[@user-vu9gd8ed1h]

Agree with everything besides the health part. Sweating, moving your body, working out and eating majority healthy with some fun of course is the key to a truly fulfilling life, less doctor visits and bills, the ability to walk or hike in those big cities you love, and be alive to enjoy your family and friends. And much much more. Everything in moderation.

[@douca1]

I had a soaking tub that I never used. Remodeled the bathroom and made a large shower. If needed I can put a chair in there and there's a grab bar. My other bathroom has a standard bath/shower set up. I also bought a house with no upstairs or downstairs. I know too many people who couldn't do stairs anymore and put their bed in the living room. It pays to think ahead when you live alone. A good handyman is important.

[@Kelly-oe8kr]

Embracing my grey hair. I don't care what others think, I'm not looking to impress others. I'm not going to spend $100+ at a salon to dye my hair only to have it grow out in 6 weeks

[@egl3369]

Yep! If men don't have to dye it, why would women have to?

[@HeronCoyote1234]

I inherited a little bit of money from a relative. I live frugally. That allows me to give to charities I feel strongly about (like charity: water), and help people I know who genuinely need the assistance (like paying a deductible for a friend battling cancer). People who spend money on yachts and multimillion dollar apartments leave me scratching my head. If you have more than enough to live comfortably, why not do something useful for those who could benefit from your generosity?

[@sharongillesp]

Exactly! The original wisdom for wealthy was the blessing to be generous, by helping to make life better for those around you.

[@leontinen9689]

Most wealthy people do give to charity.

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

I focus on things that I enjoy like getting outdoors. Reading. Walking. Craft.

[@LochBriarKnits]

I completely agree on the skipping the big wedding. Now, granted, I was in my early 40s when I finally got around to getting hitched (I was like you - happily single, no plan on getting married - then one day at work my husband showed up and ruined all my plans 🙂), but we got married in my parents living room with just my immediate family and then then 10 of us went to a nice restaurant for dinner. No fuss, no muss and we all had a great time. My husband and I both love to travel, so we wanted to spend the money that would have been spent on a big wedding to go on a trip. We spent our honeymoon in Prague and I have never regretted it for a minute!

[@Airbaggeneration]

I love it! Such an amazing way to meey your future husband 🙂

[@singing4hope]

it actually also saves the awkwardness among the guests who don't know each other at a big wedding

[@kaohsiung99]

Cool post!

[@josh3221ify]

How do men find women that think this way? Because it's always the woman who want a big wedding. Men would be happy spending $200 on rings (both), wearing clothes they already have and less than $2000 on the venue.

[@singing4hope]

@@josh3221ify because most men these days are too caught up with looking for the perfect women who look good on the outside

[@Noreenlee1]

Our wedding cost $380, including my dress. We've been married for 44 really happy years. I'm trying to "suggest" to my grandkids that the current mindset about weddings is ridiculous. So far, I'm not succeeding, but I still have time.

[@paula-pw7yd]

There’s nothing more intimate than a simple wedding with the focus on the couple making their vows in front of the people that are important to them ( or not!) then enjoying one another’s company within a budget they can afford. Perfect!

[@anonz975]

Just be glad that they want to get married especially if they will have kids.

[@refineme]

My wife and I got married for free at a shotgun wedding event during Valentine’s Day. At lunch a bunch of judges gave their time to marry many couples for free. We had a few family and friends join us. We even got featured on our local media for the event.

[@brightphoebesays]

You're so lucky! It's all about picking the right partner, and you have to have healthy psychology to do that. My wedding, if you can call it that, it was a civil service, cost nothing, I didn't have a dress and I always regretted that. I'm divorced now, but don't think I'd ever marry again. No dress, no husband, sad. I know where I went wrong now but it's too late to fix it.

[@jennywren8937]

​@@brightphoebesays Still time to enjoy a nice dress and enjoy the rest of your life. All the best.❤

[@helensavvides6582]

The most powerful statement I have ever heard is 'know thyself'. Taken me 60 years to really understand that, and am now embracing. I know I don't like excessive noise, love alone time, am almost always willing to help, hate dying my hair, love good food, reading, family, friends,..........the list is endless. Slightly chagrined to say that my 7 year old self knew most of this...........just got very disracted by what I thought I 'ought' to be.

[@grabowskycountry]

Design how you want to live, yes oh yes. We are retired & have a handicapped daughter that lives with us. We ordered a walk in tub to be installed as it is her joy and her bathroom. A family member said “The resell of your house will go down with that!” Pardon me… it’s not a House it’s our HOME. Have never regretted the smile on her face with the independence this one simple act has given her. Plan your lives yes for sure but always Live your life. Cheers to many tomorrows 🍻🇨🇦

[@paula-pw7yd]

❤

[@jojorey6886]

My marriage has been one of the best decisions I’ve made and it only cost us $50 for JP and we’ve been married 44 years. The other best decision I’ve ever made was becoming a Christian 38 years ago which is why I’m still married today. I think love is most important and being kind to people is something I strive to do because people need that and it’s free. I worked in a nursing home when I was 20 years old and that’s when i realized that in the end you end up with a broken body, one draw of personal belongings and no visitors.

[@hp-cs7mx]

Oh your last sentence is so true ! Good health in old age is extremely valuable. And being good company to yourself.

[@lynnmarieanderson1744]

Many people out there want and need steady visitors. I’ve both worked and volunteered in an assisted living center and a convalescent home for a long time. It was hard to leave, one woman who had grown fond of me started crying. A lot of the people there do appreciate steady visitors who care and aren’t students with name tags just coming there for a class assignment.

[@trinasyoutube]

I just turned 57 & the whole life “goals” thing is something that’s totally overrated. I just want to be free from all of the b.s. standards placed on us by society or religion. Group think is a dangerous thing.

[@meridabowes3796]

Loved the gates with the gilded pigs! I am a widow after 40 years of married life. I have a small house that I have veen renovating for myself. My mythical buyers will be house flippers so I am doing what I want and meets my needs. I really enjoy your channel.

[@TinaHBeautifulJourney]

Thought provoking video today. One thing I kept in mind when I was working in the corporate world, if something happened to me, they would replace me within a month and move on without a glitch. However, for my family, it would leave a hole forever. So I chose to focus my time and energy where I would be most missed. Work was a means to an end, pay the bills so I could enjoy my life. It was not my life.

[@douca1]

I always put my work first and that was a big mistake for me.

[@leafylifedownunder]

Thank you for sharing. Your comment was timely for me.

[@TinaHBeautifulJourney]

@@leafylifedownunder I'm glad it was helpful to you.

[@leafylifedownunder]

@@TinaHBeautifulJourney I just walked away from my position with a company I'd been with for 6 years - I left my 6 figure income behind. It's been a messy process but I feel like I've been losing bits of my soul for years. I had to make the leap and will be pursing my passion for plants.

[@TinaHBeautifulJourney]

@leafylifedownunder praying for abundant blessings as you take this step. Change is hard and scary. But plants are awesome! I never could keep them alive when I was raising kids. But now, I am discovering I actually do have slightly green thumbs and my plants are thriving. You could start a channel documenting your journey from corporate life to plant guru!

[@luisa146]

I'm young, not 30 yet, but I'm so grateful for older women on youtube, please keep doing what you do, the internet is saturated with young people, many of them are great, they have great points and sometimes good advice, but the advice from older women is priceless imo. I can't stand how in this society women seem to have value and representation only if we're under 40, or better under 30. Then we become almost invisible. I won't stand for this hat's why I love channels like yours.

[@daniellem5175]

"May you live all the days of your life." What an awesome quote! Thanks for sharing that, I've never heard it before.

[@alisonmott9940]

Live wide awake. We all have differing wants. Thank goodness. Jen, your voice is very soothing in this crazy world.

[@gladysrodriguez4842]

Yes, she has a lovely voice.

[@charlottepeukert9095]

Money buys happiness and security. Without money, your options in life are limited. No proper health care, no decent housing, no freedom to go, where you want to go, no good food, the list goes on. As a wise person once said: you need to be rich to save money and lead a low- cost life. Having money and managing it well is a fascinating learning process. It takes years, self discipline and you have to make choises. But financial freedom is great. If you don't believe it, ask someone who's struggeling with debt.That person is a modern slave.

[@sjordan7085]

I agree with what you've mentioned, however, when it comes to living in the US and having good medical care, I have been very fortunate. I go to the Dental School for high quality Dental Care, which cost 30-40% less than going to a private dentist. I had an excellent experience at UW when cancer reared its ugly head, albeit radiation 'the gift that keeps on giving.' has proven less than fun. I have been fortunate enough to have a wonderful Oncologist, and recieved help paying for it. That said, waiting rooms abound with horror stories of those, even the wealthy, who have had to decrease their standards of living in pretty drastic ways. Sometimes, staying alive, does not come cheap!

[@marieviken1945]

As a life-long solo person at 57 I thank you for focusing on the real and enjoyable life of us solos! I have always wondered about why so many of us learn so little both from family and society about setting life goals that are fulfilling for each of us. Instead most of us go with the mainstream life goals that you cover in this video and then end up very disapointed at some time in life..... I also find that one source of fulfillment in life is often overlooked: the journey itself to reach your life goals whatever they are! An example - when I was a child I read a book about a small boy who lived in a very rund-down house with his familiy and a cat - one day all the neighbours came and repaired, cleaned and painted the house and fixed the garden - all for free. I was so taken by this story and told my parents I wanted an old house when I grew up. Everybody I told this to thought I was crazy..... Fast forward more than 50 years via living in student accomodation, flats(not for me) and building and living in my modern house(better, but not right) I now finally live in my small and old farmhouse from 1860 which was in a very bad state when I bought it. During the process of repairing my house I have met so many fantastic people who contributed with everything from old-house craftmanships magic, told stories of the house and its people, gave me old windows and building materials, lamps, furniture and a shower! I truely enjoyed this journey started so many years ago with that book, all its detours, fun, but also hardships on the way! I am looking forward to live in this house on my small farm the rest of my life not only with my cat of course but also my dog, some rabbits and a small flock of Old-Norwegian sheep. Hopefully there will be some hens and a couple of pigs too to fulfill my other life goal of being a small farmer!

[@deekang6244]

How wonderful that you brought your vision to life! I love this!

[@chilli_bean_23]

What a fantastic story! The vision inspired in you by the imaginative childhood storybook has been realised so beautifully. Art becomes life. The author would be so thrilled to know your wonderful tale. 🙏☘️🌻🏠🪴📚

[@GwenMotoGirl]

I had to simplify my lifestyle to retire, and I’m so grateful that I could. I heard a tv minister talk about walking through an automobile junkyard and imagining all the sacrifices made to pay for a dream car that is now a giant heap of scrap metal. That really hit home. Simple is ideal. Glad you showed up in my feed. Subscribed.

[@amyz673]

NOT cutting my long hair, NOT giving up my tub and LOVED your video!

[@mthano]

I'm 42 yo and on boarding to become a silver, I don't have a partner/husband/boyfriend/etc., I live by myself and am always busy around my stuff and work. I am introverted into books, music and movies, and also games, I enjoy solo time travelling, I went to many major cities in the world for work. I am perfectly happy by myself, when I am upset, 99% is from other people so I find living with myself desirable and happy. I don't know how long I am going to be until I die. But I am enjoying life with little care about other obligations, and my life is worth living so no regret. Btw, I am highly educated from the top uni of the world, from a well established family and am financially independent, plus I am clever so I enjoy life as is.

[@leebennett1821]

The Good thing about living alone is that you don't inflict yourself on anyone else

[@Chrystal-nt2wc]

😆That's true! We should all be kind to each other!😀

[@ingenuity296]

And no one inflicting themselves on us. That's the absolute FREEDOM. ❤

[@Chrystal-nt2wc]

@@ingenuity296 Yesss!!!😄

[@leebennett1821]

@@ingenuity296 But Ultimately you benefit from living in a Society you need to give back to that society otherwise you are a mere parasite

[@leebennett1821]

@@ingenuity296 But maybe your a selfish person

[@Mimlou]

As a 30yr old, college was a waste! I ended up making way more money in jobs that didn’t even require my degree. Now I’m a freelancer, which I absolutely love but absolutely did not need a degree to prove my skills and natural talent. Also, new cars these days are not worth it. So happy I have my paid off 2015 car, saving me that hefty monthly payment that most my peers have with their 45k vehicles. Love your videos, and especially loved this one❤

[@TallyDrake]

I think it's sad when people feel like college was a waste. It makes me wonder what they studied and what they expected to get out of it. I graduated with a BA in music, but it was more like a liberal arts degree with a music minor because I changed my major so many times. I tried law school (ugh), I went to secretarial school, I completed 2 correspondence courses and a continuing education course at a community college. I used the knowlege gained from my degree and certifications all the time in various publishing jobs. And now that I'm retired, I'm looking into more courses to take!

[@Mimlou]

@@TallyDrake I studied Business. However, all the skills I use within my own freelance business was learned from on the hand experience- nothing college could have ever prepared me for. All personal trial and error

[@TallyDrake]

@@Mimlou You studied business, you have a business, yet NOTHING you learned in college was relevant? I find that hard to believe. Then again, the only business courses I ever took were typing and business math in high school (both of which I used all the time at work), so I don't know what they teach in college business classes.

[@Mimlou]

@@TallyDrake tbh, everything I learned about owning my own LLC (taxes, online marketing, social media, ads, SEO, etc) was all from trial and error and YT videos like these😀

[@TallyDrake]

@@Mimlou Since that's the case, I understand how you feel. Now I'm even more curious what they taught in your business classes, if it wasn't anything that translated to your business. That truly is a waste of time and resources.

[@techshabby0001]

Don't waste your time with more dishes, cups and silverware than you need. I have 3 forks, 1 butter knife, 2 steak knives, 3 bowls 2 plates...... you get the idea. You don't need a set of 8 if you don't have company.

[@Lourdes-A.]

But you’ll be wasting time washing dishes more often, running water and using detergent.

[@JP-ve7or]

​@Lourdes-A. Nah. Keep a hand soap-style pump at your sink with dish soap and water (50/50) inside. Use that and a kitchen sponge, rinse with a bit of hot water, leave in a drain board to dry, and you can clean up most dishes quick and easy.

[@halfsourlizard9319]

There's also no harm to having a set of 8 ...

[@AcestarHealth]

Congratulations Jen for all of your success on KZbin so far! I hadn’t posted on my channel in almost 2 months when I discovered your channel and learned about your journey to get monetized in 10 weeks. It inspired me so much that I’ve started posting again, now 2 videos every single week. I agree with all of your points, but I do think it is important to be health conscious and to always watch what you’re eating while exercising daily. It’s not just about looking good and living longer - it’s about feeling stronger and filled with energy as well. Not to mention it greatly improves the quality of life and decreases your dependence on the health care system. After experiencing a few health scares myself while also dealing with the loss of family members, I’m on a mission to teach as many people as possible to become stronger, leaner and live longer. Keep up the great work and I’ll continue watching your videos!

[@windowtrimmer8211]

I’m a child of the ‘60/70s who has lived his whole life in bemused detachment from the norms and rigors of regular society. Oh-I’m a solid citizen and all that. I hold up my part. I go to the necessary parties. But wow-it’s great to be morally autonomous yet to maintain a snicker toward such things as big fancy weddings and flippy rituals. I appreciate your videos.

[@pixie3760]

I have my dream house...finally, after never living alone before. I got rid of my 16 room house, found the one I have, 10 rooms, and in a beach town. I had a ball furnishing it exactly as I want it...old Hippy here and my home reflects my lifestyle and life lived. My cat and I couldn't be happier. Plus I'm a clean freak and truly I never knew a house could stay clean with just 1 adult and 1 lazy fat cat.

[@HUEHUEUHEPony]

Imagine the upkeep, you clean that shit alone?

[@tommrugala1513]

When I turned 50 I realized I was probably at the top of my game but not the CEO of a company. It was such an epiphany. I felt immense relief. I could relax and enjoy myself. Fortunately I still loved my job.

[@feliciagrinie]

3 years ago it's like a light switch went off in my head. I had obtained everything I was told would make my life worthwhile, the big house, nice cars, marriage, THE job, and I was miserable!!!! I was sick of working my life away to pay for all of this crap that I couldn't enjoy, wearing what was "acceptable" for my age, eating like a bird, and basically just being on auto pilot. I revamped my life to make ME happy and never looked back!

[@allinadaysworkhakunamatata9187]

Eating like a bird 🐦 😂

[@mxbvibes]

This is where I’m at. I just turned 28, welder, single and i align with everything you mentioned. I have my own nice apartment, great job, sports car and recently I had to take a long look in the mirror and ask why I’m not as happy as I “should be”. I felt like for the past couple of years I’ve been on autopilot and subconsciously trying to impress others and show how I’ve made it in life… but similarly it’s time I go after my passions and live the life I want. Thanks for this reminder

[@brytelegister8518]

So much truth here! The only goal that was important to me was to be good to my future self. I worked tirelessly and did make sacrifices but this enabled me to retire 10 years early. Now, I only embark on adventures that enrich my soul and I’m happier for it! And, hello from London 😊!

[@mnop1774]

I tend to agree with these along with adding that good nutrition, exercise and avoiding excessive alcohol do not guarantee a long life by any stretch. I know too well given my wonderful husband's premature death in his 40s from a disease that was not environmental nor genetic and could not be stopped. He did all the "right" things and still died far too young.

[@silverandsolo]

So sorry to hear this....hope you're forging ahead tho'....

[@pamkydes7826]

Jen, your encouragement in supporting women to be self-sufficient and not intimidated by tools, maintenance chores , etc. is WONDERFUL. Women SO undervalue their abilities! Love from a recent widow after 55 years of marriage!!

[@ayemiksenoj5254]

I moved from a major big city to a small town in the Midwest a year ago. It's definitely one of the best decisions I've ever made. Still, sometimes it is lonely and I do miss the excitement and convenience of a bigger place. I believe once I find some connections it'll get better, but I don't want to move back. I just want a simple good life. Also, I love fitness and being healthy, but as I'm ageing I've started to realize certain things. As a woman most of us get other body types in different seasons of our life and we can't control it or maintain how we used to look. Even if we are very active and eating well. After a while it just doesn't make sense to obsess over it.

[@anyaharris5617]

Absolutely agree. I used to work 50 hours a week, didn't have neither time, nor energy for anything. As a result , I burnt out. Quit my engineering job, got a part-time job as a sandwich-maker for the British forces, work only mornings, and am so proud to support our boys! I don't need big money, I've got everything I need.

[@SeaShoreAnnie]

Hi Jen, At age 60 & happily single through choice for many years, I just don’t think that much about goals. I have my grown up children, my ex husband who I divorced 20+ years ago is still one of my best friends & my kids father, nature, wildlife, art, learning, books & the simple things in life make me happy. I stopped watching the black box that used to sit in the corner of my room many years ago when I figured the truth was lost in the words many people spoke. I like the truth, I like facts & researching things myself although it’s becoming harder to find the truth. I observe nature & take notes & that gives me knowledge & with that knowledge I can prep for the few years ahead. Every day is valuable, every day is cherished, every day is a struggle with MS & other difficulties but if you get up in the morning & everyday count your blessings, life is a beautiful gift & I hope & pray I live to see many more days. I hope you are having a wonderful day🙏🏻Annie🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@silverandsolo]

Hope you're having a super day too Annie!

[@eh6454]

MS is in my family too, Annie. Sending best wishes 👋😊🇬🇧

[@SeaShoreAnnie]

@@eh6454 Thank you so much 🙏🏻

[@barbslife5460]

The best years of my life was raising my son. I loved every minute of being a mother. I love being married and traveling with my husband and caring for our home. I saved to have a big wedding and let me tell you why it’s important to put money in your wedding, you put your money on what you value. Work hard, Save and pay cash in whatever form that is. I had a big wedding and I told my husband if you want to marry me you are going to invest in our marriage. Five years later and I have no regrets! (I got married at 42 it was my first snd only wedding, I had my son young and wasnt married which I don’t recommend). I am a grandmother and it has touched me beyond words. Financial security is important to me. Career has no importance to me at all. I despise cities. I buy very few things and don’t care at all about brand names. Just my two cents lol!

[@TheSouthIsHot]

But if we say "yes" to gym workouts, grilled fish, and poached vegetables, we can also say "yes" to rock climbing, water skiing, long hikes up a mountain, scuba diving, crawling under the house to check drain pipes, climbing up a ladder to check the roof, better sleep, happier mindset, healthier bodies... There is a never-ending number of reasons to live healthy!!!

[@Chrystal-nt2wc]

Happiness is not necessarily allowing yourself to go to pot. If one derives happiness from discovering all the abilities of the human body, then go for it. The moral of the story is to seek your individual happiness because it's what you want, not because it's what everybody else is doing...

[@TheSouthIsHot]

@@Chrystal-nt2wc Yes, that is true. To each, his own (happiness).

[@Chrystal-nt2wc]

@@TheSouthIsHot Cheers!😎

[@danmullen3271]

Maybe it's not about saying yes or no to these things. Maybe it's about finding a balance that makes sense to you and your goals

[@we.are.all.barabbas]

I'm 32 and watching your videos regularly, thank you for your wisdom

[@bastianogr4960]

Number 2 hits the nail on the head. Although getting married is one of the very best things I’ve done in my life, I regret everything that had to do with the actual wedding, including our honeymoon. And my wife fully agrees. All that fuss, the stress, the money, and the insane expectations. In the end, NOTHING of it was worth it.

[@bmindful1888]

You are so right on all these points 😀Most people seem to live their lives trying to impress other people …

[@davidaikman2968]

I needed to hear your message today as I’ve lately fallen into the trap of questioning my level of “ambition.” My manager retires soon and she and a coworker nudged me to apply for the position. Just the idea of it gave me tremendous anxiety and sense of doom. I would only do it if the applicant pool was less than stellar. Thankfully, there are good candidates. My ambition lies in my relationships and LIVING my life. Work is what pays my bills. What I DO is live.

[@dohczeppelin37]

I think a lot of the regret people espouse about their "big wedding" is moreso because they couldn't really afford it, not because a nice wedding isn't a great experience. My wedding wasn't some super over the top extravagant affair but it was a nice wedding and it was a joy to share that with everyone we love and celebrate together. I have no regrets. My memories of that day have only blossomed over time. We didn't compromise our other financial goals in order to pay for it though. The key is to stick to what you can afford, and that goes for more than just weddings. Over spending always catches up to you and it will ruin what should be some of the best parts of your life.

[@AZHITW]

I love my garden tub! I have two showers in my home and choose not to use them because I love soaking in a tub of HOT water. I'm 75, I may be forced to shower someday, but as long as I can haul my keester out of my tub I'm going for it. I totally agree about extravagant weddings better to save the money for a house.

[@alicias7236]

Exactly what I needed to hear today! I'm in pursuit of my own contentment 😊 Thanks for your very wise words Jen.

[@BadhiyaZindagi]

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[@hayleyferguson5284]

My parents had a large home when I was a teenager (still do) and it was a lot to look after. They downsized somewhat in their retirement (dad sold his business in his 40s) and bought a new farm and did and still does his investments (had to sell the farm due to having MND). My dream, if I had less children, I have 14, is a tiny home by a creek, growing my own food 🫠🥹

[@regineheine5707]

I used to use wine for cooking and drinking for pleasure. Unless this led into addiction. I am happy I got help putting an end to this. I couldn’t imagine life without this kind of „ pleasure“. Since then I have a so much better life and, believe it or not,I don’t miss anything. I am not somebody unable to laugh, unable to find joy in small things. I have fun.

[@bevanbuckwheatshea5520]

Dream house for me is a small easy care apartment with a view. Fabulous!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@Sophie-J222]

Hi there. Spot on with what you have said here. It’s taken me 60 years to look back and think 🤔’what was that all about’. Easy and peaceful from now on for me.

[@KLRSnider]

Agreed - why spend a ton of money on a ceremony that's really (I think) a somewhat personal thing (talking about the big wedding). I'd rather invest the money or buy a house.

[@ruxandrab1674]

Hi! Thanks a lot for sharing these thoughts! I’m 30. Hearing someone with more life experience confirm suspicions I’ve held since I was little is very reassuring. Your video made my day better.

[@jtdenny3354]

Love this video! Spot on! I'm 58 and come from a large family. I have 7 nephews and they've been to many destination weddings costing a fortune! I can't help but wonder that many of these kids will be divorced in the next 5-10 years, but still paying off the wedding!

[@deekang6244]

Exactly.

[@kellylappin5944]

Agreed! No one is impressed. Everyone should do the things that they enjoy!

[@il_nessuno43]

Agree with everything on your list. Even #1 is replaceable at a job; marriage was the 3rd biggest mistake I ever made; buying a McMansion with my now ex-wife was the 4th biggest mistake; have visited every major city in the U.S. and they all suck; I earn about twice as much a year as I actually need to live on and am the happiest and financially soundest that I've been in 25 years. Single, small town, simple life = happy life.

[@AmblingTowardsAwe]

Yes! Pleasures that feel real and personal are worthy goals, even when they're simple ones.

[@susanmason3432]

For me Being content and knowing my “Why” lead me to a fulfilling life. Enjoying & accepting the journey is also very rewarding for me. Thank you Jen

[@wendybowman5305]

I love this list of things and you're take on them. It is so true that we are all individuals and want different things. I have never owned a new car ( I have mechanics in the family who do the work) so I can drive cars I love that are used cars. I have never owned a new home and never missed that. I have owned 3 houses in my life and no longer want that for myself.I have money and a good pension and I choose to rent. I love it. I am retired and love it. My time is my own to do with what I choose. Every day is a new adventure and I don't compare myself to anyone else. I am truly happy, peaceful and content. I love spending time in the outdoors, also knitting, reading & with my family. I too love visiting big cities and no longer want to live in one. this year I am moving to a lovely small town and hour from the city. thanks for the video.

[@Nana-lr5qy]

Intriguing video, insightful content, on-point delivery, seasoned with just the right amount of comedic zest… this is what I want to see more of on KZbin. Thanks a lot for posting. Living life being true to ourselves should be a priority at all times.

[@lebanonmartialarts780]

💯 agree on the big flashy wedding!!

[@nataliewindt9854]

Hello silver and solo, I am ten years single, 6 years fully solo and 40. I love your content. It's beautiful to see someone else thriving for being solo but not chiding people for choosing differently.

[@joannekempf3350]

At 68 I am finally living fulfilling life. After years of office work that paid the bills but resulted in a lot of stress, I’m retired and volunteering with intellectually disabled adults and couldn’t be happier. I have discovered a flair for watercolor painting and I’ve won awards for my garden. That’s a fulfilling life for me!

[@MomsTravelTeam]

Thank you❤ - important to balance life and work. No employer cares more than you should care. Thankless years of toil - no thank you.

[@karenz7059]

oh boy do I agree on the big expensive wedding. If a must, a small intimate wedding with close family and friends to share your day. Spend that money on a down payment for a new house.

[@evabrechtel4321]

Reaching the top rung does not mean you are the best or the brightest. It means you are the most liked employee by the boss and least likely to be the most productive employee. Or related to the boss.

[@dohczeppelin37]

All of the places I have worked have been reasonably well merit based. I have never understood this notion that everyone "at the top" is an unproductive, useless brown noser who won a popularity contest. Not my experience at all. You may just not see or understand the work they are doing.

[@halfsourlizard9319]

Being a good leader is a completely different set of skills to being good at whatever the company's domain / business is. And if people are being promoted based on who likes whom, it's time to find a different company -- that's a recipe for failure. The other way to 'reach the top' is to found the company ;P

[@AlisonGreenValleyCrone]

Love this. I never wanted those extremes, but i did fall into the trap of more=better. Having a limited but sufficient amount of money and comfort is so freeing…

[@veryoriginalname366]

I'm a 30 year old and this is exactly what I needed to hear! Subscribed

[@kay_copywritingduo]

This is so refreshing! It's easy to get caught up in the glimmer and glitz of what life can be, but as you pointed out, this lifestyle has price tags beyond financial. I didn't understand this until middle age. Now, my choices are spirited board games with family, an understanding that my career is only one facet of my life, and comfort in knowing that my life still has meaning, even if it's ordinary.

[@twistedfrannie9311]

I'm a medicinal woman, happiest when out foraging or blending. I've joined a Folk School and we have built a wonderful community, with libraries full of amazing books, seed libraries and food pantries. Barter based workshops, maker's swaps, community soup/ pizza share nights where we come together to create food and eat. Its definitely my idea of a rich life.

[@Jess_Moonflower]

Sounds lovely, I'm in! ❤

[@ginajennings1664]

I don’t know where you are at but that sounds like a dream life.

[@d.l.l.6578]

Where is this community?

[@SimplyKatieWalks]

Im 56, retired, and ive been married for 36 years. This year I started a youtube channel, i didnt know that was a goal of mine! Live and keep learning!

[@silverandsolo]

You can do it!

[@enchantress7]

I love watching your channel grow!

[@anitas5817]

I love this video! I couldn’t agree more. These days, exposure to what everyone else is doing is ubiquitous. It can be a challenge to get everyone out of your head and figure out what really matters to you. I just happen to be sitting here in my new recliner that was delivered this morning, that I never got til now because “recliners are ugly”. I’m so happy 😂.

[@ajnormandgroome]

I don't like climbing ladders - figuratively and literally Marriage is more important than a wedding

[@englishrosemeditation3046]

So based on everything you’ve said - my life is completely accomplished - I’m not a millionaire I’m not living in a mansion, I’m not a super model but I am happy to be the accomplished me - thank you for this thought provoking video x

[@silverandsolo]

That's about it! Congrats!

[@JudiThomas-j2i]

I am so so happy I found you! I lost my husband 7 months ago and just figuring this all out. You're my inspiration. You make me feel good, thank you! ❤

[@rebeccacamacho-sobczak4282]

As a retired woman that came into a success, I believe you are speaking truth!

[@chessc.3407]

I LOVE that you’re normalizing showing your natural self. You look normal, beautiful and I can concentrate on listening to you instead of looking at a bunch of makeup / clothing crap. I’m mid 40’s and I’m finally beginning to feel ok letting my grey hair grow. Getting used to wearing less and less make up and just feeling comfortable in my own body. I’m tired of trying to be and look and act for someone else. Looking forward to my continued single life with a happier mindset and you’re def helping me see all that I can do, and how to prepare for it. Being independent and feeling like I don’t need to have someone to be here for me to be happy or feel secure as I get older. I’m truly loving having my own choices my own time and not having to make compromises anymore. I just haven’t found the person worth making compromises with and giving my freedom and ability to live my life in peace and how exactly I want it to be.

[@HeatherAnneNorbury]

The KZbin algorithm sent your channel my way and I'm so happy it did! I love this perspective, regardless of someone's age. Thanks for sharing.

[@laurarichcreekvoiceactor]

I agree with all your bullet points and appreciate that you leave room for people to do what does fulfill them, even if it's a little different from your personal choices. I'm working with my kids to find that balanced perspective as they are on the cusp of getting out into that world. Thanks, Jen! Have a lovely, balanced day! 🙂

[@corinnestrazisar8729]

Love your channel. Recently widowed and finding my way through it. Thanks for your insight.

[@khoney32]

Yes, to paraphrase simply, I feel that you are saying choosing activities and goals that please YOU are the key to having a fulfilling life, rather than following the leader or chasing goals told by others as the thing to achieve - societal goals need not be your template. I agree, life can be so much fun when we think for ourselves and create from our autonomy rather than being overly influenced by other(s) - sometimes the more unique or outside the norm a goal/activity the more exciting, too. I am always inspired by the food for thought, that knowing smirk, and those vibrant eyes! All the best!