6 Red Flags In Yourself To Watch Out For

[@Psych2go]

What is a habit you want to work on?

[@CosmoCandyyy]

The first onneee

[@importyuki]

Having an actual sleep schedule. It’s getting so bad that I’m writing this at 3:33 am 😅

[@samadiobrando]

Life's hard idk why just too hard

[@PR1CK3DBY0U]

@@CosmoCandyyy jackass gacha kid

[@erinmmusic]

@@importyukiIk the feeling!! 😊 2:40am here for me! 😆 I wish u all the best in ur journey!!

[@ninomiqiani5904]

1. Unconstructive self-talk 0:44 2. Neurotic need for social validation 1:28 3. Neurotic need for control 2:05 4. Toxic perfectionism 2:35 5. Avoidant attachement 3:02 6. Social media addiction 3:34

[@Psych2go]

Thank you for the time stamps!

[@sierrajackson-bo7ve]

I have all these signs I'm a literal red flag

[@nazli4299]

@@sierrajackson-bo7vewell work on being a green flag then

[@noonegirl]

Thank you 😊

[@stranger3131]

Nice. Now I don't have to watch the video.

[@bradleydsmeltzer2090]

This channel has taught me A. The many toxic traits my friends have B. Bettering my life by including/excluding people & things. C. Socializing is important for mental health D. That I need social validation, and am people pleaser, and a social media addict. I'm confused on what I should be doing next.

[@Moon__piie]

[@Mushrooms683]

None of those actively CONTRADICT, but most of them are kind of uncomfortable fits. I can see your confusion.

[@Fallendown-pq1ot]

.... I guess trying to be better but it won't come fast unfortunately

[@aimorgana]

I'd start working on yourself first. This way, with less need for social validation & by curbing social media addiction, you'll be prone to making better choices in terms of friendships (i.e. less fake "friends"), improve the quality of your relationships & connections, which in turn will lead to improving your mental health and self-esteem. And so on. Hope this helps. ❤

[@nichollebraspennickx943]

Find a therapist you connect with… better help may help… I just went on line and picked the closest person… 3.5 years in and working on all the stuff you list… good luck! You are worth the work and self love

[@scuffedcoding3814]

As a teenager, I find these videos super informative and helpful. They give me a feeling of safety and calmness which I appreciate a lot.

[@aparna9053]

I had all these things few months back . I am proud of myself that I overcame these traits .

[@balambikaia3394]

Maybe can you share some tips cuz i am going through it

[@aparna9053]

@@balambikaia3394 So on which trait do you need tips ? Like all 6 or only some of them?

[@aparna9053]

@@balambikaia3394 Ok so I'm telling you for all points . 1. Negative self talk: So for this if you're comparing yourself to someone please don't do that because you're different, you're upbringing is different from everyone. And if you're comparing your beauty to beauty standards then Don't because those things doesn't matter . Actually this is all mindeset. If you want to stop negative self talk then you have to change your mindset first. 2. Social validation: So for this, you have to validate yourself before validating others . You have to fulfil yourself by spending time productively. 3 . Control: So when you'll start validating yourself, you don't have need to control others and their actions. 4. Toxic perfectionism: So for this, you'll have to realize that you can make mistakes everyone make mistakes and you can learn from those mistakes. 5. Avoidant attachment: So for this just don't ghost your loved ones. Spend time with yourself and some time with them too. 6. Social media addiction : so for this, you have to find your goal . Find your passion in life and work for it. And determined to it. And do some fun activities that you like and spends less time on phone. I hope it helps . Thank you 💗.

[@balambikaia3394]

@aparna9053 Thanks a lot for all the tips. I will work on all of it and I will comment to u once I overcome this

[@The_electrohashira]

​@@aparna9053thanks for the tips

[@sonzai5162]

My whole self is a red flag

[@Ostanovkya]

Mood af fr fr

[@Psych2go]

Noooooo why do you say that :(

[@NormalChannel95]

bro needs to add the peaceful hindu symbol

[@Muchjoy..]

💜💋🙏

[@mtwata]

😂😂😂 at least you've got a sense of humour.

[@mig2cool982]

Always felt so helpless growing up. I want things exactly a certain way and when it doesn’t I don’t feel safe or secure.

[@SkinnyEatWorld95]

Dude same here, my home life was volatile a lot of the time, so I started feeling helpless and hopeless, which turned me into a control freak

[@yokiweyy4770]

My biggest issue is definitely the negative self talk. I insulti myself almost every day. Stuff like "you're ugly as shit, you're worthless, you're useless, you're stupid, you're mediocre at everything you do" and things like that are my daily mantra. The thing is, I really don't see the reason why I should think otherwise. I can't find proof that I'm the opposite of those things I say to myself. I just accepted that this is what I am, a poor schmuck that amounts to nothing. End if people tell me "nooo what are you talking about, you're great as you are" ecc, I just don't believe them, and think that they are not being logical or that they are messing with me.

[@mightycactus7223]

i feel the same, people tried talking to me time and time again, trying to prove that im more than just a piece of meat but it never helps, i always feel that im worth nothing. i would even say that when people talk shit to me i feel much better than when they give me compliments, because nice things that are said to me do not seem sincere whatsoever, but i know that shit talking is almost 100% describes me, which im happy about

[@yokiweyy4770]

@@mightycactus7223 I feel you. I remember sometimes in the past when I was saying stuff like that while talking with my friends, and everyone always told me "why, what do other people have that you don't have?". But I just can't believe them, just like you. I see nothing but evidence that I'm a waste of oxygen, no amount of sweet talk could make me change my mind. My parents also tried sometimes to make me reason, but their whole argument was "you need to have more self esteem". Yeah, no shit. How do I get more self esteem if there's nothing to feel esteemed about?

[@mightycactus7223]

@@yokiweyy4770 yeah, trying to actually find a way to make you have more self esteem is really hard because it seems you have nothing to love yourself for. and sadly no amount of talking with people who actually try and care for me (but do they really care?) can help. i know its all in my head, i tried to get better but recently i fell into this pit of self hate again, which.. feels almost comfortable at this point, just like home. i dont need to pretend that i care about myself. hopefully someday ill learn to love myself at least for being able to eat and breath lol and happy new year my self hating fellow, hopefully we can get through this year 🫡

[@yokiweyy4770]

@@mightycactus7223 exactly, at this point I'm used to it, while trying to say positive things to myself feels fake and unnatural. Happy New year to you as well, negative self talking friend

[@iamadogge3749]

Oh my god that is so true . I feel the same way and feel like there is something wrong with me for thinking this way as everyone around me is perfect but how can I be such a failure . Do things and try to prove it to others and myself that I am not just trash and am useful in some way but I end up disappointing myself and the cycle continues. I thought I was the only one who felt this way . This comment made me tear up a little as I am not alone in this . Thank you sooo much ❤❤ you can't understand how important it was to me

[@pierremercier4724]

I recognize myself in all the six red flags you mentioned in your video. I feel like a desperate case! (lol!) Seriously, on a more positive note, your video is a huge and benevolent signal that I have a lot to work on. It's always so helpful when competent people put the right words on the right problems. This insightful video and many others of your's helps me so much to grow up and becoming a better person. Thank you.

[@onnie1036]

Recognizing areas for improvement is a powerful step in itself. Here's to your journey of becoming a better person! ❤

[@pierremercier4724]

Thank you so much for your encouraging words, Onnie. God bless you. 😘😘😘@@onnie1036

[@Demisearts]

Time stamps: 0:44 Unconstructive self-talk 1:27 Neoutic need for social validation 2:06 Neoutic need for control 2:33 Toxic Perfectionisme 3:02 Avoidant Attachment 3:35 Social media addiction Personally i have two of these, both however is getting worked on since they do my own mental health more harm than good

[@Psych2go]

Appreciate your hard work and for making it easier for everyone! :)

[@rabbiemmanuelmartinez3218]

​@@Psych2goI'll pull out that seed

[@NavatejRatnan]

@@rabbiemmanuelmartinez3218 Ayo?

[@TiltedTilterGaming]

I was avoiding attachment, was too afraid of getting hurt and hurt someone I care for and myself. If given the chance I would have changed back then but it’s a lesson well learned

[@EIizabethGrace]

Yup, it can definitely hold you back so much, keep you from taking care of things that still end up hurting and sabotaging you without you even realizing, and potentially lead to hurting others, too. Definitely a game changer to learn about it all. The only think that confused me is only mentioning the avoidant attachment style. I’m fearful avoidant and I can honestly say that, aside from the fact that there are self-sabotaging aspects to the anxious attachment as well, my most (especially interpersonally) dysfunctional patterns and the times I got closer to hurting someone else - despite tending to internalize the anxious aspects more than most anxiously attached people I know - were all when I was more activated in an anxious sense. Also, most of the people who hurt me _and_ the ones that hurt me the most were anxiously attached. Not sure if it’s agreed upon that the avoidant attachment style is the bad one or something, but it just stood out to me.

[@danujaa.4459]

By having a deep look into myself, I could have 5 out of 6 inner red flags. I go through all of those on a day to day basis, and having people that talk down on me instead of trying to bring me up doesn’t really help at all. It feels like I need to find people who are willing to hear my problems….and….maybe get rid of my Red Flags, despite how hard it might be.

[@nighttimeflames]

The Bojack Horseman beginning made me so happy. The quote was from the character Wanda, she was an owl who actually owns rose colored glasses and pulls them off well. She was dating Bojack and was talking about how relationships work and how they weren’t working. That show will have a special place in my heart ❤

[@andyb7855]

Same - I love that show

[@mikan0347_]

Thanks for this! I started getting self-conscious lately and your vids helped me out a lot!

[@Psych2go]

Of course! If you don't mind my asking, why were you feeling self-conscious lately?

[@mikan0347_]

@@Psych2go I felt like I haven't been being my best self lately, and I realized I've had some negative changes (getting easily irritated/mad, less productive, having self-doubt, feeling like I'm being a bit more toxic, more perfectionist, etc.) And I also feel like I could be a better person. I've been wanting to improve myself in any way I could for the better, and your videos have all that I needed! Thank you very much, you guys are such a lifesaver!

[@caturina]

@@mikan0347_ This sounds so much like myself, which all turned out to be burnout (as in social/mental burnout/overload) from having too much work in a hectic environment and not enough rest/days off...

[@mikan0347_]

@@caturina Oh I just realized that-! Tysm!! I never realized how caught up i was on trying to be nice to everyone that i havent made time for myself, and when something goes wrong with those people I just feel so terrible and i've been getting sick of it without realizing it myself.

[@DF7GameFan32]

Thank you. I struggle with all these and struggle with remembering I'm not alone. I'm getting worse mentally, that it's been effecting me physically as well. Life, family, work, career, personal self, and relationships are taking a huge toll on me bc so much is happening that just seems to be getting worse. I want change. Be healthier and grow better. I understand that means a change in life style and routines and lots of focus and discipline. I can do that. What I'm currently struggling with is focusing and worrying about myself. So thank you for the videos. It's really been giving me a nice embrace of, "everything will be okay, don't give up." I wish the best for all you ❤

[@A55a551n]

Timestamps 1). Unconstructive self-talk 0:43 2). Neurotic need of social media validation 1:26 3). Neurotic need for control 2:04 4). Toxic perfectionism 2:33 5). Avoidant attachment 3:01 6). Social media addition 3:33 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. Sorry this is so late. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@mirivmd]

thank you for taking the time to do this a wizard is never late nor is he early 💜

[@A55a551n]

@@mirivmd happy to help thanks for the compliment 💙💙💙💙💙💙

[@artinrohani6741]

I love how whenever I see one of these videos I know I’m going to end up saying “F- I have most of these”. But when I go to write a comment I remember no one cares. Best use of my time ngl

[@simo7466]

this animation style is creepy as shit, feels like a fever dream

[@Your-Average-Bot]

Thank you so much for the help, ive always made fun of myself for laughs and have actually lost friends dues to this and with you all ive been able to self reflect and make myself a better person

[@rickwhite3580]

The BEST thing I did was get off of Social Media!!! It has been almost 4 months and my self worth has dramatically changed for the better. ALL of the other red flags listed in here have gone away. Focus on yourself, set goals, and enjoy yourself. Friendships and relationships will improve once you get out of drama and static of a false word that cannot validate who you truly are. Everyone is beautiful in their own unique way!

[@bonbun9636]

Hello! I'm glad to hear you've been so much better. May I ask something though? How often do you spend time on social media nowadays if you've taken time off of it?

[@mackeym10]

The self-talk is probably my problem. I try my hardest not to be negative, but I don't know what else to say about certain things. Plus, even when I try to uplift myself, it feels extremely disingenuous.

[@MegaChriz]

Sounds familiar. I do negative self talk sometimes on days that I feel very exhausted and none of the things that I had planned for that day happened. The tip I get is to focus on what did succeed on that day - what was a positive thing that did happen? But I too find it hard to give that my attention. The feeling that I failed that day is then very strong. For example: when I only managed to fold the laundry that day while I wanted to clean the whole house, it too feels unfair to give myself a praise for only folding the laundry. But by focussing on the negative thing like I mostly do, you'll stay in the negative spiral. I noticed it can help a bit if instead of being in my negative thoughts is to call a good friend or my parents.

[@onnie1036]

How about starting your day with genuine affirmations, it can set a positive tone for your mindset. Repeating them in the morning might help fill your mind with positivity before facing daily challenges.and consider professional help if needed.

[@mackeym10]

@onnie1036 Both is very difficult. The first one because I don't have a beginning of my day . With my sleeping disability. I have not even had a full night sleep in a decade in some years. It's hard to find a start to anything when i'm constantly struggling. Like it gets so disheartening every single day because I can't go to sleep. Then it makes it really hard to build myself up. Throughout the entire day I will usually be battling my Is tiredness. The second thing is difficult because i've been going to Get professional help for most of all my life. From having professional people saying to me that I'm not attractive enough to ask certain girl. To them flat out telling me they don't know what to do for me Or not even being able to get a general exam. That doesn't take months to get appointment for. I just I don't have enough space for my problems To try to override that with positive feelings. Cause anything I can feel good about. I can immediately get sad if i'm actually sit down and think about anything. I try not to think at all because that usually is the only good option.

[@jessbaca916]

I changed my inner thought by mimicking a specific person I know. For example my grandma and an old soccer coach I had. I started there and eventually I was able to change my inner thoughts to positive encouragement

[@marklouis1890]

Negative self reflection, need for validation and control issues are the main 3 problems I need to work on

[@weirdionomy]

I love this girl's voice so much, every single time I'm stressed or anxious I watch one of these videos with her voice on and I just relax.. great video after all ❤❤

[@fnwytc]

Taking stock, personal checklist: 1. Working on this and is much better 2. Working on this as well, also much better. Not infallible, though. Deactivated social media, but still have people pleasing tendencies when interacting with others and anxieties around message response times 3. Starting to see this in myself in more ways than one... becoming aware has helped a lot. Still struggle at times 4. This might be true, but learning to let this go in both work, hobbies and relationships 5. Ah man, this one. Toeing the line between healthy detachment such as "letting go" versus avoidant attachment is still new for me. Working to collaborate on resolving as the video says, but so far friends seem to distance themselves when I try to do this *which points out to me that it's not just us, but that more and more people are feeling askewed in some ways like this. I'm suspecting the social disconnect by way of social media has attributed to this 6. Social media addiction: I've mostly detached from this. But, now am seeing these traits in my friends... Someone posted earlier about toxic friends versus knowing social interaction is important. I get it. I totally get it. It's hard to wake up and heal yourself only to realize the rest of the little world you've been living in is still stuck... the ignoring real life relationships and lack of empathy from friends most likely from social media addiction is deafening. But how do you say that to your friends? Who probably use social media addiction as a way to cope with life? People only change when they want to, and so far, I know I can't be the only factor that gets them to change. I'm letting go of control here, afterall. I'm still trying by reaching out and planning hang outs. But definitely a conundrum for sure. I'm hoping I manifest and meet more like-minded friends soon. Edit: typo As I'm writing this I'm realizing I may not be as bad as I think, especially since I've been working to improve most if not all of these things... lol a mark of parental trauma still left in me I think

[@chrisrobinson8191]

Yes! That is my top quoted and favourite line out there "through rose tinted glasses all the red flags just look like flags" powerful stuff

[@Grigeral]

I overthink things. Constantly... Most of the time I can push it to the back of my mind and not dwell on it, but as someone who has suffered paranoia for over half my life, when I'm on a spiral it can be overwhelming.

[@aellalee4767]

I used to do these things, except the social media consumption. I still have bits of it, I think we all get self critical and want some external validation, but now it's very manageable.

[@withneyjoseph51]

Unconstructive self talk & Toxic Perfectionnism describe me a lot and a little bit of neurotic need for social validation and also this year i was diagnosed of depression

[@stephenmartin5766]

I definitely have perfectionism one. My thought process tho is even though perfect isn’t obtainable most of the time, it drives me to do my very best at anything I do. It might bug me for a little while if I mess up(maybe the rest of the day or just a few hours or at most a few days) but then I read into what happened and am able to chalk it up as a mistake to learn from and that I know what not to do now. Simple mistakes I have finally reached a point where I’m able to say “it was just a mistake” or “I did my best”

[@salimufari]

A very helpful video. I see a few of these in myself 2 I knew about & one that sort of surprised me. Keep up the good work.

[@baeldaikokuten_yj6792]

I don’t really have any red flags like those in myself. Like maybe a bit but I don’t go overboard and wouldn’t always want things to be perfect.

[@megadrivecar_]

Wow I've collected everything! 🥳

[@earthboundisawsome]

Yeah i had/have a lot of these. It took me until about the age of 26 when i finally started going to therapy to realize how many bad habits and behaviors i had. It's a surreal feeling to finally understand where to start reevaluating oneself. It feels so much better once you start giving those areas of yourself the attention they need, though.

[@stevefromyellowstone7911]

Just another video that reiterates my self hatred . Thanks for the validation

[@utumphalltonigr]

(not intended to be a hateful comment) not a fan of the new animation. the walking is a bit slow and off, and the closing of the eyes is also off. good video and artstyle otherwise!

[@hannahlayse]

Feel the same

[@andyb7855]

I watched it at 1.25x speed....

[@elmailoha1811]

It's all in me😭. Thank you for this

[@abaxoth1488]

This channel is certified quality content, but for me it helps in strange way, some would even call it unhealthy. Every time i listen about issues some might have i feel proud because i don't have any. Perhaps i just have a god complex...

[@stevehitman]

Your voice is so calming 😊

[@lomusherpa870]

I really appreciate your efforts to help us overcome our problem regarding mental health❤

[@bluedarkness7125]

I am glad that I do not have red flags. I do not expect someone can have red flag by themselves. It usually view by other people, not themselves.

[@diywrites8703]

oh man. I have all six. A complete set!

[@shtickofwar]

first one is something i use more like a tool, I use it to discipline myself into good habits, do extra work, put in 100% effort, and etc, I’ve never felt more happy than before, I’d never wanna turn back into my past self.

[@manasmittal3312]

Number 6, well I guess a lot of us struggle with that😅. But numbers 1 3 and 4 are what I need to work on. 1 goes up rarely, it's getting better but 3 and 4 are hard to get rid of 🙃

[@Aiamano9]

Congratulations on the animators first cartoon

[@arya31ful]

Currently still working to mitigate my Toxic Perfectionism or "Fear of Messing Up" which can make a minor annoyances like knocking over some stuff when making breakfast snowballs into severe negative thinking for the rest of the day which tanks my work performance that day which would lead to harsh self-judgement. This proccess are happening automatically and while the solution is as simple as not fussing too much over the issue, sometimes when i got swamped with too much things in my plate everything breaks loose which makes me as responsive as vegetable externally but internally my mind practically beats itself in a futile attempt for me to finally snap out of it. The end result of this episode usually is me effectively "robotizing" myself (pretty hillarious if i think about it), "Never Again" being branded somewhere in my subsconscious(Not sure if good or bad), and some random gibberish slipped inbetween my works (VERY BAD) since that means i must pore all over it with often very little time that'd lead to... yeah. TL;DR i need to find a good method to stop my mental self-flaggelation since it brought more trouble than benefits.

[@jarmoliebrand2005]

I don’t think I’m that much of a people pleaser, yet the need for social validation still strikes. Criticism can easily weigh me down, especially when concerning hobbies. I think I’m probably neutral to most people. I don’t excessively try to be liked by a large group. I’d rather seek the validation of specific individuals. And yet I do feel strained by expectations they likely don’t have for me or I feel a bit afraid of potential judgment I might receive. I’m also quite a perfectionist. Especially when it comes to a hobby like writing. I know actual good writing requires revisions and thus you don’t need to write perfectly in a first draft (and writing perfectly… is subjective). But still, even though I’m a mere beginner, a novice, I hold myself to such a high standard. Though there have been bits that I’ve written than I’m really proud of. And I’m proud of my overall story ideas. I’ve fallen in love with most of them.

[@JaydenVera-cj5pu]

My support will belongs to you. Ill treat this channel with respect. To be honest. ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Cynical_Defined]

The new art style gives me fear it feels uncanny

[@jaykay-_-ok]

Key insights 🚩 "As hard as it is sometimes to spot the warning signs in our own relationships and in the people we love, it might be even harder to spot them in ourselves because of our tendencies to empathize and rationalize with our own choices and actions." 😔 Negative self-talk can lead to mental health problems such as decreased motivation, feelings of helplessness, and even depression. 🎯 Toxic perfectionism can lead to setting unrealistic expectations for oneself, ultimately resulting in failure and disappointment. 🚩 People with avoidant attachment styles tend to be emotionally detached and closed off, which can be harmful to their mental health. 🚩 Social media addiction can have negative effects on mental health, including low self-esteem, increased feelings of loneliness, anxiety, and depression, disrupted sleep patterns, decreased physical activity, and reduced ability to empathize with others. 📚 Setting goals for ourselves over three weeks with increasing difficulty can lead to positive change.

[@GillianAnnBlower]

I mightily identify with all the flags. Psychiatry needed for direction. Thank you so much. ❤❤❤

[@duse2285]

Yes. I had or still have every thing said in the video. I admit that completely. I really know I deserve completely best support for myself. And I'm accepting that totally. This is really thing that I'm thankful for. Real help in my life and situation I'm in right now. I know the best support for me exist and soon will come and that's really something I really (really) appreciate. I will call or write to cognitive behavioral therapist today, or when it will be possible immediately. It will be first thing I'm gonna do. Thank you for mine own support, thank You God for Your support and thank You Mamma for Your support. I'm totally accepting it and deserve it.

[@SoulDigester]

I am still working through and fighting old habits from avoidment attachment style

[@onnie1036]

Progress, no matter how small, is a step forward. Keep going! 💙💪

[@alphabladelm2011]

Self-talk and avoidant detachment are my biggest concerns. The former has been going on for a long time. Had a hard time making friends in school and self-talk was something I fell back on. It hasn’t improved much. Ties into the second one. Bring close to others in a genuine fashion is tough for me. I really have a tough time empathizing and accepting others in my life. Doesn’t help that it ties into my lack of a dating/love life. I keep thinking and feeling like I’m not good enough or emotionally mature enough for a good relationship.

[@Fullspeed18]

Yes, I'm like this. Last point, no 6, Now I'm always on the social, cos I don't have a job and have nobody to talk with, I feel isolated, that nobody understand my problem or give me some help in the professional direction I wanna go. That's why I need to find one, but it's hard, I mean, impossible, to find the one I like that is well paid and forever.

[@DarklyYours]

Omg, I was just watching this on a whim and you brought up Naropa U. I'm an Alumni! That mad my day. ❤

[@amyj.4992]

Thank God for solitude, so this all can be closely observed when you're ready to take care of yourself by yourself 💖🙏🏾💖💖🙏🏾❤️🔥💯

[@noahpark1914]

I got almost all of the six red flags in me🚩...this is scary...but Thanks for the Video..❤❤💜

[@Psych2go]

Well, to be fair, we are our own worst critic. So I'm sure it's not as bad as you may think!

[@noahpark1914]

@@Psych2go ooooo😯😯.....Thanks❤️💜

[@JustaBelievernamedJohn]

I need to work on not down talking myself. The others I have no problem with. I stay off social media and I don’t like to feel like I’m controlling people with micromanagement. Nor do I care for social media or control of others.

[@JustinTabor24]

I'm glad I've watched this video. I now know what to focus on in therapy. Thank you PSI.

[@justarandomhumann]

Yay, I have almost all of these! Except the avoidant attatchement, I'm just too attatched to anyone who is good to me, bacause I'm scared of losing them.

[@prashant_pk_01]

I've come a long way then ig. Still gotta work on "toxic perfectionism" and "neurotic need of social validation" but rest is healthy. A heart for more mindful me❤. Thx psych2go for constant constructing contents ❤❤

[@JaneNewAuthor]

I once heard a clergyman say there are two sins in the modern world - judgementalism and blame. I remember this every day.

[@radu5009]

i’ve been looking for this video and how to better myself and your content is great actually

[@erinmmusic]

Another amazing video!! Thx for all u do Psych2go!! 😊

[@Psych2go]

Our pleasure! Did you enjoy today's topic?

[@erinmmusic]

@@Psych2go loved every second of it!!!! It really helped me feel reassured that I’m taking care of myself! Ur videos help me understand myself a lot! 😊

[@erinmmusic]

@@Psych2go if u don’t mind I do have 4 requests, but u don’t need to do all of them ..what not to say to someone who has ptsd? why do people that have ptsd feel like it’s gonna happen to them again?, how does ptsd impact a person after treatment? And finally why do people that have adhd repeat memories over and over again on a consistent loop? Once again, just some ideas to throw out…

[@whitefeather8387]

1.unconstructive self-talk: yes sir 2.Neurotic need for social validation: yes sir 3.neurotic need for control: yes sir 4.toxic perfectionism: yes sir 5.avoidant attachment: idont know about this 6.social media addiction: yes sir I finally know now what's my problem thanks Looks like my entire self is a red flag😅

[@martingoldfire]

I used to be someone else, completely. Then one day I got the chance to reinvent myself, and all it took was years of hard work so now I'm totally different, and only have the entire journey left. I can't wait, who knows who I'll become🤔

[@yitomusic8897]

And that's why I'm better off alone. For now. Still will see if that ever really changes. It is strange though, I'm unimaginably guilty of the first thing mentioned, but the thing with THE JOKES is, I refuse to change it. I don't know why, but I do not want to stop. Maybe that's me trying to appear self-aware/self-reflective and capable of making fun of myself. Those are traits I don't want to lose. Perhaps then it's just a matter of figuring out which ones are genuinely limiting and which aren't. IDK there's an unresolved duality there.

[@lintrigant3382]

2 of the 6. One is taken care of. One is definitively out of control though I struggle hard with it. Thank you for putting the finger on it, but the wound is so hurtful 😢.

[@grantlathrop6837]

Believe me, if I could break up with myself, I would’ve done it years ago

[@nathalieduverna6963]

Practice. It takes time and it's okay to "mess up" 😂 do it your way ❤

[@onnie1036]

Each step is part of the journey.❤

[@tehreemfatima1539]

All these red flags have surrounded me since childhood.

[@Frozki]

The things with my self talk is they makes sense and convincing to me.

[@Jannik140]

The Video just literally described me idk what to do

[@niasiamack9333]

I think the lesson is be careful who you hang out with be careful who you trust

[@wheniamanightcoreanimearti5391]

Can you make a video on *"how to deal with social media addiction"*, please 🙏🙏🙏

[@travel_lover7008]

There is a channel through I am growing ❤️☺️ thank you for helping us a lot ☺️

[@Psych2go]

Aww thank you for the kind words :) We're so glad to hear that you're growing with our channel!

[@heatherkaye8653]

Oh ok. I have 4 of these 😮 your videos are helping me make the decision to seek a referral to a psychologist. I've been living in such a whacked out state of mind that apparently isn't normal and can potentially be better. Its hard accept...

[@TheGrayRanger]

Is it still toxic perfectionism if everyone else expects perfection from me? This happens every time I try something for the first time. For example, someone finally ALMOST let me ride a motorcycle. I was slowly trying to find the bite point of the clutch and as soon as the bike moved an inch he said, "Nope! Get off, you're gonna burn up my clutch." Ten minutes later my "biker" step brother crashed that bike. BUT IT'S OKAY! HE GOT CRAZY ON PURPOSE!!!

[@gregscott9170]

Wow, I got a perfect score!

[@ArtsyCraftYT]

People pleaser and toxic perfection toward myself 💁🏾‍♀️✨

[@sararebecapalacios]

I have most of them. It doesn't make me a bad person but I still think I should work on it.

[@bellbell251]

I honestly thought the need for control would be more about controlling yourself, like always telling yourself no to self care until you need something or being really strict for yourself. I do need to work on my self talk.

[@Legobatmandawg]

So that means my pathetic life is just a big red flag

[@sparkster1701]

I know I suffer from avoidant attachment. After my girlfriend abandoned me a year ago I've found myself avoiding a lot of the females I know. Granted, many of them have wasted opportunities in our lives, but I seem to have trust issues with them.

[@mayravixx25]

Sadly I have pretty much all of these besides a social media addiction. Been trying to get my mental health sorted out for years but apparently to most therapists I've seen, I'm "too difficult" for them to fix, probably because I have an insanely difficult time actually communicating the fact that I need help because I don't want to inconvenience anyone

[@yuanxoxo24]

after watching this video, I've realized that I am indeed without a doubt a walking red flag :(

[@Thelordofeons]

5 down, 1 to go Let’s go baby 💪🏽🔥

[@mommywanz]

Omg! I have so many redflag. Only no. 5 is I don't have 😅

[@heatherdovaston7589]

Yes some people have made me feel like I've got to be perfect.

[@Sumguyinavan_]

Wow, just @ me in every single one of these... I'd say "You can't start fixing problems if you aren't aware of the problem", but having the need to 'fix' it sounds like its part of the red flags itself

[@osamudazai579]

Kind of glad I only have the first red flag listed. Was going in here expecting to trigger all of them

[@AmiraKollere]

Thanks for all the videos it helped me a lot

[@pmskzqiv]

Salad fingers vibes from this animation😂spooked by the red eyes😂

[@8bWaffle]

I struggle a lot to stay away from too much social media, it's just everywhere and hard to get around when I spent most of my time on the PC

[@Melbot103]

This hurts my soul... Every single one of these... I'm a monster. Wow...

[@nickvansteerteghem8262]

Outside of point nr 6, I do have those red flags, even going as far as denying to love someone so that they find themselves for their own instead of if she'd do it for me. I just wanted to make sure about that and negated my feelings during that time. It just got worse after my mom passed away, she always knew how to cheer me up, but now that she's passed, I can't find that feeling anywhere. And being autistic doesn't help to stop the habbit of looking for that exact feeling.

[@ADPax]

all 6 of these and I'll probably think of a few more. 🚩

[@hiSPACEmango]

Burdened with knowing that making someone care for me in the future is wrong

[@glebanufriev]

One thing I'd like to point out is that doing the opposite of each of those red flags is also not the best idea, especially with the ways things are around the world. For example, not trying to do anything better or improving others just so you wouldn't suffer from perfectionism

[@tubiamo1]

Avoidant attachment is so hurting and so underestimated

[@lilbobofan]

your vids always help