6 Signs He Is Using You & Does NOT See A Future Together

I really think the worst thing is seeing a woman being strung along by a man who sees no future with her. Here are your 6 signs.
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[@bedanan]

"You are someone's dream" wow... So powerful that i almost cried.

[@Coco-pr3rz]

"Don't play the wifey role if you're not his wife. If you're just his girlfriend, do all the fun but don't do anything that comes with a sacrifice to you, don't do anything that makes you feel resentful towards him"

[@IvyaBKK]

This hits me hard.😢

[@shipichip8404]

💔🩸

[@misse1748]

1. If he lives on your expense 2. He does not want to build a future 3. He only connects w you when he’s sad 4. Forgetfulness 5. He only talks about himself 6. If all responsibility is on you

[@XZ858XZ]

Thank you bestie

[@semyaza555]

I agree with everything except for #1

[@misse1748]

@@XZ858XZ 💕💕

[@misse1748]

@Contemporarygirl 💕💕

[@AnnaPugacova]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@MandyJRoss]

If youre readinf this, i pray you receive the highest form of love. You are worthy, good enough and deserving of the best just for being you.💗🙏🏼

[@kmonea9850]

❤️🙏🏾

[@eierinjhoi]

Thank you

[@amandaburleson2035]

if youre reading this, just date men below your leaugue. go for a shorter guy, or a guy that is balding or that uses glasses, or a guy that is brown skin, or a guy that is fat. date a guy below you in pysical looks by two points. !!! these men will die for you !!!

[@claudiaclaudia8599]

@@amandaburleson2035that’s the sure recipe for a sexless marriage.

[@EtherT]

Thank you 😊

[@TheGoodLifeStarterPack]

“If he’s not sure, he can be unsure not on your time.” ⬅️ THIS!

[@spoofsister]

Ladies - get yourself a good education, a well-paid job and make yourself independant of men. If the guy does not meet your standards, thanks next. Be your (and your kids) own provider so you do not need to put up with a cheater, user or lyer or any other type of man. It is better for kids to grow up partly in daycare than in a toxic family. Build up a network of girlfriends/mom- friends who help each other when needed. You need to stand on your own feet first, then romance can add to your life.

[@prairie_dog_5443]

Amen to that! ❤

[@olive4naito]

True. There are no guarantees in life for a proper husband no matter how hard you look. They need to teach this to all young women. Don't cling and bring down your self worth. A lot of men aren't looking for love. They're looking for desperate.

[@aena5995]

she said our time is finite what if we education will take awhile??

[@spoofsister]

@@aena5995 Education is an investment in yourself, spending time with the wrong man because of dependency is a waste of your finite and therewith precious time.

[@aena5995]

@@spoofsister yes so u education over marriage right ? but she talks about biological clock and stuff this stuff makes me overthink because 25 is probably when I can think about anything else after education is done as I had a bit of a gap 😕 Not sure if I wanna think about kids just a life partner I can travel with XD

[@natnat8759]

I just realized that the 2 men I dated long term (1 year and almost 4 years)in my early twenties just used me, worst enough I was sexually objectified and alone in a foreign country, during that time I got acne issues, and lots brain fog, I even hated every inch of myself till the point I lived in isolation.. yes wasted a lot of time, but now at 26 I have my own concept of myself, I am confident in who I am and about the intrinsic value of my soul, I wake up everyday being grateful for my life as woman, I am aiming to create and have a formal relationship with a masculine man and I also hope more young woman hear your advice, there are good and responsible men willing to love and value a woman, but it is on us women to welcome this type of men ❣️

[@Alhamd_laka_rabi100]

At your age, I'm happy about that I hope we find someone who deserves us and loves us. I think we have to change and not give anything so that we are not put in the relationship of the giver who must do everything. It is my fault that I was sympathetic and always asked. This made people not care about me now. I try to be feminine and do not give anything and receive protection and security from men.

[@larabonomo2099]

"You are someone's dream" That is so beautifully said Margarita, thank you for this amazing video once again!!

[@priestrat]

This video resonated with me. I dated a man for 4 years who always was lost, confused, didn't know what he wanted, just "wanted to see", when I told him I want something serious & long-term and to know that he's in it with me, he would say that he wants that as well, but his actions stayed the same. As you said, he would never bring up the topic himself. Still, my delusional ass believed in him, in us, always thought things would change. They didn't. He left as soon as another woman showed the slightest bit of interest in him and he thought he did not need me anymore. Our relationship had beautiful parts but I was left in my late twenties feeling used and incredibly heartbroken, knowing I stayed in that relationship for far too long and did not respect myself enough to leave. So please, if they show you that they are not as committed as you, BELIEVE them, choose yourself and leave!! Yes, you might love them deeply, and they might love you back, but your time and energy are precious and your needs are valid. You will find someone who loves you AND chooses you every day.

[@kITTEN-999]

I hate the fact so many people will say women are the sly and cunning ones when its really men who know what they want that are the most cunning and sly.

[@missbevpowers]

there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite KZbinr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖

[@missbevpowers]

there are many women who have kids at 40 plus... I had my first and only baby at 40. I largely agree with your stance as I usually do which is why I am a sub. You're my favorite KZbinr you are a natural as you keep it real yet in a classy and decent manner. I know you must be beyond excited with the arrival of your baby girl.... so much to look forward to🤗✨🙏💖

[@alexialira3839]

@prttyprincess Nah, men show you they don't want/like you (ex: the story of the woman you're replying to), but you feed yourself delusions that they do. Women, on the other hand, can show AND tell you they like/want you but really, they don't. This is true in any relationship being romantic, family, relative, colleague or friendships. Women are queens of passive aggression and fakeness. It's Mean Girls way into adulthood, don't kid yourself.

[@keylo2473]

The same, but I'm in my almost 40....Feel absolutely lost after such relationships

[@shaynalee]

My ex bf was like my pet. Followed me around everywhere and “helped” me like my assistant but couldn’t hold down a job. When we met he actually had a good job otherwise I wouldn’t have even considered dating him. He was sweet and like a 7 year old at age 30. No money to buy gifts or take me out even for a sandwich. Wanted to marry me too. I couldn’t take another day as I lost all attraction to him and became very masculine. I turned into a person I didn’t like or recognize. Went ballistic and kicked him out. I’d rather be single than with the wrong person. He met someone new and proposed in 8 months. They are now married 😂 I dodged bullets!!

[@EcoworksFL]

Sounds like my experience too. Mine was living on me and wanted to marry me just to get hold of my assets. Don't ever get yourself into this situation ladies, make men pay for themselves, trust me, they are only using you. Don't lose your hard earned cash as well as your heart !

[@EloraSelah]

He dodged a bullet girl. You didn't want him then after that whatever he decides is not your choice

[@WildAntics13]

Some men marry for convenience 😂 not because of love trust me 😂

[@shaynalee]

@@WildAntics13 You are 100% correct. My ex has ADHD and BPD so he needs a mommy to take care of him.

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

Wow, good for you!

[@aliceinwonderlandq]

I was a placeholder for 4 years. Fun fact: He left me for a girl he knew for one week. After our breakup he didn't even bother to wish me merry christmas or happy bday despite that he knew that it is really important tradition for me. These years meant nothing to him, so girls, please, first you see the signs of disrespect or being way too comfy, run! He is just a waste of time. Take care and much love 🥰

[@sowmyaangel9787]

i have been a place holder for almost 10yrs it was so hard for me to leave that relationship as he was a narcissist i suffered so much in my entire life

[@humilis42]

Can I ask how? Were you living with him? Did he try to build anything with you? Like talking to you about long term? Or was he just comfortable with doing very little?

[@abby7270]

This happened to me after 4 yrs of dating, lessons learned

[@DogMommy.]

Idk what to do . The father of my child left us for 2 weeks he still came by everyday to see us but would leave to hes grandmas to sleep now he's back living with us and he said he dont know what he wants . Like idk what to do . I wish I could leave him but its just to hard. I feel so dumb. And we are leaving in he's house right now we have no where to go . He does, I just Don't know and yes we are having intimacy . I wish I could move on and never look back but I love him so much.

[@abby7270]

I’m really sorry you’re dealing with this. It sounds like an incredibly tough and confusing situation. It’s clear that you care deeply for him, but it’s also important to prioritize your own well-being and stability. Have you thought about talking to someone you trust or seeking support from a counselor? Sometimes, having someone to help sort through these emotions can make a big difference. Remember, you deserve love and respect that’s clear and consistent, not one that leaves you questioning your worth.

[@Ladydi9367]

Thank you for posting this. I just left my husband after 30 years of being the place holder. I just found out he was cheating on me for at least 7 years - probably more. I wish someone would have told me these things years ago. Women of my generation - ( I am in my 50’s and older) were taught to be subservient to their husbands. This has been detrimental to women’s mental health and well - being. Women should be treated with love, honor, and respect. Actions speak louder than words. Listen to your intuition ladies. Honor yourself. I am grateful for your validation of my feelings about this topic.

[@emmm6030]

I hope you're doing okay!

[@jessicahitchens6926]

Your mid 50s not 86... therefore you are Gen X. No women in the West from that age group were taught to be subservient unless incredibly religious 🤣

[@bhuvana7401]

sending u love and light 💗🥺

[@Bmutation]

“My time is more precious “ that hit me hard❤

[@Omniria]

This video has broken down a hard true realization for me. Although my partner and I don't have kids and he does work, I still pay my own bills, try to plan the future dates that don't end up happening, he forgets his responsibilities because videogames are of most value to him. So, I'm here getting my head up to put myself first unapologetically.

[@Alhamd_laka_rabi100]

Stop assuming his responsibilities, let him see the results of his actions until he feels and takes a step. By doing so, you are encouraging him to make a mistake and destroying yourself.

[@Etcetc_]

Indeed, whatever his reasons, it will literally crush you to be with a man you choose but he isn’t choosing you back. Leave his a** now before you have to pick the pieces of your shattered heart on the floor.

[@ce.379]

So true !!!

[@DogMommy.]

@@Etcetc_ I feel like with and without them I'm sad so I just feel stuck I love him so much I can't see myself with anyone else. He just moved back in with me and our son but says she doesn't kno what he wants . I'm just so confused and live in fear that he will leave us again

[@gthktty666]

someone said "men are emotional gold diggers and we don't talk about it enough" and AMEN. there are *so many emotionally immature men out there and they treat their partners like their mothers* - ie. expect them to completely emotionally and physically support him, teach him how to be a grown up, AND love him unconditionally - forgiving all thoughtless mistakes and draining shortcomings, but news flash - people are supposed to be emotionally responsible for themselves first and foremost. Only children live off others emotionally/financially/physically, use others as a base to grow from, leave all responsibilities up to others, don't contribute to building a future, don't manage their own emotions without someone else's help, and are only able to relate things directly back to their own personal experiences in life - therefore they lack awareness and empathy, and can ONLY talk about themself. (Bonus points if they have a substance/screen/exercise/shopping/gambling/food addiction)

[@gthktty666]

never put more time and effort into a man than you put into yourself. if he needs 100 hours of lessons from you on how to be emotionally aware aka not a selfish asshole, you better already be spending 200 hours on your own emotional awareness and self-care.

[@nyuuuchan]

THIS! 💯 ⭐

[@danilaroche1156]

Never looked at it this way but right you are! My boyfriends refused to self reflect. To grow and heal. They wanted me as a pacifier or an ego boost. They wanted wife benefits on a girlfriend reality. Nooo!!! Not on my watch.

[@TheSpiritWithin999]

I'm 29. I was married to this man for a year. With him for 8. He married me while he was *finally* excelling in his life (or so it seemed). Then quit his job shortly after and became the manifest of all 5 points you discussed in this video. Played WoW while I worked. The red flags were always there though, so I'm the fool. The biggest mistake I've ever made. I finally woke up and left. It took me hitting rock bottom and meeting the exact opposite man to realise what was happening. Exactly as you put it, my authenticity was gone. I was the mum and the masculine. Completely betrayed and lost myself. Your videos are so incredibly helpful 🙏 thank you for being the truth bomb we all need.

[@Nycgoomba]

Proud of you for recognizing quickly and leaving early while you're still young 👏🏽 a lot of people wouldn't have had the strength for that

[@queenielynn9985]

8 years? I’m asking because I want to be sure we’re in the same shoes as I was with mine for 10 years

[@TheSpiritWithin999]

@@queenielynn9985 Yes, sadly. I met him when I was 20. We've been separated for 6 months now.

[@TheSpiritWithin999]

@@Nycgoomba thank you so much 🙏

[@ellejwrench1034]

So I’m 27, been with my partner 4 & a half years and I’ve felt the same for perhaps the last year or so. Ive never felt so drained. The amount of responsibility been in my hands alone while he’s just floated through,or complained of being tired if I try to share the load of every day life. I’m honestly at the point where I think I’d rather be on my own 💯. To anybody else in the same boat, I pray we find the strength to leave and find ourselves again❤

[@Itswhitneyxxo]

I was a placeholder for 3 years now he’s realized the grass isn’t greener and he wants me back. Or maybe it’s his ego, either way it goes he’s wasted enough of my time. I am good on him, I don’t want him.

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Time is precious don’t waste it. Date with intention . Set time limits. Otherwise ,You’re better off getting to know yourself, investing in yourself , volunteering or supporting a cause you support. When I met my husband we had a discussion of what our expectations were . It was spelled out , no guessing . Closed on his end and closed on mine .

[@maryannabaza8782]

you are literally describing my mother and father, I grew up watching him use her in every way possible, never took responsibility for once, and I feel resentful on her behalf 😭 I wish she watched your video 30 years ago😭😭😭😭😭

[@WildAntics13]

Same like my mom! I don’t know why some women are dusties as well! Thats why wisdom is power

[@misse1748]

I pray all woman are balanced in their divine feminine energy 🙏🏽

[@YourPainting1]

Im 31 and just ended a 6 year relationship. Took up the majority of my 20’s and never committed to me and never tried to have kids even though he said he did in the beginning of our relationship. I feel so strung on. Now I’m 31 having to start over and dating has become SO different in 6 years my god. What have dating apps done to people?

[@Robert-ri7mt]

You are a woman. All dating apps are win win for a woman. You can get 200 dates in 24 hrs. Goid luck 🙏🏻

[@marguskiis7711]

Dont use dating apps. They are crap.

[@happymood2278]

I feel exactly the same. 32 years old, been single for 3 years after a 5 year relationship. I was very naive and he was a manipulative little rat who did not have the balls to face reality.

[@spunkymonkeym]

I'm 30. After 5.5 years of being told that he was going to propose to me I'm finally giving up and walking away. I feel sad that it took me so long to realize that.

[@Naomi11477]

Six years- me too! This video hit the nail on the head

[@Moe90ies]

OMG! I always felt like he was only calling me because the girls he wanted didn’t want him, but I could never prove it, he would gaslight me into thinking I was crazy for thinking that. This just confirms my suspisions. I have moved on though

[@mslancambridgesmart]

Same thing happened with me

[@Moe90ies]

@@mslancambridgesmart don’t be sad, we are better off 🫶🏻

[@sarajune444]

I never want have babies. Im 44 and single. You are right. I waste 20 years with wrong partners as l always attract men who dont wante babies neither etc....Never waste more then 2 years with guy if he not make some move with you❤❤❤ I wish met you in my 20y.old......😢

[@ellen5276]

Dating when you don't want children/are finished having children is SO MUCH harder. SO MUCH. People do not understand. How do you find a man who wants something serious when they are the type of man who doesn't want children/a family? They have no reason to commit. Or men who have already had children/a family - you will always seem less than the ex. I struggle with it.

[@Patternlogic]

Very true! I think a lot of my friends think and wants an "equal" partnership where they are independent from the partners and they can buy themselves flowers, be your own best friend etc. I also fell into that trap. While I think it's important to build yourself to that person, it's almost a detriment to have that mentality when you actually have a partner. Because if your partner (and that includes you too) isn't adding anything meaningful in your life then they aren't it. What's the point of having an almost roommate/friend relationship? Ask for more because you know you deserve it and you know you will give the same back. And if they can't or don't want to give you more then you know this person isn't for you.

[@allthatmatters8235]

I found your channel just recently after going through a breakup that I have struggled to move on from for the last two months. I absolutely love your sense of humour and personality. But also as a 37 year old female, I have found your channel very helpful for my situation and building my self esteem and confidence back up. I thought I had found "the one" but after seeing this video, I know I was just being used. Thank you for your content and helping women like me get back on track.

[@nicolectheesthetician9235]

If he blames you for everything and says you are immature because your reaction to his behavior 😢

[@OfficeSvetulka2020]

I allowed this to happen - the wrong man wasting my 20s and 30s. I hear your advice now and feeling mortified that I didn't know that earlier. To all the girls out there - be mindful of your time!

[@imfatima277]

Watching this video made me realise that my bf that I’m dating now is doing all the opposite of those points. TBH it made me feel guilty because I’ve been acting very carful around him and questioning everything he dose and try to look at what is he doing wrong, so I’ll be watching this every time i suspect my bf. Thank you ❤

[@etcwhatever]

Be careful. If you are together for 2 years plus and he didnt propose he will make you lose your precious time. Even if he sound like a dream man. They can change too.

[@imfatima277]

@@etcwhatever thank you so much for your concerns, and tbh I don’t except anything lol, i feel im always assuming he is going to show him real self one day (we’ve been together for 3 months so far) i don’t expect anything serious because him and i are in a long distance relationship and we both study, but he said he is thinking when we both finish our studying we should get married( we’re going to graduate in the same year). I’m always ready for the worse, i just hope this time I’m wrong and he is really serious.

[@etcwhatever]

@@imfatima277 yes 3 months is very recent indeed. I hope hes the right one, but if a good man who is close by shows up i would start a friendship and leave all options open. Ive been burned too much so i wish younger women to fulfill their dreams and avoid problems.

[@Krislyn-b3i]

I am 49 when I was 45 I discovered I had DDD degenerative disk disease and needed to stay in a rehabilitation and nursing home for a bit....my husband has still not picked me up I have been in a home for 3yrs...he has used every exuse...I know not to go back but sometimes I feel I have no other options...then I watch your podcasts 😊I am empowered to find a better man and life❤

[@K1111A]

Please empower yourself. You are worthy of a good marriage and a good life. Divorce him, he will have to give you 50% of anything he has, including his job earnings. Make it your number one goal to get out of the home you’re in. Prioritize your health❤. There are programs out there that can help you get started looking for a place to live. You deserve so much more in this one short life you have💕

[@Holly_honestly]

The way you just describe my entire first marriage. WOW! Where we’re you 14 years ago? I desperately needed that advice then!

[@yolkyolk3148]

"you are someone's dream" 💕

[@aflurinia1657]

this video helped me realize - or it's better to say accept - that i am being used like an emotional support in times of need while i get less than a bare minimum in terms of the support and care that i deserve. and also videos about detachment helped me with my situationship a lot. thank you, Margarita. i am in love with your channel, it's been so helping and reassuring for me these past few days. спасибо.

[@EcoworksFL]

Thank you for this video, women need to hear tbis, there is many users out there, we need to guard our hearts and our wallets, men can be gold giggers too and look for a woman to take care of them

[@Alicia_mcc]

I’ve recently just gone through a break up that has been really tough on me. I needed to hear this. Thank you so much for taking the time to help other women❤️

[@candygirl1990]

I waited 4 years for my ex to propose to me and he dumped me because I wanted committment and he didn't. 4 years wasted, I'm 51 now and it's way too late to start again. I'm finished. Great video ❤❤❤

[@kaylagomar5571]

It’s never to late everyone is on a different timing ❤️

[@CF.]

You can still find love. My grandma got a boyfriend at 85. They were together until he passed at 93. They were so good to each other and were so happy. It’s never too late to find love.

[@candygirl1990]

​@@CF. Hi. Thank you for your reply. I guess I'm just feeling down because I feel very single at 51. But you're story is sweet, so there might be hope for me ❤❤

[@candygirl1990]

​@@kaylagomar5571 thanks, I will try to remember that. ❤

[@adaofcharles1217]

Never, say never.

[@MsOrganic1]

I brought up what are his intentions with me, once. Gave him enough time. No response. No response is a response. Already planning my exit plan.

[@PrisantyaFridayana]

Your statements in this video really aligns with my religion teaching, Islam The woman in my religion should not be touched, be slept with or even hangout privately until marriage is done And when a man interest in the woman, he should go for woman's father ask for marriage. What if the man wants to get to know the woman? The conversation would be in a serious conversation, no flirting, etc, and should be accompanied with the woman's relative So this concept really honour the woman, the man who is not serious wont even get near But sadly, the Muslim woman mostly doesnt realize this, doesn't realize how God wants to protect her and her dignity Through your video, I hope more women awakes and realize, only marriage commitment that we should accept after make a serious conversation with a man (how he sees woman, treats woman, etc)

[@rayna463]

“You are someone’s dream”🥹💕😭

[@bobbypigeon6243]

Thank you Margarita. Now I can fully agree with everything. It’s sad sometimes we forget that time is one of the most important resources in the world, even more important than money.

[@annab3184]

Gold of a video. But to the editor: Audacity: Locate a section of your recording that's just your background noise, preferably a few seconds long, and select it. Go to Effects > Noise Reduction and press the "Get noise profile" button. Select all the audio for which you want to reduce the noise. Go to Effects > Noise Reduction again.

[@Gamingfluff6]

4 is a classic. My husband was like that for 15 years. Everyone told me "all men are like that" 😑😑😑

[@samanthapregenzer923]

NUMBER TWO!!!!! Thank you!!!! I recently ended a 6 year relationship because of NUMBER TWO. Thank you. It's true!

[@healingwithvee]

Good to know because looking back I always wonder, “was it real?” But no… he was def using me.

[@cbgavalda7103]

He booked a trip with a friend on the weekend of our anniversary... Bye! There were other signs before: being on the phone constantly (while having dinner, while chatting...), making fun plans with friends but staying at home watching neftlix with me... I've been rewatching all your videos now that we have broken up and omg... all the signs were there (although they appeared after the six first months). Despite the sadness and the hurt, I'm happy I took the courage to break up. Sure, I contributed (for example doing wifey stuff and wanting to move to his country before married), but once I noticed and pulled away, he didn't come after me. I just can't understand why a man would stay in a relationship if he has lost interest/ just for using the woman.

[@RiyasPov]

I normally don't comment on any videos but I do listen to you religious but oh boy oh boy oh boy this video just hits home. thank you so much for helping all the woman out here in the world. you truly are doing Gods work and I loved your both courses, much love

[@mpho5664]

You are amazing , a sister I never had ! Thank you for sharing your wisdom

[@EvieSaintAnn]

You literally described my ex of 4 years. “Looking” for a solid job for 4 years but never finding one… playing video games while I was out working in my career and side hustles to keep us afloat…. Him investing his money in a drone, VR goggles, a video gaming system instead of our future... Me bringing up marriage and him get triggered when I did. I finally left him and moved out of state to start over and learned so much in the process. I am actually embarrassed and grossed out about how I settled so much for someone so low but never again. Your videos are helping me so much Margarita!

[@char2723]

I have to train myself how to say the word ‘NO’ and I have to be willing to walk away! (Especially on a date)

[@damianwildfong7278]

i reconnected with someone after 26 years and thought I found my person I wanted it to be casual and light and fun because it was long distance I was fine with that he did all these things for 2 years I found out he didn't talk to his family because he was abusive to them and he had multiple mental illnesses that he lied about I am glad it was long distance and he lived in an exciting city I like to say of that experience that Chicago was my boyfriend

[@dianaramae3030]

But I have heard some stories where a guy talks about their future, the life they want to build together and everything and yet after the engagement, a few months later they still end up cheating 😔😔

[@user-ln4qe1sh8i]

A guy I recently met online started Future faking, talking about trips, dinners etc. I called his bluff in telling him I was going out to dinner last week. He was sad he wasn't there 😂 like...I knew he was just full of 💩 I stopped trying and making any efforts. He's gone quiet again and he can stay quiet, I want a guy who demonstrates his actions instead of words. Talk is cheap but silence is Golden. It's a 'Me' season ❤

[@dacenebula]

omg margarita. 1, 2, and 6 made my blood boil. I’m watching this video in hindsight, after breaking up w my ex who exhibited these particular behaviors, and I’m so happy I had the foresight to clock it and understand that he had no intentions of building a future with me. Staying with him longer would’ve meant delaying his own growth so after countless conversations and what felt like begging him to step up for our relationship, i realized talking wasn’t going to do anything so I pulled the trigger for us and broke us up. He wasn’t going to do it. He was quite happy being coddled and I wasn’t going to do it any longer because it left me completely drained, resentful, and pissed at how much time I wasted (2 years). Ladies, the minute your intuition starts going off like crazy, please please please do not ignore those signs. Margarita’s right, we do not have an abundance of time to waste. Let’s take our power back.

[@adelante3938]

whoever is reading this, take it from me, it does nottttt gettttt better......... you blink your eyes and 2, 5, 10 years will go by, and it will never change. dont give your lives away. ive done it and i dont know how to get out from under.

[@danilaroche1156]

My sister a THERAPIST & social worker is a placeholder & doormat. Her boyfriend is MARRIED and she still stays. Gives him everything. He even told her he wouldn't marry her. She still stays! I honestly think if he leaves, she will kill him. I'm serious. Nothing I say to her gets thru. I'm done.

[@rollierollout]

This was so difficult to listen to because it's true and I've known it for 13 years.

[@keylo2473]

Oh god.. i did all these mistakes you described unfortunately. Ive just realized he has someone else... im crying..

[@Alhamd_laka_rabi100]

Dont cry you are princess for other king ✌️

[@iampayitforward6083]

I literally just ended things with a guy and after I hung up I was feeling like maybe things could get better if I were to try harder... and then I remembered: no, I am training my brain! what can I do soothe myself and my nervous system. After meditating, go to youtobe and watch Margarita :D Thank you so much for the content you share, it's transformational when you apply it!!

[@barbfoster3978]

When I tell him something that happened to me, he says 'skip to the point' To be fair I think we actually have more of the student convenient relationship you describe at the beginning - pulling financial resources. However, your post makes me realise I want more x

[@farwahbatool6247]

My man says "Come on! Pour out all the stories you've stored in your head!". He encourages me to talk and loves it when we talk and speak about every kind of stuff. Anything. Whereas, what you said that your guy says "skip to the point" to you, he's being mean to you. You know where you stand. You deserve better. When he starts speaking, you make him taste his own medicine by repeating his phrase back to him. Then he'll feel what his medicine tastes like to him. I wish you all the best! You're the best, and you'll find yourself a good man, soon 💐

[@barbfoster3978]

Thank you We are no longer together but still friends. He still says 'skip to the point' I sent him this recently 'According to a survey, men can listen to their male friends for ages, but they can only listen to their girlfriend or wife for six minutes' He replied 'Hahaha, so very very very true It's the delivery Men consolidate Women elaborate' Hopefully, one day I will meet a man like yours ❤

[@Thomassina1]

Great tips, a long time friend married such a guy (last three points). She did everything, adjusted her work schedule to fit his early one, raised the kids, did the finances, the house, etc. Today she's exhausted, v resentful, has health probs.

[@daryaqadernejad1231]

You all ways tell us something that nobody tell us Thank you margarita i failled again and i feel sad that again someone using me again and it is really hard to exept❤

[@Mandycapetown]

I’m the Amanda. I’ve been used so badly, found out yesterday his living a double life in a world of drugs. I’m so hurt.his lost 3 jobs in a year, constantly demanding money from me, blaming me that he has no clothes shoes etc. I wasted over a year of him destroying my soul.

[@AmanpreetKaur-qb4gg]

seen this happening all my life with my mom. I sympathise with her as I cannot do anything about it. I hope you're in a better place now and you definitely deserve better.

[@meftal_od]

I’m 28 Indian medical degree girl…. we came into long distance since 1 year, dnt know all of sudden I started asking him when we gonna marry bla bla….he reply mayb aftr 2 years or once only my brother gets married……thank god I came across this video……btw it’s been 7 years we r committed 6 years in same place and 1 year long distance……dnt know I was so curious that I kept asking about marriage, but now I think I should stop

[@kimberlystokes3758]

I so needed to hear this today. Thank you!!! I am looking for a husband, not a pet! ❤

[@Dragonfly_magictarot]

What johnny Depp quote gave me chills and brought me to tears…

[@leonie672]

😮 I wish I seen this 6 years ago!! Very true!! Thank you!! ❤❤

[@lailashah5851]

I have been watching so many of ur videos! Ur so healing and u make it simple: “have boundaries so you never have to heal”

[@ap-yo4qc]

#1 Sign you played yourself: You need this video

[@izabelazielak8963]

If thinking and talking don’t change him,maybe work will,or maybe he can just be himself and hang on 🤷🏻

[@svilenaninetta9838]

I am so angry right now. Yes.. He wasted 12 years of my life. Now iam 47 no men no kids.. I am so angry. I wish i knew this 12 y ago. Yes you just remind me.. He never say happy b day to me for 12 years. He said " i m never sure is it on 24 or 25 jan. And as a metter a fact my b day is on 29th jan. Under 1 and under 2. Most correct.

[@djredrayne]

Wow, every time I watch your videos, I always learn something new.

[@shanika8]

This made me tear up almost my mom was almost 40 when she made me i was a miracle baby and it took 1 time to make me my sister is also a miracle baby my mom had her at 40 i has my period at 12 almost had bad cramping abd was later placed on birth control still on it to this day so many guys have wasted me time lied and used me im so glad that they're gone im 25 with no kids i wanted to wait til marriage wait til me and the guy live together for a year and make sure we both have jobs and make sure we both want kids i still sadly never found the one yet

[@kristinmoore693]

I just ended a three year relationship with this very man. I feel like a fool. I have to just realize that he was fun and we laughed a lot … but he kept no promises and did not put any effort toward a future for us. empty promises. At 53 years old… and divorced after 31years before him….i’m not getting any younger!!!! Goodbye!

[@ghaitsazahirashofa3605]

this was brutal and thank you. i need this

[@Legacychaser_777]

This woman never fails! I love your realistic viewpoints & how you get straight to the video. Glowing so beautifully ❤

[@Skaykaykay]

This gem of a woman posted again! ❤Your videos are consistently fantastic, and they've become a staple in my morning routine here in Amsterdam, dear!💕 Your insights and facts are always on point. Thank you, Margarita, for creating such great content that brightens up my mornings with so much wisdom Wishing you and your beautiful family a joyful holiday season! 🎄✨❤

[@lou15176]

Omg 😂I’m listening really intently and nodding along about some of these signs and got to the cat 🐱 sneeze 🤧 anniversary 😂😂😂😂 I had to pause the video to choke on my own laughter 😆 talk about bringing light into a somewhat serious subject. Brilliant 🙌 x

[@Krislyn-b3i]

I truly am so happy I discovered your podcasts they're reminding me of who I used to be❤and I really need that ..thank you

[@jayOG_2020]

💯💯💯 I so agree with you!! ❤️

[@xiomararodriguez17]

I'm someone's dream girl

[@UniquelyHerz]

2 yrs & couldn’t even get a Merry Christmas or a gift.. some men egos are so far up their 🍑

[@darkvalkyrie5366]

there are a lot of women who love to be childfree by choice. even if you want a kid, you don't need a man, you just need a lot of money. wanting a family at all costs is internalised patriarchy. just sayin'

[@rachelmaunder3347]

Brilliant yet again . Hitting a heart chord . Interesting … always was paying 😮 why the hell did I even bring out my purse 👛 . Learned many boundaries after this experience

[@Dorothy35]

1) He lives on your expense. 2) He does not want to build a future with you. You are not in his future. 3) He only connects with you when he is sad 4) 3)

[@nicoletaf.9290]

I have been attached to a man i thought i love, still loving him but he blocked me out of his life… to move on from me

[@MarCariB]

Great video ❤thanks Margarita

[@luaandlua]

girls for you what means when you ask him if he still have feelings for his ex and he says he likes her friendship and they were so envolved?

[@ANGELSVEN]

I dated an ex military pilot. We went on five dates. The last date I cooked him dinner. ALL he did was talk about himself with zero questions about me or my history or favorite things or favorite color, etc. 3/4 of the way through the dinner I was like (in my head) saying "Please LEAVE." It was agony. Last I heard, he had moved in a 25 year old dance instructor with him (he's in his 50s). YUCK.

[@swordsnorchids1997]

I'm still open if somebody else comes along since he's giving mixed signals whether he's playing or he has issues that need fixing (I know I can't do that tried that before..) and I've detached from my date since he's not getting his shit together 'yet' I'm not sure he will do so although he claims not wanting to lose me I don't see the proof but I'm just not sure if and when or where I'm going to get a genuine, loving relationship after being with a narcissist for years which is more common nowadays and people as a whole have lost touch which I also think is a big societal problem.

[@AngieF321]

What about when he lied to you for years, married you and got you pregnant and after two children and hurting you again and again he says you are not healing and lives on his life and then abandons his marriage. To tell you you have peaked and far gone with hurt to progress with him. I’m numb and don’t know what to do, I’m turning 30 in January and somehow my husband has convinced and continued to state how no man will want a woman with 2 children. I’ve committed myself to get pissed on. One day he will stumble upon this post because he stalks my movements but in case he does see it I have no regrets in writing this.

[@user-mr3le4hs4e]

Everything you mention is very true and important. Thank you. More similar subjects would be appreciated. How to spot the difference between real or fake pursuit? Real caring or just wanting a possibility for better country benefits/residency?

[@LivingInKerala]

Great video, I wish this video was around 15 years ago.

[@lavender_heartt]

Маргарита, ты даёшь мне столько уверенности и вдохновения. Спасибо, что делишься такими важными знаниями. Я люблю тебя ❤

[@1kellygirl2010]

This is such valuable information. Can you direct the same topic to older women and relationships?

[@Harmony977]

You are so spot on. I sent it to my friends and daughter 😊

[@isagabrielini3904]

Haha the part that she explain an excéntrico when she is taking and he is like look at that tree 🌲😂😂😂 that was just funny !

[@Rachel.Nicole]

I listened to the podcast yesterday and I’m still here!!!! Hi queen

[@janawalnut4092]

You are amasing Is what I told to a man few weeks ago Thankyou so much I am watching you now every Day It is helping me so much...to feel I am allready ON m good way as a female ❤

[@VeronikaZ-gu7ge]

Said it before, will say it again - words of wisdom!

[@jessicaashley9833]

You’re hilarious and wise at the same time. Love listening to you 😘

[@Twalimo]

Good to see/hear from you again. Will save this for later... On the move 💃🏾❤️