6 Signs You're Not Crazy, It's Your Upbringing

Have you ever thought you were going crazy? Do you struggle with expressing your emotions, or properly trusting others? Does it feel like everyone else has it figured out but you? It can be easy to blame yourself for your shortcomings, but how you were raised also plays a role in who you grow up to be and how you handle your emotions. Your experiences throughout your personal upbringing have far-reaching effects on your life. By taking an honest look at how your parents treated you, your sibling relationships, and your family dynamics as a whole, you can spot the signs of toxicity that were present but you were unaware of at the time. If you relate to any of these six signs, you’re not crazy, it’s your upbringing.
*Disclaimer: This video isn't made to blame anyone, but to help us understand why we are the way we are. **
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[@Psych2go]

We all grow and experience different life experiences. Sometimes, we experience things that we don't understand why it happened to us. Do you have any stories you want to share about your upbringing that may affected you as a person to this day? Disclaimer: This video isn't made to blame anyone, but to help us understand why we are the way we are. If you're struggling, please seek professionals help in your local area or talk to a trusted friend/family member.

[@Skulledscar]

E

[@fyikai7381]

Yes.... Ty♥️💛

[@anqxlicv]

5 days ago..?

[@SisL_channel-april21]

We all grow and experience different life experiences. Sometimes, we experience things that we don't understand why it happened to us. You're right. Sometimes it's happened...

[@rutba]

I grew up well. But when you are exposed to the outside world, you experience a lot. I think these experiences and what we learnt from it defines what kind of a person we are... Nice video ❤️

[@verandabeach9340]

Imagine having parents who love you unconditionally. It seems like a dream.

[@buttercupkat]

They exist, and they should also be your parents. I'm so sorry they're not, but as hard as it is, remember that you deserve your own love no matter what you do. Holding yourself to high standards, failing, and berating yourself until you can get to the goal won't end well. It'll lead to self-hatred. No matter what, be there for yourself. It's not selfish to focus on yourself.

[@unamed2516]

Some people talk as if it already exists for all parents towards there children.

[@sarahhaque9039]

mine 🙂😊, I have never been so grateful from having them as my parents🖤❤️

[@mrhbr7974]

not even in dream.

[@kebah11]

Even if you did have parents that loved you unconditionally, they would still be human and have flaws and broken perspectives that could weigh on you and affect the way you emotionally develop, especially since you know they love you and would feel bad for ever thinking that they might actually be making things harder for you

[@ghostlyme]

I will never completely understand why it's so hard for some parents to say "I'm sorry"

[@dubby1567]

But forces us to say sorry

[@igorthelight]

Because they are still immature

[@ShadowSkyX]

Because you are a child, they are an adult. Backpedaling and apologizing is admitting you, a child, "won" in some way. Admitting something like that absolutely stings no matter your age. Its worse when you were bad mouthing and back talking and made a valid point somewhere along the line.

[@valeriemontellano7329]

Bc of this I literally DONT apologize. It’s like I physically CANT

[@geradosolusyon511]

@@ShadowSkyX sooo, in other words: Immature. There are people out there that does not feel stinger when "losing" to a child, or do not even feel losses at all because they're not insecure about their superiority over others. In fact, there's people that would rather feel amused and would actually contemplate their mistake when a child makes more sense than them. It all comes down to actual maturity, not maturity as perceived by a confused preadolescent that never grew up after they came of age. The caveat is, mature people are hard to come by when the parents never taught them how to be one or only gave them bad examples to go by. Like, really, really hard.

[@_.ana._.]

"All children deserve parents, but not all parents deserve children"

[@aryansverses]

Respect.

[@bora4861]

Totally respect

[@MusicVibes-dg5fw]

👏👏👌

[@realhealing7802]

Amen!

[@nativebornekids5713]

That was deep 🥺

[@krabbypatty7885]

" You're not broken, crazy or unworthy of love." Those words hit hard

[@RosheenQuynh]

And somehow I still scoffed in disbelief... 😩

[@SwimmingNavy]

Hahaha. True, True!

[@princessdamilola2289]

“Have you ever thought you were crazy?” All the time!

[@usha112]

I mean who doesn't at some Point of life right?

[@ashleythehooman]

Same

[@eleemaharoon8232]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/hZeXXoOgpah7rdk

[@timefliesaway999]

Crazy is good

[@nununway9205]

Bruh..😏😏 Nevermind thought I KNEW that I was crazy😏

[@virgobunch8079]

Yet some parents still wonder why their kids leave home and never talk or call them ever again🤷

[@hamdibazian2495]

Count me on this list 🙄

[@anonymousstranger3520]

Count me in advance

[@hamdibazian2495]

@@anonymousstranger3520 😂 I wish I done it sooner

[@LakituKoopa]

@@pornessianparrapio1439 and yet, you still can feel the leash. Maybe it is not that tight anymore, but somehow you know that it is there. But I agree, it is kind of liberating.

[@virgobunch8079]

@Kendria Hudson man that's rough sorry bout that

[@user-cl3od7ey3m]

"You're not crazy. It's your upbringing." *Everyone related.*

[@hehe_lemonade5114]

I honestly think I was going crazy and I didn't relate any of these-..

[@Catlily5]

@@hehe_lemonade5114 I have a mental illness so I am called "crazy". You can be mentally ill even if your parents were nice. This video is not the best information. Crazy is a bad choice of words. It means many different things to different people.

[@momo-gl1zm]

i dont relate to any of them either.. so ye im fucked :/

[@Catlily5]

@Intelektshual day Crazy means many different things to many different people. Just realize that.

[@Catlily5]

@Intelektshual day Why would I be mad? Your comment is fine!

[@tntkff9901]

Me:... Maybe this is why I'm like this? My parents: "There you go, blaming EVERYONE but yourself for your problems!"

[@rael.5967]

Damn that's one accurate shot

[@krissyk9767]

Yeah parents never want to accept any responsibility for the way their children turn out even though they are usually a child's biggest influence

[@aaronmann9442]

Ya mine do the same lol. Its like no I am blaming your behaviour for me not wanting anything to fucking do with you lol. Do you think I would give you the satisfaction of having that kind of power over my own life??? I am blaming you for the bad habits I formed in self defense growing up in the toxic environment you provided. I'm blaming myself when I hold on to them, but still fuck you for giving them to me because that's on you.

[@aaronmann9442]

@@krissyk9767 unless that child became wildly successful

[@Dogscatsbikes]

I want to show your comment to my parents

[@meenaahuja7866]

Everyone agrees that her voice suits best for these super cute animations

[@Blitzdrachen_]

Y e s

[@Blitzdrachen_]

Parents and school: im gonna ignore this (No offense btw)

[@ilyssahagood8387]

Yes

[@Abcdefghijkl1122]

Her voice is literarelly divine

[@Drewjew420]

Omg yes!!! Its super trusting and comforting and non-judgmental❤

[@cantthinkofthename981]

This video should be watched by parents, not children

[@joutakujo2256]

Fax

[@cantthinkofthename981]

Same, I’m a child

[@lavolpedafirenze3825]

what would be the title? "stuff not to do to your kids"

[@citygirlingraham]

I see a lot of my ex husband in these traits. No wonder, I’m divorced.

[@allmakotosarebestmakotos4261]

It's very unlikely that these types of "parents" would watch. That would mean accepting they abused their children unnecessarily, have to genuinely apologize and work on themselves (regardless if their child(ern) forgive them). But yes, parents are the ones who should watch them. Especially new/expecting parents or people planning to have kids in the future. I like these videos because they arr straight to the point, easy to understand, and the speakers voice is the perfect tone for these topics. It would be very beneficial for everyone involved.

[@kaydenlyon9831]

This sentence, "Chronic people pleasing" hit me like a slap in the face

[@reedsylvier5250]

All parents should know this before raising a child

[@erikdekker1]

Most parents are pure cancer.

[@shakurwonders5216]

@@erikdekker1 agreed like mine, pain in the ass

[@yurri-homare]

“Have you ever thought you were crazy?” Yes, yes I did.

[@anqxlicv]

Yep.

[@Skulledscar]

Yes

[@weakattheknees.]

Y e p-

[@enabaumland]

+ I got called that from my family

[@sophiescott6926]

Yes my parents hated each other

[@s7449]

These are the exact chains I tried to break raising my children, because it's exactly what I went through. I am still suffering from the side effects from this years and years later.

[@dianatserban]

Is it working?

[@rainsara2795]

I'm glad theres people like u, keep going! 🙌

[@sydbarrett5]

❤

[@maya07_11]

aw how is it going?

[@alexandrugheorghe5610]

🤗

[@weiyen8105]

"Demanding respect is not something your mom or dad should hold over your head" Well, demanding respect is my parents favourite hobby so that phrase definitely shocked me I thought it was supposed to work that way

[@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97]

Same

[@taabishkhanself-improvemen7331]

“You can’t go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending...” ―C. S. Lewis Love from a small channel💙

[@bora4861]

Aweee… gave me goosebumps

[@mrfajgaming.118]

Awesome

[@astilp_lbs2226]

"Never abused?" well, if you can relate to at least one of these signs, you have been abused Emotional abuse is way harder to detect then physical abuse, especially when it happened in childhood. There are so many diffrent types of emotional abuse and when I got deeper into that theme I was more and more like "wow, this isn't normal?"

[@naoky8311]

@@deedeechur Abuse is abuse, intentional or not

[@thecriticalone1783]

You need more likes

[@thecriticalone1783]

@@naoky8311 I'm cerous to what you were responding too if you remember

[@naoky8311]

@@thecriticalone1783 the buddy there asked something like "if my parents abuses me but they don't know about it, is it still abuse?"

[@thecriticalone1783]

@@naoky8311 omg. Yes the tree makes a sound. XD Thanks for letting me know

[@maitreyamanasvin2494]

"did your parents compare you to others?" Indian kids- *FLASHBACKS INTENSIFY*

[@bangtangirl6951]

Yes :)

[@PK-np2jn]

Hahahahaaaa omg yes

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

How do these online strangers know me better than my own parents??

[@umangsheel7819]

This is probably tru for me, an Indian

[@setareh5888]

All Asian parents...

[@savageunitato100]

"if so, which one struck home with you the most?" ALL. OF. THEM. THIS WHOLE VIDEO STRUCK HOME WITH ME. A LITTLE TO CLOSE TO HOME

[@vulnikkura]

Me too. 💓💓💓

[@elrafa3957]

Me2

[@NKhali]

Same.

[@MusicVibes-dg5fw]

Me 3. 😉😏

[@endahsulistya5271]

Im stuck at home...with parents and almost do nothing . Many friends wanna reach me out but i just cant trust anyone and still think about what my parents would say...from long time ago they alwys handle me

[@Alyssa_aria]

whenever they say "you're not crazy, it's not your fault" I feel like I wanna tear up a lil' 🥺

[@EricPiano]

6 Signs You're Not Crazy, It's Your Upbringing: 1) Conditional love 0:45 2) Guilt tripping 1:42 3) Taking accountability 2:21 4) The comparison game 3:10 5) Projecting flaws and insecurities 3:52 6) Over-controlling behavior 4:31 Have a great day Psych2Goers!

[@aru8193]

Thank you Eric ✨

[@xero6396]

Thank you.

[@mave143]

Thanks Eric!!

[@justanidiot9543]

If i don't relate to any of these points what does it mean?

[@mave143]

@@justanidiot9543 it means you're on the wrong vid my friend 😊

[@triscuit4000]

As a child and teen, I have had trouble expressing anger. It was so difficult and frustrating having other people mess with me and not being able to assert myself and get them to stop.

[@rollysanimalstorys5785]

As morty would say "parents are just kids haveing kids"

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

Who is morty

[@rollysanimalstorys5785]

From rick and morty

[@manuelkaduthuse497]

@@rollysanimalstorys5785 huh?

[@GreasySenpai]

Which episode is that from Rolly?

[@unamed2516]

@@manuelkaduthuse497 It’s a show.

[@WillowySiren]

As an asian (Bangladeshi) I can literally say that this was my whole childhood to teenage years. These experiences made me who i am today. I can’t accept failure, always looking for validation, when people shows kindness, i feel like they have reasons. I feel like this video is talking about my life.

[@jennil7797]

FP It was seeing this happening to a young child in the Bradford Asian community where, as a student teacher, a parent of his bright, but nervous four year old asked me, " Is my son going to be a success, a leader of men, or just another follower like his older brother?" that made me realise it had happened to me and my siblings too. It isn't really a deliberate act of cruelty. As immigrants, where they were themselves often seemed lesser people than their true worth, they wanted more for us. Add to that the cultural norm across the world at one time of total parental authority, a belief that children are lazy and must be pushed or punished in order to achieve their potential and that it is the duty of parents to ensure their offspring grow up to be acceptable members of the society that the grandparents would recognise, they were still following the rules of childrearing that would keep them, as under 40s in a position that would not bring down the wrath of their own 60+ year old parents on their heads. Believe me, I thought I was doing better in the 80s, but apparently, though the physical violence and public ridicule I endured was not repeated, my three children have differing views as to my own success in parenting. Conversely, I have slight worries over my middle child's ability to be fair and calm towards her own children sometimes. She was a victim of serious school yard bullying and it shows. It is admirable that each generation tries to be better at parenting but, as my career went on, I saw the opposite happening, children being so spoiled, having no expectations placed on them at all, so that they failed to move on from toddlerhood , expecting teachers to still fasten their shoes for them, keep track of where their belongings were etc. at age eleven. The balance is hard to find and I made mistakes too. Parenting is the most natural, but most difficult job to get completely right in the world. Trouble is, we all see ourselves as experts who are doing the right thing during our children's formative years and usually we are not completely doing so. All we can do is our best and to realise, no matter how we try, our own kids will remember the things we didn't get quite right as adults. I'm practicing not taking the minor criticisms mine level at me now as personal attacks and not being overly defensive.

[@mkammran1348]

I am indian and this happens with me conditional love Parents control you

[@shamsulalamsiddique7819]

i am bangladeshi and this happened to me too 😓😓

[@vvvrt585]

I wish you were my parent you understand ppl so much Edit: there are ppl saying tbat my parents are not good or whatever ya no they are good but they just dont understand me and all so pls dont say any thing about my parents I just wanted them to understand me nothing much..

[@murushra]

@B no wtf

[@D34R3ST_]

I agree with this comment.

[@its.pheonix]

These guys are a team...so she may just be a narrator...the writer her voice maybe diffrent

[@its.pheonix]

@@murushra Shravan Study karle ja

[@crimson5063]

I wish she was my friend

[@Srikar-xi7mb]

"If you relate to one of these points your not crazy" Me who relates to every one of the points: :/

[@grey_ar]

Lol same...

[@onikum4]

this hits way too close to home

[@Oleum.]

Lol same bro

[@katherineaguilar8059]

same

[@alyson2068]

I dont blame you. I feel the same too

[@root2588]

It took my therapist almost 3 years to help me stop hating myself. That's a pretty short time considering I've been hating myself for my 30-ish life.

[@sm9305able]

Good luck with that!

[@MikelKiriakos]

Well done on doing self work

[@jewlzn7130]

That's great! I just started therapy. Very cathartic. I recommend it for everyone

[@True_Justice-5.18]

Why do people bother having kids when when they complain loving them is some exhausting chore?

[@lesleyvivien2876]

Because it was expected? I'm sure my parents were aware of the potential pity if they didn't have children.

[@lesleyvivien2876]

@angellightrose Another good reason, but only if the child is a son. I was the practice run, and thank goodness they got it right at their second attempt! They pinned all their hopes and dreams on The Son, and he disappointed them at every turn. Not that I would gloat or anything... ;)

[@Psych2go]

Did you relate to this video? Disclaimer: This video isn't made to blame anyone, but to help us understand why we are the way we are.

[@fyikai7381]

Mhm♥️💛

[@Skulledscar]

I am crazy in a good way

[@Skulledscar]

Sometimes the world needs crazy

[@ilikered581]

How is this 4 weeks ago? Was this video unlisted for that long?

[@SisL_channel-april21]

Yeah , maybe I relate... BTW ...I love your all content Psych2Go

[@raghavi159]

When your parents does all of these *Cries in asian * ✨T~T✨

[@igorthelight]

Just promise that you will not do that to your children :-)

[@raghavi159]

@@igorthelight nah I ain't having no kids..never will I make that mistake

[@joutakujo2256]

Damn

[@notbjork1262]

@@raghavi159 same, lmao they keep saying stuffs like you'll feel the same amount of pain when you have kids of your own, it'll come back to you. They never even try to listen to me

[@Aaksa]

Agreees in Asian ☹️

[@HalloWitch93]

I was born and raised in an extremely sheltered, evangelical Christian home. Was even homeschooled for the entirety of my early life. This led to a number of issues that I'm only just now starting to deal with; difficulty becoming independent and self-reliant, sexual shame (despite being heterosexual), and no small degree of anxiety, just to name a few. I'm doing significantly better now but the damage will still take a long time to mend.

[@m0L3ify]

I can relate. I wasn't homeschooled, but my mom was such a conservative Christian that I wasn't allowed to cut my hair, listen to popular music, pick out my own clothes in the store, and I wasn't even allowed to own a radio until my dad gave me one of his old ones when I was 9. There were SO many rules in our house, even about what brand of toys we could have. The sexual shame was also so intense that I didn't even come out to myself as gay until I was 36. I finally met the right woman and was like "OK, I can't deny this anymore...I have to be with this person!" And yet my mother was in denial until almost her dying day. I thought inviting her to my big gay wedding across state lines where it was legal would be enough of a clue, but no, I had to actually come out to her on the phone a couple of months before she died so she'd stop misgendering my wife despite being asked repeatedly for years (we didn't know she was about to die, otherwise I would have let it go.) She was racist on the down-low about our non-white dates, too. For someone who claimed to be so open and accepting of all our neighbors and friends, she was a great big bag of yikes when it came to her own kids. I'm in my 40's and still grappling with trying to figure out what I want, what I like, what to wear, what to do with myself. I've done a lot, but it's taken some effort to break out of the mold I was cast in and stop being a projection of my mother's image.

[@HalloWitch93]

​@@m0L3ify I get what you mean. Even though I've rebounded pretty hard, to the point where I'm almost nothing like the person I used to be anymore, the essence of all those years is still something I'm dealing with; primarily in regards to the subconscious. It sucks you had to put up with so much of that also, but I'm glad you were able to break free of those chains and finally embrace who you really are. I had a similar path, although for me it was being drawn to a different religion. And I'm happy to report that switching religions was absolutely the best decision that I could have ever made. I pray we all can find the strength to truly be ourselves, even if the rest of the world is telling is not to be. Blessings to you and your wife. :) I wish you guys well.

[@saswatighosh7227]

just because I don't like socializing, talking with random people and I'm lil shy also doesn't like being much into people my mother considers me as a "half mad" girl ....

[@yenpham3894]

My mom also criticized me for not being willing to talk to my neighbors and the relatives that annoy me 😂 she said i gotta be more outgoing to increase my 'likeability'

[@vintageparisdollanna1131]

Seeing all the people in the comments who went through the same thing I did is comforting, but heartbreaking at the same time to literally see so many people with toxic upbringings and parents like mine. I forgive them now and we speak every day almost, but the scars still remain and I still suffer heavily on a daily basis because of it so it’s sad, yet a beautiful thing. Just sucks that 2 people (or 1) can literally change who you are and damage your self esteem irreparably. Prayers to everyone like us in the world 💖

[@datboi6954]

1. conditional love 0:45 2. guilt tripping 1:42 3. taking accountability 2:21 4. the comparison game 3:10 5. projecting flaws and insecurities 3:52 6. over controlling behavior 4:31 I hope I could help! (:

[@hmmmmmnmmmmmm]

Thanks 🥰

[@jumpyyjasminee5315]

How?

[@nothingherelol6708]

Time traveler

[@Animallover24678]

oh wow thats a very long time ago

[@minazumi1319]

How-

[@heeya5948]

Like you said, they don't even realize the impact of trauma their behaviour has had on me... I, personally have had a very toxic upbringing..... I was made to believe that violence is normal instead of Love. There are like a ton of other things I can list But anyone reading I gotta tell you, it's okay to be broken, as long as heal. It's okay to cry. It really is.... I didn't know the extent of the abuse and toxicity growing up because it was normal for me... But now that I see it, it's not and yeah we're not our parents. At least I'm not. And we can work on ourselves and be better and grow.

[@thecriticalone1783]

😭😭😭

[@mitchelll546]

I related to most of those. The worst is they actually said that "I'm crazy". Ok not the worst thing they've done but you can't forget it. Funny I'm the "crazy" one yet one of them is never wrong and when they do something to make me angry they invalidate me one of them by saying no they didn't do that...like I basicly I imagined them TREATING ME LIKE CRAP as an example. If you call them on it they deny it. I could go on a tangent but i made my point I guess.

[@perhapsahedgehog5274]

Isn't that gaslighting?

[@diimidosemineral9261]

Yeah it is

[@novalynnleilashea]

It sounds like they (one or both) suffered from Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD). Look up "children of Narcissistic parents" or "daughters of Narcissistic mothers" or father. You may be surprised at just how far reaching the damage of their behaviors have been on your life. This information could lead to understanding and healing that you never knew you needed.

[@mitchelll546]

@@novalynnleilashea oh I already knew I need healing from them in that area. From what I could tell their parents though their parents were no where near like what little I got to know them while they were alive. However there was a bit of abusive behavior to one of them what stories I've heard but far as I can tell they may have acquired that type of behavior from being around toxic acquaintances. There parents were actually good people, at least to me anyway. Never abusive at all so any way I've been well aware I've needed healing in that aspect whether it be gaslighting and or invalidation or whatever. But thanks for your comment. Have a good day or night where ever you are.

[@jaredthompson553]

Yeah denying or gaslighting they sit there and act like they don’t know wtf you talking about when they clearly fucking do.

[@djoserlol]

Does anyone else love this persons voice-? It’s so soothing at it fits the animation style 😂

[@user-rm9un9zk1b]

"I am older than you, and YOU should respect me" "I can talk to you like that because I am older" But don't you think it hurtful seeing they talk to me back like that? My parents love me so much but their words can be hurtful and harsh, I want to express how I feel but I can't maybe because they are the reason I feel this way but also maybe it's the way I'm thinking 💔

[@user-rm9un9zk1b]

@Felipe Thank you 💕

[@aditi3749]

Don't worry... it happens as we have seen them being loving and caring and then at some point maybe suddenly harsh... at that point onwards we start thinking that if we express ourselves to them, will they become harsh again? It's not at all your fault... its just the way a human being is treated and later on what we want... Just don't let it break you... stay strong :)

[@acedelta12]

This comment accurately describes my interactions with my father.

[@cupidxcreamy572]

That's the exact SAME thing my parents do And if I point out this flaw of them They tend to scold me sometimes beat me up. Like If u talk to me like that I will learn to talk like that

[@eleemaharoon8232]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/hZeXXoOgpah7rdk

[@nataliedinh1929]

I noticed this is a new animation style. IT’S SO CUTE AND I LOVE IT A LOT! nice job animator Rory Mase! 😌

[@Psych2go]

Glad you like it! If you would like to animate or draw for us, feel free to email in. :)

[@kaciemiddleton4607]

it’s genuinely upsetting to realise that I relate to every single one of these and I feel guilty because I don’t want my parents to feel like they’re doing a bad job. They don’t hit me or abuse me in any physical way, but mentally in exhausted and i put off my feelings so much.

[@shakurwonders5216]

Don't invalidate yourself

[@antwan1357]

basically do customer service , and you will meet someone like this at least once everyday.

[@antwan1357]

@@peaceoutrawkon Well I don't get paid to judge people , I'd never get any work done if I did.

[@sandrataylor2476]

Yeap

[@concon9848]

When I did a bit badly in school, my parents would compare me to other students. They dont do it anymore though. I'd probably go insane if they never stopped

[@alb12345672]

So did mine, I became a very high achiever/high earner. Not a good thing though. They also had expectations about friends, now I'm a loner.

[@ecstasycaptures9051]

We're the same! It took them almost 7 years to realize that their style of 'motivation' to do better was back firing. I hope we do better in the long run now ♡

[@Jack1994hoo]

Same here! When we would give a ride to a classmate my mom would ask them what was their grade, and if it was higher than mine, she would say "why arent your grades like his? Maybe you should soend time with him to improve your grades". I hated it

[@saloni22815]

Same

[@dianatserban]

Mine haven't stopped, and I'm almost done university :/ I had to start lying about my grades but it still keeps going on

[@soda_pop.]

my parents did all of those to me but the conditional love just really stood out. i used to be considered gifted and had a burnout when i entered middle school. my family had always expected me to be the smart one and got all weirded out and started gossiping about me every time i didn’t exceed their expectations. the worst time was when i was taking honors classes in the 7th grade (both at least 2 years beyond my grade) and was struggling. i was compared to my cousin that was retaking the 4th grade and laughed at for not being able to do as well as he was doing.

[@Motazilite]

The accountability one struck way too close home, they'd literally make the most blatant mistakes and act shocked whenever I confronted them on it and call me crazy for "holding your own parents accountable and acting all grownup" (they used this wording in my language), to add insult to injury .. they'd also get other people involved just so they'd side against me.

[@lunatism9714]

Dad: calls me a vermin Me: speaks back Dad: How ungrateful! I am being abused by my child!

[@AyoItsHeart]

Not gonna lie, I started crying a few minutes into the video. Even though I still struggle with my feelings, it’s good to know that I’m not actually “mentally ill” or “messed up in the head” like my dad would say. Thank you for making these videos to inform viewers and also make people (like myself) feel less lonely. ❤️

[@Psych2go]

It's okay to cry and we're glad we can help you feel less lonely. Your feelings are valid

[@ayushi6247]

Being an Indian child I can relate with each one of them, I once even tried talking it about with my mother but before I could get started she flipped out. Like literally. Started shouting, and everyone here knows how Indian moms are, started crying and saying that I brought her depression, anxiety, what not, while all that I was going to tell her just never got out and now I refrain from having conversations with her, my father couldn't care any less about having 'conversation' with me. I now can't even tell others how am feeling afraid that either she will listen or get to know and will flip out and will turn violent, last time she even drank sanitizer, and said if she died it's gonna be upto me, I just sat there silently crying and in shock, thankfully she's alive...

[@areallymessedupdude]

I always thought this is what all parents are like.

[@ishratbintemahmud1248]

Same here.

[@anotherszastan]

I think a lot of indian parents are....(I'm indian too btw)

[@ashleythehooman]

@@anotherszastan I'm Indian too

[@verifiedsimp.8793]

@@anotherszastan i'm nepalese so yeah strict parenting is a legit tradition

[@swaralid1303]

Its so sad to see how normalized this is in inda

[@timefliesaway999]

3:17 My parents every time a friend came over: “why can’t you be like them? I’m sure they’re the most loveliest children to have, their parents must be really proud of them” At some point I didn’t care anymore, but I also didn’t invite people home bc it got extremely awkward.

[@Mushroom321-]

That's horrible... 😬😾🤦🏻‍♀️

[@codacreator6162]

My kids were the kids other parents and teachers used as examples. Meanwhile, at home, they were just boys being boys, fighting, talking back, blowing off chores, etc. I honestly believe everyone's kids are great when they're around other kids' parents. Now, if I could just convince mine to act like that at home...

[@timefliesaway999]

@@codacreator6162 well, that’s true. But it’s one thing your parents saying that to your face while the friends are over. Also cause my friends’ parents never said that to their kids, they loved them enough to not compare.

[@lordex0t1c]

I come from a narcissistic family system and it feels like it has set me back in life, but I think knowing is half the battle. I experienced all of these things in the video, and feel quite validated. Thanks @Psych2Go

[@sukhmanisingh1511]

I have even developed several mental conditions because of my upbringing

[@navydavy]

My mom always treats me like this.. I want to move out and live in my own house when I'll get older but she is so manipulative that she will make me stay with her. The lines im used to are "i bought you this and that and raised you, and you don't do this for me?! How ungrateful!!" or silence treatment. :/ I cant do anything since im young, that's why I'm waiting

[@aditi3749]

Things like these are more or less playing with emotions kind :( we can't deny them too =_=

[@navydavy]

@@aditi3749 im sorry but what?- i didn't understand what you said haha- sorry again

[@aditi3749]

@@navydavy I mean that when parents say "how ungrateful! I raised you, you can't do this for me?!" We children have no choice but do what they say... its kinda making us emotional about what they did for us and now we should do what they say...

[@eleemaharoon8232]

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[@navydavy]

@@aditi3749 oh yeah right...

[@shonkgobonk]

I was just at the store with my mom and she said "they literally cut me open to have you" and "you're why my sciatic nerve is acting up" however, a good thing about her guilt tripping me a lot is that it doesn't effect me as much as it used to.

[@maya07_11]

she says "it's your fault that I'm arguing with dad" WTF I'm just existing girl what do you want from me

[@jamesoncorp3983]

This is just a collage of some of the many things my parents did wrong in their lives, polished and framed

[@jeffersonbauzon156]

"if you can relate to these signs then you're not crazy" if your pare- okay so i gotta have a parent first huh

[@robgoins3672]

Yea this one.

[@cartoonstacksanimation7748]

Oh I am sorry 😔

[@zoniachimperium6410]

I'm super sorry to hear this one... Hope you are able to cope well and have some parental figures in your life.

[@nekomakoto7399]

I relate to all of these, especially the last one. I hide everything I do, like music I like, what video games I play, what I watch online, who I text, what I do at school. Basically everything.

[@zen8233]

Well 4 of these signs I already see from my parents. I'm trying to avoid my mental health getting affected as much as possible by practicing saying sorry and not keeping my pride too high than it should be. Although, I should be thankful the 1st and 6th ones do not apply to them. Another factor that can affect the way we grow up is the pressure they put into us and the high expectancy they have in our achievements. That gave me the fear of disappointing people I know

[@TheBeesies]

Why does everyone make living life look so easy? Why does everyone around me do it so well? Why does it seem like I'm held back by a ball and chain? Why is everyone strutting forwards while I'm stuck behind pulling on this ball and chain, moving forwards so slowly?

[@Bashymade]

My parents didn’t do ANY of these. I could never imagine having that kind of stress growing up! Thank you Mom and Dad! I am one of the lucky ones. ❤️

[@cowboyofscience7611]

I've never been accused of being anything like "Sane."

[@alonaali3261]

When I'm early, I have nothing a to say, when I'm late, I have everything to say

[@CobaltChono]

Yep

[@alonaali3261]

@Hauwau Shagari Imam wth bro

[@taabishkhanself-improvemen7331]

*”“Sometimes you don’t even realize you’re blocking your own blessings by holding onto to the past or thinking negatively. Start letting go.”* Love from a small channel💙

[@Wontonsouplyfe]

This all too relatable. Makes me look back and realize why I feel upset and depressed on things that is “normal” and “everyone can handle it but you”

[@vshandsomeface6930]

"If you relate to one of these points your not crazy" Me who relates to every one of the points: :(

[@mkammran1348]

Army

[@izzie2070]

edit: I don't want this comment here anymore tbh, but ill keep it up if you wanna vent underneath or something

[@aditi3749]

Idk why but maybe they feel like they are elder so we must agree what they say... but it's wrong in a way too... it feels disgusting when such things happen coz we can't even raise our voice... And funny how we children rely on one another from long distances with internet, like how our parents lost themselves to us :(

[@alexandraghita7239]

This is abuse tho.

[@vardmardrhrolfskogr9009]

From personal experience, it seems like your dad was never listened to as a kid, so he feels like he has to be right about everything. Regardless of this, we are here, we are strong, and we are, ALL, loved

[@asterr1495]

It's emotional abuse

[@acherine]

That’s abuse. I hope you’re ok

[@Teddy-od7lp]

I'm really glad you put out this video today. I've always been a fan of this channel but this one hits right when I needed it most. I'm constantly questioning whether my toxic home life is my fault or my parents'. As much as I wanted to just blame the fault on them, it felt unfair of me to pin my issues on them like that, like what if I was the issue. My parents may always have the best intent for me in life, but the things they actually do and the way they treat me makes me feel like an absolute wreck. Thank you for your content, it truly helps a lot of us struggling.

[@AngelicZelda444]

*sigh* The more I look up stuff like this, the more I realize that my parents really shouldn't have had children. The more I realize how much I hate my upbringing and the more I want to change my past so much yet it breaks my heart knowing I can't change it. 💔

[@sharlyntan248]

Wander. Where. Did. You. Come. From. In. Future. Think. Carefully. Before. You. Do. Certain. Thing.

[@prismmioouu]

i'm early and proud! but there is this inside voice telling me im crazy and my anxiety is made up and im stupid and worthless. idk. i did have a strict upbringing , and my mom guilt trips me wayyy too much to be healthy

[@rubyy2923]

You know u r not ok when u always relate to everything on psych2Go videos

[@TheOtakuDude326]

You kept going down the list and I felt more and more seen. Thank you very much!

[@cristinagardon9270]

Great video, thank you! There is one thing missing: can you also talk about childhood neglect (emotional and physical)? I think it's a big one. Thanks again!

[@npcarl5174]

I feel like this channel is watching me, I was literally feeling crazy at school and just as I come home this is uploaded yet it helps me greatly

[@peteyn.y.7960]

I feel the same lol 👀🧐🤔🤨🤣

[@HallowedGreaves]

In the words of Trevor Phillips: "My mommy was *not* nice to me."

[@GreasySenpai]

I couldn't play the mission after cuz we had to the Vanilla Unicorn (my fav place in the game) and my mum was watching me play. So i killed Wade, Thesky.

[@Mycateatsfrenchfries]

😭🤬😭

[@GreasySenpai]

@@Mycateatsfrenchfries ur cats eqt french fries? Cats love maccas then

[@Mycateatsfrenchfries]

@@GreasySenpai 💗😂💗

[@nightbrite2595]

Really needed this, left my toxic home a bit over 2 weeks ago and my mom is still trying to guilt trip me back. Thank you for the reassurance to live my life for me

[@Lunarbutterflytarot]

So we’re not gonna talk about him wearing the Jokers outfit at 4:40

[@Anagaviota]

The fact that I've been feeling like I'm crazy these last few days, and now this video exists can only mean psych2go really is reading my mind

[@sijokxavier]

You just defined all Indian parents 😂😂😂

[@Ramkumar-eh3ij]

LOL your so correct dude

[@Layla-fr7mf]

African and Arab parents too (I am both) not to invalidate you but to just tell you I relate. The video by Teal Swan called cut he invisible strings talks about Indian culture specifically.

[@stwawbewwycat9378]

I think that goes to all Asia In general 😂 Your middle eastren girl here also relates

[@artlimitless5688]

tbh all asians

[@mahho1372]

They themselves had fucked up childhoods, I never expected anything good from them lol But I'll make sure not to do that to my kids

[@k-9wolf]

They did all those things. Got to a point to where if they were to die today I wouldn't even cry. I had enough

[@izzyisdoingstuff697]

I am not ashamed to say that this channel has helped me in so many ways with my mental and physical health. I have recently started seeing a therapist and started communicating my emotions more.

[@Psych2go]

That's really wonderful to hear :) Great job on making positive progress and thank you for your support :) Keep it up!

[@xxshadowicexxo6843]

Probably the comparison game is the one that was most used for me..... I get compared to my intelligent cousins and they sometimes criticize me because I get low grades and start comparing me with others.......

[@joandarc441]

Well tbh I have anger issues at time's due to it's hard to trust people nowadays some of them act like snake's

[@grapekork101]

Don't compare snakes to these kinds of people,snakes are cute

[@hehe_lemonade5114]

@@grapekork101 I think he actually don't wanted to swear, so he use snake instead of sh**

[@crow_9497]

I haven’t told anyone about this and felt like I should just say it....Does anyone else get anxiety that your friends don’t actually like you and they just hang around bc they pity you?......Ik this isn’t true but I can’t stop thinking about it....

[@haya3746]

Yep

[@sleepysenpai3885]

Yes definitely 😭😭😭

[@Nedmac320]

Impeccable timing. I was just journaling and wrote about my parents a bit. Everything here resonates with me and it helped make things clearer :)

[@emiliaschnellfu553]

It is bad, that those who should watch something, normally don't. Without saying critizize children is a bad thing.

[@artlimitless5688]

ikr and worse i dont have courage to show them

[@aditi3749]

If I'd make them watch, I think they'll probably say I'm blaming them :( I can't have enough courage to show such things coz I fear this would make situations worst :"(

[@artlimitless5688]

@@aditi3749 exactly

[@eleemaharoon8232]

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[@emiliaschnellfu553]

Exactly, it probably would make it worse. I think, it can be devastating, because in particular your parents opinion effects your confidence. But it normally doesn't mean, they see you as total failure and if they really hated you, they wouldn't critizize you at all. If it feels right, you might write them a letter without any accusations of course and with trying to see their viewpoint as much as possible. Dealing with it with keep to do right and being respectful (everything which is your part) will make you grow as a person and grow very much in being smart. And if parents don't see it, it is worthy, though in any case. Time will show.

[@chandanpm14]

This sure will help a lot of Asian kids Thank you so much means a lot

[@richardmontana9645]

Thank you very much. This is been very helpful to me. Please keep up the good work. Your entire series has been very helpful to me as an adult

[@shatteredscry]

How do these come out when I need them the most? I’ve literally been getting nasty flashbacks from my childhood of my dad saying *literally* unspeakable things that I can’t type out. It makes me question reality itself, but this video really helped me put the puzzle pieces together in how my dissociative past has been affecting my current relationship so harshly. Thank you thank you thank you 💕💕💕💕

[@SailorGreenTea]

3:38, jealous is fiercely protective and vigilant over people's rights or possessions.

[@reddemon6696]

I have an older brother that does all that to me and my mom is usually at work so I can't really do anything about it so thank you for making all of us feel better

[@tommygunn6901]

Mine was as toxic. I blocked him out of my life

[@reddemon6696]

I would do that if I could but I'm scared what he would do to our mom

[@tommygunn6901]

@@reddemon6696 like abuse her? Then this brother of yours needs help cause he can't be doing this as such. Hurt people end up hurting other people

[@reddemon6696]

He will only hurt me and all that not my mom though but i just want to be safe and make sure he doesn't do anything that can make it were he goes to jell and make her guilty of assistance in crime

[@tommygunn6901]

@@reddemon6696 if he is that unruly and unsafe, then I suggest he be removed and him get help

[@Stellar_Neoma]

I'm just glad to find out I'm not crazy or insane. I swear the videos you guys make always come out at the perfect time

[@Emily-ie5wn]

This feels like you’ve known me my whole life. Every. Single. One. Of these points I have experienced in my life. Thank you for making this video! I finally feel like it isn’t me.

[@wayneheidlebaugh9915]

I can relate to all 6 of these things. While living with my father and step mother. I'm treated worse than the dog. The stepmother treated me like a desease. She didn't want to touch me becouse she's adraid she'll get what she thinks I have. I had to eat from a different dish than everyone else. They would keep the food locked up and watch how much I eat and when. I was starving and had to steal food every chance I get to servive. They never apreseated the things I did for them, alway critisizing me about how the work wasn't done right when I was doing my best then treat me like a lame brain. When company comes, I'm alway staying in my room. Out of site, out of mind. I'm glad my mother helped me out of that. She can be over protective at times but she means well. To her, I was a "moma's boy".

[@armyforlife6303]

That sounds like hell to go through. Going through that and still surviving, that is absolutely amazing. I really can't imagine the pain you experienced during that time. I hope you will find much better people than them and those who can appreciate you as you are. I wish you never have to go through that again. Best of luck!

[@wayneheidlebaugh9915]

@@armyforlife6303 Thank you very much for that coment. I wasn't just me, it was tough for my sister too. Now we share a house to gether and things are a whole lot better for us. I was so happy when I hearedour father passed aqay a few years ago. As for the stepmother, lets just say she's far enough away from us.

[@TDMJ_Ane]

I wish there was someone in charce enough to tell my parents about all of these... They take everything I say as a simple joke... No matter how many times or in what ways I tried to explain them...

[@thelostperspective]

You guys really hit the nail on the head with this one

[@AnnaLeigh111]

Thank you all so much you have no idea how much you've helped me. My parents are so toxic. There all of these on the list, if that's even possible

[@n1fffan]

the only thing here that either of my parents were guilty of was the comparison game. Throughout my teens, in particular, My father would see the way I was and how I handled... well? life, and would start statements with "when I was your age". Often, the first thing that would pop into my head was "yeah, well, I'm not you, dad" outside of that, I did have another family member who did most of the other things to me quite actively, especially during my teen years when I was already crapped out with life due to the shit I dealt with at school. They would say they love me one moment, but then cuss me out because I wouldn't get them a freaking glass of soda, they would try to guilt trip me into lending them things in spite of the fact that they had proven they could not be trusted to take care of those things properly. I think they did take accountability for some things, but there were times when they tried to pin blame on me for their crap, and... would you consider someone threatening to beat your ass for not answering the phone because they don't want to a sign of controlling behavior?

[@snow8617]

'Did you relate to any of this sign' I relate to everything. It's a bliss that I was able to walk away from the me that my parents created and become a better person.

[@blackwolfs.288]

Thank you,I really needed this

[@balisticcreeper2648]

Thank you for showing me this. It helped me a lot