6 Simple Confidence Builders

[@psychologyis]

"Confidence is something you build." Yes!

[@juliakristinamah]

yes!

[@ashleigh3602]

Hi 👋 My name is Ashleigh, and I’m 15 years old. Iv been watching your videos for a week or so now, and there really teaching me a lot!

[@williamkahlert3611]

Surprised by these, not what I was expecting, except the doing (I feel confident doing pretty much any outdoor activity) sometimes it leaks into the rest of my life, but it doesn't last! it looks like confidence is taking responsibility for what building blocks (inner voice/ outer influence) of your life you allow to get into your subconscious - and become YOU!

[@johnykryll]

This is a brilliant one. At work I am always putting myself down with a laugh. Others smile but I think it lessons their respect for me. Gonna stop this habit from now on.

[@taraelmegreen5527]

Afraid for 28+ years to leave physically abusive spouse! I jumped into the abyss with NO job, place to live ect.....and God has blessed me! Headed to court for divorce Thursdsy!!!!! #nolongerstrugglinginoklahoma

[@lime9227]

If your intentions are right dont afraid of asking or doing anything

[@mjt_03]

I’ve been avoiding getting back into running. I’m afraid of what people might think or find out when they see me. But I’m also afraid of what will happen if I eventually don’t get back into it

[@Magpieme98]

I am 52 years old and my biggest regret is not having finished university. I have a great job and I’ve done well so far, but I’ve always regretted not finishing. At this stage of my life, I would like to go back, but I’m scared. I’ve been putting it off for years and I just need to start!

[@cherrybacon5154]

My lack of confidence comes from having come out of an emotionally abusive relationship where I was brainwashed. I know I've done the right thing and am sure with guidance I'll get my strength back to be a mentally stable person who is confident. 🍒

[@juliakristinamah]

You will get back to you - I know it. Sending you love sis.

[@scottkraft1062]

Alexander Lowen's The Fear of Life might help

[@tracysoloway5417]

Recently left a job due to harassment and it took a lot of strength to stand up to it - however, maintaining that strength with no health insurance and being unemployed during a pandemic is extremely challenging. Listening to your channel helps me a lot.

[@JohnM...]

All of these videos are amazing. Who is GRATEFUL for how much thus channel has helped them see themselves for the amazing person they really are? LOVE YOURSELF APPRECIATE YOUR TRUE SELF.

[@coreymiller7317]

I don't need to be right is a real hurdle for so many people, me included, feeling good about yourself from a negative place like that (someone else being wrong, or lesser) is never healthy.

[@elevenbyfive]

An alternative to self-depricating humour is to jokingly go to the other extreme. For example, if you mess up on something, you could say, "I'm a genius!" or something like that. It's still funny, but at the same time, you're not hearing and reinforcing negative ideas about yourself. Thank you for the video. I've wanted to focus on acceptance for a while and this gave me a push to start doing so. I've been worrying all day about something i have no control over, so i'm going to keep letting the thought go instead of letting myself pursue it.

[@wendythomas4930]

Starting my self-care journey very slowly. Following my list of small tasks is building my self-love.❤

[@admirbarucija2018]

I’m excited for this!! Been feeling more and more confident lately and hope to keep it up. I hope you’re doing great ❤️

[@juliakristinamah]

So happy for you! You've worked for and earned it Admir.

[@admirbarucija2018]

@@juliakristinamah Thank you so much, it really means a lot!! ☺️

[@SOP83]

Nothing I ever do is good enough. There is a voice in my head that tells me i'm worthless and nomatter what I do it is not good enough. I find that if I talk to other "normal people" it helps me get out of my head and put things in perspective. With this mindset i'm able to push myself and do incredible things, I just can't see what i've done.

[@i.dancetothevu]

I've been avoiding going to back to school, because I don't think I am ready to go back. I am beginning to move towards it by reading everyday and getting a better sleep schedule

[@catlitter3042]

I liked the one about not being so concerned about what other people think about me. I have a short list of who I have to answer to: 1. God 2. me. That's it! I hope other people like me and think good things about me, but I can only be responsible for myself and how I feel about me. I know God loves me, and I love me, so everything is good. I can't control what other people think about me or like me. I can control what I think about me. I'm a work in progress. Thanks, Julia!!

[@nicoleonfeels]

You have to believe in yourself when no one else will

[@juliakristinamah]

Amen to this.

[@aurinkobay7118]

this is interesting 8:45 is important to understand this because when someone calls you an idiot, you WILL NOT put up with that. You will have an easier time blocking these people out of your life 15:40 - def dating. i am too terrified even to approach anyone. ocean of negative emotions overwhelm me to tears. i just walk away from even thinking about it. 1st step -- i am at the gym so physical self-care comes first ... as far as actual going out ... i cannot think of anything since things are still closed. dating on line is a no. I am over it. The thoughts go through my head are pretty negative. I don't want to be in a convinience relationship where a guy will see me as "AHA childless, no baggage, no exes - convinience, easy catch"

[@chaniawillow]

A big one for me was to know that my brain is always listening. Our thoughts are powerful - this reminder was very necessary. I forget it too often. Thank you!

[@juliakristinamah]

An important one.

[@JohnJohn-km6fs]

I was practicing so much self irony, which is garbage after I listened this great video, thanks Julia :-)

[@Nolegirl77]

In couldn’t find your channel, and in the middle of the thought I get this notification. MANIFESTATION!

[@juliakristinamah]

I love it when that happens.

[@18p.l.u.s]

Hey Julia, thank you a lot for your amazing content. I got smeared by a group of narcissists at my workplace that I love and this video is like a healing potion for my soul!

[@JohnJohn-km6fs]

You just leave, Narcissists are extremely damaging

[@farmgirlre4634]

"It will all be okay!" has been my mantra for many years. Someone told me that one day and it is so, so true that no matter what and recognizing the event....it will all be okay! I will be okay! And I will get through this eventually one day. It is okay! I tell that to my daughter when it seems like all H*LL broke loose for her...I just tell her it will be okay and to take a breath and let it be for the moment. And about the Outcome of doing something for someone because of the outcome is really important to think about as, for example, me going to my nephew's wedding for my sister and how it really helped better our relationship in the end including all the family drama that went with it.

[@thejoycatcher8189]

Reading my nieces murder case and allowing professionals to help me. Starting my KZbin channel as an empathic and introverted person so that this case will get somewhere! I know I can’t do it alone. But I feel I have to convince others who have big true crime channels and can help get my nieces story out better than I can realize she was worth it. No. I know she is worth it. I know I each time I have to call anyone in this case it will be uncomfortable. Getting on camera is uncomfortable. I’d rather just pretend I don’t see so much corruption and not help the person who was wrongfully imprisoned for over 26 and is now out because it’s going to be hard! But the truth and justice matter! We have responsibilities and duty’s and I have to live with myself at the end of the day. So I don’t need anyone but the proper authorities to get this case opened up! This is huge for me. I’ve been watching you and the progress is real! You help me get back on and at my own pace without apologies! Trust myself more and more each day! Empowering! Thank you! I needed this reassurance! 👍🏻👌🏻🙏🏻❤️🤗

[@victoria2226]

My goal is to feel better about myself. To know myself. I love your work!

[@niurkagonzalez6708]

That’s me going to Cuba. I have to go and support family members that never were there for me. And when I mean never, I mean it. And because I’m in good position now on United States, if I don’t help them I’m not good. And now they loves me. All for necessity. Everything I have built here I worked for it, very hard, I don’t mind to share, but I can’t be the Ginny pig of all of those whom never even looked out for me, in any way. More than tired. I feel like I want to disappear that way they forget about me.

[@LavernaKerestes]

I'm working on myself because I've let the ego pretty much take over. I don't like it that the ego has so much what the negativity that my mind has. I'm trying to work on positive affirmations and to delete a lot of the ego I know it's going to take some work but that's okay. Because I have left an arse assist partner rule my life and changed a lot of who I have become. I can't blame 😊 him for my thoughts and faults. I want to but I know that's not true. I have learnt that the ego is a liar and I am not going to let a liar take over me. So thank you for everything that you have done to help with my mindset. Again thank you

[@christopherlall2889]

Julia, I just want to thank you. Your videos have been a huge help in my personal development and mindset shift and I am very grateful for the work you are doing with these videos. You are an angel sent down and I am so thankful for your wisdom ❤️

[@chrismcevoy2503]

What connected with me Julia is that I don’t always have to be right even if I think I am right.

[@Hugo411]

Your Delivery is so Real, Raw, and Relatable that invites one to listen and Re Listen to Absorb and Intergrate. Black and White Photography is Unique and soothing.

[@juliakristinamah]

Thanks for your kind words. That really means a lot.

[@coreymiller7317]

This entire thing connected with me, I struggle with all of it and this insight is huge. I have a really hard time with confidence since I started trying to improve, opening yourself up to being wrong or to wanting to change is a real hit in that area if you aren't careful. The self deprecating section especially is something I'm going to really look at and try.

[@judycampbell7821]

Thank you for taking the time to explain the guidelines of healthy and unhealthy thoughts. I can see my frustrations from saying yes when I really want to say no. I love pleasing people and when I don’t, I put myself way down. I know I’m a good person with a big heart. No matter what others say or think about me. Life is so hard sometimes. I shouldn’t care so much about what others think about me. I am me and they don’t know my heart. I am trying to work on my confidence everyday. It’s hard sometimes.

[@wendythomas4930]

I listened to my self-talk a couple of months ago, and it was terrible. I am changing my talk every chance I get.

[@beccam6563]

I needed to watch this I am so stressed about starting my second semester of college. Thank you for making this video I need to put more positive into my life

[@jc73871]

Your mind is always listening. That's fn terrific!!!

[@bobburch2151]

Great video I really enjoy your videos and how you explain everything so well. I get so much out of them. Thank you

[@anuradhatempe9033]

Confidence is something you build. So true!

[@kathyn3875]

Wow the concept of not needing to be right was a big aha moment for me! I don’t need to prove myself right. I never embraced this concept before, but your explanation gave me the understanding and boy does it feel liberating. I believe it is possibly what drives social media frustration to post things to prove you were right about a person or situation. Also, the thought process around not saying no to preserve someone else’s feelings resonated with me also as I feel responsible for others’ feelings.

[@ValentinBrutusBura]

It's in the behavior, miss... Action -- reaction, etc. Then "them" build templates of this. Yes, you're right, highly complex.

[@annetteallen5171]

Thank you sooooooooo much. I'm new to the channel and cannot tell how its helping me navigate atm. Thank you 😊

[@jerryrichardson7265]

I have wanting to change careers. Today I have chose to leave my current employer that I have been terribly unhappy it. I have pushed threw the fear and I got the new job today!🤗 I'm putting my two weeks in, because I just got the job I really wanted. So happy I decided to move past the feeling of fear and went after what I really wanted! Thanks so much for your channel!❤😊

[@jamesthompson222]

Learning to have a voice.

[@timothystone7104]

I am a prepocalyptic pandemic mess,as far as decisiveness and quality of my ability to interpret this world with so much change so fast.

[@beckymabry2602]

Thanks for all this content. It’s helping me so much!

[@sweetbunny128]

I am trying to compare myself less with friends, get through school during covid, and not let family’s snide comments get to me. I feel very sensitive these days to comments and feel like I’m being personally attacked. I’m deleting social media apps, trying to organize my room, and avoid those comments (idk if that’s right) so far. It’s been hard focusing on school when I feel like the rest of the world hates me and who I am

[@catharinepizzarello4784]

You are a voice of Sanity. What I think is what I am. Folks I love so deeply have to be left to their train wreck. It sucks to walk away, Nothing I do will change it . Thank you . I will be OK.

[@julianterris]

Great video Julia, thank-you for sharing.

[@TheMscindylicious]

This is one of my favorite videos! Life changing!

[@comehometoyourforest]

Julia Kristina is so amazing and deep. All this stuff she talks about is really helpful

[@racheldavis3022]

This so good thank you for sharing

[@raim8273]

Oh gosh, perfect timing for this to show up. Thank you!!

[@lynnmarielopez5668]

I was going through a tough morning and headed to my phone with the intention of listening to Julia and what I see is this video had just popped up ready to be listened to, synchrodestiny 🌠 Thank you for always lifting me up and helping me find my center. I am grateful for your videos

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you're here Lynn.

[@olliewillis1577]

YOU have been helpful in my life.

[@anthonyrichard8001]

THANK YOU!

[@EricAlbertfrankie]

I find all of your videos very helpful. I take notes during each one of them.

[@Timbotimotheus]

One of the goals that I have I’m having difficulty moving forward inwardly! I am a R&B Neo Soul Hip-Hop infused artist. I have about 6 songs professionally completed and I have about 8 more. I am in fear of moving forward due to my age, physically I look and act like I’m i. My 20’s but I know how the industry is. On the other side the creativity is so strong I’m in fear of not trying.

[@davidwhitcher1972]

Because of anxiety i have not worked in my chosen field for years because it requiers that i promote myself publicly and my work is also under public critisizm.

[@IntalenTed]

Your wonderful! Thank you for all the effort you put toward helping others! A beautiful shinning diamond in the rough!! Take good care😁

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you're here doing the work with us.

[@lifecoachakramm5427]

I like your topics Julia 👍🏻

[@zakiamwoma4647]

Since I started listening to your series,I am starting to think I can try to built on public speaking. Even in college,I took interpersonal communication instead. Secondly,you ,yes-you dont have to be right. And as you have always said,politely say no if you dont feel like it.

[@standufrene93]

Thank you for all the help. I really needed this. Thanks

[@GeoKN]

I found your channel a week ago and now your videos come up. Great content. Your delivery is captivating. I’ve always felt. confident but two of those hit home. I’m going to try and work on them. Thank you

[@annemariehealy3805]

Hi from Ireland 🇮🇪 😊

[@cesarcampos4991]

Thank you, I needed to hear these words for many years

[@lefty_007]

Hi from Sudan ❤️ thank you Julia

[@juliakristinamah]

Hey friend - really glad you're here.

[@MariaCSaenz-eu4bw]

I love ya Christina. Need ro join shift society

[@paulhardman1185]

Thanks, Julia.

[@chrisdigitalartist]

Hi Julia! Rodney Dangerfield made a whole career on self deprecating humor. LOL I love these confident building and grounding thoughts. I have been wanting to do this No S Diet. It seems hard because I do feel hungry a lot but I can do it! See you on Zoom! ~ Chris H. #SeniorShifter

[@Firuzeh]

Hi Julia, thanks for the great work you're doing.

[@artistic_mama2295]

Getting over food phobias, been working through it for years, trying to overcome the fears, and just reminding myself I’m ok if I experience anxiety when trying new foods. Having self compassion for my body and mind.

[@AnaMa1793]

So brave :)

[@triplekids3]

Excellent information thank you! Julia!

[@juliakristinamah]

My pleasure! Really glad you're here.

[@mirandooj]

Hello, Kristina! I am Marie Mirando, a new subscriber in your channel. I am from the Philippines. I am so happy to find your channel because your topics resonate my experiences. I think your discussions will surely help me change my attitude towards myself and to other people. Thank you!

[@jadek5822]

“ I am not who you think I am; I am not who I think I am; I am who I think you think I am.”~ Cooley

[@zz-ic6vy]

Thank you. Greetings from Latvia!

[@phyllisharries2742]

Lots to think about here! So wish that I had found you and your amazing intelligent mindset years ago. Excellent!

[@ymoy8635]

this is a great one Julia 👍💯 I have just found your sharing just this week and I have listened to a few of your sharing what you said touching most of the pain & struggling I have been going through in my life such as I want others to agree with me to accept me. I have been fighting for so long to get the others agree with me that eventually I do not share my mind anymore because I am fear of disagreement and fear of conflict. the one thing I am fear to do is to travel by myself and to live a life without an other half. I am too much tend to emotionally attached to my other half that I see I do not know how to live a life that I own for myself. I tend to listen to him and to follow him in order to gain his love, while I loss my own voice because I fear of losing the relationship. how can I join your Shift Society, I really want to live a life that truly is the one I I am directing for myself

[@relaxwiththescriptures]

Thank you! I enjoyed everything about this video.

[@juliakristinamah]

So glad it connected and am really glad you're here.

[@mikeromanov2312]

As always, very helpful advice on how to improve and live better every day. Thanks Julia for being understanding and consistent... you're amazing and are doing an important work in counseling. A+

[@twentysix9080]

I once fear of public speaking.Back of the time when I was 18 years old,I ask my friend to help me to boost my confident of public speaking.He help me from very beginning until I finally achieve it.At first ,he ask me to talk anything that comes up in my mind and he will listen to it and it was very awkward at first but he ask me not to stop just let it out just say it.when Im bit comfortable with it,he bring me the shop where I speak to the worker and he told me to ask that worker about the cost of shoes,the direction even though he knew already.Not gonna lie im very nervous and my hand was shaking that time.He told just let it out people won't bite you.I keep doing it for 3 months and now Im happy to share that im not afraid anymore of public speaking even in front of many people.Although the fear sometimes coming back but set my mind that people won't bite me.🤣and now he said that im very talkative person and literally to ask me to shut up I mean not rude way hahaha but Im very happy now

[@drewsibleyloans]

Very helpful. I am confident you are going to have a gigantic following. Thank you for the quality information and delivery.

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad you're here Drew - thank you for your supportive words.

[@amycarter3202]

Thank you for make this great content available.

[@natashadziesinski2916]

I am here. Always enjoy your KZbin videos. I have been working on my confidence and making progress all the time. The first and last ones you talked about especially. I have been a lot nicer to myself as well since our 'No Self critism Challenge'. #shifter

[@MariamZawjatNomayri]

Thank you for the tips

[@trudyturner3770]

Hello, I just happened on your page and I am loving it. This is my first time.

[@diogooliveira1375]

Grateful!! 🙏💜✨

[@DR-xg4sj]

Hi 👋🏻 i’m Dan from UK 🇬🇧 . I’ve watched a few of your talks

[@australianindian7502]

I am new to your channel and I am very impressed with your work. Thank you so much for making providing so much knowledge for no charge.

[@SharonAlMundo]

I struggle with public speaking, I do not struggle in class or with friends, I actually stand out with them but when it is with people I consider 'superior' I get paralysed. The only thing that helps me is if there is somebody else doing worse than me. (Sounds horrible but that is what I noticed) I have joined a few public speaking groups (there are many) but I have not found any opportunities to practise, which is the main thing that everyone recommends.

[@Nix-oh6ev]

Thank you so much ❤️

[@Janeway1269]

The part that gets me is when I actually grow to care about someone. Because even people who love us sometimes grow to have bad opinions of us, or can get nasty and hurtful in the moment during fighting, or bad patches. It seems to become part of opening up and being vulnerable to others, which can mean they might make you feel bad about yourself. Does confidence require truly shutting people out? How do you roll with it and still remain capable of intimacy? I know people may want to say just pick a friend or partner who won't hurt you, but even the best people are human and even good people can be hurtful.

[@scottkraft1062]

When you realize that you are the most important person in your life and worthy of being loved and don't allow negative people into your life. We can't control how other people treat us but we can choose how we react to it. When someone says something hateful I tell them no thanks its its yours not mine and walk away. Kids angry with parents and blaming them for everything that's wrong in the world. How many generations of bad parents came before me.

[@beatadalmatamas6539]

Such a good material, thank you Julia for this.🙏🤗

[@izawaniek2568]

Absolutely true, great advice.

[@hannahwright3096]

Hi Julia! Could you do a video on phone anxiety? It seems to be just as common as public speaking

[@juliakristinamah]

can you explain a little more?

[@hannahwright3096]

@@juliakristinamah thank you for responding so quickly! Basically at work whenever I have to make a phone call I go into panic mode, I’m embarrassed that others around me can hear me speaking to clients (it’s an open concept office). I know I am not alone in this, my friends who also work in offices express the same. I think a lot of it may have to do with the fact that we feel judged and evaluated by our bosses and peers who can listen to our words. Working from home hasn’t made this easier either, I am embarrassed if my family can hear me speaking on the phone. This only happens with work though, not with speaking to friends or ordering pizzas through calling. I have tried speaking to a therapist on how I can improve my confidence with this (still am) but even if I write scripts out, take deep breaths, nothing seems to work. I have also been in this field for five years so at this point i’m not even sure if time can heal the anxiety. Anyways! Thanks again for responding quick, hope this includes enough information.

[@Simplyme714]

@@hannahwright3096 wow I have the same anxiety about making phone calls that involve anything professional! For a long time I thought it was just me who felt this anxiety with speaking on the phone at work. It got so bad, I would silence my work phone so I can ignore all my calls. I agree it is because I don’t want to feel judged by our coworkers if I get stumped on a call. Help. :)

[@uglycasanova4240]

I have the same issue but multiplied when my phone rings.. I have gotten a lot of bad news through the phone.. I now can't talk or answer. I thought commenting on videos may loosen me up a little.

[@michaelhargreaves9579]

I love these videos

[@gemini8359]

Absolutely fabulous, thank you🙏

[@yvetterivera846]

Good Morning, I'm new to your channel and I already love it. Thank you for the great information that you provide!! I'll be looking you up on your website.

[@JudithGreen-z9u]

wow i think its helping me

[@lylahboling6383]

Man O MAN did I need to hear this so very much today

[@juliakristinamah]

Really glad it came at the right now. Thanks for being here Lylah.

[@marycallan1937]

Thank you!

[@Loos3scr3ws]

Just discovered you today and I’ve been binge watching your videos and I guess what they say is true... when the student is ready the teacher appears lol appreciate your work