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** *In this video, I share the tips, techniques and insights that have worked for me in my own journey of healing after narcissistic abuse along with expert tips and tools I've learned through years of coaching narcissistic abuse survivors. I am not a therapist and this video is not meant to provide therapy of any form. #narcissist #covertnarcissist
00:00 Introduction to Narcissistic Grudges
00:46 The Paranoia Gallery: Narcissists' Fear of Betrayal
01:28 Viewer Insights: Spotting a Grudge-Holding Narcissist
02:24 Welcome to the Common Ego Community
02:39 Exposure Wing: The Narcissist's Fear of Being Unmasked
03:50 Viewer Insights: The Danger of Exposing a Narcissist
04:10 Hall of Fading Beauty and Prowess: Narcissists and Aging
05:17 Viewer Insights: The Aging Narcissist
06:08 Hall of Lost Supply: The Narcissist's Fear of Abandonment
08:52 Viewer Insights: The Danger of Returning to a Narcissist
09:57 Disrespect Exhibit: The Narcissist's Need for Adulation
11:11 Viewer Insights: The Narcissist's Expectations of Praise
11:37 Lost Narratives Wing: When the Narcissist's Stories Unravel
13:09 Viewer Insights: When the Narcissist's Manipulations Backfire
13:31 Conclusion: The Dangers of a Vengeful Narcissist

[@jkevinparker]

If you make them mad and they stop talking to you, they are unwittingly doing you a huge favor. I’ve finally learned to be happy about that.

[@bobbarker1798]

So true!

[@MamiTasha9263]

Learning that lesson right now💪🏽

[@michellepereira8748]

@@MamiTasha9263me too ❤

[@vincentelliott9713]

They stop talking to you and start talking about you to the ones that are close to your family,job or social circles

[@cmullenmusic]

Yup 💪💚✞

[@carolentringer8836]

1. exposure 2. fading beauty and prowess 3. lost supply 4. disrespect 5. lost narratives

[@brian-d-berentsen]

❤ just u are paranoid, does not mean *they* are not out to get you. 😮

[@manbearpig7950]

They absolutely pretend that they're 20 when they're 50

[@nanihlethwala]

Very true...

[@michaeljackson7361]

She was 60

[@khamsida7803]

You r so right, ouch!

[@clintonnagy1662]

My EX acted like she was 17 but was 46. It was like dealing with a teenager.

[@michaeljackson7361]

The ones I know act like 5 yr olds

[@nowarbaby1013]

When a grown 50+ year old man holds a grudge against a 6yo child for something they said that wasn't even offensive or derogatory .... you know there's a massive problem.

[@tinman8972]

One of the hardest things for a victim of narcissistic abuse to get their arms around is that it was nothing personal. You could have been anyone.

[@Sheisme120]

2:04 So true! I’ve been wronged by a few narcissists in my lifetime, but I don’t hold grudges against any of them. Very rarely do any of those people ever cross my mind because I’m too busy focusing on all the countless people God has added to my life who bring me joy.

[@smorgasbroad1132]

They're ALL grudge holders. They're unable to stop ruminating about any perceived slight. Vindictive by nature.

[@Martlin]

I exposed my narcissistic sister after she manipulated me for the last time. I am now presently being ghosted. I hope it lasts.

[@moosepatil5946]

Say. It. For. The. Folks. In. The. BACK!!!!!! I wish us all the best

[@brian-d-berentsen]

God bless you for aaying that and taking your right!

[@Sheisme120]

1:39 That makes so much sense! The way they talk about the people they’ve cut off over the years, the way they’re always the victim in every story, they’ll likely make up a story like that against you sooner or later if you get close to them.🚩 That’s why I don’t trust people who never apologize, never take accountability, and always claim victimhood in every scenario in which they don’t get their way.

[@matthewmcmacken6716]

My ex exposed her covert narcissim to me, so I typed a 4 page letter calling her out on her lying, cheating ways. This way, she could not deny or interupt what I had on my mind. I later helped spread that fact out on social media that she is a cheating narcissist. There's nothing she can do about it since it was a long distance relationship. She's got engaged after dating her next target for 3 months. Poor dude, he has no clue what he got himself into.

[@user-gp1pq5up6i]

😂😅😂👍

[@nonbinarypickle]

Wow. Sounds just like my soon-to-be ex-wife. She would start a relationship, move for them, get bored not long after moving in together, start an affair with someone else before ending her current relationship, and wash/rinse/repeat. I wasn't her first, I was unknowingly the other guy before she ended her first marriage but was already trauma bonded before finding out, and her current relationship won't be her last. The only difference was that I moved for her. She's going back to her told ways and moving for her current romantic victim as soon as our divorce is final. . .

[@matthewmcmacken6716]

@@nonbinarypickle - Damn. Well, good riddence. Its best to be Narc free. I wish you all the best. Trauma bonds are tough to break. Oh, and don't give an inch in your divorce. Explain to the court her NPD.

[@shawnshalik1219]

Not a clue 🤦🏾

[@JUMPforyourLIFE]

Great point! The new supply has no clue what they are getting into, though feel it is a valuable lesson for the new party, if they make it though the cycles of abuse, they could pay it forward like you are with your well put comment. Stay alert. ‼️

[@dinab7852]

I keep repeating your phrase: "Protect your peace people" when I feel like I'm losing it (which happens a lot). Thank you for your lifesaving channel & beautiful soothing voice. 🙏

[@haroldaylworth8685]

Whoa, it’s like you met my ex-wife. It took me 37 years and 2 days to discover she was a narcissist. My kids were way quicker studies. To be fair I grew up with a pair of parents that too were narcissists, so, I didn’t know better? In hindsight, I saw my ex do most if not all those things you mentioned.

[@Odenix75]

Is incredible how predictable narcissistic are unfortunately we don't see it until we are out from the relationship Thank you for sharing your knowledge and experiences 🙏

[@jwillis479]

I'm in the process of divorcing a narcissist wife. I just flew into town for Christmas. She sent my kids to see me and immediately called the police and tried to convince them I was kidnapping my own children. Fortunately the police didn't fall for her bs

[@puremaledark8305]

Jesus!!! That is messed up!

[@justyeeeeeetit]

Wow.. I'm not surprised! My narcissistic mom is divorcing my dad after nearly 40yrs of marriage. She has been laying bread crumbs to manipulate us into thinking our dad abuses her. He said she has been antagonizing him and breaking his things.. throwing plates at him.. to get him to freak out and hurt her... he's too smart for that but it's so gross of her to do that. I cut her out of my life. Prayers for you and your family ❤

[@jwillis479]

@@justyeeeeeetit That's the best thing you can do. Life is too short to associate with miserable people

[@puremaledark8305]

@@justyeeeeeetitoh man, i have had that "pearl clutching" so many times. They bait you into a situation then act surprised that you reacted to it

[@Stanley-xc4yc]

I recommend KZbin channel DSD 💪🫂

[@williambrennan7931]

They expose themselves

[@clintonnagy1662]

Yep. If you wait around long enough they tell on them selves.

[@BrandyBrandalia]

Exposing them, or just calling them out, is enough to send most running for the hills. Or at least to give you the silent treatment. At least it was in my case. I'm going on a year of the silent treatment. She thinks she's punishing me but she's not.

[@doris2793]

Everyone pushes to let it go... well you simply can't without coming to terms with the reality of the relationship and that your perception was NOT in line with it, perhaps the fact that you need to build your self worth in order not to fall into the same trap again and again and again... It is soooo much better to let yourself have at least 3 full days of remembering the good times, and the bad times and letting yourself really feel sad that it is over and that it didn't measure up so that it can actually be over. Trust me it really does work in finally moving on.

[@lilli1259]

How can you be in a relationship and the other person is always jealous of you or competing with you? I don’t understand, our minds set are completely different. He acts as if I am the enemy nothing I say or do, I want to be on his side but he is not on mine

[@nicholecornes1915]

You just can't I married to a covert narcissist and I walked away. It's awful

[@Deakkon_and_the_Diplomat]

It's sad. I didn't realize how me talking positively about my son made her mad because her son is in jail

[@user-kf3yz7so6q]

Was the same for me with narc ex husband, it was as if he was competing with me all the time and anything I did he always had an altera motive for me doing what I was doing, making it look bad. I definitely felt like his enemy…he made me out to be something I wasn’t, bad mouthed me to our daughters if we fell out…. They are evil, nasty people that will never change… problem is though, they are so good at acting, people who don’t really know them think they are wonderful.

[@EstherH85]

I’m a lost supply 💪

[@natureglimses]

We should keep our composure and the longer we are alert we win

[@bethroy5053]

Exhibits in a grudge museum… 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@rachellincoln3078]

My ex friend was so controlling and manipulative. Unfortunately we go to the same church, so i see her up close and personal several times a week. After writing her a letter expressing my feelings and setting clear boundaries, she went ballistic. Now she has plenty of new supply, and I feel bad for all of them! I hope they figure out her crap and leave way sooner than I did.

[@traditionalnative]

If you can't switch churches, I'm sorry. I know they never let a victim go even though they will try their damnedest to pretend they have, just like they will try their damnedest to turn everyone against you. Unfortunately my last legal guaedjan was a text book narcissist, even his father said so, and eventually disowned own son and told me I was his son now for how hardcore he abused and traumatise. D Me. Kicked me out qat 18 for now h gay when all of. my blood relatives were either murdered (two of my brother's in front of me, died in my. Arms) or died from how bad conditions are on the Rez. He told everyone I was that I was white though im very clearly not, only in 2022 was it finally made illegal ro take kids from their Reservations, especially against parent's and children's will. He would beat me if I ever tried to tell anynr otherwise or about the abuse. He's would beat me so often I that I developed severe and advanced osteoarthritis at 16;; he tried to force me to be christian, nearly sa'd me, extremely verbally abusive; until recently (I'm almost 25) had horrific night terrors from how bad it was. I have constant agony from my osteo arthritis, I had. To have 17 hours so far of reconstructibe spinsl cord surgery , the condition before almost killed me; I will have to have more surgery in my mid thirties, my last surgery couldn't be finished because it. Would have paralysed my entire left side. As of now, I'm significantly weaker (I went to junior Olympics for taekwondo, I have 3 black belts. He's an ardent trump supporter, young earth creationist ( he believes the earth is 6000 years old, doesn't believe in mental illness or neurodivergence,.he genuinely believes that it's demons and only exorcisms can help, is an extreme conspiracy theorist, extremely bigoted in ebrry way, racist, fascist, nro-nazi, homophobic, transphobic, sbleist, you nsmr it... And my gay, pagan,, Indigenous, activist, socialist Democrat ass was forced to live with him. I unfortunately married a Mexican man who turned out to be s narcissist, we got divorced in under 2 yrs.. in September of last year finally thought I found someone else, he also turned out to be another abusive narcissist. Luckily my spiritual advisor has said that cycle is over, and she's very claircongnizant/other Claire's, as am I. If not for her explaining I just finished a karmic cycle, if I hadn't had that knowledge I'd be much more depressed. All 3 started bad smear campaigns, this last ex the worst of all, telling everyone who will listen that I did the things he did to me, all of which go against my culture that is everything to me, and we run in the same circles. It's horrifying, and he's literally trying to ruin my reputation, and this my job. He literally drove me insane, by the time he left right before Yule, I genuinely felt like I didn't know which way was down and which was up. Only by coming across a narccist checklist and learning of covert narcissist, especially the smear campaign... It's so easy, even with a lot of experience, to miss that your.partner is a narcissist. I warn you because even after they and you completely cut each other off, narcissists.lever let go of a grudge, especially for what's called a narcissistic.wound, which is one of the things they will hold a grudge most against, and is what you did. I tell you all of this because she is absolutely and most definitely planning on retaliation if she hasn't started already, and.she cannot and this will not ever leave you alone. Best wishes to you and.yours,.Merry Met and Blessed Be 🧙🏾 Love, solidarity, and support from the Lakȟóta O'yaté (O'yaté - Nation, People) Mitáku'ye o'yásíŋ 🧡🫱🏿‍🫲🏾🏳️‍🌈💕 M???'

[@bee18825]

Important one on number 1 is what the narcissists do in their smear campaigns to victims, so victims think that there’s someone out to undermine them - because the narcissist is. And cuts off the narcissist. And if it’s a repeating pattern based off childhood trauma they have burnt bridges with the narcs - and the flying monkeys - so victims have burnt a lot of bridges too, to get away from the narcissist.

[@karnesjeremy113]

Yes

[@FastChargeMango]

Does it make me a bad person that I sit in the car up the street from my house so I can finish listening to these sorts of videos before going home? I feel guilty afterwards but the content is so beneficial and I can't view it with her there.

[@janinemoore4222]

I totally get that. I do tend to same and if I’m home I use ear buds. 😊

[@NCrdwlf]

Man, I'm the same way . Sat in the DQ parking lot with a blizzard listening to a podcast on narcissists abuse lol.

[@janinemoore4222]

@@NCrdwlf I feel so stressed. I hate being in the same room with him

[@ObserveInSilent]

Nope. You do what's good for you? Don't have the habit to second guess yourself? You come first

[@Stevegoguen]

I’m kinda doing the same thing as I type this. It just recently came to me that im not as much the problem as I once thought I was and it’s hard to accept it. It’s freeing yet terrifying. I’m thinking you are in a very similiar spot as me. I wish the best for you.

[@dawnkjolly]

I'm learning this the hard way, but I had to expose him. He violently attacked me and 911 was involved. I've come to realize that he has been abusing women for the last 25 years and he's never really been held accountable so he is freaking out and has launched an all out smear campaign, even legally. It's a nightmare. All on top of the grief and trauma bond...

[@KANPOLERO5177]

Wow how amazing! That’s exactly what she said and did to me!!! SHE SAYS IM OUT TO HURT HER AND HER FAMILY!!!

[@user-ku8ov6sj8s]

Yes i had a hoover come back with no explanation. He was nice and then made hurtful and rude comments. I finally gave him a well deserved discard. I changed my contact info. This was the best revenge for me leaving him the dark.

[@christerespevoll7961]

I stopped talking to a friend who did all of these and proved to be a narcissist in the end.

[@fatumamunyakazi841]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I’m happy to know that it can backfire on them. 😂

[@leia3618]

I probably have my picture in my bio father's Grudge Museum under "Disrespect". When I was a little kid, like about 4 to about 10, I would always bow down and praise him and thank him for any even slightly nice thing he did for me. At around 10&1/2, I would still bow down most of the time, but I was starting to defy; my bio father did NOT like that, and tried to stamp it out, but I was too stubborn and too sure of myself to let him stamp it out completely. When I was a teenager is when we started really arguing, because he wanted and expected this unfair and quite frankly exhausting exchange of love and praise that we had had ever since I was very little, but I wanted equal praise and love, instead of the conditional scraps he had been giving me for years. Occasionally I would keep my mouth shut because I just didn't wanna deal with his tantrum, but most of the time I would argue and stay adamant that he was wrong, and no amount of pizza, icecream, or movies would make it up to me. I finally broke away when I was 18, and although I still have bad days, overall I am the happiest I've ever been.

[@bpattontx]

Thank you Christina, insightful as always. BTW, I love your top! ❤

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

Thank you Christina for your spot on observations 😊 great video as always 😊

[@KittyKatt_Luna80s]

The smear campaign... Yes! My ex tried that. Thankfully, there were those that saw my own narc for what he was.... a narc! In fact, there were many that said to me that they saw him for what he was, and in fact, it was ME that they were friendly with... not him! They HATED him and only stayed friends with him for MY sake. They all ditched him like a wet rag.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

All of this is very familiar! Thanks for sharing this!

[@kevynallen8060]

I'm so glad I found your channel, thank you for sharing this information! I didn't know what I was dealing with until watching your videos. I just got out of a longterm relationship with a covert narcissist. Your videos have given me so much closure and understanding to what was going on. Thank you for giving me this understanding and closure!

[@G-man3380]

I have watched your video about how the narcissist makes you think you’re the problem video and it answered my question.

[@nicholecornes1915]

Theres so many of us walking the hell away

[@weta-linetv5354]

8:02 The Hall of Lost Supply, I love that. Cause it reminds me of how I was able learn to take my neck of the emotional chopping block. And may I say: all the pain of shadow-work, the 3 years of journaling so far and all the videos I've watched on the empath's healing journey(which has been mostly wonderful women such as yourself) has been worth every moment to find myself in the clarity of who I am in relation to the heartbreaking reality of the world. One of the most important things I have learned is how to respect myself and that not all individuals with narcissistic traits are full blown narcissist. The most heartbreaking thing that I've learned is narcissism from what I come to understand is primarily developed at childhood.

[@deb2319]

Great Advice🎉

[@raydrew3509]

Thank you so much I Dodge a huge heart ache and was able to retract thank you so much

[@DahliaBrynn]

My husband told my mil not to get the co-vax, because he had researched it and felt she would be at risk of a stroke. She did end up having a stroke, whether it was just the culmination of all her other health issues, and bad timing, or the poke, no one will ever know for sure. But he flat out refused to help her in any way, he visited her in the hospital the first day, I had to drag him after that. Basically, he was mad at her because she didn’t listen to him. And since she was divorced, he was the head of her (he was so stuck in the biblical power mindset), and since she disobeyed him, he was “punishing” her with the silent treatment. She was oblivious of it at least, but it put so much strain on me, because while I was driving our disabled daughter to and from school every day (no bus option), and to her dr appointments, I was also driving his mother to her therapies and dr appointments several times a week while she was recovering. When I told him I was overwhelmed, he refused to do anything to help, because he was still mad at her. It was so juvenile and ridiculous. It was some of the last straws in our relationship before I left him.

[@dianaorlando8641]

With my narcissist husband I'm not allowed to make my own decisions every decision I make is wrong and I need to okay it with him.

[@stevemarshall7661]

What a great channel on Ego and Narcissism.. As an Empath I’m constantly confronted with Narcissists. One goes away then another comes thru, I understand the lessons clearly behind it however still doesn’t make it much less annoying to deal with. Thank God for this young lady’s channel and intellect.🙏🏼❤️🤙🏽

[@Gorgovoid173]

Ironically enough, calling yourself an "empath" sounds exactly like something a narcissist would do.

[@susanfisher5342]

Thanks!

[@lesabrydson2526]

Thanks for sharing this relationship hell. Psalm 27 and 34 and 35 and 64 and 99

[@heatherbates789]

Love bomb, devalue, discard 🙌🏼

[@ExposingFrauditors]

thank you

[@jkevinparker]

🧙‍♀️ “Magic Mirror on the wall…” 🪞 “Nah, fam, you gettin old.”

[@rosalynzografos]

My narc husband died in 2022. Thankfully God protected me from his destructiveness, debt, lies and affairs. I learned so much, lies about health etc….it was abuse of medication & possibly vaccines that were at the root of his end.

[@garykeating4964]

Hi Christine happy new year ❤🇮🇪🇮🇪

[@Han-rw9ev]

I actually literally refer to a particular narcissist I know as a 'bridge burner'. I couldn't understand how that individual always seemed to get into a dispute with people I'd got on really well for years. And then there was the constant jealousy of just about everything..

[@herbamare740]

I can picture this museum of grudges is so much grander than Smithsonian museums 😅 will take one's life time to go through and understand 😅

[@nicholecornes1915]

They always say i dont care about you 😂

[@the.IastIaugh]

w00h00! I'm glad my Borderline ex is dating a Narcissist now 😂 . They're perfectly fit for one another and going to ruin themselves in the long run 🤣

[@dawnhandelman308]

Uncover Discover Discard 🕊❤️☮️

[@user-bu7dp8zd1d]

HE WAS SOOOO CLOSE

[@livinlife954]

Oh that is funny😂. I remember she called me at noon on my birthday to sing happy birthday. Then 6pm rolled around and she called to break up😂😂. I was so high of my birthday pre roll I just laughed. My birthday was November and her cheating ways came out in May

[@jecastitch6216]

He discarded me 1 month ago but he still active texting me with different numbers. Found out he had a new supply, she message me telling me that she goes thru his phone and see everything and recorded it and she even reach out to me even the old and other girls he is talking to. Meaning she caught him cheating lying and so on. She asked me “why he always asking for money?” I said he never asked me and if he did I won’t give him” so I was thinking since she is in her 50s and my ex is 35. This lady trying to manipulate my ex bcoz she is holding something from his phone against him that’s why she has an access on his phone now. The question is iS THERE A POSSIBLE THAT SHE CAN CHANGE MY EX NARC? As she can give the supply he needs money and s*X. (And also cuz she have an access on his phone now?) They started dating 1 and a half months to be exact now.

[@rosatrula]

My picture's on the wall 😊

[@rayvondurant5017]

My ex who is a narc would always talk about her mom and how bad of a person she is. I met her mom and was like she is so loving and just want to connect to her daughter. I knew something was off but I just ignored it at the time.

[@cmullenmusic]

To the point just before 9:34... you're not alone. She led me to believe we were working on our marriage, going to counseling, all that good stuff. This was after I discovered adultry, and after about an eight year period of her openly being in and out the door by her own choice. I thought it was real, as I did all the times (lost count on how many times) the working on things, staying together, being a family. Till she randomly, abruptly and violently left me, a week later she filed for divorce. When she came back to get some of her things I asked her what the last two months had been (working on our marriage), she said it was all an act that she had to play till she could find somewhere else to stay so she wouldn't have to sleep in her car. She elaborated to say "I hate you, I can't stand you and I want nothing to do with you." To say it hurt would be an understatement... over twelve years (nine married) with this person. We were a family with children and everything. Two months later she called me asking why the guy she left me for ghosted her, and why it seems like no guys want to actually be in a real relationship with her... I was shocked, but I guess I shouldn't have been. It's been tough to say the least. But with God and help from channels like this one.... I'm going to tell you it gets better and the person who hurt you in a way did you a favor by discarding you. You're free. Go on now and live your life. I can genuinely say I'm finally healed and grown enough to say I do not want to be with her anymore. It's taken about one year, and one year of conscious rest and work on myself and in my life in Christ to get here. About one year of focused, intentional effort to go from absolutely soul crushed, to now walking again... feeling better, being well and looking forward to my life, and grateful for my present. Don't give up. Be nice to yourself. Your best days are ahead of you, you haven't even met all the people and things that love you yet. 💪💚✞

[@soco13466]

My brother is a classic narcissist. He ticks most of the boxes. After a lifetime of putting up with his crap, I've lost my heartstrings. They are so burned out, I see thru cryin' tears preludes, intended to soften me up for the kill. Whenever he called, I just went to "What do you want?," which sent him into a rage. A lot of "You don't understand" and "Just this once" bullshyt has resulted in my Jack Nicholson "don't give a damn" attitude towards him. My brother can't handle the truth most of the time. He did say once, after witnessing a visitor begging for a favor I didn't do, " I don't like that guy. He reminds me of me." Well choke my chicken, folks, he admitted he was an -sshole. I don't care to deal with anyone who has those traits and linguistic tricks. His personality is as if he were a communist, a very serious character flaw. "What's mine is mine, what's yours is mine. I am not a moon to his planet. I am the sun in my life. No planets, no moons, just self reliant. I don't follow a leader as he does, due to his lack of steerage in life. Anyway, I have gone NC for years now. I don't have that boat anchor pulling me down.

[@KristiHolmes-pi9vx]

yes we were together for approx 10 years so I'm sure I am in the museum. after he discarded me and he was on to fresh supply he told me that he will "always love me, that I must know why he did what he did...he needed to move on and set me aside. it was of course all of my fault and boom gone... he did give me our shared dogs just left them too. we are so better off. I think it was that mirror I put up in front of his face...horrible

[@karnesjeremy113]

I’ve made mistakes, I’m not perfect but her mistakes are never brought up and if they are it’s not her fault. It’s her narcissistic father or her bad childhood or it’s my fault for something I did 10 years ago. Her looks are more important and make up now she’s mid 30’s like me. Plastic surgery and thousands in credit card debt. My moneys for bills and hers is for whatever she wishes. No means no until she can change my mind through shame or guilt. I’ve got thinning hair and no abs, so I need to fix that. Feels like I’m just around for the kids, bills, and to clean things up. My hobbies are too expensive or why would I need another blah blah blah. I could go on.

[@nicholecornes1915]

Hell NO

[@tompierce9551]

I always make a narcissistic person uncomfortable by telling them all the wrong things on purpose I can annoyed anyone if they are trying to control me. Sometimes they call me names but once they see whatever they do or say is not working they just simply walk away. Than as they walk away I tell them. “THAT A BOY”

[@clintonnagy1662]

I used what she said against her and that tactic lit her on fire. It's funny how gorilla warfare works. When I complained about her son's behavior, she would say " he's seven, what do you want from him? When she complained about him, I'd say " he's seven, what do you want from him"??😅

[@savannahphoenix3404]

I am just entering this ´´hall of lost supply``, thank God, after a 7 year relationship with a narcissist, I am finally breathing! Im one of the lucky ones, because Im still 28 years old and figured out things quickly, thanks to my curiosity about mental health topics, because I kept studying multiple stuff to understand people around me, until I reached the narcissism topic and find out that my mother is a narcissist (she was diagnosed on therapy recently, after I discovered it) and probably because of that, I dated a narcissist too (because the abuse was familiar, probably). I have bipolar disorder type 2 (more depressive one) and C-PTSD, so it was a huge blow on me, all these years of abuse, but I am breathing, I am leaving all of this and I will survive and live, finally!

[@Joe-hf3cn]

Totally cannot relate to the revenge comments or revenge as it’s own entity. Then again, perhaps the one(s) whom I perceive to be narcissists may display its typical traits but are either not narcissists or simply do not have the ability for so called revenge owing to our relationship dynamic.

[@Kbecker2436]

lol my soon to be ex wife said those exact words. She never cared about me or loved me. Nothing I would have done would have made her happy but still text me that it’s my fault for not trying to make it work. I stopped trying after she slept with her ex husband.

[@johndtwaldron]

@commonego how do I know if I merely acted like a narc with a mal-adjusted ego, or a genuine one? Is narcissism a spectrum?

[@madashamlet]

26 yr. old daughter who can't pay her bills due to internet shopping" TXT" to borrow money, i declined to help and was suddenly a dead-beat father, responsible for war in Gaza and transgender genocide.

[@Kartwhe]

Fml.... Im definitely with one.ugh its damn draining af.. everything youre saying is on point, grudges no family horrible with finances and god forbid he gets disrespected. Im learning to give him a taste of his own meds. Forget the fact he used to pull women left and right 👍 eye roll 😒

[@CarronBarry-yy3jn]

How to keep the kids safe from them? Even if divorced?

[@discninjas9284]

I'll have a big life size picture in that hall of fame

[@neilbennett6435]

My wife I’ve been with for 15 years has been sleeping around probably the whole relationship I only had proof of one that probably lasted more than a year I only found out that she wasn’t who I thought she was when my mother was dying and died I needed intimacy and comfort and she couldn’t give it to me blame me for everything pull every play in the book one me. She admits to one that she ended when he moved out of state then I paid for her beauty school I have a 3 year old son with her I gave her everything I had till i started burning out and my mom died. I went hard into the bottle when to rehab couples counseling she payed the victim I think she knows I’m serious this time I left today have couples counseling tomorrow morning I wish she could change but I’ve been threw sow many cycles I don’t think I can handle another I pray that she changes for her self the trauma bond is no jock I feel she is going to Hoover, smear campaign and have her old supplies that have been there the hole time at the same time I really love her and want her to do the hard work it takes to heal.

[@seangaughan87]

That's what l have done.Walk away.I know she's talking about me to other people.Her friends.When they see me.Give me dirty Looks.Like l have done something wrong.But it's other way round.Everyone thinks the sun shine out of her backside.But l know in my heart.God will pay back.

[@Silent99992]

Left my ex without saying anything and after seven days? He has a new supply

[@nwrbiodiesel1]

My wife told me everything I wanted to hear while we were dating. We got married and had 2 boys. After 4 years of being treated like Cinderella, physically and mentally abused. She worked while I worked at home, took care of our boys, did all the homework, fixed her car, etc. I asked her to go to couples counseling after I was tired of being called a piece of shit, her breaking door, and dishes. She said no and gave me the silent treatment for weeks. I finally got the courage to ask for a divorce, filed.... Then she accused me of pushing her. The police came told me I had to leave our house and our boys I had raised since birth. She took all the money and I'm out on the street living in my car. Trying to get back to my boys and business, I spent 6 years building. No evidence, no police report, no injuries. .. It's a nightmare where you are screaming for help, for anyone to listen, but no one can hear you. I never knew what a narcissist was. I do now.

[@drldexter2574]

The absurdities of legal systems are just soul crashing. When I realized she was a BPD/NPD with no sense of shame nor remorse I baby-stepped to divorce and managed to get a marital agreement signed where only the apartment that I had bought was to be shared (the net value of it, after loan etc...). And luckily we don't have kids. I came up with the strategy and I had to look for the right lawyer to help me. Many lawyers were just telling me "apply for divorce, then we'll negotiate". They were totally clueless of what I had to deal with.

[@MoPoppins]

I was actually wondering if narcs were much more susceptible to dementia, since their earlier lives seem to set them up for it. I’ve noticed that those who are suppressed, and where their entire lives are a lie, tend to develop dementia (it’s like the brain saying, “Oh, eager to forget & reject truth and reality, are we? Well, let me help you along!” 😂) This is hilarious-lovely little shot of schadenfreude for us, like a belated Xmas gift. 🎁

[@FastChargeMango]

It's cruel to revel at someone else's misfortune and demise. Dementia/Alzheimer's don't just effect the individual. That affliction effects everyone associated with them. Every family member and close friend. I've been through narcissistic abuse and have also witnessed the ravages of the aforementioned illnesses. I would never find joy in this scenario. One reason being it would create an environment where the narcissistic person can forget the harm they've caused and have other people care for them 24/7.

[@cuspryd3r]

@@FastChargeMango True but not all narcissists even realize they are narcissists. I've noticed this more with covert or vulnerable narcs that have no idea how narcissistic they really are.

[@DrTechMedRevolution]

I AM the hall of lost supply 😂

[@clintonnagy1662]

I feel like a museum. Hahaha...

[@kristalotlewski7552]

🎯

[@lynnschaeferle-zh4go]

It was personal. He got fat and old and it was my fault because I aged better since I’m not an alcoholic. It was personal because he was on a mission to destroy my life because I am not a 20 year old pole dancer and I get to pay the price for his stepmother’s abuse. Oh yeah did the smear campaign work. You would think I would be smarter since my mother did the same thing.

[@donnabrown4470]

I live with a narcissist for over ten years and how do I get rid of him😭

[@TheCallToArms1]

I've found that the gray rock method really worked for me and my narc eventually got bored of me and left. After a seven year marriage full of disrespect and covert abuse, I will finally be free. I hope you will find your way out!

[@MoPoppins]

Make yourself boring & annoying by being inquisitive and asking your narc to help you with things they’ll never be willing to do. Try to make it seem like it was THEIR idea to leave. What you wanna do is keep yourself safe, so don’t do anything that would enrage them. What would annoy your narc to make them want to leave? I suppose the BEST way to make them go is to find them NEW SUPPLY…but I’m guessing this one isn’t one of the handsome, charming types, since they’d be out on the prowl themselves, if they could actually attract new supply. 🫤 There’s gotta be some desperate codependent who’s willing to take him in-he basically just needs food & shelter that’s not YOUR home. 😂

[@PeterAcrat]

🧐Rip the band-aid off! _Own_ your situation, and 'get rid of' the part of you that insists on staying: 👉AKA; _FIRST_ deal and heal any fear, lack of confidence, low self value, guilt, hurt, resentment, bitterness etc, and only _then_ step away (if that is at all possible). Otherwise, try the slow fade-to-grey.

[@maximeroussel7601]

If you match their energy they will go nuts. If they come back late then next day you are the one late but longer ect. Now my ex isn't even replying to anything even about the kids

[@AngelaMonet]

@11:01 👀

[@kadlacdixon-thedrawmylifep3293]

❤❤❤...

[@kirkstewart-vf6hg]

Yes your $ is her $ everything you buy is half her's but her $ is her's and everything she buys is her's also. So when you divorce she gets well over 3/4 of everything and then does the smear campaign of what a horrible human you were and how she is the victim..🤔☠

[@tamelashafer8852]

💜♾️🙏🏼🕉️

[@anitahedgecock1968]

✨🌹🌿

[@rambultruesdell3412]

Narcissist's smear? i had to outsmart 😊 one once by saying absolutely nothing (regarding) to anyone among our mutual friends, period 😐

[@Jess-wk5jo]

I have Questions about affairs. 1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not 2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex 3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating 4 can i have affair without never never having sex. 5 is it really affair without having no sex 6 can i have emotional and physical affair without having no sex?

[@BardJeromeo]

Lol, all 6 of these questions are exactly the same, haha.

[@michaelalexander2079]

To your questions yes people can have affairs without having sex it could involved French kissing hooter squeezing ass grabbing, even if you're not in the persons presence an emotional affair could happen I find alot of times when that happens the 2 people are texting each other expressing their feelings sending kiss emojis telling each other "I love you" when you're with someone else, even if you don't say it your brain knows how you feel

[@FastChargeMango]

I learned the hard way that yes, there is such a thing as an emotional affair. I had no idea what it was. But long story short, it sounds like you are also having an emotional affair that more or less is on the verge of becoming a physical affair. If you love the person you're with, cut all ties and block the other guy immediately. If you have any doubts, then just break up with the person you're currently in a relationship with. It will be easier for him that way.

[@jase5415]

Lol...the fact that you even have to ask is f....p

[@bee18825]

Yes, they are cheating.

[@lindaschultz7900]

I had to go back after 3 yrs of no contact because my rent increased and I lost my job. My name is on the house too. I notice he has been criticizing me more lately. Nothing has changed his abuse is the same. I have no family to help me. All I have is my 2 emotional support cats. It was either get rid of my fur babies and live in a tent or go back to the abuse. I think he is a misgynistic too. We have to be careful who we diagnose with full blown narcissism and who doesn't. I'm not a doctor.

[@harishgupta1303]

Ples, ples ples ples ples ples ples,,gods,,,,,save,,,, me protect me from,,narcists,, ples allover allto, pray for me ples secretly confidentially silently silently excesive silently ples few, centuries frwrds ples ples ples ples ples ples

[@Drogonmoon]

I cheated on my narc with 6 different girls before I found out she was a narcissist - she made up an excuse to go silent completely in her imagination - then proceeded to put funny photos of her on my media and she blocked me - only slept 🛌 with her once and it wasn’t that good - not what I expected from a Thai go go dancer - she’s completely clinically insane

[@susanfisher5342]

Thanks!

[@susanfisher5342]

Thanks!

[@susanfisher5342]

Thanks!