7 Habits of Highly Boring Women

[@araineacutebrownnurse7315]

Ok ~ I'll start my journey! 1.Open up 2. Pique curiosity 3.Add value 4.Be present. Not easily distracted.Practice mindfulness 5.Value your future more than your fears 6.Don't fear intimacy 7.Successful ppl live OUTSIDE their comfort zone. ...Thanks so much 💜💜

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

You got it!!! Great summary

[@diegaah]

This is great! Thank you for the outline!

[@diegaah]

Great words!!! Thank you

[@savinggift158]

Mindfulness = buddism. I follow Jesus

[@lowcountrygirl7779]

Arainea CuteBrownNurse Love that! I'm writing this down in my vision journal right now Thank you and God bless!

[@belladarling4256]

The irony of this is that even though half the world are introverts, we label "boring" from the extrovert perspective. I find extroverts, especially fake ones, HIGHLY BORING. Small talk is boring. Gossip is boring. But in this world, these things are considered exciting. Smh.

[@foreverHis.period]

Bella Darling So true!

[@bibbiana4Lyfe]

I find them exhausting. Being "ON" all the time seems tiring to me, but, I'm an introvert and I'm ok with that.

[@Empress-lala7jy]

Bella....thank you! I hear her thoughts, I. Wouldn't apply it to my life through.

[@regitzecamara36]

Bella Darling i hate unintelligent conversations

[@BeautyLoves88]

i find this to be very true as an introvert.

[@TheHouseontheAvenue]

U have to be careful who u open yourself up to because everyone is not deserving of that nor can they handle it. Guard your heart and be mindful of who u give yourself to. Secondly, “boring” is in the eye of the beholder. There is nothing wrong with being “boring” lastly, i believe u should be who u are whatever u are authentically

[@timicacollins9530]

That part Asha C

[@sumbdluvsme]

Asha C now this point is everything. I was thinking the same thing.

[@QG_TheRemnant]

Amen

[@britishmiller3665]

Asha C - exactly

[@dajewel1982]

This !

[@Shay4YourMind81]

Just because I am a private person, and it takes me a longer time to open up/warm up to/trust others does not make me a boring person... just saying.

[@deirmfrancis4437]

Boring depends on how many characteristics you have...1/7 Or 7/7

[@clay07770]

Yawn***

[@donaarmpaam858]

yeah it doesn't make u boring

[@lmmayberry3703]

Mama warned us all not to be that "fast" girl, now we're told to speed things along to be excepted. by who?? Nah, he needs to date her (walks in the park, 30 mins phone time, accompany him to the grocery store, etc) to see IF she's worth the long-run. Ladies don't need or desire that high-end "spend" mentality. if he starts that he will keep that goin when you're together and tryin to save for the future. think about that. Slow an steady wins the race.

[@oa799]

Being private does not have a direct correlation to being a boring person

[@svb6594]

I personaly believe that people will navigate towards you if they are meant to be in your life...regardless of one's personality.

[@adriantoogenuine]

Lol that’s not how the universe works and I like your intriguing opinion

[@Chris-wb7wf]

Yawn

[@garden_dork]

Translation: I am too lazy to change so God will fix it for me

[@kimberlyborosa5097]

No one is boring if you take the time to understand people for who they are and why they behave the way they do. Just because some one does not outwardly exhibit these habits for you to see means that they are boring. Many 'closed up' people, you'll discover, do possess a very wonderful and interesting personality. They just don't care to be so outward and choose not to. AND THEY DON'T HAVE TO. They're comfortable with who they are. Introverts and extroverts both have their place in this world. They both add value in their own ways. To say that someone is boring and expect them to behave like you do is rather highly ignorant and judgemental, Id say.

[@nouranalaa77]

Can't agree more 👏👍👍👍

[@iamaksd]

@Career Boss Babe Well said!!

[@notesfromjmota5127]

True the best thing to do is just not hang with them. If it’s boring to you then just stay away from that boring person.

[@AZITHEMLGPRO]

I must have real bad luck. & here we go with that “ you’re judging!” Lol everything we do has some type of judgement behind it

[@kimberlyborosa5097]

@@AZITHEMLGPRO well if we want to pick at semantics (at a comment I made 3 years ago 😅), 'judgemental' has two different meanings. One, referring to making an objective opinion, which is required at some level in almost any given situation. The other, being critical in a harmful way. One can make a negative judgement without being harmful. In this video, a surface level, negative judgement is passed in a shady manner. A person with an introverted personality looking for help to step out of his or her comfort zone, would gravitate to a capable person who is sensitive of and respectful to different personality types. I'm sure you wouldn't go looking for advice from someone who is low-key putting you down. Constructive criticism does not do that.

[@SANDYMILLER23]

Monique I'm very boring and LOVE IT!!!!😃 I love to travel by myself. I like going places and meet people. Boring is being very confident in yourself knowing you have an inner peace that will carry you through out life. Life is meant to live your way with the blessings from God. Boring or not...your the only person you will ever with...be happy and ENJOY YOU😃!!!!

[@mynameisv5034]

SANDY MILLER You don't sound boring to me, just private and at peace with yourself! To me, a boring person would NEVER take a trip, let alone doing it alone!

[@natashajohn3587]

So true

[@lovingmyself8416]

Sandy Miller- I'm rolling with your comment bcz that is so me. I see I'm not alone and I love it that way. Being 100% me!! 💝💛❤💖

[@davemooreii9943]

What you call being happy and boring is really being happily single, a sigma trait. You have no issue vibing with yourself by yourself.

[@MorningsWithMaria]

you are actually the opposite of boring. boring people would never travel alone and meeting new people 😘

[@SharonMuhindiN]

I think there are no boring people. I think people who are called boring are people who are just highly selective. They do all those things but only when they want to, with whom they want to. If they don't, they just didn't want to do it with you.

[@richreese1075]

I clearly agree, boring is subjective. What's boring to one may be interesting to another. Everyone doesn't have to turn up all the time. But she is on point with what she is saying if you are that person who wonders why you can't keep anyone's interest because of those exact qualities.

[@thefawnest]

The perrrfect comment to describe the ones who are just misunderstood. 🙋🏻‍♀️

[@resolute7177]

@@thefawnest yea a girl who sits there and sends 3 word text msg 90% of time are totally not boring 😅😅 smh

[@rastahill]

@@resolute7177 Smh, they are lost..

[@garden_dork]

No accountability

[@RashonWill]

The thing about opening up is you can open up to the wrong people or persons and they can take advantage of you. God forbid you open up to someone who doesn’t care about you.. If you want to know me ask questions I prefer not to run my mouth to someone who I’m not sure cares or not... you look crazy that way.. You learn a lot about people and their intentions when you sit back and observe.. if they want you and are interested they will inquire about you...

[@mynameisv5034]

ShonMuzik Productions That's wisdom right there

[@kayleepotkonen1187]

Well stated

[@KatieKangaroo26]

ShonMuzik Productions looks like no ones interested in me then....

[@Nina-cd6uw]

I think there are different kinds of opening up though. Don't be too fast to tell them your life story and all the sad things and problems you go through, that's more on the side of "talking too much" and makes you unpleasant and vulnerable, both you don't want. Opening up to strangers means giving them an intelligently chosen insight into your life that makes them curious about you. That sounds easier than it is and takes delicate handling and pre-thought, but is the essence of being a very interesting person. The same tip easier described would probably be to stay on the surface of your life and just occasionally allowing your conversation partner to see through that layer into the second layer, reveal something slightly personal that doesn't actually make you vulnerable, but makes you appear more vulnerable, human, mysterious, adventurous, whatever. If you think she implied to tell delicate things to strangers then clearly you did not listen well enough or didn't understand her message at least.

[@nessawithsmiles]

ShonMuzik Productions honestly .. if you have God.. there is no need to fear or be suspicious of people’s ability to take advantage of you

[@MeMeMinx99]

Value your FUTURE and NOT your FEARS!!! This one struck a cord with me the most. My friend told me stop living in the past and move forward to the future

[@gabrielle916]

Not opening up has nothing to do with being boring. Sometimes people don't like to reveal much about themselves because people will turn around and talk about you. I am very closed with my life and I am okay with that.

[@TXejas19]

I think a lot of people are taking the video at face value and not considering what she's actually saying. She saying one should challenge our insecurities, defense mechanisms, and coping strategies. Its one thing to be healthily in solitude and another thing to be self guarded. Like she said some women may be trying to figure out what they're doing wrong.

[@56missmusic]

TXejas19 TXejas19 exactly!! And Im a boring ass bitch but even I get what she's saying...I love my alone time but I also know I get defensive and self guarded at times, and I want to change that

[@TXejas19]

Tiffany Ann sorta the same for me. I genuinely enjoy peace, quiet, and stability for a significant amount of time, but every now and then i will convince myself to be "boring" or not worth the pursuit to others so that they lose interest and can't tell what i have to offer to ward off intimacy, so much so that its become a habit that occurs without my meaning to (which she also mentioned). I can turn on the charm and passion but its an effort now

[@56missmusic]

TXejas19 TXejas19 yes I feel you. I see that I too am afraid of intimacy. Like I'm glad that I love myself enough where I can enjoy my own company but at the same time I would like to be able to express who I am to others. Life is about balance!

[@TXejas19]

Tiffany Ann i couldn't have said it better myself. you're clearly intelligent, confident, brave to admit you want intimacy, and capable of self assessment. This is apart of your journey, you'll get past it and your mate will relish your spirit when the time comes and you're open to it. Good luck!!!

[@56missmusic]

TXejas19 TXejas19 yesss thank you!!! We're on the same page! I know it will happen for me!..you are brilliant, good luck with your journey as well ✊🙏

[@sweetdarlene22]

Before listening to her video I already knew that I'm a "boring" woman... I suffer from depression and social anxiety and for anyone like me hearing someone describing our characteristic as being boring doesn't help at all. Not everybody as to be extroverted... Introverted people are people too and that's ok... If you see someone thats lonely shy or to themselves reach out they might need help

[@Ali08]

Darlene P usually people like her will not bother anyway. nothing wrong with "opening" up but do it with many people and not protecting yourself usually lead to problems.

[@John-z8g9z]

Dear women, You are NOT boring! Life is hard bills are expensive accepting responsibility is what adults do. When you get home and the power is on there groceries in the fridge insurance on your car if this boring you are better off! Enjoy!

[@ggirl471]

I agree with your list! This will show up in every relationship whether it's a work relationship, a romantic relationships or in friendships. Knowing your worth/value and knowing you have something to offer the world is vital to your soul.

[@itsme516]

well said.

[@gagafifty5068]

After reading a few comments i feel this video isn’t about letting go so you can attract a specific person. But letting go for yourself opening up for you. Some of us possibly are miserable and think negatively all the time. Letting go of all baring all will cause you to be more attractive to whomever feels that you are...not just a man.

[@Rhawn246]

@Carmen M Edwards That's a great message to take from the video. Some of these comments definitely come across as negativity and closemindedness.

[@GIMJ84]

Some of this advise in the wrong hands/mindset would make them a doormat/target for the wrong man. Some valid points but ladies get yourself right within and with God first before taking this advice. Love God and yourself! It's so important.

[@geraldos9094]

I love a boring woman, a person that is at peace with herself with a good book or hobby. There's a certain calmness about her, she doesn't require constant entertainment, she isn't mentally whimsical whereas the man has to babysit her constantly changing mannerisms.

[@vitaemusique]

I intentionally try to be boring because, quite frankly, there are a lot of hater types who only want to bite your style. I am strategic with my boringness.

[@MsKim510]

Symbiant Sound LLC: Same here. My story and life isn't for everyone.

[@tjj6362]

Me too. Lol

[@lasetlivingstin7752]

Yes exactly, that's why I toned myself down in many ways...There's so much that can be said regarding this subject...

[@lasetlivingstin7752]

Best I can say is, I'm boring persey to keep attention off of me...

[@kayleepotkonen1187]

Laset livingstin definitely

[@RoyalRose215]

So needed this ! I’m so in love with the person im with and I’ve been so boring because of my past I’m so guarded. I’m trying to let go of the bad so that my good can shine. No one wants to be with a boring person

[@Tebbles07]

"Successful people live outside of their comfort zone", I like that. I need to be comfortable with being uncomfortable. Thanks for this Monique. I am sharing this with 2 ladies, and btw you look absolutely gorgeous😍

[@-1lovethesea]

I don't understand, why I have to be someone I am not? Not everyone has to become alluring and charismatic. Be yourself and someone will like you, but yeah, our enemies are two things, fear and comfort, we should battle them.

[@whatsupbudbud]

If you are a "taker", then you enjoy other people's outgoing personality while you yourself are giving nothing in return. This might be someone who you think you are but you will miss out on great people just because you're not willing to change for the better. And yeah, I used to be just like you and most people, thinking that I'm good as I am and someone will appreciate that. Well, why should they? Nobody is perfect. Understanding our own flaws and working towards becoming better people is what self-growth is all about. Hope you change your attitude for your own sake. :)

[@dyanaariaburkhammer1445]

You’re right! Not everyone wants to sparkle ✨ or be a memorable woman.

[@shirleyowens5702]

Honey i don't want people in my business , I'll take boring .

[@Sharenlove2000]

Shirley Owens Agreed!! Private Life Happy Life!!

[@SANDYMILLER23]

Amen Shirley. You said beautifully perfect.

[@Justme_247]

Boring is a matter of opinion anyway so it doesn't matter. I am who I am and if that's boring then, fine.

[@Justme_247]

If someone thinks I'm boring then they need to move on and not worry themselves about it.

[@MsShopObsessedLady]

I second that! Sometimes people are too much energy.

[@jodickinson1901]

This vid is a keeper. Thank you. So glad I found you. This is absolute gold to me right now. Each habit you have shared, sends me down the right path. I say, be careful what you wish for & be clear about it! Well, I prayed for every word you spoke girlfriend! Genuinely, from the other side of the world, many months after you posted this, you’re the angel I needed to hear from. I’m working through curing my breast cancer (yay) close family losses this year & I’ve becoming boring and my adoption sprang from nowhere. Explaining the growing sense of not having identity or being sure of myself. Like fading away. I’ll assess your tips daily as, you gifted them to me somehow. Life is very magical, even in crappy times! X

[@RealLadi228]

Just be yourself💌 SIMPLE✌

[@RealLadi228]

Gina Bella Hello Gina🌈 Being guided by Divine Source is our best bet individually...who is to say what is boring one person to the next...what works for me or you maynot work for another...yes be positive...keep positive energy in your space...but to each his own.

[@MamaSisi]

You are beautiful! I really dislike when people say “that’s a white people thing.” What a great way to hold yourself back in life. Great tips!

[@vickyl7980]

I am left in tears... you have shown me an image of myself that i have refused to acknowledge for so long. I now see that it is a deep, even generatìonal issue that i must confront once & for all. I have suscribed because i think i was led here to get help. If not, i will be alone for the rest of my life, or even worse, raise another generation of women who claims to believe in God, but denies his ability to heal & restore.

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

Big hugs to you sis! Your message touched my heart and I stand in agreement that you can create a new story and a new beginning.

[@RoyalRose215]

Same 🙏🏾🥺

[@alexiswilliams4959]

I definitely feels this applies to me. My husband has had this conversation with me many times in different ways. I had to realize that the key to me being internally happy comes from me and my efforts to be happy. Glad I have my husband who cares to improve my life. I hope for those who don't have that person telling them they can be better and also do better. listen up and try something new.

[@mizfrenchtwist]

BY OPENING UP AND BEING TOO REVEALING , YOU MAY COME OFF AS TOO DESPERATE , EVEN NEEDY ...............no one , needs to know your whole story , in the first few minutes , of you first being with them................

[@Nina-cd6uw]

Well that would fall under the point of "talking too much" and not giving mystery a chance. It needs delicate handling of a conversation to be an interesting person and she warns of both: Not opening up and opening up too much. Don't tell your life story to every stranger, stay on the surface of your life and only occasionally bring out something deeper or unexpected.

[@hebahmuhammad8607]

All the things you listed apply to me! I’m always afraid of opening up n I’m afraid of intimacy, I feel like I close myself up n I enjoy comfort so much, I became so comfortable with my fears n negative thoughts n assumptions, it all affect how I see my relationship with the man I love!! I see him in front of me, I wana enjoy him but I can’t then I start questioning myself n our relationship! It really puts a strain on my relationship with the whole world! Thanks a lot, this has com as a wake up call!

[@Getitgirl816]

Just checking to see if I'm a boring woman and turns out I'm not.

[@ArlettleWilliams]

Teasha Stewart same here...

[@necihines8042]

Teasha Stewart 🤣

[@enoasangansi5103]

Teasha Stewart lol

[@blessings8326]

Teasha Stewart ok no need to brag 😭

[@Getitgirl816]

Blessings Awh Sis. 🙁

[@LanceSalTurner]

I'm a guy, went on a date with a highly boring woman. Shy, closed up, does not develop conversation, practically gave me one lined answers whenever I tried to pick up the conversation with a new topic or question. I spent 5 hours with her, two of them watching a movie, and I got practically nothing from her. She would laugh whenever I said something humorous but wouldn't take it anywhere. I swear she must have asked me 3 or 4 questions, and they were mostly in response to the same question I asked her. The initial attraction I felt for her got destroyed. I initially thought it was an age gap thing, cause I'm in my late 30s and she is around 21, but ultimately I think it boiled down to her personality or lack thereof.

[@rainsoundsforsleepandrelax5208]

I love this soooo much and it's exactly why I had to get off Facebook because I was losing my ability to be present 😘✌🏼 good stuff Monique

[@keepthefaithwithtori]

Tahria Jones Getting off Facebook was Everything for me....

[@geraldos9094]

Boring is interesting. Go to a gathering, find the person sitting alone, start up a conversation...there you will find writers, artist, inventors, etc. They don't feel the need to overcompensate for their uniqueness & substance by being with the crowd, they are living within themselves, they mentally drink upstream from the herd and has mastered the art of contentment.

[@ladonnawashington1643]

This is rubbing me all the wrong way. Why is the onus ALL on women? I hate counsel that tells women that they have to do all the heavy lifting to gain the notice of a man. Ugh.

[@ladyb5004]

LaDonna Washington ,exactly!

[@gagafifty5068]

Well look at it this way what your holding on to is more heavier than letting go. 😊

[@SaraFJones]

This is about women, this comment is only valid if both men and women were the subject but only women got the todo list and men didn't.

[@cosmicneuromelanatedgoddess]

LaDonna Washington exactly

[@DuchessAnastasia]

I am for all these point but how about saying do these things to be a better you and not just for the sake of a man's attentions. I'm so tired of all these videos making seem like the only problem lies within women. Men have issues too. I love God too but please stop making seem like God created women ONLY for sake of being available for the right "good" man to find you, marry you and get you some financial comfort and babies.... Like I said. Love the points but please stop making seem like we NEED MEN so we have to change.

[@dahardeman3065]

One’s opinion of someone being Boring is relative… just be who you are.

[@humblewolf2474]

Respect is better than attention

[@andicantu6490]

Such a beautiful and wise woman. I hope you do more on this subject. Some women practice being boring to avoid getting hurt, not just by men, but by back-stabbing female friends.

[@freemindsloveforever]

I love this video. Haters are haters regardless of whether you shine or not. No one can take what's meant for you - have faith in this and don't hide your light. Also, just today I had a conversation about how a lack of personality affected another colleagues ability to be seen as competent. We are not robots and what differentiated us and makes us unique is our personality. It's not about women per se but humanity in general. Love the blue top: bright bold and anything but boring xx

[@missshantae24]

freemindsloveforever I heard that! NO ONE CAN TAKE WHAT'S MEANT FOR ME!

[@christinekash4205]

freemindsloveforever

[@beautyandpositivity1343]

Wow! What an amazing video. I hope most can move beyond the “boring” label because you are, in fact, informing people about habits & ways of being that lessen their ability to live fully and freely. Yes, that can read boring, but this video is so much more. You’re hitting the nail on the head as to why some don’t present confidently and with warmth. Nicely done. Keep doing what you’re doing.

[@HavootuKali]

My problem is I hate going places lol funny enough I'm not afraid to try new places, but I have to mentally prepare myself for going any place because being around people for a long period of time. Any period of time beyond an hour... I'm ready to pull my hair out because people's energy is so overwhelming the whole time I'm thinking is it time to go home yet LMAO... And im never able to be fully myself in those stressfull moments... can they just invent a service where you can just order the man you want online with 2 day shipping lmaoooo... Now thats something id invest in lmaooo Cause going places is so over rated lol...

[@keketennessee9116]

JonVieSays I'm like that too!😯

[@peridozq9390]

Me three

[@NanaAnnnn]

lmaoo.. that is actually the plot of this Japanese drama Zettai Kareshi or Absolute boyfriend.

[@resolute7177]

i think they is a difference between being boring and just not being a extrovert

[@garden_dork]

Buy a cat and die alone

[@traceykadondo4185]

So this video kept being recommended to me and I kept scrolling as I don't think I'm a boring woman. Then I decided to just see what it's about and the funny thing is a few of these tips applied to me!! Thanks for the wake up call and best believe I'm going to subscribe. Your presentation is amazing and sharing with my girls. Thank you xx

[@nihileyes]

You’re so beautiful!!!

[@trinamore3371]

Lois Johnson Yeesss. I don't Agree with some of the things she's saying but she is beautiful!

[@Djtunique]

She is!

[@richtubestl]

YEs u are Beautiful Yuna

[@laquandahicks3348]

Yuna loves Min Yoongi uhh

[@timotha7]

Yes she is gorgeous and it’s nice to see a beautiful classy black woman.

[@akhetcypresssage2580]

5.6.7 resonates deep within my core. I never had anyone teach nor show me the way. I'm in my late 40's and finally see the light, however no pity party needed.. Let's do this because it's never too late in becoming the woman I see when I close my eyes and pray. I appreciate you so much for all that you share. Ase'

[@Sheetalc]

this video just shifted my thought process forever

[@shanmarcell3994]

I hated this bcuz apart of being yourself, is not feeling like you HAVE TO BE what ppl tell you to be. (but if youre not happy with yourself, i guess this is needed) But I love your enthusiasm... very positive & refreshing. newbie 😊

[@petersonpraise1164]

I adore a woman who is very quiet. Who knows when to talk, and when to use a smile to indicate she wants your attention. I don't talk a lot because I am very thoughtful person. A loud wife make me wanna die early. I hope she will come quiet.

[@resolute7177]

why do u want a "very quiet" woman?? like do u enjoy her 2 word texts or something

[@rudomali2522]

Sometimes if tell your problems to friends its a problem! Silence is golden! To be quet you avoid conflicts!

[@sagittariansage_2271]

Hey Monique, just discovered you. Thank you for the video, I love that you're a black woman too. So my thing is that 99% of the time ppl only talk about themselves and don't actually show interest in others, others being myself. And I'm not the type to 'compete' with ppl like that. I'm not just going to walk up and start talking about myself or randomly open up to ppl who have no interest in getting to know me or even care to ask anything about me. I truly believe that there are ppl out there who are reciprocal and inquire about others but I do NOT come across those ppl. I encounter ppl who love to talk about themselves, their lives,stories and don't ask about others or allow them to get a word in. As a result, I am usually quiet. Why bother when most ppl don't even care to take an interest? Also I am a 28yo black woman and it just seems that black women in general are regarded as society's trash; not respected, cared for, and definitely not worth taking an interest in. That is how it seems. I have many passions and interests but if ppl don't even bother getting to know me...what then?

[@mrsjbbp1691]

Dapper Owl812 true talk dear!

[@Adele1024]

Exactly!

[@gracedrosie5127]

Dapper Owl812 well this is for both of us , I hope you don’t mind.

[@candicebsiley5737]

Dapper Owl812 agree

[@Ali08]

Dapper Owl812 thank you!!! people say quiet people have to be a friend in order to get a friend and interest in others but...what if others not even bothering to get to know you! a lot of times when I was younger people ask me why I don't talk and nothing else. I can inquire to someone about their day and and most of the time they're fully talking about themselves and don't spend the time to know me or show interest. it's confusing while you listen to them while they don't care to find out more about you. which one is it?

[@debra5955]

This is beautiful. It made me realize certain things I'm doing really effects the people I care about. It helps us be honest about ourselves.

[@maggieshakalaka]

What a toxic video. Women, don't let anyone tell you you were "boring" or less worth than others, not by a friend, not by a stranger and not by a so-called relationship coach who makes money by increasing the insecurities of their clients. Have confidence! It is totally okay to be "boring", to be the one who does the talking, to not be interested in someone (though you might want to reconsider if this is a person you want to keep close), to not always be super outgoing and happy. There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a "highly boring woman" - and most probably you are not even one.

[@survivingyoutoday8519]

I needed to hear this.. I used to be very funny, but lost that side of myself. I will work on these 7 things! Thank you.

[@MIKandDON]

ty very much .I am highly boring .I will try my best to stay away from the negatives.

[@SparkleByMonica]

I don't even know how you got into my feed today, but I'm so glad you did. I'm a married woman, however, I always call myself boring. lol. I loved what you said about valuing your future more than your fears. As a woman who was abandoned by both parents at a young age, losing one to drugs and the other to suicide...both my sister and I have always been a tad fearful. It takes us alot longer to trust ANYONE, much less a man...so it's a 1,000 wonders we ever got married...much less sustain a relationship. I am on the outside, a bubbly person, because I was trained early that someone needed to lift everyone up. As time has progressed, I've felt burdened by this and sometimes angry because I feel that there is not that same level surrounding me in times where I may need to be lifted up. So, that's when old fears may come back in to haunt me. What I've always tried to do, however, is push myself to go outside that comfort zone as you mention...no matter how small or big the task might be. That has helped me to succeed in most things, but I've still never been able to completely shake returning to old fears. So, I wanted to thank you for this video and now I will check out your other stuff since you seem to be an inspirational gal. I've recently lost one of our old cats and have been in a depression, so any light coming my way will help lift me back up and reenergize me to continuing to lift my hubby up during this time and others. We are isolated people, aside from whenever I can teach my beading classes, so it's just he and I...which means I've got to get my groove back, so to speak...and appreciate positive influences such as this video of yours. Have a sparkle-riffic day! PS...you are beautiful, btw. And...I loved your jewelry. I make handmade jewelry, so it captured my eye first thing. lol.

[@keketennessee9116]

Sparkle by Monica oh my goodness! 😐

[@royallady6546]

Omg this is so me and am not happy living like that anymore but don't know where or how to start. am glad I found this video , God bless u

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

You're in the right place. It's not by accident that you're here. A great place to start is the free video training series that's in the description box above.

[@nelodypond9282]

You are so beautiful! I think the most significant point you made was to make your passions known and not keep them a secret. When you're doing what you love, you will automatically look prettier, be more interesting, and enjoy your life in truth ☺ Being overly reserved is definitely my weakness and it's been a habit that has dubbed me "boring" and "sad." Thanks for the video, it's very helpful!

[@LoneTaurus82]

Put those cell phones down!! I always take that as a sign from most women that you don't want to be bothered. Head always down and not up. You miss out on alot. I often find those type of woman boring in my mind as well so its interesting that came up in your list.

[@grittykitty50]

AND it's very, very rude! If you are with someone, be with them; pay attention to them. If you don't want to pay attention to them, go on about your business and let them go about theirs.

[@sogosmile4624]

Amen to this I hate when people use their cell phones when I am around. I just give up on the relationship when they answer their phone.

[@miriammongare4274]

Queen!!! She is pouring that wisdom 👌🏾

[@HabitualLover]

Hi people. I just realized that I don't trust any of these popular relationship advisors on KZbin. The reason why is because they are making a following giving advice warning women to change everything about our existence, but you don't see anyone making a following urging men to hold themselves to any standard at all. Or, if anyone knows of such a channel, can you mention or link it? I suddenly feel entirely disinterested in hearing a peep about becoming anything other than the person I've worked to be this far for the sake of "inspiring" a partner through my highly calibrated, highly strategic behavior. That's beyond insulting of an expectation at this point. Also, it seems to compromise safety to be modifying self to these degrees for the sake of attracting another person. I swear it subtly feels like some set up for repression, oppression, abuse, submission (in a bad way). I'm out!! 🤷‍♀️

[@caterinadelgalles8783]

Brilliant video! Very true and I don't have this problem, but a woman I know does. Unfortunately, she blames all her failed relationships on every man who runs away. You are STUNNINGLY beautiful!

[@TheFabulousGabbasaurous]

This list is applicable in many facets of life. I've seen ways to apply this in varying degrees in my marriage and in my professional field. This was enlightening! Thank you. I have one question though your hair is gorgeous may I have the details on it?

[@natalies7565]

"What got you here will not get you there." That one line is THE entire crux of this video for me. I will have to meditate on this until a change comes! Thanks for sharing. (BTW, you are gorgeous!)

[@candicerobinson8480]

It's hard work being a woman, we have to be everything to everyone.

[@ainurbekisheva5627]

Wow that was very knowledgeable! Even though we all know about it, but loose right directions! Your necklace is adorable just couldn't stop staring at those little gorgeous birds!!! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!

[@pattycake9856]

Since I've gotten older, I have become so boring.I use to be pretty and interesting like you. I wouldn't even know how to start reinventing myself which is the problem. Maybe you'll create a video dealing with that subject matter, ( I'm in my late 60's ). God bless

[@ckbrewN92]

I Like Cheese stfu hating troll.

[@divinefeminineoracle5825]

I Like Cheese actually plenty of people care. You feel the need to put others down to feel better about yourself, you eliminate yourself without trying. Loser!

[@nataliefrances6319]

Patricia your self esteem has dimished. Well done, very honest. Embrace being 60. You have something so many lack...wisdom, patience and recognition of who you are. Start reinventing yourself by re-exploring and reconnecting with yourself again. Even if that's just trying a new lipstick. And for the record, you are still beautiful. Good luck x

[@nataliefrances6319]

I Like Cheese listen here. You may think your flippant comment is funny but take a good hard look at yourself. What you have said is unkind, disrespectful and makes you both immature and ugly. You are on this page, watching a video to better yourself and yet you have replied to a comment beating someone else down. You will not remain young forever and you want to deal with the selfish heart that you carry. No man wants a woman who pretends to be nice to him and yet shits on others and unkind people do not hold friends. You should do well to remember that as a woman your job is to lift another woman, regardless of age, as a woman raised you. You clearly do not listen, as Monique spoke of being a giver. Take heed, search your heart and get some soul, as only an arrogant, conceited girl would be so cutting. You have much to learn.

[@solamentesmith552]

Natalie Frances that was awesome. sooooooooooo absolutely sick of the hate and disdain displayed online. these people's hearts and minds need help.

[@DJ-ts5uv]

Any man who is “about something” wants a woman who is just as dynamic as he is. Like attracts like, so if you’re boring, you attract boring; if you’re crazy....etc. This was very positive video. Thanks Monique!

[@garden_dork]

No accountability

[@tulifranz9336]

This is a video for women seeking approval from others, a recipe for disaster , I hope young women who come across this video will not be influenced.

[@Rahulsharma-rg8ce]

Say the same on videos about guys being boring.

[@rivkacoverdale9672]

Every woman is different. I can be boring with my boyfriend. I'm thankful for this. He and I are consistent. I like being open and vulnerable. That makes total sense.

[@mskeysnote14]

Why not just be yourself and let people who genuinely want to ride with u, ride with u regardless??

[@lillylu2065]

This woman is saving me right now!. You gonna save my life you lovely god sent woman. Thank God for you. And I thank you. Keep on giving. I'm most appreciative of your sharing here in this video.

[@gaming_with_rex4031]

Your videos always get me back on track. Much appreciated!

[@doucwhaic]

Boring or not. It's ok in either case.. We are what we were meant to be, not everyone was meant to have "purple hair". In either case don't worry just keep that crown sparkling.

[@abaresoul1487]

What if your natural personality is pretty boring tho. 🤦🏿‍♀️

[@candicebsiley5737]

A Bare Soul agree

[@thecramptons]

Nothing wrong with that. I don’t need All Of my friends to be TURNED UP...

[@Glo_up576]

I'm boring but I don't do these things... I like a humble simple life.

[@DH-zi5ob]

Ms. Head is so pretty her skin is glowing and looks flawless. Thanks for the message

[@samsungbackup3619]

you look amazing!

[@christinemarie6976]

I agree, she is very beautiful.

[@nikaboo74]

Intriguing title🙌🏾.....I was like hmmmm let me see if I'm boring!!! I'm not boring!!!😃Sis this was very good, that last one I've learning & loving more & more everyday!!!!

[@marshaembrown]

Monique....glad I caught your video! You look great by the way👌🏾! # 7 hit the nail on the head for me. I am going start working on intimacy. Thanks girl!❤️

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

Go Marshae! Great to hear from you. Kudos to you to for watching the whole way through. I see that as a commitment to your vision.

[@Icanhavethemall]

I am guilty of all of these things and I didnt even notice. I was wondering why I was feeling so empty & bored. you helped me to see what I am doing wrong so that I can bring the woman I actually am back again, thank you

[@gokaren420]

Well at this point in my life....boring is good!!

[@iamaksd]

WOW! Good vid! I haven't watched your vids in a long time. Just started watching a few of them today. Off topic, your makeup looks perfect! It's not overly done! You still looked the same just enhanced and looks natural.

[@nashornadouglas8787]

I'm so tired of the pressures placed on women to be this and that so that they can ultimately lock down a man. The same woman who is boring one day can also be interesting another day. How about a video on what men should do to not be boring.

[@Mf7d89]

Also are men putting in this much work for us?? So much pressure to have it all together

[@tiwanwilliams5342]

love your hair!❤ and makeup!

[@ga9100]

She's teaching and u go to hair make up is that a black woman thing that's all u guys think about clothes,make up, tv shows,food

[@akbar8477]

Hey, Monique, this was great and a twist on "what not to do" rather than "what to do" really got my attention. It takes a person like you who knows the Black woman as a very "churched" individual and speak her language without overdoing the morality aspects. I appreciate the reflection of some scripture without overemphasizing her moral responsibilities. The Christian religion, was not sown in love during Slavery, but in humiliation and fear passed down to all its progenitors. We still suffer today. This leads me to my thoughts about Black women using "church-talk to avoid intimacy or vulnerability. They seem more vulnerable to a spirit than a human being. My sister lost parts of her marriage because of this total commitment to the Lord not her husband. Other things began to crumble also, but I saw this firsthand at the age of 15. I then began to see it throughout my life, Black women talking so much about Jesus... and using quotes and scriptures to have a conversation at a restaurant like God would get her if she did not. (There is a Black male version of this insanity also, about me!) It's like they leave a "woman thou art loosed" convention and come to a date full of the spirit and no grounding to create a human connection. If he is put-off by it she thinks it was God telling her to "move on." Can you speak on this at all? Thank you. Your spiritual voice but not a moralizing one is refreshing! And you are simply beautiful too. "Being mindful" is good language and not scary for dinner conversation. Speaking in tongues at dinner is about God, not me! This actually happened! I also overheard a phone conversation on speaker phone (rude) of praying and speaking in tongues in a public place! They will testify about being stared at while praying in public, "cause we are not ashamed of the gospel!" and the church will applaud them for doing it. lol or cry....

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

Thank you for the acknowledgment. Your response has me stumped, in a good way, especially when I hear how women use "church-talk to avoid intimacy or vulnerability. They seem more vulnerable to a spirit than a human being." YES! You've given works to what I've thinking about for some time. It just breaks down to religion vs relationship.

[@divifemtv]

Lol "woman though art loosed convention", this got me...

[@latriciafountain6164]

I'm starting to subscribe to your channel.. FYI I think you're super gorgeous and I'm not a gay woman... You have a glow about you please keep inspiring us with your words!! 😊

[@erickaransom236]

Thank you for the insight. I am working on me. This was right on time! By the way, what makeup are you wearing. You look amazing!

[@FEMININEINFLUENCE]

Thank you. I'm wearing mostly MAC products... like Studio Fix.

[@marvelous2885]

Monique Head please give me the details on your hair it's so fabulous please tell me it's a wig and if so what's the name of it.

[@jamartalmadge7247]

I don't care what people say I like boring women I'll tell you why because I'd rather a boring woman than a woman who runs the streets, clubs be in drama all up in guys faces and all of that nature so boring women are great IDC who don't like what I said

[@AMATEURDECORATINGLIKEAPRO]

Love this! Cathryn

[@RoleModeling]

This is so interesting, I'm engaged in your monologue, Monique! You are a highly perceptive woman and this is definitely spiritually based! Thank you, and I look forward to your topics and content because I'm a Word Woman too! Just Subscribed!

[@loveforeignaccents]

Great words, lovely lady! Thanks for sharing :-)

[@elforddouglas6232]

Moniker I've listened to several of your talks but this one is outstanding.

[@josephine_marie]

Wow you are preaching to me. Thank you for the deep insightfulness

[@kaplisisdx8651]

I actually like " boring " women if they share hobbies with me and have a kind personality. It's a shame that almost everything peaceful and kins is considered boring nowadays. Modern culture is crazy

[@simonest.patrick525]

I got bored at about 0.57, so does that mean the presenter is boring?

[@marissamerlin3376]

...I think I found a new favorite channel! You have such a positive, glowing personality & so many great points. And it's not just the things you're saying but how you're saying them and presenting these ideas. Just amazing energy. Subscribed!! :)

[@hnbn2013]

No such thing as a boring woman, just a woman who hasn't found her tribe. What is boring to you might not be boring to someone else. What excites you might not excite other people. Also there are some really mysterious people out there that do not open up, talk about themselves, or have time for other people but they have men chasing them down.

[@jrcmes]

Omg definetely a new sub to the channel, you're soo beautiful! 👩 Everything about you: skin color, hair style, personality, and character!! 🌻💙🌇💙 Keep up the amazing work, from what I saw... you're an inspiration to woman.

[@calisiakelley4993]

I just left Facebook alone too like two days ago. What a relief

[@mickey8951]

Calisia Kelley yes me too!

[@iamaksd]

I'm not the only one who felt the same. Alot of people are leaving. I don't miss it much and don't plan to get back on no time soon!

[@divinenubia74]

I am thankful that I am not a boring woman but I am always wanting to learn. Especially from a woman of faith. New sub

[@Dilenga23]

“Share your money your time your resources” lol that’s pick me behaviour. No thank you.

[@Love-dd5cp]

You value your fears more then you value your future.wow that's powerful !