7 HARSH Truths About Women That Men LEARN Too Late!

[@WrldExplorer]

My girl always ask me, “Am I to clingy?” I always tell her no, because I rather have her be this way than loose that. We both are affectionate people, so I don’t even look at it as clingy. I told myself the things I wanted in my next relationship, so my goal is to keep those things that I want going. Whether it’s holding hands the moment we get out the car, cuddle together while watching TV, whether she’s working from home, or cooking(before she tells me the kitchen is off limits now) I just always tease her. When we go to bed, we talk about stuff before we go to sleep. There’s no going to bed, and immediately rolling over saying good night. I’m basically creating a new normal for this relationship compared to my last. Thanks to watching this channel, and applying all the information, and advice, it has helped 100% so far. This channel has taught me to do everything with intention, and purpose.

[@SJ-ru4ej]

Clingy generally refers to a person who can't leave you alone/be alone/for instance. I think affection keeps a relationship strong.

[@unpredictable244]

I love this. Blessings to you and her ❤

[@bexsy4367]

❤

[@michelefarnese1274]

That's awesome! 🎉

[@Ms.Cris421]

❤️ love your response!

[@musicalnomad8]

As a women I can say that the need for attention is the need to be pursued. I can’t say why it is exactly but there is always this question that burns deep down inside of the heart of a women “Does he still really love me?” It’s a constant drive for an emotional connection. A women needs to know and feel that she is loved the way a man needs to feel respected. Acts of love on a consistent basis will capture her heart. Even more, if she is healthy, she will respect you for it.

[@deborahlewis930]

❤

[@riifou1868]

She took me for granted for those act of love LOL I do not understand anymore

[@shayflowers8471]

​@@riifou1868then maybe you were with the wrong woman. Simple

[@shayflowers8471]

💯 Agree sis

[@viewerwatching5712]

That's BS, my ex-wife consistently stated that she never had a man love her the way I did. Yet she dressed like a slut and cheated all the time!

[@vickiebush597]

As an older successful woman, being in a career of psychotherapy for a few decades, I very much resonate with your insight both professionally and as a woman. I am. I am very cognizant of how my needs have changed over time, and open communication is paramount in building and maintaining a healthy relationship. Even the toughest of women who have built walls around them deeply desire to know they are needed and cared for. Thank you for your insight, Stephen 🙏

[@heathergrahame9647]

I don't want to be harsh, but I feel I need to point out that his name is Stephan, not Stephen.

[@deez2343]

@@heathergrahame9647wow

[@benitshi]

The reason behind #3 is 100% true. It’s the fear of abuse and disrespect. Some of us would like to work a little on something we’re passionate about for personal gratification but not to provide

[@RD-zj6vc]

I'm 44 years old and I only just learned in the last year and a half how important attention is to women. They consume it like food and they "starve" if they don't get enough of it.

[@teresacroft7409]

Yes we want that just like you guys want sex. We get tired of ,"putting out" and not getting attention in return. We get tired of it always being about pleasing you and your fantasies.

[@JenniferOakes]

Yes, I've been married nearly 19 years and I'm gonna show my husband this video. He's complaining lately how he cannot keep up with my appetite for attention but yes. Lol Stephan is on point!

[@Ms.Cris421]

🤣😂 I am a "quality time" person but not necessarily "quantity" and there's a difference. As Stephan mentioned filling her cup up, when it's full, I didn't need it!! 😂🤣 I can go a while before needing "quality time" again.

[@KoenigElessar]

​@@Ms.Cris421 exactly. For it to remain special, you must portionize it. If i ate Nutella every day it would become boring and i wouldn't appreciate its taste anymore. 😅

[@Ms.Cris421]

@@KoenigElessar Absolutely!! LOL 😂

[@gabrielguyenot3960]

The first one is something I needed to hear months ago. Could have saved my relationship. 100% giving your girl attention is important. It's such a small and simple thing to do too. But I was putting my grind over her desire for my attention. The moral of the story is to not take that kind of thing for granted. There is always a way to work that intimacy in to keep the relationship alive, and the girl feeling connected to you.

[@HannahFaith69]

Wow, Stephan. You really do understand women. 😊 The part about needing attention constantly and most women only wanting to work out of fear of being abandoned and being left penniless. Everything you said I agree with and 100% relate to as a woman.

[@JenniferOakes]

Right?? I'm like, God has blessed this man with wisdom

[@shayflowers8471]

Agree!

[@barefootedbougie]

You are so right about point 2. It's not about reading minds, it's about being in tune. Women pay attention to their partners and learn their ways so they don't have to spell everything out and we can anticipate their needs. But they often want women to spell everything out qnd they don't have to apply themselves.

[@julistar90]

Something I learned from watching all these online dating contents for a year is get to know your partner. Don’t think you know someone just watching content or someone in general. Everybody is different.

[@thehoxtontrend]

I totally agree you follow these rules with some women and your just gonna be taken advantage, this video almost makes it seems like all women are angels and by following these rules you’ll be in a good place truth is people are people, some bad some good, men and women alike, some women will totally abuse these acts of understanding and the guy can be left wondering what went wrong, as it would if the genders were reversed a ,an can also take advantage of a good women even if she did everything right, it’s great to see rules for men understanding women but what about rules for women understanding men? Or it is just a one sided street, as much as I like this brothers content, it can feel very one sided most of the time and very off putting. Mind reading, body language, working so your women doesn’t have to 😂😂 are these rules even for an adult women even? or a teenager

[@goesrawr]

@@thehoxtontrendheres a solution! Go make your own video.

[@megallgurl]

​@@thehoxtontrendhe also has a channel for women. I watch it religiously and I ventured over here to see what the men were up to. And looky here, someone being subversive. Sigh

[@ebenezerquartey188]

​@@megallgurl its called having an opinion. Sigh.

[@starzintheskyz4477]

Where's all the men commenting on this video??? First off...no one wants to work forever. Everyone eventually would like to not have to work. I'm a woman. And if a woman thinks a man needs to take care of her financially in any way, then she's just a lazy gold digger. A man shouldn't have to worry about if a woman doesn't wanna work. A woman should want to work to be able to support her man in ways she'd like to too. No GOOD woman would want her man to be the only one making money. Second...Stephan is on point with #4. IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT SEX GUYS!! We need emotional security OUTSIDE the bedroom just as much. DON'T JUST DISMISS A WOMANS FEELINGS!!! If you do, then let her go. You don't truely care about her if you dont care about how she feels. You men need to get more in touch with your intuitive side to be able to get how women work mentally and emotionally. Get in touch with your emotions. Then you'll get any woman you want.

[@shayflowers8471]

I would like to add something on #3. It's not about most women don't really want to work just because of laziness or taking advantage. There's a lot of women who do want to work but the ones who get married later on have kids. And it's difficult to juggle kids and job together. So in order to focus on childcare, they have to sacrifice themselves on their jobs. Most women know about this fact, so in order to maintain the financial stability incase she have to step down for any reason, she prefers a man who can provide more salary compared to her.

[@CasperRc81]

It’s not here sacrificing it’s the design of the nuclear family and how to prosper the fullest by its design. Which begs for thanks and acknowledgment of a God/Jesus creator

[@christinew5473]

⁠@@CasperRc81no it is a sacrifice. She loses herself to care for the children if she’s always working for the family unit and the man isn’t the provider. You missed the point.

[@mrswagg22music]

Difficult? Many generations have done it since beginning of time lazy excuse my mom held two jobs two kids and did it well.. this generation is lazy

[@mesheepooh2278]

He said all of that. How could you have missed it?

[@rubyred3860]

Amen ❤ I had to give up everything in order to raise my children to the very best of my ability and I have one minor left now out of the six and 4 of them had disabilities. My children will not ever know what it means to have a village or a support team because I’m all they have even though I’ve been married before. 😫😩

[@neptunelove4872]

That part about wanting to be in his presence is on point! Definitely something I used to be embarrassed about until I realized that it’s a normal craving.

[@marilynwarbis7224]

Regarding our need for attention, my experience is that once a man secures a woman in his life, his attention reverts to what interested him prior to the relationship. It might be watching other men on the TV, it might be focus on his work, it might be his blokey friends in the pub, or a particular hobby he loves. But he reverts to his bachelor needs so that there is really no mutual relationship: what occurs instead of a relationship is the woman becomes his 'mother' in the background of his life, existing just to serve his single lifestyle. She doesn't merely want the man's attention, she gives him her attention, and when attention is mutual, there is a relationship. Otherwise, there is no genuine relationship.

[@RD-zj6vc]

Sounds like the solution is that women should get with guys who don't have hobbies and don't do much outside of however they make a living.

[@smileyglitter852]

​​@@RD-zj6vc, like everything in life there has to be balance. Men get comfortable and take women for granted. You can have hobbies and friends, as long as you don't neglect your partner.

[@mesheepooh2278]

This is false. Men, just like us, have other things that were going on in their lives before they meet their partner, so it's natural for them to give attention to those things in life. It sounds more like you want all attention on you, which is not healthy for him or you. He should be able to and be afforded the time to give attention to other things than just you to keep his own sanity and maintain a healthy balanced life with you in it. It should only become a problem if he completely removes you from that process/ neglecting you.

[@mgee303]

This is spot on. I meet so many men who don’t know how to connect with women, they focus too much on themselves. Men who can learn to be be present and in tune with women will have no problems finding someone.

[@EE-kt8sh]

Yeah I'm sure you'd prefer all their focus on you...while you focus on you. Men should focus on themselves

[@mgee303]

@@EE-kt8sh I am fully willing to give a man my full attention if he is capable of taking an interest in me on a deeper level. But this isn’t about me, Im just suggesting to you men.. learn to give women real genuine attention and interest and you might actually find a woman who wants to stick around.

[@EE-kt8sh]

@@mgee303 Consider self reflecting. If all them men you're talking about were doing the same thing, maybe the problem was you? Women never take any accountability.....some advice for you.

[@mgee303]

@@EE-kt8sh omg never mind

[@alaalfa8839]

Sam Vaknin says narcissists don't care about people... they care only about them as service providers.

[@cynthiagomes2979]

It's not reading my mind. Pay attention to me. Get to know me. I will tell you if I'm not getting what I need, but I'm not going to keep repeating myself. Live within your means to be able to provide if your woman doesn't work. What happens outside the bedroom is very important to what happens inside the bedroom and any other room we get busy in!! You are so right when it comes to me. You are so so on point in this video!!! I'm a romantic. I'm not into two dogs in heat!!! At my TENDER age, I'm pass some of the things you address, like working. You want to be listened to, you will listen to me. Recipution is very important for a relationship to succeed and be strong to me. We give each other what we need and want without crossing boundaries. Respect each other and compromise for each other. Commit whole heartly to the relationship and truly love, it's forever. I've learned, you have to want it to work and do what it takes to make it work. One-sided isn't going to get it. It takes two. If both isn't fully committed, truly in love, don't waste time and move forward. Be honest with yourself and the other person. I will not have any problems in communicating with love what I need. I'm over all the rest. You are just showing out on these videos lately!! Once again feeling like it was made just for me!! God is intentional!!❤

[@anatfn10]

Great video! I never thought I would want to not work but I will say that when I don’t need to work I am stress free and I can show up soooo much better for my partner.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Thank you for sharing I appreciate that 🙏

[@joyricherson4570]

I have worked in 14 years AND OTHERS ARE MAD.. RIDICULOUS!

[@JessOhio2013]

My girlfriends and I were just talking about last night that we would love to be married and stop working. We all agreed that we only work and strive to make more money because we want nice things, want to go on trips, want to still get our hair/nails but we don’t have a husband/head of house to take care of financial things. We all agreed we wouldn’t mind pouring into children, making sure the house is nice and neat and I’d rather sit on foundations and do more philanthropy and pouring into my kids than working

[@JessOhio2013]

And for more context, me and my girlfriends I was having this conversation with are moderately successful in our careers and I bet “on paper” we might look like we are the “independent woman/can do it all myself” but that’s on paper only. Trust and believe we don’t want to be working as hard as we are 😂

[@Strongpoeticmind]

The first mistake you made was talking with your girlfriends instead of taking some action to live up to your purpose. Suppose you want to be married. It would be best if you worked on finding a husband now, less talking to your girlfriends. Your window to have healthy children is between 21 to 30 years of age. I've been married for 27 years with three children and a wonderful husband and provider. I'm very blessed. Being a Mother is the only work I rather be a part of that is meaningful and the only reason God made me a woman. I found my husband in college, married by 23 years of age. Don't wait too long; always work to buy nice things and hang out with friends. Before you know it, time will up, you will be 40 and end up all alone. Your girlfriends are your competition.

[@SJ-ru4ej]

​@@Strongpoeticmind That isn't necessarily the window for healthy children, lol. Women have healthy children over 30, too, and there are kids born with issues to women in the age range you mentioned, as well. It generally depends on the mother's overall health. Obviously, risks go up slowly as we age, but there's no absolutes for any age range. I worked with a woman years ago who had a child at 26 yet she was overweight and diabetic, and she had complications. My first was born when I was 33 and I had zero concerns. More women are having kids in their 30s now than ever before. That's a very old school mindset, respectfully. I also don't think it's necessarily productive to look at friends as "competition." What's appealing to one woman, may not be to another. Just put yourself out there, work on yourself, and work to find someone to commit to/eventually marry.

[@JessOhio2013]

@@Strongpoeticmindgood sis, as someone in the medical field, there is no definitive age range on when a woman can have healthy babies. Your risk increases for high risk complications but even with that increase the risks are still under 20%. Additionally, a lot of the R&D that contributed to “advanced maternal age” is currently being reevaluated as women are living longer and having healthy babies at older ages. Fertility is dependent upon one’s own genetics, environmental factors, and lifestyle health. For example, a 40 year old woman who eats well, exercises and takes care of herself will have an easier time conceiving and carrying full term than a 20 year old woman who eats a bunch of processed food, doesn’t take care of her body and is stressed. Please stop spreading inaccurate information

[@Strongpoeticmind]

@@JessOhio2013 Nobody cares about your medical expertise but you. It would be best if you were focusing on being a mother. What you assume is inaccurate information is based on my life experience as a wife and mother. You go ahead with your seven degrees telling women 35 plus to have children, and they end up having problems finding a high-valued man or freezing their ages because they are focused on a career only to miss out on beautiful experience. Please Stop giving younger women false hope with your information. They should be married and have children while still young, in their 20s.

[@tsf7211]

Binging your videos, you’re helping me become a better man who understands women better. Thank you so much

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@fantaztikbeatz]

My guy thank you!! I wish I would have found this channel years ago!

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

🙏

[@03yingying]

Yes please acknowledge us and our feelings and stop trying to victimize yourself when we bring up an issue. We’re feeling unsafe and that is what brings out insecurities but if you just listen to us as much as understand what you could do to make us feel better or more safe, that would be a relationship saver.

[@AnalyticalLens]

Sounds like a female borderline because that’s exactly what they do.

[@East.143]

Wow!!!!! I'm a woman & i approve this message! These are such great & accurate tips. You're amazingly anointed at your craft. Keep it up 🎉❤!

[@heathergrahame9647]

Wow! Thank you, Stephan. These insights are so valuable and helpful. Your discussion about how women want an experience more than content actually showed me how I determine who the right guy is for me. He is the one who, when he's just being who he is, gives me a great experience. I think women get all mixed up because they listen too much to what society says is a good man or what their family or friends say is a good man. If she loves the "experience" when she's in the presence of a particular man, then he's the one for her!

[@manicxs]

This is best advice yt that i know. Almost everything you talking about is similar to my experiences and ideas that i learned in relationships. Thanks.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@monastephens6234]

Fellas! Please listen! This MOG have shared Words of wisdom! Powerful keys to keeping a happy life/wife. Blessings Stephan!

[@geebee4166]

Happy life hinges upon a lot more than these things! Keeping your wife happen is important though

[@AnalyticalLens]

Good advice. Unfortunately, many of these truths can be used against you as a man if you are dealing with a female narcissist, borderline, histrionics, or an emotionally immature individual with a childlike mindset on relationships. Men have their work cut out for them in learning how to avoid the cluster B women from the normal, sane, stable, non-dysfunctional women.

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Facts!!

[@goesrawr]

Choose better

[@micahwallace2915]

Exactly

[@suzeller]

The same goes for women. I have had all of these needs turned against me in the past. It’s videos like these that help us all decipher what is healthy for us, and give us a barometer for what is healthy in general. Because if/ when you’re *in* toxicity, that barometer gets so very skewed and distorted. All the best to you, and other men who distrust or hate women (or themselves) because of some bad experiences, and vice versa.

[@my_opinion_only]

That's sports analogy for #2 was golden. I love the content.

[@rachelwilson1936]

This is an amazing video, and you told it like it is!!! Very helpful video ❤ thank you for making the message plan to follow.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!

[@AndiAlexander1]

All of this applies to all genders, all humans as much as it applies at all.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Most definitely!

[@RD-zj6vc]

No it doesn't. Men don't crave attention in the same way women do.

[@AndiAlexander1]

@@RD-zj6vc hahahahahahahahahahahaha

[@scottlittle296]

Dated a girl for 3 years. Only thing with this video i don't agree with is how her career was important to her. It provided structure and social interaction for her. Anyhow, when i met her, she put in so much effort towards every aspect of the relationship. I asked why it all changed she told me it was because she felt less of a need to try as hard in the relationship. I think complacency is a huge issue in some relationships. Or, maybe it is a lack of respect or another topic from Stephan's talks. Being a psychology student, i think it is important to focus on the fact that there are so many men and women that have unresolved healing. My ex struggled with bpd and anxiety etc. My point is, there are some that cannot heal, or refuse to embrace healing. I could go on forever. I have a hard time remembering what is my doing and my flaws vs those of my partners.

[@stylin525]

This man speaks Facts. Most men need this knowledge. We appreciate you.

[@mesheepooh2278]

Everything you've said here was spot on, Stephan. 🙏🏾❤ Thank you for giving men a look into our minds and hearts.

[@audreybuchman1972]

U are 💯 % CORRECT regarding THE ASPECTS YOU DISCUSSED 🎉🎉🎉

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@olgajanzen9153]

It's really funny the way you are laughing at your own words, love it...😅 This gives to this important topics even more a humorous taste. Good work! Thanks for your wisdom. God bless you.🙏

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

My pleasure ❤️

[@NewNew44519]

Finally this is being said. Especially the paying attention part. If that was successfully done a lot of issues would be eliminated.

[@mpsangha]

The points you made in this video are accurate... But for the men who have been with narcissistic women or women with BPD, turn these traits up to a 11 and it becomes very toxic behavior which is debilitating and soul sucking for the man... There should be an understanding of how women are, but not an acceptability if they're constantly toxic because of the traits.

[@AnalyticalLens]

This is almost never talked about. You are 100% correct.

[@steph6109]

He said repeatedly " for the right woman"

[@avalencia67]

Going through a tough time right now with the girl I thought was it. We’ve been together for over a year but currently in a week break because of how tired I am of her, she has narcissistic traits (selfish, entitled, vain, unaffectionate, gets comfortable & only tries when she feels me pulling away). I know she loves me but the way she is I feel that I’m losing love for her

[@beard_belichick4216]

I went through that and kept letting her come back, women just want attention, they know a good guy, they like kids at times they just see what they can get away with; eventually you'll get to the point where you feel like she's wasting your time or disrespecting you. Just cut her loose, know what you want and go get that. I think we waste time because of familiarity and comfort, the woman we know is safer than the unknown, bro go out into the unknown and enjoy your life and if she the one she will work to get back with you..... she'd make you work right?

[@thehitmaster102]

I will pray for you ❤

[@blacksea1726]

What do you mean by: “she gets comfortable”? Isn’t the whole point of a relationship? Trusting and open enough to feel comfortable? Do you want her always on high alert? Or walking on egg shells to prove her love? Or what exactly do you mean?

[@prim2152]

Bruh relatable af 💯

[@prim2152]

@@blacksea1726it means she stops trying or putting in effort to maintain the spark and chemistry of a relationship because she felt like no matter what he was gonna deal with it.

[@ariebuckhalter783]

Thank you my brother , your wisdom has helped me understand and not get too comfortable and work on myself!💯🙏

[@mareo187]

Dealing with a female narcissist who use her own people to mock you online in front thousands, I can't do that. It's getting hard for us men to stay around knowing we men have important things to and we also require rest.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

I'm sorry to hear about that. I pray that you heal from all that you have been through and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏🏼

[@mareo187]

@@StephanSpeaksforMen thanks Stephan

[@JenniferOakes]

​@@mareo187wow, I'm so sorry man, God bless you and help you. Please know not all women are like that.

[@mareo187]

@JenniferOakes oh I know and there are alot of sane ones out there here on the world, you just gotta find them. The main ones I like are logical, creative, and possess the same go getta mindset like I do.

[@JenniferOakes]

@@mareo187 🙏

[@w3n33dam1racl3]

🎯 Right on point with alll of these. The desire to work is so she dont have to depend on anyone or be at the mercy of others. The one who controls the resources controls others.

[@ST-rj8iu]

I completely disagree with women not wanting to work. Raising children is a full time job. Requesting a woman to raise three kids and pay 50% of the bills is ridiculous. Women bare the burden of house work. Women stop working if they have kids at home. Yes women add the salary plus the addition to pay for kids to not reduce standard of living. Saying a SAHM is not a job, is a joke. This is why many women file for divorce.

[@panos7256]

You are brain washed. You need to read the book the manipulated man asap.

[@jstellato921able]

This video was so accurate! As a man, you really understand the woman’s mindset. Thank you for making this video Stephan.

[@lukas4016]

Ok but why so many women don't understand men?

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

My pleasure ❤️

[@medusagorgon9]

Time spent together for me outweighs everything else. We don't need to be on a date, or going out somewhere. I'm more seeking a mental energy exchange. You don't need to read my mind, because I'm okay with being clear in my communication, but you are spot on for #4. What happens outside the bedroom definitely affects what happens within the bedroom. Not so much for #5 and #6. I do not require an over the top experience. I actually would prefer that it was not blown out of proportion, whatever it is. As an introvert low key is definitely the way to go, and as a logical thinker I do try to analyze my feelings about things, but it definitely takes a backseat in most cases. My thoughts are what a man would need to take into account. Though I am an enneagram 5, I do try to remember to take the thoughts and feelings of others into account.

[@Shlayskates]

I'm a woman and watching this. Thank you for sharing this. I needed to hear these issues that I have and want to change. . The men seems to know how a woman should conduct herself. So I will always listen to a man . So thank you🙂‍↕️.

[@tomdebevoise]

I am late to the comments however it is obvious you are a person who is heart centered and i agree with the idea that it is the overall experience of the relationship that is most important.

[@sarahshaw1990]

I don't REALLY WANT to work, and most of it IS fear based, BUT i DO have the ambition to be useful for God and offer my service to influence lives for the better using my experiences, insights, strengths, gifts, etc., and I want to enjoy what I'm doing and I want it to be fulfilling and purpose driven. I want to make the greatest impact in lives as a servant for God with what I've experienced in life and what I have to offer. I want to make a difference as a woman of God, I don't want to waste my life, I want to please God and I don't want to go home to heaven and look back and not be satisfied with what I did with my life. I want and I want God to be satisfied with what I did with my life. I want to fulfill my mission, my purpose.

[@kaseehaskins8865]

Hey Stephan, do you have any videos for the ladies about men? I think the content you have is amazing, teaching men that it's a good thing to want to make the woman in their life happy and build a true partnership. I'd love to reciprocate efforts to men in my personal life and I think you'd have some great ideas.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Please visit my channel Stephan Speaks for ladies content 👉 www.youtube.com/@MeetStephanSpeaks

[@kaseehaskins8865]

Thank you!!!@@StephanSpeaksforMen

[@simplysatisfied2139]

Stephen, God Almighty has definitely given you a heightened insight about us women. Thank you for sharing with the fellas. Watching to send to my brothers. You’re masculine, acknowledge God and hold your audience accountable. Bravo. Keep it up!

[@celestinebennett212]

Stephan, why are you teaching these men the true nature of every woman..you just hacked into defining the true nature of a woman and what she needs 😂😂😂...You just taught them the whole truth and nothing but the truth 100% 😂😂

[@zeal4god402]

😂

[@celestinebennett212]

@@zeal4god402 Stephan has actually weaponized the (Tyrones, Players, situationship, we are going no were, Types of men, and the Good men as well ...I think I will go back inside the closet ha ha ha haaa😂😂😂

[@amandaa2119]

Thank you Stephan. You hit the nail on the head. 100%

[@slemusrocks]

This video is SPOT ON! Honestly, it confirms why I decided to break up with my ex. Take notes gentlemen! Stephen knows exactly what he’s talking about

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@brokwillie9059]

IQ & EQ, OK 🙌🏻! Thank you for the words of reason and valuable insight! BTW, I love that I can allow my wife to take care of our kid, house, herself etc, and not submit to all that corporate BS. Guys where there’s a will there’s a way, and I use to think that BS!She now helps me with contracts, invoicing, amongst a few other things, yet takes very little of her time, and executed at her convenience and we’re doing great in most regards, but we have things we’re working through, hinche my presence here. Thanks for having me!

[@EmmaLouisePole]

As a woman I really resonate with everything you say and I appreciate you trying to teach other men these points.

[@bluharris9645]

Hey this video was helpful it was this girl that told me that we both should work to help each other.

[@peteromeizaadabara9727]

Thank you Steph, your message is incredible! Your wealth of knowledge & understanding is divine

[@appsstoremobile]

Talking about expectations and hearing what she really wants.

[@ukponoudoh8089]

This is so true😮. Keep up the good work Stephan😊

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@sacampbr1]

Interesting theories, that makes a lot of sense. You’re truly a wise man!🙏🏾

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@pspr1149]

This is really great advice Stephan, and very informative.

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Great video, Stephen!!

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@soulpathwellness9698]

Stephan, I want to create an environment in my relationship that includes being comfortable to be real and constructively criticize each other, real intimacy, as you mention here in this video. The man I was seeing said that he did not want to exchange constructive criticism more than once every 7 months because it disrupts his peace. I was more comfortable with as needed to stay close and understand each other. To me, once every few weeks generally felt reasonable and natural. Let’s say we would have 21 exchanges in that time, (talk or text or spend time together 3 times a day) and if one of those was constructive feedback to stay close, that felt reasonable to me. It felt to me like mostly harmony with very occasional constructive feedback. It felt to him like constant constructive feedback, he said. You also talk in another video about peace and not dating a woman who disrupts your peace. I’m truly confused here. To me, him saying that me respectfully giving him constructive criticism (with the true intention of building intimacy, understanding, and helping us love one another better) disrupts his peace and he is not open to it - feels to me like he is avoiding intimacy and understanding, and avoiding growing or improving. To me, this feels like an insecure man who is not willing to self-reflect or ever need improvement. Do you include this in “disruption of peace?” Am I wrong here? Will you please talk about this? Thank you!

[@monicawest4000]

Our need for attention from our man is much stronger than a man's need for sex! If I had his attention he would find that he could have all the sex he wanted!!

[@Lic.en.derecho]

I just discovered this channel and yes, you know women very well...I am even defining some points about myself ❤

[@KarmaGirlDreams]

I would like to add to Number 3. I think women generally are not as ambitious career-wise as men. I’d argue its not that they don’t want to work, it’s that women think smaller when it comes to work and money and have less priorities on status and power. Yes there are women who love staying at home and having a man provide full time, but times have changed and women have also experienced the joys of work and the gratification that comes from a good career. I’m a woman and I derive a lot of satisfaction from my work. It’s not fear-based (at least for me). I also think this has a lot to do with who your circle of friends are. There is nothing wrong being traditional and letting a man solely provide but I struggle to believe that most women could be alright not working. Depending on what you do of course, but the right work can be meaningful and a hella adventure. I believe women who find their calling would find it hard to give it up.

[@nm-tg1bn]

Stephan, I love this clip, and agree with all the points apart from women not wanting to work. I'm a woman and I love working because it gives me a sense of purpose more than being a stay at home wife or mum. Especially mum it's soo frustrating.

[@zeal4god402]

In many scenarios, excessive energy and time goes into working these jobs, and less energy and time is being poured into the quality of the marriage

[@Florida_gyrl]

I agree with most things you mentioned Stephan! I definitely agree when you mentioned that men will usually not think about the details and just the content. I have had men buy me gifts and not even think about what they are buying; they just buy a gift. It doesn’t even match me or who I am the gift they buy. They just do it because they know they are supposed to buy a gift. It doesn’t have the same experience as if they bought me something I liked or if they presented the gift in a different way than those men did.

[@lukas4016]

Did you say what kind of gift would you appreciate? BTW: what kind of gift you were giving them? Is it EXACTLY what they expected?

[@Florida_gyrl]

@@lukas4016 Ummm no. I honestly feel that if someone is in a relationship with you they should not have to ask you what gift you like. You should have gotten to know someone during the talking phase or the relationship enough to know their likes, dislikes, interests, etc. Then getting them a gift won’t be so difficult especially one they like. I find most guys just do something to do it. It just goes back to what Stephan said in his video. The experience of the whole process is more meaningful to a woman than just the process. I don’t know how else to explain to you. And most of these guys were not really that invested in a relationship anyways so buying a “gift” was meaningless to them. They cared more about something else than getting me a gift you could tell was from the heart. And a guy told me that his family had to tell him to buy me something so that obviously isn’t very romantic or like he really cared. He only did it because someone else told him to.

[@Florida_gyrl]

@@lukas4016 And to answer the last question yes! I actually got a gift that was meaningful. The guy actually told me he was surprised and he blushed.

[@saras.2173]

As a woman I hope every man listens to this many times. He is spot on. One more thing-if you pull away in dating without communicating first that you need to take some space to think for a few days, you will DESTROY that woman’s faith in you and in the relationship. She will ALWAYS have it in her heart that you could do that again any time without notice. And she will resent you and it will come out later in little ways that don’t make sense to you. You have basically taken what you have with her, crumpled it up and thrown it in the trash can.

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

[@TheEveExperience-Unveiled]

The 1st one and last two for me are missing in my relationship and it’s for the reason you said. He’s not right within 😢

[@LorainneWeiland]

Stephan truly knows his stuff!

[@bigtreecombatacademy2927]

Any man encountering their first BPD or NPD woman is in for a wild wild ride Strap in fellas there are more and more of them !

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback ❤️ 🙏

[@kerripendragon4888]

Solution. Avoid them..simple. Do not date these bipolar psychos! Run! Avoid these npd. Run.... being alone is peace and wealth building. Cohabitation is hell for most men..women like to manipulate situations, lie at times and shitt test

[@cocomaire]

I know women who thought they would be ok with working after babies, but when that first baby comes, and they have to leave the baby to go to work, motherhood instincts kick in hard.

[@kaseehaskins8865]

My summary of point #3, is you should at LEAST have the AMBITION to strive toward a lifestyle where you're taking care of your woman financially. Any effort she sees in making her life easier financially should be, if you're with a good woman, rewarded in so many other aspects. She'll be happier which will make her more willing to do things outside of finances like taking care of you, the home, children etc, and have more you know what. Women put SO MUCH stress on themselves to take care of everything around them (it's the natural caretaker in them), having to work a full time job and paying multiple bills on top of everything else she's stressing about that you probably don't even consider 99% of the time can be so overwhelming. Knowing that you got the basics and she'll always have someone else to fall back on for the necessities is going to make her feel like she doesn't have to be super woman all the time, and she can just relax and ENJOY taking care of the things and people around her. It's a huge weight off her shoulders and any good woman is going to be 100% appreciative of that.

[@AFFTFOMSICHTS]

Yes providing for a good woman comes back tenfold

[@lukas4016]

Why do women put so much stress on themselves (for stupid reasons like a "perfect" house or a "perfect" look)?

[@kaseehaskins8865]

I can't speak for every woman but in my personal opinion, I'll put it like this; a man needs to have a purpose in his life outside of a woman/family and all that. For a woman, 9 times out of 10, her family is her purpose so if her family's image (which includes her, her man, her home, etc) isn't put together right, she's going to feel like she's failing to keep up. A man finds most pride in his work and what it brings to the world; a woman finds most pride in her home/image and what it brings to her family. Steve Harvey got it right when he said women have a biological clock and men have a financial clock.@@lukas4016

[@sarahshaw1990]

Yes, security security security in every way is extremely important.

[@christirose6813]

You are right about a woman wanting to have the whole experience of dancing, dinner, etc. along with sex. The problem I often hear from men is that even when the man or husband does all those nice things. Still, when they get home to do the sex part, she (wife, or girlfriend) doesn't fallow through often and this leaves the man feeling frustrated and left out.

[@williamwoody7511]

I agree they need all kinds of attention…good,bad,intimate,social….and you can give all you’ve got and it still not be enough..

[@aeiou0123]

Lololololol😂😂

[@kjames7798]

Bro, you're 100% on point. Super knowledgeable.

[@MannyLoxx2010]

Point #5: Women live "The Fantasy" in their minds and overlook what is really necessary: The content and the quality of sex!! Luckily for me 8/10 cared about the content and didn't live the little fantasy and experience in their mind about sex! It's really corny for women to want to play out the fantasy of the experience that may lead to sex vs having really good sex! You are right, Stephan!! I qualify women to find out which type of sex she wants based on what you say for many years, now! Not all women want to be romanced, live the fantasy-talk in their mind about the experience vs the content and other requirements in reference to good sex!

[@teresacroft7409]

True. We don't all want the wine and dine experience beforehand. But we do want our sexual fantasies fulfilled too. Women get tired of it being just about what the man wants in bed

[@steph6109]

The experience is another word for romance. Most women will take romance over sex. So I assume the women you were talking about just saw you as a walking dildo and wanted a quick fix.

[@leasah1197]

Exactly! I care nothing about the fantasy.

[@karenflynn6589]

I don't mind working, and I make more than enough to live comfortably, but I would rather be at home cooking, cleaning, gardening, volunteering, pretty much being a traditional wife.

[@zhaw4821]

There is a saying in my language " men give women attention for sex.... And women give sex to get attention"

[@Danny328DT]

That's one of the few mistakes women make is interpreting sex as a way to get a man interested in her. If a man is just trying to scratch an itch, then I doubt he'll get attached for long.

[@paal1576]

thank you…brilliant observations and advice

[@StephanSpeaksforMen]

My pleasure ❤️

[@milaniaa.932]

100% true! Every single word!

[@dinadenisyuk4590]

I agree 100% .

[@MrHandoverfist]

I don’t need my husband to read my mind. I need him to do what I say the way I tell him to do it in the framework of time I ask him to do it in and that’s usually a wide berth of time.

[@user-pv2dp4dq8b]

The more time I spend single the more I ask myself "what's the point of having a partner?" At first you have to deal with boredom, loneliness, lack of social interaction, lack of meaning. But you learn to satisfy those things. You learn to get all those things from your network and from yourself. Loneliness, for example, is probably the most stressful one but it also is the one best solved by yourself. If I'm going to have a woman in my life, why am I compromising? What is she bringing to the table that I can't get single? Loyalty is an illusion. Intimacy is far from guaranteed and fleeting at best. Why am I going to compromise my life to give someone all my attention, protect and provide for? Seems like women are getting the better end of the deal. This is why relationships seem like traps. People believe that they will always feel lonely unless they "have someone". That's a lie. You can feel lonely with someone. You can be your own good company. People think that happiness is somehow tied to having a family. You need a wife and kids. It's the same. These things don't necessarily bring happiness. All of these things are just added responsibilities. Not trying to shit on women or be a downer but.... what's the point?

[@marshawatson2634]

No. 4 is very true.

[@daves4687]

Very good video and I agree that every point is valid in my experience. However, it does re-enforce to me how difficult relationships are for men : ) It seems to me the things that attract women to you in the first place, I.e independence, prioritising work, having a social network, working out and staying healthy s very difficult to maintain in a world with limited hours and days. Unfortunately we are all to often left with a choice do we fulfil these other interests/pleasures or make the woman our main priority/focus. Leaving us unfulfilled in these other areas. My own thoughts are they are likely to lose respect for you eventually when you do this and maybe more importantly you lose respect for yourself………I realise this is a very negative post : ) but am inclined more at the moment to only entertain women that can get with my other interests/prioritises but at same time take ownership that my communication and understanding of her and the quality of time we do spend together is on point. We cannot sell ourselves out for love when the reality is everything you do and invest in a partner may prove to never be enough

[@kerripendragon4888]

Yes, women want the man she loves to be around, but men need to work or run businesses. Women need to understand that!! Mem need to be absent at least 7 hrs a day for work purposes.

[@AnalyticalLens]

Exactly. And this is something a new generation of emotionally immature females don’t understand.

[@trucuriousity]

Listen. There are women who want to use their unique and valuable talents and skills to make their own way in this world. Who have ambition. But there are so many men threatened by that kind of woman. He knows if she won't rely on him financially he will have to behave and actually work at the relationship to keep her around. And many, many just say nah to that. Because they want the control and dominance.

[@andersnielsen6044]

Spot-on. Only extremely low-value women would not want to work with all its benefits it brings.

[@lynluong5291]

You are correct 👍

[@IanaCaldas]

He got it! 😮

[@kairosunltd130]

On point Stephan 🎯🎯🎯on point❗❗❗🔥🔥🔥🙌🏿🙌🏿🙌🏿💯💯💯 Thankyou 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@mikealouidor480]

This is what I need to work on balancing my time most of the times I have fuel pressure

[@some3sharks]

Happens all the time even your female friends try to cross boundaries of wanting premium attention from you and you have to stand your grounds and deny them access.

[@thewellnessmission944]

Agreed! Doesn't the same also apply to men?

[@mrswagg22music]

Interesting stuff man i subscribed

[@mannyfernandez1601]

Wish I saw these videos sooner. My issue has been with showing attention in the beginning stages it goes from either too much or not enough but then I ask shouldn’t it be both partners putting in the effort not just one expected to always initiate contact

[@aeiou0123]

You are spot on

[@TheColtonStreeter]

I would love to see you and Corey Wayne have a discussion

[@andrewhaney4358]

I normally really like this creators content. CW would really struggle with this I reckon. I switched off after first three points

[@ОоалддещЗгкшццпэмьпй]

Guys know exactly what to say and what to do to make a woman fall head over heels for them, they KNOW... But when it comes to guessing what she might need ( a gentle word, a piece of advice, a sense of security and safety, committment) they act as if they are completely oblivious... Beware of people who make use of cold empathy and weaponize it to their benefit, and who show utter indifference to your suffering and agony when you most need them to care.... get away from users and takers who only know how to read minds and how to fake empathy when it serves their agenda...

[@pritiboyd2718]

thankyou so much for this...