7 Traits of Highly Desirable Women | Episode 228: The Roommates Podcast

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

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[@barbaratucker9246]

I would never subscribe to this channel. I am here to rescue these woman. I hope you all read some of my replies to the woman you are trying to train to be servants to men. We all come onto this Earth with a purpose and serving a man isn't one of them. This channel needs a R rating. No one over the age of 5 who is female should have access to this. All woman go out get that student loan and reach your potential. Whether it be Art or photography( my friend is a photographer and earns $15,000 per photo, there are sports photographers, graphic designers all looking for graduates in Art and photography.) Any advice coming for men who are trying to train you like a seal at the zoo please disregard! Please don't compare femininity to what you boys see in a strip joint. You sound very confused with the business world. Strippers stroke men's egos for money. That isn't femininity, that's an illusion. So please bros get real and stop peddling advice like you know what you are talking about. The 7 traits a man needs would be a better video. Let's mention men's stupid haircuts, how little men earn, how short men got no reason, how little they know what to do in the bedroom, and how slavishly they are mastered by their own testosterone, how they are obsessed with how measuring the size of the things. and you ain't even good at parallel parking. I will cruise around your comments and help erase your brainwashing of woman. Precious woman who are destined to great things not just being married and chained to the sink.

[@acidman5]

Barbara Hoegen then move on. This channel isn’t meant for you lol live your life and hopefully your way gets you to where you want to be in the future.

[@EE-zf1lw]

@@acidman5 She is entitled to her opinion.

[@acidman5]

z Geo of course she is entitled to her opinion as I’m entitled to mine. I’m giving her some advice that I think would serve her best.

[@antithesiscoaching]

The Podcaster's have a toxic mindset & message. God is our source! Women be careful who you listen too. After a few minutes I had to pause the video and leave my comments. Only a King that values you spiritually and emotionally is worth your time & energy.

[@queenb7821]

1. Work on physical appearance 2. Heal from your past 3. Embrace your femininity 4. Peacefulness 💕 5. 👩‍🍳🍴 6. Attractive Feminine Style 7. SMILE 8. Work on your debt!!! These were some good tips guys!

[@motherswhoempowerothermoth3272]

Yes, Agree.

[@Evette_Clay]

Thank you!

[@nicholeflores802]

😊 Thanks! These guys talk WAY to much. Like get to the point! I kept skipping and didn't even watch the whole video.

[@candiceh6211]

1. ✅ 2. ✅ 3. ✅ 4. ✅ 5. ✅ 6. ✅ 7. ✅ 8. ✅ - zero in fact 9. And no kids Plus some extra good traits.... so I beg to differ 😉. Men like who they like regardless and that's perfectly fine.

[@TrueLittlePearl]

Yes, but they have to be on her level too, i.e. Check all those boxes themselves in order for them to be so selective.

[@terherstfamilyhomevideos7930]

People seem to spend a lot of time trying to attract a partner but far less time learning how to be a good partner once they find someone.

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Tell it

[@maam-yj8ph]

Amen!

[@beautyqueen7847]

Facts

[@antonianwoye5940]

So True!

[@GiaTheSweetPotato]

That's what I'm here for 😊👍

[@bizzywizzy1341]

Ladies remember, if God has a man for you, he’s not going to put his son in a den of lions just how he wouldn’t do his daughter. You must come healed in order to receive someone healed.

[@uncledrew7633]

Facts love that❗️❗️

[@Dance1617]

THIS 🔥🔥🔥

[@InspiredUno]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@lametriusmiller2397]

Facts!

[@tonyamoore2898]

Whatever

[@sophiasoosweet2]

Not all men like curves, not all men like skinny girls, each man is different. Some men like petite. Be yourself, be balanced, be mentally healthy, have your emotions in check. Don't allow unbalanced ppl influence who you are.

[@r3d_ti3_guy]

Be the best you. Health & Fitness are the cornerstone.

[@minismalls3096]

I agree, I like that they mentioned “get in YOUR best shape” that’s a perfect statement since every body is different

[@godsgirl7201]

🙌🏼👏🏼❗

[@Mediatize990]

Amen, different strokes for different folks. Don’t beat yourself up ladies. Last time I checked, I have seen plenty of fat married women and they are holding down the marriage. I have also seen planets if single skinny woman. I guess one has a good personality and the other is evil....lol. It’s not about that all the time, let’s be realistic here!

[@ushine4me]

Exactly. Im not sure why they think all men want what they want

[@jroyal2229]

We want a man that’s in physical shape as well.

[@uncledrew7633]

Facts we gotta get in the gym

[@lslithas24]

we know

[@princessnikki4187]

@@ginafield710 no the hell u don’t whatever you want for yourself you should want in your man

[@rubiesrubies]

absolutely! He needs to be strong!

[@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps]

I just like a physically strong man with big arms, don’t need no abs and can be bigger

[@degematters1450]

be yourself. dress for yourself. say what you want as long as it's rooted in love. take care of yourself. my personal routine is going to church because it makes me happy and grounds me in my purpose , therapy for healing trauma, and the gym for health. I will never do anything to get a man, the right one will come and discernment will allow me to choose the right one. Strong individual makes strong company. I cook for myself, pay my own bills, and through hard times I know that I am never alone and realized I am strong enough to pick myself up in hard times by the grace of God. Because I am learning myself, I will never be afraid to leave or be single. There were great tips in here, but I think you guys could have worded your message a little better. Using words like "competition" pits women against each other for the attention of men and it sends a wrong message.

[@PourYourArtOut]

I love this 🤍

[@ashieb25]

It is the hard truth through, we are competing.

[@Cookie20244]

@@ashieb25 no men enjoy see women hate on each other and fight over them

[@mlindalina1]

@@Cookie20244 women compete with each other aesthetically not physically.

[@DeJolies]

Thissssss thank you

[@tqv3554]

Ladies, ladies... The Roommates advise: 1. Maintain your best physical shape (you can control this -- get that big booty) 2. Be healed (negativity is turn-off; deal with your pain -- playful positivity is an intoxicating aroma) 3. Embrace your feminine side (-- masculine men desire a complementary feminine woman: joyful kind inviting; tap into it & you'll have an advantage) 4. Be peaceful (nobody wants a headache, nagging, or arguments) 5. Have great cooking skills (-- motivates a man to work harder for a warm, home-cooked meal) 6. Have an attractive, feminine style that is classy & sexy (-- smiling/happiness is attractive) ATTRACTION 1-4; KEEPING A MAN 5-6 BONUS 7 + one more on Patreon 7. Have little to no debt (the first 6 are far more important; excessive debt equates to irresponsibility; don't get in debt when you're young, be wise with your spending)

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you

[@88QueenOfHearts]

This is why I stopped dating. The last ten years, I've grown up having no dating prospects because I acquired 30+ thousand dollars in medical debt & crap teeth all due to bad genetics. Came to this channel to learn how to level up like a man & maybe get me out of the hole. Or at least enough to be a work from home single mother of adopted children.

[@reelreviews982]

#7 is smile #8 is little to no debt

[@kimberlygreen1078]

@Jordan Decker I know women who possess none of these qualities, yet they're married. Yes, the bar is extremely low these days.

[@kimberlygreen1078]

@Jordan Decker Point taken. What you're saying is the reality, though. I think it's a myth that society has created just like they want us to believe that marriage is what we should strive for in life, especially man. And if you get married you will live happily ever after and live a longer life. Once upon a time if a woman wasn't married she was frowned upon as if something was wrong with her, she must not have had the "right qualities". That's what we were lead to believe.

[@misspriss2482]

Who cares? The most amazing women ever get cheated on and left all of the time for alley cats and hot messes. As a woman, focus on bettering yourself for you, not for what you think a man wants. If you meet somebody, cool. If you don't, you're still good. Either way, your worth isn't based on what men find desirable; it's based on who you want to be.

[@misssterling3094]

Best advice here!!

[@ms.sunshine2u635]

Exactly, very well said.

[@monicathebeautiful6483]

Right but these suggestions are still great for yourself. Same action but different motivation.

[@LOVE-HUMILITY33]

Exactly!!!

[@sallyfaragabdel-aziz6336]

👌👌👌👌👍🏼👍🏼👏👏

[@chloekeene27]

I also think “long, beautiful, ‘feminine,’ flowing hair” is beautiful, but my natural hair doesn’t do that, so I cut it short. There is nothing that makes me feel more confident, beautiful, or put together than a fresh fade, especially when I combine it with some cute earrings and a bold lip! To my fellow Black women, if you can and want to do long and flowing hair, do your thang and know that I’m cheering you on! But if you want to cut your hair short because that’s what makes you feel most fully yourself, then do that and know that you look good, sis! I’m praying that God will bring a man into my life who appreciates a fresh cut on me as much as I do 😉 and I’m not worrying about it!

[@kithexcell4843]

They made some good points but this one seemed prejudiced. They denounced weaves but they are telling women that to be highly desirable she should have long flowing hair. When as you said black women hair do not grow in this way. I hope they have little to no debt as well. LOL.

[@chloekeene27]

@@kithexcell4843 I agree. Things just aren’t quite lining up in the hair department when it comes to these recommendations 😂

[@Lyricdagoddess88]

@@kithexcell4843 The also said that women should know how to cook because "if men can go through all the things they do at work then women should cook" While I'm sure every man appreciates a woman that can cook him a home-cooked meal their reasoning behind it was a little flawed and assumes that women in our day and age do not have to work and go through their own set of "things"

[@darlenediciccochiriano3072]

u go girl that’s. confidence

[@uncledrew7633]

Hafeez shouldn’t have said that I agree with this

[@NetFirley]

I would add another point: have your own full life. Interests, hobbies, things that you are passionate about. Don't wait for a man to complete you. Be complete yourself. However, even if you are all these things on the list, be prepared that there are men out there that are still not happy with you or the relationship and will still walk away for many reasons.

[@astoldbymayaba7279]

YES THANKYOU.

[@TiramoanaTaia]

I attract guys easily, but it's the righteous, spiritually enlightened wholesome men I want.

[@ashieb25]

Then become more righteous then you'll attract him

[@TiramoanaTaia]

@@ashieb25 that's the plan ;)

[@esoterca]

this.

[@toyaspears6376]

Same here🙋🏾‍♀

[@PilotVinProductionz]

@@ashieb25 yep once she align her self things will fall into place

[@Nyammings]

Women do these things for yourselves, not because you want to please a man or because you want to get married. If a man likes those things then all the better.

[@introspectivepiura6103]

Agreed Yvette! I experienced freedom and empowerment when I stopped practicing self-improvement for a man and started doing it for myself. Some of these things can happen naturally when you practice self-love. I can personally say that doing things to be “more attractive “ for men as opposed to because it makes me happy, was ineffective.

[@Nyammings]

What if you never get the woman/man you want are you going to sit around and remain or become worthless?

[@introspectivepiura6103]

@nahkxxx it’s giving too much power to a man or woman (whoever you’re attracting) . Ultimately you’re giving too much power to an imperfect person to determine your self worth . What if this person breaks up with you? Are you going go back to square one because ultimately you did it for them? What if this person is never happy with how you look? I say do it for you, because you love yourself and want take care of you. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good for partner but your why should be stronger and deeper than that

[@jameshawkins809]

@@introspectivepiura6103 I do not understand what the problem is with doing things to make you more attractive and desirable during dating. Thats just wild. You do it for your job right? Why not for a man or woman?

[@introspectivepiura6103]

@@jameshawkins809 there is no problem with wanting to be more attractive. It can become an issue or unhealthy if it’s done for others approval. Wanting to look more attractive for a partner is a bonus but I personally think that making that the main reason why one makes life changes can be counterproductive and not a sustainable goal. That’s just my opinion.

[@christellen3077]

1. Physically attractive 2. Being healed 3. Being feminine 4. Knowing how to cook 5. Dressing in an elegant and attractive way 6. Smile 7. Being financially healthy I fast forwarded some jokes but I laughed so much at the cooking part!! Shoot I need to chge this. ( You talked about attraction it's important too) Purity before marriage too! What makes someone highly desirable are matching values first and foremost ! Be blessed!!!

[@TaureanDreams]

Thanks!!!

[@christellen3077]

@@TaureanDreams I did it for all the times someone did it for me too xD be blessed!

[@temidayooluwafemi6465]

Preach🙌🏽

[@ocherry95]

THANK YOU!!

[@evadeeden2446]

That’s it ???

[@valm.5243]

The cooking issue... I think a lot women would love to cook regularly for their men but when they themselves are working 40-60hrs + per week to help build the family legacy...she's just as tired as you when she gets home too. you can't compare a stay-at home wife to a full-time working woman. If you want to come home to a cooked meal, you can't expect a women to bring home as much or more bacon than a man does! A little compromise to help each other out with running the home goes a long way and any woman will appreciate that!

[@elieminam4749]

Agreed, alot of couples today are not able to live comfortably on one paycheck. Also, stay-at-home moms have one of the most difficult jobs there is.

[@janukabudhathoki1370]

💯

[@rockysavage9336]

I agree

[@amberalbergottie2166]

Just an idea. Meals can always be prepared ahead of time so there can always be something home-cooked in a fraction of the time as far as being tired from work. And either the man or woman can do that as far as compromise goes. If both the man and woman are working the 40/60+ hours then both need to come together over say a weekend and make and plan every week or month for meals, family time, each other time, etc. What matters I think is prioritizing what's important and either making the time or preparing ahead to make it work.

[@becky5937]

1. Excellent Physical shape (size, hair, lose the Tummy) 14:56 (15:50 ) 2. Heal from past damage 23:50 3. Embrace/tap into your femininity 36:40 4. Peaceful person 48:18 5. Great cooking skills 58:54 6. Attractive Feminine style 1:03:17 (balance between classy and sexy) 7. Smile 1:11:49 8. Little or NO Debt! 1:15:15 (Bonus) Don’t have that debt -Basically ease up on the shopping & spending / racking up credit card debt - other things they mentioned (sex) (natural beauty, i.e. blue weave/blue lipstick /dragish beat face) This list can apply to dating men to i.e. go after Masculine men/men who are healed and in their best physical shape, etc.

[@jessicacassidy21]

Thank you 😊😊😊 so much

[@TaureanDreams]

Thank you so much!!!!

[@yulandatross3110]

Thank you

[@Zswcde]

Doing the Lord’s work

[@michelleknighton893]

TY!

[@empressmagneta]

Healthy critique: use "Women" rather than "Girls"

[@kimw4732]

YES!

[@compaq2618]

Yeah it at least ladies or females. Girls are not ready for mature relationships

[@iamnotmyhandle]

Boys use the term "girls" when they refer to their counterparts, whereas (real/respectful) men will say "women".

[@hey_kudisco_podcast]

Thank you!

[@arianejohn1831]

Shout THAT!!! 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@corinemorgan4510]

Long flowy hair is not the way every woman was created. Curly hair grows upward. You guys need to be more informed before these type of criticisms.

[@Afett111]

I think if they said long hair or feminine cuts it would have come across better. I'm growing mine out atm from a pixie 2 months ago.

[@godsgirl7201]

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@godsgirl7201]

@@Afett111 🙌🏼

[@crystalrubbie9383]

hafeez loves his snowbunnies

[@Afett111]

@@crystalrubbie9383 ?

[@JazminBautista]

THANK YOU ✨ I’m a woman who constantly is trying to better herself and you guys always bring so much value to the table.

[@ScaryToRemarry]

Hafeez and Chris spoke so much truth about what men are attracted to

[@triplemoyagames4195]

They're speaking facts. This type of improvement mentality right here. Is a wifey mentality. Now make it wifey material

[@moistgirth5625]

Heyy :)

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

You're Welcome!!

[@thebaker3866]

Do you live in Ohio

[@forevermonique6310]

Crazy thing is when we have it all together we really could care less about a relationship 🤷‍♀️

[@iamnotmyhandle]

👏👏👏

[@freedom123-j8j]

That's true😆😆

[@lawinabox]

Only for a time...at some point you are gonna stop and wonder wtf

[@SpindarellaMotloung]

Facts🤣🤣

[@TemiArinola88]

Facts!

[@Harley24986]

"A man with options, will never choose a headache." Best line ever. #noexcuses. I hate when I hear women talk about how they don't have time or how tired they are. I'm over 40 with 4 kids and I work out at home 5 days a week for as long as I can remember. Not just for my man, but for me. I want to be around for as long as possible for my kids and I want to always look good to my husband. Women, pay attention!

[@datgreekgal]

You're my inspiration✨✨

[@ClaireHaire]

same I workout as well and I work 50hrs in accounting weekly . If you can do social media for 3hrs a week you could be working out.

[@J5o7h9n1A3]

THIS!👏PLS 👏READ 👏THIS👏LADIES👏

[@taylorthenatural5509]

Say it louder!

[@LoudnessInc7]

Yas! I have three jobs, sometimes I don’t even have a day off and I still exercise/mobility with my body everyday and eat healthy.

[@thegossetfam5304]

I work out at home 20 minutes every day at 6am 😂. Not in my best shape but I’m getting there .

[@triplemoyagames4195]

Make it 30 for a week, then 45mins, then an hour

[@thegossetfam5304]

@@triplemoyagames4195 thanks ,I will try. I don’t have weight to lose just want need to shape 😂

[@triplemoyagames4195]

@@thegossetfam5304 Which is arguably harder. Then you need to check your dietary plan as well. Also make sure to do hell cardio

[@ShawniRad]

@@thegossetfam5304 You're good I got into great shape by doing Chloe tings workouts 20-30 minutes a day. You don't have to do an hour. That'll burn you out.

[@thegossetfam5304]

@@ShawniRad great 🥰my legs are so weak . I now combined it with some bike exercises. It’s so hard 😂, but I determined to be fit n heathy🥰

[@jazzyone1986]

The weight thing is huge. We have to try ladies I’ve never been obese but it’s still work to keep the weight down. I’m not rail skinny but I have noticed the difference not only in my body but also my attitude and mood. I jog three times a week and try to eat as healthy as I can. The only thing I would say is try to find an activity that you enjoy doing outside of your workout that’s active. For example, I love to rollerskate its fun and great exercise.

[@sweetapplecapricorn]

This is true, ladies. Find something you enjoy doing. Running, Bikram Yoga, cycling, pole dancing, stair climbing...and leave your friends at home. Often times women bring their friends to exercise and you’re not focusing on the exercise.

[@YohanPenny]

Yeah, black women rollerskating is on the rise.

[@frankmundo4300]

Skinny thick ummmm

[@Cookie20244]

And date out your race too

[@KayNovember26]

Weight is a big issue. Men are visual creatures. Work on yourself. It is possible! It will take determination but you will reap the benefits.

[@jbb8261]

14:24 advice starts (I’m married just wanna help if you’re on short time LMAO)

[@toshajohnson1007]

Thank You!!!😁

[@Pretti_Lucky]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@arianaamores7147]

Thanks 🙏🏽

[@southernsoul152]

Thanks Gorgeous 💖💖

[@nataliean4]

Thanks

[@carissaexplainsitall8481]

I had $25,000 of debt when I met my husband. He said if I really wanted to be with him I would get out of debt. He gave me a year and I climbed out of debt. We are on the Dave Ramsey program now. No debt and no credit cards

[@shemaralakin5843]

WTF 😳

[@scooterlovya]

What!?

[@hershey307]

I may not agree with everything that was said but it's nice to get a point of view from 2 guys. Ladies, I'm a strong advocate for therapy and counseling for healing!

[@nimuejennings6588]

Women who are interested in some amazing feminine KZbinrs! Karine Allure Dr. Michelle The feminine fancy Bridget Neilson

[@cynrez]

SHERASEVEN1

[@you_a_noob8295]

Chloe_ and Chrissy are great too

[@you_a_noob8295]

I love Karine her bubbly personality is so cute 🥰

[@abkgg7]

Chrissie is amazing for femininity as well!

[@sweetbleach12]

Dr. Michelle is IT 🙌🏾

[@patricegrant2511]

Guys want undamaged younger women because they have already damaged the ones who are their age. Younger ones are naive to them so it’s easier to put up with behaviours older women wouldn’t. I am 19 btw so already sus the behaviours

[@Lolallaa]

Peazy facts . Im 26 and dated someone older than 48(he lied about he’s age) I was turned off when I found out and he was super secretive.

[@jennifergodwin29]

Yep

[@sandrasentertainment6634]

👏🏾👏🏾

[@antoinettejones6715]

Facts!!!

[@Priestessofthesilverstar]

WOW YES. Somebody had to say it. It’s easier to tell younger women they have to loose weight blah blah blah and give them a check list of what they have to do to be loved. These dudes are honestly reaching so hard right now with this 8 trait nonsense.

[@JasminWilliams94]

Ladies! Please remember when you work on your weight, do it for yourself first! Get into the mindset that this is for YOU! You loving you! Love yourself first before you can love another! Very good episode!! Ya’ll never disappoint-always speaking the truth. 👏🏾 -Jasmin, Proud Patreon Supporter ⭐️

[@uncledrew7633]

Facts ❗️

[@nico3641]

The content starts at @14:55. You’re welcome

[@destinyzroom]

Girls don’t forget to start at the source! Yeah it’s simple to just say “eat less calories” but if you have a hard time doing that, maybe start with learning self discipline first. Otherwise it might be harder! I like to read books on self discipline instead of rushing into a wall.

[@jessicabarlow7412]

Smart move👏🏽💯

[@claudiao7743]

Right and some people don’t realize they’re emotionally eating. I used to rely on food mainly for a pick me up especially after a hard day. Now I diversify the ways I get a dopamine rush and it’s really helped my waistline lol

[@soularvision]

It's hard to overeat calories on fiber, water, and nutrient-rich fruits and veggies. Quality beats quantity!

[@bettinaorevil5056]

Married at 19(22 now). He was 22(26 now). Didn't have too much healing to do besides how my mom told me black men were the devil. I went to trade school when I was 18, mom gave me a car with not monthly payments (so I had no debts). Husband is black, he supports me in and outside the house. He asks me to make a set of income a month to pay utilities and car insurance (I work part-time) no kids yet, I go to school full time (payed with scholarships & money I saved) He finds me attractive with a tummy but I know I can't let go of my health. I need to be healthy to safely carry his children and that's one of the things that attracted him. I also follow Anthony Oneal and try my best to do the Dave Ramsey baby steps. Ladies we can do it!

[@ZOI123-w4o]

Young women have been heavily damaged but when you are in your 20s you aren’t thinking about therapy. You are pretty much “doing” damage until the damage you’ve done has caught up to the damaged you’ve experienced.

[@ZOI123-w4o]

Lauren Gracia Hulett Good for you. But that’s not the case for everyone.

[@xdandychiggins]

facts.

[@Golden4k_ash]

I love that you guys stress “YOUR best shape”. I’m really petite and for years I was insecure b/c I thought I had to look like a thick Instagram model or whatever. But when I’m actively working out (and putting on some size since I’m naturally small) I’m able to attract men.

[@Canelo_gbr]

I dont even like too thick anymore. Petite is better nowadays

[@1gregmoreira]

Those Instagram models might look like they get a lot of attention...... but you probably wouldn’t have any real interest in the kind of man that follows pictures of women they don’t know in real life. The kind of guys that most women are truly interested in...... don’t take these Instagram models seriously So yeah don’t let your insecurities get the better of you. Just keep doing what you’re doing. Being fit and “shapely” is waaaaaay better than the exaggerated features of these Instagram models. Most higher caliber men wouldn’t want to bring a girl like that home to see mom or to a company function

[@Golden4k_ash]

@Ryan D thank you! I’ve learned to stop looking at those IG models b/c a lot of it is an illusion anyway

[@Golden4k_ash]

@@1gregmoreira thanks for the feedback!

[@lavarball7538]

Petite is super sexy. Slim and petite or slim thick petite, athletic etc. I’m 6ft in shape and these ig models do not do it for me no thank you, keep doing you!!

[@sairathealchemist]

Flattering short hair is about face shape (including weight) and facial features.

[@karesseholden6179]

Where are the married men 40 and up. Let me hear their side of this conversation. I'll wait 🤔

[@dharmaray9460]

they all with the same women they met is HS college... or divorced 🤐

[@semonewalker589]

Where are the divorced men?

[@t4c882]

Advice from happily married men will be better

[@loreenmakdal6380]

I'd like this too. Bring us older men.

[@MR_GREEN410]

I'm above 40 and married. They are 100 % correct. Quite frankly I'm surprised that guys that young hit the nail on the head. I don't know why women get so offended when men state their preferences. You don't have to do it but that's what men like.

[@ZOI123-w4o]

Also, healing is a life long process. It never stops and that’s a blessing. You ALWAYS want to expand. Be your MOST expansive self. That is a life long process.

[@edgarayala945]

These are great points. Of course they’re not all always true. I think you should also stay genuine to yourself. If you like dressing a certain way or certain lifestyle, or have a trait that you’re unwilling to change. That’s fine but know that not everyone is gonna buy into that. Heck, not everyone is gonna buy into the “roommate ideals” either.

[@bellamore6282]

yep! Precisely, because when I was "ultra feminine", I unknowingly and naively attracted users and abusers. You have to be wise still in all you do and become. Everything needs balance.....their are also not enough masculine men to go around so many women have had to play that role to survive. Then you throw in current cultural climate, and everything is ass backwards. This thing can go deep and it's not so surface...

[@edgarayala945]

@@bellamore6282 Yes, balance. We all have masculine and feminine qualities, and we look for different things in partners

[@misspriss2482]

Agreed. My mother always said, start like you can hold out. For example, if men are attracted to a woman who cooks and you genuinely have no interest or intention to learn, then you don't have to. What I will say is, be prepared to and be OK with losing out on guys for this reason. I only wear lip stick and I wear jeans pretty much 24/7. A lot of men are going to look past me for a woman in a dress, heels, and a full face of make-up. Because that is not me and never will be, I'm OK with that. When I meet a man who expresses interest in women who do all of that, I don't complain or get resentful. I simply tell them to keep it moving because I'm not changing my style for anybody.

[@nicolephillips4157]

@@suziesmith8288one thing they said I do believe is true is healing yourself .a guy told me they can since when a woman is insecure ,and they will run all over u that's why some of us have a lot of healing to do.

[@waxydiction]

I’ve been a bitter young lady, let me tell you it’s not fun. Even though I’m still young trauma sucks, I’m 20 now going to therapy and it’s been emotionally exhausting. Bless you women and men going through your healing journey.

[@zsuzsuspetals]

You know...when you are in your 20s and you are given advice, you really never know if it's good advice or not. But the great thing about being in your late 40s is that you know good advice when you hear it. THIS is great advice for women. So much truth here. I've been volunteering with girls in our church and it's sad that I need to comb you tube channels of men to hear good advice for women. Women give each other the WORST advice ever. I tell my girls don't take just any woman's word. Not even your mother, your sister or your best friend. Always run the advice you are given by a man and then you'll see if the advice is good. Fantastic video, guys.

[@Nutz4Lutz3624]

im 22 and im doing this... my cousin would give me advice and i would also ask her fiancee and he would set it straight. (it wasnt always bad from her but as women we try too much to say any decision is okay) it truly helps

[@rachellerockel]

*healthy men

[@uncledrew7633]

@@rachellerockel facts

[@MR_GREEN410]

Thank you so much for saying this. A lot of women in the comments are so negative. The guys are trying to help.

[@jessitabonita]

Yes! Whenever the older women I encounter give me “advice” I quickly scan whether THEY are an example or a warning of a life I’d love to live or one I’d pray against. All the women who’d scoff at these men or get angry are on the road to being a warning.

[@janehakim7382]

“A man with options , will never choose a headache “ wawwww *snap* *snap* *snap*

[@Themichpardo]

I been listening to your content for 6 months and it’s giving me a lot of insight into how men think and function. I’m excited for the women content!

[@Nedu_U]

Amazing content. Women shouldn't take anything here personal. Use this advise to also level up for us just in the same way we are leveling up for y'all. 👍🏽 The truth heals.

[@ptemptress03]

Here I am thinking that becoming a great woman was important all I had to do was lose my stomach

[@kevinbryan718]

U need to be the full package

[@classE.81]

😂😂

[@Cookie20244]

@@kevinbryan718 no one is working out for you sir

[@queenb7821]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sandrasentertainment6634]

Yeah I thought that’s enough 😂😂

[@monicaisberto]

“Are you pregnant?? So why is it here” 💀💀💀💀💀 LMAOOO

[@Goyabeen]

😂😂😂😂 sheeeshh

[@ms.a806]

That’s not nice. Some women have fibroids

[@bepishombre8999]

@@ms.a806 it's honest and direct, how advices should be.

[@yvonneadongo2304]

Lol!

[@leeannparish8331]

Hiding your heartache is not a woman thing, it’s a human thing. I appreciate the learning and the perspective.

[@shemaralakin5843]

Yep, but I think more men hide there feelings than women.

[@jessicaojeda6584]

My boyfriend is always sending me your videos! And I started to watch them because I care about him! And I want to be better!

[@bizzywizzy1341]

The fact that he’s sending you videos to help better you as a woman instead of laying down with another one is admirable. 💗 amen to you girl!

[@jeremyanyim4080]

He sees potential in you which is why he sent it to you!

[@uncledrew7633]

Awesome we need more women like you. Hopefully I can find one in the future 🙏🏾

[@gatoperson97]

If you understand Spanish watch tania lucely channel....thank me later

[@niko4305]

@@jeremyanyim4080 as in “I like you, you’re not great but you have potential.” Wtf.

[@xiomanaxoxoxo3212]

Woman want men in good physical shape as well. It goes both ways.

[@misselle1430]

When he wanted being physically in shape with women and being financially stable with men i stopped listening. I also saw someone mention they stressed on long straight hair as if all women are born like that. I will not be listening yo them any more.

[@misselle1430]

@@skyegroome223 doesn't change their ignorant comments.. not all women have straight hair so f that and if you are gonna compare use the same platform. A fit woman and a man's finances are not on the same level. Not very smart words from them that am not even interested to hear more.

[@misselle1430]

@@skyegroome223 plus if you are seeing many comments it simply means their choice of words are not up to par ... they should use grown statements and words or ho for a class or 2 on presentation. If this is how all their videos are presented then it's a shame. Thry should do better. Simple. Presenters who are doing a good job don't get nay sayers they get positive vibes from viewers and listeners.

[@misselle1430]

@@skyegroome223 like I said doesn't change a thing and my comments stays as is. you and the rest who are into sub-standard content can continue eating this up. Plus I don't need to do research on one video to prove nothing tho 🤣 it's not that important what they presented. If it was I'd have commented positively.

[@asmimazumder5550]

Absolutely,be in a healthy shape, that's all

[@carolallison9685]

Im happy to see more people talking about this stuff, and really happy to see the femininity movement take off, but at the same time it kind of saddens me because i feel like mothers should be teaching this to their daughters. As mothers, we need to be spending more time teaching our daughters how to be respectful women....... before we unleash them onto society lol.

[@shimadamikaelahx]

100

[@mstwelvedeadlycyns]

Likewise you to men as well. Feminity does not save you from sexual harassment rape or domestic violence. Or anti abortion

[@pickmeisha]

You cannot teach what you dont know yourself.

[@shimadamikaelahx]

@@pickmeisha 🔥

[@_C_3737]

This is the best video I’ve seen thus far giving women advice. I personally prefer getting advice from a man because you guys are honest and guys know what guys like!! I appreciate this!! I would 100% pay for a women course from y’all

[@Jay-ro1vn]

Ladies, embrace ALL these traits for your own self improvement. Except the SEX, CLOSE YOUR LEGS until YOUR husband WIFE you 💍Not engaged but MARRIED!!

[@libertyloveslife5602]

Or at least until monogamy

[@hannahi9355]

@@libertyloveslife5602 monogamy won't get you a bag if he screws you over, so get those papers...I get what you mean though.

[@ladyloveishere1838]

I am a woman and these guys are 100% correct. I was suffering in my weight gain. I wasn't happy bc I never in my life liked to not look nice even body wise. Stop letting people lie to you about embracing obesity. it is very unhealthy & causes a lot of deadly diseases. I lost weight took out years in my singleness to heal from past hurt, purge from them soul ties. I became confident & loved me more. I seen my worth & value in myself. Therefore I attracted so many successful men due to it from & wheened out the bums. When I was unhappy I accepted men I never would given time to. Women, you have to stop listening to society standards as well & respect the neutral dynamics of men & women. A man want to lead, provide & do. A good man. that INDEPENDENCE ATTITUDE is for the birds & will keep you single & lonely. Men wants a feminie lady & why not. They are not gay... Follow it Gods way how he want men & women to be. you will have a successful relationship. I got my ass off social media listening to single people giving their opinion advice & actually allowed God to tell me what to do. I am now in a relationship w a loving, respectful man who wants to throw flowers at my feet. Also a bonus, he comes as a wealthy black man who is a great steward w his finances. Also ladies, men do not like a mean arguing woman. Men love peace. He will empty his bank account out to a woman who speaks in his life & keep him peaceful. Men only want food, sex, & gratitude from a woman & he is set..

[@elieminam4749]

Society has told you that a financially literate and independent woman is a "masculine" woman. However, men just say this because they can't control women who are independent. I understand that men have a desire to be needed. If you want to bring God into it, I will have you know that the proverbs 31 woman was a woman that many would describe as financially literate and someone who was confident in helping her husband provide for the household. These roles of men work outside the home while women are solely housewives who are forbidding from working were created by society. God bless.

[@jessicabarlow7412]

@@elieminam4749 FACTS💯

[@MR_GREEN410]

PREACH!!!

[@Princessmiz]

Facts

[@arielaava2102]

You mentioned that women like peace, but what if sometimes I want spicy arguments a little bit of drama with the guy I'm dating, is that an unhealed part of me?

[@nessava4965]

I love both these gentlemen but Chris is so sweet. He melts me with with empathy and humility. Great guys.

[@deedcg577]

Right his laugh just gets to me

[@Tina-my2ps]

Men always like to talk about this hard to find connected “feminine woman” but when they come across the real deal they are afraid of her. That kind of women has great depth that allows her to be feminine and connect with those traits but most of these men like the idea of her but are afraid of her depth.

[@TemiArinola88]

Unfortunately they will meet her and not be of equivalent standards.

[@carojames6776]

Some women are very confident in their own 'femninity' and sexuality, they have already worked out who they are what they want and where they want to be in life, I would hope that the male species would see this as a challenge and not something to be feared..

[@MR_GREEN410]

That just means that they are weak and not worth your time. Stay feminine and positive. You will find the right guy.

[@MarokoJin]

It means you're not in the right environment, change it to get another pool of suitable men.

[@MedinaStudiosOfficial]

#1 Excellent Physical Shape 14:45 #2 Heal from Past Heartbreak 23:40 #3 Embrace your Femininity 36:40 #4 Peaceful Person 48:18 My Favorite Part: 52:50 #5 Great Cooking Skills 58:40 #6 Attractive Feminine Style 1:03:18 #7 Smile :) 1:12:08 Bonus #8 Get rid of your debt 1:16:25

[@naomigobena8247]

them: "we want girls to see themselves beautiful just like God made them" also them: "have a beautiful smile with perfect teeth" "if you're skinny, get thick" "if you have a big stomach, get rid of it, you're not pregnant" "look pretty without makeup" "have long hair"

[@MadamAlgol]

Exactly... 🙄

[@uncledrew7633]

Apparently your triggered by this they listed six other factors that weren’t physical. Just sayin🤷🏾‍♂️

[@thezu9250]

Lol. Its funny what guys think is a “natural” look when its all make up.

[@AltinaClarke]

"If you're skinny, get thick, If you have a big stomach, get rid of it" Those are some bars you know 🔥

[@shemaralakin5843]

Yep, contradicted themselves and honestly very superficial and sexist

[@Rastavibration7981]

I'm a girl but I can't thank you guys enough...your content is very educating

[@Rastavibration7981]

Funny I was just thanking you and then you mentioned that girls are watching too😂😂😂😂

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you!!!

[@candicepurtzer2194]

I’ve been married for almost ten years. We have two wonderful children. We have been in a rough patch. I appreciate the honesty. I’m going to do my best to hold myself accountable and make positive change on my end. I know the only thing I can control is my own actions.

[@SA-bp1ic]

Love this .. hope this goes well for you

[@medr08]

Dangg!! This one was good!! I have definitely been through a healing journey and now embracing my femininity. You all hit some really good points!!

[@uncledrew7633]

🙌🏾🙌🏾Great for you 💯

[@laignermassey3631]

"Feminine Women Control The World."-😘🥰

[@princess-bf2cn]

Yessssssssssssss

[@annadvorakova3561]

Feminine woman don’t control

[@MeHoyMinoy-cv3ps]

Your hair is stunning 😍 ❤️

[@Tionaintown876]

Definitely becoming the best version of yourself! I’m 22 and my guy is 49 and he’s always trying to genuinely help me become the best version of me. I’m so grateful for his knowledge.

[@carojames6776]

Nice to be with someone who has some life experience and can support you on your journey.

[@Tionaintown876]

@@carojames6776 I agree!!

[@ln8396]

Girl that's your dad lol

[@ln8396]

@@peacelove7437 that's a big responsibility...and what you left him cause of that that seems a bit harsh unless you exhausted all options in helping him

[@starchannel123]

Of course he's training you. You'll have to take care of him in a few years when he's dying. He also knows you could do better and he needs you to stay.

[@gio.rochasm]

The respectful way you gave me, as woman, just HONEST and REAL advice is priceless. Hard to hear some things, but I'm thankful I did. Thank you!

[@justagirlfromdc628]

Trust. It’s women out here big as hell with a buzz cut and are happily married! If a man want you he will get you however you look lol

[@justagirlfromdc628]

@Mika Yes those men take great care of them. Like a husband should

[@JeannideV]

“We knucking and bucking and ready to fight” 😭😭😭😂😂😂😂😂 that song goes hard though

[@martinedorestant1763]

Thank you guys. This made me realize that there are straight guys out there who are in their feminity. mamas boys who want the best of both worlds strong women feminine women who treat them like their mama and a freak in the bedroom. Your tips will help us women flush out those types of men avoid them like the plague 🙏🏾

[@accompanyaddie3442]

I can attest to this! I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, since we were 16 years old. This is also how you keep your man. It’s important to be best friends and have the same mindset and grow together.

[@deedcg577]

I love this podcast cause I want to hear from the opposite sex what exactly is that they are looking for. I don’t want to aim at a goal without any direction. Thanks guys this was great cause I need to work on the femininity i keep attracting feminine man and I can’t stand it anymore but I see why I’m attracting them.

[@Amozu]

Damn you fine!!

[@lindsaypeek63]

Check out universe guru Mina irfan. Her advice works! And yes it’s in line with this advice but it’s so fun and feminine

[@lalas929]

1:00:40 he said man will stay if a women can cook...that’s a lie to the highest capacity. In the Haitian culture 98 percent of women knows how to cook...but man still leave or the woman choice to be by themselves due to cheating.

[@janiecel]

This is good. Women’s spaces are full of “you’re the prize and perfect as is” and it’s void of reality.

[@claudiao7743]

You should check out Breeny, she’s all about self improvement and learning your worth in the process!

[@lindsaypeek63]

Ladies what he says about being feminine is so true! Men will just fall over you and they love it. It’s fun. I have tried both things being masculine and logical with men and being feminine with my husband and magic happens. Give it a try

[@masterdevoe2519]

Just like masculine attitude from men make women "feel things". Feminine attitude from women does the exact same thing to men.

[@chuke23]

Thank you! Been looking for advice on how to keep my husband of 13 years in love and crazy about me. A lot of these tips are not necessarily for long marriages, but they're definitely great refreshers! I'd love to see a video for us girls that have been married for 10+ years! How to keep your man in love forever!💗

[@karlamdzs5013]

Thank you so much for this content I love it, I’m a 20 year old and I constantly want to improve to be the best version of myself so I can bless the life of other people and make this world a better place a step at a time and your channel has helped me a lot. I send you a big hug from Mexico. God bless you.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

You're Welcome Karla!!!

[@introspectivepiura6103]

Re: point 1: I think you should be mindful that although this may motivate some women to lose weight, other women viewing this may process your approach as triggering. While this is what you honestly think and you are entitled to your opinion, I think the delivery should have been more thoughtful. Some women may struggle losing weight due to an eating disorder which is a deeper issue that can’t be fully addressed by following health and fitness steps; it’s an issue that may be rooted in trauma which may be important to prioritize point #2 . For you to say that point #1 alone is huge enough to skip all the following points you made, sends the message, that physical appearance supersede’s the inward healing process. And although the overall message here is “how to be more attractive for men”, when a woman decides, to lose weight or live a healthy lifestyle, doing it “to be more attractive” for men is not a sustainable goal. To women reading this, if you want to lose weight , do it because you love yourself and it makes you happy . In my opinion, confidence and happiness will attract the right person. Weight loss may be a part of re-building your confidence but it’s not going to be what ultimately makes you happy. The internal work is far more important thank the physical. Again both can happen simultaneously but if you focus on the weight loss without healing from the underlying reasons why you gained weight in the first place, the outward may improve but the inward will continue to be hurting .

[@darlenepaul2934]

Women need to be in shape to attract a man.Don't lie to women.Dont wait a thousand years to lose weight.Plus being overweight will make you an unhealthy person eventually.

[@nicolephillips4157]

@@darlenepaul2934 that's why a woman should lose weight for herself and health reasons .their are some men who like thick women,and you have men who like women that weigh a size 0 some men want a woman with a pretty face and body some men want a woman with a pretty face a nice body ,and highly educated .

[@trutru720]

I agree

[@jessicabarlow7412]

FACTS💯🙌🏽LOVE THIS&AGREE FULLY😍

[@aishaz6552]

I understand where you're coming from. But our triggers are not other peoples problems. If we find something triggering, that's a sign we have some healing to do. Something inside us acknowledges that we need to change. So being triggered is actually a good thing. It let's us know what to work on. BUT ladies, let's Not put the burden of our triggers on other people. It's not their job to walk on egg shells around us. To do this, you have to own up and take responsibility for yourself.

[@dare2bda137]

In hebrew, the corner of the attic is the man's prayer room where he would go to pray for his wife...

[@sweetcynsation]

I hope they are telling men that they also need to bring health into the relationship too. many women are in a reactive state to their partners. while he may have a bad time at work, etc. he can bring it home too. no one wants a partner who uses them as a punching bag. but I'm sure they tell these men the same, or at least I hope.

[@msgodiva1000]

You make me sound perfect💋. . But I must say ; a woman that loves to cook real meals , may not have the flattest stomach. Not saying it should hang over your pants , but its definitely not six-pack abs 😂. Peace and Love everyone. . Happy New Year!

[@dejstoney]

Yes Hun. But if she is constantly preparing them for others, she has no time to eat them. Maybe a few small bites. I am normally too exhausted to eat a full plate if I exerted that much effort into preparing.

[@misselle1430]

@@dejstoney not nice. You should take care of yourself too

[@joelpabu]

Ain't gon lie... I once dated a girl with all of these desirable traits and realized each year that I can only ever end up with a woman like this, in her highest and best version of her feminine self. Dope episode brothers... Didn't expect it to be so good!! 🔥💯✊🏽

[@kristysmith4990]

Why did you let her go.

[@ashleyhernandez4035]

Well proof that these traits dont keep a man lmao

[@suziesmith8288]

@@kristysmith4990 having good looks is one thing. However if you have good looks combined with arrogance or masculine energy it's a turn off for men. That's why it's important to work on your inner qualities not just your physical ones!

[@PrinceThe8th]

Good show BUT black women don't have naturally "flowing" hair. It would require a perm. I prefer natural.

[@acidman5]

Yeah I think he is basically saying have their own hair rather than weave. And make your hair attractive to the man you desire rather than for women

[@klassycountryk]

There's a difference in being natural with a dusty struggle fro and having a well moisturized full fledge fro. I've had guys approach me while my fro and natural hair was on point. Men do like natural hair when it is well kept and healthy.

[@acidman5]

Domanique Johnson yep

[@PrinceThe8th]

@@klassycountryk we aren't talking about fros. Along with flowing he also emphasized "long". Long and flowing is not not how black women hair grow..... He is describing in a way that is growing straight I prefer natural hair, like the fro you are speaking of. His description of hair is nothing like what you are describing.

[@learningearning8385]

I’ve almost never heard a man say he prefers kinky hair..wow

[@normalotus]

This video has made me realize how much anger I carry towards men & it’s been reflecting onto my partner. Thank you.

[@KymKiswe]

Women who can’t cook it’s because we are caught up with having bachelors degree, masters degree, being the best at the job. Therefore men need to be full providers and can’t let their women be exhausted because of work.

[@KayNovember26]

I'm very well educated and work long hours. There kida in the mix. Yet I love to spoil my man on my days off by cooking him and awesome meal and spending quality time together. I don't have a housekeeper and everybody in my house just need to help out and keep it clean. You can be a career woman and a great "house wife"!

[@KymKiswe]

@@KayNovember26 of course to each their own. I just know for myself, if my man wants me to be a great housewife, I can’t be a full career woman. I can’t be full time in both positions. I will be exhausted by work for sure or vice versa.

[@psmith3821]

I don’t agree sis I’m sorry the PHD women are usually masculine asf (attitude wise ) and date down to control their men who make less then them .. women getting they degrees need to stop leading with the degree men don’t care about your degrees or money .. they don’t see none if it anyways .. 🤷🏾‍♀️ successful men don’t chase women because she has a PhD

[@KymKiswe]

@@psmith3821 I know all that. That’s why I said men need to be full providers.

[@funmitalabi9607]

If you were a man and said that about a woman you would be called misogynistic but it's just reality. Man or woman, someone needs to provide and someone needs to go out and work. The problem is society expects men to fulfill the work role but then ignore when women don't counteract by being providers. Based on your own comment, just flip the genders, and you're saying exactly what men are saying today. Everyone is getting degrees too, so the provider role is shunned. That's why a feminine woman who can do those things is valuable. For you though, you'd need a feminine man to fill your traditional role so you aren't exhausted after work since you are a career woman and it doesn't sound like you want to do any cooking or cleaning. There is nothing wrong with that as long as you guys can balance each other out, but most career women want a masculine man which creates the conflict today. In short, for you in particular and any other like-minded career women, your only option is a feminine man, a part-time career, or a full load of both if your man can't or won't fill a women's traditional role.

[@laurenashley5305]

It's true. I was about40-50 pounds over weight in junior high. When I entered college I took fitness classes offered by my university and I lost 60 pounds! and as expected I was pulling men left and right. I love taking care of myself, and men love a women who takes time on herself.

[@kanglander1285]

Its all about picking the right woman for your life/purpose goals,thats the "best" woman,to have,pre-selection is a real thing,im in my mid 40s,this methodology has proven successful for me

[@godsgirl7201]

True

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

If a girl is loyal to you long before your in a relationship, you may have a Queen on your hands

[@levibondjr4650]

Great comment.

[@godsgirl7201]

@Eduardo Oliveira I was a ride or die to my ex and he made me feel bad about it and felt like I did it in vain I was there when he was homeless he claims anyone women would do that I was there when he had roaches

[@compaq2618]

But what if a man can’t handle that queen

[@pickmeisha]

@@godsgirl7201 dont be that again. You see roaches, get the hell on. Dont waste your youth on men like this, have reasonable standards.

[@2cuteNmyGT]

I'm a woman and just wanted to see what this was about.... Y'all are talking DIRECTLY to me. I struggle with majority of the things y'all spoke on. Seriously. I'm really trying to tap into myself but I'm having a hard time . I wanna talk to either one of you personally, because whew, I need y'all! OMG this spoke to me and my soul!!!!!

[@funmitalabi9607]

I only currently struggle with the first thing and a few of the later points but that's because of my family instead of my own choice. I think it would be better to focus on each trait one at a time. I spent a year just focused on going from obese to overweight and 6 months watching Kevin Samuels to realize men aren't to be feared as my mother taught me. I'm a much better person than I was two years ago just from doing the first two steps and watching videos like these on the side. I believe you can do it too if you focus!

[@2cuteNmyGT]

@@funmitalabi9607 amazing. Thank you! Keep going!!

[@mizzlemay8388]

You attract the type of person you are. Present yourself as who you truly are and what you’re truly looking for to find your own person. *Your person, is looking for you.* And remember, be at the best or thrive to be at your best because you deserve the best for yourself first of all and for your partner.

[@asceticfeminine]

You can only have 1 "flaw" ladies. Choose it wisely. Of your skin is a mess and your house is a mess but everything else is on point- it's still two flaws. Also, don't get too caught up in the physical appearance bit. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder so just work on being the best, HEALTHY version of yourself. fitness standards are different for women than men. My body type is naturally curvy and I will never be a size 4. I don't want to loose my period. Embracing femininity also means embracing fertility and letting my body fat percentage be my guide. I have NO problems being a little soft. So decide what you can change NOW and give yourself time to change the other things by establishing good habits. For me, that is keeping my home clean. Keeping my skin clear and soft. Wearing a dress every day. Whiten those teeth. Get lash extensions. These things I can change NOW. My fitness will come with time.

[@Nutz4Lutz3624]

nah u can have more than one flaw.. thats not even reasonable or possible and youre deluding yourself if you think otherwise. theres perfection in the imperfections

[@SeekCommunityPodcast]

LOL My mans Chris talking about women with oversized sunglasses was like "are we going on a spaceship??????" 😂😂😂

[@lisameline262]

Lol

[@stardustring]

I was once negative that's because I was broken hurt I was miserable ,but I started to work on myself you have to do the work nobody can do it for you. I'm in a better place with myself.

[@CassiesCreolecuisinefusion]

I learned once you practice self care internally and physically, you'll attract the right guy. I really like this video, thank you for sharing!

[@heatherdavis3793]

Is nobody concerned that these two men are advising women to become highly desirable first and foremost by “losing your stomach because it’s only meant to be there if you’re pregnant”? Baffling.

[@voguehaven5154]

well, i think the goal of having a body that you invested in by eating healthy and working out should matter to an individual. If a woman wants to invest in burgers and fries and have their stomach hanging to their knees, then that's on them. I also think women should have the expectation that men are also physically fit and masculine. Not a lot of women are attracted to beer bellies and obese men. It goes both ways.

[@brandonstandifer6005]

Most men don't want fat women if they can help it. Sorry

[@kristiebrooks4553]

Keep in mind, they are still young. Have a degree and now they know it all. Haven't even "lived" fully yet.

[@chocolatebabe8727]

absolutely and I'm glad someone brought that up

[@starkiller578]

@@kristiebrooks4553 your body matters kristie

[@davinepurpose3]

I really appreciate and value you gentlemen and your content, guests, transparency, passion, and conversation. I listen all the time while I am at work and I have gained and learned a great deal. Please continue and stay encouraged; you are providing a great service and gift to the world.

[@dawsan2135]

Thank you for this!! As women we need to learn to accept feedback and aim to be better. Growth mindset should be something both men and women strive for. This is some valuable info.

[@LadyAngela678]

Why should I take relationship advice from 2 unmarried men?? 🤔

[@anthonywilliams855]

Cause they have sense

[@rickybobby9840]

Coaches don’t play

[@ailenetaveras940]

You sound hurt

[@erk44]

Good point

[@godsgirl7201]

🤣🤣🤣

[@SincerelyYona]

I cant w/ Chris && his side comments/goofiness 🤣🤣 lol.

[@khadija2fly]

Lol tacos

[@SinaAla]

If women are changing themselves to be better options, then men benefit too 💁🏾‍♀️

[@LaraOmar]

I LOVE to learn from men. Men and women are complementary and are meant to inspire and learn from each other. Yall do good work. On behalf of all growing, high value, learning women: never stop having these important conversations. more love to you guys

[@TalksWithYeisie]

Go to the gym and call me in six months 😂😂😂

[@meeshascuisine8278]

Ha! Lol

[@Itismytime-Amen]

💔😅😅😅😅

[@globalc3849]

Yep. Just have a flat fit stomach and do squats consistently. Simple.

[@Lantau23]

🤣🤣🤣

[@arielaava2102]

With my weight, it's more like call me in a year.

[@nina__bella]

As far as debt - I have $100k in student loan debt. I've paid off any other debt I have. Please be aware that when I get into a relationship, or marriage, I do not expect your ass to pay my bills. I'll handle that lol. Now if I get lucky and my husband is filthy rich (or better off than myself) and wants to help, cool, but you do NOT have to. I don't expect it.

[@Przepoczwarzenie]

Well yeah, till you can work it's okay, but problem raises when you get pregnant and you really want to be good present mother, not torn between child, work, housework, smiling, exercising to stay in shape, taking care for your mental health to stay calm bear your husbands and own stresses from work, and -of course - cooking. And sleep. Sometimes. Then it is really helpful when you don't have to work.

[@nina__bella]

@@Przepoczwarzenie Of course. But the way we're set up in California, we can't afford not to work lol.

[@Przepoczwarzenie]

@@nina__bella Unfortunately, it's rarely possible ever. I know one such well situated person.

[@Piinkciity0923]

Already married but always looking to improve 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻❤️

[@ln8396]

Good for you

[@Zswcde]

First time watching, and after being with my husband for 7 years I have to say this is extremely accurate ladies. Over the years you might slip in a category or two in different seasons, but these rules do not change married. Not everyone is going to accept the help but oh well. If you don’t have the discipline to work on these areas for yourself, then backsliding is inevitable once you get what you want.

[@sontawalters7747]

Ooooooouuuuu