8 Clear Signs You're Being Used, Not Loved

[@mfar3016]

1-partner has unrealistic expectations 2-they believe you (and the world) owes them 3-they treat you nicely in front of others but not when you’re alone 4-they’re not interested in you 5-it feels like you’re in a one sided relationship 6-it’s challenging to have hard conversations 7-they don’t respect your boundaries 8-the relationship feels stagnant

[@marypatton1122]

It is the same with religious organizations. They use us and require things from us but never reciprocate.

[@Thundercloud25]

Truth

[@jayhadcock8767]

You know in your heart no list needed 😌

[@calenajackson8772]

So true you always know

[@silviapinheiro4472]

I was married with a narcissistic partner for 26 years. Only when I began studying about toxic relationship, I became aware of what was happening. I am trying to heal and rebuild my life. God is blessing me. I thanks spiritually for bringing a divine justice.

[@araizabdulqayyum911]

Does he show avoidance of emotional attachment and total control in sexually, how u passed your 26yrs with him? What you felt in early signs and behavior changes in your relationships

[@consciouscitizen6211]

When my ‘healer-therapist’ husband of 14 years knew I had caught Lyme disease and was useless to him he abandoned me - in a foreign country. It’s been a long road to recovery. I’m still trying to understand all the ways he abused me.

[@ArthurLockwood-e8c]

Good luck to you and all the best for the future 🙏❤️ peace 🕊️

[@ashboom2175]

a lot of this rang true, they treat you like an opponent and any concern is met with hostility rather than being on a team together. there's no regard or space held for your feelings and it's only about their wants and needs. it's unfortunate but when you go from being used to being with someone who truly loves it's only that much more beautiful ✨

[@SLLiberty23]

Narcissists will destroy you mentally, spiritually, emotionally and financially. You’ll become someone you’re not until you want to end your own life.

[@ClayManIon]

Narcissists will see this and judge others. A normal human being will see this and self reflect.

[@chellotrevino7323]

@@ClayManIon my boi 🦍😤

[@natherahkarim7146]

Ye aku tengah cari otrg lain jadi pasanganaku ygblh memahamiaku lebih dritu

[@Thundercloud25]

@@chellotrevino7323Hmm your a narcissist yourself 😂

[@chellotrevino7323]

@@Thundercloud25 how what I do ?? 😆

[@DailyDoseFromAmber]

You can still observe something and have your feelings about something. I've been with a narcissist that does stuff that's horrible but if I say anything I'm judging. Seems like narcissists use anything you say or do to their disrespect is the problem or them feeling disrespected when it's really an accident. But narcissists will also use that to their advantage by acting like it's an accident when it's not. There's the narcissist that rages and the one that makes you rage/explode from the manipulation

[@idahamidah2211]

This is my 3 months relationship looked like. I can say it's one-sided, because he gave minimum effort for us. It's very exhausting to be the only one who fight for everything. Now I try to collect my self and life back.

[@janestafford4403]

Agree with him as I am doing now. When he says , "Oh sure, everything is my fault". Agree with him. Say yes it is all your fault. I'm glad to hear you finally admit it". The narcissist has no practiced come back to that comment.

[@chellotrevino7323]

Narcissistic Individuals do this all the time ❤️

[@lovestreet2675]

Yes this describes my mother. 🥺

[@maureenperry1169]

Your damned if you do and damned if you don't.

[@charlesbruner4358]

*you're

[@MK57913]

Not in a relationship but i had a friend who did these things. I cut off this person once my mental health was on the verge and God showed me their true face. I just wanna put it out there that, if u have such a person even as a friend (or related to u in any form) then LEAVE them ASAP. I know it sounds tough to do at the moment but trust me ur life gets better, physical and mental health start to improve. U WILL SEE AN EXTRAORDINARY IMPROVEMENT IN OVERALL LIFE --- WITHOUT THEM --- YES U are reading this right WITHOUT THEM. U GOT THIS...

[@XavierWolfe-h8f]

Listen here cuz, I already understand what I need to do

[@None888.]

Just separated from my wife of 14 years...she hits everythimg on this list....feel a giant weight lifted

[@AmandaOwen-n9r]

This could be applied to any relationship, family friend, or partner.

[@TammyKilby-n8f]

I was used never had love they were fake this is so true

[@Mike-ib7um]

This video just described a narcissist and 90% of people nowadays.

[@BNyaB]

👏👏👏👏

[@do9138]

If someone takes your money, never pays it back, and gives you nothing in return, they are using you. I know. People have done it to me throughout my life because I want to help my "friends." Being helpful prints WELCOME on your back and turns you into a doormat. I'm done. No on will ever get one red cent from me again. They can starve before I will let them use me.

[@XavierWolfe-h8f]

Wow, at least I know how to use something other than comments for messages and talk

[@EvelynSierra-q3i]

You are describing my husband 100% after 24 years of marriage, devoted, mother and wife first responder 2 autistic adult children he decides to serve me with divorce papers: the best thing that could’ve happened to me now he’s taking half of the 401(k) and my pension. He almost got me locked up. Accuse me of fraud and almost made me homeless in 2020 his narcissistic behavior bloomed.

[@TessaGeorge-ys9ze]

Omg sign number 3 was my last person. Everytime we were around other people he would put on an act and people will say, "I love the way he looks at you" ❤️ but when we get along he pute through hell and so much emotional abuse and trying to see other women behind my back 😢. So glad and proud that I walk away from that piece of crap and learn to love myself

[@sophiachin1262]

They usually always take and never give often ignore or abandon you tell lies n sleep around... look you know when someone mistreat u because energy doesn't lie the relationship will be full of sorrow and pain not joy, love, comfort and progress. Once they get what they want they ghost. Pray for a true spouse and for protection and healing. Don't focus on the person you must move on to a healthy partner. Organize yourself and forward. Do self-improvement and try again but DO NOT repeat same pattern of toxic person. Few Red flags fly... thenleave...

[@Epictrophy]

Thank you so much for sharing these signs.

[@VictoriaValenciano-d9r]

Yes. Narcissist individuals

[@DailyDoseFromAmber]

I have always been someone taken advantage of and I've noticed people seem to act like being flustered or irritated is worse than being passive aggressive or doing something that should cause irritation and if you show irritation your the problem 😂 a narcissist will make how you put the toilet paper on a problem but when they half ass something and you say anything to them your causing the problem.

[@donnahaynes138]

Toxic family members do this all the time

[@lovestreet2675]

This describes my mother. 🥺

[@atum497]

This describes my daughter

[@MercyFull-k8b]

He plays hot and cool

[@XavierWolfe-h8f]

First thing is is people should never have a preconceived notion that they know everything. a person realizes that they don't know everything that makes them teachable

[@PatriciaMahaffy]

Must read so we can find loving balance with responsiblities and respecting boundaries.Need good conversations and a few dates together in person that are real .

[@TimKerman]

Very helpful thankyou

[@VirgelLaguraz-z7y]

Thanks Ma'am

[@christineMaccallum-uo3qx]

Quote One is only used when one has something Some one.is not used when have nothing to entertain or give sorry 😔 I

[@Wolfmangoodmanll]

Yeah that's happened to me before where my ex girlfriend franchine was a user and a cheater, she would be smothering a lot where she'd be acting I don't wanna talk to her everytime I come home from tiring days,from work days as I'm exhausted she would fault for something she would misunderstand therefor as far as embarrassing me in public she has done that except made me repeat myself front of my mother about her not listening and making things difficult for me before I broken up with her...she would leave out her mom's house then come to mine to hid from her cause she didn't wanna talk to her mom she called mine wondering where she is as that was causing problems, I had to let her go after that it was too much for me.

[@yesnarcissist1705]

All these things I do and I don’t even know why? I don’t want him but he keeps emotionally crying and stopping me when i breakup then I get sucked in again and all these in cycle repeats.

[@rosepetals8181]

GOD BLESS YOU ALL🙏✝️💝😇

[@Airicalchemy]

I know, all the things that are going through my phone into hers. She is an author of my life without my consent. All over the sake of a chance for her to be the same and I'm not. She isn't able to keep anything out of me knowing. I don't know how she did it but I know she is the one who is willing to and will be fine with me taking it all back. The proof is strong.

[@AreolaGold]

My brothers said to never go past a man’s energy so I don’t get too excited n I don’t really let myself go in deep cuz that’s where I go wrong n don’t see red flags n yeah. Wish I knew earlier but I sure learned it hurt but id rather hurt now then to have my whole life upside down on account of my inability to see him as not good for me.

[@Minibabyface]

She literally just called me and asked to pay her bill 😆 not even 5 minutes ago this video was ment to be

[@SAMSUN21]

I love women as long as I’m not living with them or married to them. I can walk away anytime time and lose nothing.

[@CindyJoosten-d9j]

If they put family friends any other person besides you up front then they do not love you

[@francoiswigmore5224]

Very familiar 🙄

[@Sharedescape]

Yes I know red flags instantly, like people acting to see what you’ve learned, at work, in family, on WhatsApp 😂😂. Jokes on YOU! I got this!👊🏻

[@debralavorata546]

I'm never loved,used or not 💔😰

[@Chris-w7e]

Remove yourself immediately.

[@lizlearnedthehardway4663]

My gosh, every point in this video described me in my 28 year marriage. I spent years looking for glimmers of hope. My user was very nice to me in front of my family but treated me like trash in front if his family who knew his ways perfectly. I was just a means for him to accomplish his desires in life.

[@Deborah-b1c]

Victor Andrea from Jacksonville Florida has taken my rights as a senior citizen inm 70 yrs old and live in Missouri he torments me night and day help me

[@michaellejohnson6502]

Most men like this (there are women also) are Narcissists! No doubt!

[@LarkRoland]

He's that way omg yes

[@rubyhobuck2101]

I am not about to get myself into this never i don't need that kind of relationship I am not in love I am aware I was used and abused but those days are over noove and no giving I don't need this person no this person isn't for me I should caught on to this person alot sooner I should saw that red flag but it's OK I am over this person I have moved on I have giving this person many chances this person only wants money ih well gess what I have someone else that loves me more than I could ever imagine I am so loved now I see the real world I am so blessed and god is so good no more using me that is over thanks to god 👍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏😇😊😇😊😇😊

[@Ash90-j4v]

Exactly

[@PatriciaMahaffy]

For me to share with you.I can’t meet your every need as you do that yourself and put in the hard work these challenges as you have your own set of tools and can’t be using mine all the time.Mine are all pink handled and yours are blue handled and then there are the purple handled ones that can be used by both .

[@TammyKilby-n8f]

I doubt it will help😅

[@VitalOrder]

Very common 😅

[@khanjanki8207]

Amen

[@saviourawudzi5244]

If you're being used, how do we care? u chosed to so keep it to yourself

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@Mia1827]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Mia1827]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Mia1827]

he is father obah eze, he has great powers, he can help you.

[@vivianMarvin-z6k]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive Wow I just looked Father Obah Eze on the net he’s very legit thanks once again ❤

[@Lrgiffin]

You know what my girlfriend's using me she don't love she get always she wants

[@ConnieWilsonbricks101]

The relationship is definitely one sided and he wants more than I can give while he gives nothing to the relationship.

[@AnnaStClair-je6ff]

Shakespeare did not say Expectation is the root of all heartache". Its crass. Shakespeare did not write such rubbish. Who on earth is the person making such a ridiculous assertion?

[@katicainci1197]

😢

[@karenevans9152]

Mr Jeckle..Mr Hyde…NARCISSIST…🖤

[@Rody9261]

Funny how this is set up to blame the guy for everything, make 1 for the woman causing the issues and then you may be onto something!

[@rogfromthegarage3143]

All of the slideshow videos show the man as the bad one.

[@InnaPomerleau]

Problems if somebody put nois in my life make control to my husband and block my email to my man

[@HiddenJewelz]

So its best to use them to your advantage

[@LastMinuteMinistry]

Jesus will never use you. He was abused for your salvation and healing ❤✝️🙌

[@holacomoestas_imERICA.520]

😒🫥

[@JesusfavQueen]

People are not Jesus. No one should ever expect the pure unconditional love that Jesus offers. If you bring fake love to someone that Jesus truly loves then you will regret it! Not them. Bottom line

[@agaming5915]

Don't create a hype about narcissist, everyone knows who are real narcissistic n who are not, u guys are just sick, next time discover a new word to let others down because it really just not worked, got it

[@renobrandt1533]

The concept of the video was excellent, however, the gender discrimination and false pretense that this is only a "woman" problem is completely deplorable and clearly sends the wrong message. Sorry but as a psychologist I have to give this one a thumbs down.