8 easily missed autistic traits in women

[@sarahb2652]

Through watching your video's Kim, as well as Mom on the spectrum and Crappy Childhood Fairy, they have all led me to the point I am now, which is finally getting assessed and diagnosed as Autistic at the end of September this year. I was already diagnosed previously with anxiety, depression, CPTSD but could never work out the triggers or the cause of all my struggles until I saw all your video's. Thank you so much for helping me finally understand myself at 51 years of age. I am processing so much now and it is a huge learning curve of ups and downs!!!, but I finally feel at ease with myself. I am so pleased to be neurodivergent, not a broken neurotypical which is how I have felt my whole life. Keep up the awesome work as it is helping so many of us.🧡👍😊🙏

[@EmpathsProvidence2]

I am going to get an assessment because I know I am. It will explain SO MANY THINGS! ❤ I am 56. Thank you for sharing.

[@deec411]

I'm heartbroken that due to untreated ADHD with autistic traits, I saw my children's school years as something to "get thru" rather than enjoying and savoring the moments and experiences. They are now 23 and 20. My son is struggling with career choices and my daughter has gone no contact. The shame and guilt is overwhelming. 😢😢😢

[@chrisrogers8033]

this is one of the most important and most neglected topics in mental health discussions. i'm so glad there is ample support for children who experienced trauma. where is support for parents in crisis or families as a whole? and in the aftermath, a parent's regrets are real and painful and need to be grieved.

[@iloveFreedom.]

Dont know if this helps, Dee.. as an ex teacher, lived in various places...with various " families" ...the school system wasn't set up to support you and it takes a whole community to bring children up. I strongly feel we choose our parents for all kindsa reasons... they know you did your best, deep down, we all do at the time... and cherishing moments is what we have now You were there every day feeding and giving shelter I'm sure. Much more besides. ❤ be gentle with yourself she'll understand in time ❤❤❤ ( as a girl who went no contact with her mum, now aged 55) we learnt to accept eachother Some families shift and change but nothing will stop you loving ❤ And Being Loved ❤

[@deec411]

@ Thank you so much. she did send me a Happy Birthday text so I have hope for a reconciliation 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@Lynee5290]

The heartbreak and grieving for what could have been is so real 😢 My own story very much like yours. So many day to day memories of my 3 children growing up I can’t even remember, looking back I was existing in constant survival mode. My son doesn’t contact me at all, I have grandkids I’ve never met. 68 years old and going for a formal ADHD assessment in a few days. Take care….❤

[@deec411]

@ You too. thanks for sharing 🙏🏻

[@AshleyReneeVlog]

Thank you for this video! I am self diagnosed autistic and I waited all year to get in for an assessment. It turned out the psychologist was only using the standard stereotypical male model of testing. She attributed everything to my CPTSD and depression. I felt so gaslit and embarrassed. Your video came at the right time ❤️

[@Sarah-with-an-H]

This is part of why I'm not going to get assessed but also the prejudice that will inevitably happen.

[@nellpulaski4919]

Same. I'll be 69 next week. Only shared with a few people. Get more validation and support here. Thank you ❣️

[@violetgypsie]

I went through an autism support organization to try and find a psychologist who would asses me. They gave me a list of psychologist and I called the first female one in my area. Her first question was, why at my age (late 50s) would I want or need a diagnosis. I was completely shocked by this. I assumed being a female that another female would be more understanding and approachable. Fast forward, I found a male psychologist who had more experience assessing adult female autism. Shop around, phone interview before booking an assessment. It’s your life and your health. PS my female family doctor also tried to talk me out of being autistic after I told her I scored 98% on the ASPIE quiz and very high in other screening quizzes. I asked her point blank if she knew what autism was and she said, well I’m not an expert. She has never heard of the ASPIE quiz. I said, I’ve already booked a professional assessment with a psychologist.

[@flyygurl18]

It has been a wonderful ourney of self discovery; our journeys are almost parallel and your work has been so integral in mine ...Thank you Dr Kim 🥰

[@nannywhumpers5702]

I'm self diagnosed, waiting for an appointment with the doctor for a diagnosis. I just flat out told the dentist, cause after my husband passed, I've gotten so bad at masking in high stress situations. It worked out, I didn't try to not cry, not fidget and just let me be what I needed to. For the first time ever, I didn't get sick for a day or three after seeing the dentist. Interesting results.

[@EugeniaPortobello]

Listening to you I realized the amount of guilt I always felt for being so "high maintenance", so picky. I've been angry at myself for it. Of course, this ties up perfectly to the fact that I'm female who is also highly atractive and always had a personal style that got me praise, all to say, I fit the "high maintenance" stereotype. But, nope, just austistic, a life consumed by sensory issues. Thank you so much for your work ❤

[@brideofchristbam726]

Holy moly, great balls of fire. Never felt more explained, in my life. Thank you 💓

[@SCHMW]

I'm getting assessed on February ❤ I'm ADHD but self diagnosed autistic too

[@RebeccaDakin]

I’m only recently connecting a lot of the dots thank you so much for sharing you’re invaluable content ❤

[@DrKimSage]

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[@jocelynthomas5104]

Thank you for sharing this news is so so so important! I love you!!! Brilliant.

[@annabelle_michelle]

I love The Thought Spot

[@marijabu]

I strongly suspect that I am on the spectrum. Born premature and highly sensitive, I have experienced many of the symptoms you list. I often feel so awkward. My therapist believes my symptoms are due to my CPTSD alone. I wish I could get tested.

[@reneedevry4361]

Thank you for continuing to produce these excellent videos when you must be obviously stress over your physical health at the moment. At least if the cheek is itchy, that is a sign that it is healing well. I want to be able to go to a Concert for Dimash. All my attempts at attending ballet, musicals or shows have failed miserably. Do you know of a drug that can safely shut down our sensory issues for a day or 2???😢

[@MaynardsSpaceship]

4:40 Hah!! I'm doing that now. Its so soothing to me and makes me feel like it helps me think. I often wonder if it mimics the feeling of being in my mother's womb...

[@jocelynthomas5104]

This is so on point!!!!

[@Goingwitheflow]

Raging sensory issues…

[@DrKimSage]

It’s so overwhelming right?💔🙏🏻🩷

[@Sarah-with-an-H]

@@DrKimSage would you say there's possibly a connection between migraines and autism. I took note a long time ago that there's a connection between sensory overload and migraines.

[@Daily_Bread84]

I am not sure if people think I am high maintanence but I can relate to the rigid need of things being a certain way. My said I want to have thing my way all the time though. This led me to stop voicing these needs.

[@setthetone6187]

I would love to access your videos more deeply. Would you consider time stamping?? I don't always have time to watch front to back, even though I want to :((❤

[@cupofteawithpoetry]

Thank you Dr Kim 🙏

[@KellySmith-rj3lu]

✨🕯️✨thank you, so helpful. ✨🪷✨

[@julietauscher5963]

Sweatshirt link please 🙏 I do think I have autism/adhd but I'm learning to honor myself with somatic coaching

[@DrKimSage]

Omg I love these that is why I have 3 of them and it’s all I’m wearing lol- they are from hollister and so soft! Would never usually go there but was shopping with my daughter❤love that you’re honoring yourself!!👏👏👏❤

[@julietauscher5963]

@ thank you I just ordered 3 also. 80's forever ❤️

[@uniquelyyounutritionalbioc1838]

I am disgusted with the psychiatric medical community. I was diagnosed with everything else. It started with OCD and ended with Rapid Cycling bipolar which doesn't even exist because that is complex PTSD. I was so obviously autistic but I was never diagnosed properly and instead was blamed for autistic behaviors that I could not help. My mother thought I was having temper tantrums when I was having autistic meltdowns. I am beyond angry at my mother and the medical community and especially psychiatrists for my life. Psychiatry blamed me four things I could not help as I was autistic. But the last 50 years of Psychiatry have been complete bulshit where the psychiatrists blame the children for what the parents caused and for what genetics did. I personally think that psychiatrists should be banned from the medical community and never allowed to practice again because none of them ever got anything right ever. I had to diagnose myself and then prove it. I hate psychiatrists they are the narcissistic idiots of the medical world

[@dawnb8906]

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[@reneedevry4361]

💯% ditto but only 45 years of idiocy for me.👍

[@rynfiaryn]

My first experience with a psychiatrist has been great. He listens to me and when I mentioned I might be autistic, he gave me a screening test right away. I scored very high and he just said, with a genuine smile, "Yeah, you probably are on the spectrum!" He has been great with my ADHD as well. And he recommends supplements and and suggests ways to change my thinking and behavior alongside prescribed medication, which is really cool, as well as explaining to me how the meds actually work. Plus he knows I'm poor, so he gives me discounted appointments. Not all psychiatrists are bad.

[@tetragrammaton3293]

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[@ES11777]

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