9 23 23 HealthyGamer GG Talking w CDawgVA! !coaching !guide !workshop !resources

[@joshua_daniel2785]

We need dr.k to be in trash taste podcast. That’d be so interesting to watch

[@bzipoli]

sucks they only do it in person. but i think it can eventually be arranged. there's a bunch of topics on mental health i think i would be great for the TT community if he talked with the boys on the pod imo

[@Caffaim36]

​@@bzipoli probably due to how busy doc is it wouldn't be coming anytime soon, most of the trash taste guest either lives in japan or visiting at that moment.

[@anahelenaragao]

I agree

[@dantelenister3503]

1:36:20 - When you choose an innocent looking dialog option in a game and trigger the bad ending.

[@IonizedComa]

Fr that came out left field🤣

[@bazookatooth]

surely thats just a britishism outof place? I feel like that phrase in that scenario is never meant to be as sincere as healthygamerGG guy took it

[@Jibash]

Surprisingly the bad ending was the best and most conclusive one

[@elliotw.888]

​@@bazookatoothI wonder how much of the indebtedness has to do with British culture vs being something innate in Connor

[@themantsang]

@@elliotw.888mix of both the culture itself creates it

[@Ddos2212]

So if Connor solves his emotions through actions imagine how grateful he must feel for mouse if he feels like he has to do these big charities

[@klatonb]

The spirit bomb of indebtedness

[@erickpalacios8904]

Acts of service is the way he shows his love (emotion)? 😅

[@SeresHotes25]

Even if you say that he feels very indebted to her or feels pity, those feelings coexist with love and gratefulness to her. And to say that he does charities just because he wants to stop "bad" feelings is unfair.

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Or maybe is his perfect excuse to be a role model and good guy

[@julianprofas]

oh wow, I didn't even think of it like that

[@uKoalele]

never seen Connor in such a ''raw'' way. I really appreciate his braveness to be open and vulnerable with dr. k - great episode!

[@iciclearms]

We got raw dawg'd

[@alemsinatrya7991]

​@@iciclearmsdont say it like that 😭

[@SpyralKing]

What's really brave I don't think is being vulnerable with Dr.K but rather with the whole of the internet watching lol

[@thatBigfuu]

@@SpyralKing he is british so this is a big thing

[@0minousity]

"paying off the debt of being a kid" hit so hard

[@shutdahellup69420]

fr that shit hit like a truck..

[@funtowngames1523]

Id say that it might not be just that, personally i would also feel regret in the future if i dont do things for people i care about when i can. Also just plainly wanting to do good things for people you care about in general.

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

hits harder when your family memebers keep telling you to K.Y.S. and how it would have been better if you d^ed at birth/or were never born/or being a burden/or holding you accountable for mistakes you did when you were clueless kid even after years passed. trust me guys dont worry my family is loving family i swear

[@cngotham4111]

​@@btchiaintkidding7837why would you feel indebted to your parents if they didn't do anything for you as a kid?

[@deadlypotatoangel]

First and foremost, nobody forced your parents to make kids. It was their choice to birth you and their responsibility to raise you well. So, you shouldn't feel like you constantly owe them and need to repay some "debt" to them. Secondly, you think children of toxic/abusive parents should feel "indebted" too? I highly doubt that.

[@jeggalicious]

1:36:20 love it when Dr. k is just perplexed, and his face shows it. "Kind???"

[@denisethiel8981]

Dr K: We're gonna practice, you can't say anything nice (about me). Gives compliments. Connor immediately: I appreciate that. Thank you.

[@jonahcahill2498]

But see, he didn’t anything nice about Dr. K, he was expressing gratitude towards him vs. Responding with “you’re so kind”. He did good.

[@chubomikz7104]

There's a difference between gratitude and feeling the need to pay back those compliments in response, which is what Connor did before and what Dr. K was getting at. I didn't follow why he reacted to Connor calling him "kind" that way before, but it made sense when he explained it.

[@imibukai6929]

I really started crying when he asked him if he was a good son. That shit hit home because I know I haven’t been one since as long as I can remember.

[@TheChannel110]

Sending figurative hugs because that just hurts

[@Diabellze]

my dad passed away a few days after we had an ugly argument when i was in early highschool because i was a shitty little kid, i didn't get a chance to apologize to him and still can't forgive myself 6 years later today.

[@imibukai6929]

@@Diabellze I’m 100% sure your father was thinking the same at the time. All I can say is to keep moving forward. Not for him but for you. It’s what he would have wanted. 💘

[@Diabellze]

@@imibukai6929 thanks dude, i appreciate you alot.. hope you're doing great 🫰

[@McSireson]

@@Diabellze The best thing you can do is move forward, and keep being a good person. The fact that you feel this remorse and regret, shows that you are good. Just gotta keep going and not be stuck blaming yourself.

[@BasicYutuber]

1:03:56 I feel like I felt Connor holding his urge to say the, "there are two wolves inside me" meme lmao or am I just projecting?

[@rddxy1700]

💀💀

[@sandenson]

It looks to me like he was in the zone and didn't think about it, but he uses that meme so often that I wouldn't be surprised if he did think about it lol

[@Dekarowski25]

Doctor K:"Do you have title in your job?" Connor: "Monkee" 🤣

[@John_Cide]

Connor is such a nice guy. I'm glad to see him so open with this.

[@AfrinorchyOrchy]

plz don't like more

[@skillquestion3482]

@@AfrinorchyOrchy was it 123?

[@danielcorpus3218]

Connor will become unstoppable when he accesses all of his emotions conscious of (and accepting of) why he feels them and leverages his ability to always want more from himself by his own informed choice.

[@HelloyouTheSmiley]

hes such a great guy. and its crazy to me really that these things are seemingly the only problems he deals with. so absolutely yes

[@Lyntrea]

it is really beautiful to see Connor open up and allow himself to be vulnerable. I really enjoyed watching this. I finished Garnt and Mouse's interviews as well and I am just gonna blast through all the videos on this channel because I find it all so fascinating. My therapist has helped me realize a lot of things as well that are similar, and I love seeing people's perspectives open up in similar ways

[@forklauncher]

Mouse is expected to have a new one some time soon. It was supposed to be yesterday but got delayed, so look forward to that.

[@princekatana8792]

Did she get one, I tried searching for a vod but wasn't able to turn anything up@@forklauncher

[@carl49785]

@@forklauncher Was there ever a second interview?

[@forklauncher]

@@carl49785 With Mouse, sadly no. There was one scheduled but it got postponed indefinitely.

[@skelecvnt]

connor seems like such a sweet man im happy this community has his positive presence

[@SeresHotes25]

This was one of the most useful session for me. Being unaware of my own emotions really holds me back a lot of times

[@lazylazerrsp8781]

Love how you know exactly when the core theme is uncovered when near the end, the "any new questions we haven't covered" and Connor mentions that he's curious why his anger issues disappeared despite it being readily apparent in their formative years. Only for the metaphorical nerve to be struck when it's recontextualized as it being transformed from external shows of anger into internal judgement and shame for not being good enough. Going from angry at external stimuli to becoming angry at yourself. The perceived imbalances in social interactions where the gratitude you feel the more you must reciprocate it to clear the debt, a debt which makes you angry for being inadequate. The chronic thought to improve since otherwise you're stagnating or even reverting to a worst state. All of it viewed from the new perspective that the anger isn't gone it's just been turned inward after the realization that it was an ugly emotion to be ashamed of. The target of anger changing was what birthed the need to improve and/or optimize everything from social interactions to behavior and even to quality of work. Connor was going through the motions, as if answering a series of surveys each one giving a general theme for a plan of actions. The general theme being to sit and stew with your emotions, identify where you can, and acknowledging what you will do next before you do so. Just recognizing that you feel an emotion before you proceed and not to outright ignore them. Then Connor offhand mentions his unusual lack of anger, and it being rephrased as the source of his shame and guilt since he's angry at himself for not meeting expectations he himself perceives to exist. Tldr, Connor's anger being the source of the majority of his issues being revealed near the end was great, and so is the metaphorical light bulb going off when both of them connect the dots!

[@michaldobrzyn]

I've never been to therapy but if it is this effective then I'm all in. All it takes is to be introspective and accept suggestions. I can do that.

[@UnrestingSpirit]

It can be a great tool but going into it for the first time it's a good idea to keep in mind that you may not meet the right therapist for you from the get go, and it's fine to try someone else. There are also different styles and approaches that work for different people.

[@lupolinar]

You have to be lucky to get a therapist who gives a damn, otherwise you waste time and money.

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Therapy isn’t this direct, the dr is speeding things up here.

[@tyrabjurman3584]

This is not therapy, this is a conversation on the internet.

[@michaldobrzyn]

@@tyrabjurman3584 Still more therapeutic than anything I've ever experienced. Would it make a difference if it wasn't on the internet?

[@poisitivity]

This was super helpful, the indebted vs gratitude and the blaming ourselves and feeling guilty part is so useful to identify.

[@Jellooze]

"Everybody is a little bit scuffed in some way " That is words to live by

[@ShojoSen]

Seeing Connor have one or two similar issues I have, really helps me feel like its not just me, its nice to know honestly ^^

[@Noobphobic]

the ultimate crossover

[@wvin8849]

the ultimate crossover monk vs monke

[@LiamT888]

Thanks for this vod. Keep up the good work!

[@mllewhimsy1161]

WOW Garnt and now Connor. We getting blessed

[@S3verance]

Has he seen Joey yet?

[@fernandotrevinocastro1018]

33yo and just starting therapy, Is like finding a guide for that 90s game you never could pass level 1, but for my life.

[@dividiastorm]

just now seeing this due to a clipping channel, but I resonate so much with connor when it comes to how he feels about caring how people he cares about viewing him, how he should hang out with his friends and make more friends but it's also exhausting. It's a huge struggle.

[@unownnnn]

God, I relate so much to Connor and always feel incompetent when I feel like i'm not giving a good enough answer. I'm getting help now but it always feels good to see someone I watch suffer with something similar

[@jimpickens5936]

25:31 I get this soo much. I don’t have a lot of friends and I unconsciously only give people who tick all the boxes on my unconscious “standards” list a chance. It’s not that I look down on others it’s just if someone ticks enough boxes I can be 90 per cent sure we’ll get along and can talk about whatever

[@meeese6_]

dude i appreciate the reupload. twitch is trash on my internet and I've been wanting to rewatch the stream

[@arashi1ryoma1]

Connor thank you for sharing, I don’t know about Joey but definitely similar to how Garnt feel about anger and being self critical in order to improve. Love them and wish they can stay true to themselves

[@CyAA-ri2us]

i love how all three have this same sort of "um.." tone and frequency when they're asked something difficult and serious.

[@Golgibaby]

Timestamp: 01:22:33 Solution: 1) articulate emotion 2) process, integrate emotion, without action. Emotion is information. No fixing.

[@averlinbc5680]

What I found funniest about this is, I’m autistic and female, and I think i have a very similar experience with suppressing emotion ….because often as a teenager when I had an outburst, it was seen as an overreaction to a very mundane thing so ….I thought that getting angry or distressed over something meant that I was being childish or immature, ….but it was being overwhelmed because I had be suppressing or not noticed the emotions before they got real bad, and if I’d excepted them earlier, and process them, I wouldn’t of had a freak out. So while I perceive that it as just immaturity, which it was, it was an in maturity of NOT being in touch with my emotional state, rather than being immature, because I threw a tantrum. That was just how it ended because I’ve been suppressing my emotions. Like putting the lid on a boiling pot. Eventually it’s gonna spill over if you don’t have something to break the surface tension continuously.

[@sandenson]

As someone who's not autistic, I relate to that so much. So often I'm doing perfectly fine and feel good, then someone will approach me about something and I'll lash out. Whenever that happens and I think back on the moment, I usually find me asking myself "Why did I act like that?" and being unable to answer it. I need to think about the emotions that I might not be in touch with and how to deal with them.

[@AfrinorchyOrchy]

​@@sandensonas someone who isn't sure who autistic I am very manipulative and I watch dr k to be better at it

[@jorgeperez2872]

He feels so guilty on vulnerability by being judged by others for crying, even if he thinks is completetly natural is insane.

[@peach_total]

1:10:53 i’m most likely projecting but this plus connor always feeling like he needs to pay people back and be a positive influence etc KINDA feels like he doesn’t have a lot of internal self-worth and there’s a need for him to constantly be producing value for other people instead of recognizing his own innate value as a human being

[@YourPalA.D]

connor is literally an MC in a every story chad

[@sayantanmazumdar3]

Everyone should aspire to be the MC of their own story.

[@isaiahdanz3308]

Basically Connor only allows his good nature to express himself to avoid the consequences of not having solid boundaries. He’s captain America, always reliable, for the sake of never establishing his own will on life. Unlike the character of Iron man (tony stark) who only allows his bad nature (bad man side) to express to enforce boundaries but struggles to open his heart to those who care about him. Basically, Connor is a good guy who deeply no longer just wants to be a good guy, but also establish his boundaries, his frame for people to respect. He wants boundaries that are respected by others.

[@Dat_Stoner_Kidd]

The doctor will now examine a monke

[@lissamerida2950]

i felt this episode to my core, i appreciate Connor a bit more now, he's a great person

[@RenevousAssasin]

This is the enlightment timeline! Gotta love it!

[@bijoychandraroy]

Connor is the most unaware aware person I've ever seen

[@dreambigprod.7141]

what does this mean

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

​@@dreambigprod.7141 imagine a guy who knows he is getting scammed on a product due to it being overpriced but still buys it cuz he doesnt wanna haggle

[@isaachester8475]

@@dreambigprod.7141 exactly

[@dhyanalva4752]

​@@dreambigprod.7141as he mentioned in the video, he does tend to notice when things go wrong or if hes uncomfortable but cant quite figure out the reason

[@JohntheSpyCrab]

​@@dhyanalva4752it's like knowing the answer to a question you don't fully understand

[@KillerTacos54]

I relate so much to Connor’s introverted side. I’ve never resonated so much with people

[@MeMoshRocks]

Connor learns how to be angry in a healthy way. I see this as a precursor to his viral "we need to talk about the Ironmouse situation" video.

[@Golgibaby]

Timestamp: 55:58 The insight into how guilt and indebtedness in social relationships are strings pulling on behavioral control.

[@OffYourTopic]

I've never seen a Dr. K video before but now I'm kinda hooked. This was super interesting to watch.

[@jedsu7689]

5:49 - Dr K ga kita! 9:34 - Monkey appears!

[@inasinas226]

I feel like this is very private and we dont have any right to witness this. Gratefull for connor willing to share this out

[@mdyarma]

this was pretty cool to see. maybe the first of these interviews I've seen (I've seen a few but not that many tbh) that resonated with me personally.

[@Irond3vil2]

I have now seen every crossover I could not have predicted

[@jesther2575]

I wish I can have a therapist that talks in memes too

[@Random_Dante_]

Connor operates on its nice to be nice. Which is something I feel.

[@LelandJ71]

Thats interesting with the whole song and lyrics bit. All this time, all the people around me always listen to lyrics and recognize lyrics while i really listen and recognize the instruments, melody, etc.. nice to see others that hear the same

[@mateleacloverae]

Seconded, I'll only know the lyrics if I look them up and listen to the song many times while reading ...

[@shaggybaggums]

I wonder if that has anything to do with his aversion to cutscenes since there is often music playing as well as the dialogue.

[@lissurko5267]

Literally got teary eyed while watching this episode what the fuck Connor lol

[@DimstTalon]

I feel like Death Parade is an easy recommendation to Dr K. I think he would have a HELL of an amazing series on his hands if he started to do psychological breakdowns on shows. Or even had someone on that maybe is, intentionally chosen to with they idea of them being, a little less emotionally articulate to converse about it. somewhat in the same vein as the Cinema Therapy youtube channel.

[@OreoYoo]

Loved this episode. Thank you both!! 🙌🏻❤️

[@tropiginger]

I always thought Connor was a prime candidate for ending up in an abusive relationship. He'd give wayyy to much weight to someone else's out of control emotions and could be made to feel guilty for the other person's problems and demands, while making himself invisible emotionally and fully focused on "fixing things".

[@cngotham4111]

Im glad im not the only one i understand what conner is talking about with remebering lyrics. When im listening to music i understand whats being said and kinda the meaning but i cant remeber the lyrics for the life of me. The only time i can is when im literally writing down the lyrics and resaying them. But yes i can just go of singing my fovoeite songs as i forget the words and what not. So damn relatable lol.

[@Darnya_Ladera]

Thanks for posting this so fast, just finished watching the whole thing and realized it was an unofficial channel.

[@senh4944]

uff this whole interview hit hard ngl

[@michaelvashkin]

Absolute same. It felt like he was talking to me and I don't envy someone who could be in a relationship with me.

[@NullA1m]

Btw whole binary aspect was amazing to hear. I am a impulsive person and also feel things very strongly but I’m also logical. However when faced with complicated emotional events I tend to ping pong between two states, my heart and my head and make a impulsive decision. But now I understand to try too combine the two and make a choice like that.

[@j-mc2144]

This shit really just popped into my reccs when I was feeling bad about not wanting to go hang out with my friend.

[@RenardAgrume]

Now I want to see one with Joey too

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

he enjoyed high school he doesnt need therapy 😎

[@sugarkookiewithsometae4245]

​@@btchiaintkidding7837Wasnt he addicted?

[@Oceaniac]

Why has this not been uploaded to the official KZbin channel?

[@JeskidoYT]

Very good question

[@victoriakerr5130]

I feel bad about hanging out with friends just like Connor. I want to hangout, I would love to hangout even! But sometimes it just feels like so much and I don't have the spoons to make sure I'm meeting the expectations they have for me (that I've set for myself). I've been getting better slowly but surely

[@danielbudzynski]

Great chemistry

[@Nothin2C_1]

9:55 is why you came here for

[@LelandJ71]

???

[@麒麟麦酒-u5w]

no it's not

[@rileyjelinek3235]

23:50 You need an asshole side because if you hold all your shit in, you are going to get hurt (i.e. be taken advantage of).

[@JC_WT]

Connor is such a wholesome dude 👍

[@viva_la_movies]

Boy I was praying for this after garnt's episode

[@tombulis3010]

waiting for the Joey episode next 😁 And one with aki and sydney

[@NevahLose]

He went along with raiding a Vtuber at the end...

[@katjaeye]

1:14:25 oh my god why are all of these issues so relatable 😅

[@lordofutub]

Why are you apologising? I'm British

[@lillia2724]

"Kind???" ".... Kind???" 🤣 I laughed at that so hard.

[@nooneinparticular3277]

27:05 Dr K's "tell me about it..." is so sassy hahahah

[@pepethefrog6809]

Yeah, I feel that, sometimes I wonder why it's so hard to just say thanks when being complimented, you gotta throw it back like a ping pong like Dr. K says. LOL

[@BallDestroyer3000]

Dayum, Connor has a lot of jumbled up things inside. He definitely could use more sessions.

[@sandenson]

It's so crazy that, despite regularly saying "You're actually very put together and doing pretty well", Dr. K still managed to find so much to address that resonated with Connor.

[@aiueokaya]

Thanks for the vods

[@em_pool]

I hope @CDawgVA talks more to this chap off camera

[@Xterminatorr]

You can't tell me Dr. K does not look identical to Joey Bizinger without facial hair.

[@kekofthecloest8115]

stream starts a 5:47

[@jerstumc5033]

love it when you do the foreign accent XD

[@logui113]

The "aversion to laziness" hit way too close home

[@bgill7475]

Thanks for posting this 🙂

[@joshuamatheny7072]

“Process the emotion without action” 1:24:00

[@LemonSte]

This man copy pasted ma brain

[@Celis.C]

1:59:12 - 1:59:26 Every politician's tactics right there.

[@supershiba8346]

1:36:20 - THE FUCK YOU MEAN "KIND" ?! 😂😂

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Connor fell in love with therapy

[@its_lapis_lazuli1277]

1:04:08 but in my perspective, is it not in a way that to try hard is how a good kid would be? Aren't I good because I try hard?

[@avoidtheloid]

Why is this video not on his official channel? Gonna download in case this gets taken too

[@victoriamarfina9819]

Cause it was recorded just on Friday, it will be uploaded on the official channel later, I guess.

[@SukacitaYeremia]

Usually takes them a week to upload on youtube. Maybe so that the VOD in twitch won't be pointless? Anyway, Garnt's Interview with Dr. K also had about a week between the livestream and the youtube upload

[@enialojuaenesra9282]

I encourage everyone to either find the original stream on twitch (it's also free to watch) or be patient for the official HealthyGamerGG upload. Support the original creator, not the unauthorized reuploads.

[@evieho7676]

I already am a huge fan of both of them. It was really beautiful to see Connor very raw and vulnerable because I'm so used of his consistent hilariousness. Also Dr. K as always shows you things from a different perspective that you might not have been able to see before. I can't wait to watch Gigguk, Mouse, and Asmongolds. These streams also help you even potentially learn something about yourself. I really dig these videos from Dr K and the people he brings on.

[@sharper9164]

I have the same problem for the song lyrics. I cant hear the words properly, like my brain focuses on the actual song not the lyrics.

[@himadima5240]

we LEARN from you

[@KillerTacos54]

I love this so much.

[@AllMyInkHybrid]

Yeah I never listen to lyrics, I know like the first line of twinkle twinkle little star. When I hear a melody, I cant focus on the lyrics, somehow the instrumental parts take over my focus, everytime. I can just assume some words that they are singing but then it turns out they never sang things like that 😂 I’ve got ADD part of adhd 🤔

[@deadonmain]

Its so funny when they started talking about anime recommendations haha

[@MrFiremagnet]

Gonna love their podcast after Joye visits Doctor K

[@snek6769]

Imagine the monk convo between garnt n dr k

[@skeetsmcgrew3282]

Kinda funny in a way to see just a pretty stable, quintessential male do one of these. Not to minimize Connor, but Dr. K started this channel cause, well gamers are fucked up lol

[@AntiqueDoll]

I have a guess as to why this isn't on Dr.K's main channel... That maybe Conner requested that the video don't go up because of the subject matters and how his emotions were in this "Dr.K talk". But I'm just guessing idk.

[@kimpanattoni]

As to the anime recommendation question you asked him, I wonder if you would be into some retro anime, or at least what a lot of people call retro.