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[@joshua_daniel2785]

We need dr.k to be in trash taste podcast. That’d be so interesting to watch

[@bzipoli]

sucks they only do it in person. but i think it can eventually be arranged. there's a bunch of topics on mental health i think i would be great for the TT community if he talked with the boys on the pod imo

[@Caffaim36]

​@@bzipoli probably due to how busy doc is it wouldn't be coming anytime soon, most of the trash taste guest either lives in japan or visiting at that moment.

[@dantelenister3503]

1:36:20 - When you choose an innocent looking dialog option in a game and trigger the bad ending.

[@IonizedComa]

Fr that came out left field🤣

[@bazookatooth]

surely thats just a britishism outof place? I feel like that phrase in that scenario is never meant to be as sincere as healthygamerGG guy took it

[@Jibash]

Surprisingly the bad ending was the best and most conclusive one

[@elliotw.888]

​@@bazookatoothI wonder how much of the indebtedness has to do with British culture vs being something innate in Connor

[@themantsang]

@@elliotw.888mix of both the culture itself creates it

[@Ddos2212]

So if Connor solves his emotions through actions imagine how grateful he must feel for mouse if he feels like he has to do these big charities

[@klatonb]

The spirit bomb of indebtedness

[@erickpalacios8904]

Acts of service is the way he shows his love (emotion)? 😅

[@SeresHotes25]

Even if you say that he feels very indebted to her or feels pity, those feelings coexist with love and gratefulness to her. And to say that he does charities just because he wants to stop "bad" feelings is unfair.

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Or maybe is his perfect excuse to be a role model and good guy

[@julianprofas]

oh wow, I didn't even think of it like that

[@uKoalele]

never seen Connor in such a ''raw'' way. I really appreciate his braveness to be open and vulnerable with dr. k - great episode!

[@iciclearms]

We got raw dawg'd

[@alemsinatrya7991]

​@@iciclearmsdont say it like that 😭

[@SpyralKing]

What's really brave I don't think is being vulnerable with Dr.K but rather with the whole of the internet watching lol

[@thatBigfuu]

@@SpyralKing he is british so this is a big thing

[@0minousity]

"paying off the debt of being a kid" hit so hard

[@shutdahellup69420]

fr that shit hit like a truck..

[@funtowngames1523]

Id say that it might not be just that, personally i would also feel regret in the future if i dont do things for people i care about when i can. Also just plainly wanting to do good things for people you care about in general.

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

hits harder when your family memebers keep telling you to K.Y.S. and how it would have been better if you d^ed at birth/or were never born/or being a burden/or holding you accountable for mistakes you did when you were clueless kid even after years passed. trust me guys dont worry my family is loving family i swear

[@cngotham4111]

​@@btchiaintkidding7837why would you feel indebted to your parents if they didn't do anything for you as a kid?

[@kayrinkaj]

First and foremost, nobody forced your parents to make kids. It was their choice to birth you and their responsibility to raise you well. So, you shouldn't feel like you constantly owe them and need to repay some "debt" to them. Secondly, you think children of toxic/abusive parents should feel "indebted" too? I highly doubt that.

[@jeggalicious]

1:36:20 love it when Dr. k is just perplexed, and his face shows it. "Kind???"

[@imibukai6929]

I really started crying when he asked him if he was a good son. That shit hit home because I know I haven’t been one since as long as I can remember.

[@CycleOfJudges]

And at this point ... I'll have to die a bad son. Cause they aren't around to see if I got better.

[@TheChannel110]

Sending figurative hugs because that just hurts

[@Diabellze]

my dad passed away a few days after we had an ugly argument when i was in early highschool because i was a shitty little kid, i didn't get a chance to apologize to him and still can't forgive myself 6 years later today.

[@imibukai6929]

@@Diabellze I’m 100% sure your father was thinking the same at the time. All I can say is to keep moving forward. Not for him but for you. It’s what he would have wanted. 💘

[@Diabellze]

@@imibukai6929 thanks dude, i appreciate you alot.. hope you're doing great 🫰

[@BasicYutuber]

1:03:56 I feel like I felt Connor holding his urge to say the, "there are two wolves inside me" meme lmao or am I just projecting?

[@rddxy1700]

💀💀

[@sandenson]

It looks to me like he was in the zone and didn't think about it, but he uses that meme so often that I wouldn't be surprised if he did think about it lol

[@denisethiel8981]

Dr K: We're gonna practice, you can't say anything nice (about me). Gives compliments. Connor immediately: I appreciate that. Thank you.

[@jonahcahill2498]

But see, he didn’t anything nice about Dr. K, he was expressing gratitude towards him vs. Responding with “you’re so kind”. He did good.

[@chubomikz7104]

There's a difference between gratitude and feeling the need to pay back those compliments in response, which is what Connor did before and what Dr. K was getting at. I didn't follow why he reacted to Connor calling him "kind" that way before, but it made sense when he explained it.

[@Dekarowski25]

Doctor K:"Do you have title in your job?" Connor: "Monkee" 🤣

[@ElCide]

Connor is such a nice guy. I'm glad to see him so open with this.

[@AfrinorchyOrchy]

plz don't like more

[@dakotorfinger]

connor seems like such a sweet man im happy this community has his positive presence

[@Noobphobic]

the ultimate crossover

[@wvin8849]

the ultimate crossover monk vs monke

[@Lyntrea]

it is really beautiful to see Connor open up and allow himself to be vulnerable. I really enjoyed watching this. I finished Garnt and Mouse's interviews as well and I am just gonna blast through all the videos on this channel because I find it all so fascinating. My therapist has helped me realize a lot of things as well that are similar, and I love seeing people's perspectives open up in similar ways

[@forklauncher]

Mouse is expected to have a new one some time soon. It was supposed to be yesterday but got delayed, so look forward to that.

[@princekatana8792]

Did she get one, I tried searching for a vod but wasn't able to turn anything up@@forklauncher

[@danielcorpus3218]

Connor will become unstoppable when he accesses all of his emotions conscious of (and accepting of) why he feels them and leverages his ability to always want more from himself by his own informed choice.

[@HelloyouTheSmiley]

hes such a great guy. and its crazy to me really that these things are seemingly the only problems he deals with. so absolutely yes

[@Jellooze]

"Everybody is a little bit scuffed in some way " That is words to live by

[@michaldobrzyn]

I've never been to therapy but if it is this effective then I'm all in. All it takes is to be introspective and accept suggestions. I can do that.

[@UnrestingSpirit]

It can be a great tool but going into it for the first time it's a good idea to keep in mind that you may not meet the right therapist for you from the get go, and it's fine to try someone else. There are also different styles and approaches that work for different people.

[@lupolinar]

You have to be lucky to get a therapist who gives a damn, otherwise you waste time and money.

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Therapy isn’t this direct, the dr is speeding things up here.

[@tyrabjurman3584]

This is not therapy, this is a conversation on the internet.

[@michaldobrzyn]

@@tyrabjurman3584 Still more therapeutic than anything I've ever experienced. Would it make a difference if it wasn't on the internet?

[@SeresHotes25]

This was one of the most useful session for me. Being unaware of my own emotions really holds me back a lot of times

[@ShojoSen]

Seeing Connor have one or two similar issues I have, really helps me feel like its not just me, its nice to know honestly ^^

[@mllewhimsy1161]

WOW Garnt and now Connor. We getting blessed

[@S3verance]

Has he seen Joey yet?

[@AsianOreoYo]

Loved this episode. Thank you both!! 🙌🏻❤️

[@lazylazerrsp8781]

Love how you know exactly when the core theme is uncovered when near the end, the "any new questions we haven't covered" and Connor mentions that he's curious why his anger issues disappeared despite it being readily apparent in their formative years. Only for the metaphorical nerve to be struck when it's recontextualized as it being transformed from external shows of anger into internal judgement and shame for not being good enough. Going from angry at external stimuli to becoming angry at yourself. The perceived imbalances in social interactions where the gratitude you feel the more you must reciprocate it to clear the debt, a debt which makes you angry for being inadequate. The chronic thought to improve since otherwise you're stagnating or even reverting to a worst state. All of it viewed from the new perspective that the anger isn't gone it's just been turned inward after the realization that it was an ugly emotion to be ashamed of. The target of anger changing was what birthed the need to improve and/or optimize everything from social interactions to behavior and even to quality of work. Connor was going through the motions, as if answering a series of surveys each one giving a general theme for a plan of actions. The general theme being to sit and stew with your emotions, identify where you can, and acknowledging what you will do next before you do so. Just recognizing that you feel an emotion before you proceed and not to outright ignore them. Then Connor offhand mentions his unusual lack of anger, and it being rephrased as the source of his shame and guilt since he's angry at himself for not meeting expectations he himself perceives to exist. Tldr, Connor's anger being the source of the majority of his issues being revealed near the end was great, and so is the metaphorical light bulb going off when both of them connect the dots!

[@LiamT888]

Thanks for this vod. Keep up the good work!

[@RoarTheRapper]

I love watching stuff like this because I usually feel residual emotions that I can relate to or I can work myself along the trail of conversation and get myself thinking!

[@fernandotrevinocastro1018]

33yo and just starting therapy, Is like finding a guide for that 90s game you never could pass level 1, but for my life.

[@bijoychandraroy]

Connor is the most unaware aware person I've ever seen

[@dreambigprod.7141]

what does this mean

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

​@@dreambigprod.7141 imagine a guy who knows he is getting scammed on a product due to it being overpriced but still buys it cuz he doesnt wanna haggle

[@isaachester8475]

@@dreambigprod.7141 exactly

[@dhyanalva4752]

​@@dreambigprod.7141as he mentioned in the video, he does tend to notice when things go wrong or if hes uncomfortable but cant quite figure out the reason

[@JohntheSpyCrab]

​@@dhyanalva4752it's like knowing the answer to a question you don't fully understand

[@RenevousAssasin]

This is the enlightment timeline! Gotta love it!

[@unownnnn]

God, I relate so much to Connor and always feel incompetent when I feel like i'm not giving a good enough answer. I'm getting help now but it always feels good to see someone I watch suffer with something similar

[@poisitivity]

This was super helpful, the indebted vs gratitude and the blaming ourselves and feeling guilty part is so useful to identify.

[@dividiastorm]

just now seeing this due to a clipping channel, but I resonate so much with connor when it comes to how he feels about caring how people he cares about viewing him, how he should hang out with his friends and make more friends but it's also exhausting. It's a huge struggle.

[@mdyarma]

this was pretty cool to see. maybe the first of these interviews I've seen (I've seen a few but not that many tbh) that resonated with me personally.

[@lissamerida2950]

i felt this episode to my core, i appreciate Connor a bit more now, he's a great person

[@meeese6_]

dude i appreciate the reupload. twitch is trash on my internet and I've been wanting to rewatch the stream

[@Darnya_Ladera]

Thanks for posting this so fast, just finished watching the whole thing and realized it was an unofficial channel.

[@isaiahdanz3308]

Basically Connor only allows his good nature to express himself to avoid the consequences of not having solid boundaries. He’s captain America, always reliable, for the sake of never establishing his own will on life. Unlike the character of Iron man (tony stark) who only allows his bad nature (bad man side) to express to enforce boundaries but struggles to open his heart to those who care about him. Basically, Connor is a good guy who deeply no longer just wants to be a good guy, but also establish his boundaries, his frame for people to respect. He wants boundaries that are respected by others.

[@averlinbc5680]

What I found funniest about this is, I’m autistic and female, and I think i have a very similar experience with suppressing emotion ….because often as a teenager when I had an outburst, it was seen as an overreaction to a very mundane thing so ….I thought that getting angry or distressed over something meant that I was being childish or immature, ….but it was being overwhelmed because I had be suppressing or not noticed the emotions before they got real bad, and if I’d excepted them earlier, and process them, I wouldn’t of had a freak out. So while I perceive that it as just immaturity, which it was, it was an in maturity of NOT being in touch with my emotional state, rather than being immature, because I threw a tantrum. That was just how it ended because I’ve been suppressing my emotions. Like putting the lid on a boiling pot. Eventually it’s gonna spill over if you don’t have something to break the surface tension continuously.

[@sandenson]

As someone who's not autistic, I relate to that so much. So often I'm doing perfectly fine and feel good, then someone will approach me about something and I'll lash out. Whenever that happens and I think back on the moment, I usually find me asking myself "Why did I act like that?" and being unable to answer it. I need to think about the emotions that I might not be in touch with and how to deal with them.

[@AfrinorchyOrchy]

​@@sandensonas someone who isn't sure who autistic I am very manipulative and I watch dr k to be better at it

[@OffYourTopic]

I've never seen a Dr. K video before but now I'm kinda hooked. This was super interesting to watch.

[@aiueokaya]

Thanks for the vods

[@arashi1ryoma1]

Connor thank you for sharing, I don’t know about Joey but definitely similar to how Garnt feel about anger and being self critical in order to improve. Love them and wish they can stay true to themselves

[@CyAA-ri2us]

i love how all three have this same sort of "um.." tone and frequency when they're asked something difficult and serious.

[@Dat_Stoner_Kidd]

The doctor will now examine a monke

[@YourPalA.D]

connor is literally an MC in a every story chad

[@sayantanmazumdar3]

Everyone should aspire to be the MC of their own story.

[@jorgeperez2872]

He feels so guilty on vulnerability by being judged by others for crying, even if he thinks is completetly natural is insane.

[@bgill7475]

Thanks for posting this 🙂

[@Irond3vil2]

I have now seen every crossover I could not have predicted

[@meganjohnson9540]

Thanks for posting these! Love it!!

[@j-mc2144]

This shit really just popped into my reccs when I was feeling bad about not wanting to go hang out with my friend.

[@evieho7676]

I already am a huge fan of both of them. It was really beautiful to see Connor very raw and vulnerable because I'm so used of his consistent hilariousness. Also Dr. K as always shows you things from a different perspective that you might not have been able to see before. I can't wait to watch Gigguk, Mouse, and Asmongolds. These streams also help you even potentially learn something about yourself. I really dig these videos from Dr K and the people he brings on.

[@jimpickens5936]

25:31 I get this soo much. I don’t have a lot of friends and I unconsciously only give people who tick all the boxes on my unconscious “standards” list a chance. It’s not that I look down on others it’s just if someone ticks enough boxes I can be 90 per cent sure we’ll get along and can talk about whatever

[@MrFiremagnet]

Gonna love their podcast after Joye visits Doctor K

[@viva_la_movies]

Boy I was praying for this after garnt's episode

[@KillerTacos54]

I relate so much to Connor’s introverted side. I’ve never resonated so much with people

[@Golgibaby]

Timestamp: 01:22:33 Solution: 1) articulate emotion 2) process, integrate emotion, without action. Emotion is information. No fixing.

[@KillerTacos54]

I love this so much.

[@KingLAO2964]

Now this will be great

[@Chad_Thundernuts]

Connor is such a wholesome dude 👍

[@Random_Dante_]

Connor operates on its nice to be nice. Which is something I feel.

[@danielbudzynski]

Great chemistry

[@lissurko5267]

Literally got teary eyed while watching this episode what the fuck Connor lol

[@jedsu7689]

5:49 - Dr K ga kita! 9:34 - Monkey appears!

[@senh4944]

uff this whole interview hit hard ngl

[@michaelvashkin]

Absolute same. It felt like he was talking to me and I don't envy someone who could be in a relationship with me.

[@inasinas226]

I feel like this is very private and we dont have any right to witness this. Gratefull for connor willing to share this out

[@peach_total]

1:10:53 i’m most likely projecting but this plus connor always feeling like he needs to pay people back and be a positive influence etc KINDA feels like he doesn’t have a lot of internal self-worth and there’s a need for him to constantly be producing value for other people instead of recognizing his own innate value as a human being

[@cngotham4111]

Im glad im not the only one i understand what conner is talking about with remebering lyrics. When im listening to music i understand whats being said and kinda the meaning but i cant remeber the lyrics for the life of me. The only time i can is when im literally writing down the lyrics and resaying them. But yes i can just go of singing my fovoeite songs as i forget the words and what not. So damn relatable lol.

[@jesther2575]

I wish I can have a therapist that talks in memes too

[@jerstumc5033]

love it when you do the foreign accent XD

[@Golgibaby]

Timestamp: 55:58 The insight into how guilt and indebtedness in social relationships are strings pulling on behavioral control.

[@DimstTalon]

I feel like Death Parade is an easy recommendation to Dr K. I think he would have a HELL of an amazing series on his hands if he started to do psychological breakdowns on shows. Or even had someone on that maybe is, intentionally chosen to with they idea of them being, a little less emotionally articulate to converse about it. somewhat in the same vein as the Cinema Therapy youtube channel.

[@LelandJ71]

Thats interesting with the whole song and lyrics bit. All this time, all the people around me always listen to lyrics and recognize lyrics while i really listen and recognize the instruments, melody, etc.. nice to see others that hear the same

[@mateleacloverae]

Seconded, I'll only know the lyrics if I look them up and listen to the song many times while reading ...

[@Oceaniac]

Why has this not been uploaded to the official KZbin channel?

[@JeskidoYT]

Very good question

[@iamtwoawesomes]

Good talk.

[@tombulis3010]

waiting for the Joey episode next 😁 And one with aki and sydney

[@yoruhernandez403]

Btw whole binary aspect was amazing to hear. I am a impulsive person and also feel things very strongly but I’m also logical. However when faced with complicated emotional events I tend to ping pong between two states, my heart and my head and make a impulsive decision. But now I understand to try too combine the two and make a choice like that.

[@em_pool]

I hope @CDawgVA talks more to this chap off camera

[@logui113]

The "aversion to laziness" hit way too close home

[@somethingaboutxa]

Its so funny when they started talking about anime recommendations haha

[@ArchiduquesaMA]

Connor fell in love with therapy

[@kimpanattoni]

As to the anime recommendation question you asked him, I wonder if you would be into some retro anime, or at least what a lot of people call retro.

[@rnb6054]

He just like me fr 🥶🥶🥶

[@snek6769]

Imagine the monk convo between garnt n dr k

[@lillia2724]

"Kind???" ".... Kind???" 🤣 I laughed at that so hard.

[@RenardAgrume]

Now I want to see one with Joey too

[@btchiaintkidding7837]

he enjoyed high school he doesnt need therapy 😎

[@sugarkookiewithsometae4245]

​@@btchiaintkidding7837Wasnt he addicted?

[@NevahLose]

He went along with raiding a Vtuber at the end...

[@AllMyInkHybrid]

Yeah I never listen to lyrics, I know like the first line of twinkle twinkle little star. When I hear a melody, I cant focus on the lyrics, somehow the instrumental parts take over my focus, everytime. I can just assume some words that they are singing but then it turns out they never sang things like that 😂 I’ve got ADD part of adhd 🤔

[@tropiginger]

I always thought Connor was a prime candidate for ending up in an abusive relationship. He'd give wayyy to much weight to someone else's out of control emotions and could be made to feel guilty for the other person's problems and demands, while making himself invisible emotionally and fully focused on "fixing things".

[@AntiqueDoll]

I have a guess as to why this isn't on Dr.K's main channel... That maybe Conner requested that the video don't go up because of the subject matters and how his emotions were in this "Dr.K talk". But I'm just guessing idk.

[@siahearts1287]

Oh my this actually happened first grant now conner 😮😮 is Joey next? 😂😂

[@sharper9164]

I have the same problem for the song lyrics. I cant hear the words properly, like my brain focuses on the actual song not the lyrics.

[@saltycross]

💜💜💜

[@LemonSte]

This man copy pasted ma brain

[@allanc_me763]

I seriously want to see Dr K on Trash Taste

[@victoriakerr5130]

I feel bad about hanging out with friends just like Connor. I want to hangout, I would love to hangout even! But sometimes it just feels like so much and I don't have the spoons to make sure I'm meeting the expectations they have for me (that I've set for myself). I've been getting better slowly but surely

[@beams098]

Wtf ..idk how i ended up here....but im here for my boy connor

[@salvadorc.m.1640]

Why is this not on HelathyGamer’s channel?

[@sleverlight]

Wow at the end Dr K is talking about some scary stuff, how do I prevent it from happening to me?

[@d3tach3d]

Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah, Yeah Yeah, Yeah, Yeeeeaaaaaahhhh......

[@lordofutub]

Why are you apologising? I'm British

[@xit]

Bruh, it seems like Dr. K is talking to me XD

[@sandenson]

Oh, shit, he raided Henya! That's cool.

[@nooneinparticular3277]

27:05 Dr K's "tell me about it..." is so sassy hahahah

[@Nothin2C_1]

The fact he didn’t upload this to his main channel says a lot about his clout chase.