Have you ever dealt with symptoms of depression? Please comment down below and share with us the tools that you have used for coping.
@anikastarseed4 жыл бұрын
Since 18 now 28 I do yoga to cope years ago n meditation now it’s back no desire to do anything I have low iron n depression I need to eat Bt can’t everything is to much
@autodifficult63064 жыл бұрын
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@liufox43944 жыл бұрын
Cheers for this, I have been researching "ways to deal with depression" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Hanincoln Nanlivia Framework - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my colleague got cool success with it.
@heyyallfromflorida55354 жыл бұрын
Yes ... Suffering from depression due to multiple health and financial issues. I deal with depression by reading books 📚... I love to read by the way" ... Going out to the movies ... Going out to Brunch with friends and family or just a brisk walk alone around my neighborhood.
@rachelybarra27833 жыл бұрын
I 👩suffer from depression 😰😥😪😭😢😓
@positiveparisplanet8013 жыл бұрын
I had depression for years and I feel ashamed to talk about it . People judged me even family. I made progress over the last couple of years but I feel like I still have some deep rooted issues. Hopefully therapy will work for me. Reading books help me cope with my depression.
@Priyanav72 жыл бұрын
Never be ashmed of it. Talk about it openly . Anybody who doesnt understand it in todays time they should be the ones shamed as they are acting like illiterate.
@graciousparrow4 жыл бұрын
I have. My symptoms are loss of interest, loss of memory, anxiety, want to go with mum. My friend is trying to encourage me with Jesus Love.
@djzirb9283 жыл бұрын
Same. ...experience
@friendlysky76743 жыл бұрын
Wow I have no friends and I have depression. Worse than you think bud
@theannick21773 жыл бұрын
I think I'm depressed too , i no longer have appetite, nervousness,feeling lonely, feel like I want to cry like every day....😥😥😥
@Gojo_Satoru163 жыл бұрын
Same but just add worrying/anxiety.
@stuckonyou4063 жыл бұрын
Me too
@hebatallahshoukry91703 жыл бұрын
me to
@dave77013 жыл бұрын
This Dr is the best I've ever seen on a video. Very knowledgeable about depression.
@thapriceisright5144 жыл бұрын
I have. In 2015 I had a nervous breakdown and spent 6 days in the psychiatric medicine unit. It was very helpful for me.
@DrFrita4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing. I am sorry you went through that, but I am very happy you got the help you needed. It is important that you continue to do the work and see your physician/ counselors regularly. Thank you for watching. Be well!
@usa23424 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you are doing well!
@positiveparisplanet8013 жыл бұрын
I’m glad you’re doing well🙂 I had a breakdown in 2015 . It was the worst year of my life .
@URBANDRAGON9994 жыл бұрын
Thanks Doc. Yes I have dealt with all of these symptoms. I've suffered with depression off and on for years. But the times that i was off i practice things like meditation, yoga, and Tai Chi. I felt like a new person. But overtime those symptoms returned. I believe it was because of my environment, and certain situations that didn't play out in my favor. I still struggle to this day. I'm a Martial Artist but haven't practiced seriously in a couple of years. I really want to get back into my practice because i have a KZbin channel that I'm slowly working on that involves my love and passion for the Arts. Depression is really hard to shake off. But I'm trying my best one day at a time. Anyone reading this...trust me i understand your pain, but we'll make it through this. DR. Frita is our guide 🙏🏾❣️. Thank you for this video.
@asya74953 жыл бұрын
watching this while crying
@nuuraali19723 жыл бұрын
Me too i thought i was the subject may Allah cure all of us Ameen
@Laquea8 ай бұрын
Same I feel unfixable
@ndleinahaystack3 жыл бұрын
I've suffering from all of these since last January... Just lost my job last month... I've been wearing the same clothes for months... Haven't showered in quite some time... Can't focus... Memory is horrible... Health is declining. Ive always been one to keep myself up and always looked dapper but now I just don't care.
@shotmasta2 жыл бұрын
Every one is going to depression on it own way. But things you posted, can relateren so much with that.
@angelinatorres29394 жыл бұрын
I was in therapy for my depression 15 years ago and was feeling good until now with this going on with the Covid 19 sometimes I feel anxiety thank you for this video love the way you explain God bless you
@DrFrita4 жыл бұрын
I am sorry that you have gone through some of these depression signs, but I am glad that you have the insight to recognize it. Please know that you are NOT alone. Please contact your physician and your support circle or reach out to the crisis contact in my description. Thank you for watching, and be well. God bless you too!
@Priyanav72 жыл бұрын
I had this for years. Thankfully i have overcome it presently.
@MichaelMichael-np1ev4 жыл бұрын
I do understand about depression my name is Michele I lost my nineteen-year-old to cancer and I just didn't think I was going to make itand as an African-American woman we are talked to be strong but at this point at that point in time I have to see a psychiatrist and to go into counselingI do understand my family was talking to me like you're the strongest person how could what's wrong with you and they don't know that at the end of the day we need that and we can always afford it I am thankful that God bless me to be able to do itbecause if I hadn't I don't know where I would be right now but he is so awesome and I'm so grateful for everyday this day it may you have a blessed day ❤️
@DrFrita4 жыл бұрын
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your child. It takes real strength to recognize when you have a problem and to be strong enough to seek help. I am so glad that you did, and I am so glad that you are sharing your story. I guarantee that you are not alone, and your words here have helped someone. Thank you for watching, and please continue to take care of yourself. Be well.
@MichaelMichael-np1ev4 жыл бұрын
Thank you dr. Freda I thank youit was the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with and that's African American women we go through so much and just to stay strong and know that God got us is so awesome and I just thank you for just responding because you know it's the hardest thing in the world to do is to lose your your child thank you and God bless you
@liufox43944 жыл бұрын
Cheers for this, I have been researching "ways to deal with depression" for a while now, and I think this has helped. Have you ever come across - Hanincoln Nanlivia Framework - (do a search on google ) ? Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my colleague got cool success with it.
@ndleinahaystack3 жыл бұрын
We as black people are so dysfunctional! My family members have suffered from depression for ages but no one ever wanted to talk about it or seek help and now it's run amuck through my family and it's terrible.
@rositareyes8583 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much Dr Frita. You explained everything very well. God Bless for your videos helps me recognize my friends depression symptoms.
@ceecee87573 жыл бұрын
I know I'm depressed even if it's just low grade. I can't seem to concentrate on one project around the house. I start on a project and end up procrastinating. My spaces are getting cluttered to the point where I don't see it anymore, but I know where things are at. I work full-time and am a high performer at work, but after work hours, I just want to sulk. Can't sleep, but I get back up and do it over again. I look forward to picking back up on projects again on the weekends, but end up getting pulled in another direction just going on circles.
@tayvialawrence72623 жыл бұрын
when I was 4 I lost my grandma I was small at that time but seems I growing up it put me in depression cause I love my grandma so much I was her favorite and I keeping talking about her and I miss her so thank you so much
@carolyncarrington47744 жыл бұрын
God Bless you Dr. Frida for keeping us healthy may you continue to share your knowledge with us, I find you better then telemedicine or teledocs whatever they call what the Government pushing on us.
@drjahanzebamerica69224 жыл бұрын
Nice sharing. Look forward to you video
@angeljewel24333 жыл бұрын
My symptoms are severe lack of energy, over sleeping, forgetfulness, brain fog, cant concentrate. All of the above and more in the video. Im so tired feeling this way..
@audreyhester72584 жыл бұрын
The signs of Depression you gave, were helpful to know. Thank you
@spikesimon74773 жыл бұрын
Why did i cry all the sudden watching this?😭😭
@rachelybarra27833 жыл бұрын
So am I 😰😥😪😭😢😓
@maryanna717014 жыл бұрын
Exercise can help if you can tolerate it. I am disabled so this is a tough one for me. I do take Vitamin D and I feel that helps.
@erinvanderwalt24703 жыл бұрын
I have most of these symptoms but I'm not surprised by having depression
@leonardkelz72432 жыл бұрын
Very helpful. Dr Frita. Thank you
@ajinsunnyajzz Жыл бұрын
💯 Came across with two three videos about depression, None had mentioned about hygiene which i feel is a great factor.
@ssignment3 жыл бұрын
I didn't know I was depressed when I was at highschool. I thought it was just me being dumb and no one wants me. I thought it was just me being temporarily sad.. I don't like sharing what I felt cuz I know they will never understand me. I tried sharing but they just never took me seriously..
@shofer58853 жыл бұрын
hi this may be helpful to you. check out a recent blog I wrote about stress, anxiety, depression, and how I got through it. It's short I promise!! P.s feel free to comment. thanx. themindfulman.weebly.com/home/signs-of-stress-anxiety-and-depression
@lame-y47213 жыл бұрын
Once i start eating something i used to love i loose my appetite right away...not just that i get irritated so fast and i hurt myself by digging my nails into my hand...and i sleep for longer than i used too and also sleep less it's different everyday. I've lost interest in drawing. And when I'm mad i cry after because of the way i scream. I feel anxious going out. I can't focus in one thing for long time like i used too. I don't end up showering myself for at least 5 days. I am also being extremely paranoid about my parents dying or my family and also myself.
@messiahdexter64143 жыл бұрын
I went through depression last year 2019 the best thing to do is spend time alone and with god he most definitely gonna help you talk to him you’ll see I just want to say lord watch over me and my brothers and sisters we need you we can’t do this alone please help us in Jesus name i pray amen
@kayodecharles13384 жыл бұрын
Hi.... can stress, anxiety and depression cause shingles and lymph nodes under the armpit?
@unicornsnowflake9543 жыл бұрын
I have been having such negative & anxious thoughts lately ughhhhh and also it’s been so confusing but things that use to be exciting and relaxing to me are now just boring and numbing. I can’t understand it exactly.
@drumgrandpa4 жыл бұрын
There are some things about myself I can’t explain to anyone. There are some things I don’t understand at all. Haruki Murakami
@sohoyankee663 жыл бұрын
I swear you were describing my nephew in this video. Unfortunately his mother is in denial anything is wrong.
@Love1221andCo.3 жыл бұрын
I've been watching a lot of videos for symptoms while I have been balling tears. I sometimes don't see any reason to move on anymore 😔😭
@daglaya13 күн бұрын
Experiencing all. How can I cope? I don’t want to suffer depression and I don’t want to be a burden on anyone 😢 .
@andrescandy67203 жыл бұрын
I suffer from depression and I think about not been in this world.. I was ppl I know I feel soooooo alone like I am the only in the world
@Thejourneyback1233 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry please stay strong !
@judecharlesnonso93784 жыл бұрын
How have you been doing Dr. Frita?
@LovelyVB83 жыл бұрын
Today's the worse for me. Tears don't stop. And cant focus on the house chores. Had panic attacks.
@ahmadu102 жыл бұрын
I want to know if depression makes the person forgetful until they cannot manage bills, lost in places. Unable to organise or plan things. Decline in communication. Memory problems. Changes in behaviour. Loss of daily life skills. or this is something else.
@debbiedaus80013 жыл бұрын
I have major depression. I no longer want to do things that I had fun doing with my brother after he took his life. I don’t take a shower unless I have to leave the house. I go 6 or 7 days without showering or brushing my teeth.
@miraflorsrananchannel63023 жыл бұрын
Me have a depression sometimes I always think that I kill myself, I feel no one understands me , support and love me I can't sleep at night sometime over sleep sometime crying in night.. and day..
@mz.amazinglovingme27204 жыл бұрын
I think I have dealt with depression because I will feel down because I have lupus and kidney failure one of them. But I try to smile in front of everyone because don’t want them to know
@cassthompson61683 жыл бұрын
Hi dear, so sorry to know what you are going through, I too have lupus and depression it's very hard to deal with.. sigh
@maryanna717014 жыл бұрын
Getting ready to share on Facebook!
@RedSky6953 жыл бұрын
Man, I have all the symptoms besides the drinking one. I always been exercising everyday until quarantine came and my symptoms gotten worse so ill make to check in with my doctor or counsellor. Thanks😁😆
@Springmoats3 жыл бұрын
I dont really have a coping i just try to go on with my life... and strugle through it
@albertov1823 жыл бұрын
I have recently been feeling alot of the last symptoms.
@johnathonjones37633 жыл бұрын
I've been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, PTSD, and Chronic Suicidal Ideation. I'm seeing a therapist and psychiatrist right now, and have been prescribed Duloxetine and Lithium. I'm still having difficulty dealing with this, and still getting suicidal thoughts and plans. I have even written a note and attempted suicide 4 times in the last 18 months. Any recommendations?
@edzfaravlog10483 жыл бұрын
the 9 warning signs are now my situations. I don't know what to do. 🥺😭
@jessiey31wayne903 жыл бұрын
Had a nervous breakdown already. And im sad to say its like im on the path to have another one smh.. Im experiencing all of these symptoms now.
@imbusymatter6583 жыл бұрын
Mam I eat a lot sometimes ,loss of appetite too. Being too much happy or too much sad Being very aggressive in talking. What are this signs mam?????
@charlottebrowen27783 жыл бұрын
Yes you have thank you queen 👸 Houston texas.
@autumntedford7148 Жыл бұрын
Depression is real when you are struggling with depression.
@-millie-67483 жыл бұрын
What do I do? All of these except for the one with alcohol fit my behaviour for the past 4-5 months..I've had suspicions of being depressed but I never thought it was true until watching this. I was recently diagnosed with anxiety after having multiple emotional breakdown in my class at school and even at home but I thought the suicidal thoughts were just me overreacting. I don't think that's the case since all of these but 1 match me. The problem is how do I bring it up to get help?
@anxietythoughts56473 жыл бұрын
I cry all the time when someone ses something about me it can be the smallest thing and I'll cry alone in the bathroom about it.I also finde myself easily irritated at everything even sound or people talking to me.I have Lost all interest in painting and in learning instruments or even going on walks.I have no motivation to graduate no motivation to exist I just feel tired.But I also have bad anxiety so it conflicts with my feelings of tiredness and so hear I am alive.I want to see a doctor but I'm embarrassed and afraid honestly.I dont want to worry anyone I would never hurt myself or try anything because of my anxiety.My anxiety makes me paranoid about my health and my body so I know I wouldn't ever harm myself.I just feel like I'm a bird trapped in a cage you know I just dont know what to do in life.These feelings and lack of motivation and not being able to focus really affect my school work.Im already a super senior and I'm super embarrassed about it even though I know it's okay.Im just not motivated at all anymore I just want to dig a whole and lay in it and stair at the stars.
@karenmaxwell61074 жыл бұрын
Just shared!!!
@DrFrita4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for watching and sharing the video. Be well.
@GerganaVGeorgieva-w4o Жыл бұрын
I have all of them and absolute heavi panic disorder...I have been taking citalopram 20 mg for 14 years but lately I m feeling loosing it again...
@gl1tch3853 жыл бұрын
I do all of these except from one of them. But I’m only 11. I can’t reach out to anyone. Recently I’ve been staying up all night crying constantly feeling ill with headaches. Is that a sign? I don’t want to self diagnose. I feel like I’m being a bit too dramatic about this.
@snehashriyan71313 жыл бұрын
Omg...i was simply crying for no reason and it happens every now and then and then i watched this video,i experience each and everything out of this but me nobody takes depression seriously here whenever i try sharing my thoughts they ask me to control my brain or say i am an overthinker..yeah fuck i just got 4 to 5 people including my parents with whome i actually talk so i shouldn't be blaming people.my bad being an introvert sometimes makes you feel lonely but talking to people just gives me regret for opening my mouth before them.god i guess i spoke a lot which made no sense
@jen-jl5dn3 жыл бұрын
@@sophiajacob8793 can you stop? people are speaking about the problems they’re going through and you’re using this to promote your scam.
@ohcarolina86714 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏🏾
@getrudemimitariahmumbampun63344 жыл бұрын
How can you control Depression
@ahmadu102 жыл бұрын
I want to know if depression makes the person forgetful until they cannot manage bills, lost in places. Unable to organise or plan things. Decline in communication. Memory problems. Changes in behaviour. Loss of daily life skills. or this
@sampsonvolg21953 жыл бұрын
how long does depression last?
@tayla36403 жыл бұрын
ok i’ve got all these, i’ve wanted to get tested for depression for a while but my mum doesn’t wanna “waste her time” so fml. i’ve given up on everything
@lifefan13 жыл бұрын
😔
@isabellasampar123 Жыл бұрын
Dear Dr. I have some symptoms u mention.. i can't concentrate in my work n i have forgetfulness n i have emotional,cry easily Angry easily,. i use to shout n scream its make me feel better i have lose interest in what I'm interested n i feel like something in my chest that i can't express to u ..no happiness in me... i cry alot sometime i feel like dying will b the best.
@travism33074 жыл бұрын
I have a lost of interest in intimacy!! I don’t have any kind of sex drive! Because of issues dealing with every day life and finances issues and it’s severely affected me in relationships!!
@fredhale58674 жыл бұрын
Bruh im going through the samething i have no interest in sex at all smh
@krizellainekayteugto58232 жыл бұрын
I have symptoms like,Changes of sleep sometimes I can't sleep sometimes i just sleep the whole day ,I lose my appetite even i am hungry I just don't want to eat,I don't know I turn down many invitations i just want to be alone and sometimes i just cry that i am.not aware.I even overthink even in smallest things .I get also easly irratable even in smallest things.I also think of hanging my self, there was a time i was eager to see my self hang or i feel like i need to see my blood .I even drop being a leader to our School research I just feel like I can't do it .😭😭😭😭😭😭
@MsJazzysworld2 жыл бұрын
I hate my life and I hate me im nothing .I do for people is not enough for people even when I'm going through my own situations ...I hate I was put on this earth... I was brought to this earth as a waist of space I try to do right by people ...I will be so happy when I'm gone . I try to think positive but obviously I was just brought to this life to be torture. When I'm gone the world will have better people more space to bring into this world, I'm nothing and there's nothing to live for at this point .
@kayla-k003 жыл бұрын
I think i have depression but I can’t cry in any cost
@looker4833 жыл бұрын
Thank you Dr. Frita your videos are very helpful. I hope I can send you a private message for some questions.
@fulbanezemedkun48493 жыл бұрын
Almost I have all these symptoms.
@nessun_dorma3 жыл бұрын
I'm here because I was diagnosed with clinical depression a few months ago and now my mom keeps saying that it's just hormones so I've started to doubt myself and I feel like I've been overreacting to everything the entire time.
@robertklund893110 ай бұрын
Another symptom can be the opposite of substance abuse, where a person decides to stop taking prescribed meds.
@lifestylewithtweesha24964 жыл бұрын
Hii Dr. Frita i have social anxiety disorders and i always crying sometimes i tried to old it. Does crying is a signs of depressions .Thanks you so much
@benitoespiritu85433 жыл бұрын
I'm suffering a depression and anxiety now.. But I didn't tell my parents because I'm shy.
@sampsonvolg21953 жыл бұрын
ive all those symtoms
@akankshajain57652 жыл бұрын
I'm confused that am I suffering with depression or not because I have all the symptoms of depression except hygiene from last 2 weeks I become more hygiene person.
@doobert93382 жыл бұрын
I have every symptom you named in the video but I’m confused u only named 6 not 9 so I’m not sure if I have 6 or all of the depression symptoms
@hrithik22352 жыл бұрын
Hi Sir,my mind says that I cannot do well in the area where I am interested,passionate and talented..but actually I can do. I am good at speaking English but my mind tells me that I can't speak english. I am interested,passionate and capable to study well and succeed in IT field by studying MCA but my mind tells me that I can't study mca,don't have ability and many other negative thought regarding this.. and many more places were I am capable and good at but my mind tells I can't So is this the symptom of depression or my personality??please reply sir I'm worried about this😢
@ricayuan45963 жыл бұрын
Yes its really hard dealing with it its hard to admit that kind oferece sickness Many people dont accept it n dont understand what we are going through.me i am suffering ir for mnths already but just lately only i go to see doctor .i just need some time To talk To just T9 understand what iam feeling now its hard really hard i dont even know where i cam start my life again i ll just want To end my Life last febre years eve
@Theozoeandbrothercats2 жыл бұрын
I have all of These, 🥺
@andrescandy67203 жыл бұрын
I got sleep disturbances I wake up every two hours i wake feel afraid and sad very sad .. i try meditation and breathing therapy still doesnt really help me..
@stephenthompson50993 жыл бұрын
I have symptoms of depression i still havent told anyone because i dont think its that bad but i am still leaning away from suicide
@hamstersdailylife49383 жыл бұрын
1:44 the list starts from here.
@dachshundsaremylife6673 жыл бұрын
I have a hard time with basic tasks like brushing my hair every night.
@user-fj8yg7wu1t3 жыл бұрын
When i was watching i had a mental brake down cuz of school and bulit up stress and feeling like im not good enough i was relizing that i had the simtyoms im now trying to cry silently :) (But im not drinking or anything cuz im under aged
@user-yp3rw6wx9i3 жыл бұрын
Not to be mean but are you a kid?
@spencerf.62942 жыл бұрын
I have depression really bad
@RICARDODist4 жыл бұрын
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@JAM-zb2vh Жыл бұрын
Hello i am dealing with bepreshion i am tired i feel like I am living for everyone i have no joy in my life so why stay i am sick on top of all this with epilepsy i just want to go home i hate it here i have no joy in this life i am tired of my Hypocrite wife that treats me like I have a tail what i see is not love at all. If i talk to my wife she is going to have the pastor come talk to me and tell me i am full of devils i talk to god that will not treat me like number 2 . Thak you for this video
@sky-blue470 Жыл бұрын
Psychedelic is the answer to most severe anxiety and depression. The use of magic mushrooms completely helps one get over depression and makes you feel like yourself. bit.ly/SHROOM2
@alice_rabbit83453 жыл бұрын
I have all these signs except for substance abuse
@sadafkhan10003 жыл бұрын
I'm suffering these 8 symptoms accept drug one
@chinungrianoruatorez42253 жыл бұрын
Im struggling all of this for long time😭😭😭😭😭
@sarahmaxwell24033 жыл бұрын
Thanks to henryshroom @IG, I got rid of my anxiety and depression issues,he got good shrooms🍄 and other psychedelic products.
@res15083 жыл бұрын
What I'm going to do, I already experiencing all of this, I wanna end up.
@chriskimkoi29854 жыл бұрын
So, I was going through depression this entire summer.
@maddy-se8is3 жыл бұрын
please don’t self diagnose🙁
@farhanmalik-944 жыл бұрын
I have all the symptoms
@annramsey79074 жыл бұрын
I have all of them. I started Sam-E shortly after my little brother's suicide in 1995. I went off it this past year because it really started to raise my blood pressure. I hope I can get over it now. Do the chemicals in the brain get stuck in a rut so to speak after a major life tragedy?
@ucuyuhana7251 Жыл бұрын
Live is exam, problem to be solve the problem. Have cooping mekanism.
@rosamarques59593 жыл бұрын
The victimization one... I had no idea that that was also a symptom. I don't have it but a loved one is always doing it, many times they make themselves the victim. I knew they were depressed (heck, my whole family is depressed) , but I had no idea that was also a sign.
@sampsonvolg21953 жыл бұрын
i lost a lot of size
@v.sinterludee3 ай бұрын
yeah im def gonna kms
@mikeherbertgajo92983 жыл бұрын
No one understands whats my feeling.
@haleluyaalex16173 жыл бұрын
I have 5 signs correct. im going to theraphy but it's not helping. at all. 🤷♂️🤷♀️
@girly.mimi003 жыл бұрын
Try going to a different therapist.
@haleluyaalex16173 жыл бұрын
@@girly.mimi00 U think it'll help
@serbiang14063 жыл бұрын
You need medication! Not all depression can be cured with therapy.
@haleluyaalex16173 жыл бұрын
@@serbiang1406 Lol thanks but Medication can't fulfil my unfulfilled needs , I don't believe that depression is caused my chemical imbalance serotonin deficiency n the cure is pills atleast I know I have so many issues that caused it n what can heal me only God knows. pills can't be permanent solution.
@haleluyaalex16173 жыл бұрын
@@serbiang1406 Also in addition taking pills or going to theraphy encourages u more to be defined by depression n the more u let it be u the further I becomes u. I only felt like this for 6 months now n I will not let it define me.