9 SIGNS Of SOCIOPATH Traits In The Family | Psychotherapy Crash Course

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

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[@dianahill5116]

I'm atheist. Many psychologists don't discuss the emotional, mental, physical, verbal and financial problems of religion. Many psychologists don't discuss the trauma of being conned, threatened, bullied, harassed and annoyed by religion's laws, rules, regulations and restrictions. Thank you.

[@Andronicus2007]

I have ADHD as do my parents. They definitely tick all the wrong boxes, eg the sociopathic ones. Lots if cold, callous, dishonest and abusive behavior. As a child I was innocent enough, I didn't enjoy hurting people (or animals) either physically or emotionally. But as time went on, I started having some problems at school. Actually I was still an above average student even with untreated ADHD. But my inattention was misinterpreted as being disobedient, which I wasn't at all. I couldn't help my mind wandering, it wasn't something I could control. I think deep inside I knew that it was unfair how I was seen and being treated. It also eroded my self esteem (in addition to parental abuse). I personally think this is how a lot of sociopaths get started. People can be cruel, someone on purpose and sometimes not, and I think if you receive a lot of negative messages from adults, it's only natural to start externalising blame- they are the problem, not us. And perhaps to some degree, it can be true. But let me tell you as someone who definitely was going down this road (I went to a reform school before I dropped out) it ain't fun thinking like a sociopath. Inside there's actually a lot of hurt, anger and bitterness. I had friends at the school and I believe even though we were all budding sociopaths, there was something good in all of us. We all came from abusive families and had shattered self esteem. Thankfully my Mother, who really under her mask was a horrible amoral and totally selfish person, taught me the right things to believe in (including morals) and by the time I found it that she didn't believe in what she taught us... I was already socialized. She used to tell me that goodness is it's own reward, and that if we were deceptive, at the very least we would know we had been scummy (it that feeling can be like corrosion). Despite knowing all the right things, she didn't care who she hurt or what she had to do to get her needs met. We were just objects to her, if not useful to her we had no value. I believe that possibly at some earlier stage my parents could've been saved from becoming sociopathic too.

[@Cheesecake.496]

7:20 My God! Where was this video when I needed it the most?!?! 😫😩You, literally, described how my husband got on the Road to Sociopathy. Listening to you describe my husband to a T has left me in utter shock & I now feel sick to my stomach because deep down inside I always knew the truth. I have to process a lot, but I am thankful & grateful that I was able to see & hear this now rather than later. This was an eye-opener for me. Ma’am, thank you for taking the time in making this resourceful & informative video. God bless you for this. 🙏💛🙌

[@lovelisa3305]

Great job, Tamara 👍 I appreciate that you talked about the spectrum of ADD/ADHD thru Psychopathy. My ex did disclose he has ADHD, but left out that he was already a full blown sociopath. Devastating outcome.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you Lisa! It is a devastating outcome indeed.

[@somebodysbody4361]

Thanks for your content! Married a diagnosed ASPD man, at a young age 13 years ago, and had two children with him. Always felt something was off, but believed it was mostly myself. Found out he was ASPD after a CPS intervention over domestic violence. Then things really started to click. Been in counseling for four years working through this mess. I have tried two times to legally get away from him, but we live in a small town thats with his family and mine are states away. This last time, I knew I needed to be very meticulous and cautious about leaving and I am about to relocate with the kids 50 miles away; to try to finally sever the ties. I have had to endure psychological, monetary and physical torment while stashing cash and making my escape plan. Wouldn’t wish this upon my worst enemy. When people ask ‘why didn’t you just leave,’ they have not had a relationship, or kids, with a sociopath.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome and thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sure someone on the channel can relate to this. As you point out, the behaviors of a sociopath are not only frustrating but threatening to your life. I wish you and your children the best on this journey.

[@She_McGee]

godspeed! best of wishes and prayers for you!

[@kimberlydavis5034]

I've been married twice and divorced twice. Neither one of my marriages was good. I will never get married ever again. Twice was enough for me. My second marriage was a living nightmare. I've tried to date but I saw the red flags of a toxic unhealthy abusive relationship and cut out all the these unhealthy toxic abusive relationships out of my life. My advice is always wear shoes you can run in. Run as fast as you can.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That last line couldn't be any more true! And I don't blame you in terms of marriage. How many heartbreaks can you go through? Good to see you know when enough is enough.

[@chilloften]

See one sign and run. 🦋🌺

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Agree! You shouldn't go forth no matter how "nice" the person seems sometimes.

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

Most women don't have the expertise to even know what a sociopath is? I'm sure if we knew how depraved they are we would run for our lives! I never what a sociopath was until it was too late! Thank God...I was able to get out!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are right about that. Most women -- and most people do not know the signs of sociopathy to spot it. It is difficult to identify a sociopath sometimes as even a psychotherapist. It takes a lot of experience to spot one.

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Good evening you're absolutely correct. Thank God for sharing your expertise with the masses! Through the dichotomy of experience and taking a few psych classes, I was able to understand what I was dealing with. Now ANY red flags, I avoid at all cost. Being that these DEGENERATES make up 25% of the population it's hard to give people the benefit of the doubt and forge relationships.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! It's an honor and a blessing to share what I have learned and experienced over time with all of you. It's wonderful you have your eyes open too!

[@tyardovdabulldht2340]

@@TherapistTamaraHill We are Blessed that you share your expertise with us. Lay people need as much help as possible to understand this population of people. Yes, after dealing with a sociopath, I'd be a fool to walk through life with blinders on. 🙏

[@DanaeLaurenTolbert]

It was guy recently who was interested in me and I sensed he was used to women falling at him. Looks are okay but what's in your heart bro? Also I wasn't interested. Something didn't seem quite right about him. I never had a true interaction with him but the intense staring was odd. Like he was preying on me. The preying stares turned into mean threatening stares. I ended up moving to another office unit on another floor. He seemed to be very angry that I wasn't responding to his advances.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Glad you didn't fall for this! And great question "...what's in your heart bro?" If nothing is there, goodbye. I'm wasting my time. Any man who gets angry because you aren't accepting his advances has a true problem. He should be a gentleman and wait on you or show patience and maybe, just maybe, you may change your mind.

[@rinnymarie540]

Can you please please please talk more about histrionic personality disorder? I believe I live with someone who has it and it's so exhausting and difficult to deal with. It's hard to find information about it because there's so little out there.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes! I will add that to my list of new topics for the next month or two. Stay tuned because there are a lot of other topics I have to get to first and then I will include this one!

[@rinnymarie540]

@Támara Hill, MS NCC CCTP LPC I will and thank you for the response! 😊

[@davidalexander3093]

Awesome video as I was looking for something strictly about sociopaths. Alot of the vids do a psychopath vs sociopath

[@intrapsych1843]

Sociopathic mothers/ wife/ grandma are the worst.

[@SuperMatical]

Thank you for this incredible resource for this type of information, Tamara.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are so welcome! Glad this was helpful to you!!

[@Meandmymirror]

I have heard that narcissist and sociopaths are attracted to highly sensitive people and empaths. Do you find this to be true?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, I do. I have so many client and people who consult with me now that are trying to get away from the sociopaths in their lives. What drew them to the sociopath was the "care-free" attitude, the "strength and courage," and the "calm demeanor" they portrayed at the beginning of the relationship. I totally understand this. It's an attractive trait. But the sad reality is that these sociopaths tend to "make up for" the strengths the empath feels they do not have. That's when things become abusive or trauma bonds (unhealthy attachments) are created.

[@Yanadew]

Good vid!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!

[@leighb.8508]

There is no sense in me trying to explain the ins and outs and overs and unders of what I have been dealing with for 12 years, but I want to share, as an example of sociopathic behavior, that the adult person I am dealing with has pretended, this morning, to be unable to read. I have experienced this person reading black and white print before and saying it says something else, but today this person pretended to not be able to read at all. Here is the sentence I asked this person to read: "He that saith, I know him, and keepeth not his commandments, is a liar, and the truth is not in him." 1 John 2:4. This person stumbled and mangled every word bigger than 2 characters and looked to me to help him out, as though he were a victim. This person has no trouble reading about coins and Nascar and television shows and Goodwill auctions and pawn shop due dates. This person can read. Later today this person will tell me that this morning never took place, or that I remembered it wrong. If I asked this person to read it again I would be accused of never being satisfied. There is no truth to be had in this person. This person is a liar and idolator and many other things I will not name right now. Sociopath sums it up clinically. Biblically he is someone who "loves and makes a lie." I pity him. My sword of the Spirit for today is: "Therefore the prudent shall keep silence in that time; for it is an evil time." (Amos 5:13). And, and 'a meek and quiet spirit is of great price to God.' (1 Peter 3:4). I thank God that I am saved and I know what's going on, and so does God, and that this person cannot harm me. In fact, this person is purifying me for the day of Christ, for I will not be moved from this narrow path. I will continue to pray for his salvation, for God is the God of the impossible, and I do NOT want this person, or anyone, to wake up in hell with a suddenly clear head and realize Who they have given up for a life of stupid, meaningless lies and nothingness. I have learned a lot from Tamara Hill as regards how to keep my joy under these circumstances and I am grateful for that. I am grateful that someone understands exactly what the situation is and is helping people like she does. It's amazing. I know you will read this, ma'am, so thank you again.

[@JuliaShalomJordan]

Thank you for covering this.❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

My pleasure!😊

[@fairygurl9269]

Much More Hopeful For our Future💞 Much Gratitude & Respect 🖖🥰

[@Pugetwitch]

I am currently spending a LOT of time with a sociopath, and it's been extremely challenging to say the least. It's not my first time dating somebody who clinically falls under this diagnosis. My ex just did 17 years in prison. I'm not interested in dating the person I have been hanging out with, although some of my friends have been saying that's what we do. We like each other, but we only had sex twice, and that was months ago. At this point our bond is based a psychological interest in one another and the mutual benefits that we offer one each other financially, socially, etc. I know the last thing that I want to do is become an object of his attention, although I am autistic and there is nothing more than I want than for him to validate my strong and deep platonic love that I have. However, he's made it clear that the feelings he has for me are beyond platonic, that he's desired me. He's also scared the living daylights out of me. I told him a while ago that we were becoming trauma bonded to one another and I explained to him what it meant. I don't think he quite understands how difficult it is going to be when we have the part ways. He shows a lot of signs of jealousy and I also get very jealous of him as well. He is 6'4 and over 200 lb of pure muscle, he's extremely good looking....early 30s, looks like a dark skin Malcolm X with a perfect shape up. Beautiful body and his smile! Oh my gosh. He could definitely model, he's got high cheek bones, he's just beautiful. But he has the smile of a sociopath, I told him that the first time I hung out with him and he laughed. He knows that I know,. LOL he also falls on the autism spectrum. And I do have a few subclinical antisocial traits as well, although I have spent many years in therapy working on these traits, and have integrated them within my psyche and transform them into motivational factors to help myself and other people heal. I worked as a substance use therapist for a decade, and now work as a project manager in the construction industry. He works, well..he's a hustler. The irony is that he's always giving me money and looking out for me because he knows I'm a single mother. I'm trying to mentor him both professionally and towards academic success, I'm 12 years older than him and I've been trying to tell him how to invest money and build up a portfolio, how to get up out the game and invest money into some real things that are going to make him passive income, as well as provide him with a day-to-day functional future. He wants to sit up there and act childish because of his personality disorder. Can lead a horse to water but can't make them take a sip! I told him that's why we cannot move beyond their friendship stage. I just feel already tied up in this friendship, though! just being close friends with somebody who is sociopathic (and under the influence of various substances at different times, plus he presents w/ comorbid mood dysregulations) is very intense and extremely dangerous.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh my. This is complicated indeed. I do agree that being involved with someone like this can be extremely dangerous -- especially depending on the intensity of their antisocial behavior and self-concept of importance. It's often best to run away from these people and ensure that you are protected in case they retaliate.

[@budogacha]

You playing with fire!

[@MimiTheHamster]

I got sexually assaulted by one but despite my heartbreak and Stockholm syndrome, I luckily never dated them. Thank goodness

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm so sorry.

[@wirelessunday9897]

Dating is very difficult these days...

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I totally get that!

[@mandywindwalker6207]

This…..12:29 😢

[@Ssm19494]

Tamara, how do I start being a good boy?

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

Basically, are you trying to say that a sociopath is worse than a narcissist?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm not sure that's what I'm getting at in this video. I think what I'm saying is that sociopaths have less empathy than a narcissist in some cases. We can't say one disorder is worse than the other because there are individual differences in the human race such as genes, upbringing, etc.

[@Bibleinformationandhelp]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for your comment. I know you weren't making a comparison between a sociopath and a narcissist in this video. I was just wondering :-) I'm trying to soak so much of your information from your videos. I want to know more about people. On why they behave and say particular things. I want to know their way of thinking. I want to learn more on how to navigate people. Knowing when to say something and when to be quiet. Knowing how a person is feeling when they are behave and say particular things. It seems like I have a bunch of people with behavior problems in my family. Sometimes I run into people with these problems and more.

[@Monipenny1000]

Not all narcissists are sociopaths, but, all sociopaths are a narcissist.

[@danieljohnson2349]

T.H. 👍

[@libertycan6959]

🙏

[@bbybudaluna]

❤❤❤

[@darrylharris756]

That k you😎👍✨✨✨✨💯💛💛💛💛🌹

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🤗🤗you're welcome. Thank you for always supporting!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Sociopath or psychopath?

[@danieljohnson2349]

T.H. 👍