A Couples Therapist Explains Iconic Film and TV Relationships

[@thehopeofeden597]

I would love to see him do Gomez and Morticia Addams. Possibly the healthiest relationship in film/television history.

[@mael0010]

THIS!!!! YESSSSS!!!!

[@fairytailgirl123]

The only relationship goal I have

[@wtfaleisa]

Hal and Lois from Malcolm in the Middle is also relationship goals

[@lotrfan8]

Coach and Tami from Friday Night Lights?

[@mariaah3073]

A comedy couple, married, with kids, who is deeply in love and accept everything about each other, with no need for the screenplay to build a generic conflict around A. a failing boring relationship between the two or B. how they can't balance both marrige and parenting like every other family comedy movies do. A+.

[@lanaahsi]

I love these videos where therapists review movies.

[@anuragbhattacharya4682]

You should then visit the channel where a doctor reacts to and reviews all the shows related to medical profession such as house, good doctor etc. It's pretty good..

[@giannag4917]

Anurag Bhattacharya Fo you mean Dr. Mike?

[@anuragbhattacharya4682]

@@giannag4917 Yes!.

[@niki3722]

@@giannag4917 Dr Mike actually stole the format from another doctor that did it first!

[@giannag4917]

Niki Do you mean the whole Dr. Hope (I think that's his name) scandal? Everything on yt is stolen. Dr. Hope isn't the first to do it. I personally believe Dr. Mike did it better. Dr. Hope seemed boring to me. But whatever. Have a lovely day!

[@ee1783]

this is actuslly a good idea well done buzzfeed

[@littlebean2494]

oh! darling did you see the mental illness one they did a couple months ago?

[@AxxLAfriku]

I will now count to 3 and then I am still the unprettiest KZbinr of all time. 1...2...3. Btw I have two girlfriends. Thank you for your attention, dear oh darling

[@jenniferkensington5550]

AxxL shut up

[@theoracleofdelfi1098]

It’s not their original idea (it’s been done in many other channels) but it’s still good

[@themalcontent100]

I think deadpool said it best, "I didn't just love her, I liked her to."

[@breezyvonweezy723]

“Not all love is meant to stick around” HE DIED

[@shanehughes3511]

Bri V he means the metaphore of letting go. When young often its best to end things quick to grow and live. Thats what she did (obvs not becayse she wanted to, but its what she did). She decided, I have to let you leave, so I can live the rest of my life.

[@breezyvonweezy723]

Shane Hughes “leave”

[@dasher607]

@@breezyvonweezy723 guy in the video is telling you the lesson to take from all of these. you're thinking too literally

[@cathydiane4802]

Bri V he sank

[@2short99]

You completely missed the point lol he wasn’t speaking on just that situation he talking about it in general.

[@frankherrada7164]

Would have loved to see what he thinks about the Joker and Harley Quinn’s relationship 😬

[@c.ccarlhead5744]

The guy would have to write an essay on how horrible it is.

[@JustYourAverageGirl2002]

It's not a relationship. Just abuse.

[@socks-xe5zb]

JustYourAverageGirl They still love each other tho

[@c.ccarlhead5744]

@@socks-xe5zb I am not even gonna explain how wrong that is

[@annasawyer1163]

That's not love. That's abuse

[@or_p5376]

Would love to see what he thinks about the following relationships: Chandler and monica (friends) Jim and pam (the office) Andy and april (parks and rec) Nathan and haley (one tree hill) Han and leia (star wars)

[@totalwreck7435]

Han and Lea! Yes me too, their so complicated....

[@xxIluvyouguysxx]

Chandler and Monica are my favorite fictional couple

[@oncerand_directioner]

@@xxIluvyouguysxx They are my favorite TV couple and had a SOOOOOO much better relationship than Ross and Rachel. Their relationship was so much healthier because they actually learned how to communicate and trust eachother, learned eachother's love languages, and they handled arguments or fights they got into maturally by actually talking about them, getting to the heart of the issues, and compromising.

[@baby0241]

oh man I was hoping he would do The Notebook because, although it was a good story, I still found them to be a bit toxic to each other (especially the girl) and I genuinely believe their love is overrated.

[@rileysunderland1904]

아름Andrea same!!! Honestly it’s one of the most overrated love stories of all time in my opinion. I remember that line where he says that the only thing they had in common was how crazy they were about each other, so essentially their entire relationship is fueled by hormones. That alone should tell you the relationship was a lost cause.

[@PrincessSybilla77]

I hate the Notebook so much. It's so unhealthy

[@rileysunderland1904]

Allison Hunter yeah I remember. This movie was also made like almost 15 years ago now and people weren’t as keen to point out dysfunctional relationships like they are now.

[@AmaraEmme]

The book version of NoahxAllie is way more couples goals and stable 👍👍

[@revinaque1342]

@Allison Hunter Yes, but the entire story is fiction. Things would most likely play out completely differently in real life, like with Frank Sinatra and Ava Gardner, or Elizabeth Taylor and that guy she married several times. They were crazy about each other, they were each other's greatest loves, but it still didn't make for a stable or lasting relationship.

[@Dia2four43]

I wonder what it’s like to date/be married to a couples therapist. What differences, if any, compared to other relationships.

[@carrieardis8641]

Dia2443 Hahahaha they constantly shrink you. Or it's one of those situations where they can give advice, but absolutely can't take it.

[@Dia2four43]

Carrie Ardis Makes sense lol

[@carolinacastro2506]

I don't see why they would "shrink you" or be unwilling to take advice. Generally speaking, therapists are just normal people with their own historys, issues and internal conflicts. However, they do have a certain advantage because they have developed useful skills for making relationships work more "efficiently" , such as communication skills, conflict resolution techniques and so on. So technically they do have that advantage compared to other people

[@margaritam.9118]

Caro Castro Yeah and they also better at manipulating you when you argue.

[@carolinacastro2506]

Greta M. Honestly this just sounds like you guys have had bad experiencies. And I'm sorry, everyone can be mean and manipulative at times, therapists included. But that does not mean that being a therapist automatically makes someone more manipulative.

[@apathtolove]

I think Jack was a real kick start, symbolically, for Rose to get to live a life she could really be happy. She was stuck in her social bubble and her love for Jack bursted it completely. It gave her perspective that there is really much more to live out there and she did (we briefly see the pictures of her travels and adventures in the film). So, despite being sad the fact he died, he really gave her a beautiful present: the courage to live a life of her own. Their love is really inspiring in my opinion and does not create an illusion, but teach us to keep loving ourselves no matter what.

[@ilovemana143]

Your comment should be at the top!

[@sypwer]

This is why i love Brendon Urie, he gives the best relationship advice

[@sydt.283]

I-

[@a.r.4708]

My takeaways... 1. When dating simple ask "Do I want to see this person 1 more time?" 2. when there's "silent treatment" ask "what does the silence mean?" ...this is life-changing wisdom :-|

[@KMF_2011]

I would have loved to see what he thought of Edward Cullen and Bella Swan....Some people think of it as a romantic relationship... I view it as a extermly abusive relationship.

[@Moon_xxxx]

To be honest id say possessive is the right word for that relationship.

[@rainbowsnowflake1789]

Abusive, toxic, gross in general, etc.

[@areswalker5647]

Rainbow Snowflake no let's learn to use the right words. abusive, toxic and gross are all different things. gross= it's your opinion, if i think a person is gross it doesn't mean that someone else could find said person lovely. toxic= when the other person is not the right one, you bring out the worst of each other, you have to break up to be happy again. abusive= one person deliberately causes physical or emotional or psychological harm to their partner who suffer silently. an abusive relationship is toxic and gross but a toxic relationship doesn't have to be abusive, even if gross, and lastly a gross relationship is gross to you but it doesn't have to be toxic or abusive.

[@saoirsemurtagh3844]

Ares Walker thank you. Just thank you

[@HopeeInk]

Never saw a more toxic relationship on my TV screen

[@swoosh3684]

This HAS to be a series PLEASE

[@perfumaphilia3246]

This guy is excellent at what he does and very, very likeable. Definitely keep him around!

[@DanielSeungLee3]

We need more of this guy!!! Handsome AND smart

[@lovelyjojo3231]

Daniel Seung Lee u gay or sum boi?

[@LadyAneh]

Definitely a keeper.

[@anja3221]

@@lovelyjojo3231 and even if, what about it

[@VixenVilleInge]

Ross and Rachel were both kind of equally right and equally wrong. I don't think it's very respectful, personally, to sleep with someone a day after you've ended a relationship, but on the other hand Rachel never defined what 'a break' meant. If she had discussed with Ross what the terms were, I'm pretty sure Ross never would've slept with that girl. He viewed it as a break-up so ethically he didn't really do anything wrong.

[@recoil53]

But she never said "break up" and he never asked for clarification. Also, having sex with another the day of the break up is clearly burning your ships behind you - you aren't getting back any time soon. He made that decision. IRL it would obviously be the end of the relationship in the near term. Since relationships takes two parties, there is no argument. You can't ethically strong arm somebody back into a relationship. His choice, but he cut off the future.

[@Missmagazinebura]

The Ross quote we were on a break is iconic

[@bearbaera9431]

@@recoil53 I'm on the fence about that. Break-ups and even breaks can be pretty devastating emotionally, and its common for people to turn to sex with another person. They should have defined what a break means for sure though, so neither is right nor wrong.

[@hollywoodshopaholic]

I think the biggest issue was that Rachel let MARK of all people come over to her house despite knowing how much of a problem he was to Ross. To me, that’s just as “wrong” as Ross sleeping with someone else.

[@ericafoxullyott]

I totally agree with you. Although, I always felt like Ross didn’t even give Rachel a chance to define what the break was because he stormed out right after she suggested it.

[@SK-qj8sm]

I honestly loved the way how this guy put every single point straight, and actually what happens in every relationship and every kind . at what stage. This is truly beautiful and accurate enough to make it short and understandable for non-therapists and non-psychologists.

[@17emmarose]

I love how Willow and Tara’s relationship was on here!

[@shayrenna9070]

I’d love to see a therapist’s review on Barney & Robin from HIMYM

[@kevinmartin3124]

How do you not review Jim and Pam, the most iconic tv couple ever!

[@anuragbhattacharya4682]

My favourite one for sure man 👍

[@jenniferkensington5550]

maybe he hadn’t seen that show or they ran out of time

[@kevinmartin3124]

@@jenniferkensington5550 One does not simply not watch The Office

[@kateday8714]

I read this and litterally said aloud "who the hell is Jim and Pam?"

[@coveruplies]

Jim is terrible and pam is too

[@mughwortslongshot4545]

"Relationships aren't a la carte" I'm stealing that sentence.

[@SupremeLeaderKimJong-un]

Emotional Titanic flute intensifies

[@jantski5084]

Wow, I didn't know you had youtube channel btw how much do you eat because you are kinda fat. Have you ever heard of diet?

[@crovax1375]

MangoPuuro you shouldn't fat shame, that's not very nice

[@tirzal8769]

I could watch hours of him reviewing TV relationships. Part 2 please!

[@abigailgrace5407]

Jim 👏 and 👏 Pam 👏

[@mckenna7523]

This needs more likes

[@mdtrtwlt]

Ross and Rachel were awful because of Ross's toxic masculinity 'nice guy' persona. Rachel deserved better.

[@hollywoodshopaholic]

werdnamich And Rachel was any better how? She was a classic narcissist who loved playing victim.

[@bananian]

How can someone be toxic masculine and be nice guy at the same time?

[@medranochav]

he is literally the worst

[@medranochav]

@@bananian he hid behind the facade of being this nice sensitive guy but he was incredibly insecure, possessive and controlling

[@bananian]

@@medranochav What do you call a woman who is possessive and controlling? I get the whole social pressure leading to men being violent being toxic masculinity but are we now lumping in negative human traits into toxic masculinity as well? Just curious, been out of school for awhile.

[@moniquejenkins3124]

I like him. More of him, please. 💁🏻‍♀️

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Iconic films have the power to potentially change society a little bit.

[@sunmoon539]

I see you actually everywhere

[@baranbasimi3202]

And ExCuSe Me? You just looked at Ross and Rachel and IGNORED Chandler and Monica? You sir just missed one of the most real and iconic relationship in tv world. Shame.

[@farsky9873]

The best relationship was between Joey and his food 😍😂

[@alyy1084]

far sky stan

[@rileysunderland1904]

I mean I love Chandler and Monica but I think it’s important to discuss how dysfunctional Ross and Rachel were. Even if most people nowadays realize that.

[@emmajkson7016]

Omg the best ship 🥰😫

[@ChronicallyCurious]

I love how they showed a couple with fertility issues and navigating adoption.

[@H3lloKittyPr3tty]

i liked that he wasn’t so cynical

[@i2harry]

Part II, please. We are learning so much. Can we include friendship and parent-child relationship?

[@brecastaneda8243]

The best thing Rose could’ve done for Jack was to scoot over and let Jack onto the door in the first place.

[@xxIluvyouguysxx]

Bre Castaneda they would have sunk from the weight

[@markinkyushu]

Mythbusters tested it already, even with the added the weight they would have been fine

[@BobMcCoy]

*Next Video: **_Real Pirates Review Captain Philips_*

[@truely7744]

_Bob McCoy Lisa Guerrero confronted Captain Philips.

[@totalwreck7435]

And Jack Sparrow

[@jackcorelis3207]

Why did he not do Jim and Pam from the Office

[@sophiaradix7454]

Jack Corelis because they’re perfect

[@ilovemana143]

It's basic, boring, and 100% healthy. Not much explanation needed tbh

[@IshanAli]

Where do I find a Jack and Rose type of relationship. Without the tragic ending obvs lol

[@jujubees]

There was definitely space on that wood door for Jack just sayin'!

[@alexandergreen6191]

In yourself

[@joannasaad298]

Highschool? Lol

[@lilacbuni]

Julie space for them to both sink as the wood can't handle the weight

[@sunmoon539]

@@lilacbuni they could've took turns

[@nepri_dymal]

We NEED a part 2 with Jack and Ennis from Brokeback Mountain

[@ImPerfectlyTwitta]

I wonder if he’s seen “The Breakup.” That has one of the most realistic endings when it comes to relationships

[@XCoolxXBeans]

Jake peralta and Amy Santiago!

[@RTMonitor]

R.I.P. Stephen Hillenburg You will be forever remembered

[@ramonaflowers2813]

Willow and Tara ❤️😭

[@mauveijn]

The person I love most paraphrased that to me while they were tipsy and having a breakdown. That was the most touching thing anyone has ever told me.

[@suzawilo]

@@samanthaday6759 NEVER will be

[@NotoriousImmortal]

You need to do a part 2 and add Cory and Topanga in it.

[@sarafschr]

I love that he did Willow and Tara! Iconic relationship. Would have loved to see his take on Spike and Buffy or Xander and Anya.

[@paleobc65]

It got me really emotional when he said "I accept all the parts that you don't like, all the parts that you're not thrilled with...We all have histories that we're not super proud of" I opened up to this girl and I loved her even with her past mistakes and all and yet she judged me

[@MegaBaibo]

I need Brian and Justin from Queer as Folk relationships breakdown. Wonder Years, Wendy and Fred Savage character. Martin and Gina from Martin.

[@trinity6302]

I would love to see an Elizabeth Benett and Mr Darcy review!

[@blooddragon805]

Oh, why isn't there 50 shades of grey here ? There's SO MUCH that needs to be said

[@frakkintoasterluvva7920]

It's low hanging fruit.

[@ginad.6917]

Nice to see a fellow clinical social worker on buzzfeed!

[@hipnhappenin]

Shoulda done Carrie and Big

[@Baqsam]

I'd love to have Omar Torres as a friend.

[@molly7154]

I would love to see him do Booth and Brennan from Bones.

[@zoerphl]

I love him! You need to do a part 2 this is so interesting

[@alexandramei1975]

Young Leo is iconic

[@itzellaluna4299]

I love him! More of Omar please!

[@baddiewise7650]

If he did the Addams family he’d see they are the model of perfection

[@flala2261]

Nick & Jess *(New Girl)* Mindy & Danny *(The Mindy Project)* Andie & Blane /Molly Ringwald & Andrew McCarthy *(Pretty In Pink)* Declan & Anne *(Leap Year)*

[@egcarswell]

OMG YES, Nick and Jess definitely needed to be on this list! They were a beautiful mess lo

[@maggiedk]

Thank you for including Willow and Tara ❤️❤️❤️ easily one of my absolute favorite TV couples. They were so beautiful together.

[@nehirakinn]

I wonder what he'd think about Chuck and Blair 🤔

[@leezahaskell6672]

YEEEESSSS

[@pompe221]

Obviously there needs to be another video with this guy because there are so many more TV/movie relationships that he could analyze.

[@ArtGeek2817]

I'm so happy he included Willow and Tara. one of the sweetest loving and healthiest ship on TV.

[@judeannethecandorchannel2153]

Loving the person you can disclose everything to is certainly a beautiful model of intimacy in love.

[@luckyDancer100]

I feel like the idea of running away with Jack would’ve been romantic until they were living somewhere under a bridge lol. Then Rose might’ve missed the privileges of being super rich.

[@jamiesteaparty]

Except that after she was rescued she said her name was Dawson so she lived without being rich anyway but also without Jack.

[@luckyDancer100]

jamie hatch she also had the heart of the ocean in her pocket, so she was never really poor. I know she never sold it but she kept it for like 80 years or whatever. But yes, I understand your point. She wanted to start over, and she did.

[@veenareddy5275]

luckyDancer100 Also didn’t her father go bankrupt? That was the main reason her mother forced her to marry Hockley.

[@luckyDancer100]

Veena Reddy yup that’s correct but I think they were still pretending to be wealthy, I guess going into debt, until Rose married rich.

[@LadyLecter47]

Love this. Wish he had done Amy and Rory from Doctor Who

[@gmork.]

Willow and Tara!!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@kittysrock16]

I love this whole series of qualified people reviewing stuff!!!

[@clAssIcAllymINdless]

His personality is great

[@andreayanez222]

What about Marshall and Lily or Jim and Pam?! This is unforgivable Buzzfeed!!!

[@h.b.2003]

Or just ALL Alyson Hannigan relationships.

[@SnowDreamFlake]

Please explain Bellas and Edwards relationship from the Twilight series

[@mckenna7523]

Yasss

[@beautifullEternal]

Stalking lol

[@Fidddle2Pie]

"Dont be afraid of your epic live story maybe beibg a unique one." I love that, thank you!

[@christie8908]

Bring back the Puppy Prep!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It was amazing! The best thing at buzfeed!!

[@lomejordelamusicacristiana4474]

Oh my gosh I love Lucy and Ricky!!

[@erwinonyoutube]

Carrie's squeak is everything I needed to hear today.

[@dilfjaeger]

slow burns are the best don’t @ me (aheem... delena, bellarke..)

[@kebs8827]

Bellarke!!!

[@tigerlily0988]

"Relationships aren't à la carte." What a great analogy.

[@teresablue2553]

SPOILER ALERT: Friends, final episode Is it just me or did Ross and Rachel never actually resolve any of their issues? They just decided their love was more important (then promptly broke up again). The ending makes me sad because it feels like they just got stuck in the relationship all over again. And they hardly talked about Emma, who, as far as I was concerned, was far more important than their relationship. They put their relationship ahead of career and family and for what? Would it last ike they said it would? Just my opinion. I don't have much experience or knowledge about relationships, so feel free to disagree. I'll try to hear you out, but, tbh, it's not my strength.

[@minatonamikaze6641]

That damn door was big for two people

[@svellah4388]

Yeah, but this piece of shattered wood COULDN'T hold over 250 lbs of weight IN THE WATER

[@Hessed3712]

Kodama Yes!

[@bearbaera9431]

@@svellah4388 exactly. lol

[@ravenfrancis1476]

That completely misses the emotional allegory and is taking the scene way too literally.

[@yivmaiden]

Hey. Omar is really good at his work!

[@avaloewenberg6369]

TORRES like Callie Torres😂😂 And what about merder?

[@notascrabbleword]

Would love to see his thoughts on Chuck & Blair’s relationship. XOXO

[@iamclassicforlife]

I saw the thumbnail and the title and was like, “Don’t you mess Titanic up for me,”… But that’s actually really good advice.

[@NotaBizarreJoJo]

I would've loved to see him look at Ryan and Kelly's relationship.

[@IACHUA]

More of this please!!!

[@joeboxerrr]

wow... this is one of your best videos thank u buzzfeed

[@fianashapiro7919]

I love that this had Jack and Rose, and Willow and Tara

[@LilFoxyCosplay]

I love videos like this they’re so interesting

[@joey888]

This is a great video. Very interesting analysis!

[@legzfalloffgirl5148]

Do I want to see them one more time? ... I'm going to keep that mind

[@cassandramontufar8304]

This was so great

[@MADDYMABSOOT]

I dated a man who's 30 and I'm 20 and he gave me few passionate kisses and cuddles on our date and said he got feelings too but later he told that we should stay just friends because we are far away from each other and busy with works. i agreed on it too but i still had hope that we would meet and be together someday. He also texted me on his own sometimes after leaving me in read for 5-6 days, just as casual friend, like how I'm doing. I started falling for him strongly as he was like the one to me. He was so gentleman and everyone around him liked him for his personality. He hid his instagram from me but i found his profile in search, so i followed him with my fake profile when it was in public in the beginning. I know it was lame but still did it anyway. I just over stalked him and even acted lile some other girl and chatted with him amd he also chatted and said he wasn't dating anyone now when he's with me. Later one day, he found out it was me who's stalking and said to never contact him. So we blocked each other now. So was it really my fault that i stalked him and drove him away or else he was gonna go at some point anyway, he's just keeping me around but nothing else serious? It was my first date and a worst experience. I feel like it's my mistake i drove him away that way. It's affecting my daily life badly now, i couldn't concentrate on my things. Please help me out to analyze this and tell me what i can do?

[@SometimesAbel]

Maddy the way you behaved I.e stalking him like that could have raised red flags on his end. Look at it from his point of view, what would you have done if a guy had done what you had done? Yes, you guys had chemistry but he gave you reasons why it couldn’t continue. (Distance and time). Maybe if you apologized and explained your reasoning for your actions with the understanding that this is not something you will do again, he could agree to friendship...but leave it at that. I was in your shoes, trust me I know how it is when you really like someone and have not met anyone else who matches up! ☺️ But men are hunters for the most part, let them chase. If they want you badly enough, they’ll make the efforts! Focus on you, have fun, go out and work on your goals. If it’s meant to be, he’ll be there. If it’s not, you’re young and beautiful and there are plenty of handsome fish in the sea. 😇

[@lindsey4382]

Titanic will always be my favorite movie and Leonardo DiCaprio will always be my favorite actor

[@carrieardis8641]

LindseyIsNotOk I swear I became a woman when I saw him in Titanic. I have yet to feel that way about a man since. Hahaha

[@DirtyFiST69]

do you think there was enough room on that door without it sinking?

[@jbeta4948]

It probably requires an episode of its own.

[@CylonsAteMyHomework]

Love this guy!

[@HengHuiMei]

i like videos where i learn something and this is one such video!

[@hikariuchiha977]

Slow burn are the best kind of relationships to watch

[@MuniFu6]

Great, really awesome video

[@__-cd1mu]

Okay so did anyone else when they put the Friends clip at the start yell FRIENDS! im obsessed with this tv shiw

[@Swagsy]

Hit or miss I guess they never miss Huh

[@sadindiegorl2802]

Swagsy you got a boyfriend? I BET HE DOESN’T KISS YA MWAH

[@yalikejazzzzzzz8161]

HE GONE FIND ANOTHER GIRL AND HE WONT MISS YAAA

[@liamwheelz1867]

You got a boyfriend I bet he never kiss ya MWA he gonna skirt and hit the dab like wiz khalifa

[@sahajatalla1464]

s t o p

[@darkness21princess]

You got my attention with the clip of Willow and Tara...

[@petrathorsty3833]

Such a cool learning opportunity ♥️

[@fangi6885]

This is something that reminds me from the last clip, reviewing the coming out stories or same-sex couples

[@gloriamercedes1884]

Please review Derek and Meredith from Grey’s Anatomy. They had so many up’s and down’s.

[@kaybee2199]

I need a part 2