A Distant Inner Sadness

Feeling like you want to cry, but you can't. It feels like there is a deep, distant sadness somewhere inside that rises to the surface in glimpses. And that's exactly what it is. A reservoir of repressed feelings of abandonment, neglect, hopelessness, despair, or frustration, enters our conscious minds in small amounts.
It is like the inner child, who is holding onto old pain, rises to the surface. We might think "what's going on with me?" "am I numb?" "I want to cry, but I can't". It can be a confusing experience. I go into detail in this video.
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[@marso8781]

U r a hidden gem. I've been feeling this sadness but I can't get quite grasp it. I try to cry but it feels like im crying for nor reason. Thank u so much. Please keep creating videos.

[@CoachDavidAdes]

Thank you for this comment. Go to www.calendly.com/coachdavidades for a free 15-30 minute meeting. I would love to talk about this with you.

[@Colleen858]

I feel this way daily and haven’t been able to cry for years ❤

[@CoachDavidAdes]

I am sorry to hear that. You need to open up. However slowly, in whatever ways. Thank you for sharing.

[@Leslie.08]

I can’t cry either. I have to watch sad movies or short videos in order to make myself cry, it takes a little bit of time but I end up crying ❤

[@danielkanka495]

i cant cry after psych meds and never get my emotioms back its torture i feel nothing and crying too i cant

[@watherby29]

​@@danielkanka495stop the meds

[@tox8885]

I just wanted to thank you for teaching me why i cant cry so thank you and have a nice day

[@CoachDavidAdes]

Thank you too.

[@yuri_official]

Thank you i now understand why i cant cry

[@CoachDavidAdes]

Thank you for the feedback! I'm glad to answer any questions you have.

[@RainFall-wz2yp]

May he overcome his fear and his anger and let me in. May he reach out to me, very very very soon! May he recognize how amazing our friendship really truly is 🙏🏻. May he understand and realize how much he loves me and cares about me and misses me. Misses us.

[@iVAVi-e8y]

Since high school and into my early adulthood, I’ve noticed this pattern. Sometimes my eyes will water, and every few months, I find a way to lure it out. Like repeating a certain string of words that feel heavier and heavier with each repetition. It always feels like I’m clogged up, though, like the sadness refuses to leave. Sometimes, I feel like I don’t deserve to cry, like I can’t mentally justify or make sense of these emotions. I’m in an 18-month relationship now, but this emptiness is becoming harder to ignore. It’s sickening, painful, and so incredibly draining.

[@CoachDavidAdes]

good work so far. it makes sense that the emptiness is becoming harder to ignore while you're in a relationship. Over time, as you continue to grow closer to one another, your "shadow" elements will become more and more apparent. This is a great thing! If you have the courage to face the inner conflict, if you are willing to get yourself the support you need, if you can set the intention of doing whatever you have to do to "heal". It sounds like you're dealing with deep, deep anxiety. It's good that you're this observant and psychologically-minded. You would do yourself a favor by gearing yourself more towards this kind of inner work. Dedicate time and space to figuring out what that means, what it looks like, etc. There's nothing more important in life, and refusing this part of you only perpetuates the cycle. I know that it's hard.

[@LuffyBloxfruits]

Thank you. I never had any crazy time in my life where something very sad happend like a death of a relative and i somehow can't cry, i mean like i never got a trauma orso and like i guess there has to be a other reason.....

[@CoachDavidAdes]

Trauma is not only a result of life-tragedies. There certainly is another reason. When you work with someone like myself, or a therapist, you bring the details of your life, and I bring the discerning eye. Together we find the reason. Thank you for commenting.

[@Sadie_S422]

This is something that I've been trying to understand about myself for a very long time. I have alot of different traumas from childhood and I have a veey damaged inner child. I feel like I can't cry over anything. Even when im in a situation where it's normal for someone to cry or become upset, i just physically cannot cry. It really bother me often times and i wish that i could just fully release all of my emotions.

[@bubbles-7382]

I’ve been bottling up emotions for 6-7 years I’m pretty sure and just now realized I can’t cry when I feel I should or it’s in a moment but again nothing and no matter how comfortable I am and what I’m doing I haven’t been able to cry but thanks for the help!!

[@CoachDavidAdes]

it will likely need to come out with someone you've built a trusting bond with

[@girthquake2390]

I lost my best friend to suicide 2 weeks ago today. I just feel so numb and flat, it's like I can't tip myself over the edge to let it all out.

[@CoachDavidAdes]

@@girthquake2390 that's fukn harsh. You should fr speak with someone. It's a good metaphor, "tip yourself over the edge to let it all out", like a glass filled w/ water that needs to pour out or it will overflow. It's a good metaphor, but as a reality, potentially very toxic. If you let your friends decision be the thing that helps you move more towards the light, you'll be redeeming his memory. If you don't try to make meaning out of it that way, it will fester and infect you more. Schedule a call w me if you like!

[@bhanuteja3396]

Wow, that totally makes sense! thanks for explaining that. Although I wish there's a name for it!

[@SlightlyInsaneGuy]

If you find a name for it can you tell me lol

[@Itisdennis]

Thank you david. I just went upt from bed sitting down with the feelings. I experienced it in the last times exactly the way you talked about. It is childhood pain and I resonate with the feeling of wanting to cry. You helped me now again with the reminder that nothing is wrong here. Being just present with the feeling and allow us to feel as full as we can is the most important thing I think.Thank you David for a perfect reminder and I wish you all the best, if you want tell me/us a little bit more of your story,..

[@Gautham-fd5kl]

Watching this without tearing up but I should be.

[@bubbajojo4851]

thank you for this, this makes me feel heard, coach david

[@smashfeet07]

Thanks, I am not broken. Then it's fine 😅

[@Powergirlll-m1p]

Now i know why all this is happening to me. Thank you ❤

[@CoachDavidAdes]

slowly you will know

[@nagarjunaeerpina3621]

Such a Good Video bro...

[@donutperson1]

I haven’t been able to express my emotions for a while now and I can’t express them because I’m constantly in situations whether it’s in school or in public where I have to control my emotions but when I’m at home I can’t get them out

[@donutperson1]

What do I do

[@njn862]

Im still in highschool and not to sound corny but I've been feeling numb for almost a year now I have so much to be happy for and I'm just not happy and no matter how sad I get i just can't cry...

[@CoachDavidAdes]

you're not being corny you're being real. I hope that you continue finding avenues to express yourself. I hope that you find out who that "self" is. I hope you spend time with yourself and practice looking inwards without judgement.

[@tuxedogaming546]

I need to know how to cry because last 5 years I don’t know why I can’t cry

[@Dial8Transmition]

I've been repressing my feelings for like 10 years now, including good ones

[@CoachDavidAdes]

I understand. You can't repress the bad ones without repressing the good ones. Maybe it's more like *you've been repressing the part of you that feels* (good, bad, and everything). The metaphor is the heart, no? The "heart" is "repressed"

[@No_Namee111]

I have no friends, there is no one who can listen to me or think about me. I have a family but I can't express my feelings towards them. I am working and trying to keep myself happy. In the end this is God given life I have to fulfill it somehow.😢

[@CHAMP_XD28]

Hi I'm on the same boat. Maybe you can talk to me. ❤😊

[@eon9554]

Hiii

[@No_Namee111]

Hello brothers

[@eon9554]

@@No_Namee111 hru man

[@No_Namee111]

@@eon9554 doing good brother, how about you?

[@snas1686]

yeah I kinda did this to myself. not only do I struggle to cry and cant rlly... I also struggle to even speak now. more mute then I used to. I wanna speak but no words come out. just thinking everything I wanna say rather then speaking it....

[@llllll9264]

I feel the exact same. It totally ruined my social life so badly and i still don't know how to deal w it

[@Sheppy-x6c]

I was brought up to never cry and here I am many years later and am the same. My entire family has passed away, mom, dad, grandparents, sister, last girlfriend, etc, but I cant let it out. I honestly think I'm scared of what will happen if I open that Pandoras box. Scared I wouldn't be able to shut it off. Not trying to sound like a whiney lil sissy but I live in literal hell and can't vent 😢

[@CoachDavidAdes]

thank you for sharing. You're not a sissy for sharing pain. quite the opposite

[@MTLN06]

The last time I cried properly was the time my brother died and it was 3 years ago, and now every sadness just feels like a fuel for a deep down anger. I try to cry but my heart can only feel the pain and it isn't showing in my eyes and I feel like people would call me numb.

[@recur9245]

Ah man that numb walking around in life it's weird I'm numb but I'm also extremely anxious person numb and anxious is like awful

[@EroticZaa]

I'm sorry.. 😭

[@fabulousandfrugal9048]

I’ve had so much trauma happen my whole life. I don’t know how to cry, but the last 7 days have been some of the worst all at one time , tornado hit my house, threatened with my job. My ex just put an ad for himself on a singles group , which my friends thought was a good idea to share with me, my moms husbands daughter today tried to pose as me and have her put in a nursing home for the rest of her life while she moved into the house and I’m 3k miles away. It’s too much for one week really.

[@CoachDavidAdes]

Thank you for sharing. Life is not easy. You must remember how to cry!

[@itsmeunique4359]

Need more videos sir

[@CoachDavidAdes]

They're coming, unique.

[@cindychurch335]

My problem might be physical. I’m very emotional, I sob. It comes up to my throat and then my nose clogs up instead of run. It gets no further. I have an autoimmune disease where my eyes produce no tears, and I guess no nasal secretions either. It’s very frustrating. I want to so much cry buckets of tears.

[@spiritconjure2996]

I'm lile a merman I'm unable to cry because mer people can't shed tears underwater so we take the pain even harder than humans can. I'm a merman. I can't cry. It's hard for me to cry.

[@craftysteve176]

Wait rlly

[@mazfarnadeem1846]

There is no way tbh. Dying is the solution to everything but its not right so we gota go thru whatever it is. 🤷🏻

[@Leftoutinthecold]

We'll die..every single person will die. But It hurts so much when We can't express our feelings, even if someone insults, it doesn’t give any feelings... I'm sick of myself...Maybe I hate myself...

[@craftysteve176]

@@Leftoutinthecoldno!! Dont say that!

[@SlightlyInsaneGuy]

I’m not suicidal and never have been but I just want you to know that dying is never a solution and it’s only more of a biased estimation

[@CarlosMoreno-ij9nl]

gyatt

[@aprilhassell1747]

It's because those ppl migjt be on antidepressants

[@CoachDavidAdes]

true!

[@HarelAvital]

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[@uninstalledsoftwares6266]

Brain Constipation.