A Girl's "List" - Preparing To Be A Help Meet - Conversations

[@arianahass2506]

" if we marry a king and he wants to be bossy and we have to become his servant, thats ok too!" 🤢🤮😡

[@haystackhomeschool]

Because that's how men are! It's ok if a man is a sinner and inconsiderate to his wife and runs out the door. But if a wife responds be being female, this is where the line has been crossed.

[@Lpstpaul]

All of the "that's just manish" explanations are just excuses for men behaving badly and not treating others as they want to be treated. I have very "godly," loving, leadership driven and servant-hearted men in my life, and they do not bash around the house messing things up and muddying floors, because that is inconsiderate of those who have to clean up afterward. It's not "just the way men are," it's disobeying the Golden Rule.

[@julieshilling4105]

Hear it! I totally agree!

[@mayam5353]

A "man" who is controlling and doesn't listen and hear you out as a partner is not a man.The husband should NEVER control the wife.

[@grace24690]

John Antonson And your a man. No wonder you think that way. I bet you want a woman grovelling at your feet, you pathetic excuse of a man

[@jamessmith6982]

The average woman secretly craves a dominant, masculine, controlling man. This is why 50 shades is so popular. Women today are taught that they are strong and "don't need a man". This false teaching makes male dominance more taboo, with a vast majority of women today expressing the need to be dominated in unhealthy and deviant ways. If they were just taught how to be women from the beginning, they wouldn't turn bad.

[@jamessmith6982]

"You pathetic excuse for a man" Ooh, talk dirty to me baby, I like it.

[@thewrongshoes]

John Antonson liking that stuff in the bedroom doesn't mean we want it outside of the bedroom

[@melmoore9033]

I agree

[@pjfetts893]

That book is disgusting - I believed it all until I came closer to the Lord. We do not have a "King" in our home - other than the Lord Jesus Christ. We have never, ever, been happier (37 years of marriage) than when we threw off the weights of this kind of teaching. EVERY area of our marriage is improved 100%. Debi and Micheal need to be quiet and live their lives. Amen. This is extra Biblical, homemade, made up teaching.

[@TheDimLamp]

100%

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

Submission is the bane of women. God help you.

[@jessicaalcorn6314]

It is not 'just a man'. It is immature. A man who messes up the house would be wise to quickly outgrow that behavior.

[@maddiewilcutt5736]

This broad makes it sound like a wife should be a mans rag doll or something by basically saying that a woman should suppress her individualism, change her aspirations, and stop being what makes her HER, & change just for him. And then she said that a woman has to be willing to accept the man as he is, so apparently it can't go both ways. "If he's a king and we have to become his servant, then that's ok." Um no. If he's a king, you should be his queen not his servant.

[@judythompson5253]

this lovely girl is in for a world of hurt and disappointment if she follows those 'rules'. You do not pray for a man, you go get him. I did notice she has her 'erotic' shoulders nicely covered. And a husband and wife manage each other. it should never be all on one side.

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

You called Debbie a "broad"?

[@lDrownded2]

No thank you. I'm enough of a man to want a strong woman. Being deferential is NEVER a virtue.

[@courtneywielander3296]

Oops! Seems I forgot to write my list!😱

[@Mary-cu6te]

She is a strong woman. A woman whose strengths are tried and tested by God in faithfulness , purity, gentilness and many fruits of the spirit. She doesn't really need to be a Amazon woman to prove strength

[@cheerfulsatanist]

@@Mary-cu6te yes, but being deferential non stop ultimately is going to leave the more dominant partner alone. Will he/she have support ? Sure. What they won't have is collaboration, adaptation or a partner who can act indepently as a partner. If you really want that you need to differentiate between helper and stan

[@delilahhart4398]

@@Mary-cu6te Unquestioningly obeying a man (or anyone else) is not a strength.

[@amywilson1589]

Honey she is not a strong woman at all.She is literally a door mat .That is the opposite of strength.Strong women live out their hopes dreams, they get educations and jobs and learn how to take care of themselves. The person you marry is your partner you're not their slave.The crap these people are teaching kids about marriage life and how to raise children is garbage!They literally wrote a book on how to abuse your children. They are nothing more than a religious cult and I would know since I was forced to grow up in a church and family very similar to this.This religious nonsense is wrong and it destrys peoples lives especially the girls.I don't believe for a second that the only purpose God has for women is to serve a man and pop out kids and telling girls this trash and making them believe it's a sin to get an education and work and be independent is truly sick.Before you even dive into this whole"the bible says this",no I don't believe in the bible.These people and everyone else following these Christian cults are completely brainwashed and need help.

[@Spillers72]

If a man is developing the Fruits of the Spirit he's kind, gentle, patient, and self controlled, he's not acting like a childish jerk.

[@julieshilling4105]

My husband has enough respect for me that he doesn't traipse across the floor with muddy boots. He's very manly by the way! And a Godly husband. There is some good advice here, but not all men are completely oblivious.

[@jessicaalcorn6314]

"not my nigel!"

[@taylormitchell5894]

I like that point! "If I want a good, godly man who loves the Lord, am I first that kind of girl?"

[@diahill1945]

No all young girls are not sitting around making a list of what they want in a husband , I was married 50 year ago and I was working before that enjoying my single life . Debi has never had a job married after six days of courting what would she know about being single and not being controlled .

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

The results speak for themselves.

[@melaniexoxo]

TOTALLY. Do not ever ever ever ever ever marry someone you dont respect 1000000% because it wont happen after youre married.

[@julieshilling4105]

Ditto!

[@glamcat7948]

"He (your husband) has authority over you under God." Goodbye 2015 and hello 600 A.D. It's so scary that people actually live this way today.

[@glamcat7948]

+Samuel Alanson, I have a fair idea of "what I'm missing." And I simply cannot get behind a religion (or any way of life, for that matter) that embraces sexism and intolerance, among many other lovely things.

[@kimberlymehrer104]

I hear you, what's up with these people? Cult...Ignorance...masochism...So, ok...Just ask a mangod for advise on how you should act, feel, think, be...F**k men that think women are here to clean up after them, and "defer" to them! ONLY REAL MEN ACCEPT REAL WOMEN, WITH ACTUAL PERSONALITIES! I'm thinking Michael only likes women he can train to be submissive...like farm animals. Don't get me wrong...I love animals, and rescue many of them. Honestly, I wouldn't treat an "animal" the way Michael treats children and women. Hey, Michael, the department store wants your wife back...she was one of their only adjustable mannequins...

[@glamcat7948]

A-men! lol

[@bohemianmonk6222]

I think it's kind of refreshing that she's not a gold-digging hypergamous bitch he just wants to find a guy screw him over kick him to the curb and then find somebody else who has more money, read feminist. I think it's nice that she has actual values. While I personally would never put my balls in a sling and hand them over to any woman, if I were going to marry I would like a a girl like her. But until the perfect woman comes along I remain a MGTOW.

[@someoneelse6520]

2017: Over 50% of marriages end up in divorce, of which 70% initiated by the woman. 600 A.D. probably less than 1% failed marriages. There is your answer sweetheart.

[@susangrabski8089]

So...anyone else even more attracted to strong, independent women after watching this?

[@Juliedaemonium81]

Me (a female) watching this thinking about how I'm gonna marry a woman who loves and respects me as much as I love and respect her.

[@amywilson1589]

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏👏

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

Why do what is inconvenient?

[@officiallucidtraveler473]

Women will follow a strong leader. Lots of men aren't leaders but expect a woman to subjugate themselves even though they aren't deserving of it.

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

No one deserves anything.

[@DreamTonight1]

I'd rather not change who I am for the sake of someone else. I'd rather find someone whose personality is the kind that I can coordinate with. I'm going to love the man I'm with because he's himself, and I expect him to do the same. I'd respect him A LOT for that.

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

If we have to change for Christ, why shouldn't spouses change to be better according to scripture? Let us be humble.

[@delilahhart4398]

The basic premise: Completely subsume your personality to the will of some man, never mind if he may be abusive to you or your children.

[@TheDimLamp]

I can't believe women fall for this, "everything will work out, if you love and respect him."

[@oshea2300]

That's why you get to know people before you marry them. You become friends first. If you're seeking the Lord he's not going to lead you into an abusive relationship.

[@delilahhart4398]

@@oshea2300 There are some people who don't show their true colors until after the wedding or honeymoon is over. If you're in a courtship in which you and your prospective spouse are chaperoned, you definitely won't see their true colors, because not only will they try to impress you, they'll also try to impress the chaperones. I'm sure Anna Duggar had no idea she was marrying a pedophile. She likely tried her utmost to please God, yet she's now married to a perverted, narcissistic jailbird!

[@machenka]

Too bad Kirsten is lost to these cultish teachings as she looks very sweet and has the cutest smile. Oh well, I hope her Christian husband will treat her as a partner and not as a servant.

[@jessicaneudorf1574]

Yes so sad!

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

When a man uses the word "partner" to refer to a wife, you know he is soft and plenty things wrong.

[@daisychainprinciples3374]

Honor and respect guarantee nothing.

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

You do YOUR part so that Christ says, well done good and FAITHFUL servant. You don't follow Christ for others.

[@tertalksevents2day]

Oh honey......No. I’m not gonna be able to do no control freak. He would be a broken man, and I’m not talking bout emotionally or mentally either....I am no one’s servant but God’s!

[@ronyv.710]

Doesn`t seem like you serve God... Because God said the husband should be the head. I wonder who`s your god. By the way, Isaiah 3:16-26 and Isaiah 4:1 sound very fair considering the current situation... I think it will be for women like you, and hopefully not only in Zion. Damn, what a terrible time to be alive, may The Lord Jesus come back soon and reset this world as promised. These days even the supposed ''christian'' woman is a poor excuse for a woman.

[@graces1241]

@@ronyv.710 do you have nothing to do but harass women who don't want to be a slave to you?

[@ronyv.710]

@@graces1241 And who said I want any of you freaky feminists? LOL so deluded! And if you don`t agree with God`s commandments, what are you doing here? And it has nothing to do with being a slave, dear. It is just your washed brain that sees it that way. If you had any idea of how much of a freak you have become, you`d be ashamed of yourself. And woe to you if you don`t repent and realize that before your last day and then fall in the hands of the Lord. To Him you will not have the courage to say that and such arrogance. Because of feminism, you have become so low, promiscuous, enemies of your own husbands, backstabbers, abortionists and the reason of so many divorces nowadays. A proof that the Lord IS RIGHT. But EVERY knee will bow, and every tongue will confess that Jesus is the Lord. On that day, your arrogance ends.

[@amywilson1589]

Fuck you!!!You arenot God and have no business judging anyone!Any man who would go along with treating a woman this way and talking about a woman the way you just talked to her or the way you talk about in general is absolutely no man at all!Any real man who was confident and smart and has a good heart and a good relationship with God would never treat a woman the way you obviously treat women. We are not slaves or baby dispensers for men.We have minds of our own thoughts feelings hopes dreams and desires and deserve to be treated with love respect and kindness. Not being a Christian or being a Christian does make you perfect or above anyone. You can have all the religion you want go to church every Sunday read your bible and pray daily but it still doesn't make you a good person with a good loving heart and you are proof of that with the horrible mess that you just saidhere.A man like you I can see backing up this whole Christian cult movement because the only woman that would have you is one of these uneducated brain washed scared of her own shadow type women.All of you bible thumping fundie "so called men"love this shit because you know a normal beautiful educated woman who can think for herself and take care of herself in every way would not have any of you!I grew up in one of these sick churches so I know a little bit about religion and what you so called men n of God are really like.I have learned the more judgemental fundies are and the more they run their mouths about the word of God and talk about "but the bible says this"are usually the biggest hypocrites behind closed doors.Alot of them are hiding really big secrets behind a whole bunch of religious nonsense and it is nonsense!No real man of God who loves and values women would ever say the crap you just said about a woman.I get why it bothers you so much because if all women would get educations and would put their hopes dreams and desires first and learn how to take care of themselves and only enter into marriages where they are truly loved appreciated and treated as an equal and not a slave men like you would have noone and would have to resort to sinful masturbation🤣🤣🤣So keep on bible thumping and praying that women in your cult never start using their brains because those women would never have you.

[@thestraitgateway]

@@amywilson1589 I believe he said he doesn't want those women who you said will never have him.

[@melaniexoxo]

Debbie makes a very clear point about men that engage in willful sin. It's surprising to me how many that watch this video seem to miss that. I love all these perfect women posting here thinking that they must never do anything that annoys their husbands like leaving all their toiletries all over the bathroom or waiting forever to do the laundry. Must be nice to not feel lazy every once in awhile.

[@mariaquiet6211]

Who the fuck says they're perfect? Just cause they don't want to become cold and dead behind their eyes for a man...

[@haystackhomeschool]

If I do wait to do the laundry, he has every opportunity to throw a load in. You literally just told the world your trauma. Yeah it is very nice to not constantly feel lazy. Hope you get some help.

[@cowsaregreat-bj9us]

These people are brain washed!! You should not be your husbands “ slave” marriage is an equal partnership!

[@kjvitor]

Brainwash my mind my body and my soul in your word LORD!!! So... what are you brainwashing your mind?

[@planetruther]

Marriage is not a partnership.

[@dumfriesspearhead7398]

@@planetruther What is it then?

[@planetruther]

@@dumfriesspearhead7398 The husband has a leadership role and the wife has a supportive role.

[@sgh2389]

This is horrifying!!!!!

[@janeheichel2014]

I wish I had known this when I was young but God is so gracious with me

[@pjfetts893]

You mean the book or our excellent comments - made by both men and women? This book is trash and, more importantly, it is DANGEROUS. Abuse THRIVES in homes structured like this. He is a jerk to treat his wife this way - just ask my husband. My husband has now spent about 8 years with REAL men who love God and he is a changed man. He sees through this dangerous malarkey and the trappings of the selfish man. The book should be entitled "How to Enable Your Husband's Selfish Whims and Help Him Remain a Child While Hating Yourself". I lived this junk and it TORE OUR FAMILY APART. Thank God we are still married but it forever changed our children and our relationships with them. God, in His grace, is bringing healing but it is slow. STAY AWAY FROM THIS TRASH.

[@narutosuperrasengan]

Ephesians 5:25-33 King James Version (KJV) 25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish. 28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. 29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church: 30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. 31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. 32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church. 33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

[@gentilejoshsaved1646]

These comments are so depressing. I am a father of 4 daughters and found this to be great. The adult woman and young gal were both great. Butt I will say I dont make messes. If he does kindly leave it for him to clean up. Butt also it goes both ways I don't make messes for my wife to clean up, she still abuses our vehicles though, hehe.

[@amywilson1589]

Sorry I want way better for my daughter's life than this nonsense these people are telling them.

[@climberswithchrist]

I was talking to my Daddy and he said, " Yes this is right but if you are seeking out God and praying about the whole marriage thing, Then God will bring the right person. So you don't have to live with someone who is completely different then you. But if you are already in a marriage, then yes you are there till "death do you part". And that's when you might need to change yourself. Thanks NGJ

[@Valak_Dantalion]

The young girl looks so uncomfortable.

[@beverlyhardy8323]

Seems like the girl is oppressed...brain washed from an early age.

[@ElanaVital83]

Beverly Cope LOL Did you read these morons' book on how to beat...I mean "train" a child? How you push your kid into a pond just so they learn that ponds are dangerous? LMAO her brain's got water damage.

[@misleperez5421]

She also speaks like someone who has been brain washed.

[@waterheaterservices]

She needs to be re educated for Party approved Correct Thinking

[@saishamendiratta2255]

Of course! She is in a cult

[@justpeachy4393]

I imagine the young lady in this video is married at this point... I sincerely hope she didn't end up with a 'king' 😕

[@girlnextdoor7]

is this for real?? i‘m just speechless, they are so brainwashed i actually feel sorry for them.

[@TheDimLamp]

My thought exactly, how is this real!? Who is so naive to follow this kind of thing!

[@waterheaterservices]

They do not have Party approved Correct Thinking

[@haystackhomeschool]

This is complete double speak. "He doesn't need to be nice, kind, godly, a good father. He needs to be a man that loves God and you can respect." I am telling my girls it is 1000% ok to stay single.

[@jessicaneudorf1574]

I hate how Debi says that its ok to have a bossy demanding husband and we should be like a servant! I also don't appreciate how she seems to discourage women from praying for a kind considerate non demanding man (which is something I want and pray for daily) couldn't watch more because I got disgusted

[@simbarashekunedzimwe1372]

Oh dear, enter the feminists...

[@gobigandgohomeschool4882]

20 years of enabling evil and destructive behavior from my husband in the name of "suffering for Christ." Women: Christ lay down His life" so that people could draw close to the Father. He did not lay down His life so that evil people could continue in evil.

[@fennecfox9490]

A responsible, mature man will put the socks away. Have you heard of the army? Neatness is required, otherwise its drop and do 50 pushups.

[@haystackhomeschool]

I think... seriously... that for any guy that wants to date my girls, he first must read Created to Be His Helpmeet, then we're gonna sit down and see his opinion of it. If he even makes it through it without barfing, my husband and I are going to have a fight seeing who can get to him first to throw him out the door.

[@joshuabland143]

The good news is! you can read these comments and fully understand why your Dad said “don’t be unequally yoked”. Find a help meet that believes the same as you rooted and grounded in the way you believe. Someone as strong in your faith or stronger if weaker wait till they develop more before pursuing.

[@anila1990]

So good piece of advice.

[@amywilson1589]

How about just calling us"women girls wives girlfriends ".Helpmeet bmakes it sound like we aren't people with feelings hopes dreams desires or anything. Help meet literally makes it sound like we are some kind of breeding animal.If you want to find a good woman how about starting with having respect for them loving them cherishing them and seeing them as your partner not your slave or someone to have babies for you.The whole help meet thing is nothing more than using religion and the bibe to justify making women slaves for men. I grew up in a church that taught this nonsense and I'm so glad I broke free from it and married a good man who has no interest in making me his slave or telling me how I.have to live my life and we have been happily married for 20 years.

[@thestraitgateway]

@@amywilson1589 so let me get this straight. So in Genesis 2:18 God says it is not good that the man should be alone I will make him an help meet for him. So you don't like the word help meet. The describing word that God used to describe woman. Well this is worrisome. Far more scary than the fact that your not being described to your liking. You better start believing in the pure word of our God preserved in the KJV (Cambridge edition). I'll tell you like my favorite song says. You better pick up your Bible and read the pages through he tells you in his word everything that you should know and you won't have to ask nobody you can feel it in your soul. Good luck and God bless you.

[@cheerfulsatanist]

Huh.... My list just says red lasers underlined 10 times. I mean yeah my husband DID have them...

[@lilydevos4085]

So good! Kirsten is so adorable too!

[@91722854]

So the take away is to either invent a different cupboard/ drawer that avoids messing folded clothes up or simply just put folded up clothes vertically like books so there's no need to reach under and mess up clothes above it, no need to involve god or in particular christian to achieve that, coz surely Buddhist monks and non religious people can figure that out

[@somwrtlftur2367]

Great video. But it's funny. I am a male and am the neat freak and my wife is the one that would throw her clothes and shoes everywhere and track grass in the house. Been married over 35 years and it hasn't changed. LOL

[@graces1241]

Almost like you can't generalize a whole gender. Thanks for pointing out that not everyone is the same

[@agarf412]

Ignore thyself, so that you may not see what is done unto thee and thine

[@katorenczak8756]

“it’s not immature, it’s manly!”

[@deespence8629]

Stepford wives.............

[@mundizlevicampos1232]

I would like to get Married with a Christian Woman! Please keep me in Prayers 🙏 Ty, Blessings

[@haystackhomeschool]

Of course you would after watching this video! Duh! Now you know which demographic in which to search for someone you can abuse!

[@kennethcooper6937]

Listen to these people on here, no wonder our daughters are running around trying to act like men, lost and immoral, full of rebellion.Wow

[@annstropes2236]

“He wants to be bossy. That’s okay too.” 😬🤮

[@courtneywielander3296]

What's the mark on her right forearm?

[@robynelarsonthesaxchick8277]

Marriage is you are equal man and women equal this isn't the 1930s women can work and not rely on a Neanderthal guy a guy who is sensitive is not a sissy this is not the 1930s or 1950s

[@melaniexoxo]

Michael Pearl made an excellent video about submission ... I think a lot of people here should watch it. Then they might understand what Debi is talking about here. True submission isn't reflected in any of the descriptions of it that I see in the comments.

[@ElanaVital83]

lambchopxoxo Submission? You mean like...whips and chains, that sort of thing?

[@melaniexoxo]

Go ahead and watch his video. Maybe you'll figure it out ;)

[@graces1241]

I want a man that likes to wear skirts and heels ☺️💅👗👠

[@ronyv.710]

you`re really mental. I knew it LOL

[@delilahhart4398]

Of course, Michael expects Debi to clean up his messes when he throws junk out of a drawer and gets mud on the floor!

[@diahill1945]

Because Michael is immature and Debi Has put up with the crap for years , that’s because she didn’t get to know him before marriage , I am about Debbie‘s age and I don’t have my husband for two years before marriage .

[@arianahass2506]

Shockingly toxic 🤯😡

[@scyoasermons2151]

that's so true!!! change your self first!!!

[@jessicaneudorf1574]

That part I did agree with

[@PastorPeewee20]

Amen 100%.

[@chrisnall721]

P00000p!

[@waterheaterservices]

The comments are totally Hillary

[@mariaquiet6211]

did you actually think these were sick burns?

[@graceylake7388]

Yikes yikes yikes

[@brookecaylor6734]

❤❤❤

[@leospuhler30]

I'm a man and I wonder what type of man that I am I think I'm a king I like to get thing done in a certain way I like thing to be in order I'm about to be married to the love of my life but sometimes she think I'm a little controlling but I'm really not for some reason she really wants her own saving account when we get married but that's only because her parents are super poor and mine are pretty wealthy so I'm trying to convince her to have one savings account and one normal account

[@meganlyles5907]

This is challenging to read without much punctuation.