A man that takes care of another man's child is weak | The Red Couch With Burn ORIGINAL VIDEO

[@Hope-dp8qz]

A man who dosent raise his own children is weak.

[@redcouchwithburn]

Agreed

[@mfit7110]

What a simple minded comment. Stop acting like women can’t remove you from your child’s life.

[@billb5379]

Even though I agree with you, I need to know where do yall find men so trash they wont raise their own kids? In my whole life, ive never met a man that would abandon their children. You must really look in the scrap to find your men. Maybe start using your brain before taking a life changing decision. Ask your mom/dad if this is a good man before procreating maybe.

[@jeffreykim8416]

1000% and puts the single moms out of the dating pool. It’s gross to see it more and more common.

[@anushashanbhag7925]

what is u are taking care of your nephew? if you marry ur brothers wife after your brother dies then it is different

[@DEANDRE_DTS]

People with kids should strictly date each other

[@antoniomccoy9451]

If people only dated other people with kids it would be a lot of lonely women because most men don’t even have kids but most women do.

[@Bpanther1]

Even if a man has children, he still shouldn't do it.

[@jameswill2017]

​@@Bpanther1I agree 10000000 %

[@leroystrokesmen5666]

​@@Bpanther1 why ?

[@redcouchwithburn]

Agreed, because people without kids don’t understand the struggle

[@AnthonyCrier-ck9qj]

A man thats take care of another mans child is weak very weak

[@justwatching3124]

I tried the stepfather thing... when we split, she wouldn't let me be in their lives. I had to respect it. From that point on, I never dated another single mother cause that shit hurts.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

Spending a lot of time and a huge amount of money raising someone else’s child is as stupid as paying off someone else’s loan.

[@Music-yq8qc]

Did you get all the money back you spent raising her kids ?

[@Retro2k]

I feel you man..

[@mondomondo9138]

Most times when u with the kids as a step dad along time u love them kids more then the mom its a million men that were step dads still doing for kids thats not theres sad

[@RE-jj2mr]

She's right go start your own family men

[@georgiamarierx9682]

Yall create single moms. Find out that shit doesn’t work

[@RE-jj2mr]

@georgiamarierx9682 it takes two people to make a baby not one

[@DeemanThomas-bn9qi]

Yeeeeeeeeees these podcast need real stories like this KZbinr this is what's missing and need to return

[@michaelfedak2144]

@@georgiamarierx9682I see women getting pregnant on purpose for free money. The government offers them free money for getting knocked up by strangers! Are you blind!

[@futurefunk88eddins96]

​@@georgiamarierx9682more times over the women walk out. Check the statistics.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

Spending a lot of time and a huge amount of money raising someone else's child is like paying off someone else's loan.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

@SleepyAirplane-si2xy I agree, the child is innocent. But what is the guy guilty of who is forced to pay for raising SOMEONE ELSE’S child for 18 years? By taking on someone else's child to raise, a man takes a huge amount of time and money from HIS child. A woman should demand all this from the father of her child, and not from a stranger.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

@SleepyAirplane-si2xy All I want to say is that a man who undertakes to raise other people's children punishes himself with a huge amount of money and spends an enormous amount of time on someone else's child, instead of raising his own. In addition, he takes upon himself the problem of building relationships with other people's children, who very often tell their stepfather: you cannot tell me what I should do, because you are not my father, you are nobody to me.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

@SleepyAirplane-si2xy Every decision has its own price and sometimes it turns out to be very high. For example, a girl who is unhappy with her stepfather's criticism may accuse him of attempted rape and the stepfather may end up in prison and his career may be ruined forever. A stepfather who has spent many years raising other people's children may be rejected by his wife and stepchildren after the biological father returns to the family. That is, a person who has spent many years raising other people’s children turns out to be lonely and useless to anyone.

[@Victhemighty]

@SleepyAirplane-si2xy no one's higher purpose is being a chuckold to help a single mom fix her mistakes

[@drewtube6838]

I’d never raise someone else’s kids. 🤷🏿‍♂️

[@nattydreadlocks1973]

You would never adopt or be a foster parent? If your sibling got strung out on drugs, you wouldn't raise their children? 🤬🤬🤬

[@D-Thang_]

That's different than a woman making children out of wedlock.

[@antoniomccoy9451]

Your siblings children are family but another man’s child is not

[@nattydreadlocks1973]

@antoniomccoy9451 What about adopting or being a foster parent? The statement was "...someone else's kids".

[@antoniomccoy9451]

@@nattydreadlocks1973 I see nothing wrong with adopting children, but the big difference is a stepfather have little to no legal rights to those children while at the same time he’s expected to care for those children as if they are his.

[@profound369]

I agree with her, no man has to choose to take a role. Nobody should feel guilt for having no desire to do that

[@foxkingtv8191]

That’s not what she’s saying… I agree if a man doesn’t decide to do it he shouldn’t be made to feel guilty. She’s not talking about something being guilted she’s saying in any case when a man steps up to be a father to kids that are not his he is weak and that makes no sense…..

[@profound369]

@@foxkingtv8191 yeah it does cause hes going for low hanging fruit and taking on the responsibility of another womans sex with another guy and giving up his life for that role, when he could get better and find a woman without a kid

[@danielharper4266]

@@foxkingtv8191 that’s exactly what she is saying. I don’t understand how this is being missed.

[@Laoriginal718]

Thank you for having a brain unlike some of these folks in the comments.

[@Laoriginal718]

@@foxkingtv8191 taking care of a child that is not yours is not a step up it’s a step down goofy. It makes sense to those who have a brain and you clearly don’t have one.

[@mrgregc14]

I guess I'm weak. I raise 3 that wasn't mine. Love them

[@tekkn_579]

I can understand where you’re coming from, but can you understand where that woman is coming from tho? Raising the spawn of another man seems emasculating. You have no real rights to the kids as well since they aren’t yours.

[@pureblack3363]

Indeed you are 😂😂😂

[@tekkn_579]

The only time I’d say it is appropriate is when you have had or have kids of your own imo.

[@jrudymorganclark2072]

Yes you are a weak man, if I were you I would not raise someone else's offsprings.

[@Hope-dp8qz]

@@jrudymorganclark2072 its even weaker to let another man raise your kids.

[@kevm3]

If you're going to deal with a woman with kids, then you should treat that kid as if he or she was your own kid... otherwise simply don't deal with someone with kids. It's weak punishing a kid for something that is outside of their control. What's being a 'real man'? Creating a household where a kid feels isolated and neglected because 'thats not your biological kid'?

[@daadvanzdone2335]

You Do It Then🤷🏾‍♂️😂

[@redcouchwithburn]

💯

[@alskiharrell6426]

To a degree hmm yes but it have to be balance.

[@UntappedShesources]

My step father was my father he was the most amazing blessing to my life since I was young he recently passed away and I miss him every day. He showed me how to be a woman of integrity and self respect he showed me what a real man father husband friend a hardworking genuine amazing father he was the best and this is such a dumb idea to spread around I bet half the men in here were raised by a man not their father my step father was my father and changed my life for the absolute better it hurts my heart to hear this love me family is on a individual basis not just blood some of my blood family are the worst kind of people

[@oceanographic5059]

Yes you are weak. You raised someone else's consequence of a good time lol. Walking around with another dude's fuck trophies.

[@GGtheoriginal]

Thats the truth. She spittin. Its weak as hell and holds women accountable to choose the right man and act right the first time around.

[@Hope-dp8qz]

Nah , ultimate weakness is letting another man raise your son.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

As cynical as it may sound, a man who spends time and money raising other people's children is taking time and money away from his own children.

[@michaelfedak2144]

@@Hope-dp8qzyea but the mothers push the man away! These fathers many of them are begging to see their kid!

[@aleksandraziva157]

@GGtheoriginal what a weird statement 😐 once the woman is in that situation I think it's a bit late for that don't you think ? and also there's widows out here in the world but I guess that's the woman's fault too for not predicting the future 😂

[@winstonchurchill5792]

@@aleksandraziva157 Many women would benefit from knowing about the existence of contraceptives, as well as the connection between childbirth and sex.

[@ajgat2]

I did it. Not recommended. No benefit. Nothing but stress and headaches. One of the worst decisions I’ve ever made.

[@feemarie]

So your speaking this way about a child that you raised as your own?

[@23lnp]

@@feemarie no ! Hes speaking about the hindrance that is a single mother and her brats

[@balance4123]

As a child growing up in a single family home. She’s 💯incorrect. A person presence in one life can change the trajectory of everyone around. Grow up

[@daadvanzdone2335]

The People Who Need To Grow Up Are The People Who Are Irresponsibly Out Here Makin Kids And Expecting Someone Else To Be "Obligated" To Help Them Take Care Of Em😂🤷🏾‍♂️

[@balance4123]

@@daadvanzdone2335 what is the difference between choice and obligation? I’ll wait

[@daadvanzdone2335]

@balance4123 Choice Is Makin A Decision Between 2 or More Possibilities... Obligation is Being Morally or Legally Bound To Someone Or Something.

[@pureblack3363]

What are the benefits of taking care of someone else's kid?

[@dreday5578]

​@pureblack3363 their is none no reward nothing no thank yous

[@hefrom_uptown5220]

No if the father is dead the grandfather,uncle or bother raises the kid.

[@Laoriginal718]

They aren’t obligated to do that. If they choose to that’s on them but they are lot obligated.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@hefrom_uptown5220]

@@Laoriginal718 When you have a great family structure this is how its done. Ok so if the father dies who looks after the kids? Who is going to give them the structure and foundation? Definitely not mommy or grandma. Simp step daddy can't do it.

[@AshsimoneF]

The fact that quite a few are agreeing with her is mind blowing 🤯

[@Laoriginal718]

It’s called common sense sir

[@capocapo1859]

​@@Laoriginal718 even fools bliv they smart. Keep up

[@sunset2798]

She’s right

[@kurtiskennedy2778]

It's real being that its the woman's fuck up yall try to cover with another man and expect. Tf wrong with y'all fr? Do know that alpha animals kill incoming seed to avoid competition for his own. U HUMANIZED so u wouldn't get the fact we animals. Y'all woulda had your children killed if this was real life no electric and spoiled ass showers. Woulda try to get accepted and killed coming to another man's area with children. Taking food from his cub alone would require a kill in most but u human right lol

[@kurtiskennedy2778]

​@@Laoriginal718 no tf it ain't. It's called u shouldn't have opened ur legs. Lions don't do this in the wild. It stupid human behavior.

[@face-rk9en]

Shes absolutely correct. Single mother run around with multiple childen by different men. In a lot of cases the woman has alienated the father mainly out of spite. She finds a weak man to help provide for her and her children. Eventually the man disgards her because he realizes hes giving his time and resources to another man child. Its even worse if the childs father has more resources than the step dad. The step dad struggling and the alienated father living his life. Lame

[@winstonchurchill5792]

Everything is very simple. As cynical as it may sound, the "nice guy" who spends a lot of time and money raising other people's children takes a lot of time and money from his own children.

[@truezladye1893]

I give credit to all good men who have successfully raised stepchildren.

[@dreday5578]

🤮🤮🤮

[@oceanographic5059]

LMAO

[@pupilmonk]

She's right you finally found a woman that will admit it it's all liability and no benefit especially legally did you know that you could be legally put on child support for a child that doesn't belong to you because you were married to the mother for a certain amount of time

[@Multicam_Meech]

Yeah because when u engaged in a relationship with her.. u assumed a role in that childs life. Ur a legal stepdad at that point.. ur not just dating ur married. If u and that woman divorces and lets say uve been that childs father for as long as theyve been able to remember.. why wouldnt u be able to be put on child support? Lol ur that childs father at that point. Maybe not the biological father but u assumed that role.. just like these guys signing birth certificates without gettin a dna test. Theyre gonna make u pay if she puts u on child support.

[@jordysanaa2974]

You shook shit up wit this one… I can’t wait till the whole jawn comes out

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@mus434]

Men need to stop this, its not your job to take care of another mans child, me and most of the men I know would never do it again, its to much!

[@feemarie]

Weak?? 😂😂😂 my step dad would boxed everyone head off in these comments in a 1 on 1 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️😂😂 he was a LEGEND in the 80s and became very wealthy before going to prison and changing his life before he met my mom. on top of having 11 of his own children he raised me and my sisters too. And we were WELL OFF. My step brothers is a state trooper and house flipper, step sister is a vet, other step sister is a big real estate agent, other step sister works in a high position in children and family services in Nj. I am in the medical field. Everyone turned out great.

[@jonathonthompson80]

FACTS SIMPS TAKE CARE OF OTHER MEN KIDS AND 304S AND GERMEN SHEPHERDS MAD AT THE TRUTH LOL

[@Laoriginal718]

Exactly

[@jonathonthompson80]

@@Laoriginal718 SHAKE THESE HATERS OFF THEY JUST MAD WAS YOUR IG

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@winstonchurchill5792]

Spending a lot of time and a huge amount of money raising someone else’s child is as stupid as paying off someone else’s loan.

[@oceanographic5059]

So damn true!

[@montezwheeler]

She telling the truth and she standing on it 💯❤

[@FaithandPurpose828]

Nah...she's got it backwards, "A Man Who Doesn't Raise His Own Kids Is Weak." Not advocating for step-daddyism, but to call a man who is willing to take responsibility for a "Female with Kids-Weak," it's the wrong language. Ignorant, may be the right word but he is definitely NOT weak. This is why women should NOT talk about responsibilities of men because they don't have a clue.

[@fellowdanbarber3323]

This is the black womans lot in life: the single mom role. And her mentality is why. She’s absolutely comfortable being a single mom, as are 75% of her demographic, hence 75% of the community are from fatherless homes.

[@jaylen76]

Why raise another man's kid? Why not take care of his elderly elderly parents too?

[@dwbkmj]

Her argument is not sound. If that child is under my roof, that child is my responsibility morally and legally. Another way of thinking should be the greater societal impact of not taking responsibility when one is given the opportunity to rear a child not linked by DNA. It is easier to build strong children than fix broken men. She reminds my of the proverb, “Wise men never know all, but fools know everything!”

[@Laoriginal718]

My argument is sound you’re just in your feelings

[@dwbkmj]

@@Laoriginal718 I’m not in my feelings as you say, and your argument is not sound. It actually makes no sense what so ever.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Said a bunch of nothing

[@oceanographic5059]

it literally takes a cuck to raise another man's seed. You being a stepfather gives you ZERO rights in the court of law. In fact, you become a liability in any custody case. If you make one wrong move toward the child or the biological father, you and your actions could negatively impact the mother's relationship with that child. Then who do you think she is going to turn on? The man whose seed she bore or you, one of a thousand walking, talking wallets that knows his place? You can quote the bible all you want, but you are forgetting what god said about a "divorced woman". "But I tell you that anyone who divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, makes her the victim of adultery, and anyone who marries a divorced woman commits adultery." Matthew 5:32 So keep pretending and finding versus that suit your needs instead of actually investigating.

[@johnm84]

It's not natural to look after support and raise a child that is not yours.

[@leocardoroger6270]

Is true that is not natural doing that it feels weird been there specifically when they look like their father

[@23lnp]

Why do women try to guilt trip men into loving bratty kids that have no respect for you. F them and f their mother ! Their life, their problems !

[@danereynolds8357]

Wait a minute she said “there are more women out here with children out of wedlock than men.” That’s doesn’t make any sense considering it takes both a man and a woman to make a child. 😆

[@strategygalactic]

Women sleep with the same men. Thats why.

[@hustlersonly804]

I know more men that got 3 1st bms but they got 3 bms.. more woman exist on earth than men that's how

[@nelsonibanez8878]

Like it or not she is right. Women should only have children after getting married to a good and responsible man.

[@spiritualistsourceoflight9000]

I'M GOING TO EXCUSE MYSELF. FROM THIS CONVERSATION, BECAUSE ITS FOSTER CHILDREN AND ADOPTED CHILDREN .THAT NEED TO BE CARED FOR SO WHATEVER THIS YOUNG LADY. HAVE IN HER HEART, I HOPE SHE HEALS IT SOON .BECAUSE HER TALK. ISNT ,IT DOESNT LINE UP WITH THE MASSES.

[@deejaythomas6161]

I avoid baby mamas women with children And being a stepdad none of the above I'm so proud of myself I'm 35 and proud

[@winstonchurchill5792]

It's very simple, the "nice guy" who spends a lot of time and money raising other people's children takes a lot of time and money from his own children.

[@oceanographic5059]

@@winstonchurchill5792 that nice guy doesn't get to have children of his own. He is not seen as sexual partner, just a walking, talking wallet and babysitter lol.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

@@oceanographic5059 That is, he is given the same role as a eunuch in a harem. He is a nobody, he is a zero in every sense.

[@winstonchurchill5792]

A stepfather who raises other people's children instead of raising his own plays the same role as a eunuch in a harem. He is a nobody, a zero in every sense.

[@Hope-dp8qz]

What about a man who Dosent take care of his own children?

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@ashantigreat478]

He is strong and not weak😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kayjeffs3741]

Definitely not weak...nothing weak about giving a child a good male role model to look after, whether its your child or not.

[@AriMayweather]

I understand where she’s coming from… she was on the Lapeaf network, she stated “I’ll let God find my husband…” dear child, God does not take on that responsibility. We have free will, you have so much to learn as you mature into a woman. Good talking points , but she has no children. Good luck in life

[@Laoriginal718]

That’s a lie. You might wanna open your Bible before you open your mouth. God put Adam and even together, Ruth and Boaz. Y’all pick y’all mates then be surprised when you end up divorced because you attached yourself to someone who was never sent by God in the first place. And I’m a grown ass woman don’t play yaself callin me a child. Bozo.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@DD-ky2pi]

God works in different ways. Sometimes he’ll bring your blessings to you. Sometimes he’ll direct you to your blessings..

[@MzUpliftingTea]

Lord, how and why this ended up in my feed... I don't know. But what I DO KNOW, if she is basing this off scripture, where does the story of Naomi and Ruth fit in to this "smarty-arty millennial opinion"?? Joseph is technically a step Dad to Jesus. Joseph, if you know anything about ancient Mesopotamia, would have caught UNHOLY HELL from his community and society from having a "knocked up fiancé". Be blessed. I'm OUT ON THIS!!!

[@winstonchurchill5792]

No man is obligated to take care of other people's children, but he is obligated to take care of his own children. It's very simple, the "nice guy" who spends a lot of time and money raising other people's children takes a lot of time and money from his own children.

[@talleytaylor1747]

She's 100% right.... I would add .... you're being used by the woman... she wants you to help clean up her mess.

[@nattydreadlocks1973]

She's young. She's been alive longer then she's been a adult. Twenty years from now, she'll be embarrassed that she fixed her lips...

[@jessicawilkinson920]

Any man who steps up and raises kids whether the are biological or not is a strong man. My x husband did nothing for my boys but now they are in college and highschool he wants to do more

[@BoazYoshiYahBanYasharalah]

Who filed for divorce? I bet it was you.

[@jessicawilkinson920]

@BoazYoshiYahBanYasharalah it was him I left do to abuse and he was cheating on me

[@Victhemighty]

@@jessicawilkinson920 ofc you'd say that, you're a woman. You benefit from men fixing your mistakes.

[@tonyjackson9645]

So what if the man is blank?

[@whyworkwhenicanrap6830]

Idk about weak but definitely broke

[@BellaaaGold]

Where is the entire interview lol I wanna see what she said after that

[@redcouchwithburn]

It airs tonight kzbin.info/www/bejne/np-0i5WgpNefl9U

[@RickDaGoat89]

And this why everybody shouldn't be allowed to be on a podcast she didn't make any sense what so ever

[@Laoriginal718]

Then tell ppl to stop dm’ing me and asking me to be on their shows because I’m not asking to be on anyone’s platform…..ppl are asking me. And you’re watching so…..

[@Laoriginal718]

Go look up the statistical data that supports everything I’m saying.

[@aleksandraziva157]

@Laoriginal718 wait till you have a kid and your man leaves 😂 you are going to regret coming here saying nonsense this happens a lot more to black people than white people lol and people dm you so much because you stir shat not because you are right it's rage bait my love grow up u got lots to do...

[@parks246]

1. How are there more women then men with children out of wedlock? It takes two to make a kid, so if a woman has a kid out of wedlock, then so does that man…. 2. How can you say it doesn’t benefit the man to step up and be a father for someone else’s child? There are so many cases where men step up when the biological father is dead, unknown, or just absent. And it benefits the child because they grow up with a male role model and father figure. By your definition, any man who adopts a child is not a real father and any child raised by someone other than their biological parents is somehow lacking in life.

[@youngstunner12able]

1. The math would equate to multiple women having a child by the same man. 2. You answered it yourself by saying it would be a benefit to the child it wouldn’t be a benefit to the man only an added responsibility.

[@parks246]

@@youngstunner12able Your math ain’t mathin, homie. If he has a bunch of kids by a bunch of different women, that’s still multiple kids that he has out of wedlock equal to the number of women he impregnated. And if a man is providing a stable and loving home for a child, that benefits them both. There is the benefit of a stable happy family unit for both of them. You gonna sit here and tell me that when a parent loves and provides for their child only the child benefits from that and the parent doesn’t. No one said it wasn’t hard or that it wasn’t a responsibility, but the at the end of the day there is love in that home.And I notice how you couldn’t say anything about how her and your arguments basically spit on everyone who adopts children

[@parks246]

@@youngstunner12able also this is only the KZbin version of a TikTok they posted where the whole internet went in on her for her ignorance. I direct you there with yours and see how well you’re received😂

[@Mind-H-Walk]

@@parks246 the statement was more women with children, so Greg is right on that. I get what she’s saying and try not to get caught up on the term weak. People are too easily triggered by words. I think it takes more courage to raise a child that isn’t your own, knowing how difficult it is, and sometimes you don’t even get credit for it, some biological fathers doing their best don’t even get recognition. It’s a uphill battle

[@parks246]

@@Mind-H-Walk A child can not be born out of wedlock without a mother and a father. For every child born out of wedlock there is a corresponding mother and father. By saying that there are more women having children out of wedlock it somehow implies that they got that way by themselves. If a man has two children by two different women, that man has conceived 2 “bastard” children and each of those women has 1 “bastard” child.

[@joeblow6516]

If a child loses both of his parents in an accident

[@warbaby1975]

I agree with her. As a white 5'5 (short man) or even white and black men 5'6 and shorter it seems like the only options we have in dating are single mothers with multiple children from taller biological fathers usually 3-5 children. In my experience in the single mothers I have dated have told me they used to reject shorter men when they (single morthers) younger and had no children yet and now that they are older and more mature and have their kids they always said height wasn't as big as a issue now as it used to be when they were younger. Single mothers seem to fail to see how a shorter man feels after they have told them (me) that. I translate it as I'm wasn't tall enough to have children with me but now that I have resources, time, and money to help raise her kids with her suddanly I'm tall enough because she has her kids, and more mature now. Theres like 46% American women who are single mothers I wish there was a study to see how many of those single mothers are from taller men... studies already show that tall men have more children then shorter men. Is it because the shorter men take on the father responsibilities for the taller men while the taller men are free to make other women pregnant while the shorter man supports his kids and can't afford to have any kids of his won being his already raising 3-5 taller mens kids?

[@alblunt9306]

Dual mating strategy

[@JarrettxForte]

Salute 🫡 to her💯 Percent. I’m Blown Away that a women is making this Statement & It’s All True 🤯

[@foxkingtv8191]

so no man should adopt? if he can't have kids he shouldnt be allowed to raise children in any capacity? she saying this because she knows it will get her head pats from other ppl that can't think critically

[@JarrettxForte]

@@foxkingtv8191 exactly 💯

[@misscamara12]

@@foxkingtv8191An adopted child and stepchild are very different scenarios. A step parent has no rights or authority over the child. They’ll just get used to pay bills and help with child care labor. He’s just giving the baby daddy a free ride. An adoptive parent has full rights and authority over the child with no interference from the birth parents. You get to fully take over a parental role for that child.

[@CoachChef]

Thats 50/50 It's also a misleading stat if you're raising a healthy household , you're going to be more successful than if you raise in And unhealthy household especially with two parents

[@Iamthefashionrebel]

So basically let the child suffer? The child didn’t ask to be fatherless or raised by a single mother. This is whack! If a man wants to step up and become a father figure to that child, he’s a real one! The man that is weak is the biological father who isn’t in the child’s life! I guess he won’t be disciplining the child either since the kid don’t his!

[@Laoriginal718]

Yup. Let the child suffer. That’s how you stop ppl from having bastard babies. Cut off the help and let the kids suffer.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@michaelking8112]

I'm glad my adopted father didn't have that mindset 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@Laoriginal718]

And I’m sad that he didn’t 😂

[@pureblack3363]

I don't think she's talking about adopted kids pretty sure she's talking about step dad's

[@thesupremety]

I told this girl I've been talking to straight up that I will never be caught be a step father. I can considering adoption, but I'm not getting played like that. Adoption is the alpha move. I own your seed now deadbeat.

[@koolkevification]

I totally agree with you sis!

[@raymondpower5892]

Her reasoning is why we have so many teenage boys that don't know how to act right because they haven't got caught by a man how to act the girl and the child should be grateful that there actually is a man willing to step up and do the things that need to be done

[@Laoriginal718]

🗣️WHERE IS THE BIOLOGICAL FATHER??? Taking care of another man’s child is a step DOWN not a step up. You’re a beta male.

[@RandomXbxPlayer]

No, parents not stepping up to raise their kids is the reason why we have unruly kids

[@fatman9196]

True

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@larongoode2360]

Quick Google search... Having children by different fathers was more common among minority women, with 59 percent of African American mothers, 35 percent of Hispanic mothers, and 22 percent of White mothers reporting multiple partner fertility. Women who were not living with a man when they gave birth and those with low income and less education were also more likely to have children by different men. One in three African-American men (32 percent) had children with more than one woman, compared with 17 percent of Hispanic men and 14 percent of non-Hispanic white men

[@winstonchurchill5792]

Spending a lot of time and a lot of money on raising someone else’s child is as stupid as paying off someone else’s loan. Everything is very simple. As cynical as it may sound, the "nice guy" who spends a lot of time and money raising other people's children takes a lot of time and money from his own children.

[@Rucker2024]

She making up her own statistics😂😂😂

[@MugiMal]

Imagine that!! 🙄

[@YouHearMe513]

No she ain’t look it up

[@Rucker2024]

@@YouHearMe513 ok. I’m going to. If I’m wrong I apologize. But I still don’t agree. I think that’s fair enough.

[@Laoriginal718]

@@YouHearMe513 thank you. Niggas so lazy that they’d rather get in their feelings than to look up the data.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@Anthonycapone8146]

Well someone needs to steep up and take care of y'all kids!

[@MrBronx61]

Let Umar Johnson or Moist Watkins do it🤣🤣🤣

[@hootyjenkins1084]

It was at that point, that he remembered hes here to continue the family name, and legacy. Which is why we have children. Not politing our blood lines with other mens seed. Your bloodline stops that very moment. The provisions God gave for your child were stolen.

[@irvinharold9095]

That's the truth girl

[@marcep1078]

I disagree with her but she did make a couple of good points. If man decides to be a step father, that don't make him weak, he's doing a noble thing and should be appreciated because of it. However, it is not a man's responsibility to step up and be a step dad so a man shouldn't be shamed if he chooses not to. We need to start holding pookie and Ray Ray accountable for getting these women pregnant but avoid responsibility and the women have to take some accountability for laying down with these men, knowing they ain't sh!t.

[@kurtiskennedy2778]

Y'all hurtttt lmao she right y'all secondary SUCKAS. HUMANIZED. That don't rock in animal kingdom lol

[@winstonchurchill5792]

No man is obligated to take care of other people's children, but he is obligated to take care of his own children. It's very simple, the "nice guy" who spends a lot of time and money raising other people's children takes a lot of time and money from his own children.

[@Duckathin]

So are not gonna talk about the fact the kids still need a father?

[@F1Challenger570]

That doesn't mean you can go find another man out of desperation to take care of your kids, their lives matter too

[@darrylpowell8247]

That's so sad. Some of my best relationships were neglected single mothers and children. 🤜🏾💖🤛🏾 She is sooo wrong. I have connections with most of the children from past relationships because I invested quality time.

[@evolutionrevolution2998]

and what do you have to show for it a smaller bank account and wasted time?

[@darrylpowell8247]

@@evolutionrevolution2998 , I'm happy with the outcome. Every situation doesn't work for everyone. And... my bank account is sufficient for my lifestyle.😉

[@Victhemighty]

@@darrylpowell8247 not every man is into c**koldry i'm afraid so just because you are doesn't mean others should

[@MugiMal]

She’s obviously very young, inexperienced and possibly suffering from childhood trauma. What’s her background? Definitely some trauma there. Nobody is intentionally that naive.

[@Laoriginal718]

No you crack baby. I’m almost 35. I said what I said and I’m standing on it. The black community makes decisions based off of emotion and that is exactly why the black community is at the bottom and you are at the bottom of the bottom.

[@betallyoungattractive644]

Common Sense = trauma?

[@mrzreez2872]

Men if u already have a child from a previous relationship make sure too take care of ur RESPONSIBILITIES B4 entering another 1 with MORE RESPONSIBILITIES... AND Females the same goes for U as well...

[@TheeBBallLife]

First off…she’s making up statistics.😂….secondly. DEFINE WEAK. Her “argument” is fairly weak, because its super subjective. Objectively speaking a guy that CHOOSES to raise another mans child is more dedicated, determined, empathetic, caring, and selfless than the average guy. How that equates to “WEAK” is baffling.

[@betallyoungattractive644]

It's weak because he gets nothing out of it. What does he get out of it?

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

U said a bunch of nonsense

[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Cry

[@grindhardtrey]

She got a point you have a point

[@Faith_Walking94]

So giving opportunity for a child to have a male presence is weak. It’s not a child’s fault their dad was a bum. I have 2 step kids and I know my presence helps them in ways you couldn’t imagine. Ain’t nothing weak about me

[@marcedwards2464]

She got to be humble her stomach hanging over her drawers 👙 she got to go to the corner and be happy somebody dealing with her

[@thewomaninblack5827]

😂

[@PIMPSTREZZ-DNA-FAM]

I know men who take care of other people kids and not their own

[@jeaninerobinson]

This is the dumbest thing I've heard in a long time😂 so when a man brings his kids to a relationship I suppose the woman is obligated to invest in his kids???? Because I treated my ex hub daughter like my blood. And he bought the violin and volleyball gear for my daughter. He wanted to do all that. Was even there when she graduated highschool. He's gone now and his daughter still keeps in contact with us! So don't start this nonsense, cause this does not go for every relationship!

[@Laoriginal718]

I said what I said. If you think it’s dumb get ya big ass off the internet and stop watching me.

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[@tyronelorenzovalentio3414]

Cry

[@omoowobhd]

I don't necessarily agree because it depends on the people and circumstances involved. This is the problem with the so called Red Pill philosophy which has become a religion to some...Pure love can transform and change everything and everyone! Plus, what does the Bible say about this matter? THAT is the authority on ALL subjects.

[@lindaaih]

Father of the fatherless, defender of widows, is God in is holy dwelling. Psalm 68.5

[@Laoriginal718]

I don’t care what the circumstances are it’s not logical. Only a fool would do it.

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@abookwormdiary]

frankly i see some truth in her argument cause if im dating a guy with kids and he got a baby mama like how am i going to get attached to these kids that like their biomom more and their bio mom prob talking shit cause im with her ex. also guys be separated with a girl who has a kid with them but keeps them around for easy access. like if im with you i don’t want to overthink that if we got into a fight that your baby mama is “comforting you”

[@soloyolo904]

I wouldn't say weak, I would say, very risky. Also, what if the kids are his nieces and nephews, does that standard apply?

[@tallmarn8927]

A smart, honest black woman.........Truly rare, you can usually only get 2 out of those 3 characteristics. This woman deserves respect. I bet her husband is top class and not a Pookie.

[@KingKatura]

Call me weak then, Because i raised my step daughter as my own when her father disappeared. I couldn't take my Hatred out on the Kid, just because i hated the father. I thought thats how it was gunna go. But i couldn't. If I'm weak than I'm the strongest weak person around, Just saying. 1:55 If its our people though its similar to adopting a child. I do think we do have a Obligation to help raise our peoples (so called Black & Brown community's) children whose parents have failed them. & thats a pretty large number. So i disagree with the sister. At the End she has been better off with a father than no father at all in my specific case.

[@456Edot]

She right!!!!

[@redcouchwithburn]

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[@SimplyAriqa]

how does it make them WEAK???

[@gregthompson7954]

Because he talking care something that isn't his dummy

[@Doidao-xx5vf]

Because it’s not that man’s responsibility. That’s why I always tell my friends don’t date a single mother. I would never date a single mother I’m not taking care of someone else’s brat. She needs to work and take care of that kid. If she doesn’t want to work she can pan handle. 🤷🏻‍♂️ that’s how life is. Or she can find a weak spineless man to take care of the kid. If your gonna be irresponsible you gotta deal with the consequences. Same for single fathers, no woman should help raise a man’s children that aren’t hers.

[@selenarivers4262]

I don't think that make a man weak cause if that man want talk to the mother why not accept the child people's just in the world just don't care of loving what you love so people's can't judge off what they see all the time ​@@Doidao-xx5vf

[@spectreman2532]

Because a man that supports a broken family instead of creating his own has low self steem. But you will never understand that since you see men as a paycheck.

[@mdflorida1233]

This is her message: Children who aren't related to you are trash, so don't have any compassion or love for them.

[@Powerstv333]

That's crazy

[@Laoriginal718]

Take it how you want it I could care less. I’m not raising a child that isn’t mine and that includes relatives. I’m not raising no cousins, etc. not my child not my problem.

[@claratipton8970]

@@Laoriginal718 That's really sad...As a person who was raised by people who were not biologically my actual parents and I was about to be sent to the state, I am so grateful for them and will take care of them till the end of my days. God forbid something happens to you and people have that same mindset as you

[@domisthebomb09]

Agreed

[@geraldbell5065]

She talkin crazy

[@benhanses]

In one of the OP comments on IG, you state that people are being ignorant in how they respond to her. That's fair, there are some rude/uninformed responses, who perhaps don't know how to articulate what they are thinking/feeling. Personally, I think that's a fair response though... because she is clearly ignorant/uninformed and unable to articulate a response other than "kids = $$$". That perspective will fail children (including her own), whether it's coming from a mother or father, biological or not. To attempt to provide a more nuanced answer, I listened to your full clip on KZbin, and wanted to hear what I may have been missing from her. So here is a few responses directly to her direct statements. 1) "That's not your responsibility" - so kids whose bio-donor males aren't around don't deserve to be fathered, or to have a positive man/father-figure in their life? The adult life is entirely about actively choosing to accept (or not accept) responsibility all the time. That's a conscious decision we all have to make. You can walk away from it (responsibility)... or walk towards it. Even if it isn't "yours". She's wearing a "God is dope"t-shirt. Im trying to remember what Jesus said... "Let the little children come unto me... as long as it isn't someone else's financial responsibility. Don't be weak". Pretty sure that's how it went. 2) "You're not gonna benefit from it..." - This right here is the main problem in her thinking. Children do not equal $$$. They are NOT for your benefit, bio or not. My biological children don't work in a sweat shop for me. I didn't have them for my "benefit". I had them because I knew I wanted that responsibility. That's the same reason I was willing to become a father to my oldest (another man's son) when I fell in love with his mother. 3) Children deserve both of their biological parents" - Agreed 4) "I don't know what to tell you..." - Also agreed. 5) (Paraphrasing) "Here is where I quote 'statistics' without actually referencing the statistics. I will do so to highlight a point that my statistics don't even support as evidence" - Ummm, you don't know how statistics work, do you? 6) Apparently, taking on a step-child is only okay if your kid become a multi-millionaire basketball player. I assume this, because the only two cases she allowed as possible exceptions were Shaq and LeBron. Again, she believes that kids = $$$. These are her words and ideas. I am only listening to the words coming from her mouth. Ultimately, this comes down to WRONG THINKING. Or a imbalanced worldview/perspective. Whatever you want to call it: - YOU DONT RAISE CHILDREN FOR YOUR OWN BENEFIT. PERIOD. As for being "weak", if taking on another man's son overrides my current streak of 23 years as an Army medic, community involvement and volunteerism when I can... as well as raising four children (yes, one not "mine") to love their God, their momma, respect other people, stand up for themselves, and make a positive impact on people around them.... Then I am glad to be "weak".

[@v4mp_pire]

This is the best comment I have seen thus far.

[@janaehumphrey9820]

beautifully put Sir 👏🏽

[@lashawnspight9997]

This!!❤

[@ramontague21]

Sir, I promise you I had every single thought you typed here! I couldn't have said it any better. Thank you for saying what so many others' thoughts were. I actually commend bonus dads. It takes a hella strong man to love and raise children who aren't biologically theirs, but love them just the same. Kudos to you for stepping up🙌🏾💪🏾 Btw, I was very perplexed by her choice of wardrobe, yet spoke the opposite of exactly everything God stands for and HIS WORD🤔

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[@geminid3821]

She's absolutely correct.

[@kojakem]

A child is a child of everyone. ~Sudanese Proverb

[@Laoriginal718]

I ain’t from Sudan nigga.

[@dizzeyclipz]

It be people without kids talking about this sh!t 😂

[@drewtube6838]

Well duh. We clearly ain’t about that life and are moving more calculated.

[@dizzeyclipz]

@@drewtube6838 everybody that say that really ain’t getting no money 😭 my bag grew after I started my family

[@wokequil9423]

The man isn't weak but the deal is. Being commendable won't prevent that man from dealing with problems he didn't create

[@Laoriginal718]

The man is weak. Only a weak man would sign up for a weak deal. DUH.

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[@johnbrowne2145]

It is clear that her moral hypocrisy is lost on her. Read the slogan on her shirt.

[@anthonymanson7493]

I agree with her a hundred percent

[@alysciatravis1860]

So basically if your Mom raised you and your dad left you, be mad at everyone that gave up on you even the weak men that your mom picks, that want to help guide you. This sounds like another dumb a** trend. Next…

[@antoniomccoy9451]

Baby momma’s should be concubines or sister wives at best but under no circumstance should they be granted monogamy if we have to except other people’s kids they at the very least should have to except us having other women. Because at the end of the day you are not only sharing that woman with her children but you are also sharing that woman with their father or fathers.

[@redcouchwithburn]

Dayum

[@1.culturechanger]

I have raised a Daughter that was not mine and we continue to have a very successful and rewarding life. She is young with liited life experience her views will change as she has more real life experiences!

[@lilcity29]

I agree with her 💯

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[@robertmayfield2197]

A SINGLE WOMAN BROKE MY HEART RECENTLY....AND WE BEEN TOGETHER A YEAR IN A HALF....😤😔...NO CHEATING BUT ABOUT THE KIDZ I GIVE A FUCC I JUST WANT TO KNO THEM SHE THOUGHT I WAS NOT FUCCIN WITH THEM LEFT ME LIKE THAT...😢......

[@redcouchwithburn]

Sounds like you caught feelings

[@rhondaroberts9153]

I would agree that the ideal situation is for the core family to stay in tact, but not sure why taking care of another man's children makes that man weak. That is where I disagree.

[@Laoriginal718]

I listed the reasons but black ppl like to live off of emotions rather than logic. I said what I said and could care less if you disagree. You’re watchin me boo 😂

[@susuilu]

Dumb to say such a thing

[@vcheri432]

She right. Y’all tryna justify it. Start your own family. Why yall want premade families…

[@AndreaFrazier-sb5lk]

THAT IS TRUE BOTH PARENTS IS NEEDED ANDS THATS NOT TRUE MY OLDEST SON DAd was not there i raised him his mother had three more kids buy me and he is mine like the rest of them im no where weak

[@marcedwards2464]

I agree with you saying but she's big she don't got that many options she's lucky to get a nice looking man if she get one big girls got to be humble

[@NedsonGama]

Imagine your parents send you to school only to take care of someone child.

[@jeffbruton3334]

La original thank you for telling the truth 🙏 we more women like you ❤️

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[@tyrekcollins5385]

Agreed now if the dad is dead or the kids are older like self efficient age teens or older I can possible understand but marrying or dating seriously a women with a small child Or small children nah I agree not worth the risk at all make your own kids

[@MukadisAymen-ui8fy]

That's the problem most of these single parents they're children biological fathers are alive why can't they take they're responsibility

[@oceanographic5059]

Maybe look at the mother's behavior. Seeing as 80% of divorce is filed by the woman in the U.S. You don't expect us all to believe that 80% of the marriages in the U.S. are abusive or have cheating going on do you? You see, that is the problem in the U.S., women do not take any personal responsibility. Its always the man's fault and then its another man's duty to clean up her previous mess.

[@cedricpain5742]

She's 💯

[@Mind-H-Walk]

In the case of death, alienation, and adoption it’s definitely a good thing. Not for everyone. The reason why I stand with her that everyone should try to keep the two responsible for the child together is bc of how the community is now. Too many people lay down for feelings, then want to get up and walk away for principles.

[@mdflorida1233]

Yes, ideally people should stay together and raise their biological children. But that's not the reality. The reality is that many men leave the relationship and their child behind. To call a man weak for trying to be a father to a non-biological child is the wrong response. He should be celebrated for taking up that responsibility.

[@Mind-H-Walk]

@@mdflorida1233 I don’t know the stats or stories to say many men leave their child behind. On the topic of calling them weak, I don’t agree with that, I agree they should be applauded, however I can’t say that’s the case for men who actually try to step up and fill that gap. Some are very much mistreated, and undervalued.

[@Laoriginal718]

I wouldn’t do it under ANY circumstances tho. Because there is no benefit. 🤷🏽‍♀️ idk what you talkin about with alienation. Alientation is not your problem. Not your kid, not your problem.

[@Mind-H-Walk]

@@Laoriginal718 I respect your position, however not everything in life is a benefit to us directly, but can be for the Kingdom. When I said alienation I was talking about the different circumstances that would leave a child without a father, or mother, and why a man or woman who chooses to step in is good, now just for the child.