A relaxed approach to motherhood

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In this episode, I am sitting down with a cup of coffee to chat through some more of the questions you all submitted! I share my perspective on quite a few motherhood topics - potty training, meltdowns, breastfeeding, sleep schedules - that I have found are not worth stressing over. I hope that by sharing my story, I can encourage you to let go of some of the stress in motherhood and embrace the season you are in. I’m also discussing business, blogging, homemaking, and a variety of other topics you asked about. Join me for another coffee chat Q&A!
- Sharing my miscarriage story
- My no drama approach to potty training
- How I get dinner on the table when kids are melting down
- What I have done to grow my public speaking skills
- How we landed on our current chicken tractor setup
- My thoughts on losing the baby weight
- Advice for a mom who wants more kids but her husband isn’t on board
- Breastfeeding advice for a first-time mom
- How I have slowly grown my business and hired help along the way
- My thoughts on what it takes to be successful in the blogging world
- My best advice for single women
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[@honeyand_sunshine]

When we only had 2 kids, my husband was pretty adamant that he was too tired, kids were expensive, he didn’t want more. I had to search my own heart, and prayed often that God would align our hearts; either that I would be content or he would want more. Lo and behold, we now have 4 kids, we have been in complete agreement in every season since then about having more babies/putting a pause on/feeling full. I always encourage people to pray not for their will to be imposed on their spouse, but that God would align you both under *His* perfect will for our lives.

[@junesammy-robidoux2305]

I love this "Pray for alignment"

[@susiet2150]

Wise words.

[@NataliaPruitt]

Love this!

[@minihomesteadcooking]

Praise God! That was with us as well. My kids started praying and my husband went hunting. He told us " I didn't see a deer but I heard from God!! " not audibly but in his spirit. He said "God impressed in his heart , who are you to decide how many kids you will have??" I had 5 miscarriages but ended up having 4 more kids. 9 living. My last was at 44. And was a 1.7 oz micro preemie. She is now 12. My oldest is almost 36. I homeschooled 35 years.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

thanks for sharing your story!

[@katelynnmccormick5019]

More moms need to say that breastfeeding absolutely can hurt for the first two weeks to a month while your body gets used to it!! Don’t give up, push through, you can do it and it’s 1million times worth it!

[@heather6404]

Dude 100% I was in such teeth grinding pain and nobody talks about it!! My baby was totally fine, latching great and growing, but nobody told me that your body needs to adjust. Everyone kept telling me something was wrong, but it wasn't

[@beautyaddict29]

@@heather6404 My question is how to know how much pain is normal? I was in tears every session and started having Raynauds. I wasn't able to push through and every one around me told me it wasn't normal to be in so much pain. Baby seemed ok but I wasn't. I'm pregnant again and am terrified of this happening again.

[@kellyshumbleabode1695]

​@@beautyaddict29 I found the pain of nursing to be so much worse than natural labor. I pushed through, and it got better after a month. Nipple shields are a game changer.

[@elsatesfam5229]

I'm 38 and unmarried. Coming from a family of 13 (2nd oldest), I always imagined I would be living my life much like you, Lisa. Ironically, I'm living my plan B life as a nurse (an occupation I truly love and allows me to be a caregiver), but also preparing myself for marriage and children if God has that in mind for me. It's really easy to get discouraged, but focusing on the Lord, learning new skills, doing things for others, and having a thankful heart for what I DO have is such a huge help to shift my perspective. Thanks so much for sharing in your podcast!

[@homesanctuaryliving]

I didn’t meet my husband until 38. God surprised me with twins and another baby 20 months later. I was nearly 42 when she was born. It can happen even later in life.

[@elsatesfam5229]

@@homesanctuaryliving thank you for sharing! Definitely encouraging to hear that 💛

[@Elaine-Perez]

My friend also met her husband at 38 and has 2 children. I think she was 39 and 41 when they were born.

[@elsatesfam5229]

@@Elaine-Perez I appreciate your comment! Hope is a beautiful part of life 😊

[@thesolagratialife]

I didn't meet my husband until I was age 37 and he was 41, both of us never married and no kids... not by choice of delaying those things but it was just how God orchestrated our journeys. Then we met while being 2000 miles apart doing ministry and now we just turned 40 and 44 expecting our first child to be born in two days! God's timing is perfect. Not our will but His. Fix your eyes on Jesus, put your desires on the altar and into His sovereign hands, trust that if you desire marriage, a good and godly desire, it will happen when He sees fit.

[@hummermama]

I have 8 children. My youngest is almost 21 months and my oldest is 18. I LOVE my time with babies now as an older mom and having let go of all those worrisome things that the doctors books and internet tell you to worry about. We all just get to enjoy each new baby that comes and they are such a joy. Also everytime I have had a baby, I learn something new and become a better version of myself.

[@abbybumpus5865]

Thank you for saying that it is just OKAY to let the two year old have a meltdown sometimes lol my two year old daughter gets so much one on one time with me and I have had to remind myself that it is good for her for me to sometimes say “no, mommy is working in the kitchen” and try my best to move on haha.

[@rebeccaknudsen6190]

I had a boss that wouldn't let high school kids work more than a few hours a week. He said you've got the rest of your life to work. Those teenage years go by so fast! Great advice, Lisa, to gain skills!

[@user-yo6vs5ol5b]

I LOVE the advice you gave to the young, non parent, homemaker. Im 57 yrs old and for the last 2 yrs have been trying to become well rounded. I wish all the time, when I was starting out, there was 1) internet, and 2) someone like you and others I follow to give the advice you all do. So I thank you for what you do. I believe you make a difference. 😊❤

[@jamesbrown8718]

I believe you are totally correct she is making a difference in peoples lives

[@susiet2150]

I agree. I’m even older than you and I’m learning so many things from Lisa. She’s such a blessing.

[@thesolagratialife]

Hallelujah ❤

[@LB-ku6ry]

@@susiet2150Same. I’m 60 and learn so much from her!

[@thehometownhomestead]

Let the toddlers help you cook! Getting their hands in the mix keeps them happy. Option 2 is let them wash potatoes or play with measuring cups in the sink. Keep them busy! ❤

[@Homestead.Healing]

This has been a game changer for me!! My kids love helping so much, and it's changed everything for me and my time in the kitchen! They love helping and they love what we create too!

[@TheRiches11]

I also ended up putting toy dishes in the bottom kitchen drawer so the young ones can play in the room with me while I cook.

[@joyjanczak3334]

Regarding pain during nursing: I read somewhere that during your last month of pregnancy you should rough up your nipples with a towel every time you dry off from your shower and they will be used to the wear and tear of nursing. It worked for all 4 of my children. It made perfect sense to me to prepare for that constant use!

[@Sarah-psalm127]

Mine only hurt after my first, but I always nursed up until a few months before my next babies were born. Does sound like a good idea for the first.

[@chloecigarroa9847]

I use a dry brush

[@BirthingBravelyandBeyond]

I had excruciating pain (worse than labour) for 7 weeks every single latch while breastfeeding my first. That same pain lasted 5 weeks with my second, 2 weeks with my third, and no pain at all by the time I latched my fourth. I never supplemented or pumped because I just didn’t consider any backup options. I just powered through. It made the first year of feeding my babies much easier because after the initial pain, there was no cost to me and no prep involved. We can do more than we think mamas

[@chloecigarroa9847]

I'm glad you did that for your babes' sake. I learned to take a dry brush to the nips that last month of pregnancy to prep for nursing to come, huge difference!

[@maeskei]

I love the solo episodes and especially ones filled with advice and examples of how you do things.

[@thesolagratialife]

I like to listen to videos like this while doing housework like sime people listen to a podcast or E-book.

[@teiganjones3286]

Lisa I just want to encourage you, when I listen to you talk and see how you manage your life and your family, you are the epitome of the proverbs 31 woman. Thank you for sharing

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you for following along!

[@thesolagratialife]

❤❤❤

[@Oliveira.251]

I think learning before kids is an amazing advise! I remember my grandmother used to say “ go to college , study another language cause when you have kids things will be much harder “

[@kendratai]

I'm breastfeeding my 4th. Ignore all the advice and just do it. I got rid of the pacifier with my first and I stopped stressing and i just feed on demand. I have so much less stress and anxiety and my babies are chunky and healthy. It's easy once you figure it out. I agree with the advice to just keep going. Obviously, watch for any signs of malnourishment or issues( they would be really obvious) and address those if they come up. But don't just do things out of fear, you and your baby will figure it out ❤❤

[@BrandiNNiNi]

Lisa, It's wonderful hearing a parent say to their 15yr old, just enjoy being a teen and learning skills that truly interest you. Our world is so diverse and challenging, every child Should have time to be a kid not just an entrepreneur to make money. Well said!

[@MomNTraining]

I’ve nursed four and I 100% agree about pushing through the pain. It’s always been about two weeks for me. Sometimes worse than others. This last time, I finally started using lanolin, which I had avoided and that really did help.

[@RCGWho]

Lanolin is awesome.

[@leah-yv7xj]

I have 3 years of homemaking experience. 3 years of serious cooking. 2 boys, 9 months and 2 year old. 0 babysitters . 0 family nearby. Kids come on all our dates. Love farmhouse on boone channel and cooking inspiration!

[@cass3561]

The guilt and overthinking of motherhood is so hard. I feel like now a days it is especially hard due to social media. Anything and everything causes trauma and attachment issues for the internet experts. It is quite tiring and I lost a ton of sleep worrying about the most useless things in motherhood lol. Thank you for the video, lisa! I take your motherhood advice by heart.

[@nothanksmegan]

I feel like I’m doing something wrong sometimes because I DO NOT stress about the things that my friends/peers at similar stages of motherhood stress about. Lol ridiculous to stress about not stressing!

[@cass3561]

@nothanksmegan hahahaha! You are probably doing a great job by following what you think it is right without worrying about anyone else. Don't stress about not stressing, I wish I was like you hahaha😅

[@MonieMuse]

Hearing your advice all at once reminds me how much you’ve helped me raise my 3 kids, helped w the sleep issue and nursing. Next q &a would love to hear advice on raising little boys. ❤

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

I have a podcast about raising boys on this channel...you can just scroll through to find it

[@gabriellapavlov3308]

I love your meltdown during dinner advice. Literally lol’d at how practical you are. All your advice is so laid back and practical. A reminder to just breathe and do what you can! I used to feel so much guilt over everything and now I have more peace and my joy isn’t robbed the way it used to. I’m pregnant with my 4th child and I also used vitex to balance my hormones before getting pregnant!

[@Dana-mb1hd]

What is vitex ?

[@gabriellapavlov3308]

@@Dana-mb1hdVitex supplements typically contain extracts of the fruit and/or seed of the plant. Vitex's entire mechanism of action is unknown, but it may indirectly influence several hormones, such as prolactin, progesterone, and estrogen. I used a brand called Earthly

[@rachelmunoz]

Thank you for saying this, Gabriella! I am a mom to one toddler, and I over analyze and feel guilty about so many things. My husband is always telling me, relax, it’s going to be okay if she cries, if she doesn’t take her nap at the “right time”, if we are in the car and she doesn’t stay on “schedule”. Even though he is lovingly telling me that, I still tend to make things a bigger deal than they are. All that said, it’s so encouraging to hear the perspectives from moms with more kiddos. It makes such a difference in how I perceive my current circumstances.

[@tarac704]

@@Dana-mb1hdchaste tree berry supplement . I used it as well to balance my hormones.

[@Dana-mb1hd]

@@tarac704 thank you. Is it something that you take long-term? My hormones are all out of whack and so I’m wondering if I should try it

[@MommaCoon418]

Lol, we also collected cicadas in buckets for our chickens! Have subsequently had HUGE eggs!

[@RCGWho]

Schedule feeding was the best thing that happened to me. If you're one of those people that needs your sleep to function, babies will naturally sleep through at about 6 weeks once you give them a schedule and their circadian rhythm gets set, ie their body clock. Katie Voetberg's mom had 11 babies that all slept through at approx 6 weeks. My 5 did as well. The stress that Lisa describes is something all new mothers feel, whether demand or schedule feeding. Here's the deal. I got stressed out at first, too. For the first week, while your milk is getting established and your learning to latch, just focus on that. Then, start to work gently toward a 2.5 to 3 hour space between feedings. Eat. Have a bit of wake time while you burp, cuddle, bath, or diaper change. Play. Swaddle or pacifier and put baby down for nap. Sleep. I try to watch for over stim signs during the wake/play time: hiccuping, sneezing, eye rubbing, fussing. Put them down while still content from feeding, but not crying from over stim. Then repeat eat, play, sleep during the day. At night, do not wake for feeding. Let them wake you up. There is no set schedule. But keep things dark and chill to send the signal that nightime is different than day. Feed and put them directly to bed (diaper if needed). Little by little, they get in a groove. They start to drop night feeds without CIO or force. Then, around 6 weeks, they just miraculously sleep through. The stress I created was trying to stretch my newborn to 3 hours right away. If they wake up from their sleep at 2 hours (from beginning of last feeding), go ahead and nurse them. Once they're awake and feel their hungry tummy, they will scream till you nurse them. Don't let that happen. At night, hesitate when they are stirring to determine if they are in an active skeep cycle. This means they might be noisy but not fully awake. Often, if you don't pick them up immediately, they'll go back to sleep. Of course, if you love attachment parenting and demand feeding, do what works for you. If you need sleep, don't feel guilty!!

[@bunny_0288]

My mom didn't have a strict schedule with my older brother and sister, but once I was born and later my little sister, we were on a schedule pretty much from day 1 because my older siblings were in school. So we had to get up and be fed at the same time every day. While the older two took several months to sleep through the night, my little sister and I both slept through the night at 6 weeks just like you experienced. My mom also didn't turn on lights and didn't talk to us at night. She wanted us to learn the difference between day and night. So nighttime she fed us/burped us/changed us quietly and in the dark and put us back to bed. She always swore that that also helped along with the daily schedule.

[@Mt4evr]

Im not sure I understand your advice. I've never fed my baby at night unless he was actually awake and wanting to eat. He is 5 mo and will wake 2-3 times per night. I also never turn on any sort of light (unless he has a poopy diaper, I want to make sure he is completely clean), and I do not usually talk to him either.

[@RCGWho]

@@Mt4evr I think i was just saying that sleeping through the night is a function of a consistent daytime routine and schedule.

[@Mt4evr]

@@RCGWho Oh, I see, that makes sense. Thank you for clarifying 👌🏼

[@bunny_0288]

@@Mt4evr Do you stick to the same daily routine? As in getting up at the same time every day, having feedings and naps at the same time, etc? Because my mom had older kids who had to go to school, my little sister and I were on a daily schedule from the day we were born. We got up at the same time and nursed, then were put in the car to drive the kids to school. And my mom fed us on a schedule. The hind milk has the most calories, so she made sure we would completely drain one boob before switching sides, and at the next feeding would start with the side that didn't get drained. And both of us slept through the night at 6 weeks while our older siblings didn't. But they weren't on a strict schedule like we were because my mom didn't have to get us up at a certain time.

[@dschaffin]

I love to learn. I have been this way all of my life. I’m now three weeks from turning 69 and am still learning. I can honestly say I learn something new every day of my life. I have a natural curiosity about almost everything. I am honing my skills as a homemaker, gardener, and crafts person every day.

[@lmagas-om9dp]

I struggled with starting to nurse all 3 of my kids. Turns out they each had jaw or palate issues that a chiropractor was able to easily correct, and made nursing SO much easier.

[@heidicha305]

Internet has changed so much and I'm thankful for having all these wonderful and inspiring videos today. I'm a lot older than you, but I'm always waiting for your next video with new and interesting information. Bless you.

[@AmeliaUnleashed]

I agree about the nursing dilemmas. My brain never could wrap around the idea of pumping and supplementing to fix “bad” milk supply and latch. That doesn’t make sense! It’s supply-and-demand and baby is learning so supply will naturally drop low low and will go high high at the start and that’s NORMAL. The doctor always advised pumping and supplementing after asking about supply, and I’d politely set that idea aside and side with common sense. Stick with it and trust the process (as long as baby is getting milk and gaining the weight) you will figure it out. He’ll clutter feed more when he is hungry and the supply will shoot up naturally. So best advice is to trust the process and relax. ✨also I shocked the mamas at the library baby-time sharing that I’d like, God-willing, to make our family of 4 a family of 7 (or 9) one day. I shared that I’ve heard many people, like you mentioned, regret not having MORE children and thinking about what could have been. They agreed to hearing the same! I’m open to all the children! This is coming from someone living in a small 2-bedroom condo. We will stack the bunk beds if needed. Children are WORTH it! 💗✨

[@deannajunkin3696]

It's so weird that hospitals are pushing supplementation now. When I had my first two babies in 2002 and 2004, bottles and pacifiers were strictly forbidden for fear of "nipple confusion." No one ever suggested supplementation. My babies were not jaundiced and did not lose too much weight, so maybe that is why. Even when I had my fifth and final baby in 2014, the only intervention that was suggested was vitamin D drops. Maybe the hospital was more hands-off because I was an experienced mother. My friend's daughter had her first baby last year and everything was going perfectly with breastfeeding and they STILL wanted her to supplement with formula. I have my suspicions why that is being pushed now, but that is a topic for a different time.

[@deliciouscolours]

I was breasfeeding my first but my milk was too runny, lacked enough nutrition for her to grow properly so I had to supplement. For my second I did more research and continued to take my prenatals after birth and my milk was so different, thicker, stickier and my second girl got nice and chubby with my milk alone. I have a feeling that because food is no longer as nutritious as it used to be due to soil depletion a lot more women can't produce rich enough milk to feed their babies on their milk alone. Just a thought.

[@kwharley7]

Girl, when you said you have a two year old prone to meltdowns, I felt that. My 2 year old screams so so much.. the "screamiest" kid we've had so far.

[@gamingisabellajones6880]

I love solo episodes ❤

[@susiebyler5226]

Lisa you have been such an Inspiration to me. I look forward to learning more ❤

[@providencegrove4600]

Lisa, I enjoyed this episode. I am thankful for the advice and openness. Thank you.

[@maeb7723]

I also had A LOT of nipple pain with 2 of my 3 kids, and I just kept going and it went away. It was excruciating. But I pushed through and had really enjoyable experiences with all of mine.

[@jenniferlumia9892]

Your channels are so inspirational for me. Whenever I'm feeling annoyed with my homemaking routines and feel like I'm not getting anything done you remind me that those tasks are a huge part of serving my family. Someday I hope to have a fully from scratch kitchen with all the healthy tasty benefits.

[@brittanyjude647]

Love this so much! More videos like this please 😍😍😍

[@cindyflinchbaugh7155]

Thank you Lisa, I really like these kind of videos. You have great solid down to earth answers and advise for us.

[@ramonawhisenant2045]

I LOVE your solo podcasts!!

[@simplesacredhome]

I absolutely love the solo episodes and I’m so excited for more!

[@starzyk6897]

Lisa! Thank you so much for this epidode! And thank you for sharing your misscarriege story! Love from Ania from Poland!

[@Homestead.Healing]

I love the business question! So helpful!! Im really wanting to get a blog going ultimately, but it's definitely taking more time than youtube. I also love the oldest video button on channels and love when creators leave up their first videos, because its nice to be able to see where people started, and hiw they progressed, it makes it a little less intimidating, even though your early videos were very good!! Its noce to see where people started and what they did on youtube, at least. I love youtube and blogging for a creative outlet and creating an opportunity for the future. Loved this episode. It's such great advice!!

[@hillg7524]

For fitting a lot of kids in a smaller vehicle safely the ride safer travel vest can be a game changer. If they are of age to safely sit forward facing the vest is safety rated comparable to a 5 point hotness car seat. In fact it is more safe than trying to cram car seats in too tight of a space and not following correct installation for the seats. They also are wonderful for travel where you might need to rent a car or use Uber.

[@nell-marie]

Thanks Lisa for answering the blogging question - I think that may have been mine or someone had the same question. It was encouraging and good advice about diversfying and showing Google that you're a real person, with a real following, and expertise in something.

[@debrademedici864]

Lisa I love your KZbin channel and my favorite is your solo’s !!! I feel you give such meaningful advice that we all can use in our own lives !!! I love making sourdough recipes from your cook book !!! I hope we get to hear your mother talk when you do her house !!! I also follow your sisters !!!!

[@angelab4518]

Mom of 6, 100% agree with the nursing advice. I always have pain in the beginning and sometimes even later again but I always kept going, did pump twice in my life and never gave any bottle / formula.

[@yadymoncayo294]

Thank you ❤

[@runnerchick1294]

I love listening to your parenting advice Lisa! Absolutely love these Q&As. Thanks for all you do

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Glad you like them!

[@EveryPeachInReach]

You are such a pleasure, Lisa! ❤

[@LindaGalanes]

Love all your podcasts. Feel like I know you. You are amazing

[@rachellebrooke4614]

I am so excited to hear the episode about you guys decorating your parents house! I also love and completely agree with your advice for young teen daughters still in the home to just enjoy their time and spend it learning their skills and becoming well-rounded!

[@annamccosker7878]

Very encouraging... I also know the pain of miscarriage and yes, I agree, the birth of my son afterwards did indeed heal my heart! ❤🙏

[@sarahwarren4253]

I just had baby #3, and I have had the same experience with nursing! Just pushed through the first 2 weeks, and the pain just magically goes away. It's great, cause I'm far too lazy to deal with bottles 😛

[@saintamerican6105]

Thank u so much for all the lighthearted advice I agree with the speech intelligence comment, you have an effortless way of communicating, Praise God, its a gift and well exercised skill! ❤️

[@pattifletcher5345]

This is the first time I have watched your video, I wish some one had been around when I was younger with your advice.

[@SammyLeon.]

You are always so encouraging. Thank you for sharing real wisdom and knowledge and I love that you approach it with a humble and caring heart

[@susiet2150]

Amen

[@meganemery6312]

So many good questions and answers! This video was a huge help and blessing to me. Thank you Lisa! ❤

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you very much!

[@jnc417]

Your information is so helpful and inspiring!!! Thank You!!!!

[@racheln4309]

I loved your thought about the value of a large family. I also have felt that you might have “pregret” before having another child but once they are there you can’t imagine life without them!

[@allthingsmaloney5634]

Good to know about the miscarriage question… I just had my first in March so we are trying again this month. Knowing you had more kids pretty quickly after is encouraging.

[@catherinedepalma6965]

Regarding breastfeeding pain: I had pain the first week or so after having all four of my children. It always goes away without me even noticing and I’ve been breastfeeding for over six years straight at this point. I think it may be a hormonal thing. Breastfeeding during pregnancy has been really painful as well. I don’t think breastfeeding pain is always associated with a bad latch. Thanks for addressing this!

[@miguelinabnasr3719]

Lisa, know you heard the saying health is wealth, it's a sad reality, but it happens often when getting older: metabolisms get sluggish, and you have to find a new normal routine to stay at a normal weight. Being overweight leads to illness. It's just easier to stay at a normal weight finding which new routine will work can be annoying, but once you find it worth so much because the results are worth it!😀

[@lesliebucher9212]

Metabolism gets sluggish because we start to lose muscle mass after 30 or so. Actively contend for it!!! Purposefully lift heavy things every day. With all the muscle groups. Game changer!

[@Aureli.Yahara]

Insteresting prospective on starting projects, love that advice🧡

[@alittle3684]

Had pain for about 2 weeks breast feeding all 4 of mine. I used the shields (because I am NOT tough with pain). After two weeks the latch was figured out and the shields came off and it was prettysmooth sailing. I did pump a lot for my first (because they told me I needed too) and had an oversupply that led to clogs pretty often. Easiest experience so far was the fourth…I just decided to do all the feeding myself (poor hubby), but no clogs, no issues at all.

[@nuraliya04]

Thank you Lisa. I love this podcast, so many wisdoms and tips. As a mother to only one child, i constantly need the reminder to not worry about making the child happy every seconds. And your brief story about your miscarriage, hope to hear more about it. I went thru 2 miscarriage and I also feel every passing months i feel defeated because of the hormone imbalance and failure to get pregnant again. During the miscarriage it can feel hopeless and scary and because it rarely talk about, it makes me feel lonely and confused.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

I'm so sorry.

[@pamelarichards6482]

Lisa, this was wonderful. Such good advice.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Glad to hear that! Thanks for watching.

[@leslienichols5268]

love solo episodes!

[@stephanieodom8813]

This was wonderful!

[@ozarkview928]

💯 agreed on the potty training! Our first three were boys close in age , it was passed down to be that they should be trained by two ! I still feel sorry for them 😢. The next four I waited until two and half - three and it was no big deal !

[@bluebellecharm4]

Such great advice. I love the podcast of you talking by yourself. ❤

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you so much!

[@prolifemama]

This makes me smile. I have 7 kids, ages 11 down to 6 months. My youngest sister just had her 1st and I feel like we are giving our very similar advice ❤️❤️❤️

[@angelleangelique]

This is my first video I’ve seen from you but thank you so much. I love your perspective and on the last point, I think it’s something we have lost in society to teach young women, future homemakers to be just that because now most of society focuses on school and career for everyone.

[@jesuskingjesus9775]

The advice you gave young girls at the end is so so good. I have a toddler and baby right now and am pregnant and have trouble keeping up with everyday things. Make the most of the time God has given you and make your future easier by learning what you can with the time you have ❤️

[@andreazoran8885]

Thank you for mentioning that for some mommas pain is just part of the breastfeeding journey. I’ve breastfed 3 kids so far, ranging from 2-3 years. With each baby I experienced so much pain the beginning, including bleeding, scabbed nipples. I was told that this was not normal, but I’ve learned that for my body, it is. I know if I push through the first 3-4 weeks of excruciating pain, and once my nipple skin “toughens up”, that it will mostly be smooth sailing from there. For some moms, that’s just how it is!

[@hannamerkel9707]

Solo episodes❤❤❤ love from Switzerland!

[@kaylavillalobos1779]

Saving this to share with my daughters ❤️

[@rheannabramley1681]

Watching this video was like looking in a mirror! Thank you!

[@stephencameron1709]

Great advice Lisa. Always enjoy your videos. Val C ❤️🙏🏻

[@sannatiisanoja2110]

100% agree with potty training!

[@user-ls1ci6mo7s]

Lisa always popped on my youtube feed and I always tried to watch her stuff but somehow i wasn’t into it.. fast forward I love you Lisa you are like a sister to me, the things i have learned honestly unbelievable- the perspective - the podcast - the wisdom- oh you have improved my life to the better! You are my favorite channel - i have watched most of your stuff - Ps i am a 28 year old mother of one daughter ❤and I pray that Allah grants me more babies ❤️

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you so much for following along!!

[@vickyb3jns]

I have 3 stepsons and 3 children by birth. I always wanted more by birth, atleast double but that wasn't the case. We talked about children and I have 2 more children that my husband wanted. It came at a price and that price was costly. BOTH parents must be in agreement. A warning about the bible. Using God's word to manipulate YOUR will never works. Instead, we must stand on His word for HIS will in our family. At 52, I still struggle with that principle. To the mama who wants more kiddies and the husband doesn't seem to feel the same, Lisa is spot on. She has such wisdom to be a young mama. I have learned so much from her though my youngest has just graduated at everyone is grown and gone (the knee baby is in/out of the house). This is one of my favorite channels because of her calm, wisdom and recipes!

[@Mamalives]

For breastfeeding, I would highly encourage others who need help to talk to a lactation consultant. I wish I did because my nursing journey with my son ended at just 5 weeks. I ended up exclusively pumping until 5 months and I absolutely hated it.

[@RaysHomestead]

I hope to join your course soon! I have just started my homestead youtube channel :)

[@junesammy-robidoux2305]

I wish someone had given me the advice you gave the young homemaker when I was in that stage of life. But it's never too late, so I enrolled in a class and I'm trying to start a garden. The only thing I realized held me back was my fear of failure, but I failed none the less because I did not try.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

I hear this a good deal with sourdough bread...so many fear failure and therefore don't try. The best is to hear from those that tried and worked through their failures and now make sourdough effortlessly! You will learn from your gardening experience each season.

[@junesammy-robidoux2305]

@@Simplefarmhouselife thank you I appreciate your encouragement

[@rachellebrooke4614]

I agree with the comments that so many older people say that they wish they would have had more children. We’re currently expecting baby #5 and I’ve received that comment so many times.

[@Mamaisawake]

Same experience my kids potty training. We wait until 2.5 and everyone says my kids potty train themselves. No, we just wait until they are ready to figure it out really fast!

[@lena-ml3hz]

I’ve had 5 kiddos and four of them I had painful breastfeeding for a couple weeks. I also tell other moms to just push through. There’s too much going on to try all the different holds and supplies and extra appointments with lactation consultants.

[@ruthturkington1736]

I totally agree about breastfeeding - power on through!

[@AllieSerpe]

I’m not a mom yet, but I’m dying to be. Thank you for pointing out that now is the time to learn. I’ve been reaching child care and trying to learn as much homemaker and mom skills as I can until I have a baby.

[@thehillmillers]

I make the sourdough, i plant the herbs, I use fresh eggs, looking for raw milk, make homeade food everyday. Since you and I have been friends, (hehe) I have started wanting to learn to sew! I would love to make myself a cotton sundress. My kids are grown, no grands yet, the actual machine seems like the hhard part. I was so encouraged to see your young daughter sewing. Thanks for expanding my horizans here in middle Tennessee!

[@susiet2150]

I agree with you, Sister!

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

So glad to hear that...thanks for following along!

[@marishapeters1647]

If it’s hurting while you’re breastfeeding I’d be getting checked for ties. All my kids had ties and once they were fixed I had no more pain.

[@RCGWho]

I'm seeing an epidemic of tongue ties. I read somewhere it's because our nutrition and multivitamins are causing a central line something or other strength in ligaments etc (I need to Google this). So, babies have these excessively sinewy strong tie on their tongues now. Have you heard this at all?

[@MonicaBU]

I actually did meet two people in real life that told me they regretted having children. They were my clients. This was before I had my own kids. It was probably just something they felt out of stress.

[@sherrylee1072]

Good job, lots of good advice

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Glad it was helpful!

[@sherrylee1072]

Good morning from NC

[@SweetNovember000]

Same! there is a bit of pain. With my fist it was 2 weeks and my second It was way less beacause I was still breastfeeding while pregnant for the first trimestre. I think that helped. My nipples were only 6 months baby free. We’ll baby num. 3. Breastfeeding is so worth it.

[@judithbutler9695]

Love, love, love all your videos # 68yrs old😂😂😂💃❤️

[@ImaOKay522]

Ohio here! 🎈

[@rebekahsl]

I had that same thing while nursing --excruciating pain in all my 4 babies for the first 2 weeks.

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Not fun that's for sure

[@user-yo6vs5ol5b]

Good morning from Louisiana. 😊❤

[@ekatrinya]

Me too!

[@meve531]

Your headband is too cute! 😍

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Thank you!! 😊

[@samantharaulin]

I’m gonna back you up on the nursing pain, I’d add to definitely use nipple balm. I’m glad I pushed through too, with both my babes. As long as they’re gaining weight I’m happy

[@user-yo6vs5ol5b]

I only had pain with my first. It was due to engorgment. Just the first few times she latched on. I didn't get engorged with my second as I didn't get as full, or my body understood like oh this is happening again. Either way, I only hurt for the first few times with my first. 😊❤

[@beheshtah.3091]

I took Vitex as well (as advised by my Naturpathic Doctor) when we were having trouble conceiving. It worked miraculously, with God’s permission. ❤️