The habits that homemakers need

[@nikistory8710]

"Not for *me* for *right now*." Such a powerful thing for all of us to do- recognize the season we are *currently* in! 💗

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

yes!!!

[@hannahthehomesteader]

I'm a client of Lisa's and just want to say that working with her has totally changed my home for the better. I am not adhd at all and definitely fall into the camp of trying to be fairly minimal but I was still managing too much chaos with 3 kids 4 and under. But now I feel like I'm developing habits and systems to help manage some of that chaos. I highly recommend her :)

[@joannawhite1441]

I never even considered that I’m adhd until becoming a mother. There’s just so much to manage, at least in our current culture.

[@Ana_Cecilia615]

I had a house cleaner come every other week, three times and discontinued it for the exact reason you stated. My house doesn't stop needing to be cleaned up every day. The dishes, laundry and toys are just a daily cycle that gets done or not. I'm slowly learning to let go of the perfect house at the end of my days. Sometimes, you just have to leave the mess and deal with it another day. I keep reminding myself that before kids, I am organized and neat. When they get older, my home will return to it's organized beauty. But right now, when I am in the season of toddlers and babies, it is tiring to expect that every day. And it's not forever anyway.

[@acerozaki]

This, you only have limited energy a day and sometimes you can't do it all. I struggle with this too and am learning to let go of this mind-set that my house needs to be perfect and clean all the time.

[@rebekahguilder602]

I love when the house cleaner leaves and the whole house is clean. But, it’s difficult to work out in all the time.

[@charitymeyer9903]

I appreciate the comments about breaking free from perfectionism and I often joke that God gave me 10 kids to break me of perfectionism, however, I am seeing lot of excusing laziness and lack of diligence as “being real”. I think there is a real danger here if you let the pendulum swing too far the other way. Our confidence should not come from perfect home or clothes or body but that we were faithful and diligent in what God has put before us at any given time.

[@RachelRenee41224]

This is so well put!!! I follow a lady on YT who is a life coach and she says she isn’t a perfectionist, she an “effortist”- meaning she does her best and if it doesn’t end up the way she wants, that’s okay! I think that’s the thing that’s missing- knowing you did your best for yourself because it’s about the character of the heart and not what others see!

[@kellyczubko7259]

Fantastic topic to reflect on for families to instill life long habits. Within Montessori education the word for cleaning up or putting back is “restore”. The children restore their work. I prefer the word restore over reset as it has the connotation of peace and rejuvenation! 😊

[@Dana-mb1hd]

What a fantastic episode and I am only a few minutes in!!!! When you ladies talked about perfectionism I could absolutely relate!! Thank you both and God Bless💖💖💖

[@BrookCadena]

This episode is one of those life changing ones for me! Thank you Lisa for having Lisa on your show!!! You are both amazing women!!! 😊

[@joannawhite1441]

Cannot wait to listen! I never felt like I had adhd until I became a mother. Taking on the executive functioning responsibilities of myself and my family was nothing I ever considered would be a challenge. Since becoming a stay at home mother I’ve been trying to learn more since it’s now my sole job. Being a homemaker is no joke. When working outside the home I felt I had an excuse to be frazzled, have ten piles of laundry to fold and not know what to make for dinner. My husband has pretty significant adhd, takes on many different things and is just naturally more disorganized so he needs my help too.

[@CynaPortraits]

Lisa, thank you for your podcast ❤. Nothing is more fulfilling on the Internet than your videos. I am very grateful that by miracle I found your channel. Now I'm following you and your sisters and I love what you share with us. The reality of motherhood, challenges, but the greatest joy at the same time. Thank you for sharing it all, I deeply appreciate it.

[@kimjaymama26]

This really was such an amazing encouragement for me. as a homeschooler of six has been doing it for over 13 years I still struggle with feeling accomplished at the end of the day. Feeling like I need a chore chart for lips with checkmark and I can look back on and think oh I actually did do something the way you describe natural flow has been revolutionary because I naturally we naturally as a family doing things as they come a lot of things and realizing that feels better than a list

[@Samantha-vd8jc]

Homeschooling mom of 8 kiddos over here. This came out at a great time. I'm in the process of decluttering every room before the school year starts. Even though I feel I technically don't own too much, the kids touch everything and like Lisa said, I'm constantly picking up "droppings". I love her layout of how to manage a schedule of an "ideal" day. I will have to sit down and write out what that might look like for us. Helpful interview, as always, Lisa, thanks!

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

So glad you found some encouragement!

[@racheln4309]

Us too. I think I’ve decluttered the Toyroom three times this summer haha!

[@racheln4309]

I love when Lisa says “get mad at yourself for wasting time”. This has long been one of my ways to motivate myself, in many ways. Im not afraid to call myself lazy, whatever. because it makes me less lazy! 😂

[@StephanieMcCamon]

I love this topic. I mostly love that you're not perfect! You show / talk about mistakes etc. and show that it's ok. No one is perfect. We don't want tocsee something that shows perfect by editing. It's not something we can do, so why watch and make our self esteem worse. Ya know. So I love this talk. Thank you Lisa and Lisa. 😊❤

[@susandixon3970]

Oh my goodness this is so amazing! It is just my 77 year old Veteran husband and I now. We have been married for 45 years. I have noticed since Honey was 75 that he is now leaving a trail. If he mows the yard and washes the lawnmower off he leaves it near the hose and the hose is left out by the mower. Today he used the weed eater and left it laying in the sun where he finished…yes he may be tired however that last step of putting it away in the garage and the job would have been complete. I find that I’m the one going behind him completing his task. He has a fit when I suggest hiring the neighbor boy. I’m so stressed…and that is not where I want to be in this phase of life.

[@joannawhite1441]

My dad is about that age and has adhd and while adhd tends to improve from childhood into adulthood to a degree it seems to regress in old age, from what I’ve observed. My husband does all the things you just mentioned and he’s only 39 so can’t wait to see what happens in old age!

[@fernfungifarm1590]

My husband is 37 and I am 29. I find that he is the one following me the trail leaver… In your situation I can’t imagine how frustrating that would be. Your comment has helped me really understand that I need to create the habit now of completing the task. I’ll take it to heart instead of becoming defensive or making up excuses for my habits. Thank you !!!

[@Maria-uh2ss]

I’m sure at 77 he doesn’t want to be mowing at this stage of his life either, doing it together - you helping him by finishing the task is maybe exactly what HE needs… ❤

[@jennicuervo8265]

Exactly. My husband has been doing that since we met in our early twenties. I say he has adhd 😂 ​@joannawhite1441

[@annamccosker7878]

Very good video. Something she said in the middle of her program was to "know what you really want" and then protect that. I think I know what I want, need, or like however it changes for me - sometimes day to day. I really need to figure that part out! 🙏

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Once you nail that down everything else becomes so much clearer

[@sofibregman4671]

I love what I hear and it makes so much sense. As it often happens this was perfect for me to hear today like a natural continuation of my though process. God bless you 🙏

[@sherrylee1072]

Going to finish watching this on my TV

[@Thefunfamily_3582]

Thank you. I'm a motherless mother and this was very helpful and encouraging.

[@sarahlloyd769]

“As natural as brushing your teeth”… shoot, I forgot to brush my teeth too

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

lol

[@aloras405]

As an ADHD person, habits are never natural. My husband has to remind me to brush my teeth every single day. Everything has to be a conscious effort or it doesn’t get done.

[@coralovesnature]

@@aloras405Same here

[@verihealthy7156]

I was thinking this too!! Lol nothing is habitually natural. I even forget to use the restroom until it's an emergency. I forget that maybe meals should be considered.

[@sajmt1414]

This was fantastic! Thanks so very much.

[@PollyWannaCracker21]

Wow. Did God know I needed this podcast or what!? Perfect timing. Thank you so much!

[@SimplyEnjoyingLife]

Great listen. Challenging and encouraging. ❤

[@anastasiaromano3780]

dont agree with the 8 hours of sleep either lol thanks for mentoning its impossible with babies and young kids .. This is the BEST video I have watched on youtube... just hope i can get the family onboard😂

[@deannaholm3799]

WONDERFUL CONVO!!!

[@crystalatkinson5852]

I feel like this episode was made for me! Thank you!!

[@Gabrielle499]

Awesome information & insight I need so badly ~ thank you!! 🥰

[@terrieaves1682]

Love this! Great information! ❤

[@ImaOKay522]

Great show ladies ❤❤

[@daringerin]

Great insight! Thank you!

[@nikistory8710]

We all love that you live real life, too, Lisa Bass 😅🎉

[@pamelajones4412]

This podcast is very amazing a lot of the things you talked about I actually do with schedules and organization daily life is very productive and amazing 😊

[@rebekahguilder602]

I always call my sister and ask her to tell me to throw stuff away! 🤣

[@sherrylee1072]

Hello from NC

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Hello!

[@yadymoncayo294]

Thank you ❤

[@doravalencia2214]

I do have a strange fear of dying and my kids having to deal with my mess.. organizing and decluttering now

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

don't live in fear but find peace in doing what you need to do...one small step at a time...those small steps add up to big rewards.

[@Zuzia-l5b]

Im so stresed up when I have clutter around me. I can only function when 'I see the light at the end of the tunnel' (for me it meens I just pick up these 3 or 4 things and all my flat surfeses are clutter free).

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

It's good for all of us to know and understand what causes us stress and then address the issue...

[@verihealthy7156]

This sounds so good, but so unachievable for me. I am so overwhelmed I feel close to falling apart. I'm trying so hard to declutter, but I am exhausted. My husband is gone traveling for work most day&evenings so I feel like a single stay-at-home mom. All day every day is spent with the kids. And there is nothing that I can do to change that. I have no family nearby, and all my friends have their own lives that I cannot get help or even a moment to myself. I have 3, 3 and under. My oldest is in the process of getting diagnosed with ADHD and just keeping him alive is a full time job. The youngest is 4 weeks old (while completely loved, completely unplanned and not wanted for the season I am in). We are STRUGGLING financially so much so my husband is begging me to help him grow finances. So I'm trying to start a small in home bakery on top of everything else, because I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO. This season is so hard. My (close) aunt and brother died in the same year this year. I am still recovering from a c section and have to run a house and keep 3 toddlers alive alone. I just feel so very alone. I grew up in a very unkept home. Think piles everywhere. I didn't know the first thing about keeping a home until I met my husband. And the 4 years between getting married and having kids was heavenly. I never knew how much more at peace I was with a tidy and clean home. Fast forward to kids and I just cannot manage it. I've downsized our clothes and toys and dishes, but still cannot keep up. I know I am in PP depression, but I want so much more than I had for my kids I stress myself out. My husband and I haven't been on a date or had any truly alone time (other than them sleeping) since my eldest was born. I feel disconnected from everything and everyone I loved prior to kids. I used to be an artist and a free spirit. Now I feel caged and held down like a weight. This life I feel like is taking everything from and out of me. I don't even know who I am. I apologize for venting on this video...

[@bumpsbabiesbigkids9453]

Goodmorning, I hope this day is treating you well. I just want to encourage you as a mom of 5 who has been there. This is a season! This too shall pass, it is hard. Listen, take off your mental plate what you can let off (even organizing). Think of the day in moments and not the full day at once, it's overwhelming. You will get on the other side of littles, I promise. 💗

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Take a break when you need one, prioritize sleep and sunshine, fresh air, nourishing meals making health a priority. Seek help if you need it. Pick one small thing to accomplish each day...perhaps it is cleaning out one drawer. In a week, think of how that will add up. Make lists to clear you head...you can go back through this channel or the podcast and find some encouragement right here...prayers for you to get unstuck.

[@mrsmacdee1113]

I'm tearing up reading your post. Mom of 11 here. I was where you are 17 years ago. There were little catch phrases that carried me through like "This too shall pass." Prioritise healing from your c-section. Prioritize washing things that go mouldy like clothes and dishes. Prioritize sleep, and eating. Get sunshine every day. Take vitamin D³. You're on survival mode. When I look back those years are so precious. The time you spend raising your kids is so short. Prayers from this stranger.🙏

[@regenaguinn]

👏👏👏

[@AmyLouiseDens]

Just curious- I noticed your speakers tend to be peers. Do you feature older women mentors?

[@nikistory8710]

She has featured many older women mentors. ❤

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

Yes, I have had all ages...older and younger!

[@kennethbailey9853]

😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

[@amylovesmusic1718]

My flow looks like a full on home invasion...kids getting breakfast while I'm getting babies dressed while husband is heading out the door while my home office is opening. Where is this family that flows through a house one mess at a time? Lol 😂

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

lol!

[@astro.amanda2860]

I love your channel but your eyes are always shifting all over the place and it doesn't seem like you're looking at / paying attention to the person you are conversing with. It's a little distracting. I don't mean to be rude I hope this helps. 🙏🏻

[@Simplefarmhouselife]

I have shared on here that we have lost our once good internet and have tried many things to fix it...as a result the interviews are difficult with the time pauses etc.

[@Counterculturefamily]

I think if it was a natural flow all of the women would be doing it...

[@lucysky930]

I needed this! Love the work you both do. 🤍