A SURPRISING Reason Why Men Get TOO SEXUAL Too Early

[@StephanSpeaksClips]

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[@ZenRemy]

When men do this to me straight out the gate , i start asking for money and that usually resolves the disrespect. I do that as a means to deter them from trying me . Period

[@cutiepiea3687]

It’s true i might start to be honest!

[@JuiceFastCoach]

Oooo well played lol 😂

[@emelyrojas7894]

What a new tactic 😂love it .

[@jadegreen1554]

😅

[@nko5666]

Good job

[@janellinell4552]

They think you owe them sex. That free entertainment BS is BS. Ladies don’t give him sex early you’ll risk your health and getting played

[@christhegoat9477]

Bruh if that’s the case when you date let them know upfront you don’t wanna be intimate and you only want money

[@fruitsarelife7073]

@@christhegoat9477sure when men say that they only come to be intimate we might do that too☺️

[@akabigron]

Then pay for your meal.

[@sbaby-fc3ki]

Advice to all my single ladies please do not have sex at all with a man for any reason. Problem solved just don’t have sex and you won’t have to feel the pain of being mistreated later. Unfortunately it’s easier said then done because a history of abuse and neglect plays into ladies desire to sex with a man who does not care about them too.. this conditioning happens early but I think what needs to happen is women getting together to support other women with their mental health and reaching out and working with the young girls suffering mental health issues to help them to they can get the support they need to be healthy and not fall into abusive relationships

[@JC50-joy]

I agree!

[@Wonderwoman79G]

💯

[@pcwilb1]

Yes easier said then done since so many men make sex a stipulation from the beginning...they're few men who actually aren't interested in sleeping with a woman from the start.

[@sbaby-fc3ki]

@@pcwilb1 that’s true so the only protection is to run from men who are pushing sex on us

[@darlenebush9134]

Exactly!!!

[@jeaninehicks2907]

I went on a date with a man recently and that was my first time meeting him in person after only two weeks of communicating over the phone. For some reason, he thought it was OK to try to kiss me numerous of times even moving my face to his lips and I ended up saying the word no and he acted like he didn’t understand what that meant. Men dive right in instead of slowly building to the physical. It’s like they truly do not understand how to date and how to be normal.

[@xecellore]

Lol exactly this. Idiots i swear

[@yashemamarshall1124]

I totally agree I have a similar experience like this once and I stop talking to the guy it's like they can't take time to get and know us well like c'mon sex ain't going anywhere dude just learn to take it slow

[@yashemamarshall1124]

So sorry that u went through that

[@jeaninehicks2907]

@@yashemamarshall1124 thank you ❤️

[@yashemamarshall1124]

@@jeaninehicks2907 ur welcome

[@Wonderwoman79G]

If women want something long term, they will be turned off by a man for talking about sex so quickly. So men testing women in this way will backfire. Also , why cant men learn to flirt? It is old fashioned but it would be a better way for a man and woman to figure out if there is an attraction.

[@zero1188]

to keep it simple its about being desired not the sax itsself. women tend not to show men they want them, only way for most men to do is when a woman sleeps with them. women need to flirt a bit or just be more direct to let the man know they want them

[@yvettemarshallTWN]

I agree. Can tell there’s interest between two but follow that tingling sensation to see if it can become mutual communication and connection. Kissing and teasing is sexy and fun in dating, gives peek at love language and how each does intimacy. Also, let’s each know the other is desired. 🌹May help to “blow off steam” if you catch my drift, 😏 in the shower or somewhere before the date so you’ll be more calm and less likely to feel pressed to jump bones and ruin a good thing!

[@Wonderwoman79G]

@zero Again,it is about women setting boundaries and standards.I would say that if you guys do not want to date to get to know a woman then go to apps sites that have a reputation for h#okups. Leave the traditional women who want to date, alone.

[@zero1188]

@@Wonderwoman79G you do realize traditional women know how to flirt without just relyingsax with a man right. To be more direct, traditional women know how to reflect a man power back to him, this is how you keep their interest. Aint got nothing to do with sax. Same way how men use foreplay to keep a women, women must use foreplay to retain a man as well.

[@yvettemarshallTWN]

@@Wonderwoman79G No problem with your statement. Hook ups stay in the hook up lane, and relationships should stay in the relationship lane. Avoid misunderstandings that way. Got a funny vision of someone driving in the carpool lane with a mannequin in passenger seat! Stop frontin’ because maybe you want a better situation, a better quality of man or woman but you’re not ready to put in the attention and patience that it takes to have them.

[@meganmoeller4505]

I am convinced courting a woman is DEAD. And, it’s sad because a good relationship is lost. Not because of lack of interest on either part, but because of the idea that sex is the only tool for connection and payback for dates. Women want to feel they are more than a sex object and when you start with that, that’s the message you’re sending.

[@monopoly9]

Men wants to feel they are not just ATMs

[@jfaustin1742]

In the Philippines men COURT soo much

[@SR77736]

​@@monopoly9 a lot of yall barely have any money and women work nowadays. Wdym? Find another lame weak argument. We don't need your pennies.

[@macm2373]

@@jfaustin1742😂😂😂

[@Diarrheagod]

@@monopoly9then they need to be more selective about who they spend their money on, like don’t do anything expensive until you’ve gotten to know the woman more and know shes a genuine person. Same with women being more choosey about not sleeping with a man until she knows hes worthy. Works both ways sweetie.

[@smores8982]

I can completely understand this mentality because men get played just like women get played. BUT most women are cautious and will want to be sure he has good intentions before having sex with him. So if he gets handsy too soon, it sends the wrong message. Another thing I’ve noticed, some men will automatically think you’re having sex with another man simply because you don’t quickly jump into bed with them. It’s projection. That’s what most men would do!

[@TheColtonStreeter]

Advice for men tends to do that and many women do do that.

[@anad05]

You said it perfectly!!

[@Adrienne.Michelle91]

Well said

[@Spiritsong1111]

I will never settle for a man who doesn’t care enough about me to invest in asking me out for a date. When men try to get out of that by asking to hang out at my place, I see that as a red flag.

[@tinyking11]

It is. That means he wants to have sex. Men are never coming back to my place & vice versa.

[@SR77736]

Yup. They want free sex and no investment and its gonna be on their terms. Thats not gonna work for me. Got out of that situation and didn't sleep with a guy who didn't want to date but claimed we were dating just to get sex.

[@tinyking11]

Facts. 💯 I don’t do at home dates unless we are exclusive. They are just trying to get it in with you. 😐🤷🏽‍♀️

[@Gabrielle727]

Hmm “according to my calculations” 🤓, his attempt to have sex early would just be a warning sign for me to keep looking, just as my lack of investment should be a warning sign for him. There’s someone out there on the same page as me, but I appreciate the insight to men’s thinking! Dating is a risk for both parties involved.

[@QuantumHealingTarot]

Women spend money preparing to be fabulous on the date. The man pays for the meal… she pays for nails, hair, etc. Sex is no way a fair exchange for a meal. I’d go Dutch before that was some kind of rule.

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

I agree. Sex, is not a trade for a $20-$30 meal. Yes, I'll either be saying no, or bringing my half of the cash. But once I bring my half, he better not think of trying to make a move cause now it's all on my terms!

[@aleacejordan]

@@Simplythetruthfulone exactly like nails hair and outfit could run $300 easily !!!! And that’s on the low end all for a 20-30 dollar meal . Like most women eat good on the regular , & these dusties feeling used over some food . Like didn’t u eat ? Wheww . If I had to pay for my own meal on a so called date ? That mf better not even so much as to touch me .

[@03045_Idris]

While I agree that sex is not an exchange I would like to input that a lot of women don't actually pay for their hair, dress and nails for the date. He sends them money for everything and their Uber. At least in my country

[@QuantumHealingTarot]

@@03045_Idris being with a woman elevates a man’s status among his peers. He is seen as more desirable by other woman as well. She doesn’t have to do all the things mentioned above because her presence alone gives a man things he does not have without her….admiration, social access, etc

[@AvalonMisty]

@@03045_Idris what Country is this?

[@mirelarajic579]

If a man, on a date, is expecting that I pay half, I will. No problem! But in my eyes we are now just buddies hanging out. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I'm a woman and I like when I'm treated as such. Call me old fashioned but that's just the way I am.

[@darlenebush9134]

Exactly 💯

[@1maybeline]

Yep, there's nothing romantic about that

[@Wonderwoman79G]

That is the end of any potential romantic relationship for me.

[@jeaninehicks2907]

It depends. Say it’s a first date and I’m just meeting him for the first time. If the date is not going great and I 100% know I am not attracted and will probably decline a 2nd date, I do not let him pay. If I Allow him to pay then I am taking advantage of him. I only allow men to pay if I definitely see myself with them and know at some point we will be intimate. Like he said, women know men are invested when they spend money on us and men know women are invested when we are affectionate physically to them.

[@piyu2003]

Doesn't work on the first date

[@hawaiigirl8089]

You need to teach men WISDOM & how to man up. I just resent men now SO MUCH MORE. Sex for a taco to prove she likes him 😂😂😂😂😂 that makes him a bully for pussy. Prove what? If you coerce me over a dinner - i don’t know you, if yo have other gfs. If he has an STD, if he has a hidden wife, I may get pregnant & of course he’ll blame me, right

[@dolores2022]

The more I see these videos, the more I know that I meant to be single 😂 this is why I DONT DATE

[@JC50-joy]

Me too

[@_baphiwe_]

We in hell

[@laurenh1021]

Right same here

[@ambar_c991]

Same here

[@staceywilliams1863]

Same! I have zero interest now and I’m glad! Lol!

[@xtina1412]

Ladies, you have to know what you want now and after. If you want a long term relationship with the intention of marriage then let them weed out themselves and don’t sleep with them prematurely. It takes 100 hours face to face to bond and trust each other. However, if you are looking for fun only, then seize the day and enjoy the process knowing that it’s only transient. But know this, sex for women is a bonding experience so you’ll get attached to the man you’ll sleep with. Then you’ll be hurt even you know it’s only casual sex. Be more discerning.

[@whyjustwhy2168]

This is true just cut off a 2 month fling and I am being more intentional. But I my mind I said man it was so fun! And it was. On to the next with lessons learned. I told him we are still cool just no need to text anymore

[@spyroluver0951]

Ahh... if a man cannot control his sexual desires and actually enjoy the company of the women, then that says a lot to the woman about the man. If the woman jumps for sex on the first date, it is rare that the guy will invest for a long term commitment and could crush her self esteem. Being genuinely interested with the guy means we spend more time with them and they should be happy with that, money or not, even if it is a walk on the beach, things can be done to show interest.

[@Simplythetruthfulone]

Exactly! That's why it's a scam for a man to expect sex for a date. And it's an excuse for a bigger problem they have.

[@Diarrheagod]

@@SimplythetruthfuloneI found this to be true of most men who have tried to persue me. If they get sexual too soon, it’s cuz that’s what’s mostly on their mind. And that’s a huge turn off to me because men like this aren’t relationship material.

[@MomentsByMo]

Men can show physical interest without trying to sleep with a woman. What about kissing, hugging, snuggling, etc. Those are indicators to us that a guy is attracted to us.🤷🏾‍♀️

[@unbeknownst2mee929]

Holding hands, touching your knee, touching your back there are so many options

[@queenkeesh8660]

Just holding hands no kissing a man I dnt know

[@navygf86]

Exactly!

[@kyshaeasley6930]

​@queenkeesh8660 right no other touching until I get to know more about him

[@staceywilliams1863]

You can’t kiss these mfers 😂

[@mischiefhots]

It costs a lot more money for a woman to be presentable, look good, to show up to the date - that is all a sunk cost if they both realize they aren’t compatible.

[@evolvingscorpio5031]

This is why I'm single .. everybody's guarded got unresolved issues..I refuse to entertain someone that is driven by their sexual organ 🤦‍♀️ A grown man shouldn't expect sex just because he paid for a meal .. I can buy my own ..ugh !

[@darlenebush9134]

Right on Sister!

[@JC50-joy]

Absolutely agree!

[@jeaninehicks2907]

Just have clear communication before the dates 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@KushLuv93]

Facts i agree

[@monopoly9]

Keep buying!!!... I can send my cash app so u send me lunch too!

[@nyahbeautytv5967]

How does a women protect ourselves from getting “played” by giving up our bodies?

[@SHe_brew_style_communion]

We can still share intimacy. A lot of men will still want to be stimulated and pleased even if it means no sex(not many, and that's how you separatethe not so good ones). My Kings and I worked with a lot of 'Tantric Yoga', freakin'/dry humping: and time allowed me to tell if he was serious bc he stuck around: along with like mindedness, energy, compatibility, sexual attraction, sexual drive, learning to kiss(30 min make out). We pretty much have to take it back to high school with these men. There are plenty of ways to be intimate and learn about your potential sex partner without having sexual intercourse(procreation). If that man can still be single and at liberty to go out and have sex with other women but then chooses not too; and all other areas are matching, you will know, he is a potential keeper. But if he can't bare too just be with you, only doing that, with no sex(and you are still both pleasing each other to the peak) then he ain't the 1 sis. Many men will fake the funk for 90 days and move around so be mindful. Also be mindful that you are single and have the liberty to have sexual intercourse with other men as well but if you are choosing not to, you will be showing him what you would rather do. If he rather spend his time elsewhere then you have your answer.

[@peacejoy3629]

@@SHe_brew_style_communion some can be more patient and faking interest more than 90 days can last for a year so be even more mindful

[@hannahscott6604]

It doesn’t

[@rebeccawhite9395]

Yeah, this is the stupidest logic I have ever heard concerning why men start out so sexual. It really just is that they want everything for nothing. Women shouldn't even date men who would be concerned about the cost of a few dinners, because the financial situation only goes down hill from there, if that is the case.

[@oober5150]

Probably the least common reason. Its more a guy wants to see what he can get with the least amount of investment..if hes relationship minded with you he'll wait

[@JC50-joy]

I look at it like this. Most of the time, it's the men who ask the ladies out. It's common sense that when you ask a lady out, you want to try to impress her. And one of the ways you impress her is you pay for the date. If the man has a nice time with the woman and wants to see her again, he asks her out again. So he should continue to pay. I'm not saying that he should take her to some fine dining experience or anything beyond his means. I'm sure if as a man you tell your date you take her to fast food and she agrees, that means she likes you enough to take that. Is she using the man? I don't think so. She's in her peaceful world and the man popped in asking her out. Can't he even pay? Of course, as a woman, she can offer to pay but as a man, you have to be prepared to foot the bill. How else would you think you would want to support her in future unless that's not in your mind. I would say it's a risk all men have to take to win themselves a woman

[@chelseajackman7730]

I really think this best applies to men who are really in their masculinity. Not all men are. But men in their masculine have a driving need to demonstrate his ability to provide. I think you're right, I'm not disagreeing with you, but I think this only applied to healthy men in their masculine energy.

[@Diarrheagod]

It’s more than commen sense, it’s evolutionary biology!! It’s literally hard wired in man’s dna!

[@irinaivanovic9792]

A woman's TIME is her effort! Our PRESENCE is our effort. Stop the encouragement of prostitution, already! This is what is creating more and more gold diggers, which you guys supposedly hate? Sex will NEVER be an equal "favor" to the man just because he bought you lunch or dinner. GTFO. If a woman isn't interested in going out on a date with a guy she will just NOT GO. It's simple. Suggesting to go dutch on a date with a woman and her accepting that is a 50/50 pick me mentality and no woman should be doing this. A real man will take you out with no problems, after knowing you're interested in going out with him on a date in the first place, and have no issue or complaints about spending money on you. THAT IS COURTSHIP AND CHIVALRY. Don't fall for this nonsense, ladies. If you are going out on a date with a guy you're not even interested in whatsoever, why go on the date at all? If you're starving and need food that badly then go to a soup kitchen for the homeless. SMDH. This video is encouraging you to be sexual early with men which is the VERY THING NOT TO DO! Stephan is being contradictory and hypocritical, saying one thing and defending men's shit behavior while in the same breath, saying he does not encourage it. Come on.

[@kmp12091]

I agree. He may not be who some of us think he is. Be wise ladies, be wise!!

[@melcadore5581]

Absolutely

[@PUNishment777]

So many gold diggers

[@ladylady7848]

I agree. I also believe women should only do what they want to do. Not be convinced to do it or "bought" just to do things with a man. There were periods of time in my life where I was single and if I chose to do anything sexual with a guy, it was majority based on the fact that that's simply what I wanted to do and chose to do at that moment in time. I didn't feel played, used, or none of that because I didn't get tricked into do anything. It was simply what I wanted to do. On the flip side, if I was ready for a relationship then I would act accordingly and try to thoroughly get to know a guy to even consider a relationship with him or possibly have sex. People should only do what they are comfortable doing. And I definitely feel like no one should go on a date with someone they have no type of interest or attraction to initially. Now after meeting up a few times, they guy can possibly do or say something that can be a complete turn off so she can definitely change her mind about the guy and opt out. I definitely don't condone shitty behavior or think it's okay. Cut it off immediately if y'all not on the same page or if the guy is being phony, disrespectful or doing stupid things.

[@kmp12091]

@@shawnasatchell8897 Why speak about the 'Family Guy' reference? These rich celebrities are pushing their disgusting, evil agenda against women. Of all the references he could use, why did he use that disgusting reference? Let's be wise and carefully choose who we subscribe to!!

[@hushpuppies872]

Oh lord!! Please give all single women the strength to be single always. Let there be no weak moment where she gives in no matter what !!

[@miss_bb2]

Who wants to get played? Guys hurry to sleep with us because they're passing by to their next target

[@darlenebush9134]

👍

[@jeaninehicks2907]

Bingo

[@andreamoore5158]

Right this video is full of 💩😑

[@KatWoodland]

Yup

[@Seemi72]

Well said sister

[@abigalestoll]

It's disrespectful for men to make moves on first dates. The woman doesn't owe him anything because he took her out or bought her a meal. The right thing for a man to do is ask and respect her decision whatever it may be.

[@adriennenails7107]

A healthy relationship should be built on mutual respect, trust, and communication. Each person should feel valued for who they are, not rushed into intimacy because of someone else's past experiences.

[@Mskiraven]

I think men who DONT want a committed relationship think they deserve sex after a couple dates. That’s not ur gf or wife. She don’t owe u sex yet ….. You gotta communicate with that woman n see what type of relationship she’s looking for before expecting her to agree to sex.

[@charmainepalmer9077]

Big people just need to stop playing 'dolly house' or dutty pot. This world is just full of fake / plastic wash over love. The enemy has really planted his claws in this world of love

[@arlenepressley6158]

This sounds crazy. Women don't have to have intimate relationship because he bought her dinner. What happened to courtship

[@hawaiigirl8089]

I agree! However it’s well known, Asian women will. But men are dumb. They should avoid them then. I spend money 💰 on a blowout, nails 💅 done to dress up on a date. I’m not paying for my dinner

[@chinadoll534]

GONE!!!!

[@susansherman9929]

I am not an unpaid prostitute. That is what it feels like dating today.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Smh - you are so right

[@chelseajackman7730]

It died with the dinosaurs. This is 2023.

[@jeniferjohnson374]

I think making your values known (applies to both sides, but I speak as a woman), at or near the beginning of a date would help a lot. Then if he seems uninterested/unengaged after that you have your answer

[@chinadoll534]

True that

[@tineshiacooper45]

Facts... I understand that If you tell them what you want.. and they only want sex they usually don't keep the same energy. Phone calls gets less or they act non chalant. Men create that attraction so if they not feeling it your body will know

[@jeniferjohnson374]

@@tineshiacooper45 yes certainly. I don’t think it’s outlandish to not have sex on the first date even without mentioning that isn’t your style/way. If a guy can’t handle not having sex on the first date and becomes insecure or doubtful of the lady’s commitment to him then he should probably check himself, or even a girl at that. It applies to both genders really. There’s hoochie mamas and hoochie daddies in this world, and neither are worth a shit to have around, nor are the users of ppl just for money on a date with or without sex. Lol that’s my rant. Hope you have a great rest of the night. Keep shining.

[@tineshiacooper45]

Right on @jenifer! You too as well😉

[@jeaninehicks2907]

I do that, and it still don’t work 😂

[@tineshiacooper45]

For this reason I usually don't continue after 3 dates... cause I don't want to feel pressured or obligated 😊

[@random19911004]

You just use a guy for 3 days, then throw him out and get a new guy?

[@davnoble8472]

@@random19911004that’s exactly what she said lol 😂 see….

[@saliob32]

What about emotional intimacy? This is also an investment. 🙃

[@NallahBrown]

Facts

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

First online discussion he asked if I’m “freaky.” I was done before we started calling me his friend but asking me about being freaky before getting to know one another or a first date. He’s a player.

[@staceywilliams1863]

Shit like that make me snap! Wtf do you think I am!

[@Diarrheagod]

He’s gross. Probably has lumps growing on his cheesy sausage 🤮

[@Reshme77]

I always thought it was due to lack of boundaries

[@leighAnn76]

I freaking love you! You made me laugh talking about the Family Guy episode. I’m relatively new to your channels and Instagram and I can listen to you all day. I came across your KZbin by just a random search about men pursuing women.

[@joicenteredwellnessasmr5832]

Men’s emotions are tied to his money and women’s emotions are tied to her sex. Just meet up at a park for a walk. It’s free and there’s no sex involved. Plus, you’re getting to know each other through conversations while exercising and getting sunlight and fresh air. Problem solved lol! Let’s see what responses this gets lol! Do free activities together at first with no sex.

[@chelseajackman7730]

My latest first date and I did this after he met me at Texas Roadhouse. He was happy to pay for my lunch, but he also was happy my suggestion for what to do afterwards was free to the public. 😂 He hadn't transitioned to his new job yet, so I was glad to suggest something that didn't cost him anything more. Plus, what on earth could be more romantic for a date than a bunch of roses?!?!

[@PlutoniaFreeBandz]

@@chelseajackman7730 roses aren’t free unless he’s a gardener or a thief. All u did was let him know u are ok with the bare minimum bcuz if he cldnt afford then he shldnt offer but he clearly offered and u settled lol that’s GAME RAN

[@queenkeesh8660]

He may try to have sex with u at a park though if he’s that desperate for it

[@mariemunzar6474]

Trust me, if a woman goes on a date with you, it's not "to get a free meal". She went on the date because she has interest in you. If she loses interest over the course of the date, she wasn't "using you for free food". There is no use going on a date with a strange man if you have no interest. Pretty sure most women would feel uncomfortable with that. That said, just because she went on a date with you doesn't mean she is committing to a relationship with you. Don't get ahead of yourself.

[@staywellandstrong4199]

This is so true about the "no moves" mindset of onlookers. Heck, highschoolers were gossiping about all kinds of reasons why there's not even a kiss by him after 6 weeks...

[@libraladynior2249]

Going thru this right now we’ve been texting for a week and he’s talking about sex already …it turned me off

[@zykira2010]

Mann at the end of the day if you feel the vibe have sex if not then dont.Either way if you do it the first week or 120days later he or she still may play you.I feel at least if i do it early id know if the sex on point because i will definitely be pissed if i waited a year to have sex and its some trash lol.Im not saying sleep with every man you come across but choose wisely and dont become too emotional afterwards.Just cuz ya had sex dont mean blow up his phone and become all attached just let it flow .You get more from a man if you just chill and relax.Im just saying

[@Lock_inTwinn]

Mannn yo body is a temple … a vibe can’t compare to yo soul

[@brownsugaaa2950]

There’s nothing equal about catching a soul tie 😢

[@INFJ2]

AMEN AMEN AMEN AMEN

[@tiffanyfrazier9380]

But why expect sex on first date.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Preach

[@chiangliya]

When a woman says she's looking for a relationship , please dont expect she will sleep with you immediately. As women, we also need to make it clear with the men when we are ready to get intimate or not. Communication is important for both to make it work.

[@ginafromdabronx9333]

I just love u Steph....u crack me up when u crack up.. so positive and gentle man. I MADE MY PRESENT GUY wait 6 MONTHS.... YES 6 MONTHS. We became friends first. He was into me. It took me a while but I nvr let him kiss me. Only hugs. And I held his hand when we would go to the dance floor. I set the rules up front from the beginning...we are friends..he respected that then when I finally wanted to date him I still didn't sleep w/ him. After a little while. I wanted to build a foundation...or else it would only be sex, sex, sex. Hell nahh... build the foundation first and the rest comes easy.

[@Wonderwoman79G]

I need to get some tips from you.I am not joking.What did you say to convince him to just be friends initially?

[@ginafromdabronx9333]

@@Wonderwoman79G EXACTLY THAT... we are friends...only! If he is a real man he will WAIT FOR U and RESPECT YOU. He will KNOW ya are just friends by what you DON'T DO (Kiss, hold hands, even long hugs) You're in control. You steer the wheel. He is just a passenger. Treat him like one!! He will follow ur lead.

[@peacejoy3629]

@@ginafromdabronx9333 guuuurl 🔥🔥🔥 you're in control love that. What's your moon sign sis ??

[@ginafromdabronx9333]

@peacejoy No idea!!! LOL...

[@random19911004]

U lucky he stuck round. Many guys won’t like being friendzone from the start

[@LesA_09]

It’s a Meal didn’t he have to eat too??

[@kaylaisaacs512]

I never laugh at these videos because I really do learn a lot, and even in this case, but this one is humorous. The family, Guy rhetoric is definitely get a light hearted explanation of these facts

[@ivetapetrova3350]

You’re contradicting yourself and your books! What happened with waiting so we make sure they are genuinely interested in a long term relationship?

[@SamehSameh-b9z]

Most of the time... My lipstick costs more than the whole dinner ...

[@karmathephoenix2474]

Men see women as hmm, what is in it for me? What can I get out of this? Ladies be mindful of your choosing and careful of your presentation of yourself. Control your thoughts.

[@theoneschroeder8552]

When you said the first sentence I bombed that like button!😂

[@meezy3188]

These men so use to fast woman, that when they come across a quality woman they think they should use the same approach..it levels to this game 💯💯

[@lunaria6537]

What if I keep sending him spicy stuff, and one day I stopped because I feel used because he doesn't give me anything. No gifts, no money, no calls, etc. he just expects me to keep sending him spicy stuff because it relaxes him when he feels "tired." So what am I? A stress reliever? It's been a month since I stopped doing that and now I don't know if I did the right thing.

[@ItsMeAnnaMaria]

interesting point. Sounds like man who didn't heal hurts from previous relationships will feel this way (because they were used in the past and down there assume to be used again...)

[@marybratz3785]

If a guy makes a move to kiss me, I know he's interested in me that way. It doesn't have to be a move for sex. If a guy doesn't pick up the tab on the first date, there won't be a second date.. I will meet him for coffee the first time to see if we like each other in person, so it doesn't have to be a big expense if we're not into each other. But, if he doesn't pay, it shows he's not interested in courting me.

[@1trudiva]

B.S !!!! Men just need to MAN UP!!!! you asked that women out because you were interested then you shouldn’t have no problem paying without expecting sex. Im a women and I feed hungry ppl out in the streets. GTFOH. I’m not expecting anything in return from them. Shame on men comparing paying for a meal to laying down creating soul ties through sex.

[@jeniferjohnson374]

What if a woman is saving intimacy (and I mean all intimacy) for marriage?

[@Reshme77]

You'll have to make it clear to the guy you're dating lt will save you both time

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Keep your personal private information to yourself when dating,vet the guy first.

[@jeniferjohnson374]

@@Reshme77 I’m asking on behalf of my daughter because before I was married I had no idea how to socially handle my own values. But these were my same values. In her case she arrived at these values on her own with the information my husband and I have given her along with religious sources/trusted friends.

[@darlenebush9134]

@@Wonderwoman79G True my Sister!

[@monopoly9]

Then that woman should draw the boundary on how that guy should be invested in the relationship! Because when we invest so much on u with no guarantee that we will get the pussy...or marry as planned....we feel used!!!

[@sophrosyne5900]

Free meals and free entertainment my god, I am a rare gem ... I always put out , but when I am not interested I always pay my half LMAO!!! FML ( I've been celibate going to 2 years , I cant be bothered with dating .. 😌🤷‍♀️)

[@blue85610]

Excellent video Stephan. Love the Family Guy reference as well since I watch the show. More power to your videos!

[@rashidarowe7882]

Well the guy I am dating got me waiting 4 months now saying he wants to get to know me better before we take that step 😒

[@spyroluver0951]

He's a good man.

[@SplendorInjections]

I love the Family Guy reference!!! I saw that episode. So funny. It’s a fine balance that men and women must have. When you are genuinely interested in someone, it’s natural to respect them, show them love and just let things flow naturally

[@karolinah12]

Women go on dates, but can change their mind. If he wishes and insists on paying, it doesn't mean i should give sex . Also, some men who dont pay, still expect sex ....if he is not willing to spend, he should not go on dates.....i dont have rules btw, i go with how it feels right.

[@alexishill3342]

Omg, your opening line😂😂😂😅😂 You did such a good job with that. Thank you!😂😂❤

[@thehumblehygienist2805]

Yes you KEEP saying “pound for pound” No pun intended right!! 🤣

[@taann2779]

I'm happy to pay half the bill i have many times as my intentions aren't using a man. I won't be jumping into bed too fast. I totally get where you're coming from and a lot of women and men do use for gain financially. In my experiences it can be scary and people find it hard to be straight up about wanting to find a partner or just wanting to be intimate and casual. If we were all straight up things would be easier but half the time it seems things aren't clear from the begining. I do appreciate your vids

[@geovoniejohnson4853]

How are you

[@Diarrheagod]

I’ll pay half the bills but it doesn’t mean I want to do it lol I feel a man should want to be the provider and if he’s a man he’s gonna wanna pay for most Atleast. Where is a man’s pride these days?

[@hannahscott6604]

I was PISSED this dude once indicated he must’ve not liked me much cause he felt sex was a reward to driving an hour to see me !!!! Omg!

[@rebeccawhite9395]

That is ridiculous. A woman's presence and appreciation is the return investment until he puts a ring on it.

[@dianawilde417]

What an awful Gidless video. What a sad state our society is in. How about looking for a God cantered marriage and no sex before marriage? This should be vetted in first conversation between man and woman.

[@anonymousnation5235]

There's one solution to this problem. Only date people who are in your close proximity. Or before deciding you two are going to date or not, spend some platonic time with each other. No expectations of dating, just two people getting to know one another. This can give good judgement of character, mutual intentions, and hope for the future.

[@Diarrheagod]

I like this!!

[@amiami9536]

Lots of women see their investment in all this effort they have to put in looking good for a man, what also often takes money

[@labellezaskitchen]

A woman has to allow a man to pay for every date and if he cannot do that then it's an indication he will not be able to provide for his woman. When a man pays for every date, a woman is able to submit to that man . The only thing that I am going to pay for is the drinks and appetizers while we wait for our table. He will have to pay for the rest. Or if he pays for everything then later on that night, I will take him for some dessert, coffee and tea as my token of appreciation. A mature gentleman would not expect sex too soon. It's only these thirsty simps .

[@Wonderwoman79G]

Preach

[@flooredjustfloored]

Not saying that I like it, but completely understand the logic/thought process on both sides. Was laid out quite well.

[@RhondaR4]

I started watching cartoons! They are hilarious! I love to laugh! It’s the best high!❤️ You have a beautiful smile! It’s contagious! You would laugh at me if you could see me looking at you with my phone!🤦🏽‍♀️🤣❤️

[@teresa6387]

I don’t believe you, I’ve been on dates with men, I always pay for my portion of the meal unless he keeps insisting, I always state that I am interested in dating them, yet they still try to get sexual with me, even when I say I want to get to things slowly, and it might be stupid to say, but if I just told you I don’t want to make out with you because I want to know you more first and you try to have sex with me do you really think I’ll still be interested in you? Of course I’m not gonna go on a second date if you show you don’t respect me Even if you payed for the meal, as I always say talking about my ex, you can’t ask for something “back” because you gave me something I didn’t ask for/want

[@Ifeoma999]

Good short video! 🔥🔥🔥🔥I can understand why a man may feel this way wow! Hmm and that episode of family guy was hilarious!!! 😂🤣😆 Brain was a kool dog.😎😆 I also think, there are some women who are naturally trusting by default which can be an disadvantage on her part getting into a relationship. Because I think, a person would have to automatically “hide themselves” temporarily just to see if they can feel “safe” with that man. I feel it is a mindset of women based on growth stages no matter how old she maybe. Because an example a “girl” would chase after looks & swag. A “simple” chics would chase after money. A “Mature” women falls for the Spiritually of a man, Loyalty, Respect, Protection, Proper Treatment and Security..

[@dullpoint1072]

I’ve had a two year “relationship” with someone I slept with on the second date which was the next week. We went on many of dates we were not exclusive. Waited 6 months to sleep with this guy I was serious about. Dated exclusively for 6 more months ghosted me twice in the relationship he self sabotage bc things were going too well. It depends on the person. I’d rather know quickly if we are intimately compatible bc that part of a relationship is extremely important to me. I dated a guy waited and it was bad! He was intimately awkward and didn’t really care for it. He rather snuggle and cuddle then do it not my type at all I wasted time with him.

[@Diarrheagod]

Sounds like your picker isn’t working. You shouldn’t have to sleep with a guy to determine compatibility, that part should just be the icing on an already delicious and fantastic cake. Do your inner work hun

[@tamjamtv]

Stephan a man insisted several times that I go to lunch with him ....even though I told him point blank that I'm not into men with girlfriends or long distance relationships.. he lives outside my country to travels here pretty often...he still wanted the lunch date to wherever I wanted to go....so I went & had some good food. I didn't play him, I figure he just wanted the company of a female to share a meal with🤷🏾‍♀️

[@spyroluver0951]

Stick to your boundaries when you say no. Don't waste your time on people who aren't understanding no.

[@spyroluver0951]

more of a protection of self, thing x

[@RosiDiaries01]

He can make a move like wanting to kiss on the first date,but if he gets too touchy or invites you to his house on the first or second date,that’s just not a good sign😭😭

[@dreamlify8]

If sex is what make a boy feel secure as an individual and confident in a connection, then we ladies really have got nothing to lose. A loving and decent man with geninue interests for long term relationship would not need the gentials intercourse to prove your love worth and seriousness. If any, these are also the selfish boys who hope for virgin wife while hoping to have readily available free cakes to eat it too before they official settle down and commit to a lady. In all fairness, in this day and age ladies don't need boys to survive.

[@MB-xv7er]

A woman not being interested by the end of a date is not her using him lol that goes both ways. A date is to see if you guys mesh well

[@flooredjustfloored]

Pauses at :40; let's that sink in... I'm listening

[@hushpuppies872]

Also women these days are very capable of paying for their dinner.

[@Diarrheagod]

We’re capable because we have to be because that is the role that has been pushed onto us essentially. Educate yourself bozo

[@munchiis2486]

What if he was trying to talk to me for months but I was afraid because I've met many players, so out of fear I kept my distance. But eventually he became single again and I told him thag I did like him as well and would like to get to know him. I'm a Christian and gave him a Bible for Christmas as a gift, but I told him that I wasn't trying to shove my beliefs on him. He was fine with it. He told me later that same night that he thought about the sex and if that would be a problem? So I told him I'd rather wait until marriage. He figured out I'm a virgin when I kissed him and rold him I didn't know how to kiss. So afyer I said no to the sex and that I respect him and wanted to get to know him first. He said to have a good relationship you need to have good sex and that he couldn't marry someone without having sex first, what if it's boring sex and he couldn't do that. He also said that I was so different from the women he's been with before, and that it wasn't a bad thing. But even after that we continued to talk. I had to be the one to start the communication though and he would respond. He went on vacation so I told him I hipe he has fun and that if he wanted to get to know me as well that he could also start the communication, he said that was fine. But after the two weeks of his vacation I randomly saw him back and asked him confused thinking he was still on vacation? Then he said that vacation was the following week. But I was curious why he didn't mention that and that he was in town, maybe we could've hang out or something? He hugged me and gave me a kiss on the head, but after that I didn't see him for a few weeks nor heard from him. I was giving him his space and not start the communication every time. Then after almost a month I decided to ask him if he was even interested in me, or if he liked me? Or was he back with his ex? He said she wanted to get back together but he didn't. But he kept on pacing back and forth and couldn't look at me in the eye. Unfortunately he uses substances as well and he was really high at that moment. He told me about them at the beginning and I told him I didn't like that but I accepted it him with it, cause he said that I probably wouldn't talk to him anymore after he mentioned he did those things. So after I asked him all those questions while trying to hold him from pacing and walking away without answering, I still didn't get an answer, I told him I pray for him. That he needs to stop using those substances and that I wish him well, that he won't hear from me again. He kept on saying "relax" while hugging me and smiling, then walked away. Minutes later he told my friend that she needed to control me, that I was acting like we had been dating, and that he has a bitch. No we didn't date but he never even gave me an explantion sayinn he wasn't even interested, he just left me in the dark and then pretended we were just buddies. I had my first kiss with him but to him a kiss means nothing. I come from a Christian background and he believes in nothing. I found out he gave away the Bible I gave him along with some other stuff. After that encounter happened, he hasn't been able to look at me in the eye at all. Yes we have to interact with each other a lot but he keeps his distance. One day we had to get on the same elevator and he was taking deep breaths. I asked him if he was ok, twice? And he gave me two different answers 1 that he had jusy finished working out and 2 that he was checking his cardio, yet he never looked up to make eye contact with me. I tried to keep things friendly and never asked him what happened or why didn't he even say he wasn't interested and just close that chapter? But just a few weeks ago, when I talk on the phone with him, due to work, his attitude is more friendly, yet when we run into each other we still can't make eye contact. I decided to not even make eye contact either and just look down and continue walking fast, crazy I know. Last week we ran into each other during lunch, well he saw me go to lunch and minutes later he showed up at the cafeteria as well, ran into me and said "what's up", I said hello but kept my distance. I was using the microwave and he came by, using a playful, friendly tone saying "excuse me" to come behind me to use the other microwave, above me. I moved to the side but didn't make eye contact. Then later his friend and him were passing by the hallway, as I was making my way back, and his friend shouted my name. I said hello to his friend and the then saw him behind his friend, and he also said my name, which he's never done that before (shout my name like his friend does). It threw me off guard but he's like hot and cold, shows some interest and then gives me the cold shoulder. I've also seen him smoking and he tries to hide it or walk away when I have to pass by him while he's doing that, he won't look up. He knows I don't like that but I'm not going to say anything to him cause I'm nobody to tell him what to do, he's a grown man (but clearly needs to mature). I've cried for him too much and prayed to God to take away the feelings I've had for him for a year now. I believe in heavenly signs and there's always something that always reminds me of him, but that could also be my mind wanting to find excuses to think of him. It's getting better though, my feelings for him are fading away very slowly, though I still cry for him every now and then and ask why all the time. Like why couldn't he just be honest and straightforward with me if he was interested in me or not? All I can think about is he backed away for two reasons: God and no sex until marriage. He knows I respect him, I even told him no when he offered to send me a picture of his dick. I told him I didn't want to disrespect him like that. He said it was just a picture and that he's done it before, but I told him I value him as a person and didn't want to disrespect him like that. He said ok. So I am at a loss with him but I'm not mad at him, nor do I hate him. I just pray for him, that he stops doing drugs, smoking, drinking and save himself for the one woman he chooses as his wife one day. I'll never be able to talk to him and ask him so many questions, speak my mind about the whole situation, and we could ever be friends at least. I know we were never meant to be but for some reason God made our paths run into each other, I gave him that Bible and he ended up giving it to his mom. I know we have different destinies, I just hope one day he turns to God and leaves all those substances behind. He also mentioned that his life is a circus. He also said that same first night that he had gone on a date with his ex one week prior. When I said if he was trying to get back with her that we should stop talking and that I didn want problems. He said she didn't even want him, how is she going to come after me? But later when I comfronted him and asked him if he was back with his ex? He said she wanted to get back together but he didn't want to. So which one is it? Does she not want him? Or does she want to get back in a relationship with him? I'm confused about that but he'll never tell ME, face to face, the answers. He tells others the truth but not me in my face. It's like he just can't say anything to me nor even loom at me in the eye. Oh well I leave him alone cause I just can't continue with this drama, it's too exhausting. He needs to mature and I need peace in my heart, I'm trying to get close to God and continue to pray for this guy, cause I believe in miracles, that he can be saved. No I don't put my hopes that we will ever be together, that's not part of our future.

[@jayc5756]

Very True

[@hannahscott6604]

Haven’t found a guy yet who is ok with going longer than 2 months 😵‍💫😵‍💫

[@justicevibes1252]

Same lol. So then I keep it moving.

[@staceywilliams1863]

And you won’t! Lol! Too many women willing to jump in bed with them hence the reason they act like that!

[@Diarrheagod]

Then they aren’t the ones! They were never in it for the long run to begin with. Let the trash take itself out

[@liftedenergy3693]

The intention is what matters are you spending money to just get sex or are you actually trying to get to know a person on a deeper level. Anything you give will be returned as long as your intentions are pure. No one can use you, trust your intuition, and let that guide you.

[@BlancaRosa79]

Omg !! Yes I do!!!!! Smh!! So over it.

[@LMBL-hp2jc]

I see this from a different lens. I’m almost 50, and I always pay for myself until we both know the relationship is actually going somewhere and we both may want to treat each other. So, there is no expectation of me owing anything to anyone too soon. My dad taught me that long time ago.

[@JC50-joy]

With men, they can take that for granted and expect you to pay your part forever. If you are ok with that, that's fine too I guess. That's the risk you take when you started paying your part in the beginning

[@LMBL-hp2jc]

@@JC50-joy Hey JC, thanks for your response. My suggestion is to look for a high quality man. Know your boundaries and standards while you are out there and make them known. I find the selfish people do or say something that I immediately spot as a red flag. I’ve really had success with this system, but it’s because I’m very particular about who I spend my time with. I have defined what a high quality man is for me, and I have learned over the years how to spot him. It does take some practice, though. Best of luck.

[@malloryhowarth9905]

That’s how I am, I don’t see any reason for a man to pay for me when I just met him

[@NallahBrown]

@@malloryhowarth9905 I agree! No expectations, I'd appreciate it tho LOL

[@AllAboutBri777]

why’d your dad teach you that? i’m genuinely interested because my dad taught my something differently. Is your dad a provider?

[@shawanahickman6952]

I'm good right now

[@leanna107]

This comes about when people are total strangers and have no baseline of familiarity. Maybe the dates shouldn't cost a lot of money so the guy can date without feeling used.

[@tinker2217]

1:51 Words out of my mouth! 😵‍💫

[@RhondaR4]

Hello Stephan!👑I just had you on my mind! You’re in my head again! I hope you’re having a wonderful day! Thank you for all you do! You are greatly loved, respected, and appreciated!❤️ I’m not fake so I cannot use a man or anyone! Being that my kingdom husband and I are spiritual connected we won’t have these problems before or after marriage! We will grow together in every way! He’s my King who I submit to! We’ll have each other’s heart!🥰 Thank you, Stephan! You’re a real Alpha Man of GOD! You’re truly blessed! Sending love, hugs, and blessings your way! THANK YOU, LORD JESUS IN ADVANCE! PRAISE THE LORD GOD ALL POWERFUL!🔥🙌🏽🙏🏽 I love you!❤️

[@Fashionkerr]

You can have sex first night you meet,or 10 years later,relationship will or will not last,there is no set rule! We make relationship like job seeking, just go with the flow.

[@sabinasmith6326]

I agree women should pay half of the bill!!

[@chelseajackman7730]

I feel like a nice compromise is offering to pay for myself (and actually being willing and able to) on the first date. My latest first date, he looked at me like I was crazy for thinking he would let me pay for myself. Then I offered to leave the tip and he said he'd just put it on his card but thanked me for offering. I thanked him too, at the end of the date. Muchhhhhhhhhh to his satisfaction. ;) No we didn't have sex but I was very very ready to kiss him after another couple hours of talking in a rose garden. Of course, I had already heard my spirit whisper, "That's him, there he is, welcome home," so that really helped. 😂 But yeah maybe offering to pay for ourselves the first date is a nice compromise just so he doesn't feel used. Because then it becomes his choice to take on the expense (no matter the outcome) or save himself the possible feeling of being used. But with this should come the clear communication that she won't be paying for herself all the time in the event of future dates. By then both parties should have a pretty decent sense of what the other person is in it for. Free meals/sex, or the potential of a real relationship.

[@evelisisdavis7242]

Crazy! But thank you

[@BENZ_ASMR]

Okay so it’s giving he needs to heal first then, instead of looking for a relationship

[@tammyramos6168]

Just be up front & talk be you & if they are interested in then be straight forward

[@hollyc.691]

Your can kiss, hold hands, etc too to see if a person is genuinely into you

[@JAG214]

What he is saying here is if a woman is really into you, she is more likely to give it up to you faster than a guy who she not really into who she is more likely going to make him wait for sex or not give up at all So, for some guys, knowing how fast a woman is willing to give it up to you is an indicator of how much she really into you or not